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Speaker 1: Hey there, folks, it is December thirty, first New Year's Eve,

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Speaker 1: and don't worry if you plan on being alone tonight,

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Speaker 1: you won't be alone. Welcome to this episode of Amy

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Speaker 1: and t J Rowls. Is this one of those things

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Speaker 1: where it feels like you feel obligator or you feel

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Speaker 1: like a down or a loser, or you have fomo

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Speaker 1: because you don't have some big party to go to

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Speaker 1: on New.

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Speaker 2: Year's e It's supposed to be a big celebratory night

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Speaker 2: for everybody. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think that that's a reasonable and probably shared experienced

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Speaker 3: by a lot of folks. You feel pressure to have fun,

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Speaker 3: you feel pressure to be social, you feel pressure to

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Speaker 3: have the best night of your life. Yeah, and that's

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Speaker 3: sometimes it's so overwhelming, that pressure that people just they

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Speaker 3: just opt out because it's too much. They can't live

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Speaker 3: up to expectations.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it doesn't hell that. It certainly seems like

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Speaker 1: around you everybody's got something to do. There's a party,

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Speaker 1: and they're talking about it. You turn on TV, certainly

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Speaker 1: you see people everybody's talking about us Eve celebrations. And

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Speaker 1: then you're home alone and am I supposed to be

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Speaker 1: doing that? Am I supposed to do I have a

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Speaker 1: party to go to. I've spent more money than I've

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Speaker 1: wanted to do on New Year's Eve before, just because

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Speaker 1: the last minute pressure, though I guess I gotta do

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Speaker 1: something and didn't want to do at all.

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Speaker 4: I get that.

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Speaker 3: In fact, I will say some of my favorite moments

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Speaker 3: of New Year's Eve in the past, I ended up

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Speaker 3: typically throwing a lot of parties because that way, at

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Speaker 3: least I knew who was going to be there and

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Speaker 3: there could be a controlled environment, so to speak. But

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Speaker 3: some of my favorite New Year's Eves have been working

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Speaker 3: because I got to be a part of things as

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Speaker 3: a journalist, but I didn't actually have any of the

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Speaker 3: expectations where I had to have certain friends here, I

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Speaker 3: had to drink this or I had to do that.

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Speaker 4: I was working.

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Speaker 3: I got to be around it, but I didn't have

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Speaker 3: to actually technically participate in it.

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Speaker 2: You were.

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Speaker 1: It was provided for you, of course, and that thing

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Speaker 1: was provided with a lot of people tonight looking for

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Speaker 1: things and have plans and might not realize overwhelmingly if

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Speaker 1: you're not doing anything tonight and plan on not doing

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Speaker 1: anything tonight and don't plan on going to a party.

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Speaker 1: The majority of Americans are with you. The majority of Americans,

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Speaker 1: according to at least one of the most recent surveys

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Speaker 1: that's out there, show that robes at least sixty five

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Speaker 1: percent of people do not plan to celebrate at all tonight.

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Speaker 1: They're either gonna be a sleep by midnight, they're gonna

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Speaker 1: be watching Netflix, or they're gonna be scrolling TikTok.

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Speaker 4: That was shocking to me.

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Speaker 3: I know that it's there's definitely a large percentage of

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Speaker 3: people who might opt out from the parties, but hearing

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Speaker 3: that two thirds of Americans will not celebrate the evening

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Speaker 3: at all, I don't know why. Maybe it shouldn't, but

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Speaker 3: it makes me sad.

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, some of the details and here it

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Speaker 1: will start to make sense to people as well, because

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Speaker 1: it's stuff we've been talking about in this country for years,

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Speaker 1: tied to social media and this we were just the

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Speaker 1: loneliness effect.

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Speaker 2: What was the one?

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Speaker 1: We were just talking loneliness epidemic, epidemic that we're having

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Speaker 1: and some people opting for it but also not knowing

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Speaker 1: even how to be social anymore. But some of this

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Speaker 1: survey we saw explained came to us from a group

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Speaker 1: called Sunny Workplace. Now they have an app that's focused

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Speaker 1: on trying to fight this epidemic of loneliness. And they

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Speaker 1: used the company that did this survey three thousand Americans.

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Speaker 1: That's not a small survey. Is where we're getting these answers.

