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Speaker 1: I did not get a BBL. What don't worry abody,

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Speaker 1: just go with it, dead ass.

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Speaker 2: Bruh.

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Speaker 3: Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devout and we're the Ellis's.

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Speaker 1: You may know us from posting funny videos with our boys.

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Speaker 2: And reading each other publicly as a form of therapy.

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Speaker 1: Wait, I make you need therapy most days.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.

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Speaker 1: Yes, sir, we are. We created this podcast to open

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Speaker 1: dialogue about some of Li's most taboo topics.

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Speaker 2: Things most folks don't want to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Through the lens of a millennial married couple. Dead ass

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Speaker 1: is a term that we say every day. So when

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Speaker 1: we say dead ass, we're actually saying facts one hundred

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Speaker 1: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

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Speaker 1: Were about to take philos off to our whole new level.

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Speaker 2: Dead ass starts right now, all right, So you didn't

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Speaker 2: get a BBL.

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Speaker 1: What No, I didn't get a BBM is.

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Speaker 2: The word on the street, because you know that's.

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Speaker 1: Not the word on the street. But I had to

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Speaker 1: bring that out because I'm a little offended, okay, because

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Speaker 1: you would gain weight then you lost it, and everybody

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Speaker 1: was just like oh, I think Kadeen got to BBL.

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Speaker 1: She got to beat me down. I gain't wait, I

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Speaker 1: lost it. Ain't nobody say nothing. Ain't nobody said, oh

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Speaker 1: if I look good, he got a b BL.

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Speaker 2: Nobody sawers.

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Speaker 1: No, ain't nobody giving me my flowers?

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Speaker 2: Was given a flowers.

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Speaker 1: I'm tight. I'm tight.

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Speaker 2: You should have did it before and after something I

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Speaker 1: You know, that's the problem. I didn't. I didn't do

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Speaker 3: You know what, you know, I had to post a

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Speaker 3: receipt to for what after? For Mother's Day. If you

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Speaker 3: go to my Mother's Day post, right, it's me, my grandmother,

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Speaker 3: my mom. The very last slide of that post is

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Speaker 1: I've seen it stacked.

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Speaker 3: So if there was ever a question of where I

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Speaker 2: But anyway, back to your BBO.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, pops, my pops are stacked. So that's what I

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no. So this is the story's a

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Speaker 1: Twenty twenty one was the first year we moved here,

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Speaker 1: I was dead serious.

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Speaker 4: Then running right now, A work to it.

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Speaker 2: Now, stop screaming and triples mike a bad trouble.

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna discuss. While I was singing the rocky theme, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, that's sure as hell wouldn't be feeling

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Speaker 2: Aast the funk out.

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Speaker 1: So now we're back.

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Speaker 3: Yes, maybe nobody's appreciating you a little fatty you got

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Speaker 2: Maybe?

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Speaker 1: First of all, I don't got it fatty, all right, man,

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Speaker 1: No man wants a muscle, Yeah, I got.

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Speaker 3: It back there because I don't particularly like a flat ass,

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Speaker 3: neither on the man. But I don't like a fat

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Speaker 1: My ass could never be in competition with yours. Ever

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Speaker 1: that thing back there, God, that's whoo one of my

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Speaker 1: now thinking about it. If I can't sing you on Patreot,

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Speaker 1: the Donna's creed, they that was like the most ripped

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Speaker 1: be like that ripped, that oiled up right, and it

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Speaker 3: If Val had the opportunity to walk around shirtless every

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Speaker 2: I would.

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Speaker 1: But there's some problems here. What's that problems? Is your family?

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Speaker 2: My family?

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Speaker 1: Yes, your family. I'm glad we're talking about this so

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Speaker 1: I can tell y'all how the sabotage happens in this house.

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Speaker 1: What I'd be on the treadmill, your pops, come tap

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Speaker 1: me on the shoulder. Let me buy you a drink.

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Speaker 1: I'm on the treadmill. He wants me to have a

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Speaker 2: That he'd be like, let me buy you a drink

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Speaker 1: To buy me a drink, right, but it don't stop there.

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Speaker 2: He'd be stocking it though.

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Speaker 1: It don't stop there, stock it. When I come home

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Speaker 1: from my trips, Who'll be in the kitchen making oxtail,

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Speaker 1: lesign ya.

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Speaker 2: All his favorites, your fish, stewl chicken.

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Speaker 1: Your moms be.

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Speaker 2: Be taking good care of you, your moms.

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Speaker 3: She'd be like, what do you think the al will

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Speaker 2: Because he was in Toronto.

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Speaker 1: For six weeks.

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Speaker 2: She rolled out all of it. She sent me to

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Speaker 2: go buy dog. Still to do all this feet for

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Speaker 3: It's been away all this time, and and gett no

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Speaker 3: home cooked food, trying to have Jamaican food, but they

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Speaker 1: the time, right, and I'm not complaining? What is?

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Speaker 3: What is?

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Speaker 1: Then your pops want to buy me drinks with my

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Speaker 1: Then your kids? Your kids? Why am I missing it?

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Speaker 1: Your kids got all these snacks in the pantry, bro.

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Speaker 3: It's a detriment to me too, though not just you,

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Speaker 1: Feeding Will you be feeding me snacks late at night?

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Speaker 1: I go in there take my hit from my blunt

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Speaker 1: rice Krispy trees. Them. Shit's got a hold on me, yo.

