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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Mela.

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Speaker 2: Happy Wednesday, Happy Home Day. How's everyone doing out there?

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Speaker 2: And the corn Verer? What corn stratosphere? Corn genus verhear?

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Speaker 3: Don't my him any more?

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Speaker 2: About kay Bird?

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Speaker 3: Sorry? Fuck?

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Speaker 2: I tried.

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Speaker 3: How's it been quarantining going?

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Speaker 1: You know, I've had good days and bad days. I've

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Speaker 1: had some really dark days. Honestly, I've realized that I

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Speaker 1: have really bad anxiety. I mean, I know it that

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Speaker 1: I do, but I've realized that I think I've had

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Speaker 1: it longer than I think I have. And breathing doesn't

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Speaker 1: work anymore. And I tried to go outside yesterday and

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Speaker 1: do some stretches. That shit didn't work either. Get off

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Speaker 1: my phone. That didn't work. So then I took a

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Speaker 1: Xannex and that worked and I felt great.

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Speaker 3: And then she gave me one. I felt great.

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Speaker 2: And now we're Zandy heads.

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Speaker 3: No, honestly, girl, whoo, I was like, this is great.

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Speaker 2: It was excellent.

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Speaker 1: I think I've never really taken them. I remember, like

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Speaker 1: in high school people taking them all the time, like

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Speaker 1: Zandy bars. When I do a Zandy bar, do we're

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Speaker 1: hearing people.

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Speaker 2: Call them them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I never was into pills and neither I

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Speaker 3: actually my cousin gave me one once and I thought

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Speaker 3: I was gonna die. I couldn't keep my head up.

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Speaker 1: I've never been like a pill taker either, so that's

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Speaker 1: why I was like, I don't need it. I don't

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Speaker 1: need it, like I I can't. It's not going to

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Speaker 1: make me feel better. And then I was so desperate,

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Speaker 1: and like my friend felt my desperation. I was like, girl,

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Speaker 1: I think you just need to take that pill. Like

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Speaker 1: she was like, you know, I would never like still

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Speaker 1: tell you to take something, but bitch, you're acting crazy

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Speaker 1: and you need one. So I took half, and the

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Speaker 1: first time I took it, I just felt I ended up.

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Speaker 1: I was so overwhelmed, stressed. I'm just falling asleep because

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Speaker 1: I was already tired. I just sat in a dark

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Speaker 1: room took that, and then like also took tail and

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Speaker 1: all because my head was hurting so bad.

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Speaker 2: And then I just passed out. So I didn't actually

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Speaker 2: know if it worked.

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Speaker 1: And then yesterday because I was feeling all this anxiety,

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Speaker 1: I think it was because it was four twenty and

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Speaker 1: like we had that meet up, we had our like zoom.

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Speaker 1: We had our zoom which went really great, and shout

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Speaker 1: out to everybody that joined. It was really fun mineus

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Speaker 1: like exposing everyone's Wi fi situations because clearly my shit's

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Speaker 1: fucking fucked.

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Speaker 3: He admitted to get that together.

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Speaker 1: And then just like I was just on my phone

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Speaker 1: like posting shit like I don't know whatever, and so

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Speaker 1: I took one. And literally, this is obviously you guys,

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Speaker 1: I'm not endorsing taking pills or xanax or anything.

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Speaker 2: This is I'm just talking about my personal experience, right.

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Speaker 3: This is not an endorsement of taking Santa, but.

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Speaker 1: It really I felt like I could breathe again, because

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Speaker 1: I like, I've realized that a lot of my anxiety

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Speaker 2: I'm constantly catching myself.

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Speaker 1: Holding my breath, and like it's always like me like

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Speaker 1: feeling like that, and then I've learned how to internalize

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Speaker 1: it where I don't even do it outside and I

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Speaker 2: I don't even know how to feel that.

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Speaker 1: Makes any sense, but like I'm catching my breath internally,

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Speaker 1: and then it just kind of stopped and I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, Okay, I can do this. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's how I'm doing.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I've started taking Santic.

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Speaker 3: So what I'm doing is I'm now addicted to Santic.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I mean, girl, I get it, because shit

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Speaker 3: is up and down around these parts. I Mean, one

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Speaker 3: not fine. It's not and then I feel bad. I'm

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Speaker 3: getting I'm getting like irritable with my kid. I'm eating breaks,

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Speaker 3: and then like I'm feeling bad about needing breaks. But

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Speaker 3: then I'm like I need a break. It's fucking homeschool.

