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Speaker 2: My father adopted is a fair partner's daughter. Wait what,

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Speaker 2: I think that's the noble thing to do? Right In

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty three, my stepmom forty something female, found out

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Speaker 2: my dad, forty something male, had a two year affair.

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Speaker 2: They tried to work it out, but he never broke

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Speaker 2: up with the other woman, so they divorced.

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Speaker 3: To me, twenty three female.

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Speaker 2: He said they had some disagreements, but eventually my stepmom

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Speaker 2: told me the real reason.

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Speaker 3: I was livid.

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Speaker 4: I'm Carly, and we're here to give you good advice.

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Speaker 2: Goofley, because we have a bunch of little goofballs. We

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Speaker 2: only know what we'd do you, gooferno, so let us

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Speaker 2: know what you would do in the comments.

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Speaker 3: Alright, as Op says, I was.

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Speaker 2: So angry at my dad. I couldn't stand the side

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Speaker 2: of him. I hated him, I felt disgusted, and I

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Speaker 2: genuinely could not look at him. Even after a year,

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Speaker 2: my step mom told me he had no plans ever

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Speaker 2: introducing his mistress thirty something female, to me or to

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Speaker 2: my brother's thirteen male and sixteen male. Sometime later, though,

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Speaker 2: I found out he had taken one of my brothers,

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Speaker 2: the sixteen year old, to his mistress's home. Not only

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Speaker 2: did it hurt me to know I would be completely

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Speaker 2: excluded from this, but I was angry all over again

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Speaker 2: because this brother is severely autistic, nonverbal, and has epilepsy. Actually,

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Speaker 2: his first epileptic seizure was triggered because my dad got

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Speaker 2: caught cheating. Aw what an incredibly weird choice to introduce

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Speaker 2: him to the affair partner mistress.

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Speaker 4: Here's where you live now, good lord, this is it.

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Speaker 2: For a long time, our relationship wasn't the best. He

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Speaker 2: still waiting for him to reach out and be honest

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Speaker 2: with me. It only made me more resentful and angrier

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Speaker 2: the longer he hid these things from me. I never

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Speaker 2: wanted to not have a relationship with my dad because

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Speaker 2: at the end of the day, he is my only

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Speaker 3: But I almost lost it on him.

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Speaker 2: Ultimately, I decided to forgive him and move on from

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Speaker 2: the hate I felt towards him because it wasn't doing

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Speaker 4: Facts fix.

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Speaker 2: Holding hate in your heart can't help.

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Speaker 4: I've seen it.

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Speaker 2: You can hate folks, but don't hold the hate in

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Speaker 2: your heart. Yeah, like a bitter, poisonous little.

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Speaker 4: Seed into the wild, so that it could be turning

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Speaker 2: To be honest, my mental health wasn't good to begin with,

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Speaker 2: but all of the anger and sadness and resentment made

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Speaker 2: it even worse. I had just left a bad relationship

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Speaker 2: when I found out, tried but failed, and dropped out

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Speaker 2: of UNI, went to work, and the more my mental

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Speaker 2: health worsened, the more I struggled maintaining my friendships and

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Speaker 2: even family relationships.

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Speaker 3: Even my new relationship.

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Speaker 2: Went south, though not due to my problems, but it

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Speaker 2: still affected my mental health. Eventually, I got fired from

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Speaker 2: same situation again. I felt grateful, and actually, for the

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Speaker 2: first time, I just wanted my dad back and let

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Speaker 2: go of all the bad feelings I had. My Dad

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Speaker 2: He told me that I'd be getting a new sibling soon,

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Speaker 2: hear how heartbroken I was. She ended up sending my

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Speaker 2: the things he had done. Asked him if he thinks

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Speaker 2: I'm stupid. I don't even know his new address, how

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Speaker 2: he's not been honest with me and what was he

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Speaker 3: Dad messaged me the next.

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Speaker 2: Day and asked if we could talk on the phone.

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Speaker 2: I told him when I would be available, and for

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Speaker 2: the rest of the day I would cry whenever I

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Speaker 3: There was left the call.

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Speaker 2: To my surprise, when okay, he told me about his

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Speaker 2: battles with mental health, acknowledged wrongdoings, and even asked me

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Speaker 2: what I want to do going forward. I questioned him

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Speaker 2: why he got a baby, and he ended up clearing

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Speaker 2: up that he's not together with his mistress anymore and

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Speaker 2: her baby is not related to us by blood, but

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Speaker 2: he adopted it. According to him, the ex mistress wants

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Speaker 2: to move to another city, far away and find a

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Speaker 2: again questioned why, and his response was, well, a baby

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Speaker 2: I held my tongue and I expressed my displeasure with

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Speaker 2: it and how badly we had been doing as a

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Speaker 3: I'm so I'm confused.

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Speaker 2: Now mistress wants to move to another place to find

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Speaker 2: a husband. To provide for her and her daughter. Meanwhile,

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Speaker 2: Op's dad is adopting her baby. What happens next is

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Speaker 2: she gonna take custody back once she finds her new

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Speaker 3: Like, what is the thought process there?

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Speaker 5: I'm just all kinds of confused. I'm like trying to

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Speaker 2: So you have you have an a fair partner in

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Speaker 2: this You're a man in this story. You have a

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Speaker 2: fair partner, and you I just like, are you pivoted?

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Speaker 3: Like okay, cool, alright, I.

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Speaker 4: Look hot as a man, not gonna lie, I do

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Speaker 5: You said that with so much confidence, Like you've been

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Speaker 4: I have been a man in some.

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Speaker 5: Place, A man in sheep's clothing, A man in sheep's clothing.

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Speaker 4: And guess what, the sheep is hot too. It's so cut.

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Speaker 4: It's haunting me again.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you left your family and spent time with this

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Speaker 2: I'm leaving you to go find a new man, and

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Speaker 2: you're like, sick, I'll adopt your child so that it

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Speaker 2: has a father in the interim, Why did you do that?

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Speaker 2: Hot sheep man? That's like the only that's the only

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Speaker 2: reasoning I could come up with either it's just sheep noises.

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Speaker 3: It makes no sense.

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Speaker 4: Obviously he feels some sort of connection to that baby.

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Speaker 3: He's like, it's my duty.

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Speaker 2: I guess, yeah, But does baby needs a father?

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Speaker 4: Does she not want like does the affair partner not

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Speaker 4: want the child? And it's just like, all.

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Speaker 2: Right, maybe she's talking about a new child, a new

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Speaker 3: It's who knows.

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Speaker 2: This is your life we're talking about sheepman, Savannah.

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Speaker 4: Get your lambs together. That oh, I just like it.

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Speaker 4: I just like the mic ew.

