WEBVTT - The Princess Diaries Was a Lie 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:04.360 Hey, ba fan, Mandy here or Mandra you can call 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:06.800 me a Mandra, that's fine. I have a simple request 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:08.920 for you, guys. We get so many questions on how 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:11.200 you can support the show, and there's really a very 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.320 very simple thing that we need you guys to do. 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:16.360 Open up this app, open up wherever you're listening to 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:19.640 this podcast right now, and subscribe if you have the ability, 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:22.479 especially those of you who are on iTunes. We're really 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:25.160 making a push to get the show more visible. You've 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:27.680 seen that we've partnered with a fabulous new network called 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:30.800 Westwood One. 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We can't do it without your support, 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:06.319 so thank you, very very much subscribe, like and review 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.560 the show, and we thank you so much. 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:34.840 Hey, hey, hey we're back, We're black, We're brown, and. 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:40.200 Hey manrew rock and roll today. I am not mad 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:40.480 at that. 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:44.119 Hey, Nanta, did you get your did you T last night? 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:48.280 Do you know what? I I had more tea than 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:52.560 I can take. I have no one sipping on that. 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.080 It's the It's the Megan mancle brand chee. 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:58.760 I like to talk bland if you ask me me 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:05.240 while my excent is the worst. Yeah, oh my god, 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:09.160 so full caveat. I did not get a chance to 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.320 watch all of it because I meant, I didn't know 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:15.440 what was gonna be so juicy. I thowt they were 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:17.280 gonna do an interview and I was kind of like, okay, 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:19.840 so what And then I saw afterward that everybody was 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.079 going crazy and I had to wait till today, and 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:24.720 I just started watching it today. So you're gonna have to, like, 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:27.440 you know, really fill me with like the main stuff. 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:29.320 But the things that I did see, I was like 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:31.520 a New Saints. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:33.840 I love that you assumed that I did watch the 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:37.799 entire thing, which is true. I had that shit DVRD 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:41.040 like I actually, we never use our cable, but I'm like, 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:43.640 give me that remote. I couldn't even find the regular 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.959 TV remote. I was like tearing apart the living room 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.000 looking for it, and I was like, how do you 0:02:48.040 --> 0:02:50.880 record something? Quick? Quick? Quick? And I was so afraid 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:53.560 because the mom brain is so intense that I even 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:56.800 had to send. I did an additional Apple like reminder, 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:59.840 remind me at six at seven fifty five that the 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:03.840 Meghan Markle and Oprah specials on. And when the alert 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:05.919 came up, it said the opera specials. So that's why 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:10.040 I know. But I was like, what, oh, yes, let's go. 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:11.960 Let's go. This's like right after what do I get? 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:15.560 I sat down and watched two hours with commercials, and 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.600 you know what, if you're watching it live last night 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.800 with me, you I actually needed those commercials, like just 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:24.360 for me and my cousin Anna to just like, you know, 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:27.480 go back and forth and check Twitter or whatever. But 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:30.880 it was big. It was big, big, big, yeah. 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:32.640 Ah. 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:34.920 I felt very emotional watching it, way more than I 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:35.520 thought I would. 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:37.960 So I'll share with you, like the things obviously that 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:41.200 everybody's kind of sharing, like the discussion of what Archie's 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:43.840 skin color might be. Who do you think said that. 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.200 I know they were so right. So Meghan, what I 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.240 liked about the interview was she went on first for 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:51.880 the first hour or so, and then Harry came on 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:54.960 later and she teased it. Well, she didn't tease it. It 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:58.040 wasn't like, you know, she just said these conversations were had. 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:00.800 And then I could tell when Harry came on later 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:02.720 he was like, yeah, I'm definitely not going to say that. 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.360 It's way too damaging to that person. 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:05.320 I don't. 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:07.840 I mean, honestly, it could have been anyone of the 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:11.440 royal family. But if they're so afraid to damage them, 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:17.200 I feel like, you know, William or like his dad. 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:18.720 I don't know, I. 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:20.719 Feel I think felt like Prince Charles, because one thing 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:22.560 I did read this morning is that Harry cleared up 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:23.880 that it was not the Queen and it was not 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:26.960 Prince Philip, like, it was not the grandfather, that's it. 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:29.920 So he made that very very clear. But you would 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:31.919 think like that he would be like, it wasn't my brother, 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:34.280 it wasn't my father. I don't like Prince Charley. I'm 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:34.840 gonna say it. 