1 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:19,759 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to mix and match friends when you 4 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: are planning something fun. If you like one person and 5 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,319 Speaker 1: you like another person, the odds that the two of 6 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: them will get along are very high, so it is 7 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 1: absolutely fine to get together with both of them at 8 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: the same time. Your friends are my friends and my 9 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: friends are your friends. As the song goes, and the 10 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: more we get together, the happier will be. So if 11 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:49,239 Speaker 1: you were like a lot of people, you are probably 12 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 1: spending some time actively rebuilding relationships with people you didn't 13 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 1: see us often in the last couple of years. Spending 14 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: one on one time with people is wonderful, but especially 15 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: when we are talking about people that we like but 16 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 1: haven't been best friends with for decades. This re establishment 17 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 1: of relationships doesn't have to be a one at a 18 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: time endeavor. Instead, why not get together with two or 19 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:20,319 Speaker 1: more people at once. Let's say you have two friends 20 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,040 Speaker 1: who love Downton Abbey but who aren't in the same 21 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: social circles. One's a neighbor, one's a colleague. Why not 22 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 1: invite both of them to go see the new movie 23 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: with you. You'll get to catch up with both of them, 24 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 1: and you'll all get to watch a movie you want 25 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 1: to see. They'll both get to meet someone new with 26 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: whom they have at least one thing in common. Want 27 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: to run a five k benefiting a charity you volunteer for. 28 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: Why not invite your volunteer colleague and your running body 29 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: to run it with you. No worries if they only 30 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 1: know each other vaguely or even not at all. It's 31 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 1: just a run and they'll get to know each other 32 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: better along the way. Plus you will probably get to 33 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:07,080 Speaker 1: know the two of them better, since the chemistry is 34 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: different when we have different people in the mix. I 35 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: recently read an article in The New York Times that 36 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: captured what a thrill it is as our world's broaden 37 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 1: again to run into people with whom we have weak ties. 38 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: Your best friend's work friend, your mom's neighbor, your jim 39 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 1: buddy's sister, and so forth. People you might see when 40 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,080 Speaker 1: you're at bigger get togethers, or you happen to cross 41 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: paths with, but you wouldn't reach out to directly. Weak 42 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: ties may help us find jobs or partners, and these 43 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: people may share information with us that are strong ties 44 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: can't simply because our strong ties know the same things 45 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: and people we do. But even beyond all that, running 46 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 1: into weak ties creates more variety and delight in daily life. 47 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 1: So consider a writing more than one friend on the 48 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: next outing you plan. You can create novelty for your 49 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: friends by mixing and matching people for your get togethers, 50 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: and you could see more people you love without going 51 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: out more than your schedule or budget allows. Your friends 52 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: are my friends. Even on the off chance that something 53 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: strange happens and there's a little friction between two of 54 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: your friends who hail from different social circles, my guess 55 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 1: is that if you like both of them, they are 56 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: both well behaved enough to deal with it, it will 57 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 1: be fine for a few hours. There's very little downside 58 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: and a lot of upside if you take the chance. 59 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and 60 00:03:50,920 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, 61 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 62 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with 63 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at before Breakfast Pod. 64 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:16,359 Speaker 1: That's b the number four. Then Breakfast p o D. 65 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,040 Speaker 1: You can also shoot me an email at Before Breakfast 66 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: podcast at i heeart media dot com that Before Breakfast 67 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 1: is spelled out with all the letters. 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