1 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: Hey, ba fan, Mandy here or Mandra you can call 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 1: me a Mandra, that's fine. I have a simple request 3 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: for you, guys. We get so many questions on how 4 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: you can support the show, and there's really a very 5 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:13,320 Speaker 1: very simple thing that we need you guys to do. 6 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: Open up this app, open up wherever you're listening to 7 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: this podcast right now, and subscribe if you have the ability, 8 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:22,479 Speaker 1: especially those of you who are on iTunes. We're really 9 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: making a push to get the show more visible. 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It is basically 18 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 1: how we tell the Internet that our podcast is worth 19 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 1: promoting and featuring and getting charted, and we deserve to 20 00:00:58,240 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: be at the top of the charts just like any 21 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: their show out there. We can't do it without your support, 22 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 1: so thank you, very very much subscribe, like and review 23 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 1: the show, and we thank you so much. 24 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 2: Hey, hey, hey we're back, We're black, We're brown, and. 25 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: Hey manrew rock and roll today. I am not mad 26 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: at that. 27 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:44,119 Speaker 2: Hey, Nanta, did you get your did you T last night? 28 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: Do you know what? I I had more tea than 29 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 1: I can take. I have no one sipping on that. 30 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: It's the It's the Megan mancle brand chee. 31 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 2: I like to talk bland if you ask me me 32 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 2: while my excent is the worst. Yeah, oh my god, 33 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 2: so full caveat. I did not get a chance to 34 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:12,320 Speaker 2: watch all of it because I meant, I didn't know 35 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 2: what was gonna be so juicy. I thowt they were 36 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: gonna do an interview and I was kind of like, okay, 37 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 2: so what And then I saw afterward that everybody was 38 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:22,079 Speaker 2: going crazy and I had to wait till today, and 39 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 2: I just started watching it today. So you're gonna have to, like, 40 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: you know, really fill me with like the main stuff. 41 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 2: But the things that I did see, I was like 42 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 2: a New Saints. 43 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: I love that you assumed that I did watch the 44 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,799 Speaker 1: entire thing, which is true. I had that shit DVRD 45 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 1: like I actually, we never use our cable, but I'm like, 46 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: give me that remote. I couldn't even find the regular 47 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,959 Speaker 1: TV remote. I was like tearing apart the living room 48 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: looking for it, and I was like, how do you 49 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: record something? Quick? Quick? Quick? And I was so afraid 50 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: because the mom brain is so intense that I even 51 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: had to send. I did an additional Apple like reminder, 52 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: remind me at six at seven fifty five that the 53 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: Meghan Markle and Oprah specials on. And when the alert 54 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: came up, it said the opera specials. So that's why 55 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: I know. But I was like, what, oh, yes, let's go. 56 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 2: Let's go. This's like right after what do I get? 57 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: I sat down and watched two hours with commercials, and 58 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,600 Speaker 1: you know what, if you're watching it live last night 59 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 1: with me, you I actually needed those commercials, like just 60 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 1: for me and my cousin Anna to just like, you know, 61 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: go back and forth and check Twitter or whatever. But 62 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: it was big. It was big, big, big, yeah. 63 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:32,640 Speaker 2: Ah. 64 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: I felt very emotional watching it, way more than I 65 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: thought I would. 66 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 2: So I'll share with you, like the things obviously that 67 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 2: everybody's kind of sharing, like the discussion of what Archie's 68 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 2: skin color might be. Who do you think said that. 69 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: I know they were so right. So Meghan, what I 70 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: liked about the interview was she went on first for 71 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: the first hour or so, and then Harry came on 72 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: later and she teased it. Well, she didn't tease it. It 73 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: wasn't like, you know, she just said these conversations were had. 74 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: And then I could tell when Harry came on later 75 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, I'm definitely not going to say that. 76 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: It's way too damaging to that person. 77 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 2: I don't. 78 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, it could have been anyone of the 79 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 1: royal family. But if they're so afraid to damage them, 80 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, William or like his dad. 81 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 1: I don't know, I. 82 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 2: Feel I think felt like Prince Charles, because one thing 83 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 2: I did read this morning is that Harry cleared up 84 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 2: that it was not the Queen and it was not 85 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 2: Prince Philip, like, it was not the grandfather, that's it. 86 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 2: So he made that very very clear. But you would 87 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:31,919 Speaker 2: think like that he would be like, it wasn't my brother, 88 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 2: it wasn't my father. I don't like Prince Charley. I'm 89 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 2: gonna say it. 90 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: I don't really ever think about I mean, I mean, listen, 91 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 1: the one thing that the interview made me realize is 92 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: anything I've ever read about the Royal family has just 93 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 1: probably been a lie. So for me, I don't even know. 94 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: I don't even know how I feel about any of them. 95 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I have watched The Crown, and honestly, I 96 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: was throughout watching The Crown, I was constantly sort of 97 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:58,839 Speaker 1: inwardly embarrassed, like dang, I didn't know all that happened. 98 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 1: I didn't know all that about Diana either. The most 99 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: recent series was you know, featured Diana and her story, 100 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: and I didn't really know a lot of that either. 101 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 1: So I've never really had an opinion about the Royal 102 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: family until Meghan, you know, joined and then it all 103 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 1: of a sudden it became very relevant to me. And 104 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: I remember being naively excited about the future of the 105 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: Royal family and having a black woman and you know 106 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: what that meant, and her mother seeing her mother, you know, 107 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 1: alongside the Queen, and you know, a black woman in 108 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 1: the in the Buckingham Palace. It just it meant something 109 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: to me very and I think what made me so 110 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 1: sad was the missed opportunity, you know, for them, not 111 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: I mean for us, for black people around the world, 112 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: like Megan was saying, they had an opportunity to really 113 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 1: show their like literally the Commonwealth, you know, all these 114 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: these countries that that still have the queen on their currency. 115 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 1: It's more than just the UK, and they are largely 116 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 1: populated by brown people, you know, and they had finally 117 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: someone in the royal family who looked somewhat like them, 118 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 1: and they didn't see that as an asset. They didn't 119 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: support her, they didn't lift her up, they didn't give 120 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,679 Speaker 1: her any infrastructure. They flung her out into the ether. 121 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: You know, yeah, I mean, you know it's very sad. 122 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 2: You know what's so crazy to name this is this 123 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 2: is what white supremacy is. White supremacy is when a country, 124 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 2: a monarchy is more concerned over the color of what 125 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 2: really would essentially be a one fourth black child than 126 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 2: they are about Prince Andrew and his pedothelic ways with 127 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 2: Jeffrey Epstein. Can you imagine, like you legit, have a 128 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 2: prince who is literally in a picture with a young 129 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 2: woman that he has been accused of raping. And the 130 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 2: young woman is here and she's like, Yep, that's me 131 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 2: in a picture, and yep that's what it's Andrew. So 132 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 2: it's not like, oh, you know, it's like yeah, and 133 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 2: I mean that's just one of the women that just 134 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 2: have come forth. But that is something to be hushed 135 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 2: up and protected. But like Harry's own son, like because 136 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 2: there's some black lineage there that that's the bigger concern. 137 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 2: That's why this is. I just don't understand how people 138 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 2: don't see that. That is this when people say, like, ugh, 139 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 2: all this race but Pierce Morgan, honestly he could suck one. 140 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,840 Speaker 2: Like all this race baiting. You love to race bait. 141 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm sorry, you have a pedophile, you know, 142 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 2: who is getting the full protection of the crown and 143 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 2: whatever money's come in from the Commonwealth or whatever they 144 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 2: call themselves over there. I don't know, you know, like 145 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 2: he's getting that full protection. But like I you could 146 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 2: correct me if I'm wrong, But I heard the part 147 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 2: where she was like from the very onset they said, oh, 148 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 2: just so you know Harry's birthwright of his son being 149 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 2: a prince, psych that's not happening. Oh and also Archie 150 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 2: will not receive any security. Why that's so crazy to me? 151 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 2: Like I just I you know, I just really wonder, 152 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 2: like what is it? Why? Why are. There's so many 153 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 2: people then are just so upset with black and brown people, 154 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 2: like what what is so offensive? You know, like, what 155 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 2: is that? I just it just it boggles the mind 156 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 2: that you know that it can even be expressed through 157 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 2: a baby, you know, an unborn baby. That that's how 158 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 2: upset it makes people. So I mean, I'm glad. At 159 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 2: first I didn't understand why they spoke their truth, and 160 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 2: now I understand completely, and yeah, you know, I'm here 161 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 2: to like, I'm here for it, and I'm sure the 162 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 2: people who hated her still hate her, they don't care, 163 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 2: but a lot more people are like, oh wow, you know, 164 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 2: I honestly believe too that when the queen passes on, 165 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:45,839 Speaker 2: I don't know what the state of the monarchy is 166 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 2: gonna because quite honestly, they don't. But they don't like 167 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 2: Charles over there, So I'm like, you think he's gonna 168 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 2: be able to hold this together? Ye're right, We'll see. 169 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,079 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't pretend to know all the rules 170 00:08:56,120 --> 00:08:59,839 Speaker 1: of titles. I mean, it's completely overwhelming to me. And 171 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 1: but that being said, I had follow up questions in 172 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: the sense of, well, what about like, isn't it pretty 173 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:10,320 Speaker 1: like apples to apples looking at Kate and William's children. 