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Speaker 1: It don't matter what night it is, it don't matter

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Speaker 1: And I hear them. I hear them in the pantry

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Speaker 1: I just gotta go get one or two, like.

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Speaker 2: The devil's on your shoulder.

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Speaker 3: It is.

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Speaker 1: It's bad.

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Speaker 3: And the kids more recently, like Jackson came out one day,

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Speaker 2: They hadn't been eating them.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. You know, how do you go to

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Speaker 3: I said, before I fast on these kids, let me

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Speaker 2: Almost eight half that box by yourself?

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Speaker 1: Yep, they got a hold on me. I ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: Love that for us.

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Speaker 1: You look?

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Speaker 2: You look trying to get popping again.

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Speaker 1: you feel full faster period. Adding vinegard to your diet

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Speaker 1: can increase weight loss. One study found that a mere

443
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Speaker 1: fifteen to thirty milli leads one to two tablespools of

444
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Speaker 1: vinegar daily reduce his body weight, belly fat, and waste

445
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Speaker 1: circumference over a three month period. According to one study,

446
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Speaker 1: adding vinegar to your diet will reduce your daily caloric

447
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Speaker 1: intake by two hundred and seventy five calories.

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Speaker 2: That's the fact.

449
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Speaker 3: I used to do shots of apple sided vinegurance in

450
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Speaker 3: the morning.

451
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Speaker 2: But be careful with that, y'all.

452
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Speaker 3: Make sure that when you do drink it now and

453
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Speaker 3: you brush your teeth right after or rinse your mouth.

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Speaker 2: Teeth. Yep.

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Speaker 1: While it may seem counterintuitive, eating healthy fats can help

456
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Speaker 1: burn belly fat by making you feel full of faster,

457
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Speaker 1: which mitigates the risk of future weight gain. That's what

458
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Speaker 1: people say keto is or the Atkins diet. But it

459
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Speaker 1: also makes weight loss easier because you will be less

460
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Speaker 1: tempted to overreach. Try adding fatty food to your diets,

461
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Speaker 1: such as fatty tuna, salmon, almonds, olive oil, and whole milk.

462
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Speaker 3: I love a quarter avocado. That's also really good. Yes,

463
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Speaker 3: you do have peanut butter two.

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Speaker 2: Yep.

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Speaker 1: Another simple change you can make to burn belly fat

466
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Speaker 1: is to make healthier beverage choices. Drinking more water is

467
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Speaker 1: also wow, Josh, Wow, Josh, y'all heard that. I hope

468
00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:02,680
Speaker 1: we keep all of this stuff in here, so y'all

469
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 1: can hear what be going on here? Doing this podcast

470
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Speaker 1: to feel like.

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Speaker 2: You're in the room, so you clearly are getting all

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Speaker 2: the room tones.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, triubled with slamming toys on the ground, kicking our

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Speaker 1: kids toys. They're going off now, Josh here taking phone

475
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Speaker 1: calls in the middle of the podcast sorright.

476
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Speaker 2: He's watching YouTube.

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Speaker 1: Okay, drink Drinking more water is always a good idea,

478
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Speaker 1: especially since often especially since often we mistake thirst for hunger.

479
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Speaker 1: You've been drinking a ship of water.

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Speaker 3: It's true, y'all. It's true. And it's to the point

481
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Speaker 3: now where my I feel feel like my my palette

482
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Speaker 3: is starting to shift where I will. I can't even

483
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Speaker 3: drink juice like I used to, even some wines like

484
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Speaker 3: things like that.

485
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Speaker 2: I can't.

486
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Speaker 3: Is it either too sweet or certain foods or too salty.

487
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Speaker 3: Now it's like when you start to kind of train

488
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Speaker 3: your body and train your mind. But again, I don't

489
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Speaker 3: deprive myself. Like I said, I'm gonna eat the big bag.

490
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna eat the rice crispy treat all.

491
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Speaker 1: If I'm gonna let you finish, and the barbecue chips

492
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Speaker 1: Kanye west'nna let you finish. But this is about my bee.

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Speaker 1: Yeah sorry, And this is for the gentleman. Is for

494
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Speaker 1: the gentleman, because I also get a lot of dms

495
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Speaker 1: from men and women, women asking me, Hey, I want

496
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Speaker 1: my husband to get back in shape. What can I

497
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Speaker 1: do to help him feel the need or want to

498
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Speaker 1: get back in shape without offending him. And then I

499
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Speaker 1: get it from men too, just like yo, what's your

500
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:25,680
Speaker 1: workout plan? So realistically, there are a lot of people

501
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Speaker 1: who are asking for men as well, but we don't

502
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Speaker 1: talk about it a lot. Like you said before, it's

503
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 1: always seemed like the own this is always on women

504
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 1: to like snap back right, and it's almost like dad bodes.

505
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Speaker 1: And there was also a picture that came out on

506
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Speaker 1: Instagram of a man and his girl and she was

507
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Speaker 1: just like before we started dating and now that we're engaged.

508
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Speaker 1: And in the first part he had a six pack

509
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Speaker 1: and he was smiling, and in the second part he

510
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Speaker 1: didn't have a six pack no more. He was smiling,

511
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 1: and people were just like, oh, you can tell he's happy.

