WEBVTT - Social Media and Dating 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:08.039 Whoa, that is right. This is your girl, and you're 0:00:08.119 --> 0:00:12.920 listening to exactly a production of My Heart Radio. And 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:20.000 I can't forget of course my co host st I 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:23.119 love having you throw your energy. Come okay, we feed 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:26.599 up each other, absolutely correct. You know what media and 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:29.840 I don't want to gokate you know, the laya process 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:32.040 because I want to get right into it right. Oh god, 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:34.960 here we go. I don't think they're ready. Not for nothing. 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:38.919 Battle social media has been such a big thing. I personally, 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:42.720 I'm single. So how's your love life? What are you 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:45.760 doing with your with your according to social media, I'm 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:48.640 still in a relationship. Social media did not affect my relationship. 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:51.960 You know, everybody lived on social media throughout the whole pandemic. 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.200 That's all people were on, were on their phones. It 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:56.800 is true. I mean social media, it really is a 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.920 big important part of life. Battle is even bigger when 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.280 you're single or even if you're in a relationship. Social 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.720 media is like it could either make it or break it. 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:10.680 So for you and your kind of experience. When don't know, 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:14.120 I've had my situations with social media, you know, I 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:16.880 mean not just social media. I be on these you know, 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:19.800 dating apps, I'm being believe it or not, isn't that crazy? Well, 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:21.840 now with your whole new look, I'm out of I've 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:24.720 been getting every d M in the book talking about 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:26.440 is I'm out of single? With she in a relationship? 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:30.280 What's her status? This is this is breaking news right now. 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:36.760 Are you in a relationship or no? I am looking 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:39.520 because I still haven't found my husband. Don't give me that. 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:43.440 Don't give me the whole Come give me already. Look 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:46.880 at this body, Look at me. I get my own money. 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:49.640 I'm independent, how that gold and everything. I'm smart all 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:52.720 that bitch? Where are you? I mean, I'm saving, protecting 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:55.800 my overies from my husband. Well, listen, this is the 0:01:55.800 --> 0:02:00.560 show is called exactly exactly what I'm on. I'm like, 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:02.760 are you really in a relationship or not? Don't be 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:04.639 come on. Okay, So I do have a little boothing 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:07.720 or whatever you do, but it's not offish. So though, yeah, 0:02:07.720 --> 0:02:09.440 you know, I'm still working on it. But I'm gonna 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:12.400 tell you this month though I'm not gonna lie. Social 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.120 media did put a little, you know, bumps in the 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:18.240 road for us a couple of times, because it did 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.280 make me feel insecure when first of all, I never 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:25.440 dig because so I've never looked into his phone d 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.920 MS now, so now I'm not that type of girl 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.320 battle I do be looking at the girls that you've 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.120 been giving likes to. Why are you liking this bitch picture? 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:37.440 Are you really micro that type of person you're on 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:44.000 like that? Well? Yeah, I protect with mind and social media. 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:47.600 You know, come out. We're very you know, flirtatious. We'll 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.440 do a little like it, but that's nothing wrong. Okay, 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:53.560 so there's nothing wrong with I know, but Latino man 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.480 can sometimes be very machista as well, So they don't 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.040 want you to do it, but they'll go ahead and 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:01.000 do it if I would be liking a whole bunch 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:04.440 of guys and that they know. Because that's another thing too. 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:07.280 Men don't want to feel insecure. You know who to 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.000 feel some type of way about, And the same thing 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:12.160 was for women. We know who to feel insecure with, 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.960 Like that's your type? Why are you talking to her? 