WEBVTT - She wants a divorce. 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:03.680 She said she wants to go through the divorce. She's 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.600 made it very clear. My question is how do I 0:00:06.640 --> 0:00:09.000 go about life and move on without her. We've been 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:12.760 together seven to eight years and it seems like she 0:00:12.840 --> 0:00:29.240 doesn't want anymore. I'm lost, confused, and hurt. Christian Williamson 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:34.640 on the podcast today, first time guest. Yeah, longtime friend. 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:39.360 I'm talking months of friendship. We go way back. Christian 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:41.920 is such a great dude, and I wanted him to 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:44.199 be on this podcast to help me answer some of 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:45.880 these questions with you guys, and to kind of walk 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:48.280 through this. As you know, this style, if you've heard 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:52.280 this before, is much like we're sitting around a campfire 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:56.560 and there's three of us and you have a question, 0:00:56.920 --> 0:00:58.720 and me and Christian are here, and you go, man, 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.320 thinking about something? Can I ask you guys something? What 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:05.840 would you think about this? And without notes, without preparation, 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:08.600 without an outline, We're just going to kind of walk 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:11.319 through your questions. They could be lighthearted, they could be 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:13.800 music related, they could be tour related. They could be 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:19.800 relationship or job or or life. It really could be anything. 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:25.880 Email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com, and we're gonna 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:27.720 we're gonna get to that, and I have some today 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:33.560 that I've pulled aside. Christian is an Alabama dude. First 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.240 first guest on this podcast from Alabama. We've had a 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:38.280 lot of different states, and I'm sure we have a 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.600 lot of Alabama listeners. So are you a roll Tide 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:44.839 or War Eagle? Guy, War Eagle or Eagle? That's right? Okay, 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.039 aren't you glad to ask? I'm glad you have. You 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:50.520 have to if that's it. And if you're from Alabama, 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:53.160 you know you're either Roll Todt or war Eagle and 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:56.120 you have to declare warn h what town are you from? From? 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.520 Pel City, Alabama? Tale City, Hell City about thirty miles 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:02.280 east burnam M. Does anyone know where that? It's comic 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:03.960 below if you know where? Pale City? Hey you spelled 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:09.040 Pale City, p e lll c C Pale City, gotcha? Yeah? Okay, 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:12.519 that Alabama slaying in there, pale So you consider Birmingham 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:15.080 kind of a home home base? Yeah, Birmingham's home base. 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:17.680 I was raised in Bell City, but most of adult 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:19.880 life was in Birmingham, and you know that's where I've 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.400 worked at and did business there. So yeah, it's great. 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:26.080 I'm met Christian through Celebration Church here in Georgetown, Texas. 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:30.000 And we've actually had Pastor Joe or lead pastor. He's 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:34.000 been on this podcast as a guest and h Amber 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:35.160 and I. You might have seen Amber and I have 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:38.560 done a lot of stuff with Celebration besides just attending. 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:41.560 And you are a pastor there, what do you do 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.160 at Celebration? Yeah, So my role Celebration is I'm the 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:48.680 Georgetown campus pastor, so that's our broadcast campus and so 0:02:49.120 --> 0:02:51.040 I have the privilege of overseen the team and the 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:53.440 dream Team there and leading them and it's a lot 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:55.680 of fun. What's the dream Team? The Dream Team is 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:58.560 the is the team of volunteers. It's church members that say, hey, 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:00.560 I have a gift, I have a calling and I 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:02.080 want to serve, I want to I want to use 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:04.799 it in God's house. And so we steward that and 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:07.720 we just allow them to come along and help us 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:10.040 pull off Sundays so to speak. We can do without them. 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:11.920 So how many are on the team, how many are 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.920 on the Dream Team? Yeah, we're about five hundred active 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:17.800 Dream Team Alan Georgetown Camp. That is amazing. Yeah, So 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:21.160 that's amazing. We have we have like five here at 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:25.880 the EE Farm volunteers staff. Yeah, stuff that stuff. So 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.239 you are gonna help You're gonna switch gears today. You're 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.600 doing the same business, really, you're just doing it on 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:33.880 a different platform. And we're gonna go through some of 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:36.840 these questions. I'm gonna I'm gonna have you help me 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:40.160 with these, help me, help me pick some of these. 