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Speaker 1: Let's begin the show Scrubbing In.

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Speaker 3: With Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 4: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing In.

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Speaker 5: Yes we are happy week after Thanksgiving? Everyone?

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Speaker 2: Yes, how did it feel waking up this morning?

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Speaker 5: Brutal? Not gonna?

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Speaker 2: It was like middle of the night.

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Speaker 5: It was pitch blackout and it gets light early these

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Speaker 5: days in La.

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Speaker 4: It's so cold in the morning and at night right now,

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Speaker 4: so cold, So your vest was needed today.

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Speaker 2: Yes, chchus, it.

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Speaker 5: Was actually so cold and I woke up this morning

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Speaker 5: that I did not do my morning shower.

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Speaker 1: Wow, why wouldn't you do that just to warm up?

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Speaker 1: It seems like when I'm really cold, I want to

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Speaker 5: So our house gets really cold, and the thought of

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Speaker 5: going in the shower and getting out to a cold

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Speaker 5: house made me stressed. Yeah, and you can't give a load.

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Speaker 5: I can, but we like to sleep with it cold.

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Speaker 5: And Robbie's still like sleeping for five hours after I

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Speaker 5: get up, so I don't really want to distress him.

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Speaker 2: But if he's still sleeping.

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Speaker 4: I think that he wouldn't feel the change, like he

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Speaker 4: might wake up and be like, God, it's hot.

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Speaker 2: But I don't know if he would if he's in

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Speaker 5: Huh, you might be safe. Maybe I'll try it tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: I can't figure out.

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Speaker 4: So Haley's been gone, and I noticed that I don't.

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Speaker 4: I just genuinely don't sleep as well when she's not there,

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Speaker 4: because you know, you're used to having someone but you oh, yeah,

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Speaker 4: well that's what happens.

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Speaker 2: I think. I think when you've been you know, get

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Speaker 5: I just never thought i'd see the day.

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Speaker 2: It's we're almost we're five and a half year.

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Speaker 5: Right now, and it's like used to love your space

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Speaker 5: and having all your space.

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Speaker 4: I actually saw a quote that I was like, wow,

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Speaker 4: I was nates so much with this.

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Speaker 2: It says I like being alone. But that is why

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Speaker 4: Were different, because for the first time ever, I wanted

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Speaker 5: Hailey.

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Speaker 4: Anyways, I was like, one part that makes it hard

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Speaker 4: to sleep when she's not there is like the temperatures off,

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Speaker 4: so like I have the temperature set to when there's

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Speaker 4: heat generated from just having another body in there with me.

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Speaker 4: And then when she's not there, what I normally keep

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Speaker 5: Too cold, too cold.

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Speaker 2: So I was like I put like a heating pad

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Speaker 2: just like next to me. So there's like.

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Speaker 5: Where we're at now, well you know when.

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Speaker 2: She goes away for long periods of time.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, or I could just get used to just being

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Speaker 2: Don't want to mess up my flow, my.

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Speaker 5: Flow, Yeah, I get it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So how is Thanksgiving? Everybody? It's just me, Mark

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Speaker 4: and Tania today. So when I say everybody just the

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Speaker 4: three musketeers in here.

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Speaker 5: I like it like that, you know, just mousketeering what streamlined?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah? How was it you hosted Thanksgiving?

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Speaker 5: It was a lot last week was a lot of

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Speaker 5: preparation and we didn't even cook anything, Like we literally

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Speaker 2: My gosh, I'd be so nervous.

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Speaker 5: No, it was on the spot, but everybody could like

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Speaker 5: But they were like easy questions. But it was your question.

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Speaker 5: What's the best advice you've ever received? I said, happy wife,

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Speaker 5: happy life, joking, I didn't say that. It would have

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Speaker 5: then I was like, that's some more advice for him.

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Speaker 5: Mine was a Chelsea Handler the I don't Yeah.

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Speaker 2: There's one just just right on the tip of your head.

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Speaker 5: And I said, you can find more on the Sunshine

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Speaker 5: Mind wherever you get.

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Speaker 4: Your books, or on scrubbing in where you get your

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Speaker 4: podcasts exactly.

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Speaker 5: But it was really really sweet. It was just like

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Speaker 4: Yeah it looked I mean it visually looked beautiful. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Like I was like, Wow, hostess with the mostess, I

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Speaker 5: We spent so much time at home deep book. God

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Speaker 5: bless Robbie like he has been mister Bob rob the

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Speaker 4: this earlier, but I did like my Christmas decorations yesterday,

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Speaker 4: because like I've never decorated my house outside, yeah, with lights,

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Speaker 4: like there was something so validating about putting them on

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Speaker 5: You know that's called modern woman energy energy. Yeah, and

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Speaker 5: you know what else is modern woman energy? What hiring

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Speaker 4: So I was saying that, Tanya was like I always

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Speaker 2: You could just hire a task.

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Speaker 5: For a task, grab it and get someone for like

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Speaker 4: Yeah. But anyways, I was like, it's it's been fun

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Speaker 5: I think he's just like we're like building our future,

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Speaker 4: Merging lives, merging, including the Christmas tree white and blue

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Speaker 4: or like a Christmas.

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Speaker 5: We're not moving onto Christmas until we get through your Thanksgivings.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Thanksgiving was great.

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Speaker 4: Haley's sister hosted, so we all went over to her

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Speaker 5: It ones in my adult life, like where I haven't

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Speaker 5: Because it's amazing on your plate? What the sweet potato castle?

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Speaker 4: their faces looking at me. Right, So the night before Thanksgiving,

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Speaker 2: I don't even think. I literally think this came from

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Speaker 5: I don't know what google a recipe.

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Speaker 4: I did, but I'm saying, like the idea to do it,

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Speaker 5: Triggered it was us making our pumpkin bread and corn bread.

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Speaker 4: Start making it and then I'm like, Haley doesn't wear

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Speaker 4: It turns out incredible, But.

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Speaker 2: It was the recipe was like super easy.

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Speaker 4: I'm in low for recipe if you don't bake regularly

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Speaker 4: and you don't have a mixer. It was not easy

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Speaker 4: Turned out delicious. But that is where I had a

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Speaker 4: piece of the lemon cake and my body was like

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Speaker 2: Wow, We're done.

