1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:12,639 Speaker 1: Introduced the letter subject cheating boyfriend. I Steve, I want 2 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:15,640 Speaker 1: your advice. My boyfriend and I have been a relationship 3 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: for six years. He started cheating on me three years ago. 4 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: He had a child with that girl, and now he's 5 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:25,639 Speaker 1: cheating again. His mother stopped talking to me because she 6 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: thought I was trying to take her son from her. 7 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:30,480 Speaker 1: I wrote him a letter a while back, telling him 8 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: that I need him to be a man and um 9 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: that I can rely on the man that I need 10 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: to have our household, and the only way that can 11 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,159 Speaker 1: happen is if you stop allowing his mother to control 12 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 1: him and our relationship as well. His mother read the letter, 13 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: and since then, his mother has been out to get me. 14 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: She's told millions of lies on me. She's encouraged him 15 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 1: to bring the girl home even when she knew we 16 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: were still together. She even told me to stay away 17 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 1: from her son and stopped coming between him and the girl. 18 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: Now he's telling me he wants to marry me, but 19 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: he's just not ready for it, making excuses about work 20 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: and money and different stuff. Now. I've been with him 21 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: through thick and thin, despite the fact that everyone's advice 22 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:14,040 Speaker 1: to me is to leave him. I'm seeking your advice, 23 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: advice from a man with no interest of gaining Now. 24 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: I've been hearing rumors that he's been telling people that 25 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: I'm running him down, when this is not true. There 26 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 1: were a couple of times when I tried ending it 27 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 1: and he asked me back, what should I believe? I'm 28 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: so confused. I'm confused too with this entire letter. I'm 29 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: confused while you're still in this relationship, That's what I'm 30 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: confused about. And where is this relationship going? Six years 31 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: you've been in this and you've been through cheating that 32 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: resulted in a baby. Now you say he's cheating again. 33 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: I just gotta ask you, why are you letting this 34 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: man treat you like this? He's doing whatever he wants 35 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: to do, and you've just been there taking it for 36 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: the last six years. I mean, don't you see that 37 00:01:57,080 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: you he his mother is not the problem here. Uh really, 38 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: his mother is doing you a favor. You should take 39 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: her advice. Get out of this relationship with this man, period. 40 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 1: Steve well Man, um, this to me is a clear 41 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: cut letter about a mama's boy. This is a letter 42 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:22,919 Speaker 1: about a mama's boy that you've fallen in love with 43 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: and it's not working. Uh, you say, Steve, I want 44 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 1: your advice. Yeah, um, you know you want the advice 45 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: from somebody Uh that has no interest in gaining anything. Yeah, okay, 46 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: So here it is. First of all, you've been in 47 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: a relationship like Shirley Safe for six years. Where is 48 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: this going? Secondly, he started cheating on you three years ago. 49 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: He had a child with that girl, and now he's 50 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: cheating again. Uh, what is this relationship that you all have? Well? 51 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,920 Speaker 1: What is it called? What? What title do you have 52 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 1: from it? You know, I don't I don't know what 53 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: you call this? Right here? You're in a relationship he's not. 54 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 1: See ladies, ladies missed that. Sometimes sometimes you're in a 55 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: more of a committed relationship than the guy is. Sometimes 56 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: just sometimes you know, and then sometimes things happen. I'll 57 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: just tell your goals both ways, so you know you 58 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 1: could have that. Um. Then, uh, you thought that you 59 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: had a problem with her mama because she's trying to 60 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: take your trying to take her son from her. That's 61 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: a mama's boy. I wrote him a letter while back 62 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: telling to him that here's a problem in your letter. 63 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: I need him to be a man. Well, if he 64 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: don't want to be a man, you're needing someone to 65 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: be a man who don't want to be a man yet, 66 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: or it's not a man yet, you know, maybe he's 67 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: just not developed there yet. Then you say someone you 68 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: can rely on the man that I need to head 69 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: out how his whole Well, let me tell you what happens. 