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.720 But I should start, I should ease ourselves into these. 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:46.560 You guys, let me say this when you when you 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:50.680 ask these questions, I am I'm so humbled that you 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:56.480 will trust Christian and I with these things. And we 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:58.400 were talking, we had lunch right before this, and it's 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:02.480 such it's such a a huge responsibility. But also I 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:04.240 want you to know. You probably know that it's a 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.360 big responsibility when you hear the questions. But what I 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.080 do want you to know that you might not is 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:13.960 that it's also such a privilege to be trusted with 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:19.520 a sliver of your lives. As I don't like to 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:23.880 consider us strangers for you listeners on here, but we 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:26.560 have never met personally, most of us, and so I 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:28.640 just I want to let you guys know that it's 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:30.760 a huge privilege. So don't think of it as a burden. 0:04:31.880 --> 0:04:34.040 I enjoy it if I could help you in any 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:36.599 way and give you some advice in any way, you 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:38.760 don't have to take it. In fact, somebody emailed and 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:41.200 said you better be prepared for lawsuits in case you're 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.279 telling no, it's not about that. This is more of 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:47.479 a friendship conversation. But I just want you guys to 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:51.000 know that it is fulfilling to me to be able 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.920 to talk through some of this stuff, though, right you 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:57.960 understand that more than morning anywhere, Christian. How about this one? 0:04:58.000 --> 0:05:01.719 It says dreamcar. That's a subject. Hey, Grangeer, I'm justin 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:06.840 from southeastern Michigan. My question is with money and need 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:12.320 for family use aside, what would a vehicle be that 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:14.520 you would like to buy and why? And then it 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:17.159 says I do not want to hear about your sixty 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:21.360 nine Charger right now. This is besides that, which is interesting. 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.960 Justin has heard me talk before about a sixty nine 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:28.040 Charger as being a dream car. But I'm confused at 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:31.960 why he discounted that car right away this email. He 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:34.599 must have a problem with that says thanks for your podcast. 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:36.240 Has become my favorite to listen to because of the 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.919 realness that you bring, love all the guests that you 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.960 have on brother. Thank you so much. Shout out to 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:46.200 Southeastern Michigan. Thanks for the email. I'm going to try 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:48.719 to answer this without mentioning sixty nine charger, which is 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:53.440 my favorite, because the duke's a hazard. Gosh, can you 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:55.039 answer right on the top of your head. No, like 0:05:55.240 --> 0:05:58.360 the car, like, if there's any year, any make, any model, Yeah, 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:02.680 it's anything he says regards wardless of money, our need 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.760 for the use for your family. Yeah, I mean it 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.480 probably it might would be a Toyota Supro like that 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:13.520 car like Brandon Jones who drove our stock car. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:16.599 So I'm thinking just being a nineties kid and growing 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.719 up in the nineties, I just remember that was a 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.200 cool sports car to have their twin turbo engine and 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.160 six feet transmission, and in the nineties that was a lot. 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:27.000 That was a big deal. Yeah yeah, all right, I 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:30.240 think I'm gonna go with like a Ford F one 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:34.400 hundred or some some older body square body or body Ford, 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:42.599 or like a nineteen eighty three Chevrolet square body single cab. 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:45.800 I'm gonna go and I just what I just described 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:47.560 was my granddad's truck. You bought it brand new in 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:50.440 eighty three, which we still had that thing, but we don't. 