1 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Swine Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast 2 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: Welcome back from Alaska, Hy, thank you. 3 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 2: I love going from sixty seventy well, sixty degree weather 4 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 2: to one hundred. It was sixty yeah, which was funny 5 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:17,639 Speaker 2: because I like in the photos, I feel like I 6 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 2: looked like I was in thirty and everyone else looked 7 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 2: like they were in sixty because I was so cold. 8 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: It looked windy. 9 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 2: Well that first day when you went outside was definitely windy, 10 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:29,639 Speaker 2: but yeah, days were, but it was beautiful. So it 11 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 2: like never is sunny there ever, like hardly ever, Like 12 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:35,239 Speaker 2: when we got there to Juno, they were like, this 13 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 2: is the fifth sunny day, like the sixth sunniest day 14 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 2: in like five months. 15 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: So anyways, we had a lot of sun. So it 16 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 1: was great. Do I call myself out? Oh the text? Yeah? 17 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: Say fine, I feel like I yeah, call yourself phone? 18 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:48,240 Speaker 3: What would you do? 19 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: Well? I missed you, KitKat y'all got busy while I 20 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:53,159 Speaker 1: was gone. 21 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 3: But anyway, I was confused because Catherine was like posting Seattle, 22 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 3: Well we flew into see and then you were in Canada. 23 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, And then I was like where actually is she? 24 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 3: So like I looked on the map and then like 25 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 3: for some reason, I was like I didn't realize Alaska 26 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:11,680 Speaker 3: was like can right there. 27 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: I thought it was like above Canada. I mean I 28 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:18,680 Speaker 1: haven't really think that too actually, Like I was like, 29 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: it is right there, like next to it. I pulp 30 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: a map, I sing her like. I was like, I 31 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: feel stupid. Don't feel stupid. 32 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 2: I felt the same way because the second day in 33 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 2: our excursion, they're like, you have to have your passport, 34 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 2: we're going into Canada. 35 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: And I'm like, what, how are we going into Canada? 36 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:37,479 Speaker 3: And we did. 37 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 2: We went. 38 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: We had to go through customs and go through Canada. 39 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's literally like looking you know at like 40 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 3: I was like, please send me like here I am 41 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 3: And I was like wait what, Like I don't know why. 42 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: I just I just didn't realize we'd be three hours behind. 43 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 1: That killed me. I don't know, the difference in the 44 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: two and the three just really messed me up and 45 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 1: carried the two and the three. 46 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 3: Listen, if it speaks to the miss Education department, Jane 47 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 3: and I would just like to say we're really sorry 48 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 3: about our geographical mishaps. 49 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then it's like late like in Michigan, you know, 50 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 2: it's like dark, so late. Anyway, so I was up 51 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 2: till one thirty, two thirty last night. 52 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:14,519 Speaker 1: I can't was it fun? It was a lot of fun. 53 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: Are you happy you went? I am very happy. I 54 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: went to do it again. I love my in laws. 55 00:02:21,919 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 2: It was great with the family, that was awesome. I'm 56 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 2: so thankful for them. They paid for this trip for us. 57 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 2: I am not a cruise person, and I don't say 58 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 2: that they love cruises. 59 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: It's not my jam. People love cruising, love cruising. It's 60 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: like a thing. Our neighbors cruise. They're cruising right now. 61 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: They love it. I get it because it's easy. You 62 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: can just go to those shops. 63 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 2: But like you know, I was ready to be home 64 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 2: when we were done at our last stop, but we 65 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: still had like, you know, you gotta. 66 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: Go on get a boat? Can you do mile an 67 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 1: hour boat? You know back? And then you have a 68 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: long flight back and then yeah, well and then we did. 69 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: Then we were coming home. 70 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 2: That was honestly, the most eventful part was coming home 71 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 2: because we were I mean, it was so smooth, it 72 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 2: was all great. Cayden was coming to pick us up, 73 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:03,679 Speaker 2: which I was already a little nervous about because he 74 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 2: used to do the airport. And I'm like, all right, buddy, 75 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 2: we're landing gear comes down. We were going down landing gear. 76 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 2: And I'm like, hey, buddy, if you haven't left yet, 77 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 2: go ahead and leave. Probably a good time. 78 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: So he gets on the road and all of a sudden, 79 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: the plane starts going back up. 80 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 3: No, and I'm like, bhe, by way, that is the 81 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 3: worst feeling ever when the plane's about to land and 82 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 3: then you go back up. 83 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, and you can't see anything because it all 84 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 2: of a sudden got real dark. Was it storming out 85 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 2: of literally nowhere, but out of nowhere landing? Like were 86 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 2: you close to the ground? I don't know how close 87 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 2: we were, ok, I and our landing gear was up, so, 88 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 2: but I don't know how close we were because you 89 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 2: couldn't see so and then I looked back and because 90 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 2: we start going back up, and I'll look back and 91 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: you can literally see like a lightning strike right behind us. 92 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 2: But anyway, it was just a pop up, really bad storm. 