174 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 1: Were they given security? And of course it just it 175 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: just doesn't. I mean I was thinking back to to 176 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: like the presidential election in Barack Obama's first campaign for president, 177 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 1: when he had to be given Secret Service detail way 178 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: sooner than even before he was I think even won 179 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: the the Democratic nomination, because that's the level of death 180 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 1: threats that they were getting, in racial threats of attack, 181 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 1: and like that was before he even ran for office. 182 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: And this is the son of a sitting like sitting prince. 183 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:48,319 Speaker 1: Do you say that whatever? I don't know either astounding 184 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: prince whatever. It just it boggles the mind, and is it? 185 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: And I guess I'm sure race plays into it probably 186 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: and also maybe because she was a American, I mean 187 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: there was she was just so other, you know, how 188 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: much more other could you get a black woman from 189 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:06,319 Speaker 1: America like marrying into this family. I mean Kate Middleton, 190 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:10,200 Speaker 1: sure she was, I guess, you know, but not. 191 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: But still she at least was English and not by 192 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 2: racial and not American. 193 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: The part that really broke my heart was and first 194 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 1: of all, Megan Markle is a goddamn superhero, Like how 195 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 1: did she keep her silence for that long. I mean 196 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 1: the fact like if like people were saying like the 197 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: most hurtful things about her and lying in the headlines. 198 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 1: I mean that takes I mean, and and the pain, 199 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:38,920 Speaker 1: like you could see the deep, deep pain that she 200 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: was going through and no one knew and she couldn't 201 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:43,840 Speaker 1: tell anyone, and she tried to tell. She tried to 202 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:46,559 Speaker 1: do the right things, you know, reaching out for help 203 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 1: when calling them. The firm was really creepy to me. 204 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: I don't know, while like the firm, but she she literally, 205 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 1: I mean she's but truly I hadn't thought of it 206 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: that way, but it's true. I mean, the Crown is 207 00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: like a royal corporation. They were employees of the Crown. 208 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 1: They were like c suite employees. And she reached out 209 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 1: to human resources and said, hey, I'm having a mental 210 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: health care issue. I need support. Where can I find 211 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 1: my benefits package? And they said, oh, you don't have 212 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 1: any yeah, like and that just you wouldn't think there's 213 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: not an ounce of empathy on their end to say, hey, 214 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 1: we not only have a new member of the royal 215 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: family marrying into this who has no idea how this 216 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:30,680 Speaker 1: whole situation works. But she's a black woman and she's 217 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: going to need additional support, special support, early intervention support, 218 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:37,880 Speaker 1: and they didn't have. She didn't even know how to curtsy, 219 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: like what no one was like Princess Diaries was a lie, 220 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:43,280 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like there is no royal 221 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: training like this is. And it just I kept thinking 222 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: about and I posted about it today because it was 223 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: just weighing on me when Meghan said, you know, my 224 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: biggest regret, the only regret I have is that I 225 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:59,080 Speaker 1: believed them when they said they would protect me and 226 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: I I anuinely think as women, as black women, that 227 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 1: at a certain point in your life, you have this realization. 228 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: I can't personally pinpoint that was the moment, that was 229 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 1: the moment, but it became very clear to me with 230 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 1: an actually, you know what I can I can go 231 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 1: back to high school when I was constantly accused of 232 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 1: plagiarizing because I was too good of a writer in 233 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: high school, and they would accuse me of plagiarizing and 234 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:25,440 Speaker 1: they would be like, did you write this? It was 235 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: in my own damn handwriting, but did you write it? 236 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:29,200 Speaker 1: Because back then, you know, we didn't type, but we 237 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: wrote our essays anyway. And for me, it's like, you're 238 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:34,560 Speaker 1: going to walk through the world and people are not 239 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:36,679 Speaker 1: going to give you the same benefit of the doubt, 240 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: the same level of care, the same level of respect 241 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:42,199 Speaker 1: every room I've ever walked into as a black woman, 242 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 1: I couldn't trust that I would get what I needed. 243 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: I had to become an advocate for myself. I had 244 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:51,520 Speaker 1: to learn to speak for myself. I had to internalize 245 00:12:51,520 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: and accept the fact that I have to work harder, 246 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:56,719 Speaker 1: especially in my years, you know, managing a team and 247 00:12:57,960 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: learning how to navigate those waters. I had to very 248 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: quickly tell myself anytime anyone had a problem with me, well, 249 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 1: I can't control that. I have to just keep facing forward. 250 00:13:07,920 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 1: And I knew people will have They will get more 251 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:13,080 Speaker 1: angry at me when I speak up. They will send 252 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 1: me harassing messages when I have the audacity to criticize them. 253 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:18,959 Speaker 1: I'm talking about writers that I work with over the years, 254 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 1: threatening me, telling me I would regret ever having the 255 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 1: having the the audacity to cut ties with them like 256 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: threatening me. And I understood that. And I feel like 257 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: as black women, we move through the world that way. 258 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 1: We can't trust, and when we do trust, maybe maybe 259 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 1: we get what we think we deserve, but then always 260 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 1: there'll be a time when we're not given what we 261 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: actually deserve, and that will break our trust. And it 262 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 1: was really just crushing for me to hear Megan's story 263 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 1: and then also know how it echoed just millions and 264 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:52,880 Speaker 1: millions of similar stories from black women here and all 265 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:53,840 Speaker 1: over the world. 266 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 2: Because like you know, Mandy, remember when I spoke on 267 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 2: against the event that shall not be named Yes and 268 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 2: now yeah, and how that founder came at me with 269 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:07,960 Speaker 2: everything And I assumed, I said, because there was literally 270 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 2: another young woman who started it up. She wrote a 271 00:14:10,960 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 2: blog post about it. She started the twitter, the twitter 272 00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:15,840 Speaker 2: feed of like why I'm not knowing why I'm no 273 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:18,480 Speaker 2: longer going to that conference. She when I tell you 274 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 2: her blog post receipts vicious, not vicious, but like, you know, 275 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:24,720 Speaker 2: like clear cut concise. So I assumed, And there was 276 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 2: a bunch of other people who were actively going at him. 277 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 2: So I just knew, Wow, if I'm getting this, I 278 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 2: know they're getting you know, because he was in my 279 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:36,120 Speaker 2: inbox calling, like reaching out to different organizations or different 280 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 2: publications that I've been interviewed with to speak about me disparagingly. 281 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 2: I'm like, wow, they must be getting it too. So 282 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 2: I reached down to the young woman, who, like I said, 283 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 2: went out him the hardest, and I was like, hey, 284 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 2: she's white. Hey girl, I know you must be getting 285 00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 2: it too. It's crazy right, she's like getting one, because 286 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 2: how dare you, Tiffany. Literally none of the other women 287 00:14:57,400 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 2: he went after, none of the other women. 288 00:14:59,880 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 1: Just me. 289 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:04,880 Speaker 2: I did one tweet, that's it. And these women had 290 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 2: been dragging him for weeks and weeks and weeks and 291 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 2: writing op eds and this and that, but me, how 292 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:13,920 Speaker 2: dare you? It's the same thing like when Harry Weinstein 293 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 2: came out and all these women were saying me too, 294 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 2: me too. As soon as Lapita is Harvey, I said, 295 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 2: Harry Harvey's wanted, not. 296 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: That white guy, the other better bad guy, good guy, 297 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:26,160 Speaker 1: you know Hervey? 298 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 2: Yes, And Lupita Nuango when she stepped up, he said, 299 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 2: oh no, no, no, not her because how dad, remember 300 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 2: not the brand. 301 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 1: It's just so. 302 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 2: I mean when I tell you, like someone asked me 303 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 2: the other day, like, what's my favorite part about being 304 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 2: a black woman, and I said, honestly, other black women, 305 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 2: because you know, it is the safest, most like loving 306 00:15:53,080 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 2: most community based space that you can find, Like when 307 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 2: you are in community with other black women, it's like 308 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 2: a warm hug from your mom, your grandmam. It is 309 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:06,080 Speaker 2: like girlfriends like yeah, I mean you could literally see 310 00:16:06,160 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 2: someone like literally you should have seen Mandy. I was 311 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 2: showing my sister, like your picture on Instagram with your 312 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 2: new highlights. She was like, oh man, it's closed this. 313 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 2: We were just both going, I mean you're not even there, 314 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 2: and we're. 315 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: Like, yes, yes, yes, love to see other women win, 316 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: other black women win. Yes, it feels like we're winning. 317 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,960 Speaker 2: Yes, it's just like so just to see Megan. My 318 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 2: concern is, I mean, this is gonna be such a 319 00:16:30,120 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 2: huge blowback as a result of this. And I just 320 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 2: when Harry said, I could just see history repeating itself. 321 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 2: He was right, like they were not going to stop 322 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: until this woman was no longer breathing. And I'm glad 323 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 2: that he protected his wife and his family when he 324 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:47,480 Speaker 2: said I almost cried when he said, if all that happened, 325 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 2: as hard as it was, at least I had my wife. 326 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 2: When he said she didn't have anyone, Oh, it broke 327 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 2: my heart because he was like, this is what my 328 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 2: mother went through by herself, by herself, and she still 329 00:16:58,240 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 2: had to live there. 