WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Prove It With A Pic

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<v Speaker 1>Second d One of the most vulnerable, confusing times of

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<v Speaker 1>your life happens when you're trying to rejoin the dating

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<v Speaker 1>pool a fresh off a breakup. Oh, that is very hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Whether it was fifteen months ago or fifteen minutes ago,

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<v Speaker 1>you're just the choice to hop back on to Tinder.

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<v Speaker 1>You only waited fifteen minutes after you That was a

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<v Speaker 1>long time for in his eye. And that's where one

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<v Speaker 1>of our listeners, Paul, is at in his life. He's

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<v Speaker 1>newly single, and I know Brooke always says the best

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<v Speaker 1>way to get over somebody is to get under twenty

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<v Speaker 1>somebodies and a video so that don't Google search my name.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that your goal, Paul? That was the goal, is

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<v Speaker 1>to move on for suresh. He just didn't put batteries

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<v Speaker 1>in the camera that takes loss. We're just messing around

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<v Speaker 1>with you, Paul. But how long has it been since

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<v Speaker 1>your breakup? Yeah? About a month ago, And that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I don't want to talk too much about

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<v Speaker 1>the breakup, is that okay? Yeah? Yeah? How long did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys date? Give us a little bit about the

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<v Speaker 1>girl that you were with. We were we were living

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<v Speaker 1>together for a long time. But you know, we were

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<v Speaker 1>arguing all the time and just a kind of I

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<v Speaker 1>mean totally honestly, I ended up being kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>bad breakup. Okay, it sounds like it if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to talk about it at all, but yeah, you're

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<v Speaker 1>ready to get back out there and make it happen. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I thought I found something sort of promising

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<v Speaker 1>and I kind of a weird experience, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get your take on it. Maybe do you

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<v Speaker 1>found something or did you find someone? No? Someone? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be hard for us to call things. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. We could try, but tell us about this

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<v Speaker 1>something that you met the other day names Ashley? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>is this on an app? Are you back on the apps? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>We met. We met on an app, I'm not ashamed

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<v Speaker 1>to say it. And we met for dinner at a

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<v Speaker 1>pretty nice restaurant actually, But you know, we talked on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone a little bit before that a few times,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I kind of felt like I knew her. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's good. Yeah, And so we were already kind of

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<v Speaker 1>joking around. We got long at least on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>when we met each other. We're sort of playful from

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<v Speaker 1>the start, so that's all a good sign. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>did your breakup come up a lot in the conversation? No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard other other calls like this where people I

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<v Speaker 1>end up admitting that, and I could tell you I

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<v Speaker 1>did not. I didn't talk about the breakup at all.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you talk about breakups in general? Didn't talk

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<v Speaker 1>about But well, the first thing happened is we were

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<v Speaker 1>in there. There was like this was it was a

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<v Speaker 1>nice restaur and there was this sculpture in the lobby

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<v Speaker 1>and we were start taking photos in front of it.

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<v Speaker 1>That obviously means something like you know, no, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe she wants to record like meeting you. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's not like it's not a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>We're taking sort of funny, goofy whatever photos. Or it's

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<v Speaker 1>not like real photos, you know, right, I know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't take a picture with all guys at any time.

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<v Speaker 1>I take a picture with the dude, it's solely so

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<v Speaker 1>I can show my girlfriends what he looks like. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it also brook to make some sign of a non disclosure.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's just for the Google searches. I am sorry

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<v Speaker 1>to take us back to your date. You guys took

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<v Speaker 1>photos in the lobby. How is dinner? It was really nice.

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<v Speaker 1>We had we had written this conversation We're gonna know

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<v Speaker 1>each other. We're still laughing a lot. And oh and

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<v Speaker 1>we had this is kind of weird, but we had

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<v Speaker 1>this little contest because I guess because we're both on

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<v Speaker 1>social media, and the contest was who could take the

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<v Speaker 1>best filter for their meal. That's kind of funny, who

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<v Speaker 1>can make it look the best. Yeah, we were like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care if the waiter judges us, but she won, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>judge or would you guys go by likes? We moved

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<v Speaker 1>by likes and she used I think she used Valencia

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<v Speaker 1>on herself. I got a stake in the first with

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<v Speaker 1>Mayfair and then I tried Vintage, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>stake is it never looks good X pro two so

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<v Speaker 1>he would know, but I mean steak photos aside, tell

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<v Speaker 1>us more about this actual woman that you were with, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>did you guys vibe? Yeah? Yeah, we were definitely viving.