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Speaker 2: I told him my dad, I wanted to spend more

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Speaker 2: time together and talk more. I don't know how, but

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Speaker 2: whatever was going on now couldn't continue to be honest,

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Speaker 2: I didn't expect it to go anywhere, but he has

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Speaker 2: kept to his word. I asked him to never talk

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Speaker 2: to me about his mistress or the baby, because I

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Speaker 2: only have two sisters and that baby is not my family,

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Speaker 2: which he too has respected. And I haven't heard anything

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Speaker 2: from his mouth, but I have heard stuff from his butt.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna say that. I was like, I shouldn't interrupt,

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Speaker 4: but the butt's talking.

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Speaker 3: Always interrupt me. If you have a good butt joke.

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Speaker 4: All right, great, now I know button boxes.

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Speaker 2: Butt box, bullet box. Though the conversation went better than

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Speaker 2: I thought and did end up mending what was broken,

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Speaker 2: it still felt like I couldn't express everything I wanted.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to tell him more, but I had barely

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Speaker 2: even processed my thoughts and feelings and what I want,

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Speaker 2: et cetera. I planned to ask to talk again, but

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Speaker 2: for some reason I never did. Summer came and I

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Speaker 2: started at his company. To my shock, I came to

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Speaker 2: find out that his ex mistress was basically his right

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Speaker 2: hand woman, working in the same office room and everything. Oh,

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Speaker 2: they're making new babies in there.

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Speaker 5: It's all like intertwined, and I don't know what to

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Speaker 2: So she's not moving to another state.

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Speaker 4: She's the right hand woman. Yeah, that's right, I changed it.

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Speaker 4: You just assume it would be.

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Speaker 2: A man, right, just because I looked like a hot

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Speaker 5: Just because I look like a man doesn't mean I'm

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Speaker 5: a man. It may mean I'm a sheep.

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Speaker 2: So I did some digging and she's also a board

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Speaker 3: Unbelievable.

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Speaker 2: I felt anxious, but I spotted that on a calendar

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Speaker 2: on the wall that she's on maternity leave for the

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Speaker 2: rest of the year.

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Speaker 3: Thank god.

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Speaker 4: So it is a different baby.

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Speaker 2: The baby he's adopting is not the baby she's leaving

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Speaker 2: to find a different father for what is going on?

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Speaker 3: My plane?

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Speaker 2: My plane, we're so locked in, guys.

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Speaker 4: My water.

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Speaker 2: Okay, this is one for the ages.

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Speaker 4: So what's happening? Where's the sheep?

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Speaker 5: Okay, so she does, so she said, you can have

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Speaker 5: that baby, I'll get another baby, or I have this baby.

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Speaker 4: But this baby's not gonna be your baby.

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Speaker 3: Too much baby going around.

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Speaker 6: I'm also very confused, chat. I don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 6: So she's she's on the board, but she's not. So

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Speaker 6: she okay, screw it, we're gonna keep going.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: My coworkers obviously don't know the situation, so they thought

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Speaker 2: everything is fine and dandy, and I did eventually get

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Speaker 2: asked about my siblings. When I told my coworker about

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Speaker 2: my siblings, she asked, what about Mistress's baby. I even

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Speaker 2: asked who before I realized who she was talking about

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Speaker 2: and told her that no, she's not my family. And

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Speaker 2: I don't think I can say more without it being inappropriate.

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Speaker 2: At a later day, another coworker asked if I had

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Speaker 2: seen the mistress's baby already, and I said no, and

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Speaker 2: I don't ever want to. After that, all the questions stopped.

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Speaker 2: Obviously they could tell there was something deeper going on.

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Speaker 3: What is the story?

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Speaker 2: We need a baby ownership graph.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what's going on. I would love to

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Speaker 2: My heart dropped. That's what it would sound like, you

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Speaker 2: you want to see your sister, and presented her baby

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Speaker 3: To be fair.

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Speaker 2: It would be that would be that would be inappropriate

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Speaker 3: Or am I sibling again?

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Speaker 2: That baby is blameless, but I hate you.

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Speaker 5: I feel like people would immediately just be like you'd

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Speaker 4: Too late, we already are doing that.

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Speaker 2: she a Heisman winner? And ended up just texting my

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Speaker 2: He promised he would. Unfortunately, for me, all the old

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Speaker 2: My lovely boyfriend was there as my support, but even

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Speaker 3: I think everyone agrees.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, okay, all right, do I have to spell

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Speaker 2: Ever since, I've been thinking about it, and I kind

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Speaker 2: could never forgive my dad fully as long as he's

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Speaker 2: but after some research, the law in my country doesn't

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Speaker 2: allow you to give up your parenthood. So it would

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Speaker 2: have been a losing battle from the start. I have

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Speaker 2: and while I feel better now, I know myself and

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Speaker 2: I know this same thing will break me in the future. Man,

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Speaker 2: this is your Ivan Drago for real?

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Speaker 4: Oh it's the Russian Yeah, ahh, I never seen it.

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Speaker 3: That's what he says.

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Speaker 2: He's played by Dolph Lundgrindulf, Dulph Lungrin, Dolf Lunngrin.

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Speaker 3: Stop it, don't make fun of him.

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Speaker 4: I thought his name was Ivan.

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Speaker 2: I am selfish of my dad, and I'm allowed to be.

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Speaker 2: He's my dad. Well he's that baby's dad too, apparently.

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Speaker 2: I know even if I ask, he can't undo the adoption.

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Speaker 2: But I remember she didn't even want my dad to

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Speaker 2: fact find a man in her new city to be

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Speaker 2: a dad to the baby. What I'm talking about, what

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Speaker 2: why is your dad taking carries babies? Saying you want

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Speaker 4: I had too many thoughts that they just went no, you.

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Speaker 3: Had so many thoughts that just came out as ah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was more of just exasperation.

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Speaker 2: I want to write down everything I've ever wanted to

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Speaker 2: his actions have affected me and my life. I often

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Speaker 2: that I want to also include and show my so

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Speaker 2: he can read the hurt I felt when I felt

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Speaker 2: it the strongest, and to finally tell him I don't

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Speaker 2: if I told my dad if he ever has a

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry for how long this is.

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Speaker 2: I tried to make it shorter and left some stuff out,

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Speaker 2: but nothing that would be important to this story. Thank you,

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Speaker 2: and there is an update.

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Speaker 3: I think you could tell your dad.

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Speaker 4: Hey would even I wouldn't even ask? Just have what

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Speaker 4: the hell's going on?

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Speaker 7: Dad?

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Speaker 8: She's leaving to find a new dad for her children,

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Speaker 8: so do d Why are you adopting the baby? She

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Speaker 8: wants to make another Manda Dad and not you?

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Speaker 3: So what are we doing.

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Speaker 4: Does he just feel like bad for this child and

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Speaker 4: it's like, I'll take this child.

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Speaker 5: But is it like also it could be out of

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Speaker 5: like spite to be like, I'm gonna make you grow

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Speaker 4: I'm just I'm confused on what theories are going through

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Speaker 2: His rational is every baby needs a dad. Babies need dads,

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Speaker 2: and that's his baby. No, it's yeah, the new baby.