512
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Speaker 1: But here's the thing. Come, why is it okay for

513
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Speaker 1: a man to fall out of shape? And they say

514
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Speaker 1: it's because he's had But if a woman does it,

515
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:04,119
Speaker 1: it's like, nah, she got to keep herself together for

516
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Speaker 1: her man. And the truth of the matter is is

517
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Speaker 1: that this idea that women don't mind you falling out

518
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Speaker 1: of shape when you're happy is not real. It's not

519
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 1: like some women like a different type of man in

520
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Speaker 1: the way they look and I'm not talking about those women.

521
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Speaker 1: I'm talking about the women who met a man who

522
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Speaker 1: was in shape in the gym all the time, and

523
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Speaker 1: now he chooses not to go anymore because he'd rather

524
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Speaker 1: be at home and be with his girl, which I understand.

525
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Speaker 1: But that woman still wants you to look the way

526
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Speaker 1: that she saw you, the way she fell in love

527
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Speaker 1: with you, the way she lusted for you. And I

528
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Speaker 1: think it's okay for men to be like, nah, I'm

529
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Speaker 1: keeping myself up because I want my wife to still

530
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Speaker 1: look at me that way. I am not gonna lie

531
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Speaker 1: to you. Yo. When I had gained weight and kind

532
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Speaker 1: of got out of shape and looked at myself in

533
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Speaker 1: the mirror, I didn't like the way I looked. I

534
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 1: just didn't feel strapping. I didn't feel like it's gonna

535
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: sound crazy, but I didn't feel like a protector, right.

536
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Speaker 1: I felt like a little soft, like if somebody came

537
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Speaker 1: in the house and I had to wrest with some

538
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 1: guys for something, I would lose, you know what I'm saying.

539
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 1: So I was like, I gotta get back into my bag,

540
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 1: and I want to talk to the gentleman and be like, yo,

541
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Speaker 1: it is okay to get back in your bag. It

542
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 1: is okay to take an hour out of your day

543
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,639
Speaker 1: every day and be like, yo, baby, you got the kids,

544
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:13,560
Speaker 1: or it's just you. I gotta go to the gym,

545
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 1: or if you got a gym downstairs, or if you're

546
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Speaker 1: gonna go run or ride a bike or take a

547
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:21,680
Speaker 1: swim or jump rope. You need that, gentlemen, you need that,

548
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: and more importantly than just the way you look, you

549
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,359
Speaker 1: need that to be present for your family as you

550
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:30,040
Speaker 1: get older. Like watching my pops the way he was,

551
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Speaker 1: I was like, I never seen my father look this

552
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 1: week before. And he's changed his lifestyle around. He eats

553
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,239
Speaker 1: differently and he's lost weight. But I was just like,

554
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 1: I could have lost my dad. I have friends who've

555
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 1: lost their dads. I have friends who I've lost you know.

556
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Speaker 1: I have a buddy of mine who just recently had

557
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Speaker 1: a stroke, Bake, who played He was a world class athlete.

558
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: He played for the Redskins, just recently had a stroke

559
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: and he's chronicling his comeback after the stroke. And Bake

560
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Speaker 1: is thirty seven. You know what I'm saying, Men have

561
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,720
Speaker 1: to do a better job of taking our health into

562
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: our own hands. And it starts with those simple things.

563
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: Drink more water, get your ass up, and at least

564
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: walk twenty minutes every day.

565
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Speaker 2: It's the little changes.

566
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell y'all those little changes, and that's great,

567
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 3: a great message for men. I think women can pull

568
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 3: from it too. It's taking the small steps that then

569
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Speaker 3: become bigger steps. That's how it was for me, because

570
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 3: everyone knows I've said it before, consistency was never my thing.

571
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 3: When it came to the gym and being out there

572
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 3: working out and eating and writing any of that, it

573
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,439
Speaker 3: just wasn't. I think part of the motivation for me

574
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:35,919
Speaker 3: was just knowing, Okay, I know I was in the

575
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 3: trenches pregnant with the last baby. When I'm finally out

576
00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 3: of the postpartum woods, which is around eighteen months for me, now,

577
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:43,639
Speaker 3: it's like, okay, things start to set in. But then

578
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 3: there's also me knowing that internally I need to be

579
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:51,639
Speaker 3: fighting against or preventing myself from getting those hereditary running

580
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 3: the family type things like the diabetes and the hygh

581
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:57,439
Speaker 3: pertension and all that. It's easy to just start with

582
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 3: each other, like Deval and I have some of the

583
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Speaker 3: best time together when we block out, you know, hour

584
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 3: and a half during the day we go to the

585
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Speaker 3: gym and sometimes we're not side by side doing the

586
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 3: same workouts at the same time. But it's kind of

587
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 3: knowing that you have a gym buddy there, you know,

588
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 3: somebody that can just kind of check you. Devo will

589
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 3: come make sure I'm doing the right things, and you know,

590
00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 3: just having the camaraderie. We have some good times together

591
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 3: just going to the gym now and that was never

592
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Speaker 3: a thing for me. So it's become a change in

593
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,120
Speaker 3: the mindset, changing the lifestyle and doing it together. That's

594
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:24,440
Speaker 3: been great.