330 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 1: Like, yeah, yeah, I don't understand, you know, I'm obviously 331 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:06,920 Speaker 1: I'm not British, neither of us is, but and I 332 00:17:06,920 --> 00:17:10,160 Speaker 1: don't and I don't have the like it's just wasn't 333 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:12,440 Speaker 1: a part of my upbringing. Yes, I remember when Princess 334 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:15,399 Speaker 1: Diana died, But I don't understand the machine, even as 335 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: many times as I've watched The Crown and you know, 336 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:20,920 Speaker 1: Harry Potter, and not about the British family, the Royal family, 337 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:23,920 Speaker 1: but anyway, like, I'll never really understand what it's like 338 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:26,359 Speaker 1: to grow up there and to have them looming large 339 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 1: over us all. But I am horrified at how they 340 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 1: nearly broke this woman, and I am just like astounded 341 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 1: by her strength, and I just want nothing but the 342 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: best for her and little Archie and for Harry too, 343 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:45,359 Speaker 1: you know, I when I wanted to empathize with him. 344 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:48,119 Speaker 1: Maybe this is a good like talking point for us, 345 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:50,080 Speaker 1: is you know, at a certain point in the interview, 346 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: he's talking about how he was shocked and how he 347 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:56,560 Speaker 1: was you know, inside the machine and he felt trapped 348 00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 1: and I want to I wanted Oprah to and she 349 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 1: did an amazing job. Lady, Oh my god, bow down. 350 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: She did an incredible job with this interview. But I 351 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 1: and she was sort of pushing back, like you were 352 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 1: a royal prince, like how were you trapped? You know, 353 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: how could you not speak out? And I feel like 354 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 1: I wanted to empathize with him, but I was sort 355 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: of like, how could you? Why didn't you speak out? 356 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: Why did it take this long? You know why? And 357 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 1: I guess that's where I feel like I don't really 358 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:29,480 Speaker 1: maybe appreciate the mental, like the psychological hold that the 359 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 1: royal family could have on people within it, you know. 360 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 1: But I guess it's like I'm talking myself through this, 361 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:37,440 Speaker 1: and I guess it's like if you're if you're a 362 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: victim or you're a hostage, and you know, you do 363 00:18:40,760 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 1: things that maybe don't make sense to the outside looking in, 364 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 1: you know. And this it actually comes up with people 365 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,360 Speaker 1: who I've been abused too. They'll be like, I'll give 366 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:51,160 Speaker 1: you an example. I think on the show, I talked 367 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: about how I had a makeup artist work with me 368 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: at a previous job, and time after time I would 369 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:00,679 Speaker 1: sit in that chair and he would say despair things, 370 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 1: little make offhanded remarks that would make me feel bad, 371 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,640 Speaker 1: and I would continue sitting in that chair like week 372 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:10,280 Speaker 1: after week, month after month, And when I finally complained, 373 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 1: the first question was, well, why did you wait till now? 374 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 2: You know? 375 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: And it's I don't know how to articulate why, but yeah, 376 00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 1: I mean I understand where he's coming from. But I'm like, damn, 377 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:20,639 Speaker 1: even a royal prince, you know, when you're in it 378 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 1: like that, that is how like big a toxic relationship 379 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: can stop you from you know. And and for anyone 380 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: who's been a victim of any kind of toxic relationship, 381 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 1: I think it was a good It's not a good moment, 382 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 1: but like it's time for us to say, you know, 383 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: we will never understand what it's like to be in it. 384 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 1: We can only be in awe of someone who has 385 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:43,920 Speaker 1: the strength to get out of it and then speak 386 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 1: their truth. And yeah, I really commend them for that. 387 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was so I can't wait to finish watching. 388 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: Watched the whole thing. I also recorded CBS News this 389 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: morning for the from seven to nine because I wasn't 390 00:19:57,280 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 1: gonna I needed a peloton, but I heard Lady O 391 00:19:59,880 --> 00:20:02,920 Speaker 1: was on CBS with her girl Gail talking about like 392 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,720 Speaker 1: the behind the scenes and additional footage, so I want 393 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:08,680 Speaker 1: all there's extra tea tiff. You need to like get 394 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,119 Speaker 1: your full serving and then come back for seconds and thirds. 395 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just so much. Sometime I'm not gonna lie 396 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 2: like it just it will trigger like my latent anxiety. 397 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:19,680 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, okay, okay, okay, okay. Like I was 398 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:21,280 Speaker 2: going to watch it before I took a nap today 399 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 2: and I was like, you know what, I felt like 400 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 2: I was going to like dream about it, so I 401 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 2: was like, I won't. I won't. I will. Yeah. 402 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 1: But oh, before we go though, I mean before we 403 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:33,200 Speaker 1: switch subjects, what about the part where he said that 404 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,159 Speaker 1: they cut him off financially. I thought this was like 405 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:38,719 Speaker 1: the realist. I mean, it's it's hard to I mean, 406 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,680 Speaker 1: I don't have any sympathy for like a real prince 407 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:42,680 Speaker 1: because he's like, yeah, they cut me off financially, but 408 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 1: my mother's trust fun I had. But it's true, like 409 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: he was cut off and people made he was cut 410 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 1: off by the royal family apparently, like when they like 411 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 1: last year or the year before when they announced they 412 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: were where they were leaving their official duties. So it 413 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 1: didn't have money from the crown anymore. And I was like, oh, 414 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 1: a prince doesn't have any income, and I guess that's 415 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,359 Speaker 1: that's it, Like they get their income from the crown, 416 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 1: so he you know, when they moved to America, they 417 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:08,159 Speaker 1: didn't have a game plan, so they stayed with some friends, 418 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,600 Speaker 1: you know, on the friend's couch. Yes, the friend was 419 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:14,760 Speaker 1: Tyler Perry. Yes, which is part of the story that 420 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 1: I'm just like, how do they know Tyler anyway? Why 421 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:20,200 Speaker 1: why did they know Tyler Perry? Is he like the ambassador? 422 00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,639 Speaker 1: But anyway, but yeah, they stayed on a friend's couch 423 00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:25,119 Speaker 1: and they were a husband and wife. You know, husband 424 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:25,880 Speaker 1: lost his job. 425 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I means, go get them, none of us 426 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:34,000 Speaker 2: would Tyler Perry Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, he had to. 427 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 1: He had to make it, hew, you gotta put food 428 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: on the tables, got to get a Spotify Spotify deal 429 00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 1: and his Netflix deal. But I'm yeah, I'm and Megan's like, 430 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 1: you know, and I'm so happy for her because you 431 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: can tell, you know, she was such a vocal advocate 432 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:50,600 Speaker 1: for women and girls before getting into the rural family. 433 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:52,840 Speaker 1: I'm sure she looked at it as like, Wow, I'm 434 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 1: going to be on a world stage doing my doing 435 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:57,040 Speaker 1: this work on a much higher level, and then it 436 00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: was ripped away from her, and now she gets a 437 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,560 Speaker 1: chance to do that, and I'm so I'm I'm really 438 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:07,120 Speaker 1: excited to see what they create because I think they're 439 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 1: extremely powerful and I stand for her all day long. 440 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,120 Speaker 1: I don't have any time for Megan Haters. I didn't 441 00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 1: know who she was before this either, but. 442 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:18,359 Speaker 2: Now we know. Now we know now, and I feel like, honestly, 443 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,399 Speaker 2: I just love to see all the black women. We 444 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:21,240 Speaker 2: were all information. 445 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 1: I was like, yes, and Serena was like Serena Williams 446 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:26,400 Speaker 1: was like the ringleader. 447 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 2: She was like, I wish you would. Everyone had their 448 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:37,160 Speaker 2: basoline and earrings off last night for Meg. Yes, cell 449 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 2: switching gears. I don't know if you saw, but I 450 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:40,399 Speaker 2: went to the White House. 451 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 1: Yes, I actually yeah, it was kind of yeah, I was. 452 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 1: I saw a couple of posts from someone who was like, 453 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 1: I just got back from the White House, and I'm like, 454 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,120 Speaker 1: are you gonna are you gonna do an asterisk where 455 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,560 Speaker 1: you tell everybody it was a zoom called. 456 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, I saw for some of that was kind of 457 00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 2: I was like, no, it's virtual. Everybody knows that we're virtual. 458 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:00,600 Speaker 2: I mean I was literally like I was doing, like, 459 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 2: you know, a little pre roll like eh, sit in 460 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:06,119 Speaker 2: my chair, you know. But so I'll say this, So 461 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 2: I just actually just saw an article where the White 462 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:10,080 Speaker 2: House is planning to do more of this, like to 463 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,119 Speaker 2: kind of reach out to influencers. I just wonder what 464 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:14,680 Speaker 2: you think about this, like, you know, like as it. 465 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 2: I don't know if I consider myself an influencer, but whatever, 466 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:18,920 Speaker 2: and reach out to influence. 467 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 1: You wait a second, say that one more time. You're 468 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:22,400 Speaker 1: not serious? 469 00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 2: No, I guess you know. When I think of influencer, 470 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,960 Speaker 2: I mean I do I think I have someone with influence, yes, 471 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,439 Speaker 2: but influencer meaning like you know, here's my face cream. 472 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,879 Speaker 1: Hey guys, your face cream is financial independence and well building. 473 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,280 Speaker 1: That's your face cream. You're a finfluencer. Didn't you know 474 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,880 Speaker 1: that that? Oh that's a good thing. Get out of here. 475 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 2: But I will say that it was a little I mean, 476 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:49,240 Speaker 2: I was glad for it, and I was grateful for 477 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 2: a sister reached out, which is awesome. She's like, oh 478 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 2: my god, I'm such a fan of your work. I 479 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 2: wish cause you know, I had some like down and 480 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 2: dirty questions about like race, and like one of my 481 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,520 Speaker 2: questions was about like race and the their appraisal process, 482 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,800 Speaker 2: and because I've heard the present talk about it like 483 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,840 Speaker 2: that he wants to do something about it. But they 484 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 2: were kind of like, eh, they shied away from that 485 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 2: a little bit and saw another thing was like I 486 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,639 Speaker 2: really wanted to lean into what was gonna matter to 487 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:16,920 Speaker 2: my audience, which was, you know how finance and race 488 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,120 Speaker 2: intersect and in the ways they intersect in a way 489 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:23,880 Speaker 2: that are not beneficial to all people, but especially black 490 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,920 Speaker 2: and brown people, And so there's a little pushback like, well, 491 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 2: what's just stick to I was like, so, you know, 492 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 2: I still got some good questions in. But you know, 493 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 2: that was my only I would say, slight disappointment that 494 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,240 Speaker 2: I couldn't get get knitty gritty with it. It wasn't 495 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 2: they wasn't hit for the real reel. 496 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,760 Speaker 1: Well, listen, it was your first big White House interview. 