93 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,839 Speaker 2: So they literally closed Nashville Airport. They're like you can't land. 94 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 2: So we go back up and they're like fly around 95 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 2: for a while and they're like, all right, We're going 96 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,119 Speaker 2: to Birmingham, and I was like, okay, Kayden, go home. 97 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 2: So so we had to go to Birmingham and then 98 00:03:58,120 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 2: come back. 99 00:03:59,160 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 3: No. 100 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, which is just frustrating when you came home. Yeah 101 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: and you've been gone a long time. Yeah. Yeah. So 102 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: but it was all good. 103 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 2: Everyone was great. It was great to spend time with 104 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 2: my in laws. Alaska is beautiful? Is it worth going 105 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 2: to I would do it differently, I again, because I 106 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 2: would just go to different places and find you know, 107 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:19,840 Speaker 2: when you go on a cruise, you're just kind of 108 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 2: at the port or an excursion. You don't have much 109 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 2: of a choice to do else other things. I would 110 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 2: go to different cities, do some more like get in there, 111 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 2: like get in the woods, like go fishing, you know, 112 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 2: like it was more touristy kind of seeing my. 113 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 3: Ninety year old beautiful was to go to Alaska. My 114 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 3: grandma went to Alaska. But I still have her jacket 115 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 3: from the cruise show. Wow she was so she loved it. 116 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: Well, older people too. It's much easier to do the cruises, 117 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: you know. 118 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 3: I don't want to be stuck. No you and it's 119 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 3: all I did one and I think I'm done. Guys, 120 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 3: remember when I went on a cruise. Didn't we talk 121 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 3: about this? And I was afraid of the pirates? Yes, yeah, 122 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 3: right at the pirates. 123 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 1: Well we went on one. 124 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 3: We went on. We went on the Blake Shelton cruise 125 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 3: and that was actually fun, but I wouldn't want to 126 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 3: do it again. 127 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 2: Well, and we weren't there very long. No, And that's 128 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 2: what I kept. And that was the biggest room and 129 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 2: a cruise I've ever been in. Not that it was 130 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 2: that big, but they're just so small, you know. That 131 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 2: was a bigger room. We had like VIP like all 132 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 2: the things. So I'm here like but again, also with 133 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 2: a cold cruise, it's not like you go outside and 134 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:28,039 Speaker 2: really sit by the pool, true, so you're really kind 135 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 2: of I just basically spent all my time at the 136 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 2: casino and I was up and that was fun. 137 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:36,480 Speaker 1: So fun. Anyway, big again. Do y'all probably already talked 138 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: about your trip, didn't you, Montana? Yeah we did. Okay, Well, 139 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,480 Speaker 1: I'll get all your info then off, fine, since you'll 140 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:46,359 Speaker 1: talked about it about me? Was my dog? I wanted 141 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:48,600 Speaker 1: to know all the details. I know I'm dying, but 142 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: it's fine. Yeah, girls, what's up? Four mones. 143 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:59,240 Speaker 3: Oh, Laura, help me going for blood work on Friday 144 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 3: for the really us, I can't figure it out. 145 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: Like I'm mostly tired, very tired. Are you still taking testosterone? 146 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 3: Yep? 147 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:08,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, just a big shift. 148 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 3: I don't know what's happening sometimes very mogesterone and estrogen 149 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 3: dips and yeah, I don't know. They're like a strip. 150 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 3: We can peon just to know and just handle it 151 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 3: on site. Really something. Yeah, well I have a whine 152 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 3: about it. Oh well, let's just move right past the 153 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 3: catch up. 154 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: It's I'd like to talk about it. Okay, we would 155 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: love to talk about I would like to talk about husbands. 156 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 1: Oh love to stop it and nagging them nagging or 157 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 1: us snagging us snagging? 158 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 3: Okay, right, has anyone here on this couch been accused 159 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 3: of nagging? 160 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: I have not those words saying my husband knows better 161 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: than to use that word. 162 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, can you call my husband seventeen years in. 163 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 3: So, I'm sure he used to what we just need 164 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 3: to frame it differently, Alan, Yeah, is he saying nagging? Okay? Well, 165 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 3: I just want to like just just talk about the 166 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 3: whole word nagging, okay, kind of like yes, this guy 167 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 3: definitely he's a little vocabularis. 168 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: Dot com Alan Russell. 169 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 3: So while I was watching I don't remember what I 170 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 3: was watching, was in the background and it was talking 171 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 3: about Jason Kelcey basically asked his wife to to nag, 172 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 3: like yeah, like he's He's saying like I want my 173 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 3: nag And I'm like, oh, what a unicorn? So it 174 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 3: sounds like a negative word. Is that passive? 175 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: Well, that's that's what caught my attention though, is nag? 176 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 3: I was like, why why are these because I went 177 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 3: the word, Oh, he's probably talking about his wife nagging. 178 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: He's like, no, I want her to like nag. And 179 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: so I was like, this is a unicorn? Like this 180 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: is did you say that out loud? 181 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 3: Well? 182 00:07:56,360 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: I sent the article to Alan. Yeah, my favorite on 183 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: this episode of with like a little like interesting ready 184 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: interesting read. 185 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 3: So but then it's just like and then I went 186 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 3: to my little note section of was like podcast nagging 187 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 3: because I think there's those types of guys that want 188 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 3: to be reminded, right, but being reminded is what is 189 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,280 Speaker 3: the definition of nagging? Actually, let's just hold on one 190 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 3: second and we're just going to Google chat GBT this. 191 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:33,959 Speaker 3: That's right, What is the definition because I really want 192 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 3: to get this of yeah, it's clagging. 193 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: It's going to be different than yeah. 194 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 3: Excessive nagging is defined us persistently annoying or harassing someone 195 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:52,680 Speaker 3: who repeated sorry, or harassing someone with repeated requests, reminders, 196 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 3: or criticism. I'm talking about like reminders requests, especially about 197 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 3: something they haven't done or are not doing the way 198 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,199 Speaker 3: the other person wants. It often implies a tone of 199 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 3: behavior that is perceived as irritating, repetitive, or overly critical. 200 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 3: I'm trying to think like a lawyer and really be 201 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 3: our defense attorney. Examples of nagging repeatedly reminding someone to 202 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 3: take out the trash, constantly pointing out things they're doing wrong. 