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Speaker 2: I think the new babies are his baby. But there's

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Speaker 4: I think so many babies.

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Speaker 2: Oh maybe I don't even freaking Let's okay, let's update, update,

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Speaker 2: Hello again.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate all the comments.

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Speaker 2: I was very distraught over what happened, and I wasn't

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Speaker 2: think I would be the a hole, I realized with

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Speaker 2: your help, regardless, giving ultimatums is not a productive way

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Speaker 2: I did come here for advice, I'd be a fool

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Speaker 2: not to follow it. I took time to feel better

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Speaker 2: so I wouldn't forget what I wanted to do my dad,

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Speaker 5: I like how she kind of planned it She's like,

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Speaker 4: Ors I could just release Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I gotta figure out this noise and then

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Speaker 2: I had said something earlier so he could have been

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Speaker 2: I don't hate him right now is because he's my

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Speaker 5: Don't even ask me what I think because I don't

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Speaker 2: You know, you want to prioritize your own peace, right,

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Speaker 2: That's what we should all do. Yeah, and you don't

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Speaker 2: move to me. But hey, sela ve, let's finish this

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Speaker 2: story please. I also told him that I always felt

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Speaker 2: because I feel like my relationship with my dad can

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Speaker 2: be and will be fixed, or at least get better.

447
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,840
Speaker 2: I believe so too. Thank you everyone for getting my

448
00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:37,720
Speaker 2: head straight. And that is the end of that story.

449
00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:40,399
Speaker 2: I guess we've left it on a positive note. If

450
00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:43,440
Speaker 2: you want a good relationship with your dad, you can

451
00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:46,480
Speaker 2: choose to have one. In the face of all of

452
00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:49,439
Speaker 2: this wild and tumultuous emotion.

453
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Speaker 5: I think I feel bad for OP because they were

454
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 5: just suffering so long, like just not by not saying anything,

455
00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:58,800
Speaker 5: just like really having all of these like you know,

456
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Speaker 5: panic attacks or attacks, you know, whatever sinks that you

457
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:04,720
Speaker 5: had to suffer in silence for so long. Ope, But

458
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Speaker 5: now that you got it off your chest, I feel

459
00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 5: like this is like the opening to like, you know,

460
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Speaker 5: another beginning.

461
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Speaker 2: I think it could work out, but you know what

462
00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:15,520
Speaker 2: works out That that's the end of that story that

463
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:18,119
Speaker 2: you can listen to full episodes, just like at the

464
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Speaker 2: end of that.

465
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Speaker 3: Story, we've got another one to read.

466
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Speaker 4: My partner is furious because I wasn't helpful when my

467
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Speaker 4: stepdaughter locked yourself out.

468
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Speaker 3: Learn how to do a B and E? All right?

469
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Speaker 4: I female thirty nine, am in a relationship with my partner,

470
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Speaker 4: male forty nine, John. We have been together about eight

471
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Speaker 4: to nine years. John has a daughter from a previous relationship, Emily,

472
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Speaker 4: who is an adult turning thirty soon. I have a

473
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Speaker 4: good relationship with her. I couldn't possibly call it myself

474
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Speaker 4: her stepmother, as she's always been an adult when I've

475
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Speaker 4: known her. By the way, this comes from hot Plankton

476
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Speaker 4: sixteen nineteen. And if you want to spit your own stories,

477
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Speaker 4: go to the r slash. Okay, storytime, separate it and

478
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 4: we're here to give good advice.

479
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Speaker 3: Goofully.

480
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Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We all only

481
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Speaker 4: know what we do so you would do in the comments.

482
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,560
Speaker 4: I have always thought family is important, and I've always

483
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Speaker 4: supported and given John space to have a relationship with

484
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Speaker 4: his children. We have a friendly relationship with Emily, and

485
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:11,920
Speaker 4: I've always been very fond of her. John and I

486
00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,840
Speaker 4: have three children together, Male one, Mail three, and male sex.

487
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Speaker 3: Oh those are their names, Martin six.

488
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 4: I can be socially awkward and sometimes find people hard

489
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Speaker 4: to read. I have ADHD and a flavor of autism,

490
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 4: and this situation is eating me alive grape flavored.

491
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 3: Great favorite autism.

492
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 4: It's fake banana flavored.

493
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:37,040
Speaker 2: I love that fake banana autism.

494
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 4: A wee while ago, I was at home with my

495
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 4: two youngest, both of whom were ill with a virus.

496
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:47,200
Speaker 4: My baby was sleeping upstairs and Mail three was on

497
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Speaker 4: the couch with me, nursing a forty degrees celsius fever.

498
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Speaker 2: Man, I don't know what that is an American, but

499
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Speaker 2: it's like one hundred and twenty eight degrees. Nice, it's

500
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Speaker 2: just a hundred, one hundred and twenty seven hours to

501
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Speaker 2: a hundred.

502
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Speaker 4: I had given him cow Paul and the fever was

503
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 4: hardly budging, so I was a bit on edge. I

504
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 4: tried calling John because I was concerned, but he was

505
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 4: not picking up my phone. Rang it was Michael, Emily's partner,

506
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:13,520
Speaker 4: and Emily.

507
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Speaker 3: Is thirty in this story.

508
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Speaker 2: Wait a minute, Emily is.

509
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:19,160
Speaker 3: A full grown thirty year.

510
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 4: Old woman, double checking she's an adult churning.

511
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Speaker 3: Thirty not gonna lie once you turn like eighteen.

512
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Speaker 2: The issue of I'm locked out of a place is

513
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Speaker 2: for your responsibility.

514
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Speaker 3: Now that's all read?

515
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Speaker 2: That is that is it? Also apparently that's one hundred

516
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Speaker 2: and four degrees, which is a that's a nasty little fever.

517
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, one hundred hundred four. That's the same.

518
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,399
Speaker 2: That is a go to dock door fever.

519
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Speaker 3: To be clear that he's not the same thing.

520
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Speaker 2: It's serious.

521
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Speaker 4: That's that's They're all the same. After the hundreds, he

522
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 4: proceeded to tell me Emily had locked herself out of

523
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:55,159
Speaker 4: her flats with her pets. Then he said, I or

524
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 4: John needed to come open the door, as we have

525
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Speaker 4: a spare key. Why wouldn't they come to opie that?

526
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, did you lock your or did you throw your

527
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 2: car keys into your flat? And yeah?

528
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Speaker 3: And then yeah no again, this is on you, that's

529
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 3: full on you. This is on you.

530
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 2: Also, you don't have a landlord who could help with that.

531
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Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know.

532
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Speaker 4: I will admit I was a little annoyed that it

533
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 4: came out as a demand. My brain shuts down in

534
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 4: that kind of situation. I wasn't in problem solving mode.