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Speaker 4: And then on top of that, the sweet potato casserole,

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Speaker 5: And then I need to try sweet potato casserole.

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Speaker 4: And then Marla made I'm gonna make fresh, I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: make it for you, Okay, it is so good. And

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Speaker 4: then Marla made the most incredible mac and cheese. So yeah,

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Speaker 4: So anyways, it was great. It was just nice to

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Speaker 1: It wasn't terribly exciting. My parents came in from Tucson

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Speaker 2: Well what what board games?

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Speaker 1: That in a game called ratitat Cat, which you've probably

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Speaker 5: I was so bummed. On Thanksgiving, I wanted to play

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Speaker 4: Wait more fun to be and jingo.

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Speaker 2: I get the djengo.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I forgot. We did do a little. We did

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Speaker 2: Good times. It's so funny.

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Speaker 1: It's the best game is that to pick out a

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Speaker 5: It's like, uh, you put whatever in a bowl just

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Speaker 4: It's really fun.

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Speaker 5: It's a crowd pleaser, A big crowd pleaser.

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Speaker 1: Way. That's a great part of the Thanksgiving and family

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Speaker 5: Like I really enjoyed the questions game, like everybody going

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's fun.

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Speaker 4: Well, Thanksgiving was a success. It sounds like we hope

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Speaker 5: Now were full speed into the holidays.

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Speaker 4: Full speed. I mean, I like to enjoy this time

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Speaker 5: Already getting ready for Christmas. You put your lights up,

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Speaker 5: that's getting ready for Christmas.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 4: I honestly wish I could, you know what, I really

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Speaker 1: I'm like I said that, like it's nineteen ninety seven,

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Speaker 5: Because I usually like to go I usually like to

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Speaker 5: Like I don't know why I did so much of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's kind of overwhelming because it's it's such a

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Speaker 2: Then I was like, just calm down, You're fine. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: No, I'm just saying some of the things that's like

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Speaker 5: Is nice, personalized sunny blanket for dirt cheap, like it

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Speaker 4: Well, I had gone shopping earlier in the week and

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Speaker 4: I was going to Zara, which is always if there's

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Speaker 5: Missus Fields herself, Missus.

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Speaker 5: It's the perfect day.

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Speaker 4: Nothing standing in my way.

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Speaker 2: Okay, there was something.

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Speaker 5: Oh, we'll get to that. But I I do have

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Speaker 1: Explain what flocked trees are because some may not know.

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Speaker 5: A flock tree is a tree that's covered in what

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Speaker 5: We didn't want to flock ourselves. Robbie was up to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And you just said flock it, Let them flock it.

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Speaker 5: Let them flock it. And they brought us the flock

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Speaker 2: Is flock made with clean ingredients?

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Speaker 5: I don't want to know.

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Speaker 2: I doubt it.

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Speaker 1: Block is the name of the white stuff they put

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Speaker 5: It is probably not clean. And I don't love that

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Speaker 5: it's in my house, but the esthetic is so cute.

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Speaker 2: Really beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Solicity warn you that it stains your floors.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and apparently it stains floors.

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Speaker 2: Did you do you have a tree skirt?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fucking messy.

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Speaker 5: It's a little messy. So if you're a neat freak,

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Speaker 2: Wow, yeah, I love that it does look I have

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Speaker 5: I can't believe I've never flocked before. I might not

448
00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:25,240
Speaker 5: flock again, but it was an experience. It was an experience.

449
00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:26,399
Speaker 2: Everyone wants to flok ones.

450
00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,680
Speaker 5: Everyone needs some flock ones. And I think it will

451
00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:32,400
Speaker 5: probably die before Christmas, but it's flocked, so you won't tow.

452
00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:36,120
Speaker 2: No, no, right, Yeah, it'll just be crisping off.

453
00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:37,639
Speaker 5: Correct white flock lightly.

454
00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, I have to.

455
00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:43,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was gonna say, you're I wanted so badly

456
00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,000
Speaker 4: to go get a tree, but Haylo's like, can you

457
00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 4: wait till I get home? And I was like, I guess,

458
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,159
Speaker 4: I guess. I was like, can I go get the

459
00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:54,840
Speaker 4: tree and then you help decorate it? But she likes

460
00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,879
Speaker 4: the experience of going to if you want to do it,

461
00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,919
Speaker 4: we can, And I was like, I know what that means.

462
00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:05,959
Speaker 1: So tomorrow it's plenty of time, plenty of tree up.

463
00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:07,600
Speaker 1: It won't even be December yet.

464
00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:10,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, you're right, thank you.

465
00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:11,960
Speaker 5: She really wanted to go this weekend, is what she's saying.

466
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,440
Speaker 4: I just like got so much of my Christmas my

467
00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,320
Speaker 4: brain works like all like I need it all done

468
00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:19,280
Speaker 4: at one time, So like when I'm in the mood,

469
00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:22,119
Speaker 4: it's like I got to attack, you know, I gotta

470
00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:25,080
Speaker 4: just like get it all done. Although today I'm going

471
00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:28,320
Speaker 4: to get some mini wreaths and ribbons to put around

472
00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:28,680
Speaker 4: my own.

473
00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,200
Speaker 5: Are you really where you getting the wreaths from?

474
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:33,439
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go see if Michaels has them.

475
00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 5: Oh you're not gonna get like Christmas ones like Christmas

476
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,240
Speaker 5: tree lot ones like fresh.

477
00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:39,920
Speaker 4: No no, no, they'refore inside my house. So yeah, I'm

478
00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:45,359
Speaker 4: keeping it more like faux except for the tree is real. Yeah.

479
00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 4: But anyways, we're gonna take a break and we'll be

480
00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 4: right back.

481
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, because we are going to talk about two very

482
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,359
Speaker 5: specific specific things and one of them has to do

483
00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:59,960
Speaker 5: with bedroom toys.

484
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: Oh, stay tuned. All right, we're back.

485
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:25,800
Speaker 4: So Tanya left you on a tental tentalizing cliffhanger.

486
00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:29,639
Speaker 1: We call that tease in the business, and it was

487
00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 1: really well executed, Tanya, great job.

488
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:36,960
Speaker 5: Teas make you guys come back from so good.

489
00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 4: Well, okay, so you start because I have something interesting

490
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 4: that I watch on Netflix the other day that kind

491
00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:47,160
Speaker 4: of correlates with this what I.