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:53.599 But yeah, i'mna go with that, and that's a good, 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:59.120 good choice without answering sixty nine charter. Yeah, I'm gonna 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:01.000 do one more. He's in us into it, and I'm 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:03.320 preparing you, Christian for where we're going. I've seen some 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:06.480 of these questions, this says playing overseas Grandeur. Have you 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:08.880 ever had a chance to play for a non military 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:11.960 crowd in Europe? If so, how is the pro America 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:16.520 message and much of your music received. By the way, 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:19.360 both of my boys are in the military, one station 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.280 with one station in England. Let me know if you're 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:25.320 planning to play at any bases in Europe, specifically England 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:30.680 and our Let our oldest know he's a fan. Thank you, Mike, well, Mike, 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:33.080 thank you for I have to say this, thank you 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:37.760 for your service, which might might easily be overlooked. But 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:42.400 as a father of two men that are serving, you 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:47.320 are serving your country as well in a very important role. 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:50.680 You're the father of these men, So thank you for 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:56.040 your service. I have played many military shows in Europe 0:07:57.000 --> 0:08:02.720 and the Middle East, and only a few non military 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:08.480 shows and that that was in France is the only 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:12.160 country I've done non military shows in Western Europe, so 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:16.640 not in England, but I want to do that. I 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:19.680 would love to do that. We were actually planning, we 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:24.200 had a tour planned for England in September of twenty twenty, 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:27.760 and in March of twenty twenty. Obviously that got canceled. 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:30.840 It got completely wiped out. So I haven't seen that 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:33.320 same offer come back through, but we would love to 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:36.920 do that. How about you, Christian, I know you've traveled 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:40.200 a bunch. Yeah, I've traveled a pretty good bit, been 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:43.280 to Europe a few times, in Africa and Central America. 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:45.960 And I think the question was asking about the American 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:49.040 Right's right, you brought me back here, yeah, And so 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:50.480 I think it's we were talking about this a little 0:08:50.480 --> 0:08:54.119 bit at lunch, just the perspective that we have as Americans, 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:57.360 just our worldview, and then when you travel, you you 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.760 just it's a whole different perspective. It's not quite totally 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:03.400 idled here, I think Americans. I think it's I do 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:06.880 think it's the best. I think America's, particularly the United States, 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.840 is the best country on the planet. But it's just 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.360 so good to get outside of your perspective, outside of 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.599 your worldview, and realized that we took a lot of 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:18.120 things for granted. Absolutely, so I can I can't answer that, Mike. 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:22.880 I could say this that, first of all, you're probably 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:25.559 referring to there's a few songs that Earl Dibbles has, 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:30.160 like a song called America. Right. America came out after 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.600 I had already been to the Europe stuff and the 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:37.400 Iraq and Kuwait stuff. But we have been since then 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:42.920 to Australia and Canada. And it's funny because the first 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:45.680 time I went to Canada and America was kind of 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:49.400 semi viral on YouTube. I always didn't know what to do, 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:51.839 like what do I do with this? You know, Mike's right, 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:55.560 and thinking, now what do I do song? So I 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:57.880 win and I took it off the set list. Thought 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:00.640 that was an augous thing, which was weird because when 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:02.360 we went there, it was like during the height of 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.800 what this song was, how it was bubbling over on YouTube. 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.360 So I did a meet and greet and I saw 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:13.080 some good fans that I recognized from Canada, and I 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:16.240 was like, guys, quick question, why should I do with America? 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:18.920 And They're like play it and I was like, really, 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:22.080 that seems weird, and they're like, no, we have the 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:26.400 same kind of saying in Canada. It's Canada like instead 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:30.400 of America Canada, they do the same thing. Yeah, so 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:32.960 they said sing the song and replace it and I 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:35.240 was like, that's a cool idea. So I did and 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:38.880 they loved it. Then I went to Australia, same thing. 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:41.360 I said, what should I do with this song American 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:46.000 and they said, our phrase is Australia. So it just worked. 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:49.319 I did Australia. So what I would usually do, and 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.400 you know, salute to my home country, I would say 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:55.640 America the first two times, first two choruses, and the 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:59.960 last chorus Australia or Canada, and then they went nuts. 