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:17.440 And if you're liking her pictures, you're already probably talking 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:21.480 her in your m That's it always the case the 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:24.440 social media. There's people that are like a million miles 0:03:24.480 --> 0:03:26.400 away that you're never gonna see. You're just liking the 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:29.920 picture don't like? Okay, So does it bother you if 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:34.840 your significant other is liking or somewhat commenting under My 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:38.480 situation is completely different. Why you know, I don't care 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:44.520 if my if my significant other likes anything. What. We're 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:48.200 secure the comments. But I'm different, I'm very different. But 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:50.520 I explain what your different looks like? Sounds like be 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:53.800 about She might like the same thing I like, so 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:57.520 it's a little different. But again, did I get playing? No? Nothing, 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:01.360 She is going to like probably the same. Me and 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:04.440 her have the same type. So are you in a relationship, 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:07.400 you're married together, you're you know, mingling, you're figuring it out? 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:10.160 What's happened? I am in a relationship, okay, And as 0:04:10.160 --> 0:04:13.320 flamboyant as I am, you are, it is a woman 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.400 that I'm in a relationship. So you're in a relationship 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:18.520 with a woman. Okay, And how does this work? Okay? 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:21.760 Your birthatile? Okay. She may like a tall black man 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:23.800 and I might like a tall black man too, you 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:26.279 know what, I say what I don't think I'm the 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:28.120 only one in the world because I don't know, you 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:33.680 know what, as long as you're happy, and I don't 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:35.880 even but I love how you just threw it back 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:39.320 at me, look back at it. Okay, So so you're 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:42.520 so your girl is cool with whatever makes me my wife? 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:47.159 He said, your wife say right, get it right, and 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:49.800 they'll say your wife is cool with letting you be yourself, 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:55.160 no bound. It depends where being yourself looks like. Explain 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:59.719 because I'm not embobbing, but you're speaking on social media 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:03.760 that and you're toping here. So I mean we may 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:08.120 both like Terry Crews when we may both like I 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:11.600 wasn't saying lamar Oldham, but I don't know. You may 0:05:11.680 --> 0:05:14.360 both like, but that doesn't mean that is it going 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:17.160 to happen? Correct? Can't be delusion o here? You know 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.039 what I mean? Yeah? Yeah, but you're But I love 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:21.960 the fact that personally I don't know too much because 0:05:21.960 --> 0:05:25.280 this is gonna get new information. Bat I like the 0:05:25.279 --> 0:05:29.280 fact that you are liberal and you're open with your sexuality, 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:30.800 with who you are as a person. That makes me 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:32.920 even more confident. And I love the fact that you're 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.160 being open about it because there's so many people in 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:38.240 your situation that feel like I know, so that people 0:05:38.279 --> 0:05:41.279 don't judge me better. You're a perfect example of you 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.400 could be whoever the it is he want to be, 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:46.600 but there has to be a level of respect. Respect 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.800 and talking about level of respect, the same thing goes 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:52.520 with boundaries and going back to social media because I'm 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:54.760 sure your wife's sees, you know, the things that you post, 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:57.320 the things that you do and everything else. When are 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.839 you supposed to set boundaries when it comes to so 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.600 to media in the beginning of a relationship, while the 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:07.880 relation while you peep things happening, well, it depends, you know, 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:10.960 I'm out. You're an artist, so you do have to 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:14.440 put stuff out there promo y R. Right, we're not 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:20.239 speaking only fans, but we're not showing all of that. Correct, 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:26.160 That's okay, But that's okay, that's okay. I mean, the 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:29.760 only thing that you have to protect though that you 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:33.960 have to protect it, but the gay that listen one 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:36.760 everybody's open eyes. But sometimes you don't want your significant 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:38.839 other to be harassed. There's people that are in a 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:42.880 relationship with people that don't live their lifestyle. Get it, Like, 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:46.800 my wife is not an artist, is not You have 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.680 to be respectful. He doesn't like to be posted all 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:52.880 the time, got it, you know? But there are men 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:59.120 that are like you you know, she can't be hiding 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:01.800 me either. So so when it comes to that, and 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:05.040 that goes back into you know, social media and privacy, 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:08.240 how much should you put out there and how much 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:11.120 should like what should you go and get keep to 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:13.680 yourself because these days, I feel like every single thing 