203 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:17,599 Speaker 1: That's I think that's just rude. But that piece of it, 204 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: uh yeah, to just being annoying when you're reminding over 205 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: and over remind so basically yeah, reminding over and over. 206 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: But how else are you supposed to if it doesn't 207 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: get done. I've never understood that rhetorical think. 208 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 3: I think we all know how why now listeners feel 209 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 3: about that one. So my thing is is do you 210 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 3: nag your husband? But oh sure, but I'm not even 211 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 3: trying to nag. 212 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 1: Right, I'm just trying to remind. I'm just trying to 213 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: move get it done. 214 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 3: The operation reminder is a if it's an annoying I 215 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 3: guess no reminder is a nag. 216 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, I definitely do uh huh. But I 217 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 2: mean my husband is not the most uh not like 218 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 2: he's the most forget. Ever, yeah, there's no way things 219 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:04,079 Speaker 2: would get done if I didn't. 220 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 3: Well, I would also just like to again not have 221 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:08,960 Speaker 3: that looked at like like high strung, like a bad 222 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 3: thing where it's like, wow, can if we don't remind, 223 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 3: will it it won't get done on the time. This 224 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 3: is a thing we don't remind, it won't get done 225 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 3: in the time that it's supposed to get done, right, 226 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 3: or it needs to get done like some things might be. 227 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 3: It has to be done by this point or by 228 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 3: the time that we would want it to be done. 229 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 3: So that's when people are like, well, we just do 230 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:32,840 Speaker 3: it ourselves. But that's when we become overloaded and resentful. 231 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 3: So then it's like, but then it's turned on us 232 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 3: when we have to remind, even though that's frustrating too. 233 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 3: I'm going to put nagging in the same category as 234 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 3: this phrase which I can't stand personally, Thank you for 235 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 3: changing the word, because we don't like that word. 236 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,840 Speaker 1: I can't stand. I would use the h if I could. 237 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: My old lady. Huh have you heard people referred to 238 00:10:57,600 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: wives as my old lady? 239 00:10:58,840 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 3: No? 240 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: Oh like this, I mean I have yeah, like back 241 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: in like the biker day. 242 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 3: Like you know what I'm saying, like the old lady, 243 00:11:09,640 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 3: like that's what they call. Yeah. I just feel like 244 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 3: it goes in that with me, like the it's like 245 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 3: very like old worldly marriage feeling like I don't think 246 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 3: any of us are naggy wives, and I think the 247 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:28,200 Speaker 3: world word nagging is very like old timey, like it's 248 00:11:28,679 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 3: outdated and it's not relevant, which then might be why 249 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:35,920 Speaker 3: someone from Scotland might because they're more like. 250 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:38,440 Speaker 1: In the time machine. 251 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, maybe maybe I think there is some there 252 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 3: is some of that there, but I still just think 253 00:11:45,360 --> 00:11:48,439 Speaker 3: it just needs a little revamp on the vocabulary. I 254 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 3: think he can get his point across without saying it. 255 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 3: I think Alan's thing is that he's so direct, maybe 256 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:57,439 Speaker 3: culturally and we're kind of a more rounded edge. I 257 00:11:57,520 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 3: would just like to know what you guys do, because 258 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 3: I've tried different tactics. Right, So I've tried the just 259 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 3: do it myself. Well, I don't want to just do 260 00:12:04,840 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 3: that because then I get overworked. So then i've you know, asked, 261 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 3: and it's like, hey, you know, this has to be 262 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:12,480 Speaker 3: put in by Friday. If you could really help me 263 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:14,679 Speaker 3: take this off my plate, that'd be amazing. That's usually 264 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 3: how I try to frame it. I try to frame 265 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 3: it sweet, try to frame it nice. Hey, just checking 266 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 3: in to see if they're going back, if this has 267 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:28,079 Speaker 3: gotten taken care of, let me know if not, you know, 268 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:30,599 Speaker 3: And then when it's a couple stone reminders, it's like 269 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:32,599 Speaker 3: I should have just done it myself. Yeah, you know, 270 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 3: but it's like I've tried the whenever you get around 271 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:38,079 Speaker 3: to it, no rush, because if it's not a rush, 272 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 3: that's why I say. I'm like, there was something broken 273 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:41,960 Speaker 3: in the bathroom, and I said, zero rush at all. 274 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 3: I don't know how to do all the tool things 275 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 3: with the putting fixing this thing. So whenever you have 276 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 3: a second zero rush, no like and I really meant that, like, 277 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:52,719 Speaker 3: it could be a month from that, I don't care, 278 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 3: So what other things are more on a times? So 279 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 3: I'm just curious how you guys, maybe phrase it to 280 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 3: your husband's because Alan does not like to be told 281 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 3: what to do like that is a very He does 282 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 3: not like that. So I do have to frame it 283 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:10,679 Speaker 3: in a way where it is like hey baby. 284 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:16,199 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, No, Nick is the same a second Nick 285 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 2: is the same way. And I will say We've actually 286 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:20,599 Speaker 2: gotten really far with this because I think at some 287 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:22,839 Speaker 2: point when we were going through stuff, we talked about this, 288 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:26,600 Speaker 2: like in therapy or something, and so there have been 289 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:29,599 Speaker 2: several times since then where I've asked I have to 290 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:31,920 Speaker 2: He doesn't use the word nag, but he will say 291 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:34,319 Speaker 2: it's all about how you ask, and it truly is 292 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:36,559 Speaker 2: for him. If I do it nicely, fine. If I 293 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 2: do it mean and he feels like I'm coming down 294 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:42,319 Speaker 2: on him, he shuts down. But since then, if I've 295 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:44,439 Speaker 2: asked nicely a couple of times and he knows it 296 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,599 Speaker 2: and then something doesn't get done, and even if I 297 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:50,160 Speaker 2: do get unreasonable and get really mad, he is actually 298 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:50,959 Speaker 2: pretty nice about it. 299 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: He'll be like, I'm so sorry I dropped the ball, 300 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: like he. 301 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 2: Now will do that because he knows that that says 302 00:13:57,240 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 