WEBVTT - MINISODE- BODY COUNT 

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<v Speaker 1>This episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by

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<v Speaker 1>Care for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, it seems like every man with a mic has

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<v Speaker 2>an opinion about how many people a woman has slept with,

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<v Speaker 2>and I mean every man.

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<v Speaker 1>With them, every single one, And unfortunately some women have

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<v Speaker 1>been convinced to have that opinion too. We know, I

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<v Speaker 1>need you to come back. I need you to come

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<v Speaker 1>back to the good side.

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<v Speaker 2>Today we are unpacking why body count culture exists and

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<v Speaker 2>who it actually serves, and why we are not fucking

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<v Speaker 2>with it any longer. This body count actually matter. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>we know it doesn't, but when you're practicing safe sex,

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<v Speaker 2>the number is irrelevant. I literally don't count anyone that

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<v Speaker 2>I had a sex with with a condom. What matters

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<v Speaker 2>is is your health, your awareness, and your choices. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>the shame attached to this number has nothing to do

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<v Speaker 2>with your well being and everything to do with the

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<v Speaker 2>control of the fucking patriarchy.

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<v Speaker 1>And the crazy part is is that body count shame

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<v Speaker 1>actually discourages women and men from getting tested and talking

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<v Speaker 1>openly about prevention because because HIV is still a real

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and we need to be having it and The

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<v Speaker 1>crazy part is is that body count shame actually discourages

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<v Speaker 1>women from getting tested and not just women meant to,

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<v Speaker 1>and discourages them from talking openly about prevention because HIV

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<v Speaker 1>is still a real conversation that we need to be having,

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<v Speaker 1>and the stigma around how many is the same stigma

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<v Speaker 1>that keeps people from getting the care and the prevention

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<v Speaker 1>that they deserve. Knowing your status, knowing your options, that

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<v Speaker 1>is what actually matters, right, I think at this moment,

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<v Speaker 1>like even just being a podcaster, we talk about sex

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. I have literally lost boyfriends from talking about

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<v Speaker 1>my sex life. I remember even in high school, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know that the whole shaming that happens in high school.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember like I cheated on my boyfriend and my

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<v Speaker 1>name around school was easy. It was like easy, Easy, Easy.

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<v Speaker 1>That show that's comatizing, I know, and that stuck with

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<v Speaker 1>me even like every time I even hear the rapper easy,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm triggered. Okay, I'm still triggered by that.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's like such a testimony to like how early

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<v Speaker 2>it starts. You don't even have any body count in

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<v Speaker 2>high school, yet they're still utilizing it. And like women

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<v Speaker 2>are so shamed from an early age. It's hard to

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<v Speaker 2>get out of that. And like, you know what I

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<v Speaker 2>see on the internet in our comments all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>you're ran through And I'm like, what the fuck does

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<v Speaker 2>ran through even mean? It means nothing. The concept is

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<v Speaker 2>built on a made up social standard with no real foundation.

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<v Speaker 2>Like men have historically been encouraged to explore their sexuality

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<v Speaker 2>even from childhood, like boys will be boys, they can freely,

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<v Speaker 2>like freely explore why women have been expected to remain

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<v Speaker 2>pure and palatable, which I'm fucking over.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so true, And that double standard is a projection

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<v Speaker 1>rooted in the fear of sexually confident women. And we

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<v Speaker 1>all know who hate sexually confident women. Insecure ass men,

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<v Speaker 1>the insuls of the world. So the sooner women's stop

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<v Speaker 1>participating in acceptability politics around this, the sooner we move

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<v Speaker 1>past it.

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<v Speaker 2>So, ladies, let's get this show on the road. Stop

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<v Speaker 2>suppressing yourself sexually if you're a confident woman to appease

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<v Speaker 2>these weak ass men. Literally, there's nothing wrong with you

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<v Speaker 2>for choosing to engage in safe sex that feels good

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<v Speaker 2>and serves you. Literally, that's what our pussies are made for.

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<v Speaker 2>It is not just birth, but it's for pleasure. Your

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<v Speaker 2>history does not determine your worth. And if someone's first

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<v Speaker 2>question about you is your body count, that tells you

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<v Speaker 2>everything you need to know about them. Women do not

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<v Speaker 2>exist to make anyone comfortable, so please, this is a

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<v Speaker 2>PSA announcement. Stop making weak ass men comfortable. It serves nobody,

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<v Speaker 2>not even them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and let's make sex wellness again. Let's make sure

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<v Speaker 1>that we know our status. Let's make sure that we

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<v Speaker 1>check in with.

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<v Speaker 2>Our pussies, our minds, our souls, our spirits. If it's

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<v Speaker 2>not a fuck, yes, it's a hell no. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>hear me, ladies. If it's not a full body fuck, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it is a hell no. This is so important because

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<v Speaker 2>you don't want to add trauma to your body doing

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<v Speaker 2>things that go against your pleasure. Tap into your pleasure

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<v Speaker 2>so we can get back to having healthy pussies, healthy minds,

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<v Speaker 2>healthy spirits, and healthy sexual experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>Your body count doesn't matter, but you do, bitch. This

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<v Speaker 1>episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by Care

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<v Speaker 1>for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.