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:16.280 that happens to you you post on social media. If 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:19.080 you're in an accident, in a hospital, whatever, I'm here 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:20.840 in the bed, I'm dying just in case you guys 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:27.720 can see me or whatever, even in the toilet. So so, 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:30.800 how much when it comes to privacy and social media 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:33.560 and being in a relationship or whatever the case may be, 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.600 what are the lines that you should in crypt It 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:40.160 depends on you and your spouse or significant other, partner 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:43.320 or whatever it is nowadays, it depends on how much 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:45.760 of it do they want. You guys have to come 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:52.960 to an agreement, and then, you know, sometimes it's better 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:55.520 for your significant other to know first before the whole 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.240 world knows. I don't know. I've never really been being 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.600 on posting my significant other and so to media, I've 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:03.080 always been very cautious. That's why no one really knows 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:07.400 who I'm dating or who I'm dating. And then as 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:09.680 an artist. You also always want to sell up a 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:13.040 legal a movie. I'm so sexy, I'm hot, get me. 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:18.680 It's not gonna happen, but I see a comfort me. Um. 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:20.679 You know a lot of my sexy pictures. My mom 0:08:20.720 --> 0:08:23.440 takes my pictures, or my significant other be like, baby, 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:25.880 just take me this sexy picture and he'll be like, 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.880 or the lighting is not good or whatever. So I 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:33.400 think social media kinda is a fantasy world. But I 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:37.240 will say what I'm not gonna do. So what I'm 0:08:37.280 --> 0:08:42.720 not gonna do, ladies, But I'm not gonna do my 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:47.079 And this message goes for you because most likely your 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.719 man is in my d M s too. Don't be 0:08:49.800 --> 0:08:53.880 away here on your social media talking about talking about 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.720 the game the love of my life. He loves me 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:59.160 so much. You know I am the reason why he 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.439 breathed and he couldn't live with him. In a second 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:04.359 goal said because he means so much to meet meta. 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:09.200 I'm very scared of that ASA writing all that crap. 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:11.800 And right as students, you post that pitt that picture 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.040 in that caption, Yo, man is lighting up in my 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:16.400 d M where you are? And Hi, can I come 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:18.400 check you? What can I invite you to dinner the second, 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:21.360 so you have to beat me up. Be careful. Sometimes 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:24.120 it's better to keep things on the low private. I 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:28.600 think it is kind of embarrassing. Comes and everyone's posting 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:31.240 there's a significant other. You didn't know they were married, 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:34.000 they had a family, but then they all pick I like, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:38.760 and in social media it looks amazing in in a 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:41.960 perfect world. In a perfect world, that's that's what it is. 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:44.760 Social media is a fantasy world where where we sell 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:47.640 what we want people to see. You don't post there 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:49.319 when your man cheating on your or when you're girl 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:51.040 cheating on your or when he came home late, or 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:54.160 when you're stressed out. So I feel like sometimes we 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.920 even put our own standards based off someone that we 0:09:57.000 --> 0:09:59.160 may admire or look up to on social media and 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:02.880 try to compare our relationships with them. Like me all 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:04.880 the time, me that I'm going through the stage in 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:10.000 life right now. You don't I see it this, So 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:12.960 here's the tea or whatever. Now every time I wake 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:14.720 up and I see my social media and I see 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:16.960 everybody getting married and engaged in there. You know, oh 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.200 my god, you know pregnancy announcement. Now it's talking crack 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.120 and then we're getting married. Look at this, and maybe 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:25.600 that's stupid that how happy she is. Okay, look at me. 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:31.439 I'm honest because it's exactly me. You're being honest, I'm 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:33.760 being on a spit. Then I also realized that a 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:36.800 lot of the times we're just comparing our lives to 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:40.319 unrealistic standards. We don't really know what the hell is, 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:44.000 you know. I was when a Rod was always posting 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:46.520 j Loo because j Lo lived such a secretive life, 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:49.200 like no one knew her personal life, and this guy 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:52.480 was like her stalker, like he was like a fan. No, no, 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.400 Rod was a fan. He was like posting everything about 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.160 this woman. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, she also posted, 0:10:59.280 --> 0:11:02.320 but she posted him because he kind of made she 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:05.720 felt obligated to post him because he was always posting her. 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:08.719 And I was so aggravated. I was like, why is 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:12.000 he always posted j Loo? We love that he was 0:11:12.040 --> 0:11:15.080 in love and look at them now, though, give us 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:17.360 so now that he knew he had a season now 0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:20.600 that perfect relationship looks weird. No, no, no, no no, the 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:25.040 world Jennifer Lopez is a seasonal relationship. It's okay. She 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:27.480 renews her license all the time. If you knew. If 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:29.360 you know that you're with j loo Ba, you're not 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:33.720 gonna be there forever you're there. You know what I'm feeling. 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:35.760 In two weeks your terms up, and I already had 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.400 my backup planet I've been You think that really happens. 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:41.040 I feel like she is like a driver's license, like renewal. 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:44.760 And I love and that's okay, because she is enough 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:52.800 woman for the world. But I also love the fact 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:55.320 that let's admire this part. A lot of people may 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:56.840 call her a whole, a lot of people may have 0:11:56.920 --> 0:12:00.520 negative things to say. She's a great mother, independent the woman, 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.120 she's an entrepreneur, she has so many great things. She 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.000 works out, she takes care of. Let's look at all 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:07.319 the positive things as a woman, as a Latina that 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:10.600 she's able to accomplish the world. Yes, and the way 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:13.560 that she inspires so many other Latinos and Latinos as well. 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:16.040 So let's admire that part as well. And I also 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:20.400 admire the fact that and she isn't in an unhappy relationship. 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:23.760 Now it's obligado, you're not obligated to stay there. Who 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.320 cares what the world think when you're un yoke. Let's 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:28.319 talk about be an unevenly yoked. I feel like j 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:31.600 Lo is always above what she dates, you know what 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.560 I mean? Reason for that? Jealous, So there's a renown. 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:37.160 There's a reason for that. When you are a woman 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:40.040 that is as powerful and as strong of a character 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:47.040 as she is can be with someone that's too soft 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:52.000 better than her. She likes to feel I'm the one 0:12:52.000 --> 0:12:55.000 in power. I got the background dancer, I got in 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:58.120 mess the way I got I got this one. You 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:02.960 just think that in this business, if they see you 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:05.040 with someone, they expect you to date them. And a 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:06.960 lot of times people are there for a season and 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:09.640 a reason. So sometimes maybe they were just meant to 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:13.560 be friends, would benefit or whatever to each other. He 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.040 looked like he could have been a good husband. Look 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:20.280 like social media. Look and let me tell you this 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.840 to Mina and don't say that you see talking about that. 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:25.440 But I don't know if it's true or not. But okay, 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.720 I had heard has done like this long as list 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:31.360 of all the requirements in order to be with her, 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:33.520 like I didn't have your password, I didn't give you 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:35.559 my security wherever you go, and you can't have more 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:37.080 than three drinks and if you're gonna go out to 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:38.480 the corner. I need to have my DPS on you 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:41.520 to make sure that you get there. And there's cameras 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:42.800 in the house just in case you bring a bitch 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:47.160 into the house. And I mean, that's what I heard. 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:49.439 She's a lot to you know. It's the same with you. 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:54.360 Is going back to social media? Is it okay for 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.040 you to ask your significant other further password to their 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:01.240 social media or you know what's really dumb those joy accounts. 