535
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,120
Speaker 4: I felt like I wasn't asked for help or given

536
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 4: any other option than to up and leave. I explained

537
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 4: my situation. The baby was asleep and mail three had

538
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 4: such a high fever I couldn't drive there as it's

539
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Speaker 4: a thirty minute drive.

540
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Speaker 3: He hung up.

541
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Speaker 4: I tried to call John five or six times to

542
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Speaker 4: no avail. Over an hour later I got a call

543
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 4: that someone was picking up the key. I thought, brilliant,

544
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 4: problem solved to we go. Yeah, if they had not

545
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 4: complained for an hour, they could have had the key

546
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 4: had already been back bingo. Later John told me both

547
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:55,919
Speaker 4: Michael and Emily were upset with me. I didn't exactly

548
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:59,000
Speaker 4: know what was said. I asked why they were upset.

549
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 4: John explained that my lack of empathy for the situation

550
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 4: upset them.

551
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Speaker 2: So we've got baby with one hundred and forty ree

552
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 2: fever and also just bring an adult who locked themselves

553
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 2: out of their apartment, and it's an entirely fixable solution.

554
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 3: We've got baby and baby with on.

555
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:19,640
Speaker 2: We got two babies, feverish baby, fever baby versus incompetent adult.

556
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 4: Oh LB has two babies she's looking after. And they said, hey,

557
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Speaker 4: can you drive our round trip to help us get

558
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 4: out of get into our house? No, they were upset.

559
00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 4: I didn't call Emily to see how she was or

560
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Speaker 4: that I wasn't able to help.

561
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:34,520
Speaker 3: How does see how you were?

562
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 2: You locked yourself out of your apartment.

563
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Speaker 3: You're thirty?

564
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Speaker 4: Figure it out? In hindsight, I see I could have

565
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 4: done more, like send the key in an uber or something. Well,

566
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 4: they could have asked. They could have said, oh, I'm

567
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,160
Speaker 4: so yeah, okay, understood. Do you could think you could

568
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 4: send an uber over with the key?

569
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Speaker 2: Literally, anything you could have done short of driving the

570
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:56,360
Speaker 2: key over yourself is something they could have done. Yeah.

571
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Speaker 4: And also if if you had done that, I doubt

572
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Speaker 4: they would have you back for that.

573
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

574
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 4: But my brain just shut down at the cutmere now

575
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 4: demand because I physically couldn't. I also couldn't reach John.

576
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 4: I see where I made mistakes and I could have

577
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 4: done more. I will take accountability for that. I tried

578
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 4: to call Emily later that night to talk, but she

579
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:17,919
Speaker 4: didn't answer. I sent an apology message to both Michael

580
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 4: and Emily and apologized for letting them down. I also

581
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 4: sent chocolates and animal treats to their house. No reply

582
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,880
Speaker 4: or even acknowledgment. Why. Honestly, I think you're going too far.

583
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 4: I think you're going way above and beyond what you

584
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 4: needed to do, which was nothing.

585
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, you even sent treats and they didn't say thank you.

586
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:35,360
Speaker 8: Yeah.

587
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 7: No, I was gonna say, have you guys locked yourself

588
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 7: out of the house before?

589
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 2: Honestly, no, of yes, I have.

590
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 3: I have too.

591
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 7: And guess how you solve that?

592
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, you break into your own house that or you.

593
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 7: Just try and figure it out yourself.

594
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Speaker 5: Yeah.

595
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Speaker 4: I've never, fortunately had since I've lived on my own,

596
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 4: had a key. I've always had the key pads.

597
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, that solves it.

598
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I've never really unless I'm at my parents' house,

599
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 4: but usually they have Do you.

600
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Speaker 7: Know any times I was on this shoe, I had

601
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 7: to like I didn't have a spare key, or my

602
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 7: parents weren't even nearby, and I had to crawl through

603
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 7: like a doggy door.

604
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 3: Oh, I've done that before one I could call through

605
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:10,479
Speaker 3: the doggy door.

606
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 7: That's not great, but I don't think anyone else would try.

607
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 4: But yeah, yeah, when I was in first grade, my

608
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 4: mom pulled me out of class and because she had

609
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:21,439
Speaker 4: locked herself out of the house and so she had

610
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 4: me crawl through the doggy door to let her in.

611
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,199
Speaker 3: So I literally thought, those need like, you know, locks.

612
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,159
Speaker 3: I think they make some now where it's like you put.

613
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 2: Something on the collar of the dog and it only

614
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 2: unlocks once the dog is close by.

615
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 4: Well, to be fair, only like a tiny little first

616
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 4: grader is able to fit through those doors.

617
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 2: Oh, a very small criminal, that's true.

618
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,200
Speaker 3: I like me common one.

619
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 4: The heck is wrong with them? You're innocent, Opie says.

620
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 4: They're not talking to me. I'm gone crazy thinking I've

621
00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 4: done something drastic. Reply, let me turn it around. They

622
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,920
Speaker 4: accused you of lacking empathy and not doing enough while

623
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 4: you were caring for tu sick kids. But where was

624
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 4: their empathy to how the kids were or acknowledged you

625
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 4: had your hands full? Yeah? Where was there? Like, OMG,

626
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 4: how is your son with one hundred and four fever?

627
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 2: Yeah? Zero? Literally, there's no even there's not even a

628
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 2: need for discussion here. These people are delusional.

629
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 4: The boyfriend just demanded a key and hung up when

630
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 4: he heard your very valid reason for not going. Any

631
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 4: normal person would have asked, oh, of course, you shouldn't

632
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 4: drag two kids out when they have a high fever.

633
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 4: Can we send someone over to pick up the key.

634
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 4: They haven't asked how the kids are, but expect calls

635
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 4: to hear how she's dealing with this big emergency. They

636
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 4: had options if it was a huge emergency a locksmith,

637
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 4: send a friend over to pick it up. They're adults.

638
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 4: They should be more than capable to figure this out

639
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 4: on their own. They're just mad you didn't jump through

640
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 4: hoops to please them. If your husband says anything, stand

641
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 4: firm that you had two sick kids and you were alone,

642
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 4: and there is an update. But yeah, the thing is

643
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 4: that Opie's already kind of been pushed to apologize.

644
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, what's up with your husband?

645
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is crazy that your husband was like, yeah,

646
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 4: I know you had a sick child and our other kid,

647
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 4: but you should have dropped all of them for my daughter.

648
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 7: If this happened to me, I would genuinely crash out.

649
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 7: I'd be like one already my hands are full, but

650
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:18,120
Speaker 7: two not. It's not even my issue. That sounds like

651
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 7: an issued on ishmi block or like mute them. I'm

652
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 7: gonna go take care of the kids. Figure it out

653
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 7: on your own. You are adults.

654
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, it seems like op. It didn't even wasn't even rude. No,

655
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 4: just you know, she said, oh, well, like I you know,

656
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 4: my brain went off. I didn't know what to say.

