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Speaker 1: Second d One of the most vulnerable, confusing times of

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Speaker 1: Whether it was fifteen months ago or fifteen minutes ago,

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Speaker 1: You only waited fifteen minutes after you That was a

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Speaker 1: of our listeners, Paul, is at in his life. He's

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Speaker 1: way to get over somebody is to get under twenty

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Speaker 1: Was that your goal, Paul? That was the goal, is

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Speaker 1: with you, Paul. But how long has it been since

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Speaker 1: your breakup? Yeah? About a month ago, And that's right.

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Speaker 1: the breakup, is that okay? Yeah? Yeah? How long did

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Speaker 1: mean totally honestly, I ended up being kind of a

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Speaker 1: bad breakup. Okay, it sounds like it if you don't

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Speaker 1: found something or did you find someone? No? Someone? Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be hard for us to call things. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. We could try, but tell us about this

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Speaker 1: something that you met the other day names Ashley? Okay,

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Speaker 1: is this on an app? Are you back on the apps? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: We met. We met on an app, I'm not ashamed

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Speaker 1: to say it. And we met for dinner at a

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Speaker 1: did your breakup come up a lot in the conversation? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I've heard other other calls like this where people I

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Speaker 1: What did you talk about breakups in general? Didn't talk

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Speaker 1: about But well, the first thing happened is we were

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Speaker 1: That obviously means something like you know, no, it's just

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Speaker 1: I mean it's not like it's not a big deal.

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Speaker 1: Paul seems totally healthily moving on from his relationship, his

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Speaker 1: But yeah, Paul, did I encapsulate the date the right way? There? Um?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just don't say no, Paul, you

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Speaker 1: I really, it's old news. I'm really focused on Ashley

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Speaker 1: from your description that date sounded amazing. It was, and

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Speaker 1: And when we call her right now, Okay, we're just

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Speaker 1: gonna ask for another date. Is that cool with you, Paul? Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 1: Then you ask for a relationship on your own topic. Here,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell her number. Now let's do this. Hello. Hi,

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Speaker 1: is this Ashley yea, and my name's Jeff from the

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Speaker 1: radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay, can

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Speaker 1: that googwarm that's all right? Hi? Actually, Hi, Hey, so

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Speaker 1: then why would you call me? I mean we've been texting.

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Speaker 1: What's changed since then? Well, I decided to look at

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Speaker 1: But it was just weird because I wasn't really expecting

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Speaker 1: being rapped over the cult for it. That's true. That's true. Hey,

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