Speaker 1: This episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by
Speaker 1: Care for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.
Speaker 2: Listen, it seems like every man with a mic has
Speaker 2: an opinion about how many people a woman has slept with,
Speaker 2: and I mean every man.
Speaker 1: With them, every single one, And unfortunately some women have
Speaker 1: been convinced to have that opinion too. We know, I
Speaker 1: need you to come back. I need you to come
Speaker 1: back to the good side.
Speaker 2: Today we are unpacking why body count culture exists and
Speaker 2: who it actually serves, and why we are not fucking
Speaker 2: with it any longer. This body count actually matter. I mean,
Speaker 2: we know it doesn't, but when you're practicing safe sex,
Speaker 2: the number is irrelevant. I literally don't count anyone that
Speaker 2: I had a sex with with a condom. What matters
Speaker 2: is is your health, your awareness, and your choices. Obviously,
Speaker 2: the shame attached to this number has nothing to do
Speaker 2: with your well being and everything to do with the
Speaker 2: control of the fucking patriarchy.
Speaker 1: And the crazy part is is that body count shame
Speaker 1: actually discourages women and men from getting tested and talking
Speaker 1: openly about prevention because because HIV is still a real
Speaker 1: conversation and we need to be having it and The
Speaker 1: crazy part is is that body count shame actually discourages
Speaker 1: women from getting tested and not just women meant to,
Speaker 1: and discourages them from talking openly about prevention because HIV
Speaker 1: is still a real conversation that we need to be having,
Speaker 1: and the stigma around how many is the same stigma
Speaker 1: that keeps people from getting the care and the prevention
Speaker 1: that they deserve. Knowing your status, knowing your options, that
Speaker 1: is what actually matters, right, I think at this moment,
Speaker 1: like even just being a podcaster, we talk about sex
Speaker 1: a lot. I have literally lost boyfriends from talking about
Speaker 1: my sex life. I remember even in high school, like
Speaker 1: you know that the whole shaming that happens in high school.
Speaker 1: I remember like I cheated on my boyfriend and my
Speaker 1: name around school was easy. It was like easy, Easy, Easy.
Speaker 1: That show that's comatizing, I know, and that stuck with
Speaker 1: me even like every time I even hear the rapper easy,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm triggered. Okay, I'm still triggered by that.
Speaker 2: And that's like such a testimony to like how early
Speaker 2: it starts. You don't even have any body count in
Speaker 2: high school, yet they're still utilizing it. And like women
Speaker 2: are so shamed from an early age. It's hard to
Speaker 2: get out of that. And like, you know what I
Speaker 2: see on the internet in our comments all the time,
Speaker 2: you're ran through And I'm like, what the fuck does
Speaker 2: ran through even mean? It means nothing. The concept is
Speaker 2: built on a made up social standard with no real foundation.
Speaker 2: Like men have historically been encouraged to explore their sexuality
Speaker 2: even from childhood, like boys will be boys, they can freely,
Speaker 2: like freely explore why women have been expected to remain
Speaker 2: pure and palatable, which I'm fucking over.
Speaker 1: It's so true, And that double standard is a projection
Speaker 1: rooted in the fear of sexually confident women. And we
Speaker 1: all know who hate sexually confident women. Insecure ass men,
Speaker 1: the insuls of the world. So the sooner women's stop
Speaker 1: participating in acceptability politics around this, the sooner we move
Speaker 1: past it.
Speaker 2: So, ladies, let's get this show on the road. Stop
Speaker 2: suppressing yourself sexually if you're a confident woman to appease
Speaker 2: these weak ass men. Literally, there's nothing wrong with you
Speaker 2: for choosing to engage in safe sex that feels good
Speaker 2: and serves you. Literally, that's what our pussies are made for.
Speaker 2: It is not just birth, but it's for pleasure. Your
Speaker 2: history does not determine your worth. And if someone's first
Speaker 2: question about you is your body count, that tells you
Speaker 2: everything you need to know about them. Women do not
Speaker 2: exist to make anyone comfortable, so please, this is a
Speaker 2: PSA announcement. Stop making weak ass men comfortable. It serves nobody,
Speaker 2: not even them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and let's make sex wellness again. Let's make sure
Speaker 1: that we know our status. Let's make sure that we
Speaker 1: check in with.
Speaker 2: Our pussies, our minds, our souls, our spirits. If it's
Speaker 2: not a fuck, yes, it's a hell no. Do you
Speaker 2: hear me, ladies. If it's not a full body fuck, yes,
Speaker 2: it is a hell no. This is so important because
Speaker 2: you don't want to add trauma to your body doing
Speaker 2: things that go against your pleasure. Tap into your pleasure
Speaker 2: so we can get back to having healthy pussies, healthy minds,
Speaker 2: healthy spirits, and healthy sexual experiences.
Speaker 1: Your body count doesn't matter, but you do, bitch. This
Speaker 1: episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by Care
Speaker 1: for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.