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Speaker 1: There Are No Girls on the Internet, as a production

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Speaker 1: of My Heart Radio and Unbossed Creative. I'm Bridget Todd

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Speaker 1: and this is There Are No Girls on the Internet.

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Speaker 1: So some of y'all might know that I live in Washington,

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Speaker 1: d C, the capital city of the United States, and

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Speaker 1: when I'm not making podcasts about technology and the Internet

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Speaker 1: and what it all means here on there are No

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Speaker 1: Girls on the Internet. I'm also a co host for

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Speaker 1: a podcast called The City Cast DC alongside my friend

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Speaker 1: Mike Shaper, a columnist for Politico, where we dig into

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Speaker 1: the everyday life of living in Washington, d C. To

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Speaker 1: help folks feel even more connected to this city that

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Speaker 1: we love so much. And if you don't live in

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Speaker 1: d C, but you're thinking, wow, that sounds very cool.

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Speaker 1: I wish they had a podcast like that in my city.

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Speaker 1: They might, because there are city Casts podcasts all over

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Speaker 1: the country. And I wanted to share this episode with

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Speaker 1: you because even though it's about Washington, d C, it

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Speaker 1: hits a lot of the conversations that we have here

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Speaker 1: on There Are No Girls on the Internet, Questions about

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Speaker 1: what it means to be a visible woman of color

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Speaker 1: on the Internet, the good and the bad, and the

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Speaker 1: everything that comes with it. In this episode, we talked

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Speaker 1: to Jade, the human behind the super popular DC Instagram

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Speaker 1: account clock Out d C, where Jade gives real nobs,

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Speaker 1: never bought takes about what kind of events, restaurants, and

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Speaker 1: in the DC area. Working entirely by herself, Jade has

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Speaker 1: built up a huge following and influence in d C,

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Speaker 1: but along with it comes challenges that as a fellow

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Speaker 1: Woman of Color creator trying to bootstrap by way in media,

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Speaker 1: I know far too well. So I hope you'll enjoy

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Speaker 1: my conversation with Jade for city Cast DC and be

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Speaker 1: sure to subscribe. You can go to city cast dot

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Speaker 1: fm to find a city cast podcast for your city,

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Speaker 1: and as always, thanks for listening today on city Cast DC.

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Speaker 1: I'm not really an influencer, cool celebrity. I am Jade,

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Speaker 1: your neighbor. Jade will Mack never expected her clock Out

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Speaker 1: but here we are. She's got seventy followers and her

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Speaker 1: Instagram stories get thousands of views per day. Sounds pretty great,

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Speaker 1: right well, as it often is on the Internet. With

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Speaker 1: that success, came backlash, and Jade's here to tell us

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Speaker 1: about how she navigates all of it. It's Wednesday, October.

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Speaker 1: I'm Bridget Dad and this is City Cast DC. When

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Speaker 1: we were talking about doing this interview, was like, boy,

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Speaker 1: Jade is saying? Um, so really decided to be connecting. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what does it feel like to be just one single

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Speaker 1: person who runs this project that you just started out

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Speaker 1: to be like a fun thing that is now blown

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Speaker 1: up in d C and kind of taken over your life?

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Speaker 1: What does that experience feel like for you? Well, the

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Speaker 1: word cloud of this entire experience, we're probably like wild, grateful, surprising,

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Speaker 1: and scared, like all the time scared, I guess. And yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's been really fun though, I would say you always

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Speaker 1: are learning stuff. You meet so many people. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: who knew? Who knew that this would be my pandemic

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Speaker 1: hobby that just somehow like blew up And I started

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Speaker 1: seventy thousand followers later. Wow, Yeah, I mean it's gotta

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Speaker 1: be Does it ever feel like a double edged sword

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Speaker 1: where it's something that you're so grateful to have built

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Speaker 1: So the impact is like wild that, like people are

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Speaker 1: woman show yourself, right, It is solely a one woman show.

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Speaker 1: For example, I sold these t shirts uh call of

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Speaker 1: I'm not only a content creator now, I'm also like

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Speaker 1: I think that is the onus. Like white girl Jessica

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Speaker 1: community and happening citywide. Yeah, no, completely agree. I think

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Speaker 1: Why what? What drove this decision? What drove this decision?

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Speaker 1: So I actually started the tire page because I was

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Speaker 1: I don't know how much you know about my back

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Speaker 1: It has been an absolute pleasure. Thank you for having me.

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