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:38.680 I don't really ever think about I mean, I mean, listen, 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:42.040 the one thing that the interview made me realize is 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:45.200 anything I've ever read about the Royal family has just 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.560 probably been a lie. So for me, I don't even know. 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:49.360 I don't even know how I feel about any of them. 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:53.080 I mean, I have watched The Crown, and honestly, I 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:56.160 was throughout watching The Crown, I was constantly sort of 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.839 inwardly embarrassed, like dang, I didn't know all that happened. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.599 I didn't know all that about Diana either. The most 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:05.120 recent series was you know, featured Diana and her story, 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:06.480 and I didn't really know a lot of that either. 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:08.920 So I've never really had an opinion about the Royal 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:12.760 family until Meghan, you know, joined and then it all 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:14.800 of a sudden it became very relevant to me. And 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:19.560 I remember being naively excited about the future of the 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:22.400 Royal family and having a black woman and you know 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:25.800 what that meant, and her mother seeing her mother, you know, 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:30.159 alongside the Queen, and you know, a black woman in 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:33.040 the in the Buckingham Palace. It just it meant something 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:36.120 to me very and I think what made me so 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:40.120 sad was the missed opportunity, you know, for them, not 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:42.760 I mean for us, for black people around the world, 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:46.680 like Megan was saying, they had an opportunity to really 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:51.960 show their like literally the Commonwealth, you know, all these 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:55.680 these countries that that still have the queen on their currency. 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:59.320 It's more than just the UK, and they are largely 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:03.839 populated by brown people, you know, and they had finally 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.360 someone in the royal family who looked somewhat like them, 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:08.960 and they didn't see that as an asset. They didn't 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:10.760 support her, they didn't lift her up, they didn't give 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:13.679 her any infrastructure. They flung her out into the ether. 0:06:14.000 --> 0:06:16.480 You know, yeah, I mean, you know it's very sad. 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:19.720 You know what's so crazy to name this is this 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:24.240 is what white supremacy is. White supremacy is when a country, 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:29.480 a monarchy is more concerned over the color of what 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:33.440 really would essentially be a one fourth black child than 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:38.080 they are about Prince Andrew and his pedothelic ways with 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:43.320 Jeffrey Epstein. Can you imagine, like you legit, have a 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:47.240 prince who is literally in a picture with a young 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:51.320 woman that he has been accused of raping. And the 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.000 young woman is here and she's like, Yep, that's me 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.120 in a picture, and yep that's what it's Andrew. So 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:58.599 it's not like, oh, you know, it's like yeah, and 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.320 I mean that's just one of the women that just 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.279 have come forth. But that is something to be hushed 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:09.560 up and protected. But like Harry's own son, like because 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:13.280 there's some black lineage there that that's the bigger concern. 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:15.720 That's why this is. I just don't understand how people 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:19.080 don't see that. That is this when people say, like, ugh, 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:23.080 all this race but Pierce Morgan, honestly he could suck one. 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:26.840 Like all this race baiting. You love to race bait. 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:30.080 I'm like, I'm sorry, you have a pedophile, you know, 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:35.200 who is getting the full protection of the crown and 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.800 whatever money's come in from the Commonwealth or whatever they 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.800 call themselves over there. I don't know, you know, like 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:43.640 he's getting that full protection. But like I you could 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:45.800 correct me if I'm wrong, But I heard the part 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.360 where she was like from the very onset they said, oh, 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.080 just so you know Harry's birthwright of his son being 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:54.200 a prince, psych that's not happening. Oh and also Archie 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:58.960 will not receive any security. Why that's so crazy to me? 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:03.440 Like I just I you know, I just really wonder, 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:05.360 like what is it? Why? Why are. There's so many 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:08.280 people then are just so upset with black and brown people, 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:14.560 like what what is so offensive? You know, like, what 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:18.680 is that? I just it just it boggles the mind 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.720 that you know that it can even be expressed through 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:25.040 a baby, you know, an unborn baby. That that's how 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:27.680 upset it makes people. So I mean, I'm glad. At 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:29.520 first I didn't understand why they spoke their truth, and 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:33.760 now I understand completely, and yeah, you know, I'm here 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:35.960 to like, I'm here for it, and I'm sure the 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:37.880 people who hated her still hate her, they don't care, 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:40.760 but a lot more people are like, oh wow, you know, 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:44.200 I honestly believe too that when the queen passes on, 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:45.839 I don't know what the state of the monarchy is 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.080 gonna because quite honestly, they don't. But they don't like 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:50.240 Charles over there, So I'm like, you think he's gonna 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:53.559 be able to hold this together? Ye're right, We'll see. 