595
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Speaker 1: Look at you smiling a smiling because like it's so

596
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: funny how we always say we over me, but it

597
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 1: really comes back to we over me. Right when you

598
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,360
Speaker 1: weren't feeling like yourself, going through postpartum, going through all

599
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 1: of these things, it was like, if I get go

600
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 1: to the gym with her, do this with her, make

601
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 1: her feel blah blah blah blah blah. But now as

602
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 1: a man, I'm going through my you know, phase of

603
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: where I'm seeing my body change a little bit and

604
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,440
Speaker 1: I want to be more healthier and things aren't the

605
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 1: same for me. And it's like when Kay was just

606
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:55,439
Speaker 1: like babe let's go to the gym. She got her

607
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: tights on, and I'm like, all right, let's go. Like

608
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: it does make me feel a little bit more like

609
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 1: I want to do it if I know you're doing

610
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 1: and you lost a ton of weight over the last

611
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: four months, and watching you do that, that inspired me

612
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 1: because I don't want to be the dadbod while you

613
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,560
Speaker 1: on the beach when we're on vacation. Like a lot

614
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 1: of insecurities that come from men comes from us watching

615
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,959
Speaker 1: our bodies change. Men don't like to talk about this stuff.

616
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck. Right, everybody knows I'm thinning.

617
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: That's a part of life, right, I'm thinning. What are

618
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 1: you going to do as a man to help prevent

619
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 1: your life from just going away from you? And you

620
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 1: can't see it? Right, So for me dealing with the

621
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:39,400
Speaker 1: thinning and stuff like that, people just like, well, why

622
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: don't you just let it go and go bald? I

623
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 1: don't mind doing that, you know what I'm saying. I don't.

624
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: Part of the issue is I play a character on

625
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 1: TV that has hair, so I have to maintain a

626
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 1: certain level of hair while I'm on television. That doesn't

627
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: mean that when you wake up in the morning and

628
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 1: you realize that your hair is thinning, and my hair

629
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: has been thin for about six years now, that you

630
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:02,679
Speaker 1: don't feel away as a man, right, I've already been contemplating, like,

631
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: you know what if I cut all my hair off

632
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,160
Speaker 1: and I go with beard, that's also a good look.

633
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I could be bored with

634
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: a beard.

635
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

636
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,239
Speaker 1: I'm not a hat guy. Yeah, but I say all

637
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: this to say to gentlemen, like, as you watch your

638
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,160
Speaker 1: youth go away the same way women watch, it's okay

639
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 1: to say I want to maintain my youth. I want

640
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 1: to maintain a certain measure of confidence in myself. The

641
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:26,119
Speaker 1: gym is always the right way to start, Like, the

642
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,960
Speaker 1: gym is always the right way to start, mainly because

643
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: the endorphins that you get and you produce from going

644
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: to the gym just make you feel better. You go

645
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 1: to gym, you come back, You're like, I just I

646
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 1: did that. Like what's what's next? Like, let me go

647
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: pink started the house, Let me let me fix the gutters,

648
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: you know, let me let me you know, the transmission

649
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: needs to be fixed. I value you have an electric Porsche.

650
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna change the battery on it. Like you just

651
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 1: want to do stuff because the endorphins.

652
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 3: You know, though, Remember when I came back from Toronto

653
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 3: and I was just like, yo, aside from missing you,

654
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 3: I was like, man, I hadn't worked out in like

655
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 3: three days. I think we were juggling the kids in Toronto.

656
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 3: You were filming. I didn't have a chance, any chance

657
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 3: really to get to get a good workout in. And

658
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 3: I came home and I was like, Yo, I feel like.

659
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: Crap, crap. Yeah, I remember, and I was.

660
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 3: Like, well, what's the last time you worked out? And

661
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, I haven't worked out

662
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 3: for like a good three days. Yep, got my ass up,

663
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 3: went to the gym. Instant mood shifts, so you felt good.

664
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 2: It was like instant. It was like taking an energy drink.

665
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 2: It was just it was. It was insane.

666
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 1: Speaking of taking energy drinks, this is not one of

667
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: the facts and stats, but this is also something I've learned,

668
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 1: even from being a workout gout. If you become dependent

669
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: on energy drinks to get you to workouts and through workouts,

670
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,000
Speaker 1: when you don't have them energy drinks, your body crashes

671
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: and it's almost like you become dependent, and it can

672
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: also lead to depression if you don't feel that spark

673
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 1: on the day you're not working out. I've noticed that

674
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 1: with a lot of Yeah, with a lot of my

675
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: my friends who use energy drinks or they used them.

676
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: I never got into energy drinks like the endorphins, and

677
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: the high I got was from just going and you know,

678
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: let's go, ET's building myself up. So I never had

679
00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: that issue. But this is also a fact that that's

680
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: not on here. But your testosterone really does start to

681
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 1: drop at a certain age. Right, there is no one

682
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: age where all the testosterone drops for men, but your

683
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: testops from does start to drop. What people don't know

684
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: is that you can continue to boost your testosterone by

685
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 1: doing certain key exercises, which is why I came went

686
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 1: to the chiropractor last night, and the chiropractor was like,

687
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: you still squat, You're still deadlift, Like why, Like why

688
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: would you do that? What are you training for? Was

689
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: like life?

690
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 2: Life?

691
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: You are you are so invested in this wife life

692
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: training for backshots. I fucking love it. Your nasty girl,

693
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 1: you are so nasty, but I love it. But I

694
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: still do squats and dead listen, I'm not training for backshots.

695
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: I'm training to give backshots. That's why I also do

696
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 1: hip thrusts, but doing squats and deadlifts right and one

697
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 1: of the the well two of the largest muscle groups

698
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: in your body your back, your poster of your chain,

699
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 1: your legs, your glutes, your hamstrings. When you work out

700
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 1: those areas, your body pushes testosterone through to help you

701
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 1: rebuild those muscles back. So the more weights you lift

702
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: more consistently, if you do it properly and healthily, you

703
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 1: can continue to increase your testosterone output as a man.