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Speaker 3: I actually like lost someone to COVID. I found out

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Speaker 3: over the weekend, and like, honestly, it took a minute

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Speaker 3: to process that, you know what I mean. And the

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Speaker 3: crazy part is like I just saw him in New York.

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Speaker 3: I just we just we saw fun.

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Speaker 1: That's I keep having this visual of like me picking

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Speaker 3: Like he came out, Yeah he was waving.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and he seemed perfectly healthy, perfectly fine. He's an

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Speaker 3: But we went drinking. We went we went dancing, like

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Speaker 3: we went to eat, we went to dinner, like he

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Speaker 3: It's just crazy, Like I really had to like put

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Speaker 3: in perspective, like just life in general, that it's not

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Speaker 3: getting anxiety about the zoom because I was in a

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Speaker 3: can you please take Luna because I need to like

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Speaker 3: take a moment. So I dropped her off and then

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Speaker 3: I came over here, got that xanax. That was fucking amazing,

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Speaker 3: and I cleaned the whole kitchen after I took the

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Speaker 3: xanax and smoked, I was and drank some wine. Definitely

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Speaker 3: don't do all those three things together, but it was great.

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Speaker 1: But how are you feeling? I mean, that's like a

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Speaker 1: lot to process. I mean, I felt like, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: this too like on that like I think, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if it was this last episode, but how I

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Speaker 1: think early on, how like it doesn't really hit you

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Speaker 1: people start to take it more seriously. And that's when

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Speaker 1: you feel like, oh shit, like it's not this government scheme,

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Speaker 1: like people actually are dying whether or not what it

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Speaker 3: But like it's like death is on the line, you know,

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Speaker 3: it's like almost inevitably going to affect you in some

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Speaker 3: don't think he can have a service, Like I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think it's like one person can come or something

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know, and I think there's like there's

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Speaker 1: all those like the Morgue basically, which are these like

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Speaker 1: holding bodies in right now in New York, Like that's

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Speaker 2: Bodies are at right now. Yeah, because you're not going

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Speaker 1: Well, not that they're not going to like funeral homes,

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't think you can have a service because

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Speaker 2: People think it's only cremation.

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Speaker 3: I think it's only cremation. Yeah, this is like really

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean, like all the fucking shit,

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Speaker 3: I felt like intentional that we got to spend that time.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure it's gonna hit me when I go back

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Speaker 3: be like, what's up. But right I am grateful. I

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Speaker 2: Neither a school.

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Speaker 3: I'm I looked it up and t K is not

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Speaker 2: I just it's not even that. I'm just like what

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Speaker 2: I just I mean, I really, I we started a

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Speaker 1: I'm starting a real schedule with her dad because before

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Speaker 1: not even that it's like guys only I don't know.

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Speaker 1: all the time. It's like when you're co parenting with

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Speaker 2: They're never like, hey, I'm gonna come.

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Speaker 1: Get her right now, Like so I'm gonna take her

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Speaker 1: for like Monday, three weds. No, It's like I have

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Speaker 1: to say, like, hey, so it's been ten.

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Speaker 3: Days, what's up.

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Speaker 2: And then he's like he's fine with it.

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Speaker 1: But it's just like I realized that I have to

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Speaker 1: like that's where I'm at right now. And I had

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Speaker 1: I had gotten like a five day break because I

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Speaker 2: I couldn't breathe, and my brain I had a three

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Speaker 2: day headache. I made an appointment to go get tested

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Speaker 2: because I got so stressed out about it.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I couldn't breathe. I stopped smoking, Like yeah,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't in a good place.

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Speaker 3: She stressed out so bad, made an appointment to the

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Speaker 3: fucking appointment because she got the day wrong.

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Speaker 1: Because I was so stressed out. I just couldn't even

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Speaker 1: like I couldn't even I don't even know day was

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Speaker 1: what anymore, honestly. And of course, why would they test

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Speaker 3: I have no clothes, Like maybe because it's an emergency.

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Speaker 3: I was like, you have a test tomorrow on Easter Sunday, okay, whatever,

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Speaker 2: at night. Oh look, I have a fireplace.

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00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:14,200
Speaker 3: Look at this, Look at this outdoor. I can cook,

437
00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:18,639
Speaker 3: I can shove this day. Please stay Honestly, I just

438
00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:21,560
Speaker 3: I just realized that my date happened after your date,

439
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:23,359
Speaker 3: because you told me about your day and you're I

440
00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:26,080
Speaker 3: was like, that sounds great. Did what you did?

441
00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:26,359
Speaker 2: You like?