657
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 4: You didn't say anything unreasonable. You literally just said, I'm

658
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 4: so sorry I can't because I'm taking care of two kids,

659
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 4: one of which is sick.

660
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, they demanded.

661
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 7: If they said that, I'm like, all right, First, don't

662
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 7: point the finger at me. You guys got locked out yourself.

663
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 7: If you need help, come to me and get the key.

664
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 7: I'm not coming to you.

665
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 2: I mean, the whole vibe is like, it's like you

666
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 2: left them at like after school, like an after school club,

667
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Speaker 2: and you forgot to pick them up until eight, and

668
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Speaker 2: you're like damaging them or something.

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Speaker 3: They're they're adults. What are we find? By the way,

670
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Speaker 3: one of your other kids is ill.

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Speaker 4: Severe, But there is an update. I want to start

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Speaker 4: by giving my absolute heartfelt thank you to each and

673
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Speaker 4: every single person who has taken the time to give

674
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Speaker 4: me a comment. You have made me feel seen, heard, validated,

675
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Speaker 4: and I give me a lot to think about and

676
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Speaker 4: a lot of confidence. I'm thankful. Also, the world is

677
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Speaker 4: full of really wonderful people. You so many of you

678
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Speaker 4: asked how the little ones are, and they have recovered, thankfully,

679
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Speaker 4: back to their healthy shenanigans. First, to clear a few

680
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 4: things that were not clear, John was in the skate

681
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 4: park with our oldest son whilst this happened. It is

682
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 4: not unusual for him to be very bad at answering

683
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 4: his phone, and they were in the sugar bowl doing tricks.

684
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Speaker 4: It is extremely unfortunate. He never saw or heard the calls,

685
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Speaker 4: but when he noticed he rushed home. He admits this

686
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Speaker 4: would have been avoided had he answered, it.

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Speaker 2: Would have been avoided if your daughter was an incompetent loser.

688
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 3: Sorry, that might be a little uh too far, But.

689
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Speaker 4: I don't know. It's it's just the fact that she

690
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 4: expects too much. She's I don't know.

691
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 2: It was the boyfriend, Yeah, so it might just be

692
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 2: the boyfriend being like no, they they need to be

693
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 2: the ones who care about us and you, and they

694
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 2: only care about these frickids.

695
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 3: Stupid little babies be sick.

696
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 4: There is a little bit left to this story. Any thoughts.

697
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:26,920
Speaker 2: This needs to be a talk with your husband and

698
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 2: I like, get your daughter under control, figure out if

699
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 2: it was like where's this vibe coming from? Is it

700
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 2: coming from the boyfriend? Honestly, like, who's who's the vibe of?

701
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Speaker 2: I'm thirty and locked out and I just really, I

702
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 2: just want to say, it was kind of unacceptable the

703
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 2: way that you didn't reach out and make sure I

704
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 2: was personally okay while you were dealing with your sick,

705
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 2: feverish children.

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Speaker 4: You can't win. I think that your husband needs to

707
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 4: deal with this, with this and and maybe he can

708
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 4: be like, hey, I'm sorry I couldn't get to my phone.

709
00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 4: I would have helped. My wife couldn't do it. She

710
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 4: was taking care of our kids. And also Lucy p.

711
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 4: I feel like we've gotten told that it was one

712
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 4: way and then the other am I I don't know now,

713
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 4: I don't know now. I just don't know.

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Speaker 3: How do you say? You say whilst?

715
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 4: I said wilst in this because we were told that

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Speaker 4: it was wilst yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think that I always say wilst yeah?

718
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 7: Is it whilst?

719
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 4: Wait?

720
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 3: Do it again?

721
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 7: Like say, whilst wools.

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Speaker 4: There's a little bit left to the story. I spoke

723
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,479
Speaker 4: to John today and he expressed he was unhappy how

724
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 4: the whole thing folded. He is keeping a small distance

725
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 4: to his daughter at the moment to let everyone cool

726
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 4: down in the hopes that a bit of time will

727
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 4: clear their heads. Emily and Michael and hopefully could talk

728
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 4: it out. He absolutely agrees I could not have gone

729
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 4: anywhere and did the right thing. He did say, you

730
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 4: can see Michael using me as a decoy to divert

731
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 4: Emily's anger of the situation to me, and that it's unfair.

732
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 4: He's being supportive of me, and he is a loving

733
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 4: and wonderful father to all his children. I loved it again.

734
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Speaker 4: If and when this is hopefully resolved, I will move

735
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 4: forward and will move in confidence knowing I have done

736
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Speaker 4: what I could do to mitigate and repair any negative feelings,

737
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Speaker 4: and if that is shut down by Emily and Michael,

738
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Speaker 4: it's up to them. Thank you for everything. And that

739
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Speaker 4: is the end of that story. And we've got another one.

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Speaker 4: All right, Are you ready for this next story? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, John, here og host. We're gonna get back to

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Speaker 1: these stories. But a quick three minute break from as

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Speaker 2: My mother refused to attend my wedding over eight thousand dollars.

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Speaker 4: That's a lot of money.

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Speaker 2: Trigger warning for abuse, so my story requires a bit

747
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Speaker 2: of context. My mother, forty eight, is physically disabled. She

748
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 2: has steadily been getting worse over the last few years.

749
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Speaker 2: She uses a wheelchair a walker on her good days

750
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Speaker 2: and can't stay awake or even sit up for more

751
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Speaker 2: than a few hours out of the day. She lives

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Speaker 2: with my grandparents and my younger sister, Ava thirteen. I

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Speaker 2: have two other siblings, Joe and Riley. I am twenty four.

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Speaker 2: Joe's twenty seven twenty one. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 2: from user Golly It's gummy And if you want to

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Speaker 2: submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

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Speaker 2: storytime subpurdate where this story was submitted. And we are

758
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Speaker 2: here to give you good advice. Goofy, But we don't

759
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Speaker 2: have all the answers. You only know what we'd do,

760
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 2: so tell us what you would do in the comments,

761
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:19,320
Speaker 2: and op says my mother had a raging drinking problem

762
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Speaker 2: for a good part of my childhood and teenage years,

763
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Speaker 2: leaving me to care for and raise my siblings.

764
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Speaker 3: It was not good.

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Speaker 2: Onto the story. A few years ago, my car broke

766
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Speaker 2: down and became unusable. I live in a bigger city

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Speaker 2: and needed a car. I called my mom sobbing because

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Speaker 2: I certainly don't have the money to even put anything

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Speaker 2: down for a new car. She offered me her car

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Speaker 2: to borrow. She was unable to drive due to her disability,

771
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Speaker 2: and the car had just been sitting at my grandparents'

772
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 2: farm gathering dust. I gratefully accepted, and my cousin dropped

773
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Speaker 2: the car off a week later, along with the title.