2: something to me, like this wasn't important enough for you 303 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 2: to take the time to make sure that this gets done, 304 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 2: you know. 305 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 1: But it took a lot of time for that. 306 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I will say Alan was really good about 307 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 3: it because so it was one of those things where 308 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 3: it was the school. So I did all the back 309 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 3: to school stuff for Jolie and Jase because and I'm fine, 310 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 3: I'm fine to handle that, you know. But when it 311 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 3: came to Roman, because we're putting him in two days 312 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 3: at at a little preschool, and I thought, you know what, 313 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 3: I'm gonna give this to Alan. I'm gonna let him, 314 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 3: you know, take care of this, take this off my 315 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 3: plate right now. And even during the process of it, 316 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 3: the amount of questions that he came and asked me 317 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 3: while filling it out, like I would have had this 318 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 3: thing filled out in can in two seconds. But I 319 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 3: was also like, my response is going to be huge 320 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 3: in this sure good good? Yeah. So like when he 321 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:45,760 Speaker 3: came in while filling it out two days after, you know, 322 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 3: asking whatever, fine, but needed to be done at the 323 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:50,280 Speaker 3: end of the week, right. So but he came in 324 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 3: and he's like, hey, who's the new pediatrics. I was like, 325 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 3: you know, and then he would like leave me. But 326 00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 3: and what's the doctors say? I'm like, you know this person, 327 00:14:57,520 --> 00:14:58,880 Speaker 3: and then he's like and then what is in true? 328 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 3: So it's like, so he learned a lot, Like he 329 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 3: definitely like that was and he's like, yeah, Kat and 330 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 3: Kristen as the themor Yes, yeah, oh I'm a nice 331 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 3: I like that. But it was just like I could 332 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 3: have been annoyed and frustrated, but it's like, all right, 333 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 3: you're kind of getting to know. 334 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. 335 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 3: So Preston is like allergic to anything that feels even 336 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 3: seventy five like degrees away from homework. So anything if 337 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:35,320 Speaker 3: it involves a number two pencil, if it is scantron like, 338 00:15:35,520 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 3: if it is a form, doctors, dentist, anything, customs, it's 339 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 3: me doubling down. 340 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: For the most part, he won't do any of that. 341 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,640 Speaker 3: He will get so frustrated and then it will just 342 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 3: be clicked out of or he doesn't know. I mean, 343 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:53,320 Speaker 3: what's wild is that he does so much legal stuff 344 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:56,200 Speaker 3: on his business side that I am just floored that 345 00:15:56,280 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 3: he doesn't want to fill out forms because the feel 346 00:15:57,800 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 3: it's so easy. It's like docu signing and doing everything. 347 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:04,360 Speaker 3: But if I tried, I can't even I actually might 348 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 3: try it as an experiment, right, just to give him 349 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 3: a form. Well, and I think and to what you 350 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 3: were saying to Catherine is at the very end of it, 351 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 3: because it wasn't put in by the deadline, and so 352 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 3: when I was like kindly like, hey, do I need 353 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 3: to move this to the next day and the next 354 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 3: and the next, and then it was like the last day, 355 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 3: and then realizing it didn't go through, I was just 356 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,120 Speaker 3: I did get frustrated, but it was one of those 357 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 3: things where he then realized. He's like, I'm sorry. I 358 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:30,080 Speaker 3: didn't realize, you know, you would ask me to help 359 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 3: you take something off your plate that and I didn't 360 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 3: make that a priority. Yeah, I put my list of 361 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,600 Speaker 3: priorities in front of it. Yeah, and I didn't realize 362 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:40,000 Speaker 3: that it was a priority for you. So I think 363 00:16:40,040 --> 00:16:42,240 Speaker 3: it was good, yeah, to like test it. But it's 364 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 3: still that those waters of the nagging thing where it's like, 365 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:47,160 Speaker 3: I don't want to be a nag, Like I do 366 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 3: not want to be a nagging wife. 367 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 1: Nobody does. If you want to ask once and I 368 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:51,640 Speaker 1: get done there, and I. 369 00:16:51,720 --> 00:16:54,640 Speaker 3: Also want to be able to ask for help, but 370 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 3: then it's like, but if I do, but then then 371 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 3: I become a nagging wife. 372 00:16:58,680 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 1: He's not done what I want. 373 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 3: So it's like, I have you have to you almost 374 00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 3: have to like the things that you have to ask 375 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,000 Speaker 3: for help, you need to not have be on a timeline. 376 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, so that you don't become a nagging wife. And 377 00:17:06,920 --> 00:17:10,240 Speaker 1: that's kind of like a bummer too, yeah, I I yeah, 378 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: it is kind of a bummer. 379 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 2: But if it's something that is just because you want 380 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 2: it done in that time, sure, I've realized I have 381 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 2: to let it go, but if it really has to 382 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:21,360 Speaker 2: be done. But also like I have a dresser that's 383 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 2: broken up in Ramsey's room that like when are we 384 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:25,399 Speaker 2: moving it? 385 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:29,200 Speaker 1: I'm not sure. I couldn't tell you. You know, Emmy's 386 00:17:29,840 --> 00:17:32,320 Speaker 1: room was supposed to be painted white. I don't know 387 00:17:32,359 --> 00:17:33,359 Speaker 1: when that's gonna happen. 388 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:36,400 Speaker 2: But those are things that I'm like, yes, I want 389 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:39,679 Speaker 2: to nag about those, but like at the same time is. 390 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:42,399 Speaker 1: That the priority doesn't have to be done right now. 391 00:17:42,680 --> 00:17:46,359 Speaker 1: But also like lately though, like I've I had all 392 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:47,360 Speaker 1: new light fixtures. 393 00:17:47,480 --> 00:17:49,240 Speaker 3: We've had them in the house since we bought it 394 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:51,399 Speaker 3: ten years ago, and so I said, here they all are, 395 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:53,920 Speaker 3: and he can do that now. Preston taught himself, which 396 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:55,080 Speaker 3: I know is like not a big deal to a 397 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 3: lot of people, but I don't like electricity, so I 398 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:59,760 Speaker 3: think that's pretty hot. Yeah, And so I said, I 399 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 3: have a handyman on deck that would love to do 400 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 3: this work for us, or yeah, because I don't want 401 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 3: you to have to spend your only day at home 402 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 3: doing this. 403 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:11,679 Speaker 1: Yep, which would you prefer? Yeah, that's smart. 