442
00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:28,840
Speaker 3: That was amazing? I was like, you went where, you

443
00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:33,399
Speaker 3: took a ride in a car, you had mushrooms, and

444
00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:39,560
Speaker 3: a man must go on to one date.

445
00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:40,840
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

446
00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:44,560
Speaker 1: Well so then I, uh, the next day, Yeah, so

447
00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:46,399
Speaker 1: we lounge outside and I was like, I think we

448
00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 1: should go for a drive. So he has a he

449
00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 1: has a top topless.

450
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,880
Speaker 3: He has an old score, old school convertible, but fucking

451
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:56,720
Speaker 3: calling it topless.

452
00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:01,840
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, convertible, corvette convertible, the topless, top down, which

453
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,560
Speaker 1: is so sexy. Sit is so sexy, And like he was,

454
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 1: I was like, let's go for a ride up to Panga.

455
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,399
Speaker 2: So we went up to Panga. But she told me

456
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 2: this so beautiful. The sun was shining. It was like

457
00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,000
Speaker 2: a motherfucking movie. Bitches. Sorry for y'all that are at home.

458
00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:18,120
Speaker 3: I I mean, it is much better to be.

459
00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:19,879
Speaker 1: Like I would if I was in a quarantine, it

460
00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 1: would be here, which I am here. So then he

461
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,479
Speaker 1: literally there was a moment where we're both like, this

462
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 1: feels like a movie like and I was like.

463
00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:30,680
Speaker 3: I know, attention all men with old schools with convertible

464
00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:31,880
Speaker 3: tops in Los Angeles.

465
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,320
Speaker 1: Then we went to because me and Irie in the

466
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Speaker 1: peak of my anxieties before I dropped her off that week,

467
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,280
Speaker 1: I had tried to go to the beach to try

468
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:41,160
Speaker 1: to decompress, and I know I can't go to the beach,

469
00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:43,760
Speaker 1: but I just wanted to go, like, you know, behind

470
00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 1: the caution tape and just look at water. And apparently

471
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,359
Speaker 1: that's illegal too, So I got kicked out of two

472
00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:52,560
Speaker 1: different beaches. But I found this one beach that has

473
00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:54,960
Speaker 1: rocks you can kind of climb down and you don't peat.

474
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,719
Speaker 1: People can't see you off street view, and so we

475
00:21:57,760 --> 00:21:59,880
Speaker 1: went back there. We chilled there for like an hour

476
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:01,639
Speaker 1: in like silence.

477
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 2: Watched the water came back.

478
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 1: Obviously I didn't I'm going passed the Cuddy challenge with him,

479
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:16,159
Speaker 1: so so he definitely got some Cuddy and that was

480
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,439
Speaker 1: amazing too. You know, the last time I did have

481
00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:22,120
Speaker 1: sex with mushrooms wasn't at Coachella last year with him. Yeah,

482
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,119
Speaker 1: and that was the first time I'd ever had sex

483
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 1: on mushrooms.

484
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:29,160
Speaker 3: It's so intense, so like connective.

485
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 1: It's so connective because I just wanted to just be

486
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:38,880
Speaker 1: held anyway and cuddled and it was like two puzzle pieces,

487
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 1: like locking for the first time, and then like it's explosion.

488
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:45,800
Speaker 2: I don't even know how to describe it. It was

489
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 2: just so beautiful.

490
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:52,120
Speaker 1: And the next morning, I've been feeling pretty good ever

491
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:55,520
Speaker 1: since to me, honestly, I mean, besides my little anxiety

492
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:59,639
Speaker 1: asterday where I took overall, I've been feeling better because

493
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 1: every single day I was like on the brink of

494
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 1: like a panic, like like an outward panic attack where

495
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 1: I'm like I can't breathe. So I feel like the

496
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:11,880
Speaker 1: mushrooms helped, the sex helped.

497
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 2: And the little dash of Dan next yesterday.

498
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 3: I agree all of that me too, So you know,

499
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:25,040
Speaker 3: I don't endorse, Okay, so overall overall, I just we

500
00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 3: just want to be clear to everyone who's listening. We

501
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 3: don't endure drugs, we don't endorse breaking quarantine, we do

502
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,480
Speaker 3: not pop Sanni's often. We don't do mushrooms every weekend.

503
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 3: We don't or test less yet, but if you try

504
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:45,200
Speaker 3: and tell us how your experience goes, this is not funny.

505
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:47,880
Speaker 3: But seriously, this is just our experience. We actually don't

506
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:48,479
Speaker 3: do how as we do.

507
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,720
Speaker 1: Call us our call our hotline. It's eight one eight

508
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Speaker 1: mom zero one five four. Leave us a little.