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Speaker 2: I switched everything over to be in my name because

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00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:59,399
Speaker 2: she told me to do so. Months later, she asked

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Speaker 2: if we could talk talk about the car. I asked

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Speaker 2: her to call me over the phone. She stated that

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Speaker 2: I needed to pay eight thousand dollars for the car

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Speaker 2: and that the money would go to Ava's college fund.

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Speaker 3: I said okay, and we ended the conversation there.

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Speaker 2: My fiance at the time, Dylan twenty six, did some

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Speaker 2: research on the vehicle through Kelly Bluebook. Apparently, this twenty

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00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 2: twelve Chevy Impala was worth way less about five thousand

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Speaker 2: if the vehicle was in good condition.

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Speaker 4: Was it though?

786
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Speaker 3: But did it have twenty inch trims.

787
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Speaker 4: But was it driven by two brothers who fight supernatural entities?

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Speaker 7: I guess you would call that Chevy and Paula attainment Paula.

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Is that even the right car that they were were

791
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Speaker 3: all professionals?

792
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Speaker 4: Is that even the right car that they drove in

793
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Speaker 4: the show? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't freaking know, man, I haven't seen a single

795
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Speaker 2: episode of Supernatural.

796
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 4: They've seen the first season.

797
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 3: I just know they got that one guy in there.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, with the hair, you kind of looked like both

799
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Speaker 7: of them combined.

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Speaker 3: I do have the one other guy sold your boy?

801
00:35:58,360 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 7: Yeah, you sold your boy.

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Speaker 3: We're professional comedians.

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Speaker 2: I messaged my mom back and asked if we could

804
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Speaker 2: negotiate to this price instead. Honestly, I didn't want to

805
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 2: have to pay for it at all.

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Speaker 3: The car was in my name.

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Speaker 2: There was no agreement that I would pay for it

808
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,320
Speaker 2: when she had dropped it off, and I was initially

809
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:16,439
Speaker 2: only borrowing it while I saved for one of my own.

810
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 2: My mother blew up.

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Speaker 3: Put her back together, quick grab the super glue duct.

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00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 3: She began calling me names, telling.

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Speaker 2: Me she was disgusted because I knew this money would

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Speaker 2: be going to AVA She said she was probably going

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Speaker 2: to be gone before Ava graduated high school and needed

816
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 2: this money, that she was the only one who was

817
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 2: going to be hurt by my actions. She called me

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Speaker 2: a manipulative thief, someone who only took advantage of her

819
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Speaker 2: and her resources. She could have just said no, I

820
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Speaker 2: mean you asked her to borrow the car, yeah, so

821
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Speaker 2: you could save money for another one.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And then she said pay me picking eight thousand

823
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 4: dollars and you said uh no.

824
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Speaker 2: And she said, it feels like the solution to the

825
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 2: this is I'm going to save up money and buy

826
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Speaker 2: my own car, and then once I'm done, we can

827
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 2: sell the Impala. Yeah, and all of the money from

828
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 2: the sale of the car no one is going to

829
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 2: use anymore unless we want to give it to Ava,

830
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Speaker 2: will go towards her college fund.

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Speaker 4: It just seems pretty ridiculous that this was her reaction

832
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Speaker 4: when she literally could have just said no, I can't

833
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Speaker 4: give it to you for free.

834
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 3: But that wasn't the deal. Now, she said I only

835
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 3: wanted to be angry with her and that she doesn't

836
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Speaker 3: need me to like her or be in her life.

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Speaker 4: Damn.

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Speaker 2: After this, I went very low contact with her and

839
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,800
Speaker 2: only messaged to talk about ava onto the wedding drama.

840
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,839
Speaker 2: I texted Joe and asked for his address to send

841
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,919
Speaker 2: him an invite since he lived states away. I also

842
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 2: asked him if he would do me the honor of

843
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 2: walking me down the aisle since my father had passed

844
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Speaker 2: away a few years prior. Joe took days to respond,

845
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Speaker 2: and when he did, I felt broken. Joe said that

846
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Speaker 2: he loved me, but would not be coming to the wedding.

847
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 2: Talk to my mom and she told him that she

848
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Speaker 2: was not invited to the wedding, which is a lie

849
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Speaker 2: because she was and he didn't have the heart to go.

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Speaker 2: If my mom wasn't invited, I assume. I don't think

851
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 2: we got Joe earlier, but I assumed Joe is like

852
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 2: a step parent.

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Speaker 4: I thought Joe was one of the I don't know.

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00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 3: I think was Joe?

855
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:18,160
Speaker 2: Was it?

856
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 3: I thought it was John and Riley? Was it was Joe?

857
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 4: Riley? Yeah, I think it's Joe and Riley.

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00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:24,919
Speaker 3: It is Joe. Yeah, my bad.

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00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 2: I just assumed that they were using our names. Joe

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Speaker 2: is her brother twenty seven. I told him I was

861
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Speaker 2: hurt and asked him to hear me out and get

862
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 2: the whole story before making any decisions, but he was

863
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,800
Speaker 2: firm in his stance and did not attend my wedding. Riley,

864
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 2: my sister and maid of honor, was acting suspicious. I

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Speaker 2: asked her if she was planning on coming to the

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Speaker 2: wedding still. She said she didn't think she would be

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Speaker 2: able to make it.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Your honor just said, oh don't. I don't think

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna be able to make that. And I would say, uh,

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Speaker 4: can you think a little bit harder?

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Speaker 3: What do you mean? I asked her why why?

872
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 2: And she said she had just found out she was pregnant.

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Speaker 2: I don't entirely understand why this meant she couldn't attend

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Speaker 2: my wedding, which was a month out at this point.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that doesn't make sense. She just found out she

876
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,800
Speaker 4: was pregnant and she can't. Sounds like a great wedding.

877
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,800
Speaker 2: I could totally use this as the excuse. Yeah, who's

878
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 2: gonna blame the pregnant lady?

879
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, she's like, I've found the loophole. What are you

880
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 4: gonna know about it?

881
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 2: But I accepted without arguing and promoted my best friend

882
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 2: from bridesmaid to mate of honor instead, which worked out

883
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:33,960
Speaker 2: for the best. My wedding was beautiful. Everything looked perfect,

884
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 2: and I was so excited to finally be married to Dylan,

885
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:40,240
Speaker 2: who remained my biggest supporter through all of this. Ava

886
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:43,240
Speaker 2: was the only sibling that came, and my grandparents, along

887
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 2: with a few aunts and uncles, were the only family

888
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 2: I had. Out of the seventy five people there, I

889
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,799
Speaker 2: only had maybe six come for me, but I didn't care.

890
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,399
Speaker 2: I had my husband, my best friend, and my new

891
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 2: family that loved me deeply. My family ended up leaving

892
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:01,359
Speaker 2: right after dinner. My grand parents had to get back

893
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 2: to my mom, which is how it's fair, I guess,

894
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 2: because she's you know, chronically ill with like, yeah, it

895
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 2: seems like a really really hard issues.

896
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 4: So I feel like only your grand their daughters are

897
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:13,399
Speaker 4: valid though.