497 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 1: You're not a trained journalist, You're not there you know 498 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,200 Speaker 1: what to give yourself a break, you know, it wasn't 499 00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 1: an Oprah situation. 500 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 2: But no, but I mean like it was no, it 501 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:57,440 Speaker 2: was it was nice to to I guess be thought of. 502 00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,720 Speaker 2: You just don't know who's watching, but it also too, 503 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:01,639 Speaker 2: it was It's nice to honestly because I still was 504 00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,440 Speaker 2: able to position the questions that people really wanted to 505 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,280 Speaker 2: know because I'd posted previously on social like what would 506 00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 2: you like me to ask? And I did get to 507 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,160 Speaker 2: ask most of the questions that I felt were most 508 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 2: pressing based upon what my audience wanted to hear. Even 509 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 2: if I dialted back, you know, as far as race 510 00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:19,920 Speaker 2: is considered, and I mean the questions, the answers were eh, 511 00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,720 Speaker 2: you know, you know, very white House, so you know, 512 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,399 Speaker 2: that is what it is. But hopefully more of this 513 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,120 Speaker 2: will happen, that the White House wants to communicate directly 514 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 2: with people through people that they trust, and then that 515 00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 2: will happen more and more, and not just in personal finance, 516 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:36,000 Speaker 2: but like across the board. 517 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:37,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that. I mean, if they're knocking on 518 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:41,440 Speaker 1: your virtual door, then I'm like, this is the let's 519 00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:44,439 Speaker 1: keep following this good feeling. Okay, let's continue in this direction. 520 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,960 Speaker 1: So that's great. Thank you for representing. I'm sure it 521 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 1: must have felt like a lot of pressure, but I'm 522 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:50,920 Speaker 1: sure you did great. Where can we check it out 523 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,520 Speaker 1: because it sounds like you got the video mm hmm. 524 00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, they OK. The video. It's just like if 525 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 2: you got to check out my it's on all the socials, 526 00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,399 Speaker 2: but it's probably easiest to watch on my Instagram. You'll 527 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,680 Speaker 2: see like a picture of me super imposed in front 528 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:06,760 Speaker 2: of the White House, like, hey, because if nothing else, 529 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 2: I'm going to. 530 00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:11,000 Speaker 1: Tiffany well, listen, I have no doubt you will be 531 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:12,800 Speaker 1: at the White House, and I'm just gonna manifest it. 532 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: I'm going to be at the White House too, doing something, 533 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: maybe just you know, picking up a package for someone. 534 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll be there now. That's wonderful. Speaking 535 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:28,240 Speaker 1: of the White House, though, Stimmy's Stimmy checks are coming, y'all. 536 00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:31,359 Speaker 1: It looks like the Congress is going to pass the 537 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 1: this's what is at one point nine trillion bajillion dollar 538 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,200 Speaker 1: relief bill past the so it was the House and 539 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 1: the Senate and now it's back to the House, I 540 00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 1: guess to do the final passing, and then it looks 541 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 1: like Biden might sign it this week. So maybe by 542 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:48,840 Speaker 1: the time you guys are listening to this, Stimmy checks 543 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:50,080 Speaker 1: will be on the way. 544 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:51,040 Speaker 2: Yeah. 545 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 1: Fourteen hundred dollars, Yeah, fourteen hundred dollars and it's going 546 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:59,359 Speaker 1: to increase unemployment benefits an additional yep, three hundred dollars 547 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:03,639 Speaker 1: per week through September sixth, and you could be getting 548 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: your stimulus money as soon as this month. 549 00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, so many people are just like, you know, 550 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:11,360 Speaker 2: at least it's something, because that's one of the things 551 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,440 Speaker 2: I pressed him on, like, well, you know, like, so 552 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,679 Speaker 2: all these things are great, but what happens when they 553 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 2: run out? Because they will and they still be like 554 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,119 Speaker 2: a significant amount of people who are still not able 555 00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,200 Speaker 2: to financially take care of themselves through no faults of 556 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: their own. If your industry literally shuts down, like the 557 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:32,320 Speaker 2: restaurant industry, what do you do? That's a big concern. 558 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 2: And I remember, yeah, exactly, I remember those times. Everybody 559 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:38,680 Speaker 2: doesn't have like I was fortunate I could say I'll 560 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,560 Speaker 2: move back in with my parents. Everyone doesn't have that 561 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:43,600 Speaker 2: option to say I'll move back in with my parents. 562 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 2: So what do you do? So yeah, I just can't 563 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 2: imagine like what people are going through with families who 564 00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,359 Speaker 2: are just like so, I don't know what to do. 565 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,280 Speaker 2: And although this is great, this is temporary, but like 566 00:27:56,640 --> 00:28:00,199 Speaker 2: what happens when my landlord is like, hey, I also 567 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:04,480 Speaker 2: needs to pay my mortgage, so yeah, yeah, yeah. 568 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:08,119 Speaker 1: Well with this bill, it should extend some rental relief 569 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 1: programs and mortgage assistance programs. And also there's a lot 570 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,359 Speaker 1: of state specific programs. So if you're if you're struggling 571 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,120 Speaker 1: and you need help to you know, you're worried about 572 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,560 Speaker 1: covering your rent or your mortgage, I would look, well, 573 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:21,639 Speaker 1: first of all, call your if it's a mortgage, call 574 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:25,160 Speaker 1: your servicer and just ask them if they have any programming, 575 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,200 Speaker 1: and then ask what the particulars are, what the fine 576 00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:29,520 Speaker 1: print is all of that, and as far as rent, 577 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:33,119 Speaker 1: see if your state has a specific rental assistance program. 578 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 1: I was just poking around on Georgia's site for for 579 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,360 Speaker 1: COVID relief because I was trying to get my dad. 580 00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: My dad's a bus driver in Atlanta. He still is 581 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,840 Speaker 1: not eligible for the vaccine, and I was I was like, oh, Daddy, 582 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 1: you're probably just like not reading the paperwork, right, But 583 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 1: I'm looking at and I'm like, he's not listed. This 584 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:52,960 Speaker 1: man is on a bus every day. I mean, he's 585 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,680 Speaker 1: a he's a it's like a he drives out what 586 00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:59,280 Speaker 1: do you call it? The accessor ride type equivalent in Georgia, 587 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 1: so he picks up people who have disabilities. And he's 588 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 1: not you know, he's not. He doesn't have dozens of 589 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,320 Speaker 1: passengers at any given time. It's like a smaller bus. 590 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,280 Speaker 1: But still, this man, and I've seen him, he has 591 00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,040 Speaker 1: like a cloth mask or not, like giving him n 592 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: ninety fives. It's boggling to me. I'm like, how do 593 00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 1: I protect my dad? And I'm trying to manage everything 594 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:21,360 Speaker 1: else going on right now, and it's anyhow. I was 595 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,560 Speaker 1: poking around in George's site and I did see a 596 00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:26,320 Speaker 1: tab for rental assistance, So yeah, I would just say, 597 00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 1: look and see what's going on in your area. 598 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I needed that sign. 599 00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,360 Speaker 1: I know. It's just it's a lot of it's a 600 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,280 Speaker 1: lot of weight on us kids too. I will say, 601 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:43,600 Speaker 1: I'm not the only daughter in this country who is 602 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,560 Speaker 1: trying to deal with her shit and then try to 603 00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:49,560 Speaker 1: support her parents, or especially it's my dad, you know, 604 00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,440 Speaker 1: he's I feel additional pressure because he doesn't you know. 605 00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:55,000 Speaker 1: It's like me and my brother. That's it. But I 606 00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:59,120 Speaker 1: have a good friend whose parents, you know, they're Vietnamese immigrants, 607 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,000 Speaker 1: and they have two they have one owns a small 608 00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:05,080 Speaker 1: business the other one worked in a job where they 609 00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,320 Speaker 1: were interfacing with tenants at an apartment building all the 610 00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:11,960 Speaker 1: time and time, the hours and hours she spent trying 611 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 1: to help her mom apply for all the PPP program 612 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 1: or what's it called the small business relief programs and 613 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,600 Speaker 1: trying to like help her figure out her income. You know, 614 00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,719 Speaker 1: this is a cash business. So and she's in New 615 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,240 Speaker 1: York and her mom is in Georgia. And my heart 616 00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:31,400 Speaker 1: goes out to all the kids who are helping their 617 00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:35,800 Speaker 1: parents navigate this and figure out the right the quote 618 00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 1: unquote right, you know, financial choices to make. It's it's 619 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 1: really really difficult. 620 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:44,080 Speaker 2: It is, honestly, Like even like for example, Superman, his 621 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 2: father it, you know, had to apply for unemployment and 622 00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,080 Speaker 2: it was it took so much to walk him through 623 00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,000 Speaker 2: because I was even like, how do you apply for 624 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:55,120 Speaker 2: an employment these days? You know, I have not had 625 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 2: to do it in like literally ten, you know, fifteen years, 626 00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:02,080 Speaker 2: and so just there's so much. 627 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 1: It hasn't gotten much better. I'll tell you that it 628 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,480 Speaker 1: really hasn't. The system was not prepared. It was not 629 00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:14,080 Speaker 1: prepared despite what happened ten years ago. Sadly, oh, I 630 00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:18,560 Speaker 1: know who freaking saw did we even mention Women's History Month. 631 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,840 Speaker 2: The International Women's Day? Happy International Women's Day. Well, for 632 00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:25,960 Speaker 2: those of you are listening, you're late. Yeah, it wasn't today. 