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<v Speaker 1>And actually after anybody went to we went to a bar. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>continue the night. I'm happy. I just can't believe she's

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<v Speaker 1>not calling you back already. We did something weird happened

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<v Speaker 1>at the bar, Was there any awkward points? No, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, we got a little tipsy, and actually after

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<v Speaker 1>the bar I ended up kissing her out, like right

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<v Speaker 1>outside the bar. Was man, this is like a perfect date.

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<v Speaker 1>Bro Hut did you I mean, is that with the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day the kiss? Yeah, a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>after I took her home, But I mean I felt

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<v Speaker 1>pretty good even But now it's been more than a

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<v Speaker 1>week and it felt like I haven't heard from her

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<v Speaker 1>at all, Like she's sort of like half answering me,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't know, Like I guess she's really busy

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<v Speaker 1>or something. But and then I asked her about the

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<v Speaker 1>date and I was like, oh, it wasn't that such

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<v Speaker 1>a good time? And she kind of won't respond to

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<v Speaker 1>that at all, which is really weird because I thought

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<v Speaker 1>we had so much fun. Yeah, she probably saw that

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<v Speaker 1>photo that you took of your stak was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this guy came into I mean, but seriously, do you

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<v Speaker 1>think that maybe during the day, like at least in

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<v Speaker 1>the back of your mind, you were comparing Ashley to

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<v Speaker 1>your ex, because it's hard when you're fresh off of

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<v Speaker 1>a break up to not do that. Yeah, I get,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, not that you mentioned I guess it was

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<v Speaker 1>in the back of my mind kind of, But why

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<v Speaker 1>would that affect his time with her? I mean like,

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like they had a great time and he

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even talk about his ex. I know, maybe he

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<v Speaker 1>just secretly drew her name in the steaks on his

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<v Speaker 1>plate and didn't even realize what you do? Okay, that

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<v Speaker 1>would be weird if he didn't remember that no steak

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<v Speaker 1>juice that yeah, the only liquids I remember, the ones

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<v Speaker 1>we share a kiss. I'm not gonna ask any more

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<v Speaker 1>details were play a song. I don't know. Maybe that's

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<v Speaker 1>why she's not calling. Maybe we'll find out. We'll come back,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll call Ashley and we'll ask her about the juices.

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<v Speaker 1>I get. Second, we're in the middle of talking to

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<v Speaker 1>Paul for a second eate update, and he went out

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<v Speaker 1>with a woman named Ashley recently. They took some photos

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<v Speaker 1>together at a restaurant, hit up a bar, even kissed

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<v Speaker 1>underneath a street light. And I only bring this up

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<v Speaker 1>because he specifically told us please don't bring this up.

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<v Speaker 1>The ex girlfriend was in the back of his mind

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<v Speaker 1>the whole time. Everywhere he looked, there she was, her

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<v Speaker 1>face on the waiter's face, her name on the restaurant menu,

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<v Speaker 1>her scent in the second stall to the left, Cassie

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<v Speaker 1>that you know, he doesn't think he talked about his

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<v Speaker 1>ex that night. But as I've learned from working with

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<v Speaker 1>my co host Brooke, you can't trust what a man thinks.

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<v Speaker 1>Paul seems totally healthily moving on from his relationship, his

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<v Speaker 1>ex relationships. She can recognize Michael from a stall, I could,

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, Paul, did I encapsulate the date the right way? There? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm just don't say no, Paul, you

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<v Speaker 1>were thinking about your because I'm not really thinking about her.

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<v Speaker 1>I really, it's old news. I'm really focused on Ashley

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Yeah, I can't figure out why she isn't

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<v Speaker 1>responding to me. Really, I can't either, because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>from your description that date sounded amazing. It was, and

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<v Speaker 1>you're not looking to get into another relationship. You just

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<v Speaker 1>want to date? Right? Well? I might, Yeah, I know

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<v Speaker 1>I do want a new relationship. I'm okay, I'm moving on.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, okay, yeah, you've pushed into that now. He's

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship guy. I'm not going to bring that up.

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<v Speaker 1>And when we call her right now, Okay, we're just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna ask for another date. Is that cool with you, Paul? Yeah, totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you ask for a relationship on your own topic. Here,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna tell her number. Now let's do this. Hello. Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>is this Ashley yea, and my name's Jeff from the

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<v Speaker 1>radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay, can

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<v Speaker 1>always tell how they feel about the show based on

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<v Speaker 1>that googwarm that's all right? Hi? Actually, Hi, Hey, so

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing something with you? Did they called a second date? Update?