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:56.079 I mean, I don't pretend to know all the rules 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:59.839 of titles. I mean, it's completely overwhelming to me. And 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:03.680 but that being said, I had follow up questions in 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:06.480 the sense of, well, what about like, isn't it pretty 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:10.320 like apples to apples looking at Kate and William's children. 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.600 Were they given security? And of course it just it 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:17.120 just doesn't. I mean I was thinking back to to 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:21.320 like the presidential election in Barack Obama's first campaign for president, 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:24.920 when he had to be given Secret Service detail way 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:27.760 sooner than even before he was I think even won 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:32.760 the the Democratic nomination, because that's the level of death 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:36.000 threats that they were getting, in racial threats of attack, 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.840 and like that was before he even ran for office. 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.800 And this is the son of a sitting like sitting prince. 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:48.319 Do you say that whatever? I don't know either astounding 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:52.120 prince whatever. It just it boggles the mind, and is it? 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:55.760 And I guess I'm sure race plays into it probably 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:58.640 and also maybe because she was a American, I mean 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.400 there was she was just so other, you know, how 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:02.800 much more other could you get a black woman from 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:06.319 America like marrying into this family. I mean Kate Middleton, 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:10.200 sure she was, I guess, you know, but not. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:13.800 But still she at least was English and not by 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:15.920 racial and not American. 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:19.520 The part that really broke my heart was and first 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:23.360 of all, Megan Markle is a goddamn superhero, Like how 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:27.000 did she keep her silence for that long. I mean 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:30.080 the fact like if like people were saying like the 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:33.600 most hurtful things about her and lying in the headlines. 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:36.920 I mean that takes I mean, and and the pain, 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:38.920 like you could see the deep, deep pain that she 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:41.480 was going through and no one knew and she couldn't 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:43.840 tell anyone, and she tried to tell. She tried to 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.559 do the right things, you know, reaching out for help 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.360 when calling them. The firm was really creepy to me. 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:53.760 I don't know, while like the firm, but she she literally, 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:55.880 I mean she's but truly I hadn't thought of it 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:58.240 that way, but it's true. I mean, the Crown is 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:01.880 like a royal corporation. They were employees of the Crown. 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:05.240 They were like c suite employees. And she reached out 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:08.280 to human resources and said, hey, I'm having a mental 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.440 health care issue. I need support. Where can I find 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:13.840 my benefits package? And they said, oh, you don't have 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.960 any yeah, like and that just you wouldn't think there's 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.720 not an ounce of empathy on their end to say, hey, 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:23.720 we not only have a new member of the royal 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:26.760 family marrying into this who has no idea how this 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:30.680 whole situation works. But she's a black woman and she's 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:35.400 going to need additional support, special support, early intervention support, 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:37.880 and they didn't have. She didn't even know how to curtsy, 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:41.560 like what no one was like Princess Diaries was a lie, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.280 you know what I mean? Like there is no royal 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:47.440 training like this is. And it just I kept thinking 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:49.600 about and I posted about it today because it was 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:53.160 just weighing on me when Meghan said, you know, my 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.000 biggest regret, the only regret I have is that I 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.080 believed them when they said they would protect me and 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:03.760 I I anuinely think as women, as black women, that 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.400 at a certain point in your life, you have this realization. 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:10.520 I can't personally pinpoint that was the moment, that was 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.240 the moment, but it became very clear to me with 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:15.360 an actually, you know what I can I can go 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:18.600 back to high school when I was constantly accused of 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:21.000 plagiarizing because I was too good of a writer in 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.520 high school, and they would accuse me of plagiarizing and 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:25.440 they would be like, did you write this? It was 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:27.400 in my own damn handwriting, but did you write it? 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:29.200 Because back then, you know, we didn't type, but we 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:32.520 wrote our essays anyway. And for me, it's like, you're 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:34.560 going to walk through the world and people are not 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.679 going to give you the same benefit of the doubt, 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.640 the same level of care, the same level of respect 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:42.199 every room I've ever walked into as a black woman, 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:45.880 I couldn't trust that I would get what I needed. 