633 00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 2: It was International Women's Day. My mom actually called me. 634 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,000 Speaker 2: She was so cute. She's like, happy International Woman's Day. 635 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,400 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it feels like a holiday. It 636 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 1: does for me. I feel sparkly today. I just feel 637 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,720 Speaker 1: like I feel like just spreading some fairy dust and 638 00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 1: all the women in my life. I always, yeah, it's 639 00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:45,680 Speaker 1: I love this day. 640 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:49,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. I was like, do you remember in twenty fifteen 641 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,160 Speaker 2: when you went to to get you know, your award 642 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,120 Speaker 2: in DC. I was like what. Then she said, proceeded 643 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 2: to send me pictures. I'm like, only my mother. Only 644 00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 2: moms keep like such receipts. I was like, Oh, this 645 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 2: is gonna be man like my baby rio look at 646 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 2: all the things. You know. 647 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:06,320 Speaker 1: She was like too much. 648 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,840 Speaker 2: She told my sister when I was because once she 649 00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:10,240 Speaker 2: found out I was doing the thing for the White House, 650 00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:13,040 Speaker 2: she was like, so, Tracy, I need you. I need 651 00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 2: you to get pictures and recording of Tiffany and Facey 652 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:17,800 Speaker 2: was like she She's gonna be live. Mommy. I can't. 653 00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,160 Speaker 2: She's like, hide in the corner, Hide in the corner. 654 00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:23,680 Speaker 2: I was like, that's how that works. Thankfully they gave 655 00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:25,000 Speaker 2: me a recording so I was able to pass it 656 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,800 Speaker 2: on to her because you know, there's you can't stunt 657 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,480 Speaker 2: on the Aunties with just saying words. You must show 658 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:34,680 Speaker 2: visuals and so at least that's gonna happen. But yeah, 659 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:37,400 Speaker 2: I think that like International Women's Day, like, you know, 660 00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,440 Speaker 2: we all came. What is it? It's like it's a 661 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:42,200 Speaker 2: tupac lyric. It's like we all came from a woman 662 00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 2: I can't remember. I'm so bad rap, you know what 663 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:51,560 Speaker 2: I mean. There's a toolpop wrap specifically that like it's 664 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,000 Speaker 2: like I don't know it's I think it's for dear mama. 665 00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:57,240 Speaker 2: But basically, like, you know, women are just amazing and 666 00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:00,320 Speaker 2: our capability of doing things. I was just sharing someone 667 00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,040 Speaker 2: the other day that they ask me why you know, 668 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,800 Speaker 2: not not as many women invest or feel, or you know, 669 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,640 Speaker 2: or manage their money, and I said, honestly, it's not 670 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:13,680 Speaker 2: a capability issue. It's a confidence issue, and that so 671 00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 2: many women have been told their whole life leave it 672 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,680 Speaker 2: to the boys. They know that, you know, they just 673 00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:23,080 Speaker 2: have not developed the confidence to be able to do so. 674 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:25,560 Speaker 2: But I'll share with the single mother. The other day, 675 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 2: I said, you think investing is hard, you know it's 676 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:29,360 Speaker 2: harder raising that kid by yourself. 677 00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:34,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't put that an autopilot. I wish I could. 678 00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 1: You know how many times these kids have to eat 679 00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 1: in a single day and you have to think of 680 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:41,680 Speaker 1: something new every time, Like, can I automate the meals? 681 00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:42,239 Speaker 1: Joes us? 682 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,680 Speaker 2: And I was like, so, if you you are raising 683 00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:49,760 Speaker 2: this kid by yourself, doing homeschool, working online, making sure 684 00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:54,240 Speaker 2: they're good, like doing all of this, girl, Like, it 685 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,360 Speaker 2: is not a capability issue, it is a confidence issue. 686 00:33:57,720 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 2: But if you can do all this, then investing is 687 00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:04,080 Speaker 2: nothing in comparison to what you've accomplished thus far. 688 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 1: And she was like wow. 689 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:06,680 Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, so put your cape on, girl, 690 00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:09,279 Speaker 2: put your cape on and pick up a book, watch 691 00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,759 Speaker 2: some YouTube videos, and start to educate yourself. It's just 692 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:16,160 Speaker 2: about confidence. And so I just wish on this International 693 00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:20,160 Speaker 2: Woman's Day, I wish all the women listening to lean 694 00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,160 Speaker 2: into your superpower, which is the ability to do whatever 695 00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,480 Speaker 2: the hell you put your mind to, and know that 696 00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:31,160 Speaker 2: there's nothing too hard, too big, too complicated. 697 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:35,680 Speaker 1: For you to master one step at a time a men, 698 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,840 Speaker 1: And that's exactly what our calling is. Tiffany is giving 699 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:39,960 Speaker 1: that confidence boost. 700 00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:40,440 Speaker 2: It is. 701 00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:46,359 Speaker 1: Recognizing what so many other financial educators or experts who 702 00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 1: are not inclusive don't recognize, which is when a black 703 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:51,719 Speaker 1: woman walks into your office or a woman of color 704 00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:55,839 Speaker 1: walks into your office, there's two huge layers of her 705 00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:59,879 Speaker 1: identity that may that are have created a situation where 706 00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,280 Speaker 1: she does not have access to certain knowledge or doesn't 707 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,840 Speaker 1: feel they have she has access to certain knowledge, and 708 00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 1: we have to recognize that and be empathetic in our positions. 709 00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:12,640 Speaker 1: And when someone you know walks into our office or 710 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,920 Speaker 1: we don't have offices or whatever, walks into our virtual world, 711 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,799 Speaker 1: like we see them. And I think that is why 712 00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:22,000 Speaker 1: representation in this space is so freaking important. So shout 713 00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: out to you, Tiffany, Shout out to Brown Ambition, Thank 714 00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:28,440 Speaker 1: y'all for coming to this safe space to hopefully build you. 715 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,640 Speaker 1: I get the messages from people all the time. I 716 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:34,600 Speaker 1: know that we're reaching people and helping them take that 717 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,239 Speaker 1: take that first step. And I think the first step 718 00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:40,800 Speaker 1: is really just saying, like, listen, it's not you, Like 719 00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:42,960 Speaker 1: it's not your fault that you don't know this stuff, 720 00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 1: this stuff was this the system was not built for us. 721 00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 1: We have got to we have got an extra a 722 00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,920 Speaker 1: little bit of work to do to to get ourselves 723 00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,920 Speaker 1: to the starting line. And when we're there, we will succeed. 724 00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:58,280 Speaker 1: And that's why, you know, it's why I'm so proud 725 00:35:58,520 --> 00:35:59,880 Speaker 1: and happy to be doing this show with you. 726 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:05,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, me too, Mandrain me too. See, I'm even giving 727 00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:07,480 Speaker 2: you a hug, and you know I don't like hugs. 728 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,920 Speaker 1: I don't know. Can't we tell you in person? 729 00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:13,800 Speaker 2: Oh no, let's not do that. 730 00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:14,840 Speaker 1: When is that gonna be? 731 00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,879 Speaker 2: I know, I know one of these days. Oh well, 732 00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:21,600 Speaker 2: I've said that. 733 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:26,920 Speaker 1: All I had to say today are impossible. Impossible. Let 734 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,560 Speaker 1: us take a oh, we need to take a quick break, 735 00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,759 Speaker 1: and we have a very special special announcement about our 736 00:36:32,880 --> 00:37:10,320 Speaker 1: question system. Come back to all right, we are back 737 00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:13,759 Speaker 1: ready to take y'all's questions. But before we do, have 738 00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,840 Speaker 1: you guys ever wanted to just like call Tiffany or me, 739 00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,440 Speaker 1: just like call us up and ask us your questions. 740 00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:22,640 Speaker 1: Anybody anyone tired of trying to type your question into 741 00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 1: a little Instagram box and being like I want to 742 00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,880 Speaker 1: remain anonymous and then Mandy forgets to read it, you know, 743 00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:32,840 Speaker 1: because she's skimming through ig dms way too quickly. The 744 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,120 Speaker 1: answer is here. You guys can actually call us now 745 00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:40,120 Speaker 1: and send us your questions yourselves. I'm so so excited. 746 00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:44,600 Speaker 1: All right, So our new producer Sarah is listening, and 747 00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:46,600 Speaker 1: so if I mess this up, Sarah just let me know. 748 00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:50,240 Speaker 1: But you guys can call or text, call or text 749 00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:54,440 Speaker 1: this number to have your question hit our virtual voicemailbox. 750 00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:57,799 Speaker 1: And the number is eight four four eight five eight 751 00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:02,440 Speaker 1: eight zero eight zero. Okay, eight four four eight five 752 00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,759 Speaker 1: eight eight zero eight zero. Do I sound like the 753 00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:09,080 Speaker 1: infomercial person? So this is yeah, this is going to 754 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,279 Speaker 1: be in our show notes. Also, you can go to 755 00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:13,680 Speaker 1: our Instagram. There'll be like a link there for you 756 00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:17,360 Speaker 1: to leave your voicemail. And I'm excited because I want to. 757 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,800 Speaker 1: We'll actually get to hear y'all's voices here on the 758 00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 1: air and answer your questions live, so or not live literally, 759 00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,279 Speaker 1: but you know it'll be kind of semi live. Okay. 760 00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:28,200 Speaker 1: Isn't that cool? 761 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,600 Speaker 2: It's very cool? And honestly, I'm excited because I you know, 762 00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,040 Speaker 2: I feel like our audience is just like so awesome, 763 00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,759 Speaker 2: And I think sometimes we need like context that we're 764 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:38,279 Speaker 2: like so we kind of guestimate some things, like I'm 765 00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,759 Speaker 2: gonna assume that you mean this, and I'm gonna assume. 766 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:42,399 Speaker 2: So it'd be great to just be like, Okay, well 767 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,880 Speaker 2: we can get more clarity in context so we can 768 00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:46,600 Speaker 2: give you our best answer. 769 00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Well let's dive right on in and 770 00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,880 Speaker 1: see y'all's questions. So you remember how usually to if 771 00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:58,120 Speaker 1: we like always preface the question segment by saying, you know, 772 00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:02,279 Speaker 1: we're your financial girlfriends, not girls, and like, don't come 773 00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:05,120 Speaker 1: for us if if we get something wrong, and always 774 00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,080 Speaker 1: you know, use trusted financial advisors. Well, here's a good 775 00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,200 Speaker 1: reason why I made a whoopsie last week, y'all. I 776 00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:15,640 Speaker 1: made a shocking I know, I made an incorrect statement, 777 00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,640 Speaker 1: which is driving me nuts. So last week, basically I 778 00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:20,520 Speaker 1: was I don't know if I was answering your question 779 00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,479 Speaker 1: or we were talking about something, but I was talking 780 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,719 Speaker 1: about how we are saving for my son, for Rio, 781 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,480 Speaker 1: and how I was trying to invest for him and 782 00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,200 Speaker 1: save for him at the same time. And I what 783 00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:35,440 Speaker 1: I said was we opened a custodial iray for him. 784 00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:36,840 Speaker 2: What I was strange. 