509
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 3: Message jail did they put us in jail for this?

510
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 1: Leave a message on our hotline if you have any

511
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: knotty little quarantine secrets you want to share, or you know,

512
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 1: any mushroom or just like you want to talk about

513
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: your kids because they're bad, Because girl, I got speaking

514
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:10,959
Speaker 1: of kids, I gotta get mine out.

515
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 2: A second, I.

516
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 3: Made Wow, I'm literally splashed me in the bathtub, but

517
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:19,239
Speaker 3: I don't know if it was my accent or not,

518
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 3: and I like flipped out. I was like what the

519
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 3: I was so mad, And then I was like, oh

520
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 3: my god, that was too much.

521
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:26,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, too far.

522
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 3: It's like you are five, And I was just like,

523
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 3: did you not on purpose? She's like yeah, I was exciting,

524
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 3: but I'm like I need to drop you off because

525
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 3: I'm losing my ship. This is not even fair to

526
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 3: you because this is too much.

527
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean I've been playing more.

528
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:44,199
Speaker 1: You know, I have been getting more in touch with

529
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:45,399
Speaker 1: my playful side lately.

530
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 2: I think it's the mushrooms, you know, it is that's

531
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 2: for me to get.

532
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:54,160
Speaker 1: I've been I've been getting more playful, and honestly, cannabis

533
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,439
Speaker 1: really does help me. It really does help me like

534
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: be less. Oh we're speaking of because there was a

535
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 1: moment too, and even Drela and me and Damila were like.

536
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 2: Wait, why did we have kids?

537
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 3: Oh? No, really, it was a real moment.

538
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 2: I was like, we're like wait. I was like, I

539
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 2: don't think I was meant to have kids.

540
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 3: And I was like, I realized what it is with

541
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 3: me is I wanted a baby. I wanted like a

542
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:23,119
Speaker 3: little baby. I like babies. I never liked kids never.

543
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 3: I just only like the babies. And I really and

544
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:27,160
Speaker 3: I knew when I was pregnant and I would see

545
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:30,120
Speaker 3: other kids at like seven and nine, and I was like, ew,

546
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,119
Speaker 3: I was like, mine's not gonna get like that, right,

547
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 3: It's not going to get like I was like, oh god,

548
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 3: it is going to grow. It is and now it's growing, she's.

549
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 2: Growing, and I'm.

550
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 3: Like, oh yeah, I don't even like kids. I like

551
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 3: you your mine, but no, I don't.

552
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 2: Like the act of child playing no.

553
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 3: Honestly, I don't know. She's like, climb with me under

554
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 3: the chair, is like amazed. I was like, I can't

555
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 3: say it. I don't want to know.

556
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 2: Literally, it's something saying no. I don't want to no no.

557
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 2: But in the other you always say no.

558
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 1: Oh.

559
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 2: I was like, she's right now, they know how to communicate,

560
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 2: and I'm.

561
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: Like, I do always say no. I'm like, all right, fine.

562
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 1: She wanted to play airplane. I was like, okay, Erica,

563
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 1: all you have to do is get in this goddamn

564
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,360
Speaker 1: bunk bed. Just go up there and fucking play airplane

565
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: for thirty minutes. So I did it, and I was like, Okay,

566
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: it wasn't that bad. I literally just laid there. She

567
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: was the pilot.

568
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 3: Moms need help. Honestly, I'm like, oh god.

569
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: And then Jamila was like, don't you remember when you

570
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: were a kid and all you wanted was someone to

571
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 1: fucking play with you and you're like why will no

572
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 1: one play? And now you're here and you're like, this

573
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:30,280
Speaker 1: is why.

574
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 3: This is why. It's fucking annoying.

575
00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 2: The most strangest thing has ever.

576
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:38,439
Speaker 3: Happened to me. Honestly, Oh God, active having kids.

577
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,120
Speaker 1: And I never liked, Oh my god, I do love

578
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: my baby and her birthday's coming up, her birthdays on Saturday,

579
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 1: my baby's turning five.

580
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 2: It's all too much to handle. I can't take it.

581
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm grinding the way to know.

582
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,719
Speaker 1: I can't take it. And I've cried a few times

583
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 1: because of it. Like she was sleeping and I was

584
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: just looking at her, and I just can't believe how

585
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 1: grown she is, how quickly it's gone. You know, these

586
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:07,400
Speaker 1: moments are flying by, Like I hope she like thinks

587
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: I'm a cool mom.

588
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 2: I hope I'm not saying no all the time.