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:48.280 I had to become an advocate for myself. I had 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:51.520 to learn to speak for myself. I had to internalize 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:53.840 and accept the fact that I have to work harder, 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:56.719 especially in my years, you know, managing a team and 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.760 learning how to navigate those waters. I had to very 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:04.760 quickly tell myself anytime anyone had a problem with me, well, 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:07.800 I can't control that. I have to just keep facing forward. 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:10.640 And I knew people will have They will get more 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:13.080 angry at me when I speak up. They will send 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:16.760 me harassing messages when I have the audacity to criticize them. 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:18.959 I'm talking about writers that I work with over the years, 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.600 threatening me, telling me I would regret ever having the 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:26.520 having the the audacity to cut ties with them like 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:30.240 threatening me. And I understood that. And I feel like 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:33.079 as black women, we move through the world that way. 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:36.600 We can't trust, and when we do trust, maybe maybe 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.920 we get what we think we deserve, but then always 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:41.400 there'll be a time when we're not given what we 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:43.640 actually deserve, and that will break our trust. And it 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.440 was really just crushing for me to hear Megan's story 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:49.480 and then also know how it echoed just millions and 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.880 millions of similar stories from black women here and all 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:53.840 over the world. 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:55.800 Because like you know, Mandy, remember when I spoke on 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:59.360 against the event that shall not be named Yes and 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:03.560 now yeah, and how that founder came at me with 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:07.960 everything And I assumed, I said, because there was literally 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.920 another young woman who started it up. She wrote a 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:13.720 blog post about it. She started the twitter, the twitter 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:15.840 feed of like why I'm not knowing why I'm no 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:18.480 longer going to that conference. She when I tell you 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:21.480 her blog post receipts vicious, not vicious, but like, you know, 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:24.720 like clear cut concise. So I assumed, And there was 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.960 a bunch of other people who were actively going at him. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.520 So I just knew, Wow, if I'm getting this, I 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:32.600 know they're getting you know, because he was in my 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:36.120 inbox calling, like reaching out to different organizations or different 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.400 publications that I've been interviewed with to speak about me disparagingly. 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:41.400 I'm like, wow, they must be getting it too. So 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:45.040 I reached down to the young woman, who, like I said, 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:47.400 went out him the hardest, and I was like, hey, 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:50.800 she's white. Hey girl, I know you must be getting 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:54.040 it too. It's crazy right, she's like getting one, because 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.880 how dare you, Tiffany. Literally none of the other women 0:14:57.400 --> 0:14:59.720 he went after, none of the other women. 0:14:59.880 --> 0:15:00.280 Just me. 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:04.880 I did one tweet, that's it. And these women had 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.760 been dragging him for weeks and weeks and weeks and 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:09.880 writing op eds and this and that, but me, how 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:13.920 dare you? It's the same thing like when Harry Weinstein 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:17.520 came out and all these women were saying me too, 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.200 me too. As soon as Lapita is Harvey, I said, 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:22.640 Harry Harvey's wanted, not. 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.240 That white guy, the other better bad guy, good guy, 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:26.160 you know Hervey? 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.800 Yes, And Lupita Nuango when she stepped up, he said, 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:32.560 oh no, no, no, not her because how dad, remember 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:33.440 not the brand. 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:34.800 It's just so. 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:39.640 I mean when I tell you, like someone asked me 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:42.160 the other day, like, what's my favorite part about being 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:45.400 a black woman, and I said, honestly, other black women, 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:52.040 because you know, it is the safest, most like loving 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:57.560 most community based space that you can find, Like when 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.440 you are in community with other black women, it's like 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:03.240 a warm hug from your mom, your grandmam. It is 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:06.080 like girlfriends like yeah, I mean you could literally see 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:08.720 someone like literally you should have seen Mandy. I was 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:11.600 showing my sister, like your picture on Instagram with your 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:13.440 new highlights. She was like, oh man, it's closed this. 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:17.120 We were just both going, I mean you're not even there, 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:17.680 and we're. 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:21.040 Like, yes, yes, yes, love to see other women win, 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:23.880 other black women win. Yes, it feels like we're winning. 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:27.960 Yes, it's just like so just to see Megan. My 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:30.040 concern is, I mean, this is gonna be such a 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:31.960 huge blowback as a result of this. And I just 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:36.000 when Harry said, I could just see history repeating itself. 