704
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: That's why when you see dudes who are in the

705
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: gym and they're like in their forties and fifties and

706
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 1: they're still like chasing after these young girls, it's because

707
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: their testosterone is still pumping because they didn't get into

708
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 1: the rut of oh, now i'm thirty, I gotta slow down.

709
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: So many men get into this rut when they like,

710
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: I just turned thirty, on my back gonna start hurting

711
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: on my knees, so they stop working out as much,

712
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 1: and then every it's like a self fulfilling prophecy you

713
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: told yourself when you are thirty. Stuff is gonna hurt,

714
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: so you stop working out. So your muscles got weaker,

715
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: your joints got a little bit more weaker. Everything is sore.

716
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 1: And now you're thirty five and it's getting worse. Now

717
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 1: your testosteron's dropping, so when you start to get back

718
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 1: into workout, it's that much harder. Now you're forty. Now

719
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: your hair's falling out because your testosterone is dropped. You

720
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 1: got a belly. And that's that depressing phase that men

721
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: get into if they don't keep it up. And I

722
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about this because that happens to all

723
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 1: of us. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. It does

724
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: the same way. You can get on here and talk

725
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 1: about being depressed because of childbirth sometimes and postpartum depression.

726
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: I can honestly say, as a man, you wake up

727
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 1: in the morning and you look at yourself. You've been

728
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: going NonStop for years to feed your family, and you're tired,

729
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 1: and you look at your eyes, and your eyes are

730
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: dark and puffy, and you just don't look the youthful

731
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: self anymore. You know. You look in the mirror and

732
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 1: now you got more gray hairs in your beard and

733
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: in your hair, and then parts of your hair is thinner,

734
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: and you're just like, what is happening to me?

735
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 3: And some of it you think it's just like stresses

736
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 3: of life, Like, oh, y, stresses of life. Because with women,

737
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 3: I think we can pinpoint certain times when we have

738
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 3: those ships i e. Pregnancy, you know, menstruation, all that

739
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 3: we have like certain moments when we pinpoint it. And

740
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 3: then usually men are just like we look at you'all like, oh, well,

741
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 3: y'all never have any changes because y'all never go through

742
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 3: those really, you know, big changes in the hormones and

743
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 3: all that because you don't carry children. But I can't

744
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 3: take for granted that you don't just have natural changes

745
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 3: that happen over the course of your life. Just as

746
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 3: you age and depending on what you have going on

747
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 3: in life.

748
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 1: We have changes to we go through. We don't have

749
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: like a post partum depression phase or a prenatal phase.

750
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 1: We don't have a menstrual phase. That people have created

751
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 1: a leniency in a space for women to go through

752
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,280
Speaker 1: that and have those discussions from men, it's like, y'all

753
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 1: don't go through nothing, so be a man and deal

754
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 1: with it. But I'm telling you right now that's why

755
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about this is that men do

756
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 1: go through this. Like I got friends that we're all

757
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: middle aged, we're all going to be forty, we're all

758
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 1: turning forty this year, are going to be forty next year,

759
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 1: and all of the topics of conversations are hairlines, male pattern, baldness,

760
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 1: body weight gain, performance in the bedroom. That's another thing, gentlemen,

761
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 1: if you knew how much your libido would sustain by

762
00:33:55,680 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: working out, I guarantee you would work out. Had a

763
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: young lady DM me and say hey, just send me

764
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 1: this long thing and say I know I would ask

765
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: you this question because I see you and don't mind

766
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 1: being honest. But her husband has been struggling with a

767
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: rectile dysfunction. This could have been a listener letter was

768
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 1: struggling with a rectile dysfunction when he turned thirty five,

769
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: and she was just like, you know, like, what is

770
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,359
Speaker 1: it me? She hard question was is it me? As

771
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 1: a woman? Am I not turning him on enough? Like

772
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: she was pretty much she's putting it on herself, like

773
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 1: something's wrong with me, the same way I put it

774
00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 1: on myself when your sex drive wasn't as high, not

775
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: knowing that it was birth control and Postparliament, and I'm

776
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 1: just like, what's wrong with deval? She did the same thing,

777
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,880
Speaker 1: and you know, as I do sometimes and I'm not

778
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 1: telling you all this to do this, but sometimes I

779
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,919
Speaker 1: get DMS and I respond with give me a phone call,

780
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 1: or we'll text people back and forth, and I'd be like,

781
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 1: I really want to help some people. So I was

782
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 1: just like, yo, like what is his workout plan? And

783
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 1: the first thing she said was workout? He don't work out.

784
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 1: Now she's older in him, So what is she in? Oh,

785
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: she's in her forties. She's in her forties and she

786
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: works out. She's had I think I think she said

787
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 1: she had three kids and she got into this work.

788
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: I think after having her last child, because she was

789
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 1: just like, I want to get my body back, because

790
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 1: she said she started following us. She followed your journey.

791
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:27,040
Speaker 1: But he can't keep up. He's thirty five. He's suffering

792
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,400
Speaker 1: from erect out dysfunction. Some days of good days, some

793
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:31,839
Speaker 1: days are not good days. He was taking the pain

794
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 1: medication for blood pressure. She I was about to say,

795
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying.