492
00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:49,159
Speaker 5: Have the best show ever? But we could say that

493
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 5: for later because I love it so much, Okay, and

494
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 5: I'll say it for later about that for a deep tease,

495
00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:01,439
Speaker 5: my new favorite tea V show because I finished season

496
00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 5: thirty nine and now I'm on season forty ofth Survivor.

497
00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 1: That's right, but aren't they in like forty five?

498
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 5: I'm watching forty five in real life, but it's one

499
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 5: a week.

500
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:12,160
Speaker 1: I think yeah, yeah, yeah, you've burned up old ones

501
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:13,879
Speaker 1: while you're the new ones to come around.

502
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 2: Good.

503
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:15,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, that's a lot of survivor.

504
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 2: It really is. You're taking it a lot of surviving.

505
00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 5: I'm loving it, actually loving it. And I met the

506
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:24,199
Speaker 5: sweetest girl who's behind CBS's Instagram. She came up to

507
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:25,679
Speaker 5: me in my Berry's class and she was like, are

508
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 5: you tan Yeah, and I was like, yeah, wow, we

509
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 5: sent you the Buffs and I was like, oh my gosh,

510
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 5: it's so nice to meet her in real life.

511
00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:32,639
Speaker 2: Cute.

512
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 5: I know, it's really cute.

513
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: But you were at the Buffs when you watch Survivor

514
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 1: now bed.

515
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 5: But we forgot about him for a minute. I gotta

516
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:42,159
Speaker 5: bust him out of again. Sure, but we were talking

517
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 5: because we were watching watching We're looking at Jana Kramer's instagram, uh,

518
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 5: where she's posing with a what do you call it?

519
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:52,680
Speaker 5: A toy?

520
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 1: Janet Kramer, friend of the show, host of Wine Down

521
00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 1: country music, singer, actress in another Hallmark christ This movie

522
00:22:59,600 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 1: this year.

523
00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:01,639
Speaker 5: Wow, thank you for painting the picture one.

524
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,680
Speaker 1: People know who Janna Kramer is in case they don't,

525
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: but we've known her many many years and she's had

526
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 1: another baby. Yes, and so she's posing with a vibrator.

527
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,679
Speaker 5: Vibrator, All right, Yeah, that's easier. I was gonna say.

528
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 5: I can't want to say it's sex toy, but I

529
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 5: can still say that's.

530
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 1: A podcast or whatever you want. It's a podcast.

531
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, so it's a sex toy. And in my head,

532
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 5: I'm thinking, would I do this? I love talking about vibrators.

533
00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 5: I could talk about vibrators all day.

534
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 1: It seems on brand for you.

535
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, it does seem on brand vaginal vaginal awareness, which

536
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:35,320
Speaker 5: I love. I love being aware of my vagina, holding

537
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 5: my vibrator up to my face and smiling. I feel

538
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 5: like I don't know if I could do.

539
00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: It for a check though, for a big check.

540
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:44,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're right, you're right.

541
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 1: Everyone has their price.

542
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 5: What is my price?

543
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,360
Speaker 2: Here's the thing. It's not like you're showing something that

544
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:51,400
Speaker 2: you never.

545
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 4: Talk about, Like I think it would be a little

546
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 4: off brand for me, you know, Like I think it'd

547
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 4: be like damn.

548
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 5: That you must have done it. You want to do

549
00:23:57,760 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 5: it for a nice check?

550
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 2: I don't know. Oh, it'd be a lot of back

551
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 2: and a.

552
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: Bigger check for you than time. Yeah, I'm all.

553
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,520
Speaker 5: I guess it's also like I'm not like showing my vagina.

554
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 2: No, well, no, they don't make you do that. And

555
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 2: I've also.

556
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,479
Speaker 5: Offered to Actually, somebody was asking me how to use

557
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 5: a menstreal cup and I was like do I'm going

558
00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 5: to send you a video and I was like, that's

559
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 5: actually how inappropriate?

560
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe let's not let's not do that.

561
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:29,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's interesting, you know, so you would do it? Yeah,

562
00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 5: I mean, Janna, hit me up, let me connect me

563
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:32,919
Speaker 5: with these these peeps.

564
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:35,159
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, we got a wedding to pay for us.

565
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: Sure, yeah, I feel like you would do it for

566
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 1: Like there's a range, and somewhere in that range you

567
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 1: would is the is the tipping point? Like you would Yes,

568
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 1: you would do it for a million dollars? Would you

569
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: do it for ten grand? Maybe not? Somewhere in the

570
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,239
Speaker 1: middle there is the tipping point, right.

571
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 5: I was gonna say, like vibrator because I use vibrators,

572
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 5: so like, yeah.

573
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 2: Talk about it.

574
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 5: It's right, but like what but that's all it is? No,

575
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,159
Speaker 5: I know what I'm saying, Like if it was some

576
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 5: other bedroom toy, like I can't even say it. I know,

577
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 5: I think you have to bleep me butt plugs like that,

578
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 5: I definitely I don't use and I actually don't.

579
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 4: Ever like you don't use those when I feel is

580
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 4: like oftentic?

581
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 2: Correct? Yeah right, thank you for clarifying your boundaries.

582
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's where my line is.

583
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 1: When you put it that way, it sounds like a

584
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: natural not the plugs, but the other thing. Because you're

585
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,400
Speaker 1: saying I use it and it's great. That's the same

586
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: as most of the things you endorse. I use it

587
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 1: and it's great. So what's the difference, really? Is it

588
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 1: your parents?

589
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 2: Right?

590
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,719
Speaker 5: My parents, my my future in laws on Instagram seeing

591
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 5: me seeing those stories.

592
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:45,640
Speaker 1: And also you have step kids now.

593
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, and they have friends, right.

594
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 1: So that's all stuff you have to consider.

595
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 2: Right, true?

596
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 5: True, Jed has kids, she does. It's an interesting thing

597
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,160
Speaker 5: you bring up, right.

598
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 1: That makes the price go a little higher.

599
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 2: The prices increased.

600
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 5: But anyways, that's a funny debate before we started the podcast,

601
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 5: because I was like, hmmm, I could do this, but

602
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 5: how much would I do it for?

603
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:17,920
Speaker 2: Yeah? Do you want to talk about our friend? Yeah?