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:38.080 He was right, like they were not going to stop 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:40.640 until this woman was no longer breathing. And I'm glad 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:42.840 that he protected his wife and his family when he 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:47.480 said I almost cried when he said, if all that happened, 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:49.400 as hard as it was, at least I had my wife. 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:52.520 When he said she didn't have anyone, Oh, it broke 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:54.240 my heart because he was like, this is what my 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:58.200 mother went through by herself, by herself, and she still 0:16:58.240 --> 0:16:58.960 had to live there. 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:04.600 Like, yeah, yeah, I don't understand, you know, I'm obviously 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:06.920 I'm not British, neither of us is, but and I 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:10.160 don't and I don't have the like it's just wasn't 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:12.440 a part of my upbringing. Yes, I remember when Princess 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.399 Diana died, But I don't understand the machine, even as 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.720 many times as I've watched The Crown and you know, 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.920 Harry Potter, and not about the British family, the Royal family, 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:23.920 but anyway, like, I'll never really understand what it's like 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:26.359 to grow up there and to have them looming large 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:31.399 over us all. But I am horrified at how they 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:34.760 nearly broke this woman, and I am just like astounded 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:38.080 by her strength, and I just want nothing but the 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:41.560 best for her and little Archie and for Harry too, 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:45.359 you know, I when I wanted to empathize with him. 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:48.119 Maybe this is a good like talking point for us, 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:50.080 is you know, at a certain point in the interview, 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:54.040 he's talking about how he was shocked and how he 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:56.560 was you know, inside the machine and he felt trapped 0:17:57.119 --> 0:17:59.879 and I want to I wanted Oprah to and she 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:02.520 did an amazing job. Lady, Oh my god, bow down. 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:05.320 She did an incredible job with this interview. But I 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:07.679 and she was sort of pushing back, like you were 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:10.800 a royal prince, like how were you trapped? You know, 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:13.639 how could you not speak out? And I feel like 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:16.840 I wanted to empathize with him, but I was sort 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:20.000 of like, how could you? Why didn't you speak out? 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:22.520 Why did it take this long? You know why? And 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:24.760 I guess that's where I feel like I don't really 0:18:24.800 --> 0:18:29.480 maybe appreciate the mental, like the psychological hold that the 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:31.840 royal family could have on people within it, you know. 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.280 But I guess it's like I'm talking myself through this, 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:37.440 and I guess it's like if you're if you're a 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:40.560 victim or you're a hostage, and you know, you do 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:43.320 things that maybe don't make sense to the outside looking in, 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:46.840 you know. And this it actually comes up with people 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:49.360 who I've been abused too. They'll be like, I'll give 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:51.160 you an example. I think on the show, I talked 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:53.680 about how I had a makeup artist work with me 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:57.560 at a previous job, and time after time I would 0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:00.679 sit in that chair and he would say despair things, 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:04.640 little make offhanded remarks that would make me feel bad, 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.640 and I would continue sitting in that chair like week 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:10.280 after week, month after month, And when I finally complained, 0:19:10.560 --> 0:19:12.359 the first question was, well, why did you wait till now? 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:12.920 You know? 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:16.240 And it's I don't know how to articulate why, but yeah, 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.720 I mean I understand where he's coming from. But I'm like, damn, 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:20.639 even a royal prince, you know, when you're in it 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:25.520 like that, that is how like big a toxic relationship 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.280 can stop you from you know. And and for anyone 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.720 who's been a victim of any kind of toxic relationship, 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:34.080 I think it was a good It's not a good moment, 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:35.960 but like it's time for us to say, you know, 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:39.240 we will never understand what it's like to be in it. 0:19:40.080 --> 0:19:42.040 We can only be in awe of someone who has 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:43.920 the strength to get out of it and then speak 0:19:43.960 --> 0:19:46.680 their truth. And yeah, I really commend them for that. 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:50.240 Yeah, it was so I can't wait to finish watching. 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:54.240 Watched the whole thing. I also recorded CBS News this 0:19:54.359 --> 0:19:57.280 morning for the from seven to nine because I wasn't 0:19:57.280 --> 0:19:59.639 gonna I needed a peloton, but I heard Lady O 0:19:59.880 --> 0:20:02.920 was on CBS with her girl Gail talking about like 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:05.720 the behind the scenes and additional footage, so I want 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:08.680 all there's extra tea tiff. You need to like get 0:20:08.720 --> 0:20:11.119 your full serving and then come back for seconds and thirds. 0:20:11.440 --> 0:20:13.600 Yeah, it's just so much. Sometime I'm not gonna lie 0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:17.440 like it just it will trigger like my latent anxiety. 0:20:17.480 --> 0:20:19.680 I'm like, oh, okay, okay, okay, okay. Like I was 0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:21.280 going to watch it before I took a nap today 0:20:21.320 --> 0:20:22.639 and I was like, you know what, I felt like 0:20:22.680 --> 0:20:24.040 I was going to like dream about it, so I 0:20:24.119 --> 0:20:27.240