898
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:16,919
Speaker 2: That is yeah, if they're caretakers, that is that makes sense.

899
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 4: Only your grandparents, though everyone else to leave right after dinner.

900
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 2: Well, that's already a third of everyone who was there

901
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 2: for her.

902
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 3: Ava had to go with them. There's the third one

903
00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 3: and the rest of.

904
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,479
Speaker 2: The family didn't really know anyone else there, And there's

905
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:33,359
Speaker 2: the rest of the three. A month later, my mom

906
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:36,280
Speaker 2: messaged me again. She sent a huge wall of text

907
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 2: berating me about my wedding. She had numbered points and

908
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 2: I won't copy the whole thing since it's way too long,

909
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 2: but it was basically that she didn't like my new

910
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 2: mother in law. She was hurt that I didn't invite

911
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 2: my family to the bachelorette parties.

912
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,720
Speaker 4: That's not really how bachelorette parties work.

913
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:54,760
Speaker 3: Actually, yeah, that's funny.

914
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, family, unless you're part of the bridal party, you're

915
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 4: not supposed to be at the Brian the bachelorette party,

916
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 4: bachelorette one oh one.

917
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:06,439
Speaker 2: That's the whole point. None of my family knew about

918
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 2: the reception or thought they weren't invited. It was on

919
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 2: the invitation they received.

920
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 4: By that I was about to say that, I'm like,

921
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 4: there's no way that they didn't know what they were

922
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 4: invited to.

923
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:17,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, they were all they couldn't read.

924
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, they couldn't read, and therefore that's your fault.

925
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,880
Speaker 2: She didn't believe that I had a memorial for my father.

926
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 2: I had a framed photo of him in the very

927
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: front row of seats. She said I didn't get my

928
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 2: grandma flowers, I didn't get pictures with my grandparents, and

929
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:34,760
Speaker 2: she claimed I severely damaged my relationship with my family.

930
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 2: Because of all of this, I was dumbfounded. I had

931
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 2: a huge panic attack at work over the idea of

932
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:44,840
Speaker 2: having hurt my grandparents and was shattered emotionally for days. Eventually,

933
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 2: I responded back, giving my explanations and explained my hurt

934
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 2: that she nor a majority of my siblings showed up.

935
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 2: She excused my explanations, saying my grandparents must not have

936
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,280
Speaker 2: told her the whole story, and she didn't come because

937
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: all she does is ruin my life. And because we

938
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:01,839
Speaker 2: had that fight over the car.

939
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 4: Yes, of course we fought over car. And now I

940
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:06,799
Speaker 4: have to miss the biggest day of your life.

941
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 3: And I'm not.

942
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 2: I don't know it. Really, it makes me question her

943
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 2: like illness.

944
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 3: I don't know.

945
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 4: I think that she probably utilizes that illness to her advantage,

946
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 4: the same way that her daughter said, Oh, I'm pregnant,

947
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 4: I can't come to the wedding. I'm pregnant.

948
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 2: It's just yeah, Certainly, she certainly leverages it. I ignored

949
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 2: this and scheduled therapy because I was at a very

950
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 2: low point.

951
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 3: Good for you, op.

952
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:30,839
Speaker 2: She messaged me again just a few days ago, saying

953
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 2: that I needed to pay for the car, she would

954
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 2: accept five thousand, and if I didn't pay, I needed

955
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:37,239
Speaker 2: to bring the car back. There's a little bit more

956
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 2: story here.

957
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,479
Speaker 1: Hey, it's John here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

958
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: Put a quick three minute ad break from our sponsors

959
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:42,359
Speaker 1: that keep the show going.

960
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:46,640
Speaker 4: So, so, five thousand was that what op wanted originally?

961
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 3: Well, that's like the value, that's the blue book value

962
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 3: of the car.

963
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 4: Okay, So first of all, Mom wanted to charge you

964
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,359
Speaker 4: more than the value of the car, and now, after

965
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 4: not going to your wedding, she's finally been talked down

966
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 4: to the value. I don't know, would I think personally

967
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 4: destroy that relationship forever for me if this person missed

968
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 4: my wedding and then was like, okay, well I'll do

969
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 4: what you asked before.

970
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, missed the wedding because of a spat.

971
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 4: Yeah.

972
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 2: And also I don't like your mother in law, So

973
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,720
Speaker 2: your mother in law the worst. Couldn't put that aside

974
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 2: for one day to watch me get married. That's interesting.

975
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 4: Could you could have even had like left early?

976
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 3: Well, the crux, like everyone, the crux.

977
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 2: Of all of this is that the whole agreement was

978
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 2: for you to just borrow the car so that you

979
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 2: could then have a down payment to use on your

980
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 2: own car. And then I mean, after that happens, you

981
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 2: could sell the car and you and use that for

982
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 2: Ava's college fund. Because that was the framing is It's like, oh, well,

983
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 2: you're so you're so bad because this is supposed to

984
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:54,360
Speaker 2: be for your sister's college fund.

985
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:57,280
Speaker 3: But it's like, that's not my responsibility, it's yours.

986
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 4: Yours. Yeah, you should be paying. That should have been

987
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:01,760
Speaker 4: saved up money go to train school.

988
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 2: Come, I'm an electrician, be a millionaire, just do it.

989
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:07,239
Speaker 2: I guess I'm just not sure what to do. That

990
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 2: Chevy ended up having transmission issues and would just stop

991
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:12,800
Speaker 2: in the middle of the road while I was driving.

992
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 2: That's horrifying. I couldn't afford the thousands in repairs, especially

993
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 2: since I just put new tires on it. Dylan advised

994
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:21,399
Speaker 2: me to get a new vehicle so I could still

995
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 2: go to work. He had been suggesting that I get

996
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 2: a new car for a while now because I felt

997
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 2: guilty and disgusting every time I drove the thing, But

998
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,240
Speaker 2: now that it was having issues, I actually had an excuse,

999
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 2: so I traded it in for a used car. What

1000
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 2: do I do?

1001
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,239
Speaker 3: Should I tell my mom I can't pay for a

1002
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 3: car I don't have. Should I pay the thousands for

1003
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 3: the car?

1004
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:42,440
Speaker 2: Anyway? I thought about offering to buy Ava a car

1005
00:44:42,719 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 2: instead in the future, when she can actually drive, So

1006
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 2: that way she would have a better vehicle than the

1007
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 2: Chevy if I had brought it back, and a car

1008
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 2: worth more than five thousand dollars that she could pick

1009
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 2: out herself, while I could continue to build my credit

1010
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 2: as I pay it off. I wanted to consult my

1011
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 2: husband and my therapist before offering. I'm just not sure

1012
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 2: what the best route is to take. Any suggestions would

1013
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 2: be highly appreciated. Thank you to anyone who took the

1014
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 2: time to read this. I hope everyone has a great

1015
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 2: day and that's the end of that story.