404 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:15,400 Speaker 3: So I tried that too. There was a I downloaded 405 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 3: task rabbit. Yeah, does it work well? The two of 406 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 3: the people canceled, But also like who wants to put 407 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 3: together a trampoline? You know? 408 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:23,600 Speaker 1: So it was one of those where I was like, 409 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: I can keep trying. Did you do them? Did you 410 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:29,000 Speaker 1: just say side project at a home? And they're like 411 00:18:29,160 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 1: squealing out no, no, no. 412 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:33,359 Speaker 3: And it ended up being a fun little thing that 413 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 3: we did together. But it was also like nobody, I 414 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:37,960 Speaker 3: don't want to do I don't want to take the 415 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,640 Speaker 3: two three hours that when Roman's napping to do this either, 416 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,119 Speaker 3: Like this isn't fun, Like I would love to be 417 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 3: studying and sitting in my little sanctuary like nice and 418 00:18:45,400 --> 00:18:48,159 Speaker 3: peaceful right now, Like, yeah, we got to make this 419 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:49,400 Speaker 3: somehow fun together. Yeah. 420 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, But all that to say I do think the 421 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:56,280 Speaker 2: nagging part essentially comes in with our attitudes at the 422 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:58,680 Speaker 2: same time. But it's hard to keep the attitudes in 423 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:01,400 Speaker 2: check sometimes when you feel like you've asked a lot. 424 00:19:01,560 --> 00:19:16,880 Speaker 3: Right. Well, this is a huge headline and it's been everywhere. 425 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 3: Andy Byron's wife reacts to Astronomer's CEOs allegedly caught cheating. 426 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: Obviously you guys have seen this. I mean, if you haven't, 427 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: it's unreal. 428 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:34,639 Speaker 3: My thing about it is, if you are cheating on someone, 429 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:38,040 Speaker 3: if you're cheating on your wife, why go to a 430 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 3: public place like this, like you're at a concert and 431 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 3: then you're with I think they're with work people, which 432 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:46,480 Speaker 3: I didn't like that because they're like laughing. I'm like, 433 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 3: how disrespectful to like the wife that they're all just 434 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 3: they know this and they're all laughing. 435 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 1: I don't know. I do think that the spouse is new. No, 436 00:20:00,359 --> 00:20:02,399 Speaker 1: do we know for sure. I was on a cruise. 437 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 3: I I use this lightly because I don't know. I 438 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 3: haven't verified this source. So I had written something about 439 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,440 Speaker 3: like kind of like pray for Meghan because I just 440 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 3: had yeah listen. 441 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: Some of those got really funny. 442 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 3: Some of the memes, like one of them was like, 443 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 3: you know, because this Christian girl, the one that was 444 00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 3: having the affair, was married to a CEO before this, 445 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 3: and I just saw somebody post damn girl, leave some 446 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 3: CEOs for the rest of us, right, And I was like, okay, 447 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:25,959 Speaker 3: well that's kind of that was kind of funny, right, 448 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:28,960 Speaker 3: But I just got so sad because I think we 449 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:32,479 Speaker 3: all know the feeling of like discovery and how public 450 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 3: that was. And I just kept thinking, if I'm her, 451 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 3: just we all can take ourselves back to the moment 452 00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:42,879 Speaker 3: that you find something out like that. And so I 453 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 3: just wrote and was like, maybe this will just get 454 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:46,440 Speaker 3: shared by one or two people and we could start 455 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,480 Speaker 3: like shifting it that way, but just essentially like a 456 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,399 Speaker 3: pray for Megan and her kids or whatever. A follower 457 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:53,720 Speaker 3: reached out and said, Meghan is my friend and also 458 00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:56,560 Speaker 3: as a roommate of mine, assuming in college. 459 00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: She didn't say, and she was like, she is devastated. 460 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:01,680 Speaker 3: So I don't know if that person necessarily, I just 461 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 3: don't know why they would rate that if they didn't. 462 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:06,160 Speaker 2: Right, I think in my mind, I don't know why. 463 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:09,360 Speaker 2: I felt like she already knew the wife of him, 464 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 2: But either way, it's humiliating, and it's devastating, especially for 465 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 2: your kids. It's irrelevant. It's devastating, like for this to 466 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,680 Speaker 2: be floating around and that be like your dad. 467 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 3: You know, or you're clearly you've got no respect again 468 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 3: to go to a concert so much. 469 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 2: That's why I think in my mind I felt like 470 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 2: maybe they knew because they didn't see anything. They were 471 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 2: like even hiding, like it looked like the people around 472 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 2: them like knew. 473 00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:38,040 Speaker 1: And so I'm like, how do all these people know? 474 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: And then they don't know? Again? Who knows what? It's 475 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:42,280 Speaker 1: almost like a gracious assumption. 476 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I hope that right may was maybe, but 477 00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 2: I mean, this is just but my question about it is, 478 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:53,000 Speaker 2: do you think people should lose their job for having affairs? 479 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 1: Well? I think. 480 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 3: It Okay, No, I don't. Having said that, our pastor obviously, yeah, 481 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 3: lost his job, I think that's a little different. 482 00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:11,479 Speaker 2: He stepped down technically, kind of like it was a force. Well, 483 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:13,560 Speaker 2: I think it's the same situation for the CEO. But 484 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 2: here's the thing though, because this was a big thing, 485 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 2: it's now taken away. Maybe what and I got I 486 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 2: didn't look into the company. I don't really know what 487 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:24,200 Speaker 2: it is. Or whatnot. 488 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 3: But do you want that to be the now because 489 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,320 Speaker 3: it has become so publicized, do you want that to 490 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:31,399 Speaker 3: be your CEO? In that case, if I was above 491 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:33,000 Speaker 3: that person, I'd be like, I don't want this person 492 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 3: as the face of our thing. So yes, I believe 493 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 3: that if it's become publicized like this and it has 494 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:42,399 Speaker 3: now going to maybe affect the brand, Yes, I believe. 495 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,920 Speaker 1: And those are consequences because investors were dropping out exactly. 