589
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: I hope, like, like the damage that it will inevitably

590
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 1: be done hasn't already been done.

591
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 2: Like there's all these things like you're thinking.

592
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, is it the fact that I say no?

593
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 1: Is that what she's gonna think when she's Olderly, my

594
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: mom never wanted to do shit with me. I was

595
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: Then someone posted a meme that like, your kids talk

596
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 1: about themselves, talk to themselves?

597
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,200
Speaker 2: How you talk to I was like, oh my god,

598
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:36,399
Speaker 2: what do I say to her?

599
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: What's her inner voice? Like it was so much. I

600
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,959
Speaker 1: just literally started crying. And then like another thing happened,

601
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: like her dad came to my mom's house and we've

602
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 1: been hating, we were chilling, like we've.

603
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 2: Been getting along hallelujah and uh and I've had so

604
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 2: many people in my damns. Are you guys gonna get

605
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 2: back together?

606
00:27:57,920 --> 00:27:59,160
Speaker 3: Are you getting really? Yes?

607
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 2: Alone just because like you're friendly to someone one time?

608
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:09,239
Speaker 1: So he he he drove me home because my car

609
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: died at my mom's and so he had your lights on.

610
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 1: I don't know, bitch's my car driven? But yeah, again

611
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 1: it died, and so we had to drive me home.

612
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: And on the way home, she was like, Daddy, play

613
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: that song. Play that song. He's like, oh, our song?

614
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 1: And he played the song was Barney. She's never asked

615
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: me to play Barney ever. I didn't even know she

616
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 1: knew who Barney was, bitch, I didn't even know she

617
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: knew a Barney song. She knew every fucking word. And

618
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: I got like sad because I felt like like she's

619
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: living this other life with her dad without me that

620
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 1: I'm not involved in that. I don't know what's going

621
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: on over there.

622
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I didn't. I didn't know you liked

623
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 3: the Barney song.

624
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I kind of felt like I don't know, like

625
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: you know, when you you know, like when you when

626
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: I had when I had Iri, like I knew me

627
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 1: and him were gonna be together, like we were gonna

628
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: do this all together.

629
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 2: I was gonna know what their relationship was, like I

630
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 2: didn't know. Of course, they'd have little.

631
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 1: Things that they don't know about, but for the most part,

632
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: it's our thing, and like it really made it clear

633
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 1: that there is no r thing and it's their thing

634
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 1: and our thing, and it just it made me kind

635
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: of sad, like for real, and I was like, fuck,

636
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 1: like I don't know anything about the relationship really, I

637
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: mean besides the little things that she tells me, you know.

638
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:27,719
Speaker 2: So anyway, she's turning five the end.

639
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,479
Speaker 3: On the contrary, I mean, my favorite daddy's been been

640
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 3: acting completely fucking asshole for the usual, and I realized

641
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 3: as you're telling this story, is that it's really that

642
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 3: when we are not getting along and he's trying to

643
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 3: stress me out, it really intensifies my anxiety in fucking

644
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 3: quarantine and like if I'm feeling guilty if I have

645
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 3: to drop her off, if like like, oh my God,

646
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 3: he did the most evil shit. He hadn't He fucking

647
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 3: had her send me a video basically saying you're you're

648
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 3: a liar. You said you're gonna come pick me up, liar, liar,

649
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 3: And I was like, why would you allow why would

650
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 3: you even like help her make this video and send

651
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 3: to me instead of being like, you know, mommy has

652
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 3: to work or whatever. He's like, she did it herself.

653
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,360
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, and then she sent it. Yeah, exactly.

654
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 2: But I was trying to be.

655
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 3: Cool at in the beginning of quarantine, partially because I

656
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 3: was panicking that I didn't know any men, and then

657
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 3: I wasn't gonna be protected. But then it dawned on

658
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 3: me that there's no protection provided here at all, no security.

659
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 3: I am the security, so I separated myself and then

660
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 3: upon doing that, like he's been acting, he's just being

661
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 3: an asshole, but I'm used to that, like disrespectful. But

662
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 3: then I just blocked him. I've just blocked him and

663
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 3: not unblocked him ever since, and I don't give a

664
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 3: fuck about it. I've been feeling great actually ever since.

665
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 2: I did it.

666
00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:47,719
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, because there's no reason for him

667
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 1: to reach you, unless he's with unless you needed to

668
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: touch her.

669
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, so what she did with me like me like,

670
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 3: maybe I'll call him, you know, but I'm not.

671
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 2: I'm not.