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:05.400 So so, Mike, long story short, it's amazing how other 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:10.280 countries are actually very accepting of the over the top 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:14.160 pro America is because they all share that same sentiment 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.760 at some level. So you guys also comment below if 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:21.400 you are from Canada or America, I mean Australia, and 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:23.679 and let me know what if you agree with that. 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:25.600 And then if you're from Europe, what in the world 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:28.800 would we say England. I don't know what it would 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:34.079 be yeah to the king. I don't know. Are you 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:37.280 ready Christian here at Buffalo, Let's go. I'm gonna let you. 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:39.480 I'll let you get into some of these. I'll let 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.480 you help me pick sure, So I'm gonna Here's a 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:47.120 subject called marriage. Subject called advice. There's a subject that says, 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:51.200 random question. I have the trouble with girls. My wife 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:55.560 and I are thinking about moving. Let's go with advice. 0:11:56.000 --> 0:12:00.360 That's advice, says hi, mister Smith. For of all, I 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:03.280 want to thank you for your inspirational music. When I 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:04.880 have a bad day, I resort to your music and 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.439 it speaks to me and it has saved my life 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:11.880 many times. Wow, thank you, she says. My mother passed 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:14.760 away almost six years ago and I can't find any 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:19.400 way to cope with it. My project, vehicles and work 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:21.920 are how I get distracted. But at the end of 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:25.120 the day, it's still there. What do you recommend doing 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:29.760 that might help cope with it? This is Danielle from Alberta, Canada. 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:34.280 Oh well, some awody from Canada, Canada, Canada. Danielle, thank you, 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:39.240 thank you, thanks for emailing and I'm sorry. I'm so 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:42.880 sorry about your mother. Where would you go. If you 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:45.880 were talking with Danielle and she came to you Christian 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:49.360 with this, where did you start? Where'd you start with? Well, first, 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:51.680 I just want to affirm the grief is a real 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:55.040 thing and regardless of it's if it's been six days 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:59.440 or six years, that's still your mother and that's good. 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:03.960 Grief is real and it's although it's is sometimes an 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.920 emotion or something that has a mindset, it's also something 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:10.640 that you physically feel and you physically experience. And I 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:13.400 would just encourage you one is is just accept that 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.720 and be okay that, Hey, six years later, if I'm 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:19.320 still missing my mother doesn't mean something's wrong with me. 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:23.760 It's just maybe maybe maybe there's a work that still 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:25.960 needs to be done on the inside of me. And 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:29.120 I would encourage you to get into some counseling, some 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:33.319 grief share groups. I would also just remind you that 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.679 to stay busy, you know, stay active, keep your mind occupied. 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:42.080 You know, the Bible teaches us that an idle mind 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:46.600 can be deceitful, an idle mind can it can be unhealthy. 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:50.840 And if you find yourself sitting around just pondering and 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:54.839 wondering what's next for you and missing your mother. I 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:58.400 would encourage you to get busy and find something just 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.040 to put some life into, find something to put some 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.679 of your attention into, because I promise you I can 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:06.280 tell you in my life that when I've experienced grief, 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:09.320 when I've experienced pain, that when I find something that's 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.920 greater than that pain that's worth investing into. Is when 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.400 I begin to that's where my focus goes. That's where 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:18.560 my attention goes, and I'll get distracted on you know, 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:22.000 I forget, oh yeah, that was tough. But when I 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:25.760 find something or someone to invest into, that's that's usually 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:29.440 the game changer for me. That's so good and Christian, 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:33.680 you have such a servant heart, and it's it's evident 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:38.600 with that, with what you're saying to Danielle. And once 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:44.640 again I'll say, my mother is still around. So I cannot, 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:49.520 I cannot begin to understand what you're going through, Danielle. 