70 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: Even if you marry this boy right now, this mama's boy, 71 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: he's not gonna head the household. His mother is gonna 72 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: be the head of y'all's household. And you can ask 73 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 1: any woman that's married to a mama's boy if that 74 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: ain't how it works. So what you're really asking this 75 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: boy to do is be a man he's not ready 76 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: to be. And then you want him to head up 77 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 1: you all's household because that's your dream one day of 78 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 1: having a man to head up the household. But if 79 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: you marry mama's boy, the mother is actually gonna become 80 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: the head of your household, and you're gonna be forever 81 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:38,600 Speaker 1: pissed at him and her, and your life is gonna 82 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: be a miserable situation. I give you more when we 83 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: come back. But in this letter, you say, now, he's 84 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: telling me that he wants to marry me, but he's 85 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:50,600 Speaker 1: just not ready for it, making excuses about work and 86 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: money and different stuff. Okay, I think you have your 87 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 1: own answer right here, but I give you more when 88 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: we come back. Part two of Steve's Responds coming up 89 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour. We'll be back going Steve 90 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 1: with two off your response to today's strawberry letter. Uh, 91 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: this woman writes his letter entitled cheating boyfriend. Well, you's 92 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:17,280 Speaker 1: a cheating boyfriend and there's a mama's boy. You got 93 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 1: a couple of problems. Your man is cheating on you. 94 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 1: That's a problem, and he's a mama's boy, which I 95 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,600 Speaker 1: can't even tell you the problems it's gonna lead into. 96 00:05:25,640 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: But you're already running into him. She's spreading rumors about you. 97 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: She read your letter that you read to him. Most mothers, 98 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 1: if a woman writes a letter to her son that's 99 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: private information, she won't read it. She reads it and 100 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: then starts taking matters into her own hands. Got the 101 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 1: other girl coming over to the house telling you to 102 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: stay out of their way, or the other boy and 103 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: the other girl. So not a mama know he's cheating, 104 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:50,280 Speaker 1: she's condoning it. He ain't stopping. He's doing everything but 105 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: stopping cheating. There's nothing in your letter says that. Then 106 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: you get to this part where he says, now he's 107 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: telling me that he wants to marry me, but he's 108 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:02,599 Speaker 1: not ready for it, making excuses about work and money 109 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:07,039 Speaker 1: and different stuff. Excuse me, you're gonna marry a man 110 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: who ain't working, who makes excuses about working. Look, I 111 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: got if a guy been in trouble and he got 112 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,160 Speaker 1: a felony record and it's hard for him to find work. 113 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 1: But this door is making excuses for not working. He 114 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: ain't got no money and undifferent stuff, ain't no telling 115 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,039 Speaker 1: what else The excuses are coming in. He says he 116 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:30,000 Speaker 1: wants to marry you. If you marry this boy right here, 117 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 1: you're going to make a huge mistake with your life. 118 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:36,599 Speaker 1: One of the number one problems for women this next line. Now, 119 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: I've been with him through thick and thin. Despite that, 120 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 1: everyone advises me to leave him. See your problem is 121 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: now you've got this six years invested, and women always 122 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: do that, you always, you always look one of your 123 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: biggest mistakes is you've put this time in and you 124 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:58,279 Speaker 1: don't want to consider it a waste well, let me 125 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: turn you onto something. The real is to continue what 126 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: you know is not good for you. See, Okay, look, 127 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,919 Speaker 1: everybody makes mistakes. So you put six years in thinking 128 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 1: it was gonna turn around and it didn't. That's a mistake. 129 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: A lot of people make that. Who hasn't done it. 130 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: I've done it. Everybody has done it. But once you 131 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: realize something is not good for you, once you realize 132 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: when you've gotten all the evidency in and the change 133 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: that you're waiting on never comes and you continue to 134 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 1: stay in it, that from that moment on is when 135 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: you're wasting time, right, So do not continue to waste 136 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: time now that you know it's bad for you. Get 137 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: out the ladies spreading rumors, telling people, and then you 138 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: start hearing rumors that he's telling people that I'm running 139 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 1: him down. This is not true. Why is he talking 140 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: to other people about you? What kind of no man 141 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 1: does this? None of my friends come to me talking 142 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 1: about how their wives ain't this or that that. Real 143 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: men just don't do that with they boys. Man, I'm struggling, man, 144 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: my girl tripping, man, she she found this on me 145 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: or something like that. We'll say that, but what we 146 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 1: ain't gonna say, is my girl ain't this Michael. We 147 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: don't go that to our friends. Hey, man, you you 148 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: need to get away from this because this man ain't ready. 149 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: You said he's not ready. He's not ready. He's a 150 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 1: mama's boy. He ain't working, he don't want to be 151 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: a man. He got other women and a boy. Alright, Steve, 152 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 1: we gotta go. You know that. Email us her Instagram. 153 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today's strawberry letter at my girls. Sureley, 154 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 1: you're listening, Steve Harvey Morning Show