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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is to figure out what specific barriers are

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Speaker 1: keeping you from doing something that you'd like to do.

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Speaker 1: When you know what's stopping you, you might be able

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Speaker 1: to solve the problem. Hopefully, you are the sort of

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Speaker 1: gung hope person who makes whatever you want in life

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Speaker 1: happen immediately. Alas when it comes to minor irritations, many

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Speaker 1: of us have a tendency to make do or to

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Speaker 1: just muddle along. Maybe there's a way to improve the situation,

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Speaker 1: but it's not so terrible, so well, onward we go.

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Speaker 1: I can think of a few of these situations in

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Speaker 1: my own life. For instance, I've been feeling rather sleep

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Speaker 1: deprived lately. I blame the toddler. I realized I needed

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Speaker 1: to go to bed earlier because of the toddler's early mornings,

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Speaker 1: but getting the big kids to bed pushed my bedtime

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Speaker 1: later into the evening. But I thought about it, what

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Speaker 1: was actually stopping me from going to bed earlier. I

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Speaker 1: realized I could make sure my part of the six

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Speaker 1: year olds bedtime routine was done earlier. On weeknights, I

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Speaker 1: could take the older children's phones at nine o'clock too.

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Speaker 1: Then my husband could make sure everyone had the lights

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Speaker 1: out at a reasonable time, and on weekends he could

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Speaker 1: get the six year old to bed solo as well.

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Speaker 1: That seems like a reasonable trade off if I am

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Speaker 1: the one waking up at five am with the toddler.

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Speaker 1: Once I figured that out, I went to sleep by

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Speaker 1: PM several nights in a row, and wow, if you

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Speaker 1: go to bed at you feel fine at five, even

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Speaker 1: if you've been up once in the night. When I

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Speaker 1: realized that I didn't have to oversee all bedtimes, this

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Speaker 1: opened up possibilities. Maybe you can identify a specific barrier

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Speaker 1: that is keeping you from doing something. You'd like to

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Speaker 1: write in the mornings, but you use the twenty minutes

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Speaker 1: before your kids get up to make lunches. Here's an idea.

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Speaker 1: What if you don't make lunches, what if people buy

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Speaker 1: or make their own. If that is a specific barrier,

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Speaker 1: you can dispatch with it and get your time back.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you want to go to the gym, but it

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Speaker 1: always seems inconvenient. Well, what if you did workout videos

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Speaker 1: at home, or what if you joined a gym that

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Speaker 1: you actually drove past on your way to and from work. Now,

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Speaker 1: just to lay it out here, Sometimes we realize the

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Speaker 1: barriers are mostly in our heads. Maybe you want to

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Speaker 1: have family dinners, but you don't get home from work

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Speaker 1: until six thirty. Say you assume it's impossible, But what

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Speaker 1: if you all ate later. There is no law that

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Speaker 1: family dinner has to happen at six. What if you

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Speaker 1: still considered it family dinner if you ordered in or

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Speaker 1: eight a rotisserie chicken and bagged salad picked up during

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Speaker 1: a five minute stop at the supermarket. Consider what is

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Speaker 1: actually stopping you? If it is just that, well, everyone

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Speaker 1: knows that you can't do X or, but we've always

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Speaker 1: done why, Well, I can assure you there is someone

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Speaker 1: on this planet of seven billion people doing things differently

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Speaker 1: and doing just fine. Maybe you can work it out too.

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Speaker 1: If you realize you've been telling yourself that you have

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Speaker 1: to join the gym that's further away because it's fifteen

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Speaker 1: dollars a month cheaper, Well, you don't save money when

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Speaker 1: you never use something. Or maybe you dig deep and

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Speaker 1: realize you chose the far away jim because you want

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Speaker 1: an excuse not to go. I am not judging. This

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Speaker 1: is all about figuring out the specific barriers, because once

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Speaker 1: you know what is stopping you, you can decide to

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Speaker 1: either do something about it or recognize that you can't

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Speaker 1: do anything about it, or maybe you just don't want to.

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Speaker 1: But whatever choice it is, this can be mentally clarifying.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with

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