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Speaker 1: The question was asked, period point blank, how do you

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Speaker 1: prefer to spend New Year's Eve? The numbers break down

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Speaker 1: this way. Rom Thirty five percent said at home watching

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Speaker 1: Netflix or some other streaming service like that was a

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Speaker 1: specific answer. They gave thirty five percent home watching Netflix.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they didn't say watching the New Year's Eve celebration,

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Speaker 3: watching the ball drop, watching rocking New Year's Eve. No,

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Speaker 3: they say literally watching a movie, a streaming service of

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Speaker 4: The celebratory moments or events that are happening around the world.

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Speaker 1: So the second most popular answer, well, twenty four percent,

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Speaker 1: when asked the question how do you prefer to spend

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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve? Said at a New Year's Eve party.

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Speaker 1: So a quarter of Americans plan to actually celebrate and

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Speaker 1: to have or throw or go out to a party.

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Speaker 1: That seeing you're sugar, Yeah, that seems low to you.

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Speaker 4: That seems so low to me.

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Speaker 3: I thought maybe it'd be more like forty percent, maybe

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Speaker 3: even fifty percent.

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Speaker 4: But that's I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I guess I'm taking what my preferences and assuming that

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Speaker 3: more people would be of like mind, and I'm massively wrong.

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Speaker 1: But it seems like everybody's partying. When you turn on

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Speaker 1: the television, it does. Does billion people in Times Square?

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Speaker 1: See Eara's out there doing her thing in Los Angeles.

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Speaker 1: You have to have Lucy Hale down in New Orleans, right,

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Speaker 1: we see these parties on TV. Everybody's out, everybody's partying.

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Speaker 1: I will tell you now that I think about it.

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Speaker 1: When I grew up, my parents weren't doing New Year's celebrations.

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Speaker 1: It might be a thing that really, so many people

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Speaker 1: in the country are home with family, But some of

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Speaker 1: the these answers seemed to suggest something different. This doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound like and they're I was saying this was all singles.

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Speaker 1: But I guess do families really parents go out and leave.

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Speaker 2: The kids at home.

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Speaker 3: I have memories, but I was always with like cousins.

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Speaker 3: We were usually somewhere for the holidays around my grandparents.

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Speaker 3: So I remember early on sometimes my parents going out

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Speaker 3: with their siblings and we cousins would be at home

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Speaker 3: with the grandparents and we'd get little hats and little

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Speaker 3: horns and that kind of thing. But as a family,

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Speaker 3: I remember my parents definitely going out, so I think

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Speaker 3: maybe that was I was imprinted I saw them going out.

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Speaker 3: I remember being a kid being excited seeing my mom

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Speaker 3: put on a dress and thinking it was the coolest

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Speaker 3: And they didn't do it often, so it was exciting

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Speaker 3: to me to see them do that. I remember thinking

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Speaker 3: about how fun it was going to be and how

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Speaker 2: I still never seen mamma get dressed up.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay. The question how do you prefer to spend

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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve? The third most popular answer twenty percent

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Speaker 2: That would not kind of get.

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Speaker 3: Oh, that makes when you're not even acknowledging the new year,

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Speaker 3: you're just sleeping.

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Speaker 1: I did.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to sleep tonight and tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: It'll be you only sleep four to five hours a night,

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Speaker 3: but you're gonna sleep through midnight.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not going to.

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Speaker 1: But I get how people would just what's the big deal?

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Speaker 1: This isn't my thing?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: I equated to what would it be for you? Not

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Speaker 1: not Halloween? Maybe Halloween's not so popular, but that's a

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Speaker 1: night that people like to go out and get dressed up.

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Speaker 1: It's a big thing, certainly here in New York.

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Speaker 4: You know what, I don't like Santa Con. There's the

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Speaker 4: one time where it's.

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Speaker 1: Not okay, you're muddying the waters. Now, let me get

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Speaker 1: back on track. The how do you prefer to spend

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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve? The fourth most popular answer was ten

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Speaker 1: percent saying they want to scroll social media. That's okay,

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Speaker 1: that might be the one I would shake my head

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Speaker 1: out and say, that's that's unfortunate to hear.

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Speaker 3: That actually breaks my heart because that means they want

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Speaker 3: to be adjacent. They want to see what other people

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Speaker 3: and the fact that they're planning to scroll social media

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Speaker 3: that they actually were able to answer saying this is

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Speaker 3: what I'm going to do. It's not a default, or

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Speaker 3: I don't have anything else to do, so maybe I'll

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Speaker 3: just check this out.

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Speaker 4: They actually have an intention.