672
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 3: You're not gonna further fucking stress me out. I'm already

673
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 3: gonna like pain, you know, So I'm just like you

674
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 3: get cut off. So I realized, like I have to

675
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 3: really pick and choose what I'm stressing about and who

676
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 3: I'm allowing to stress me out. Even sometimes like people

677
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: are calling me and I can't answer because I don't

678
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 3: have the energy to hear one story about shit. Like

679
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 3: I'm usually the person who wants to, like, you know,

680
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 3: interact and help other people, but like, yeah, it's too

681
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 3: much energy, it's too much. At some point, I have

682
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 3: to like be selective because I'm glad you're doing that.

683
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 2: That's good. I'm glad you're doing that because it's true.

684
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 2: It's hard, it's really hard.

685
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 1: And I think when you I think that this staying

686
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 1: at home will highlight your need for that because you're

687
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 1: with yourself so much more.

688
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 2: There's no escape.

689
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 1: Yes, Like if people throw their shit at you, you're

690
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 1: sitting there at home with their shit.

691
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 3: Girl, This this shit has taught me so much more

692
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: like how much I can feel people's energy impeding on

693
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 3: my own because we're not going anywhere. I can't go

694
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 3: anywhere I can literally, you can't go release it somewhere else, right,

695
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 3: And because you're not around that many people, you're really

696
00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 3: noticing how shit may make you feel once it enters

697
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 3: your zone, you know. And oh, one more thing, do

698
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 3: you think that I'm quarantine has made you like okay?

699
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 3: Do you think quarantine makes us like love people more?

700
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 3: Because I'm like, am I feeling this guy because I

701
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 3: haven't been touched in like fucking two months, or because like,

702
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 3: are we valuing togetherness more and being in isolation?

703
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 2: Or is it this?

704
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 1: I think at first I did feel that way. When

705
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 1: I first started quarantining, I felt like, I mean, I

706
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 1: think that's really why I started talking to Happy Bay again.

707
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I literally was like, I love you,

708
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 1: let's be together. But now I'm just like, actually, I'm good,

709
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 1: I'm okay.

710
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 2: But I think it goes.

711
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:42,480
Speaker 1: It goes in waves like ebbs and flows of like

712
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 1: I want to be alone. So I'm so grateful that

713
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: I'm single because I don't have to be up under

714
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 1: someone every fucking day. And look at their face every day.

715
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 1: You know, that's cute for a minute, but then I'm like,

716
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: I need to be free, and then you can't be free. Actually,

717
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,239
Speaker 1: I really like I feel for the married people out

718
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 1: there because y'all don't really get a break. Like thank

719
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 1: god for co parenting, because I get to drop her

720
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: off and don't fucking call me and ask me what

721
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm doing, but not.

722
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 3: Only just drop her off. That's why I asked you

723
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,560
Speaker 3: that in the kitchen, like I was asking you about

724
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 3: do you think you get bored with people easily? Because

725
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 3: I was thinking, like, my single life is so lit.

726
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 3: That's like like I don't really want to be around

727
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 3: anybody all the time.

728
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 2: That's what I mean. Like it'd be nice to like

729
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 2: quarantine with someone for like five days and then like

730
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 2: gome out. Yeah no, for real, I know, I know

731
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 2: I think about that too.

732
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 3: Oh okay, Well, my thing about my date, so the

733
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 3: first time he went out, like he's kind of nerdy,

734
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 3: he's forty three, he guys no kids, like, and he's

735
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 3: very respectful and he's not pressed you know about like

736
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 3: fucking and stuff. But we make out really nice. But

737
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 3: I was rolling, so I was being really honest and stuff.

738
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 3: So I was like, oh, so, what's your porn categories?

739
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 3: So I've been doing a lot of masturbating over there

740
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 3: because quarantine whatever. And he was telling me his categories

741
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: and he was like, yeah, like Brazilian Athletic BBC. I

742
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 3: mean yeah, And I was like BBC's yeah. Like so

743
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 3: I can imagine myself in this scenario. So I was like,

744
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 3: are you BBC?

745
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 2: And he was like obviously yeah.

746
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 3: He's like, well, do you know, mister Marcus? And I

747
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,919
Speaker 3: was like, my dick looks just like yeah. Literally kind

748
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 3: of as soon as I got home, even though six

749
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 3: o'clock in the morning, I was like, mister Marcus's keenness. Oh,

750
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,800
Speaker 3: I was like yes, because I don't know why I

751
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 3: was assuming he's nerdy. Maybe he was a very sexual,

752
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 3: maybe he didn't have a big dick. But when he

753
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 3: said that, plus like the drugs and the human interaction

754
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 3: and the lights in the city and the drive and

755
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 3: the adventure, I was like, oh my goodness, this could

756
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 3: be it. But also me being psycho and me being

757
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:41,840
Speaker 3: a woman in my vagina makes me crazy. So anyway,

758
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 3: I just had to add that just in case anybody

759
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 3: needed to know.