1016
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 7: One of us.

1017
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say that you could probably go to

1018
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 2: your mom and be like, look, the car. Thing's not

1019
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:18,440
Speaker 2: going to work. For one I've already traded it in

1020
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 2: for another car, and it had transmission issues anyway, so

1021
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 2: whatever it was worth, it was worthless when it comes

1022
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:27,799
Speaker 2: to Ava, And like a college fund, let's figure out

1023
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:30,399
Speaker 2: something that makes sense. I would love to be able

1024
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 2: to contribute to my little sister's education. Yeah, but I

1025
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 2: can't give you a lump sum of eight grand right now.

1026
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 2: So let's figure out how to make that make sense.

1027
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's got to be another option here.

1028
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 2: Tell Ava, hey, do you know how much a car costs?

1029
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 3: Five thousand?

1030
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 2: Get yourself some summer jobs and start saving up so

1031
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: that when you turn sixteen you can afford a car.

1032
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 2: Being bang boom, you teach your a life skill.

1033
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 4: I mean, she's not even sixteen yet, it's thirteen. She

1034
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 4: doesn't need a car. She's fine.

1035
00:45:58,960 --> 00:45:59,279
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1036
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:01,840
Speaker 2: It sounds like your your mother just really wanted to

1037
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:02,799
Speaker 2: be upset about something.

1038
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:05,439
Speaker 4: I mean the fact that she didn't jump your wedding. Yeah,

1039
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 4: that's pretty clear. But uh, is that the end of

1040
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 4: that story?

1041
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 3: That is the end of that this story.

1042
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 2: And we've got some shiggey giggy commentsgy comments.

1043
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:23,359
Speaker 4: And we've got some comments from the episode. My ex

1044
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 4: boyfriend cheated with his sister e And this was posted

1045
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:34,760
Speaker 4: October seventeenth, twenty twenty five. Oo TLDR says op dated

1046
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 4: the guy for three years and thought he was just

1047
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:42,439
Speaker 4: cheating with random girls. Months after dumping him, Opie saw

1048
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 4: a leaked video online and realized he was actually sleeping

1049
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:52,439
Speaker 4: with his own sister. Hey, their whole town already knew.

1050
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 4: His socials got taken down and the rumors exploded fast.

1051
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 4: Opie is now stuck deciding whether to stay out of

1052
00:46:59,880 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 4: it or expose more while finding out his whole family

1053
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 4: acted super creepy the entire relationship. This story gets darker

1054
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 4: the more you learn, and if you're curious to learn

1055
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 4: the full story, you can go watch the full video.

1056
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 3: Insert Benjo noises, I was terrible.

1057
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 7: I remember that one. That one was a We all went,

1058
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 7: oh lord. We do have some comments here who probably

1059
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 7: would agree with us. I would freaking hope, So yeah,

1060
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,320
Speaker 7: I think we all like, nah, just just try and

1061
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 7: mentally white.

1062
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:35,360
Speaker 6: Roll him in the pit pit, throw them both in

1063
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:37,840
Speaker 6: separate pits, separate pits.

1064
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 7: But we do have some comments here. Comment number one

1065
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 7: from ben I s. Eighty two to seventy nine says, dudes,

1066
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 7: Game of Thrones, Jamie Serus leanister and said, that's what

1067
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 7: I want.

1068
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:50,240
Speaker 4: She seems like a really good idea.

1069
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 2: You shouldn't want that, even though that guy Nicholas Costroweldo

1070
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 2: has really nice hair, He's got great hair, but.

1071
00:47:56,960 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 4: You should have good Rede season five. I don't know

1072
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 4: what happens after.

1073
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's okay if you leave it at that, you

1074
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 7: leave it to assumption. Comment number two by Natasha Murphy

1075
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 7: ninety seven thirty six says, I don't hold my brother's

1076
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:09,800
Speaker 7: hand as an adult. I just don't like that segue.

1077
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 7: But he has grabbed my hand when we were dealing

1078
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 7: with our mom's passing and hug but this was in

1079
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 7: solidarity in our grief, but never just walking out in public.

1080
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 7: But if I dated a guy that did this, I'd

1081
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 7: be so grossed out. I wouldn't want anyone to know

1082
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 7: that I made such a horrible mistake of dating this creepy,

1083
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 7: gross guy.

1084
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:29,319
Speaker 2: I mean, to be fair, you can hold someone's hand

1085
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 2: in public and it's not gross. You're related to you.

1086
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, y'all came out of the same hoho ha.

1087
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 4: I don't know. I think there is a usually a

1088
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:42,320
Speaker 4: pretty clear difference.

1089
00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:44,919
Speaker 7: And Natasha goes on, do you think this whole family

1090
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:45,759
Speaker 7: sleeps with each other?

1091
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 4: I hope not. I hope we don't have any Willy

1092
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:50,399
Speaker 4: Walker type action here.

1093
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,879
Speaker 7: Yeah, and Op said the dad was creepy, his mom

1094
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:55,800
Speaker 7: wanted to sleep on Sun's side of the bed or

1095
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:57,840
Speaker 7: with the son. We know their kids sleeping.

1096
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:58,160
Speaker 2: Ah.

1097
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 7: I don't want to continue this anyway on that. That's gross.

1098
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,439
Speaker 7: We have a couple more comment We've got some more faith.

1099
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 7: Walk says that first story, I thought the X was

1100
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 7: lying about it being his sister Gesh Gesh and comment

1101
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 7: number four by no Need one hundred B seven Z

1102
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,320
Speaker 7: says I would have said this to the police and

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Speaker 7: made an anonymous report, and I'm kind of worried about

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Speaker 7: the mindsets of anyone who wouldn't. This is illegal in

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Speaker 7: most countries for an extremely valid reason. Staying silent in

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Speaker 7: the face of something that's clearly fed up and wrong,

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Speaker 7: just because it's too much effort or not my problem.

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Speaker 7: That could never be me disgusting mindset, disgusting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, I think, but you guys never

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Speaker 2: broke the law before.

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Speaker 3: You guys never been through rules.

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Speaker 4: I think this conference or this situation is a little

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Speaker 4: tricky for Op because apparently everyone in the town knew.

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Speaker 7: I remember that someone sent her the video.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that was the cherry on top.

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Speaker 7: Someone sent Op the video and she was like, I

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Speaker 7: think this closely.

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Speaker 4: I think the I think she did end up actually

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Speaker 4: reporting it maybe I don't remember, but I think the

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Speaker 4: issue with that she was asking about was do I

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Speaker 4: tell his family? And everyone was like, well, they probably

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Speaker 4: already know.

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Speaker 7: I don't even want to get mixed up with that.

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Speaker 7: I wouldn't want to get mixed up with any of that. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: knowing is already half the battle, and I want to

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Speaker 7: lose that war. But that is the end of the

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Speaker 7: comments and the end.

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Speaker 4: Of this episode. So if you love us, make sure

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