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.920 And but I'm sure a lot of people listening have 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:56.560 lost a mother and everyone has a different story. This 0:14:56.640 --> 0:14:59.640 is this is what I could tell you with with grief. 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:04.440 Let me go to a couple places here. One, it 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:08.680 will get better. It's good, it just will. And and 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:14.360 almost regardless of what you do, regardless of how you 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:18.480 just how much or how little you distract yourself time, 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:22.200 day by day, week by week, month by month, year 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:26.960 by year, it will get better. And that's not always 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:28.880 the answer we want to hear, because we're living in 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:31.240 the present. We're living in this moment. So how do 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:33.520 I deal with it right now? I don't. It's fine 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:34.960 if I'm going to be better in five years, but 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:38.680 I want to deal with it right now. I look 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:44.480 at it as grief is a thief. It's good grief 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:48.640 is a thief because because the grief that you feel 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:50.840 for your mother has nothing to do with your mother 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.680 and who she was. Now, the amount of grief you've 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:58.320 had you have for her equals the amount of love 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.640 you had for So you're by you saying that six 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:05.160 years later you still hurt, you still grieve means you 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.800 loved her a lot, a lot. Yeah, you loved her 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:14.040 that much that it still hurts all after these several years. 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.080 And in the long run, Danielle, that's a good thing. 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:22.600 Meaning losing a mother that you loved that much at 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:24.280 your age now I don't know how old you are, 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:28.800 but is so much better than a lifetime with a 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:33.960 worthless mother. And so you're you're very blessed that you 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:36.800 have a mother that you loved that much and you 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:40.320 have those memories because not everyone can say that. So 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:43.320 there's a massive positive right there that you have that. 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:45.200 And let me go back to grief as a thief, 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:48.080 because I've thought a lot about this in my life, 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:52.840 but grief, grief will come in to your mind and 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:58.200 steal your the positive thoughts about your mother, take that 0:16:58.320 --> 0:17:01.200 away from you. When when you want to think of 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:04.720 your mother and smile, and then you do smile because 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:07.119 of something great thought you had about her, and then 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:11.440 you feel guilty for smiling because you shouldn't. You shouldn't 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:14.200 be feeling happy you lost your mother, And that that's 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:19.119 a lie, that grief is stealing, stealing that that good 0:17:19.200 --> 0:17:21.880 moment that you're trying to have with your mother and 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.639 trying to smile by telling you you shouldn't be smiling, 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:29.720 you should be sad, and just realizing that helps you 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:34.040 go so sad. Oh wait a minute, this is my 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:37.679 This is that thief Grangel was talking about. And just 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:40.639 imagine think about you said that about it being a thief. 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.360 Think about how grief has distracted you from so many 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.800 positive things in your right, Like it's stealing so many 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.440 great moments and so many great memories, right and delaying 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:51.560 you from starting what you talked about, getting into something 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:54.680 that's more valuable than that grief. And we're and we're 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:57.160 not at all suggesting that grief again, that isn't real 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:58.840 and it's just a choice where you just wake up 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:01.840 one day and it's gone. That's not it. That's not 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:05.600 the case. It's a process and it's a journey. But 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.080 it is also a thief and it will rob from 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:11.320 you and rob from others and those that are around 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:13.680 you that you're there, you're meant to invest into. If 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:15.840 this is a different piece of advice than I would 0:18:15.840 --> 0:18:18.040 tell you if this was six weeks, it's be different, 0:18:18.119 --> 0:18:20.479 Oh for sure. But six years I say this, Danielle. 