496 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 3: So yes, Now, if it's on a smaller scale, someone's cheating, No, 497 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:51,600 Speaker 3: I don't think that. 498 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:56,440 Speaker 1: It's definitely against HR policy. I can promise HR. Yeah, 499 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 1: I also think there's like we know. 500 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 3: People in news that have had I don't think people 501 00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 3: should lose their job over relationships like that. Having said that, 502 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:13,800 Speaker 3: if it's affecting the workplace, you know, fine, again, there's 503 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 3: HR rules for a reason. But I also think you 504 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,879 Speaker 3: can't help who you fall for. But when it's on 505 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 3: a JumboTron in like a corporate you're getting fired because 506 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 3: you're under me Like, yeah. 507 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it is. I think she was forced 508 00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 1: to but yeah. 509 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,199 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just I would I felt this way. I'm 510 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:33,600 Speaker 3: going to take us back on a history lesson. But 511 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:35,560 Speaker 3: you remember when like the Monica Lewinsky thing happened with 512 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:39,399 Speaker 3: Bill Clinton, it was like, did he lose his job? No? 513 00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 3: But do we trust his judgment? It's like that kind 514 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:44,960 Speaker 3: of feeling to me all over again, like that did. 515 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:45,520 Speaker 1: He get impeached? 516 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 3: Though? I mean I know he didn't technically, like do 517 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:49,840 Speaker 3: they go through an impeachment? I know he didn't actually 518 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 3: end up leaving the. 519 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,760 Speaker 2: You can get impeached but not get Yeah, but I 520 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:57,399 Speaker 2: just remember feeling like, wow, this speaks to your character 521 00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 2: and your judgment. 522 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,879 Speaker 1: And listen again, does it an actor job? Do you 523 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:03,440 Speaker 1: do it in private? Do you public? Doesn't make it 524 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:04,160 Speaker 1: better or worse? 525 00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 3: No, but it's like you are really unafraid if you're 526 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 3: in a suite that is really really lost our compass 527 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 3: for what is appropriate. 528 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree you guys, I don't mind. 529 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 3: I shouldn't bring it. I need you to know definitely 530 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 3: unpinned quick, don't even push it all the way and 531 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 3: just pull it out. No, it's like it's not really relevant, 532 00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:30,720 Speaker 3: but it is because like you know, when Mike was 533 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,240 Speaker 3: on the podcast and we when I caught him cheating again, 534 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 3: you know he's like, well, recording next week, I'm like, 535 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:41,359 Speaker 3: you're off the show, your show, no more, like you 536 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:43,880 Speaker 3: want no more, like you fired, You're off. 537 00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:50,920 Speaker 1: And they're gonna let you go. That's your show anymore. 538 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 1: And you cheated and so when are you asking that question? 539 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:56,879 Speaker 1: I thought of that, and then I thought of that, 540 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:57,280 Speaker 1: and I was. 541 00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:00,840 Speaker 3: Like, well, I mean he didn't you don't fired eating 542 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:02,320 Speaker 3: he jumbo drowned himself. 543 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,199 Speaker 1: Yeah. I did go a little bit. 544 00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 2: I did go when you work with your husband, the 545 00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 2: cheating on, you're going to Yeah, but they're going to 546 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:11,199 Speaker 2: pick one or the two. 547 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 3: Don't have to. 548 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:14,680 Speaker 1: Podcast the next week when I found out that you 549 00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 1: had an affair again, Okay, I'm just checking in. 550 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 3: I know he's been personally, I'm wondering if I could 551 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 3: podcast till Wednesday? 552 00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 1: Are you out of your mind? Can figure that out? 553 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 3: Oh guys, I did go into a little bit of 554 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 3: a JumboTron fail. I did the history of the JumboTron fails. Yeah, 555 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,000 Speaker 3: and it gets good if you do that. Nothing like 556 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:42,040 Speaker 3: this less heart destroying. But one of them was a 557 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:45,320 Speaker 3: failed proposal where the where the JumboTron went over to 558 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 3: Christine and it. 559 00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 1: Was will you marry me? Christine? 560 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,639 Speaker 3: And the groom was up. He was in the hallway. 561 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,240 Speaker 3: He thought he was supposed to meet the film crew 562 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,480 Speaker 3: in the hallway, and so she's standing. 563 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,920 Speaker 1: There by herself and it's just will you marry me? Christine? 564 00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 3: And she didn't know what to do and at that 565 00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 3: if that's worth of Google, Yeah, the jumbatron fails. 566 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,480 Speaker 1: I feel like this video just didn't even seem real. 567 00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:06,919 Speaker 1: They were so dramatic about it. 568 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 3: Like it was so hair that disappear any further. I 569 00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 3: feel like I'm like it was just all bizarre. But anyway, Yeah, yeah, guys, 570 00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 3: what a time. Sweet Meghan. Hey Megan, do you want 571 00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:21,280 Speaker 3: a podcast with us? 572 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, we'd love to have you on, We really would, 573 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:25,720 Speaker 1: and to love on you. 574 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 3: I know. Aaron Pipher's threatened to crush Denise Richard's hand 575 00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,680 Speaker 3: on Real Housewives of Beverly Huse five years before allegations 576 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:48,679 Speaker 3: of domestic abuse. 577 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,440 Speaker 1: Do you remember watching that? No, I haven't seen anything 578 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:52,359 Speaker 1: about it until now. 579 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,879 Speaker 3: It was on the show, so yeah, seen from uh 580 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 3: season ten of The Real Housewives about Oh. 581 00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,919 Speaker 1: I think it was like a non scene clip or something, but. 582 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 3: The cast got is worried, right, Yeah, so that he 583 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 3: told Denise that he will crush her hand has resurfaced, admit, 584 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:13,840 Speaker 3: you know, along these allegations, news broke on Thursday that 585 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:19,359 Speaker 3: Richards was granted a temporary straining order against him, and 586 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 3: in the scene, Richard's and her then husband were leaving 587 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 3: Kyle richards family barbecue hand in hand following a tense 588 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 3: discussion at dinner when Denise warned him maybe don't say 589 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,160 Speaker 3: any word or on camera, to which he replied, don't 590 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:31,920 Speaker 3: tell me what to say. I'm going to crush your 591 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,840 Speaker 3: effing hand to stop it, so I don't remember that. 592 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 3: I just it makes me really sad because we just 593 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:43,679 Speaker 3: had her on the podcast too, and you know, the cheating, 594 00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:48,480 Speaker 3: the domestic abuse. She released a photo for Black Eye. 595 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,679 Speaker 1: Was he cheating on her too? That's what it says, 596 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 1: I mean, and they've been married. 