1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: This episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by 2 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:05,159 Speaker 1: Care for the Culture from Gilead Sciences. 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 2: Listen, it seems like every man with a mic has 4 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:10,879 Speaker 2: an opinion about how many people a woman has slept with, 5 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 2: and I mean every man. 6 00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:16,279 Speaker 1: With them, every single one, And unfortunately some women have 7 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: been convinced to have that opinion too. We know, I 8 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: need you to come back. I need you to come 9 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 1: back to the good side. 10 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 2: Today we are unpacking why body count culture exists and 11 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 2: who it actually serves, and why we are not fucking 12 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 2: with it any longer. This body count actually matter. I mean, 13 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 2: we know it doesn't, but when you're practicing safe sex, 14 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 2: the number is irrelevant. I literally don't count anyone that 15 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 2: I had a sex with with a condom. What matters 16 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 2: is is your health, your awareness, and your choices. Obviously, 17 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 2: the shame attached to this number has nothing to do 18 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:51,879 Speaker 2: with your well being and everything to do with the 19 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 2: control of the fucking patriarchy. 20 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: And the crazy part is is that body count shame 21 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: actually discourages women and men from getting tested and talking 22 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: openly about prevention because because HIV is still a real 23 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: conversation and we need to be having it and The 24 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 1: crazy part is is that body count shame actually discourages 25 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 1: women from getting tested and not just women meant to, 26 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: and discourages them from talking openly about prevention because HIV 27 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: is still a real conversation that we need to be having, 28 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 1: and the stigma around how many is the same stigma 29 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: that keeps people from getting the care and the prevention 30 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:30,039 Speaker 1: that they deserve. Knowing your status, knowing your options, that 31 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,639 Speaker 1: is what actually matters, right, I think at this moment, 32 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: like even just being a podcaster, we talk about sex 33 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: a lot. I have literally lost boyfriends from talking about 34 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: my sex life. I remember even in high school, like 35 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: you know that the whole shaming that happens in high school. 36 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 1: I remember like I cheated on my boyfriend and my 37 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: name around school was easy. It was like easy, Easy, Easy. 38 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: That show that's comatizing, I know, and that stuck with 39 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: me even like every time I even hear the rapper easy, 40 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm triggered. Okay, I'm still triggered by that. 41 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 2: And that's like such a testimony to like how early 42 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 2: it starts. You don't even have any body count in 43 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 2: high school, yet they're still utilizing it. And like women 44 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,239 Speaker 2: are so shamed from an early age. It's hard to 45 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 2: get out of that. And like, you know what I 46 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 2: see on the internet in our comments all the time, 47 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:22,359 Speaker 2: you're ran through And I'm like, what the fuck does 48 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 2: ran through even mean? It means nothing. The concept is 49 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,639 Speaker 2: built on a made up social standard with no real foundation. 50 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 2: Like men have historically been encouraged to explore their sexuality 51 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 2: even from childhood, like boys will be boys, they can freely, 52 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 2: like freely explore why women have been expected to remain 53 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 2: pure and palatable, which I'm fucking over. 54 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: It's so true, And that double standard is a projection 55 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: rooted in the fear of sexually confident women. And we 56 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: all know who hate sexually confident women. Insecure ass men, 57 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:59,919 Speaker 1: the insuls of the world. So the sooner women's stop 58 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: participating in acceptability politics around this, the sooner we move 59 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:04,959 Speaker 1: past it. 60 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 2: So, ladies, let's get this show on the road. Stop 61 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 2: suppressing yourself sexually if you're a confident woman to appease 62 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 2: these weak ass men. Literally, there's nothing wrong with you 63 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:18,639 Speaker 2: for choosing to engage in safe sex that feels good 64 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:21,239 Speaker 2: and serves you. Literally, that's what our pussies are made for. 65 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 2: It is not just birth, but it's for pleasure. Your 66 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 2: history does not determine your worth. And if someone's first 67 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 2: question about you is your body count, that tells you 68 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 2: everything you need to know about them. Women do not 69 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 2: exist to make anyone comfortable, so please, this is a 70 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 2: PSA announcement. Stop making weak ass men comfortable. It serves nobody, 71 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: not even them. 72 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, and let's make sex wellness again. Let's make sure 73 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 1: that we know our status. Let's make sure that we 74 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 1: check in with. 75 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 2: Our pussies, our minds, our souls, our spirits. If it's 76 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 2: not a fuck, yes, it's a hell no. Do you 77 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 2: hear me, ladies. If it's not a full body fuck, yes, 78 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 2: it is a hell no. This is so important because 79 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 2: you don't want to add trauma to your body doing 80 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 2: things that go against your pleasure. Tap into your pleasure 81 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 2: so we can get back to having healthy pussies, healthy minds, 82 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 2: healthy spirits, and healthy sexual experiences. 83 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 1: Your body count doesn't matter, but you do, bitch. This 84 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: episode of Good Mom's Bad Choices is sponsored by Care 85 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: for the Culture from Gilead Sciences.