796
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:38,360
Speaker 2: Blood pressure medication will completely take it away.

797
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: So I said, the issue to me, doesn't sound like,

798
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 1: it's just the working out. If he's taking blood pressure

799
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:47,399
Speaker 1: medication is probably because his health is off, so he's

800
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: taking the medication to subsidize that. And now that's messing

801
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:54,360
Speaker 1: with his libido, which is why most black men don't

802
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: like taking blood pressure medication because it affects your libido

803
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: and they're like, you're not going to take away my manhood,

804
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:02,439
Speaker 1: and then they end up having issues with health because

805
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 1: you don't want to take.

806
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 2: Them because they don't take it.

807
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like a viciousious cycle.

808
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:13,439
Speaker 1: And when she issue, say one more time putting band

809
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: aids over gun wounds, can't hear you can't heal a

810
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: gun wound with a band aid. You gotta first take

811
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: the bullet out. And you got to heal a womb.

812
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: You can't just put a band aid over it. So

813
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 1: she was like, Okay, thank you for the advice. I'll

814
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: work with him on it. She gives me updates. She

815
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: said he stopped taking the blood pressure medication, but he

816
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 1: changed his dyet. He watches his salt intake and his

817
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 1: sugar intake and he goes to see the doctormal offering

818
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 1: so that they can manage it without him taking the medication,

819
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,240
Speaker 1: So he found a doctor who was willing to work

820
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 1: with him to do those things. After he stopped, he

821
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 1: checked his blood pressure, he stopped taking a medication, his

822
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 1: libido started to come back. As his libido started to

823
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: come back, he didn't like the way he looked like

824
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: he was naked, so he started going to the gym

825
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: with her. He started to lose some weight and now

826
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 1: she was like they started to get back to the

827
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 1: way they were. But the whole point of the story

828
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 1: is there are things we as men go through that

829
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: we don't ever express to our wives. Right. For example,

830
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 1: We're going to do a whole other podcast on this.

831
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 1: Some of the regret, Now, no I don't want to

832
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 1: drop this on you, but some of the regret I

833
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:31,239
Speaker 1: feel about having a esected me. Right, Men, we don't

834
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 1: discuss that with our wives. I do, and we can

835
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 1: do a whole we can do a whole podcast. Yeah,

836
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 1: we'll do a whole podcast on it. And it's not

837
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 1: it's not a regret towards you, like you made me

838
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 1: do it. I am still one hundred percent in agreement

839
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: that I should have been the one to do it,

840
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: and I did it because you sacrifice so much for me,

841
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:53,000
Speaker 1: but there still is a little bit of peace in me,

842
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 1: just like damn, I can't have kids no more. And

843
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 1: I never thought that I would feel that way. Yeah,

844
00:37:58,000 --> 00:37:59,719
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I never thought that way.

845
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: But we'll we'll have a whole podcast on it, cause

846
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:03,959
Speaker 1: I want to unpack that in how I've been trying

847
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 1: to work through that journey, because I know men feel

848
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,239
Speaker 1: like that too, but they don't never express it, and

849
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 1: it's like we're never there's never a place for us

850
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 1: where we can talk about this. I do want to

851
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 1: talk about it.

852
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:14,280
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll do that.

853
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:18,479
Speaker 1: But having this conversation was about health, but also telling

854
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 1: the man it's okay to be vain and say that

855
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: you also want to be young and stay young. You

856
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,479
Speaker 1: want to stay in that twenty two to twenty five

857
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: range where the minute you wake up, your dick just

858
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 1: hard for no reason. You know what I'm saying. You

859
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: can't even pee in the toilet because you dig just hard,

860
00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: like when you twenty two, matter of fact, eighteen, from

861
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: eighteen to like twenty five, it's like no matter what

862
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 1: you did, gonna be hard. Like you start falling asleep

863
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 1: in class and you wake up middle class, like want

864
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 1: my dick card. I'm tired, Like what the fuck is happening?

865
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: Like that? That goes away if you don't continue to

866
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: move like you're that age. That's why I'm excited that

867
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: I have sons. I work out with him every single day.

868
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 3: Oh man, They're gonna keep you on your toil. Man,

869
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 3: I do the whole family affair over here.

870
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: Cairo gonna want to and work. He wants to work out.

871
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: He wants me to work out with him. Then Caves

872
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 1: was like, Daddy, can you get in the pool and

873
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 1: swim with me? Then Jackson is you know, can you

874
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: take me to shoot? And I'm every day I'm just moving, moving,

875
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: And the more I've dedicated myself to my family, I've

876
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: noticed the more weight that I've lost in, the better

877
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 1: I look. So I wanted to I'm gonna say some

878
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: things my moment of truth, but I did want to

879
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: tell you that the reason why I picked that Rocky

880
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,880
Speaker 1: theme is because I'm fighting. I'm fighting. I'm in this

881
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,919
Speaker 1: battle to be exactly who it is you lusted for

882
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 1: and you fell in love. I'm fighting to be that

883
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: person still. So I got you, baby, I got you.

884
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 3: Where you can stand on. I'm over here working too.

885
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 3: You want, baby, I got receipts. I got receipts. All right,

886
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 3: y'all to take a quick break and we're gonna jump

887
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:50,280
Speaker 3: into listen to Maybe I'll do one since we already

888
00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 3: kind of did one with that story you gave about. Yeah,

889
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 3: so we'll keep it short for letters this time, and

890
00:39:57,400 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 3: we will get back to it.