597 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:58,719 Speaker 3: No, she He recently accused Richards of cheating on him, 598 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 3: citing text message found the laptop she heard another man. 599 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:04,840 Speaker 3: And then you know, she accused him of being physically 600 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 3: abusive by hitting and scratching him. Just sounds messy, and 601 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 3: it makes me sad for all parties involved. 602 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:16,399 Speaker 1: Like with you know, with just sad her kids are 603 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:20,320 Speaker 1: and her kids and it's also like it's also just 604 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 1: like what would you do? 605 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,720 Speaker 3: You know, those positions, like we all want to say 606 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,040 Speaker 3: in the moment, we would of course like say something 607 00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:29,560 Speaker 3: or do something, but it's almost like and what I m, 608 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 3: I am? 609 00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: What I am seeing? Is it really real? Like you 610 00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:35,399 Speaker 1: have these moments right like if you heard him say that, 611 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,160 Speaker 1: like is that real? What is he doing right now? Right? 612 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 3: Because yeah, he claims she cheated on him and has 613 00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 3: hit and scratched him. So it's like it's such a. 614 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,600 Speaker 1: So he's saying that she did it. Yeah, yeah, that 615 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:50,040 Speaker 1: she did it. 616 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,680 Speaker 3: It's a lot of you said, you said, allegations. 617 00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 1: It's sad. 618 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:58,080 Speaker 2: I feel like she's gone through a lot being with Charlie. 619 00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 2: I think was a lot, and who knows what really 620 00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 2: goes on in their bedroom. There could be abuse on 621 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 2: both sides. There could be abuse on one side, there 622 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,960 Speaker 2: can be but abuses abuse and that's sad and it 623 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:07,960 Speaker 2: sounds like the thing. 624 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,240 Speaker 3: Even him saying that to me is just unacceptable. 625 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:14,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, yes, absolutely do. 626 00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,840 Speaker 2: I think at the end of the day, someone has 627 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,320 Speaker 2: a right if they have also been abused to say 628 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 2: that they're abused, even if they're a man. 629 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:23,000 Speaker 1: Sure, I mean I guess. 630 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:24,440 Speaker 2: They get me When he said I'm going to crush 631 00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 2: your hand. Oh yeah, I thought you meant that she's 632 00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 2: hit and scratched. Yeah, oh yeah absolutely, And just like 633 00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:32,560 Speaker 2: in what world that's that's just that is like a 634 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 2: crazy thing to say crush. 635 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,520 Speaker 3: So, like, I have a hard this might get me 636 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,400 Speaker 3: in trouble, but here we go. I have a hard 637 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:43,120 Speaker 3: time believing that people won't do that, if people will 638 00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 3: say things like that. But maybe that's just my personal 639 00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 3: history of behavior with words too, you know, but like 640 00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 3: exactly if you could say that, then you can do 641 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:58,320 Speaker 3: that is kind of how yes, history is, Yes, like. 642 00:29:58,360 --> 00:29:59,240 Speaker 1: I wouldn't even say that. 643 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,880 Speaker 3: Preston wouldn't say that right now, right and we have 644 00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 3: gotten in heated heated, heated conflicts and he would never 645 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:11,480 Speaker 3: write and I, in my personal experience, I feel like 646 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,320 Speaker 3: those things said were so much worse behind closed doors. 647 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:17,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I hate that. 648 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, sad, But it sounds like they've broken it off, 649 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,320 Speaker 2: hopefully and hopefully the we'll stay. 650 00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:28,480 Speaker 1: Not together and can get good help and sub help. 651 00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,040 Speaker 1: Another news, Pete Davidson's going to be a dad. It's 652 00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:35,320 Speaker 1: all that Pete, sweet sweet Pete thirty one. They've only 653 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,320 Speaker 1: been thirty one. They've not been together very long. 654 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 3: I didn't see him and Kim together. I didn't know, 655 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,200 Speaker 3: but I think they were cute. He was like good 656 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:44,680 Speaker 3: for her for that season. 657 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:45,400 Speaker 1: Yeah. 658 00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 3: I also just feel like it gave like a little, 659 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 3: like I don't know, a little boost to every dude 660 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 3: in America. 661 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 1: Like right, Oh, it definitely boosted him a little bit. 662 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 3: Well, yeah, he's been with some of the most beautiful women. Yeah, 663 00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 3: I think he's an Honestly, I think he's just a 664 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,840 Speaker 3: genuinely good dude. Maybe someone just like funny funny Yeah, yeah, 665 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:07,320 Speaker 3: so funny, Yeah, funny guys finished last typically poor thing. 666 00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:11,320 Speaker 3: This is exciting. Hey, ladies, I need some relationship advice. 667 00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 3: I've been dating my boyfriend for the past three years, 668 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 3: and we just graduated college all and we are busy 669 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,040 Speaker 3: working our post grad jobs. We're experiencing a bit of 670 00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 3: a rough patch now that we're so much busier and 671 00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 3: are doing long distance. We used to see each other 672 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,240 Speaker 3: every day and communicate all the time while our lives 673 00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,400 Speaker 3: overlapped in college, but now we work different jobs in 674 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 3: different cities and sometimes find ourselves not talking or texting 675 00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,960 Speaker 3: for an entire day. I'm worried we're growing apart and 676 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 3: complacent in our relationship. I know that a relationship in 677 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,080 Speaker 3: the real world is very different from a relationship in college, 678 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 3: but I really want to get back to being as 679 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 3: close as we used to be while still growing in 680 00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:49,400 Speaker 3: this next phase of life together. Any advice on how 681 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 3: to stay connected through long distance, busy schedules, and major 682 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:53,880 Speaker 3: life transitions. 683 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 1: Well, welcome to the last ten years, dear listener. 684 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,040 Speaker 3: I do think, though, there's something. I don't think you 685 00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:03,240 Speaker 3: should go a full day without texting you're talking. That's 686 00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:07,320 Speaker 3: the part where it's like, that's where it becomes too distant, 687 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:10,280 Speaker 3: and then that becomes you get farther and farther and 688 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 3: farther away from the past. I think that's a dangerous 689 00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:13,560 Speaker 3: place to be personally. 