604
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, So one of our friends wrote us and

605
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:29,879
Speaker 4: her boyfriend, serious boyfriend. Serious boyfriend told her that he

606
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 4: was going to go get lunch with an old friend

607
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 4: from high school, a woman she's married, has kids. He's

608
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 4: in a very serious relationship with our friend, and it

609
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:46,719
Speaker 4: brought up the conversation of like what's appropriate in terms

610
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 4: of spending time or hanging out with the opposite sex

611
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 4: when you're in a serious relationship.

612
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 2: For America, I do.

613
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 4: Too, and I always see these debates on Facebook. So

614
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 4: I always find it like very interesting and I think

615
00:26:57,640 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 4: it's a good topic.

616
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 5: Because I went through this like a year ago with Robbie,

617
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 5: because he is he does have these friendships that he's

618
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 5: had since he was like in Mommy and Me, Like

619
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 5: these are girls like he's known forever, like truly, and

620
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 5: I met them and they are married and they have kids.

621
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 5: And I trust Robbie. That's the thing at the end

622
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,359
Speaker 5: of the day, Like I trust him implicitly. But it

623
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 5: rubbed when he told me that he was doing this.

624
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:22,919
Speaker 5: This was like maybe a year ago, and it was

625
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 5: like coffee with this one woman, and I was like,

626
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 5: I don't like it. I don't want you like getting

627
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 5: coffee with someone of the opposite sex, And he was like,

628
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 5: why don't you trust me? And then I had to

629
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 5: really sit there and think about why, because I'm like, yeah,

630
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 5: I totally trust you, and even if I trust the

631
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 5: girl too, But I'm like, even if I didn't trust

632
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 5: the girl, I trust him so much that you know

633
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 5: what I mean. And I had to sit there and

634
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 5: think about it because I was like why. It was

635
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 5: like such a self reflective moment because I was like,

636
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 5: why does this bother me? And I think it's just

637
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:59,160
Speaker 5: because for so many, like years, for decades, I've always

638
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 5: kind of thought that was wrong, even coffee, coffee, lunch, dinner,

639
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 5: for drinks, Like, yeah, I don't know why. I've always

640
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 5: thought it was weird and wrong.

641
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 1: Is it perception? Because I remember a woman I saw

642
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 1: she didn't like it because people at that coffee shop

643
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 1: might think that we.

644
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 5: Are together, and so I had that was the other thing.

645
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 5: I go, Okay, well I trust you, so it's not that,

646
00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 5: And then I was like, maybe it's if my friends

647
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 5: see you with someone else, what are they going to think?

648
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,920
Speaker 5: And then I'm like who cares? Like you know what

649
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 5: I mean. But it's really interesting because it did like

650
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 5: kind of rattle me up, and when I sat to

651
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 5: think about it, I realized that it shouldn't and that

652
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 5: it was just like reprogramming my brain that has thought

653
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 5: about something a specific way for so many years that

654
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 5: didn't have a like a face to it. It was

655
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 5: just like a preconceived notion that I had about my

656
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 5: significant other. And so it's like something that I would

657
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 5: have said a decade ago that no, you can't go

658
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 5: to like lunch or something with the another person of

659
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 5: the opposite sex. And now I've changed my tune on it. Wow,

660
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 5: But it's interesting with Becca, Well, yeah.

661
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 4: My I it is different because it's like most of

662
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 4: the people that Haley has lunch or dinners with are women,

663
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 4: and sometimes they're gay women, straight women, all, you.

664
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 2: Know, the whole spectrum, just women, just women.

665
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 4: And I think that, you know, it brings up this

666
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 4: whole different thing because I'm like, oh, if I'm feeling

667
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 4: insecure about something, I can't be like you can't hang

668
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 4: out with.

669
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Speaker 2: The women, right, So it's a different situation for me.

670
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 4: But I think it's always just like her, it comes

671
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 4: down to my own insecurities. And I also think that

672
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 4: it's a preconceived idea of like, you can't hang out

673
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 4: with anyone who you might be attracted to that might

674
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 4: be also attracted to you, like right, which is so whack.

675
00:29:59,120 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 2: I know, it's so whack.

676
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 4: I'm with you though, but when you said that, it

677
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 4: triggered that in me because I'm like, I think that's

678
00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 4: a big thing for me too. But it's just the

679
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 4: conversation of like, oh, if I'm feeling if for some

680
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 4: reason I'm feeling insecure about someone specific, having a conversation

681
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 4: and her being able to be like you're safe, like

682
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 4: I would never do that to you, and just me

683
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 4: being like, oh, yeah, that's right, you know, like calling

684
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 4: myself down.

685
00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 2: It does.

686
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 5: It comes from an insecurity it which is so bizarre.

687
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Speaker 4: But it's nothing like there's always Sometimes Tailey and I've

688
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 4: had conversations. She's like, I just want you to trust me,

689
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 4: and I'm like, I don't think that I don't trust you, right,

690
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 4: But it's whatever my own insecurity is.

691
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: It's like lies to me, you know.

692
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 4: But our friend Like, so the scenario that I was

693
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 4: thinking is like, okay, is it just like would it

694
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 4: be anything any get together that makes you insecure? Because

695
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Speaker 4: in my mind, I'm like, lunch feels less threatening than

696
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Speaker 4: a dinner.

697
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, dinner does feel weird.

698
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Speaker 1: There's gonna be wine at dinner, that sort of thing

699
00:30:56,640 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: and alcohol. But I still don't think it's that big

700
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 1: of a deal. If I were to have dinner with

701
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 1: a high school female friend or college or whatever, I

702
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: don't think that would be an issue in my relationship

703
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: and vice versa. Dinner I think is okay. It's that

704
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: lunch is better, I agree, and coffee is better than lunch,

705
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 1: but I think dinner's okay.

706
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 4: I think if you're if your significant other is insecure,

707
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 4: they're working through an insecurity, then I think it's like, say,

708
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 4: like start with like what what do you feel comfortable with? Like,

709
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 4: if it's a dinner that they feel U comfortable with,

710
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 4: how do you feel about lunch? How do you feel

711
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 4: about coffee?

712
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 2: And like meet them there?

713
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 4: But I Haley was like I asked her about it,

714
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 4: and she's like, yeah, I don't care.

715
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:40,120
Speaker 2: I'm like, if I went to dinner.