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:02.800 But let's say I mean you were in a relationship, 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:07.520 I'm out of Stevie request, I'd be like denied. That's 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:10.800 so insecure, Like that's so dumb. I don't know who 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:13.360 I'm talking to nothing, Like you don't talk to the 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.520 two people at the same time. Because yes, if you 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:20.000 have your account, if you have your account, I have 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.800 my account, right and then we have our account. If 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:26.160 we break up, the account goals none and everybody's good, 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:28.280 nothing ever happened. But I don't even have to go 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.080 to my page and Sunday leading going all the way 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.520 to the bottom. They get two years ago now. But 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.120 if you're my sister and I'm trying to get in 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.480 contact with you now your boyfriend, I have to ask permission. 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.120 It's almost that's the case with a joint account. It's 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.840 almost like, can you head, by the way, can you 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:50.440 tell what I don't joint accounts? Just a password to 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:52.480 your phone? Would you give your wife the password to 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:56.720 your phone? Help to the nah who you know that 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.760 type of party? So you wouldn't, So you wouldn't give 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:02.720 your password, I would go. So you're basically saying it. 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:05.760 If she looks she's gonna fine, Well you know what, 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.440 she does know everything. But there is some things that 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:11.200 are going to annoy you, Like if a girl sends 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.080 me a picture of her feet, and then like, what 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.080 the fun is a girl saying you a picture of 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:22.720 her feet? Um? Okay, well that's another conversation. I don't 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:26.400 know how they've been trying to lick these tolls. I 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:30.280 got the true Spanish. That's another conversation. But sorry, I 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:34.960 have never No, I'm lying. I learned out of experience 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:38.120 not to look into my significant others, like either social 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:40.880 media or whatever. My oh my god, I'm gonna know 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.280 I'm not even gonna him blast, but I'll just say 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:47.480 that I was in a relationship and um, we were 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:50.040 together on a yacht and then he went to go 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:53.200 get something, and I was like, he was like, oh no, mentheta. 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.600 I told him I maybe take me a picture. So 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:57.200 when he tak me the picture of my phone died. 0:15:57.320 --> 0:15:58.600 So I was like, oh no, let's just do it 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:00.280 from your phone. And then when I said, oh, let 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:02.120 me look at the pictures to see how how I came, 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:05.240 he left to go get a tower against something, and 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:09.960 my womanly instinct automatically was that is dangerous. I was 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:12.080 there to just look at the pictures he had taken 0:16:12.120 --> 0:16:14.840 up me on his phone. But his phone was open, 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:18.600 and my womanly and said, look at it. Look at 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:22.040 that dam open it. And that's exactly what I didn't 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:26.480 when I opened it. That first of all, you couldn't 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:29.840 even compare these bitches to me never and you're talking 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:32.320 to these kinks and you have an what is wrong 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.240 with you? So anyways, that was that. And I didn't 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:40.600 tell him nothing, and you have to be smart. I knew, 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:52.760 and I started, I didn't say nothing. I don't know that. 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:57.360 I'm let me tell you something. You said that very nicely. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:01.520 You had that you were like him, and he leaves, say, memento, 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.400 that was your moment right there. You were like, no, 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:07.479 this is the moment right now, now or never. I'm 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:10.240 gonna look at that man's phone and I'm gonna find No, 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:12.520 I wasn't even doing that any friends that you know 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:16.399 or anything like, because you know, some friends be thirsty, sod. No, 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:18.040 no, no no, I didn't look that hard. But you know, 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.440 it was really weird to me. It was a weird 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:24.800 biddle and made me just look at things differently. So Tosa, 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:29.000 and I'm very proud about my melanin better. All the 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:31.720 girls that he was talking to were white and blonde hair, 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.320 So I felt like, so, either you really don't like 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:37.480 me and I'm like an experiment to you, or you're 0:17:37.520 --> 0:17:40.840 just seeking for validation, or you're seeking for something else. 