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:23.520 After six years, I say, when that comes up in 0:18:23.520 --> 0:18:27.000 your mind and you start feeling super sad and thinking 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:29.800 of maybe the last moments with your mom, you recognize, 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:33.920 right there, no not going there. Yeah, no, I'm going 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:36.320 to good memories. Yeah. And I would say too that 0:18:36.400 --> 0:18:39.920 in those moments where you're grieving her, to Granger's point, 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:43.000 like just honor her in that movement and like, and 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:44.560 if you're having a day that you're missing her more 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:46.439 than ever, then make it a point that day to 0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:49.200 share with someone that you're in relationship with, someone at work, 0:18:49.280 --> 0:18:51.639 someone you know at the office or at school. We 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:53.600 don't know what season of life you're in, but just 0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:56.240 share a moment of your mother that honors her, like 0:18:56.320 --> 0:19:00.240 your best memory growing up. And it's gonna be hard 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:02.760 to really, you know, when you share a positive memory 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:04.679 like that, you're not gonna be that sad about it, 0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:07.120 you know. Absolutely. It's been seven years since I lost 0:19:07.160 --> 0:19:09.600 my dad, and I love that now. I could go, 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:11.920 I could drive past a restaurant and I can go, 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:15.199 I could smile. Dad love that place, you know, and 0:19:15.240 --> 0:19:18.040 it's all smile. I've never lost a sibling or a 0:19:18.160 --> 0:19:20.360 child or a parent, but I've lost grandparents and I've 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:23.879 lost aunts and uncles, And yeah, that's the clothes I 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:26.520 can closest. I can relate to what she's going through, 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:27.920 but I can tell you now, I'm in a season 0:19:27.920 --> 0:19:30.399 of life and we celebrate them like we like. I 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:33.520 honor my grandparents for I think the investment they made 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:35.960 into me, and so of course I missed them I 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:38.800 miss them every day, but I'm also honored it I 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:40.679 had the time you know that I had with them 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:44.280 here on earth. So it's good hanging there. Danielle. I 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:50.120 appreciate the question. Seek, seek wise counsel, seek good friends, 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:55.080 and seek those those moments of serving others, because when 0:19:55.119 --> 0:19:58.800 you start serving others, and maybe there's someone in your 0:19:58.920 --> 0:20:01.560 in a circle around you that lost their mother this year, 0:20:02.800 --> 0:20:05.560 and you can go to them and go do you 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:07.720 want to talk about this? Tell me about your mother? 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:10.120 Could you have any pictures of her? Show? And you'll 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:13.359 watch yourself as you're investing in that, watch yourself start 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:18.320 healing from the inside. So that's I think that's pretty solid. 0:20:18.440 --> 0:20:23.399 And thank you for emailing back up to you. Christian. 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:27.000 We're spinning the wheel here. We have I'll go to 0:20:27.040 --> 0:20:30.840 the bottom. We have faith and friends. We have need 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:33.919 some advice. We have if you were seventeen. Let's do 0:20:33.960 --> 0:20:38.240 the faith and friends. Faith and friends. Okay, it says, 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:40.879 hey Granger, I'm going to give you the same paragraph 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:42.639 that you that you read all the time. But I 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:44.960 love your music, I love watching your podcasts and vlogs, 0:20:45.080 --> 0:20:48.240 I love your sweet family. Thank you so much. So 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:50.639 here it is it says. I know religion is not 0:20:50.800 --> 0:20:52.960 new to your life, but in the past couple of 0:20:53.040 --> 0:20:55.720 years it's become a part of your storyline and I 0:20:55.760 --> 0:20:59.800 love it. My question is does your religious views are 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:03.240 writing the word affect your everyday life when it comes 0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:06.480 to other people. Do you talk about Christianity to others 0:21:06.480 --> 0:21:09.280 all the time, like everywhere you go or do you 0:21:09.320 --> 0:21:11.679 find that you have to be more reserved with some 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:15.560 And have you ever had a fan or a family 0:21:15.920 --> 0:21:18.480 try to discredit your faith in any way by saying 0:21:18.560 --> 0:21:22.000 something negative about you and talking about your faith? And 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:25.240 so how do you handle it? In this day and time? 0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:27.399 It seems that if you say I'm a Christian, people 0:21:27.400 --> 0:21:30.280 want to judge your every step. For example, if you drink, 0:21:30.320 --> 0:21:32.240 you're a sinner. If you show anger, you're a sinner. 0:21:32.240 --> 0:21:35.040 If you dance, you're a ciner. I get really discouraged 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:37.560 from statements like this or in general just saying negative 0:21:37.600 --> 0:21:40.480 comments about being religious. How does a person in the 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:42.679 public I deal with this? Thank you so much for 0:21:42.720 --> 0:21:47.200 your time, Angie from Georgia, but your neighbor Georgia. Yeah, 0:21:47.440 --> 0:21:55.159 kind of good stuff. Good stuff. I'm Angie, and I 0:21:55.200 --> 0:21:57.000 want to start I want to start here. I want 0:21:57.040 --> 0:22:00.000 to start by saying, because I see this in emails 0:22:00.040 --> 0:22:02.240 a lot from you guys, I want to kind of 0:22:02.280 --> 0:22:07.240 squash the word religion. That's good, let's do it. I 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:11.359 just don't kind of rebuke that word because I'm really 0:22:11.440 --> 0:22:15.960 I'm very religious about waking up in the morning and 0:22:16.000 --> 0:22:18.959 eating and eating, eating, and watching watching Aggie football, going 0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:21.399 to the restroom. Yeah, pretty religious about that. Yeah, it's 0:22:21.440 --> 0:22:23.720 going to happen. Yeah, I'm religious about having my cup 0:22:23.760 --> 0:22:28.800