716
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 5: Robbie did the same thing. He was like, I don

717
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 5: wouldn't care dinner with a high school with some six

718
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 5: inch shields and top going down to my neighbor.

719
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 2: Okay, cool? Was he wearing a top down to his navel?

720
00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 5: No?

721
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, tany let me run you through the scenarios.

722
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Speaker 1: Robbie wants to have lun munch with a woman who

723
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Speaker 1: went to high school with any.

724
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 5: Issue now currently no.

725
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 1: Okay, Robbie wants to have dinner with the woman who

726
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: went to high school with who is single.

727
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 5: Mmmmm, see the single thing is interesting.

728
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: It's got divorced about six months ago.

729
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 5: I would feel weird about it, but I still would

730
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 5: it'd be fine.

731
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 1: Robbie wants to have dinner with a woman from high

732
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 1: school who is single and they dated in high school.

733
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 5: Again, I'd feel weird about it, but i'd be Okay, Wow, yeah,

734
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 5: I think I honestly, I do trust him, Like I

735
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 5: literally trust him.

736
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 1: Implicitly you're adding an n where it shouldn't be, but.

737
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 5: You're very close implicitly implicitly, implicitly implicitly, I trust him,

738
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 5: I really really do. What I love it.

739
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 1: No, but like right, but you're not going to, like

740
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: while he's there, you're not going to be like, you know,

741
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: circling the restaurant.

742
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 5: She's like in the corner with like a hot and yeah,

743
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 5: what's going on over there? No, it's like, I don't

744
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 5: you know. It's so interesting because it's Becca like really

745
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 5: hit the nail on the head. It's an insecurity, that's

746
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 5: in me, but why that's like the what what I

747
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 5: need to like get to Maybe I can work on

748
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:24,479
Speaker 5: it in therapy, but it's like what is that, you know,

749
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:26,400
Speaker 5: Like I don't know what that is.

750
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 4: I think dating in the past would have me at

751
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 4: a halt, like, yeah, you.

752
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 2: An't need to go catch up.

753
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: Maybe dating high school would be okay, But if it

754
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 1: was a more recent exchirol friend, then I think maybe

755
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: it's a little bit of a con.

756
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 5: Like if I went to dinner with a guy that

757
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 5: I did in high school, it would be nothing. Yeah, Like,

758
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 5: there's not one guy I did in high school that

759
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 5: I'd be like.

760
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 2: So sick everything about them.

761
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 5: No offense, I haven't seen any of them a long time.

762
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 2: But so the idea of him that he has had

763
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 2: sex with that woman doesn't bother you.

764
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 5: Well, we didn't say that.

765
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 2: I'm assuming that they dated that they in high school.

766
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 5: You never know, they could have not I did people

767
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 5: in high school that didn't sleep.

768
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 1: I'm sure, but we're just just for the scenarios you

769
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: draw the line at slept together. Yeah, I think so, yeah, Yeah,

770
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 1: I think that's fair. Actually, I think it probably still

771
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: is based in insecurity, but I also think it's a

772
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:26,720
Speaker 1: fair life.

773
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 2: Having some insecurities.

774
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 4: I am human, so like, I'm comfortable having my insecurities,

775
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 4: but there are certain levels where I would like to

776
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 4: like not my immediate reaction isn't the insecure one. But

777
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 4: I'm comfortable being like you saw each other naked.

778
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, we're good here, We're good here.

779
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 4: You know.

780
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 5: It's interesting though, because and I actually I talked to

781
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:52,760
Speaker 5: Teddy Mellencamp about this a lot when I first started

782
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 5: dating Robbie, because when you date a man that is

783
00:34:56,520 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 5: divorced with kids, when you're like, when we didn't see

784
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,320
Speaker 5: each other, he was just dad, Like he wasn't he

785
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 5: never really it was he was dating me and then

786
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 5: he was dad. He never really did things outside of that,

787
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 5: you know, like boys trips and boys nights and you

788
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 5: know what I mean, Like you just don't I feel

789
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 5: like you once you become a dad that just kind.

790
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 1: Of yeah, there's no We were on a break scenario, right, right.

791
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 5: And so I never really I didn't grow accustomed to

792
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 5: him really going out with anybody aside from me, and

793
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 5: then when we weren't together he was dad.

794
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, So it was like weird.

795
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 5: I think when the when it. When we started getting

796
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 5: out of the pandemic and people started being more social,

797
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 5: I was like, oh wow, he like has girls that

798
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 5: are friends, and like this is new you know, yeah,

799
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 5: sure it is interesting though, right, Yes, I love this conversation.

800
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 2: Yeah it is interesting.

801
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 4: It is like I always will see the like uh

802
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 4: discussions in the Facebook group, and it's very polarizing for

803
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 4: people where it's like I don't feel comfortable with my

804
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 4: partner hanging out with anyone of the opposite sex, you know,

805
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 4: or and then other people are like, we're all like

806
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:05,800
Speaker 4: what's the I mean, they got to be able to

807
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 4: live their life if they have friends that are men

808
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 4: or women, Like who cares. But it's always sparks, like

809
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 4: an interesting conversation in my opinion.

810
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 5: And I'm always like whenever Robbi and I do have

811
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 5: disagreements on things, I'm the first one like when I

812
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 5: know it's like I'm like, I know this is my

813
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 5: own insecurity, Like I know that, but like, as my partner,

814
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 5: you need to like listen to me and like help

815
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 5: me get through this or make me feel better about.

816
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 4: This, just like meeting each other, because like I don't

817
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 4: want you to feel insecure. But I also don't want

818
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 4: to be in a relationship where I feel like I'm

819
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:38,320
Speaker 4: being controlled, right, So how do we meet in the

820
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:40,000
Speaker 4: middle to where we both feel safe?

821
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:41,440
Speaker 2: Because that's what it is.

822
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 5: This whole cohabitating thing is interesting, lodging of lives.

823
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 2: Okay, we do have to take a break. We still

824
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 2: have your tea's and we have some emails.

825
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, well I have one that I really want to

826
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 5: get to. So let's take a quick break.

827
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: We'll make it a quick ones.

828
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 5: Thank you.

829
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 1: We'll be right.

830
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,280
Speaker 2: All right, we're back. Do we want to do emails

831
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 2: and then the deep teas?

832
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: Yes? We cannot pay off the teas yet.