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:44.600 So I don't know, I don't know. I mean, it's 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:51.520 all good because you're blond, because I can't be blind 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:54.720 even if I wanted to. So you're okay with with 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.320 open accounts and going through each other's social media. I'm not, 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:00.600 And don't say another one from the you know, from 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:03.359 the past. I also looked into his phone and I 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:08.320 found some pictures of him with another girl to Venezuela. 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:14.240 He was gonna recording video in country media. The point 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:17.320 is that if you look, you shall find it. Be careful, 0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:19.960 don't look if you're exactly do the way you said it. 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:24.160 If you're happy with your significant other, Mama, Bobby, don't 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:25.920 be looking for stuff because if you look, you're gonna 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:28.000 find it, You're gonna be unhappy. You're gonna be unhappy, 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:30.280 you're gonna stop, or you're gonna still love. Why not 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:33.920 just tell each other? Like, why not just say, listen, 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:36.480 this is what I want to do. You know, especially 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:39.480 if you're young in a relationship, you're in your early twenties, 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:42.040 you know you want to explore. You know you want 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:46.120 to go taste everything. Why not just tell someone? This 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:49.440 is how diseases come because you can't tell people you 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.119 want to keep a secret. Then you're out there exchanging 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:55.280 fluids and then everyone sick. How about you just tell 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:58.080 me listen. I have to tell you this, whether it 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:02.439 hurts or not. But I'm young, and can we explore together? Like? 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:06.000 Can we do this together? Put it together? When you 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:08.760 stay explore together? What does that mean? That means you 0:19:08.800 --> 0:19:11.040 and I plus one? But okay, what about if this 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:13.040 person doesn't want to do you and plus one? Then 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:14.920 that's not the person for you at the time. Why 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:17.080 are you in a relationship if you want to be 0:19:17.119 --> 0:19:22.119 out look outside of a relationship. What about free bees 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:24.720 like the free like the hall passes like free pass like. 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:28.000 Once they hear me that you have Christmas standsgiving and 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:32.360 fo day, there's no ring, no commitment, then that's it 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:34.359 that you're not. No one owns you but God. And 0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:37.439 that's the problem. Everyone thinks that in their relationship, somebody's 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:40.600 your problems. You approve of that. One day I give you. 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:43.199 One day, you're you and in a committed relationship. You 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:48.040 said you're asking you. Yeah, you said that you want 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:49.520 to be with me for the rest of your life. 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:51.760 That means it's you and me and me and you. However, 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:54.359 I understand it. If you eat rice and beans every day, 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:56.280 one day you're gonna get tired and one day you 0:19:56.320 --> 0:20:07.560 might want some spaghetty. Okay, we did, Okay, If once 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:10.119 a year I give you, I don't want to know 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:11.680 about it. I don't know where you went. I don't 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:14.720 want to. Don't tell me. Just go on. I'm gonna 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:17.320 let you go on vacation. I'm gonna go on vacation. 0:20:17.560 --> 0:20:20.160 We're gonna come back and We're gonna let the listeners 0:20:20.200 --> 0:20:22.879 answer this question. Go to our social media exactly amount 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:25.000 of and d m U s and answer that question 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:27.320 because I would like to know what the listeners think. 0:20:27.560 --> 0:20:29.399 I'm curious we should do a point. Would you'll be 0:20:29.400 --> 0:20:33.560 okay with that? I'm totally okay with it. But but 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:36.160 but I am kind of like hot production works nowadays 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:38.239 where they want you to take tests. So like, if 0:20:38.280 --> 0:20:40.199 you're gonna do my significant other, I need to know 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:43.720 that you're also clean because we're gonna be So it's 0:20:43.840 --> 0:20:48.000 it's a whole registration problems, application fee, all of this. 0:20:48.160 --> 0:20:51.640 Like if you want to do I need to know 0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:55.280 that you're one clean, so don't be bringing that's the problem. 0:20:55.359 --> 0:20:57.120 I don't think that's bad. These days, you can find 0:20:57.119 --> 0:20:59.200 a clinic. If there wasn't no diseases, I would have 0:20:59.240 --> 0:21:01.959 been out here, like out there's ideal. There's a lot 0:21:01.960 --> 0:21:04.399 of clinics. I'm glad that we're talking about protection though, 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:05.800 but there's a lot of places that you can go 0:21:05.840 --> 0:21:08.040 to get tested real quick and make sure that everything 0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:10.359 is good. I almost feel like in the beginning of 0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:13.080 the relationship, no, because I'm in love and that's that 0:21:13.200 --> 0:21:15.359 dealing is mine. All of that is mine. I'm not 0:21:15.400 --> 0:21:17.440 sharing my bloot. I don't want nobody. Okay, I will 0:21:17.440 --> 0:21:21.679 stab a bit battle bat. I do have to be 0:21:21.840 --> 0:21:24.679