760
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:48,279
Speaker 2: I needed to know that it's very cute. I'm gonna

761
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 2: go look up mister Marcus's dick so I know what

762
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 2: your hinge dates.

763
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: Dick looks like let's call him Camper Bay.

764
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 2: He camped camper Bay.

765
00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 3: He's like a like a wilding wilderness bay, camp wilderness.

766
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: There's too many words.

767
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 3: Wild Bay's outdoor bay. Okay, he'll be outdoor bay, outdoor bay.

768
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 3: He's very outdoorsy. He like his dog has snowshoes, and

769
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 3: he goes camping where there's no camp site. You just

770
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 3: like just drive into wilderness and pitch a steak.

771
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:19,399
Speaker 2: He has a tent and shit's fun.

772
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 3: I like that me too. That's why I'm like, oh,

773
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 3: this is.

774
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:26,439
Speaker 2: Gonna be funing your future together. Oh, because it's gonna

775
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 2: be so fun. I can't wait. Well, I'm just kidding.

776
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 3: If you talked really deeply, he's asked me serious questions.

777
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 3: If I want a boyfriend, if I want a friend,

778
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 3: what does he want? He's it the same. He's like

779
00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 3: he would like to like have somebody. He hasn't been

780
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 3: in very many relationships, and he's never oh god, he's

781
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 3: never been in love.

782
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 2: Virgo my dad, Oh my god, I know now, Erica.

783
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 3: He's a virgo, and now he's carrying the fucking shit

784
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 3: out of me that virgos are the worst people ever.

785
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 2: They don't they hold a grudge. I bet someone hurt

786
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 2: him and he like can't fall in love.

787
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 3: Well, that's the cool thing is that he thinks. We

788
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 3: had really long conversations. He told me his whole life's story,

789
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:03,879
Speaker 3: like from before he was born till now to He's

790
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 3: like just so before he was born, his parents, where

791
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:08,360
Speaker 3: his parents come from. Oh, I'm like does he and

792
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 3: he just is basically like I just want you to know,

793
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 3: like when you deal with me when things come up

794
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 3: where like if things do come up, where they're stemming from.

795
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 3: And I was like, wow, this seems very fucking healthy

796
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,479
Speaker 3: and irrational and like maybe you're in a therapy or something.

797
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 1: Well, I'll just say this, you are an amazing person

798
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 1: and you are are extremely empathetic. So when things come

799
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 1: up that are red flags, let them be red flags.

800
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 1: Don't be trying to like heal shit and like well

801
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: it's just that one time or like that's just who

802
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 1: he is, and I accept, no, bitch, Like, let's just

803
00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 1: really try to Like I'm gonna encourage everyone, including myself

804
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,760
Speaker 1: to ignore the red flags.

805
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 3: Yes, oh my god.

806
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 2: Oh.

807
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 3: I even asked him a question because he said some

808
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 3: of those hot springs are clothing optional, because I was like,

809
00:36:58,239 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 3: I really like being naked. I was like, okay, so

810
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 3: if you go to the hot springs with your friends, okay,

811
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 3: and it's clothing option one, I don't want to wear

812
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 3: a shirt. How do you feel about that?

813
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:06,399
Speaker 2: You know what he's saying.

814
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 3: It's like, I mean, they're just nipples.

815
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:08,959
Speaker 2: Thank god. Okay.

816
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: He says that, I'm not trying to scare you.

817
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 2: I just mean, like virgos not.

818
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 1: And there's other things involved obviously besides his sign, but

819
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:20,839
Speaker 1: I just sounds so la.

820
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 2: I just say that like they're very.

821
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,760
Speaker 1: Stuck in their ways once they've made a decision about something.

822
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 1: Even if they try to act like they're cool, they're

823
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 1: not really that cool. Even Matt, like my ex that

824
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:35,399
Speaker 1: we interviewed a few weeks ago, he's still very much

825
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,719
Speaker 1: who is who he is and who he was then.

826
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 1: You know, they barely rarely change the way they think

827
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 1: about people and things. So if he did have a

828
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 1: booby thing before, you're not gonna come in here and

829
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: change switch it up for him.