833
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 2: What the is just to show.

834
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:20,359
Speaker 5: The show on television right now?

835
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 1: Wow?

836
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 5: Wow?

837
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:24,880
Speaker 1: And I know what this payoff is, so I know

838
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 1: this is going to be not gonna be a great pain.

839
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:31,839
Speaker 5: First of all, that is subjective. I think I think

840
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 5: that our scrubbers are going to love this show.

841
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:37,279
Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough. If I know my scrubbers, do you

842
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:38,439
Speaker 1: have an email you want to show?

843
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 5: Yes, so it says Tanya and Becca. This is weird,

844
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:45,240
Speaker 5: I'm reading it, but it was sent to me directly.

845
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 5: I've been living in a news state for two years

846
00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 5: now and it's been really hard to make friends, but

847
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:52,800
Speaker 5: I've been fine because I have such amazing friends on

848
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 5: both coasts who I do see monthly, and I know

849
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 5: that I'm lucky. I'm more so just wanting girlfriends to

850
00:37:58,160 --> 00:38:00,399
Speaker 5: do simple things like go on walks together. If there's

851
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 5: a neighborhood farmer's market, let's meet up, get coffee, see

852
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 5: the Aerostor movie, etc. A few months ago, a neighbor

853
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 5: invited me over for a girls' night and Anne has

854
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 5: every week where they watched The Bachelor. I was so

855
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 5: excited because the group of girls were very much like me.

856
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:15,879
Speaker 5: We seem to hit it off and it was something

857
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 5: that I looked forward to every week after searching for

858
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 5: friends for years. These nights lasted three weeks and then

859
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,919
Speaker 5: just radio silence. I texted my neighbor that fourth week

860
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 5: because I hadn't heard from her in our group chat.

861
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 5: Normally she'd tell us what time to head over, and

862
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 5: she never responded. The next day, on a walk, I

863
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 5: ran into her and she apologized for not responding, said,

864
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 5: they just got back from out of town and she's

865
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 5: totally just forgot all good. She was totally normal, and

866
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:42,240
Speaker 5: I was obviously like, no, problem. But the week after nothing.

867
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 5: The week after nothing, the group chat fizzled out, and

868
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 5: I normally give it up because I don't like being

869
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 5: where I'm not wanted. But I can't tell if she's

870
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 5: busy or if they just don't like me. When I

871
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 5: see her, she is so warm and talks me for

872
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,800
Speaker 5: at least fifteen minutes before we go into our houses.

873
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 5: She text me things, replies my Instagram stories. So I

874
00:38:57,400 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 5: don't think there's bad blood, but I do see the

875
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 5: girl around the neighborhood doing it and posting things together,

876
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 5: and it makes me sad. Something to note is that

877
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,879
Speaker 5: they are all moms who have kids the same age,

878
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 5: and I don't have kids. Do I put myself out

879
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 5: there one more time and just or just kind of

880
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:12,799
Speaker 5: get the hint.

881
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 4: I just saw christ and Cavalieri saying that she was

882
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 4: talking about more in the dating world of like if

883
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 4: you don't get a response, that's a response, And people

884
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 4: in the comments are like, this is also for friendships,

885
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 4: Like why if people aren't thinking about you or wanting

886
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 4: to hang out with you and like investing in you, then.

887
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 2: Why put your energy towards that?

888
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:39,479
Speaker 5: Yeah?

889
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 4: And I think that that goes for everything and I

890
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 4: think it sucks because you're like you overthink things.

891
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 2: You're like, what did I do wrong? What did I say?

892
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:51,280
Speaker 2: Like why all of a sudden, why did it go silent?

893
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 4: But it could literally just be that they're all in

894
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 4: a different phase of life with kids, and they have

895
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 4: that relatability and they're just kind of like you know,

896
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 4: in they're all world.

897
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 3: Yeah.

898
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 5: I hate to say too, but I would just move on.

899
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 5: I really would. I feel like them not responding and

900
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 5: not inviting is like says enough.

901
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: I was cringing that whole email to find out that

902
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 1: they were doing the bachelor party without her. I was

903
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 1: very scared that that was gonna happen. I'm glad I

904
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:22,799
Speaker 1: didn't go that way, even though we don't know for sure.

905
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 1: These are not your people. Yeah, it sucks because I

906
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: know you're having trouble finding your people and you were

907
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 1: excited for these people, but they're.

908
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:32,840
Speaker 5: Not they're not your people. That's okay, It's time to

909
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 5: find new people. Yeah, maybe you can go to the

910
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 5: Facebook group, the scrubbing and Facebook group and see if

911
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 5: there's maybe like a sub group that is in your area.

912
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 1: Great idea, thank you so much, or.

913
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 2: Like if like find hobbies that like interests that you have,

914
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 2: and then see.

915
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:49,879
Speaker 4: If there's groups for those in your area, like if

916
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 4: you like Taylor Swift, like Taylor Swift, like listening parties

917
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 4: you know those are big right now, or you know,

918
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 4: just dog things like if you have a pet, like.

919
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 5: Just go and you know, I do think that first.

920
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 5: I don't know if she didn't say she said kids.

921
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 5: I don't know if they're like newborns, but I do

922
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 5: feel like that first year after you have a baby,

923
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 5: your life is just like totally night and day different,

924
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 5: and so maybe they are just in that phase and

925
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 5: like they just have One of Robbie's cousins had a

926
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 5: baby and she called it like mush brain. She's like,

927
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 5: I just feel like I had like a mush brain

928
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 5: for like a year.

929
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 4: Well, I also think too, when you're when you're in

930
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 4: that state, and it's probably easier to be around people

931
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 4: who are going through it or who have been through it,

932
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 4: because you're like, you don't feel alone and your hormones

933
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 4: are raging, so you're like seeking like comfort in someone

934
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 4: who's been through it or is going.

935
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 2: Through it with you.

936
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 5: So maybe that's it. Yeah, I don't think it's a.

937
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 4: Personal thing in the sense of like they don't like you.

938
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 4: I think it's more just like different life stages, and

939
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 4: I think you can find people that are more on your.

940
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 2: Level.

941
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 5: Life stages is a thing, which is why I'm really

942
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 5: you know, I'm just looking at you. Anytime you want

943
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 5: to have kids, I will.