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<v Speaker 1>One of our listeners has reached out to us hoping

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<v Speaker 1>to get in touch with you. Oh, his name's Paul. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>then why would you call me? I mean we've been texting.

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<v Speaker 1>He's getting the vibe that you're not really romantically interested

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<v Speaker 1>in him anymore. Is he wrong? No, he's not wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely not interested in pursuing it any further. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you're allowed to feel that way. That's totally fine, But

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<v Speaker 1>it would help, Paul, maybe if you could help explain

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<v Speaker 1>to us why. I don't know. I mean he seemed

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<v Speaker 1>really nice at first, and at the restaurant it was

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<v Speaker 1>super cool. I don't know if he told you or not,

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<v Speaker 1>but there was this blue sculpture in the front, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we were like taking pictures yea, yeah, which we

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<v Speaker 1>all thought was a really good sign because obviously you

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<v Speaker 1>thought he was cute enough to take a photograph of. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean he was on to suggest that. Oh okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>But I thought it was fun. You know, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>really think a lot of it. I was just like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if I want to post something, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he'd be fine with that, right. And then you also

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<v Speaker 1>did the social media thing with the food he said

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<v Speaker 1>it did her Yeah, oh yeah, and that was actually

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<v Speaker 1>pretty fun because I'm really good at the filters, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I knew I would win. So yeah, okay, of course.

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<v Speaker 1>But so where did it go from being fun to

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<v Speaker 1>not fun? Well, I mean fast forward and we kissed

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<v Speaker 1>under that like light or whatever, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely going out with this guy again for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>So cute. Yeah, I was really excited. It was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of that wondering when he's going to text, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's such a fun space to live. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>the best part of dating that. That's a really good review.

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<v Speaker 1>What's changed since then? Well, I decided to look at

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<v Speaker 1>his social media the next day. Okay, that's natural. Anyone

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<v Speaker 1>would do that picture he told us it didn't turn

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<v Speaker 1>out good. Well, I mean mine was way better. But okay,

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<v Speaker 1>he had posted all of the pictures of us, like

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<v Speaker 1>in front of the statue. Oh no, I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're an influencer and so it's part of your job.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was just weird because I wasn't really expecting

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<v Speaker 1>him to post them right after we just stated for

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<v Speaker 1>the first time, right, yeah, telling you like, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like if you check with you, like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, do you mind if I put those up on?

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<v Speaker 1>Why would you take a picture if you wouldn't want

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<v Speaker 1>anybody to see the picture? Everybody? I can. Actually, I

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<v Speaker 1>do the same thing. You go on a date, you

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<v Speaker 1>take a pick, and then that way, you know, in

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<v Speaker 1>two or three, four or five months, if you're dating,

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<v Speaker 1>you can have like a compil That's true. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>you don't like that he posted the photos of you

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<v Speaker 1>without permission. Well I could have gotten over that because

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<v Speaker 1>I could have been like, hey, maybe take those down, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But the caption was what got me. Oh I'm scared

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<v Speaker 1>it was it he'd captioned it. My ex said, no

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<v Speaker 1>one would ever love me, but how do you like

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<v Speaker 1>me now? Oh no, no, ready to move on. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys aren't to the love phase yet. It's just like,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's over emphasizing, Jeff. None of fing is terrible. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>someone should have reported that. I mean, he didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>mention an ex the whole night, and so it just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of I felt so used. Yeah, it feels like

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<v Speaker 1>a revenge day. Yeah, like you you didn't say anything

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<v Speaker 1>to him after you saw that. What am I gonna say, like, hey, crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>don't do that. Good luck over there, buddy. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>if you do have anything that you would like to say,

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<v Speaker 1>now is a really good opportunity for you, because Paul's

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<v Speaker 1>been on the other line listening this whole time. He

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<v Speaker 1>wants talk. Yeah, he wants to talk to you. Paul.

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<v Speaker 1>You there, Oh I can't come here. Oh hello, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like maybe you got some unpacking to do

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<v Speaker 1>about that ex there. I wanted everyone to know that

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<v Speaker 1>I was over her right and that it's done. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a best way to show it. Well, that's my way,

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<v Speaker 1>that's my way of doing things. I want it like

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted. I wanted her to see it. Obviously, the

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<v Speaker 1>captain you think that posting that makes you come off

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<v Speaker 1>like a confident, attractive guy, like you could see how

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<v Speaker 1>maybe Ashley seeing that would be a little bit turned off. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like you're not over her. Well, I didn't expect her

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<v Speaker 1>to see it, and I I like, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even care if she saw it, because I want