785 00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:41,759 Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, like YOULI can't do that. 786 00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:45,440 Speaker 1: Can I explain why you can't do that? Because with 787 00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:49,240 Speaker 1: an IRA, a kid has to actually earn taxable income, 788 00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:53,160 Speaker 1: and as parents, you can open a custodial IRA for them, 789 00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,680 Speaker 1: but they have to earn taxable income and you can't 790 00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,880 Speaker 1: contribute any more like one cent more than what they 791 00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:01,640 Speaker 1: earn to their IRA. So that's not what I meant 792 00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:05,240 Speaker 1: a custodial brokerage account. It is just a regular brokerage 793 00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,840 Speaker 1: account that is a thing, and you can open a 794 00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:11,200 Speaker 1: custodial brokerage account and put money aside for them. So 795 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:14,279 Speaker 1: my bad, and I'm sorry if I confused anybody. And 796 00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:16,719 Speaker 1: thank you to the listener. I don't have their name up. 797 00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:18,960 Speaker 1: I should because I would give you a shout out. 798 00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:23,239 Speaker 1: Oh here it is Martisha, So thank you Martisia for 799 00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,239 Speaker 1: calling me out. I deserved it and hopefully I didn't 800 00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,960 Speaker 1: confuse y'all. And that's why we say, you know, we're 801 00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:31,040 Speaker 1: humans and. 802 00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:36,360 Speaker 2: Sometimes we're like talking so fast, you know, and you know, 803 00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:38,680 Speaker 2: we mean something in our head and it comes out different. 804 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,759 Speaker 2: So we appreciate, quite honestly for you guys to be like, oh, 805 00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:43,400 Speaker 2: because we know a lot of you guys are finance 806 00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,200 Speaker 2: nerds like us. So if you hear a thing and 807 00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,400 Speaker 2: you're like, girl, you sure me that certainly hit us 808 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:50,080 Speaker 2: up and let us. 809 00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:54,920 Speaker 1: Know absolutely all right, here comes a question from anonymous listener. 810 00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,400 Speaker 1: You'll see why when I get into her question. So 811 00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,400 Speaker 1: she says, I'm a senior case manager working for a 812 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:05,600 Speaker 1: nonprofit that has Medicaid billing programs and non medicaid billing programs. 813 00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:08,880 Speaker 1: I have a caseload of nineteen clients with mental illness. 814 00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:11,800 Speaker 1: Last year, I was asked to provide coverage for seven 815 00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:15,720 Speaker 1: clients for five weeks. Due to my work ethic, time management, 816 00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,760 Speaker 1: and organizational skills, I agreed to take on the task. 817 00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:21,520 Speaker 1: They were so satisfied by my work that last month 818 00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,280 Speaker 1: they asked me to provide coverage for four more weeks 819 00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,399 Speaker 1: for three more clients for the same program. I said 820 00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:30,200 Speaker 1: okay through the month of February. But I didn't get 821 00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:34,600 Speaker 1: paid extra for providing this additional coverage. After I completed 822 00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:37,080 Speaker 1: what I was asked to do, I received an email 823 00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,279 Speaker 1: from my director asking me to extend that coverage through 824 00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:43,200 Speaker 1: the middle of March. I told her no, because I 825 00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:45,759 Speaker 1: agreed to help just through the end of February. I 826 00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,320 Speaker 1: just can't do it for three more weeks. My no 827 00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,879 Speaker 1: was rejected. I now have to do it. They've only 828 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,239 Speaker 1: offered me one day off in return. Is it time 829 00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:56,719 Speaker 1: for me to look for another job? 830 00:41:57,120 --> 00:41:59,239 Speaker 2: Yes, I've I feel like this. 831 00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:02,080 Speaker 1: I feel like they took advantage of my kindness and 832 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:03,160 Speaker 1: I'm burned out. 833 00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,719 Speaker 2: Yes, girl, let me pay something that work. Like from 834 00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:11,720 Speaker 2: the beginning, I would say to set the clear boundary 835 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:15,000 Speaker 2: because here's this is and not every job navigates like this. 836 00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:18,600 Speaker 2: You know, some people will see and say, hey, you know, 837 00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:20,239 Speaker 2: I know I'm asking you for this. This is what 838 00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:23,160 Speaker 2: I'd like to give you in return. And so, for example, 839 00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:26,200 Speaker 2: sometimes there'll be things that I'll ask my the people 840 00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:27,799 Speaker 2: who work with me. I always I hate to say 841 00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:29,480 Speaker 2: work for me, because we really work together that work 842 00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:33,080 Speaker 2: with me, and it'll be additional. So there was a 843 00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:36,440 Speaker 2: woman on my team, she's excellent, amazing, just like you sound, 844 00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,480 Speaker 2: and there was additional work that she took on. But 845 00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:41,120 Speaker 2: then later she came to me she was like, hey, 846 00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:42,799 Speaker 2: you know, that's kind of like out of my work 847 00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:45,759 Speaker 2: title and it's additional work, you know, And I was like, oh, girl, 848 00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:49,200 Speaker 2: you're totally right. So me not paying her extra initially 849 00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:52,640 Speaker 2: initially wasn't because I was trying to get over it, 850 00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,040 Speaker 2: just because especially with like I guess, I don't know 851 00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:57,080 Speaker 2: if you call me a startup still, it's so easy 852 00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,160 Speaker 2: to just pick up work to do work. And so 853 00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,680 Speaker 2: but as soon as I I found out be remediated 854 00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,399 Speaker 2: and I was like, yes, let's go back to when 855 00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:06,960 Speaker 2: it started, so we can give you that back pay now. 856 00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,400 Speaker 2: If that's not the reaction then, or if you know 857 00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:11,920 Speaker 2: that's not the kind of environment you work at, like 858 00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:16,080 Speaker 2: if anyone's just listening, I agreeing to do that without 859 00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:21,520 Speaker 2: parameters in place. Always always always ask for Hey, I 860 00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:23,680 Speaker 2: you know, I you know I'd love to help. So 861 00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:25,640 Speaker 2: but what are some of the parameters? Am I going 862 00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:26,280 Speaker 2: to be available? 863 00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:26,480 Speaker 1: Like? 864 00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:29,680 Speaker 2: Am I going to be compensated for this additional work? 865 00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:31,880 Speaker 2: Will I be able to take additional days off? Like 866 00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:35,880 Speaker 2: getting that plan now? And absolutely, girl, they tried it, 867 00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:38,239 Speaker 2: they played it because what'm fools? I just don't Here's 868 00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:41,759 Speaker 2: why I don't understand, Mandy. Why does corporate America say, 869 00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:43,800 Speaker 2: oh my god, Maddy, you are so amazing. You know 870 00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,239 Speaker 2: how I'm gonna reward you by mistreating you. Isn't that great? 871 00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:47,160 Speaker 2: Isn't that great? 872 00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,279 Speaker 1: Job? We love working with you. Can you keep doing 873 00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:53,439 Speaker 1: that for free? 874 00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:56,360 Speaker 2: Yeah? Or just like and can we overwork you and 875 00:43:56,480 --> 00:43:58,600 Speaker 2: underpay you and mistreat you? You're leaving? 876 00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:00,480 Speaker 1: What why? 877 00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:03,640 Speaker 2: So? Like one of our friends made that we know 878 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,680 Speaker 2: she's leaving her job after she begged for help and assistance. 879 00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:10,360 Speaker 2: Now she someone else left and they gave her that 880 00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:13,200 Speaker 2: person's work. No extra money for you, please, I'm johnning. No, 881 00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:16,640 Speaker 2: she went away from maternity leave and when she went away, 882 00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:18,640 Speaker 2: they have to get three people to do her one job. 883 00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:20,160 Speaker 2: So when she came back and she said, so you 884 00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,239 Speaker 2: see how much it is? Can I help have help? Now? 885 00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:24,520 Speaker 2: So recently she found a job that was paying her 886 00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:28,960 Speaker 2: literally like significantly more, and she's like sidebar, I'm out. 887 00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:30,640 Speaker 2: And they were like no, all of a sudden, this 888 00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,440 Speaker 2: we'll give you assistance and this and we're pay and 889 00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:36,600 Speaker 2: we'll match you. And I just don't get it, Like 890 00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:38,560 Speaker 2: I guess I have not worked in a corporate environment, 891 00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,279 Speaker 2: Like what is that then? Like let's abuse, oh. 892 00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:43,840 Speaker 1: Hey, hey, now hey, now hey, now this is a nonprofit. 893 00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:47,000 Speaker 1: It happens everywhere. It doesn't matter, like listen, it happened 894 00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,359 Speaker 1: in the Royal family. Megan said, Oh, I don't get 895 00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:53,440 Speaker 1: any mental health benefits or professional development support or like 896 00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:57,080 Speaker 1: these are basic Like I don't know. I feel like 897 00:44:57,200 --> 00:45:00,719 Speaker 1: at the end, it's an institutional it's thing broken at 898 00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:03,560 Speaker 1: the level, at the institutional level, it's someone somewhere along 899 00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:07,920 Speaker 1: the lines, something has been broken and employee care hasn't 900 00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:09,960 Speaker 1: been taken into account. Because even though like tiff like 901 00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,160 Speaker 1: you know at the Budgeonista, you you're put you in 902 00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,520 Speaker 1: any other organization, You're still going to be Tiffany. Like 903 00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,239 Speaker 1: if you run a team of a couple dozen women 904 00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:21,719 Speaker 1: at any company, you would manage them the same way 905 00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:23,840 Speaker 1: you manage them now under the Budganesta. I feel like 906 00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,560 Speaker 1: and that like I think it comes down to people 907 00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:31,440 Speaker 1: and systems and we need yeah, and people being allowed 908 00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:35,399 Speaker 1: to continue doing you know, something like this and I listen. 909 00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:38,960 Speaker 1: I don't know what the specific answer is, but I 910 00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,160 Speaker 1: people need like this interview that Megan, I'll bring it 911 00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,400 Speaker 1: back to Meghan and Harry. This was like the exit 912 00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:46,960 Speaker 1: interview is how I how I saw it, Like you 913 00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:49,920 Speaker 1: left a job, you weren't happy, tell us why, And 914 00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:53,239 Speaker 1: companies really need to be listening and if they don't listen, 915 00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:55,440 Speaker 1: then they'll continue to have you know, that kind of 916 00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,919 Speaker 1: turnover and you know as they should and yes, yes, 917 00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,400 Speaker 1: yes you need to leave, you need to take it. 918 00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,520 Speaker 1: Sounds like you have amazing skills and a very loose 919 00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:07,640 Speaker 1: in a field that probably has tons of not tons, 920 00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:11,040 Speaker 1: but probably has plenty of jobs out there. So I 921 00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:14,480 Speaker 1: wish you had told us what state you're in. What's yeah, 922 00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:16,960 Speaker 1: hit me back on install, let me know what state here? 923 00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,560 Speaker 1: I meybe people. We sometimes listeners will actually know, Hey, 924 00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:21,000 Speaker 1: I got a job here, I got a job there. 