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Speaker 3: I will be scrolling social media to celebrate or to

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Speaker 3: bring in the new year. That breaks my heart because

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Speaker 3: that's about not participating.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what do we do? I mean, it's look, this

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Speaker 1: is the group to put this out? Does focus on loneliness.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I guess so many people would say, Hey,

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Speaker 1: There's nothing unfortunate or sad. Why don't I have to

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Speaker 1: be a part of that thing or that thing? Why

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Speaker 1: of this whatever it is. I'm sure truly plenty of

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Speaker 1: folks out there like, what's the big deal? I just

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Speaker 1: don't want to go out? And then there is a

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Speaker 1: part of the argument and the debates that will continue

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Speaker 1: for youes, is that social media is doing something to

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Speaker 4: People don't want to be a part of it.

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Speaker 3: I agree with that, and that's of course everyone's right.

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Speaker 3: But I guess it's one of those things I tell

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Speaker 3: my kids that I know is annoying. You don't know

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Speaker 3: what you don't know, And I think if you've grown

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Speaker 4: Feel less alone and feel.

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Speaker 3: Connected by looking at other people on social media, maybe

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Speaker 3: like you're a part of things, but you're missing out

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Speaker 3: on actual human physical connection, and there is something so

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Speaker 4: That is lifeblood.

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Speaker 3: Babies can't survive if they aren't held in touch and

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Speaker 3: interacted with. As as teenagers, as young adults, as older adults,

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Speaker 3: we all still need that, and I think we dismiss

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Speaker 3: thinking we're kind of doing it. We're not putting ourselves

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Speaker 3: at risk, we're not putting ourselves out there. We're not.

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Speaker 3: I think it's scary to go out maybe sometimes and

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Speaker 3: face potential rejection or feeling like maybe you're not a

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Speaker 3: So you just withdraw from it all and say, well,

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Speaker 3: I've got this one little thing in my hand and

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Speaker 3: I'll feel slightly connected. But it's sad because you miss

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Speaker 3: out on what life is all about.

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Speaker 4: Human connection.

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Speaker 1: You know, some of the quotes, I'm going to save

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Speaker 1: a few, and maybe the biggest one that they put

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Speaker 1: out from the scientists, they use and some of the

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Speaker 1: people affiliated with the group that put this out, But

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Speaker 1: I wanted to jump into one of them because you

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Speaker 1: just made me think of it. New Year's Eve used

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Speaker 1: to bring us together. Now it just brings us back

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Speaker 1: to the algorithm.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I know it's kind of a catchy thing in the

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Speaker 1: way they phrased it, but that is true something that

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Speaker 1: used to you. If you are something that used to

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Speaker 1: be so communal and fun and an opportunity to be

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Speaker 1: social that you might not have the rest of the year.

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Speaker 1: We're opting for something else that like, we prefer it.

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Speaker 4: It's safer, babe.

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Speaker 3: So that's that's twenty five percent of Americans would rather

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Speaker 3: we have the memory, at least we know what it

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Speaker 3: was like before all of this technology. We know what

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Speaker 3: come out and play? Like we have all of those memories.

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Speaker 3: Our kids don't have any of that, so it's on

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Speaker 3: us to really show them how to. You can party

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Speaker 3: at home, you can party as a family. You can

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Speaker 3: get the hats and the glasses and watch the ball drop,

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Speaker 3: and that can be just as special and fun. But

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Speaker 3: it's about being together and being communal. However that looks.

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Speaker 3: But putting the bones down, that would be wonderful.

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Speaker 1: Well, folks, we certainly wish you a happy New Year,

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Speaker 1: wherever you may be, whoever you may be, with the

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Speaker 1: night or not, with hope you enjoy your night and

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Speaker 1: maybe a good night for somebody tonight is getting a

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Speaker 1: good night's sleep, and that's okay, and that's good enough.

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Speaker 1: But don't let any survey, don't let any two podcasters

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Speaker 1: or anybody else tell you that what you're doing tonight

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Speaker 1: is the right or the wrong thing.

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Speaker 2: Is your New year spending how you want to. But

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Speaker 2: also don't let anybody make you feel guilty either if you.

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Speaker 1: Don't have a red velvet jacket and a sparkly green

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Speaker 1: dress on tonight. All right, So with that, folks, we

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Speaker 1: always appreciate you spending some time with us. I'm DJ

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Speaker 1: Holmes on behalf of My daremmy robot.

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Speaker 2: Talk to you. E'll soon