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<v Speaker 1>I want my actually know that it moved on and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested in her anymore. Okay, So, Paul, sure,

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<v Speaker 1>usually the best way to do that is to just

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<v Speaker 1>actually be over her and not call her out and

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<v Speaker 1>if she wants it, but I am, and that's why.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I wrote that. Okay. So, so you're saying,

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<v Speaker 1>like if your ex girlfriend were to text you tonight

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<v Speaker 1>and say, hey, I saw that photo with you and

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<v Speaker 1>that girl, you need to drop that floozy. I want

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<v Speaker 1>you right now, let's get back together. Yeah, you're saying

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<v Speaker 1>that you wouldn't do that. I wouldn't get back together

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<v Speaker 1>with her like we might hook up and being totally on. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So they can't be honest with you that you said

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<v Speaker 1>you're completely moved on, you're not interested anymore. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>I'm moved, I'm not interested. That's not interested it's just Paul,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to talk to You need to talk to Ashley.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you owe her apology because like that

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<v Speaker 1>does feel like you just took her out to prove

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<v Speaker 1>a point to your AX. Yeah, I don't. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what else to say that that actually said that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm over my ax, Like there's like there's proof online

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm over my AX with you're actually why do

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like she's tagged in the photo? She's not

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<v Speaker 1>tagged in the photo. She unfriended me. But but is

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<v Speaker 1>looking better? Is it? No? And I don't understand. They

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<v Speaker 1>just asked you a hypothetical and you said you'd still

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<v Speaker 1>hook up with her. Yeah. Yeah, I'm practicing radical honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the thing I've been trying to do radical. Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, Astley, where are you going to meet a

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<v Speaker 1>guy that's willing to be completely honest? This is a

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<v Speaker 1>catch and I would love to send you out with

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<v Speaker 1>Paul one more time and we'll pay for it. It

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<v Speaker 1>feels like honest Paul is going to be we're a

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<v Speaker 1>stick content to a relationship And oops, I hooked up

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<v Speaker 1>with a stripper all on, but I know he's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>take a picture and post it on social media. Doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>being ridiculous. I'm being upfront, I mean honest, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>being rapped over the cult for it. That's true. That's true. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you know it is good to be honest. It just

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't sound like you're being honest with yourself about how

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<v Speaker 1>ready you are to move on from your ex. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>ready and I like you, Ashley, and I will never

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<v Speaker 1>lie to you. Oh he's a big statement, Ashley. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know the last guy who was quote unquote honest

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<v Speaker 1>with me about his ex went back to her and

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<v Speaker 1>you get Let's be real, Ashley, that steak pic was

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<v Speaker 1>really bad. So he does have a lot working against him.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you single, Ashley? My food picks are the absolute worst. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I only know how to do him in black and white. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>are you moving in on my girl here? Because that

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<v Speaker 1>will be really rude. Are you talking about, Ashley? Are

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<v Speaker 1>your ex girlfriend who broke and Jeffrey in the Morning

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<v Speaker 1>a huge missed opportunity for us on the show. So

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<v Speaker 1>the guy's posting all sorts of stuff on his social

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<v Speaker 1>media and we don't ask him to put up a

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<v Speaker 1>photo of us doing his second date free exposure. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and really shows the exit. He's over her because we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't talk about her. Stop. Yeah, look, man, see this

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<v Speaker 1>is why we don't have our blue check mark on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>This is not I don't think. Okay, well, I do

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<v Speaker 1>cringe every time I hear a guy being vulnerable and

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<v Speaker 1>honest on this show because you know that Brooks just

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<v Speaker 1>waiting to pounce on saying I told you you shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. How he was not being honest with himself?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah at all? Yeah, he misses his exit, can't stop

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about Okay, so he should be a liar. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I just it's not the way you're gonna get another

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<v Speaker 1>date is by using your date as revenge to the

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<v Speaker 1>person you're just with. Okay, we'll go. You say he

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't have posted pictures without her permission. I say she

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't have looked at his pictures without her without his permission.

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<v Speaker 1>We can do this all day social media is you

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<v Speaker 1>have to be friends first, not necessarily. All I'm saying

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<v Speaker 1>is we could argue about this forever. There's no one

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<v Speaker 1>is right in dating. I think you're gonna end up

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<v Speaker 1>single at the end of this conversation. Okay, well, then

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I could appear on a second date up one day,

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<v Speaker 1>but the truth I'm never going to be not at all.

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<v Speaker 1>If you ever want to get a second date up date,

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<v Speaker 1>email the show. We'll call the person who wasn't calling

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<v Speaker 1>you back