925 00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:24,440 Speaker 1: But it's time. Yeah, it's it's if they're not respecting 926 00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:26,840 Speaker 1: your time and not giving you the support you need, 927 00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,759 Speaker 1: then as long as you're able move move on. 928 00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, Because honestly, caseworkers are like because I have a 929 00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:34,799 Speaker 2: number of friends that've worked like as social workers and caseworkers, 930 00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:37,239 Speaker 2: and you guys are always in high demand because it's hard, 931 00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:39,239 Speaker 2: it's a it's a it's a field that people get 932 00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,640 Speaker 2: easily burned out because it's so stressful. So they're always 933 00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,000 Speaker 2: looking for people, so you do not have to There 934 00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:47,839 Speaker 2: are moments when it's like a little girl, it's gonna 935 00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:49,080 Speaker 2: be hard to find a job in that field and 936 00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:52,120 Speaker 2: there's girl they will gobble you up and find a 937 00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:53,960 Speaker 2: better place. But it's a good learning lesson because I 938 00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:57,359 Speaker 2: know I'm the queen of no boundaries until I'm like, wait, now, 939 00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:00,080 Speaker 2: I'm in a corner. They pay me one penny and 940 00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,160 Speaker 2: I come in three hundred and sixty five days a year. 941 00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:02,719 Speaker 2: What should I do? 942 00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:03,800 Speaker 1: So? 943 00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:07,400 Speaker 2: I understand because you want to be helpful, you know, 944 00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:09,960 Speaker 2: but yeah, they tried it. I can't when they say 945 00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:11,480 Speaker 2: they denied it, how are you gonna ask? 946 00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:15,239 Speaker 1: How do you decide it? God, don't understand how And 947 00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:18,000 Speaker 1: I'm not, Yeah, I mean this, I'm not in this field. 948 00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,640 Speaker 1: But I'm just like, so I say here's the line, 949 00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,080 Speaker 1: and you say, oh, never mind that. I don't care 950 00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:26,360 Speaker 1: about the line, Like you're gonna do it anyway. But 951 00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:28,799 Speaker 1: if I would say, pat, you know, start saving your coin, 952 00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,239 Speaker 1: start looking for their jobs, and they and if they 953 00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,160 Speaker 1: have anything to say about it, you know, you can 954 00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:37,680 Speaker 1: tell them remember this, yeah goodbye, and if we need 955 00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,000 Speaker 1: you know, if you need that. I feel like this 956 00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:42,520 Speaker 1: is when you're being mistreated by you know, your partner, 957 00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:44,640 Speaker 1: and you need your girlfriends to be like yeah, he 958 00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,759 Speaker 1: hain't shit. You need to move on exactly. This is that, 959 00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:52,520 Speaker 1: This is that, yep, this is that. All right, Well, 960 00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,520 Speaker 1: I'm really excited. I hope we get some calling questions. Yeah, 961 00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:59,200 Speaker 1: don't be crazy now, okay, don't don't go spend minutes 962 00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,239 Speaker 1: and minutes and minute and it's telling us your life 963 00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:06,040 Speaker 1: story lists, you know, nice questions, tell us details. Of course, 964 00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:08,000 Speaker 1: if you don't want to call in, I think we'll 965 00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:10,520 Speaker 1: still take questions the old fashioned way, so you can 966 00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,200 Speaker 1: still hit me up on DM. We're at Brown Ambition 967 00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:17,520 Speaker 1: Podcast on Instagram and email Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail 968 00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:21,800 Speaker 1: dot com. But yeah, I'm really excited to hear y'all's voices. 969 00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:26,399 Speaker 2: Yes, I am too, I am too. I can't wait. 970 00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:28,160 Speaker 2: I feel like it's gonna be really fun to hear 971 00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:31,200 Speaker 2: people be like, oh my god, okay guys, okay, so boom. 972 00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:34,320 Speaker 1: Did you recall into radio shows when you were younger? 973 00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:36,719 Speaker 1: Well even now if you recalled into radio. 974 00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:38,520 Speaker 2: Show, not now, but like I feel like I did 975 00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:41,640 Speaker 2: maybe when I was younger, Like you know, I don't. 976 00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:43,640 Speaker 1: I thought that's how you got concert tickets. Like I 977 00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:47,360 Speaker 1: was so dumb, like I didn't realize, Like literally, I 978 00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:49,560 Speaker 1: thought I'm never going to go to a concert. I'd 979 00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:52,920 Speaker 1: just have to win the tickets, and I would call 980 00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:55,120 Speaker 1: Q one hundred and Lana and try to get tickets. 981 00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:57,600 Speaker 1: Either that or I thought you like, my dad would 982 00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:59,480 Speaker 1: just go and like, you know, he'd be like, let's go. 983 00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:03,240 Speaker 1: He would always take us to shows or sporting events 984 00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:05,200 Speaker 1: or whatever the day of it, and he would never 985 00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:06,680 Speaker 1: have a ticket. He would just get it from the 986 00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:09,240 Speaker 1: scalper at the parking lot, you know, around the corner. 987 00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:11,440 Speaker 1: And I would be like, Daddy, just get a regular 988 00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:16,480 Speaker 1: ticket from the radio. Anyway, where was I what's happening? No? 989 00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:18,920 Speaker 2: But I love that that, Like it's so funny how 990 00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:20,880 Speaker 2: kids have this thing in your mind. You're like, oh wait, what, 991 00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:22,120 Speaker 2: that's not how that works. 992 00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,880 Speaker 1: Oh when I tell you you can just go to 993 00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:29,120 Speaker 1: ticketmaster dot com and buy your Britney Spears tickets. Okay, 994 00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:30,560 Speaker 1: Oh that's. 995 00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:38,440 Speaker 2: Okay. So now it's time for Boost to break with 996 00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:46,120 Speaker 2: all our family. Is you gonna boo? Is you gonna bread? 997 00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:53,160 Speaker 2: What are you going from? Doldy, I'm gonna do. 998 00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,600 Speaker 1: I feel the need to do a break, but I'm 999 00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,480 Speaker 1: also gonna do a boost on the other side of it. 1000 00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:02,120 Speaker 1: So it's kind of like I don't know, just something 1001 00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:05,359 Speaker 1: to just chase the chase the break with something sweet. Okay, 1002 00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:09,960 Speaker 1: so my break, My break is before Megan Markle's interview. 1003 00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,279 Speaker 1: I think one of the most heartbreaking stories last week 1004 00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:16,920 Speaker 1: was Amanda Gore what's her name sorry, Amanda Gorman's post 1005 00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:19,200 Speaker 1: on Instagram where she so this is the what is she? 1006 00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:23,440 Speaker 1: A poet laureate? She she read a spoken word poem 1007 00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:27,600 Speaker 1: at the inaugural and she went viral with her amazing 1008 00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:30,200 Speaker 1: poem and how poignant it was. And she's so so young, 1009 00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:33,160 Speaker 1: she's in her young early twenties and on the national 1010 00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:38,160 Speaker 1: stage and Oprah blessed her, you know, with ever since 1011 00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:41,120 Speaker 1: she you know, gave that read her poem, and she's 1012 00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:44,680 Speaker 1: she's just become like this, this beacon of hope and 1013 00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:47,760 Speaker 1: black girl magic and all of that. And she apparently 1014 00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:50,600 Speaker 1: was walking into her own apartment building last week and 1015 00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:54,880 Speaker 1: security officer stopped her and said she looked threatening and 1016 00:50:55,040 --> 00:51:00,640 Speaker 1: wanted proof that she lived there. Meanwhile, and keep going yeah, sorry, yeah, 1017 00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:04,400 Speaker 1: which is yeah, so, And like I said, you know, 1018 00:51:04,480 --> 00:51:06,600 Speaker 1: it's just it just goes back and again, just more 1019 00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:09,399 Speaker 1: proof that as black women, you can't let your guard 1020 00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:12,080 Speaker 1: down ever, you know, no matter what you do, no 1021 00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:15,600 Speaker 1: matter how you have millions of people saying that you're 1022 00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:19,440 Speaker 1: a national treasure one day and just and imagine if 1023 00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,800 Speaker 1: that had been a police officer or you know, a 1024 00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:27,120 Speaker 1: security officer who was yeah, even more afraid, uh and 1025 00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:30,600 Speaker 1: racist than this guy apparently was and could have like 1026 00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:33,320 Speaker 1: hurt her physically, you know, or you know, And that 1027 00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:37,279 Speaker 1: is that fear that you you walk with in the 1028 00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:40,160 Speaker 1: back of your head. You just like the emotional work 1029 00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:43,200 Speaker 1: it takes to just move through the world, be happy, 1030 00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:44,480 Speaker 1: be black girl magic. 1031 00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:45,160 Speaker 2: You know. 1032 00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:48,880 Speaker 1: Everyone wants to say, how you know, cute and shiny 1033 00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:50,960 Speaker 1: black women are and we're all trendy now and all 1034 00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:53,279 Speaker 1: of that, But do you have to walk in these 1035 00:51:53,320 --> 00:51:57,680 Speaker 1: shoes every day with the with the fear, the underlying 1036 00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:00,480 Speaker 1: fear of someone will not see me for who I am, 1037 00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:03,319 Speaker 1: They will judge me based on my skin color, how 1038 00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:06,040 Speaker 1: I look. And so that made me very sad. So 1039 00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:08,960 Speaker 1: my heart was out to Amanda. And if you want 1040 00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:11,200 Speaker 1: to support her, I would say, go to her insta, 1041 00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:14,399 Speaker 1: check out her her work, see if any of it's 1042 00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:16,839 Speaker 1: for sale, and buy it full price. Okay, That's how 1043 00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:20,200 Speaker 1: I would move after that story. And so the other 1044 00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,399 Speaker 1: side that I wanted to shout out is my girl, 1045 00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:24,560 Speaker 1: Ava do Verney. I call her my girl, but I 1046 00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:27,840 Speaker 1: don't know her. She does follow me on Twitter. I 1047 00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,640 Speaker 1: love Ava. Avad Verney and Isa Ray are just like 1048 00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:34,440 Speaker 1: and Regina King anyway, love them. But Ava Duvernee. She 1049 00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:37,520 Speaker 1: started a whole entire website called air ra Crew. So 1050 00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,960 Speaker 1: her production company is called aira I think, and her 1051 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:45,200 Speaker 1: website basically has solved Hollywood's problem for it, not really 1052 00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:48,320 Speaker 1: solved it, but has a solution for all the Hollywood 1053 00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:50,960 Speaker 1: producers who want to say, oh, there's just not enough 1054 00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:53,800 Speaker 1: black talent out there to staff our sets and you 1055 00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:58,040 Speaker 1: know production crews. Well, Ava has removed that excuse from 1056 00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:00,239 Speaker 1: the table. She has launched air a Crew and that's 1057 00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,680 Speaker 1: actually like a online directory of amazing black and brown 1058 00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,719 Speaker 1: talent and production crew. So if you are a filmmaker, 1059 00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:09,200 Speaker 1: check out aircrew dot com. 1060 00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:14,600 Speaker 2: Oh yes, well yeah, when I saw that, I was like, 1061 00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:20,880 Speaker 2: Amanda is maybe one hundred pounds maybe one. That's like, 1062 00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:25,680 Speaker 2: you know, that's just I mean, honestly, she's so little, 1063 00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:33,799 Speaker 2: she's a young woman. She's petite is an understatement. So yeah, 1064 00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:38,960 Speaker 2: that's just agregious honestly, Like, oh, it's tiring. So I 1065 00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:46,240 Speaker 2: am going to boost speaking of black girl magic, speaking 1066 00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:50,040 Speaker 2: of doing the things, doing the dag on things. I 1067 00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:51,640 Speaker 2: got an email. I was like, is this real life? 1068 00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:53,879 Speaker 2: I literally woke up from a nap and I looked 1069 00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:56,239 Speaker 2: at my email and I saw that it was from 1070 00:53:56,680 --> 00:54:00,800 Speaker 2: the NAACP and I was like, oh, okay, and they said, Tiffany, 1071 00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:04,320 Speaker 2: you have been You have been nominated for an en 1072 00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:11,719 Speaker 2: Double ACP Image Award, like like Marseille Martin who's won, 1073 00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:15,120 Speaker 2: like Morgan Freeman, like Mayola Davis. I was like, is 1074 00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:17,600 Speaker 2: this a is a real thing? Literally? I was like, 1075 00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:19,200 Speaker 2: because I was just woking up for a nap and 1076 00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:24,000 Speaker 2: I was like, wait, am I am? I dreaming? And 1077 00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,920 Speaker 2: so your girl has been nominated for nd BACP Award. Officially, 1078 00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:30,520 Speaker 2: the nominations would have come out yesterday, but this comes 1079 00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:35,040 Speaker 2: out on Wednesday, and so I don't even know. I 1080 00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,160 Speaker 2: don't even know what to do with this information. It's 1081 00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:41,239 Speaker 2: just so exciting. So I was nominating for like Outstanding 1082 00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:45,000 Speaker 2: Social Media Personality for using my social media in service 1083 00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:48,719 Speaker 2: to black and blow black people, because that's what the 1084 00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:52,120 Speaker 2: NBLACP Awards for. I mean, yeah, that's what the organization 1085 00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,759 Speaker 2: is for for how I use the Budgetesta to help 1086 00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:58,920 Speaker 2: y'all get your money together. But like, honestly, when I 1087 00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:02,520 Speaker 2: did my googles of like who's won before, it was 1088 00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:04,480 Speaker 2: like mind blowing. So you know, there's no I mean, 1089 00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:07,800 Speaker 2: nomination does not mean when I'm just glad to be nominated. 