891
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 1: We good, I'll wait for you. You good, all right? Well, yeah,

892
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: do what you gotta do, bro. Yeah, that's right, that's green.

893
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 3: Actually, all right, all right, ready, I'll do the second

894
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 3: one because the first one is kind of like we've

895
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 3: spoke about fitness stuff already. All right, we're back and

896
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 3: we're gonna do one listener letter just because we kind

897
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,239
Speaker 3: of went through a story with the young lady that

898
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 3: you've been dming and stuff. So here we are. I've

899
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:04,360
Speaker 3: been in a long distance relationship for six months. My

900
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 3: boyfriend recently moved here with me. I went through his

901
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 3: phone and found some disturbing text messages along with the

902
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 3: video ooh. Although the video has a date and time,

903
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 3: he's still denying it. He says that I'm focused on

904
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 3: the wrong aspect of our relationship, but I believe our

905
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 3: relationship was built on deception. He left his family, kids,

906
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 3: and job to be with me. But I can't get

907
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 3: over what I saw. What would you do in my situation? Well, girl,

908
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 3: what'd you see?

909
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 1: Fuck that? Like? Why would you want to be with

910
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 1: somebody who would leave their kids, family, in job?

911
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 4: Like?

912
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: Clearly his priorities are not in order, Like I don't

913
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 1: give a shit. I'm not leaving my kids for nothing,

914
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:49,280
Speaker 1: Like I don't care, Like you could be the worst

915
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: person in the world. Could you could? You could right,

916
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 1: and there could be another woman who would be perfect

917
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 1: for me. Ma'am, you're gonna have to take me with

918
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,760
Speaker 1: these kids. I'm not leaving my kids for nobody.

919
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 2: Guess that same.

920
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:04,240
Speaker 1: That's all I saw in this all the other stuff

921
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 1: to me, don't marry anybody who's willing to leave his

922
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 1: family and kids and not for nothing. He got a

923
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:11,719
Speaker 1: family and kids and jobs. Was you a side chick

924
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:12,400
Speaker 1: before that?

925
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 3: That's what it's giving? Long distance for six months? Did

926
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 3: you not know that he was in a relationship? But

927
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: I'm not sure. I'm not sure what the video is

928
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 3: or the text messages that you.

929
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 2: Tried were disturbed deception.

930
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 1: Clearly his wife like I'm just being honest, Like, what

931
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 1: are we waiting? Right?

932
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 3: Well, I don't know if he was married, but he

933
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:30,879
Speaker 3: left his family, kids and everything. So if you hid

934
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 3: dry left him, then there was definitely something going on

935
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 3: that you were then an additive too.

936
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: This is what is given only, and I don't judge people,

937
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 1: you know, I don't judge on the paragraph that she sent.

938
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:41,760
Speaker 2: Girl.

939
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:45,960
Speaker 1: It is giving that she was a side chick and

940
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: he left his family and his wife, probably because his

941
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: wife caught him his dumb ass with a picture in

942
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 1: the video of her, So he left them and went

943
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: to go be with her and forgot to delete the

944
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:02,759
Speaker 1: stuff with his wife is a dumb mess right, and

945
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 1: got caught with his side check. But she's only and

946
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: she was probably deceived because she probably didn't know he

947
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 1: had a She knows he had a wife because you know,

948
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 1: he had kids and.

949
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 2: A job and it was period. Can you send us

950
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 2: a follow up a little more detail.

951
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 3: I want to know what the video was and the

952
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:21,239
Speaker 3: text messages because I'm partners and I part need more

953
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 3: context to give you some sound advice because I don't

954
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 3: know what I would do in your situations after this,

955
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:28,360
Speaker 3: or bro, I don't know who wrote in here, but

956
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 3: it's giving very much like we need more details, so

957
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 3: sending a dundum.

958
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 1: I will say this though, even without the details, I

959
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 1: would not be with anybody who left their kids to

960
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 1: be with me. I don't care. She could be the

961
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 1: most beautiful woman in the world, right it could be

962
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:45,560
Speaker 1: you right now. And if he was like the villa,

963
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: I love you, but I have four kids at home

964
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 1: with it, I'd be like, well, you need to go

965
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 1: be a mom, Like you can't be with me and

966
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: not be with them kids and asks to be here.

967
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: Fact to me, that's that's first and foremost that kids here.

968
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 2: Pull up with the kids at least, right, pull up

969
00:43:58,719 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 2: with the kids.

970
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: I'll take you with the kids, like I'm on the.

971
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 2: Job to like you just dropped everything.

972
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: With the kids and your job, the job. What we're

973
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: not gonna do is be unemployed.

974
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 2: No unemployed, but we're together together. This is going to

975
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:15,760
Speaker 2: pay these bills.

976
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: So that's what she should have said, don't leave your

977
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 1: kids all your job.

978
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:20,879
Speaker 2: You can come and bring all of those in to Yeah,

979
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 2: let's get let's get some more context here.

980
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:24,880
Speaker 3: Isn't that that's the one that we circle back, But

981
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 3: we'll circle we'll spend the block on that one when

982
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 3: we get more details. All right, y'all, keep writing in

983
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 3: listening to letters. Very good time. We love y'all again,

984
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 3: no judgment. We're just gonna give you the two cents

985
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 3: because you asked so. Email us at the advice at

986
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:38,799
Speaker 3: gmail dot com.