830
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 2: Most likely, I would say, but maybe he doesn't have

831
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 2: a booby thing. Maybe that's not a booby thing. A

832
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 2: booby maybe is not a booby thing. Maybe he's told

833
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:56,880
Speaker 2: maybe he's already made up his mind about tits and

834
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 2: he doesn't give a fuck about him. No, let's pray

835
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,879
Speaker 2: for that. I'm gonna put those I'm gonna put good

836
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 2: titty vibes in the world for you.

837
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 3: Thanks, Thanks, Erica. And then after this conversation, I immediately

838
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 3: text him, Hey, do you know what time you were born?

839
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 3: Totally normal? He's like, uh no, but I could look

840
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 3: it up.

841
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 2: I told you, well, he needs to get with the time.

842
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 2: He needs to know what's happening out here. It's fine,

843
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 2: it's fine normal.

844
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:22,359
Speaker 3: It's like, it's totally normal. Just ask him. And then

845
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:23,800
Speaker 3: like and he's like, I could look it up. I

846
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 3: was like, oh cool, just let me know. I want

847
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 3: to get a chance.

848
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: I totally make people will look it up. I made

849
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 1: I made happy by asked his mom. I was like,

850
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 1: ask your mom.

851
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 2: We've been out.

852
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:34,919
Speaker 3: I mean, like, even though I've already announced that it's deep,

853
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:38,360
Speaker 3: so deep. Yeah, do you think it's just going to

854
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 3: be asking his natal chart? I don't know, but it's happening.

855
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:41,320
Speaker 2: That's happening.

856
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 3: I'll keep you guys posted.

857
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:47,320
Speaker 2: So before we leave, let's just do a horror story.

858
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 2: It's been a while, it has been a while, so

859
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,320
Speaker 2: we got this horri in on our hotline.

860
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 3: Guys.

861
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 2: If you guys again haven't called in or text our hotline,

862
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 2: make sure you hit us up. It's eight one eight.

863
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 2: Mom is your one, and you can confess, leave a message,

864
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 2: write a text, or just slide into our dams with

865
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 2: the horries. Whatever you want.

866
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 3: But this was a good short, quickie one guess I'm

867
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 3: a whore or how whatever, but my confession is my

868
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 3: best friend Blank kissed me and opened up a whole

869
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Speaker 3: slew of emotions and desires. Long story short, We went

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Speaker 3: to Saint Lucia in twenty nineteen to celebrate our fortieth

871
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Speaker 3: birthdays and fucked and haven't stopped, unbeknownst to our husbands

872
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Speaker 3: because still because we still like fucking them too. Sounds

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Speaker 3: good to me. I mean, I don't know why anyone's

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Speaker 3: husband's going to complain about that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's a hope and open mind to their husband.

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Speaker 1: They are like, do they want their wives fucking? They're

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Speaker 1: probably gonna be like, they're probably gonna want to fuck

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Speaker 1: too too.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, some guys are not into that. I actually asked

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Speaker 3: him about that. I was like, yeah, like if you

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Speaker 3: want to just like bring someone home from the club

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Speaker 3: or whatever, you know, Like he was like, you're into that.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I mean, you know, maybe, yeah. I

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Speaker 3: mean actually a lot of guys are not into it.

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Speaker 3: A lot of guys are threatened by lesbian That's what

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Speaker 3: I mean.

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Speaker 2: They have to be they'd have to be involved, it wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: They couldn't just let it happen. They'd have to.

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Speaker 1: Then one of the husbands is gonna want to fuck

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Speaker 1: the other girl, and then the other husband's gonna get

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Speaker 1: mad because the other husband fucked his wife and oh okay, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: We don't do it like one at a time or yeah, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't know, it's better off just keep it a secret.

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Speaker 2: That's really sexy. I like that little secret.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is kind of the sexy.

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Speaker 2: It's a sexy, sexy secret.

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Speaker 3: We're not encouraging you to cheat on your husband's and

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Speaker 3: not tell them, but kind of.

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Speaker 2: So there's a lot of not encouraging things in this episode.

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Speaker 3: Actually, we don't endorse any of this episode at all.

901
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Speaker 3: And this should be called we don't endorse this shit.

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Speaker 3: We do it, we don't endorse it, just.

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Speaker 2: So you know Anya. Anyway, anyway, guys, we will see

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Speaker 2: you guys next week. Have a great week inside and

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Speaker 2: you know, maybe try to get outside. Go for a walk,

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Speaker 2: go to the beach if you have one, the.

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Speaker 3: Lake, the forest, the fucking backyard, to some nature, some mushrooms, and.

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Speaker 2: We'll catch you on the flip side. Bye, nice, thank you.

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Speaker 2: I'll write up

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Speaker 3: M