WEBVTT - Your friends are my friends

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to mix and match friends when you

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<v Speaker 1>are planning something fun. If you like one person and

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<v Speaker 1>you like another person, the odds that the two of

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<v Speaker 1>them will get along are very high, so it is

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely fine to get together with both of them at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time. Your friends are my friends and my

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<v Speaker 1>friends are your friends. As the song goes, and the

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<v Speaker 1>more we get together, the happier will be. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you were like a lot of people, you are probably

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<v Speaker 1>spending some time actively rebuilding relationships with people you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>see us often in the last couple of years. Spending

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<v Speaker 1>one on one time with people is wonderful, but especially

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<v Speaker 1>when we are talking about people that we like but

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<v Speaker 1>haven't been best friends with for decades. This re establishment

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<v Speaker 1>of relationships doesn't have to be a one at a

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<v Speaker 1>time endeavor. Instead, why not get together with two or

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<v Speaker 1>more people at once. Let's say you have two friends

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<v Speaker 1>who love Downton Abbey but who aren't in the same

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<v Speaker 1>social circles. One's a neighbor, one's a colleague. Why not

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<v Speaker 1>invite both of them to go see the new movie

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<v Speaker 1>with you. You'll get to catch up with both of them,

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<v Speaker 1>and you'll all get to watch a movie you want

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<v Speaker 1>to see. They'll both get to meet someone new with

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<v Speaker 1>whom they have at least one thing in common. Want

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<v Speaker 1>to run a five k benefiting a charity you volunteer for.

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<v Speaker 1>Why not invite your volunteer colleague and your running body

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<v Speaker 1>to run it with you. No worries if they only

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<v Speaker 1>know each other vaguely or even not at all. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just a run and they'll get to know each other

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<v Speaker 1>better along the way. Plus you will probably get to

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<v Speaker 1>know the two of them better, since the chemistry is

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<v Speaker 1>different when we have different people in the mix. I

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<v Speaker 1>recently read an article in The New York Times that

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<v Speaker 1>captured what a thrill it is as our world's broaden

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<v Speaker 1>again to run into people with whom we have weak ties.

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<v Speaker 1>Your best friend's work friend, your mom's neighbor, your jim

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<v Speaker 1>buddy's sister, and so forth. People you might see when

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<v Speaker 1>you're at bigger get togethers, or you happen to cross

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<v Speaker 1>paths with, but you wouldn't reach out to directly. Weak

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<v Speaker 1>ties may help us find jobs or partners, and these

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<v Speaker 1>people may share information with us that are strong ties

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<v Speaker 1>can't simply because our strong ties know the same things

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<v Speaker 1>and people we do. But even beyond all that, running

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<v Speaker 1>into weak ties creates more variety and delight in daily life.

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<v Speaker 1>So consider a writing more than one friend on the

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<v Speaker 1>next outing you plan. You can create novelty for your

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<v Speaker 1>friends by mixing and matching people for your get togethers,

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<v Speaker 1>and you could see more people you love without going

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<v Speaker 1>out more than your schedule or budget allows. Your friends

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<v Speaker 1>are my friends. Even on the off chance that something

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<v Speaker 1>strange happens and there's a little friction between two of

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<v Speaker 1>your friends who hail from different social circles, my guess

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<v Speaker 1>is that if you like both of them, they are

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<v Speaker 1>both well behaved enough to deal with it, it will

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<v Speaker 1>be fine for a few hours. There's very little downside

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of upside if you take the chance.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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