987
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: That's D E A D A S S A D

988
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 1: V I C E at gmail dot com.

989
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 2: Moment of truth time. I think mine is pretty simple.

990
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 2: Do you have one? Mine is is.

991
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 3: Fight fight for yourself, fight for your family, fight for

992
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 3: your spouse, fight for your health, fight for the things

993
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 3: that matter, because ultimately you're in control of that and

994
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 3: no one can do it but you. Because ultimately, Deval

995
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 3: has always been, over the course of our twenty years,

996
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 3: either the inspiration for me to want to work out.

997
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 2: He's been the motivation. He's been the drill sergeant.

998
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 3: He's been the kick in the ass, he's been the

999
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,359
Speaker 3: accountability partner, he's been a lot of things, a lot

1000
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 3: of different roles. The fact that he's even still here

1001
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 3: with me on this journey to this healthy lifestyle, it's commendable.

1002
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 1: Give yourself some credit, because no, it's.

1003
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 2: Commendable because I got that.

1004
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 3: I gave you a hard way to go a lot

1005
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 3: of times, and ultimately you only had my best interest

1006
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:36,319
Speaker 3: at heart every single time, and you knew my body.

1007
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: Better in your thighs that far.

1008
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:42,320
Speaker 3: That part you true did, but you were just ultimately

1009
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 3: holding me accountable to the things that I wanted. But

1010
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 3: it didn't happen until I wanted to fight for myself.

1011
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 3: Fight for yourself first and foremost, and you'll be surprised

1012
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 3: at how so many other aspects of your life improve

1013
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 3: when you put your health first and you invest in that.

1014
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 3: Your mood, clarity of mind, the way your body functions,

1015
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:10,760
Speaker 3: your quality of sleep, just so many different things skin here.

1016
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 3: I mean, there's so many benefits to just taking care

1017
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:15,839
Speaker 3: of yourself. So if it means that much to you,

1018
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:19,879
Speaker 3: if your family means that much to you, fight yep,

1019
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,759
Speaker 3: because we're not getting any younger. Getting older is inevitable,

1020
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 3: and you don't want the responsibility to then be placed

1021
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 3: on your family members to have to take care of

1022
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 3: you when you're in a position where you can't do

1023
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:33,879
Speaker 3: it for yourself. So start, start somewhere, Start now.

1024
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 2: Period.

1025
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: I feel you. Those are great words, thanks, actually really

1026
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 1: really great words. My moment of truth is this my

1027
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: man's don't lose yourself, yo, Stop making excuses for not

1028
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 1: doing what's right for you. Your family can't be your

1029
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 1: excuse for you not doing what's right for you, because

1030
00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: ultimately then you're not doing right for your family if

1031
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: you can't be here them, work out, drink water, get sleep,

1032
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 1: love yourself. I got one question before we go. Yeah,

1033
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:16,279
Speaker 1: is it a fact that women want their men to

1034
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:18,800
Speaker 1: look a certain way? Is that a fact for me? Yes?

1035
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:23,880
Speaker 1: For me, yes, feel a way when men lose themselves

1036
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: in relationships, like when they don't look the same.

1037
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 2: Way, I would think so. I would absolutely think so.

1038
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:31,280
Speaker 1: The reason why I'm saying that is because this idea

1039
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:33,879
Speaker 1: that men get to just go bald and get fat

1040
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: and be lazy and still have a wife and kids

1041
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 1: and take care of them is okay. It's not okay.

1042
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 1: It's not okay. We have obligations that we require of

1043
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 1: the women that we love. It is okay that they

1044
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 1: have obligations for us. You love that woman and she

1045
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 1: wants you to look a certain way, and you chose

1046
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 1: to be with her and ask her for her hand

1047
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 1: in marriage, own up to that obligation. Do what you

1048
00:47:57,560 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: have to do. Like a thing said, and fight to

1049
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 1: be everything that your wife, or your girlfriend or your

1050
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 1: baby mother wants you to be, so that you can

1051
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,800
Speaker 1: be a better version of yourself for you and your kids.

1052
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 1: Don't let the depression go unheard. We all go through it.

1053
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 1: We all wake up one morning look at ourselves and like, dang,

1054
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 1: I do not look the way I used to look,

1055
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 1: the more we all go through it.

1056
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 3: Yes, fight for it, for it, go get it d

1057
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 3: with your partner, whatever your partner looks like.

1058
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 2: Do it all right, y'all.

1059
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 3: Be sure to follow us on Patreon to see exclusive

1060
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 3: dead Ass Podcasts video.

1061
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:29,960
Speaker 2: Thank y'all for watching.

1062
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 3: If you are and you can find us on social media,

1063
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 3: follow our Instagram page. We do lots of chatting and

1064
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 3: stuff there as well. Dead Ass to the podcast and

1065
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 3: you can find me on my social media page Kadean

1066
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 3: I am.

1067
00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 1: And I am Deval And if you're listening on Apple Podcasts,

1068
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:48,400
Speaker 1: be sure to rate, review and subscribe.

1069
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 3: Keep doing that, y'all. We love you, dead Ass. Now

1070
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 3: get that ass up.

1071
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: Dead Ass is a production of iHeartMedia podcast Network, and

1072
00:48:56,719 --> 00:49:00,280
Speaker 1: it's produced by Donor Opinion and Triple Follow the podcast

1073
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 1: on social media at dead Ass the podcast and never

1074
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:03,800
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