690 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:17,600 Speaker 2: I agree, well, especially long distance. Yeah, because if you're 691 00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 2: not seeing them, we've never gone a day even you're 692 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:25,840 Speaker 2: most mad. And that's not me saying maybe this is bad. 693 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,200 Speaker 2: I'm just saying quickly, that would be the first thing 694 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 2: I would change to. Yeah, even if it's just to 695 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,960 Speaker 2: reach out, like I was thinking of you. Yeah, I 696 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:33,800 Speaker 2: think there's like this. 697 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,280 Speaker 3: I think there should be a good morning, Yeah, a 698 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:38,479 Speaker 3: check in and a good night at a minimum, at 699 00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,600 Speaker 3: a minimum like good morning, hope your day is great, 700 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,680 Speaker 3: just about to start mine, I love you. Let's you know. Yeah, 701 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,920 Speaker 3: establishes a little bit of a pattern. But when you 702 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:51,000 Speaker 3: get into that routine of not it's it'll just continue 703 00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:54,800 Speaker 3: to build a wedge. And in my I'll admit that 704 00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:56,800 Speaker 3: sometimes for me, I'm like, well then I'm not going 705 00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:58,720 Speaker 3: to tell you know, like I've been there before in 706 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:03,000 Speaker 3: earlier earlier parts this marriage, and just nothing good comes 707 00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 3: of that. So if you can waiting for him to 708 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,520 Speaker 3: text you, yeah, and that's embarrassing, but I'll be honest 709 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,640 Speaker 3: about it. So I think if you've ever girls done that, yeah, 710 00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,600 Speaker 3: I'm just going to say it out loud. Yeah. But 711 00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:17,040 Speaker 3: like I do, I think if I can round my 712 00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:20,160 Speaker 3: edges and come to him, I've always seen the benefit. 713 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,520 Speaker 3: So you know, people say relationships aren't always fifty to fifty. 714 00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 1: I do agree with that. 715 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 3: And if you can there can be days where they're 716 00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:31,440 Speaker 3: twenty feels like they're fifty. If you can just meet 717 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,760 Speaker 3: him eighty for the day. If it's always eighty twenty, 718 00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,880 Speaker 3: well then we revisit. But I think if you can 719 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:41,960 Speaker 3: just I just love and lead the way that you 720 00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 3: want to be. Love and lead is a better heart 721 00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,760 Speaker 3: posture than if you're not texting. I won't text you either. 722 00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,200 Speaker 2: Well, And I wonder if they're just like if there 723 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,360 Speaker 2: is kind of a slow drift or whatever, just a 724 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,080 Speaker 2: little bit of texting on your own, if that's going 725 00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:57,720 Speaker 2: to bring it back or not, or if this is 726 00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:01,320 Speaker 2: just a natural you know kind of because y'all are 727 00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:05,720 Speaker 2: in after college is such a pivotal time too, and 728 00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:07,680 Speaker 2: you're going about and you're having your lives. But like 729 00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 2: I wonder if if you're not hearing, like you said, 730 00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:14,279 Speaker 2: reach out, check in, if it's still feeling different, maybe 731 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,920 Speaker 2: y'all need to actually like get together, check in, see 732 00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:17,840 Speaker 2: where things stand. 733 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:21,840 Speaker 3: And I'm not in college and I know it's different, 734 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,520 Speaker 3: but I spend so much time away from my husband 735 00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:30,040 Speaker 3: that any connection is connection, Like you just have to 736 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,360 Speaker 3: have it. Yeah, And I'd also like this is like 737 00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:35,320 Speaker 3: totally Devil's advocate other side of things. I like that 738 00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,719 Speaker 3: I just want to like throw this out there for 739 00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:41,919 Speaker 3: her to explore, maybe because there is so much out 740 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:46,839 Speaker 3: there and college is so different than the real world. 741 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:49,200 Speaker 3: So I would just in those moments, if you know, 742 00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,040 Speaker 3: if he's if you have a like a point zero 743 00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:55,280 Speaker 3: one percent inkling that maybe this isn't your forever, forever person, 744 00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 3: take this time to maybe explore other things of maybe 745 00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:04,439 Speaker 3: just being by yourself and wondering maybe where you maybe 746 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,200 Speaker 3: you like where you're living now, and maybe he wants 747 00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:08,640 Speaker 3: to stay where he's at and you at and where 748 00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:11,960 Speaker 3: you're at, and you guys can maybe go separate ways 749 00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:13,839 Speaker 3: and then you find your actual person. I'm not saying 750 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 3: this is maybe this is your person. And this is 751 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:17,359 Speaker 3: like just devastating to hear this because I remember when 752 00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 3: my high school boyfriend, I was like, he's. 753 00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,560 Speaker 1: My forever, but like he wasn't. 754 00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:24,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, but now it's like, maybe there is somebody else 755 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:27,719 Speaker 3: out there and for you to not to explore yea, 756 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:28,560 Speaker 3: the opportunities. 757 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I was kind of thinking. I mean again, 758 00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 2: it's such a big time after college. Like if y'all 759 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,879 Speaker 2: are naturally just kind of drifting, maybe rifting there could 760 00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:40,800 Speaker 2: be you know or that, Yeah, maybe just check in 761 00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 2: and see I drifted after college and had the time 762 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,080 Speaker 2: of my life. Oh okay, I just want her heart 763 00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:46,880 Speaker 2: taking care of I. 764 00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:48,600 Speaker 1: Know that I see her. I feel like she's in 765 00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:49,960 Speaker 1: the big city right now, and I kind of just 766 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:51,800 Speaker 1: want her to go live her life. Okay, are we 767 00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,360 Speaker 1: talking about her? Are we talking about Auskarkay? I'm like, 768 00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,200 Speaker 1: I want Honestly, it's me. 769 00:35:57,280 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 3: It's me wanting to have her redo for the time 770 00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,680 Speaker 3: of of just wanting to be in a relationship instead 771 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,800 Speaker 3: of like being by myself and exploring a city. 772 00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:08,520 Speaker 1: And worrying so much about someone texting you versus. 773 00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 3: Actually go be single, go fun, go to happy hour. 774 00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,680 Speaker 3: Like that's what I if I could redo, that's what 775 00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:17,000 Speaker 3: I Maybe I'm like giving her advice. It's like about 776 00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:20,839 Speaker 3: to my younger self. Okay, that's okay, but sometimes starting 777 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:22,759 Speaker 3: ourselves and need to hear it exactly right. 778 00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:23,600 Speaker 1: Guys, see you next week.