944
00:41:57,040 --> 00:41:59,800
Speaker 2: Be a wonderful auntie and I can't wait for that.

945
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:01,239
Speaker 2: So don't wait on me.

946
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 5: I'm not waiting. I'm just you know, hopeful, Stay hopeful.

947
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 2: Wait. The other emails that we have are really good.

948
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 2: So which one I was gonna do?

949
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: Melissa? The top one?

950
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 2: Okay, the second one was tough.

951
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 1: That is tough. Yeah, well I don't we have time

952
00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 1: for both, but we'll see how swer Melissa says, I've

953
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 1: been listening to old episodes and I was listening to

954
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: episode fifteen, New Year, Same Scrubs, and a debate over

955
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: having your significant others passcode came up. I've always had

956
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: a neutral stance on this, but there was a heavy

957
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 1: lean into both of y'all wanting to be in relationships

958
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: where you have the passcodes of your partner. So I'm curious,

959
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:41,280
Speaker 1: do Robbie and Haley have your passcodes? And vice versa?

960
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 1: I have my husband's I've told him mine, but he

961
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: can never remember it. So I just unlock my phone

962
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 1: and handed to him if he needs it. Curious to

963
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 1: hear your thoughts.

964
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:53,919
Speaker 5: I have his passcode, he has my passcode. I don't

965
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:58,879
Speaker 5: know if he remembers my passcode, to be honest. So, yeah,

966
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 5: we know each other is, but I don't. I don't

967
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:02,280
Speaker 5: think he has mind memory.

968
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, we have ours too.

969
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 4: It's never even been a thing I think one time,

970
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 4: like she was from like early on, it's just been

971
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 4: like we have them. And then she had to change

972
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 4: hers when I think she had like a new assistant

973
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 4: or something, so she had to change hers, and she

974
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 4: immediately was like, oh, my past code, I had to change.

975
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 2: It because I got a new assistant.

976
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 4: Just so I don't wasn't like, why did she change

977
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 4: her mast that's suspicious.

978
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 2: She knew, she like immediately told me.

979
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 4: So.

980
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, we both haven't.

981
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,800
Speaker 4: But I never I never really feel the need or

982
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 4: desire to like look at her phone unless I'm getting

983
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 4: like pictures or something to send to myself.

984
00:43:46,440 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 1: Right right, all right, Jamie, I'm in desperate need of

985
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: some advice or words of encouragement. My boyfriend I've been

986
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 1: eating three years now. We've been talking about the future

987
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:14,640
Speaker 1: and what that looks like. But here's the big elephant

988
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 1: in the room. He wants to move back home into

989
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,880
Speaker 1: Illinois one day. We live in California. His family is

990
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 1: there in Illinois. I've lived in California my whole life. Family,

991
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 1: friends are all here. Well. He wants to move home

992
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 1: and start a family close to his parents and his siblings.

993
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:30,879
Speaker 1: In talking about it, I say, I'd be willing to move,

994
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 1: but it can't be forever. I'd like to come back

995
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: at some point, be close to my mom and family.

996
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 1: I'd even invite his parents to live with us half

997
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 1: the year to get out of the Illinois cold, if

998
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 1: that's what it takes. But I'm not sure that's a

999
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 1: realistic solution. We don't feel we can take our relationship

1000
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: to the next step, which is moving in together. We're

1001
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 1: both ready unless we agree on what the future would be.

1002
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: Neither of us who want to break up. But this

1003
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: is putting us at a standstill. How do we move forward?

1004
00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: I know this is the time.

1005
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 2: It's so hard.

1006
00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 5: It feels like Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas two point zero.

1007
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 5: Oh wow, she wants to raise the family in the UK,

1008
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 5: and he wants to raise them in the US.

1009
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,760
Speaker 4: It's something to think about when you start dating someone

1010
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 4: who has really close family ties far away from where

1011
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 4: you want to be.

1012
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 2: Like it's just like, she's from California.

1013
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 4: He moved to California, so he moved to where she

1014
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 4: she's settled in, she was born and raised, everyone's here,

1015
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 4: and now he's trying to take her back where he's from.

1016
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 2: Do you feel like you have to.

1017
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 5: Be on the same page. Yeah, Otherwise it's not. You

1018
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 5: can't just stand still forever.

1019
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 4: No.

1020
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 5: I mean, life is a dance and you have to

1021
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 5: keep moving. You can't just stand still as a dance.

1022
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 2: To learn, you go, sometimes you lead, sometimes you go.

1023
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 3: No.

1024
00:45:46,760 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 5: I don't know that one.

1025
00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 2: I think maybe it's just like.

1026
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 4: Y'all commit to doing a certain like set a time

1027
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 4: of like we're going to do this many years here.

1028
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 4: If you really want to be with this man out,

1029
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:01,920
Speaker 4: well go to Illinois and we'll be there for this

1030
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 4: amount of time, and then after that amount of time,

1031
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:05,800
Speaker 4: I want to be back in California.

1032
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: Is that realistic?

1033
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 5: With like jobs and such jobs and kids school, you

1034
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:10,879
Speaker 5: can't just like PLoP your kids out.

1035
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 1: The kids are never going to want to change school. Yeah,

1036
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:14,880
Speaker 1: and I'll leave all their friends behind.

1037
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 4: No.

1038
00:46:15,239 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 1: I think this is a real issue here. This elephant

1039
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 1: is really a problem.

1040
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 5: The thing is, what we don't know is do they

1041
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:25,799
Speaker 5: both have jobs where they can move somewhere else. If

1042
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 5: they do, then they have whose parents can also help

1043
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 5: more Like, that's also a big factor too, if you

1044
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 5: have if one set of your parents can be really

1045
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 5: active and help you with the kids, I think that

1046
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 5: is a big motivation to be next to them. Right.

1047
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:45,839
Speaker 1: This is hard for me because we moved to California

1048
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: from Wisconsin twenty five years ago and never looked back

1049
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 1: and never going back. And my parents chased us out

1050
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:54,800
Speaker 1: to Arizona to be closer to us, and great, fine,

1051
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 1: but we're living our lives and doing our things. So

1052
00:46:58,320 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 1: how do you feel about Denver? You want to like

1053
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 1: split the difference go right there in the middle. I

1054
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know what the answer is here.

1055
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 4: Well, I think the whole thing is the benefit of

1056
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:10,839
Speaker 4: being close to family, regardless of what side.

1057
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 1: It's one that's true, and there have been times that

1058
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 1: we wished we were closer to family for that reason.

1059
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: To have help with the kids.

1060
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,120
Speaker 5: We never had that yell tie changing.

1061
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, how tied are his as his family to Illinois.

1062
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:27,800
Speaker 5: Let's say she said she would offer to like have

1063
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 5: them come live with them for six months, which that's

1064
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 5: that's a good compromise.

1065
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 2: I agree.

1066
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 4: I think that's about as like compromising as you can

1067
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:35,280
Speaker 4: get in this situation.

1068
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 5: That's huge to offer to have your in law stay

1069
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 5: with you for six months.

1070
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, please don't make me leave California. I'll

1071
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 2: do anything I would.

1072
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 4: I think that if you're willing to do that, then

1073
00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 4: I think you can make it work if they're willing

1074
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 4: to do that. But I also think that it's a

1075
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 4: it's a I agree, it's a big decision. You can't

1076
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 4: be in standstill forever and you have to go. Could

1077
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 4: I potentially be happy if we live in Illinois one day?

1078
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 5: I think the answer is no.

1079
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: If there's no room for compromise and the answer is no,

1080
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 1: then maybe we do have to think about an exit

1081
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: plan the future of this relationship.

1082
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's so hard.

1083
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry you're having to navigate that like that

1084
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 2: is a very complicated thing to have to.

1085
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 5: But maybe he needs to know that you're serious about that,

1086
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 5: Like if you if that is the end, I'll be

1087
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,919
Speaker 5: all for you. I cannot do that, then this relationship

1088
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 5: is over.

1089
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: And maybe he'll I don't want to leave California period.

1090
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:45,959
Speaker 5: Maybe he'll think twice lose you or leave Illinois or whatever.

1091
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 5: You know what I'm trying to say.

1092
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:49,240
Speaker 1: You can promise him every Thanksgiving and Christmas in Illinois

1093
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 1: and summers. I don't know. There's got to be a compromise.

1094
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:55,839
Speaker 1: There's got to be some sort of compromise here.

1095
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree, Yeah, I think we don't have enough information.

1096
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 4: If their jobs, if it was like let's pick up

1097
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 4: we can live for we can work from anywhere.

1098
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:08,440
Speaker 2: That changes it changes it all right.

1099
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:08,880
Speaker 1: Here we go.

1100
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 5: To find the actual title credit proper.

1101
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,880
Speaker 2: She doesn't even know the actual title the entire.

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Speaker 1: Show, waiting to find out Tanya's show that she's watching.

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Speaker 5: It's called Squid Game the Challenge. So did you watch

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Speaker 5: squid Games? Yes, it's the reality version, the reality version.

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Speaker 5: So they don't die, but they fake die after they

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Speaker 5: get out. They like get pit by Like it looks

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Speaker 5: like a paintball, but I don't think it's actually a paintball.

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Speaker 5: I think it's something that's in their shirt that they

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Speaker 5: just click and it like paints on them and they

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Speaker 5: fall over, so they like act dead after they lose.

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Speaker 5: But the first challenge was red Light Green Light without

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Speaker 5: the creepy girl. The second challenge was the geek getting

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Speaker 5: the cookie.

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Speaker 1: Game music. I'm adding to the conversation.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, do you know what?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: The second one was the biscuit getting the little biscuit

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Speaker 5: out of the you know, the umbrella and the cirphone stuff.

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Speaker 5: It is so good and the pot. I think the

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Speaker 5: pot is at four million dollars a little over four

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Speaker 5: million dollars more and a half million dollars.

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Speaker 1: Do you have to lick the biscuit? Is that what

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Speaker 1: they're doing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, they're like licking the biscuit to get the thing

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Speaker 5: with the needle for you, and then if they crack it,

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Speaker 5: it's and then they I saw a.

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Speaker 4: Girl that was on it talking about Red Light Green

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Speaker 4: Light and she said they filmed that for like that

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Speaker 4: that alone, I think took like seventeen hours, that's what

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Speaker 4: she was like. We would be frozen in our position

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Speaker 4: for like forty minutes at a time.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, it looked she because someone.

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Speaker 5: Was someone's wondering how many because a huge chunk of

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Speaker 5: them lost in Again, I'm like, how these people cannot

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Speaker 5: hold still for like ten seconds? I don't understand.

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Speaker 4: Everyone in the comments is like I was so confused

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Speaker 4: why she couldn't hold the position one girl or something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they were like, oh, like this makes so much

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Speaker 2: more sense, like she was on Fact Home.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll try and find it and send it to you.

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Speaker 4: Because I was like, this is interesting because you forget filming.

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Speaker 4: There's such a they have to edit, they have to

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Speaker 4: have like all the angles and everything. So yeah, I know,

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Speaker 4: I thought that was interesting.

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Speaker 5: It's such a great show. We're loving it.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, thanks for that deep fine that you found.

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Speaker 5: You're welcome. No one know who to come to her

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Speaker 5: television recommendations.

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Speaker 4: She's a reality like survival. Like I really flipped a

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Speaker 4: switch from Emily in Paris.

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Speaker 5: I know it's like scripted now. I'm like, I'm looking

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Speaker 5: for my Breaking Bad moment, Like I really enjoyed being

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Speaker 5: into Breaking Bad, having that sort of like scripted TV

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Speaker 5: show that was calling to us.

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Speaker 1: We tried telling you better Call Saul is phenomenal.

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Speaker 5: We tried Anatomy of a Scandal and it was like, yeah,

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Speaker 5: it was okay, but the.

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Speaker 2: One Paulina recommended, yes, and it.

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Speaker 5: Came so highly recommended, We're like, okay, great, and then

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Speaker 5: we were watching it and we were like, when does

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Speaker 5: it get good about the final episode? Yeah? Spoiler alert.

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Speaker 4: All right, well, everyone enjoy watching Squid Games The challenge

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Speaker 4: Caller at your Girl.

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Speaker 5: If you watch it, please let me know how you're

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Speaker 5: enjoying it.

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Speaker 2: We love you so much, so much, We will be

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Speaker 2: back for next week.

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Speaker 5: That's right, because what we do as we scrub dub dub,

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Speaker 5: scrub dub, and we love you guys.

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Speaker 2: Bye bye