1090 00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,719 Speaker 2: But you do have to vote, so I would love, love, 1091 00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:16,719 Speaker 2: love your vote. It will be on my social media, 1092 00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:18,879 Speaker 2: So just at the Budget Lissa on Instagram. You'll see 1093 00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,239 Speaker 2: it on Facebook. By now you'll see it posted. So 1094 00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:24,839 Speaker 2: just go and please vote. Your girl would love to win. 1095 00:55:25,640 --> 00:55:27,840 Speaker 2: Oh and here's my obligatory if you have not gotten 1096 00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:30,160 Speaker 2: the book Get Good with Money, my new book Ten 1097 00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:32,640 Speaker 2: Simple Steps to getting financially home. You know, once an episode, 1098 00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:34,680 Speaker 2: I gotta remind you go Get Good with Money. 1099 00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:36,799 Speaker 1: Pre order book launch month. 1100 00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:40,840 Speaker 2: It is, honestly, it is so crazy, Like. 1101 00:55:42,320 --> 00:55:46,440 Speaker 1: There's just so much congratulations already congratulated offline. But yes, yes, congrats, 1102 00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:49,319 Speaker 1: I'm so frigging it fite. And first of all, wait 1103 00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:50,920 Speaker 1: a second, can we go back to that part in 1104 00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:53,600 Speaker 1: the show where you said you weren't an influencer, but 1105 00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:58,319 Speaker 1: yet you're nominated for your huge social media listen are 1106 00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:00,560 Speaker 1: we is this imposter syndrome You're too good for this? 1107 00:56:00,760 --> 00:56:01,120 Speaker 1: Get over? 1108 00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:04,560 Speaker 2: No, I guess I think about influencers like, you know, 1109 00:56:04,880 --> 00:56:07,200 Speaker 2: like here's my lotions and here's my but you're right, 1110 00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,360 Speaker 2: I'm a finfluencer, which I like, I think that's super 1111 00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:10,719 Speaker 2: and the no. 1112 00:56:10,880 --> 00:56:13,000 Speaker 1: Shade like there's you know, we all have like as 1113 00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:15,600 Speaker 1: she needs, we need lotion, but we also have financial 1114 00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:18,160 Speaker 1: issues and we need education, so you provide. 1115 00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:19,680 Speaker 2: What I more think of myself as like a financial 1116 00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:22,320 Speaker 2: educator or whatever. I don't know, but no, but honestly, 1117 00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:27,480 Speaker 2: I I accept that. No, it's just honestly, Manji, Like 1118 00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:30,920 Speaker 2: there's been so many amazing things happening, and I feel 1119 00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:35,200 Speaker 2: like I was just telling this to my my ADMIN 1120 00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:37,160 Speaker 2: and I was just sharing with her. I was like, 1121 00:56:38,080 --> 00:56:40,640 Speaker 2: you know, last year, I felt like Tiffany, you're at 1122 00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:43,800 Speaker 2: the end of the beginning, you know, like as you 1123 00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:46,440 Speaker 2: like travel through or you're working on something, and you're like, oh, okay, 1124 00:56:46,560 --> 00:56:48,919 Speaker 2: like the first part, Like I think of my life 1125 00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:52,200 Speaker 2: and my journey kind of like in three parts, the beginning, 1126 00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:54,320 Speaker 2: the middle of the end. So there's the beginning of 1127 00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:56,400 Speaker 2: the beginning, the middle of the beginning. But last year 1128 00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:58,080 Speaker 2: I was like, this is the end of the beginning. 1129 00:56:58,120 --> 00:57:01,200 Speaker 2: You have officially put a stamp. You're no longer just 1130 00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:04,040 Speaker 2: like figuring it out. You're doing it. You're actually doing it. 1131 00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:06,840 Speaker 2: So I feel like right now I'm in the beginning 1132 00:57:06,920 --> 00:57:09,359 Speaker 2: of the middle. So like, not that all the things 1133 00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:12,040 Speaker 2: that I'm gonna be doing it or has pet peaked yet, 1134 00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:13,480 Speaker 2: because that would be the middle of the middle. 1135 00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:15,840 Speaker 1: But I'm following, you know. 1136 00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:17,360 Speaker 2: So I just feel like I'm at the beginning of 1137 00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:19,680 Speaker 2: the middle, like I'm I'm going towards, like, you know, 1138 00:57:19,760 --> 00:57:21,880 Speaker 2: whatever the pinnacle of all of this is going to be. 1139 00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:23,840 Speaker 2: And here's the thing. It might you know, some people 1140 00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:25,959 Speaker 2: will be in the middle for twenty years, fifty years, 1141 00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:28,120 Speaker 2: you know, some people for five months. I don't know, 1142 00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:32,640 Speaker 2: you know, but it's just such a I don't know, 1143 00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:37,520 Speaker 2: such a strange feeling, like that the things are happening 1144 00:57:37,560 --> 00:57:40,080 Speaker 2: that are happening just because I mean, I set out 1145 00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:43,080 Speaker 2: to teach preschool, you know, because I really like teaching 1146 00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:45,680 Speaker 2: and I like the babies. And then I was like, well, 1147 00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:49,040 Speaker 2: I still want to teach, but I want to help 1148 00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:51,760 Speaker 2: other women, especially women that look like me. And let's 1149 00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:54,040 Speaker 2: see where it goes. And it keeps going and going, 1150 00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:56,360 Speaker 2: and so to wrap my mind around it, Like I 1151 00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:59,560 Speaker 2: don't think I still wrap my mind around it. I'm 1152 00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:01,280 Speaker 2: not gonna lie. I'm a little disappointed that, you know, 1153 00:58:01,360 --> 00:58:04,960 Speaker 2: there's no physical award ceremony because that would be insane. 1154 00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:07,560 Speaker 2: Imagine me sitting next to Will Smith's like they would 1155 00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:08,880 Speaker 2: not put it next to Willsmoth. But you know, I'd 1156 00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:11,880 Speaker 2: be in the back somewhere. But just imagine if like 1157 00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:14,120 Speaker 2: you know, like it like outside was open, I would 1158 00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:16,640 Speaker 2: be at the award ceremony like walking the red carpet 1159 00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:20,720 Speaker 2: with some man. Oh my gosh. So I still told 1160 00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:23,440 Speaker 2: Tracy my stylists, I was like, girl, I need you 1161 00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:26,120 Speaker 2: to get on runt the runway and find me a 1162 00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:28,320 Speaker 2: gown because I am going to be wearing I'm gonna 1163 00:58:28,360 --> 00:58:31,440 Speaker 2: wear a gown at home, yes, because they are gonna, 1164 00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:33,680 Speaker 2: like you know, there's there's still gonna be like taping 1165 00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:35,480 Speaker 2: you and whatever where you are whatever. So I'm sure 1166 00:58:35,520 --> 00:58:37,120 Speaker 2: they're gonna have your reaction all that kind of stuff. 1167 00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:40,880 Speaker 2: So I believe that they it's gonna be like I 1168 00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:44,200 Speaker 2: think it's a twenty seventh. Yeah, that's a match of 1169 00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:46,000 Speaker 2: this month? Is that quick? Wait? 1170 00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:47,000 Speaker 1: That's how quick it is. 1171 00:58:47,240 --> 00:58:47,439 Speaker 2: Yep. 1172 00:58:47,920 --> 00:58:49,920 Speaker 1: Okay, I need to fly to vote. Okay, I can 1173 00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:57,960 Speaker 1: vote till Wednesday. Yeah, so yes, it's to remind me 1174 00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:03,400 Speaker 1: to vote for Tiffany NAACP Award Wednesday at twelve pm. 1175 00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:08,840 Speaker 2: Okay, your reminder is set for Wednesday noon. 1176 00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:10,000 Speaker 1: Okay, got it. 1177 00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:11,440 Speaker 2: Yes, I love it. 1178 00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:14,160 Speaker 1: That is the way. That is the only way things 1179 00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:16,360 Speaker 1: get done. I'm not I'm not playing around, Tyfney. I 1180 00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:20,840 Speaker 1: your Megan Markel DVR material. Yes, oh oh, thank you. 1181 00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:22,440 Speaker 2: Gave me the metal Megan Markle treatment. 1182 00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:22,760 Speaker 1: Yes. 1183 00:59:23,560 --> 00:59:27,200 Speaker 2: Yeah. So yeah, this's just the beginning of the middle. 1184 00:59:27,280 --> 00:59:29,080 Speaker 2: So we shall see how far this thing goes. I 1185 00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:31,320 Speaker 2: just feel like, you know, I mean, just look at us, Manajory. 1186 00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:34,280 Speaker 2: We're just a couple of girls walking through Nola talking about, 1187 00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:36,080 Speaker 2: you know, you want to do a podcast. I was 1188 00:59:36,160 --> 00:59:37,479 Speaker 2: like sure, and now. 1189 00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:40,920 Speaker 1: Look well, it sounds like you're really coming into like 1190 00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:43,760 Speaker 1: being present in the in the fun part, because you 1191 00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:45,720 Speaker 1: know what I mean, you've been working so hard for 1192 00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:47,880 Speaker 1: so long, and I know you've been working with your 1193 00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:50,960 Speaker 1: coach and all of that. You just be to just like, yes, 1194 00:59:51,120 --> 00:59:53,560 Speaker 1: to feel it. I hope that you're feeling the success. 1195 00:59:53,800 --> 00:59:57,080 Speaker 1: I personally am feeling the joy. Like genuinely, I feel 1196 00:59:57,080 --> 01:00:01,120 Speaker 1: like every show, I'm just like gushing because every win, 1197 01:00:01,360 --> 01:00:03,920 Speaker 1: you know, you're winning so much lately that it feels 1198 01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:06,440 Speaker 1: it's just it's just booying. It's like a booye for 1199 01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:10,040 Speaker 1: myself as well. So I'm super super proud of you. 1200 01:00:10,840 --> 01:00:13,960 Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean that's a really cool award. That 1201 01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:14,560 Speaker 1: is dope. 1202 01:00:14,720 --> 01:00:16,640 Speaker 2: It is I just yeah, like I said, even if 1203 01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:19,040 Speaker 2: I don't, just to be nominated just feels like and honestly, 1204 01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:22,680 Speaker 2: I feel doing the work is really hard, like you know, 1205 01:00:22,880 --> 01:00:25,840 Speaker 2: with Doctor Green and like kind of like cracking open 1206 01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:27,640 Speaker 2: the things that you know make you feel sad, but 1207 01:00:28,160 --> 01:00:30,560 Speaker 2: I feel good. Actually I've been like crying more, but 1208 01:00:30,720 --> 01:00:32,600 Speaker 2: like you know, like in a normal like I'm sad 1209 01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:35,040 Speaker 2: about that, but then like happy again and like my 1210 01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:38,560 Speaker 2: old self again, where like you know, actual fluctuating feelings, 1211 01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:42,880 Speaker 2: and it just feels really good to like be present 1212 01:00:42,960 --> 01:00:45,600 Speaker 2: in that and to like you know, to go through 1213 01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:48,040 Speaker 2: those emotions because they're natural and they ought to be 1214 01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:51,280 Speaker 2: and it a like feeling sadness when I'm sad allows 1215 01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:53,760 Speaker 2: me to feel happy when I'm happy. And so it's 1216 01:00:53,840 --> 01:00:57,080 Speaker 2: just been really good and you know, I encourage anyone, anyone, anyone, 1217 01:00:57,640 --> 01:01:00,320 Speaker 2: you know, whether it's therapy or coaching or whatever that 1218 01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:02,920 Speaker 2: kind of looks like for you, it's a lot of 1219 01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:05,200 Speaker 2: hard work if you're you know, I mean, I know, 1220 01:01:05,280 --> 01:01:08,200 Speaker 2: not everyone can afford it. Oftentimes sometimes like especially therapy 1221 01:01:08,280 --> 01:01:10,760 Speaker 2: might be covered by your insurance. You should certainly look 1222 01:01:10,800 --> 01:01:14,560 Speaker 2: into it. But it's just so helpful if you're able 1223 01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:17,000 Speaker 2: to kind of because I don't want to take with me, 1224 01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:20,200 Speaker 2: like the stuff with me the next twenty or thirty 1225 01:01:20,280 --> 01:01:22,080 Speaker 2: or forty years, you know what I mean, Like I 1226 01:01:22,240 --> 01:01:24,640 Speaker 2: want to unpack it now and like it's just been 1227 01:01:24,680 --> 01:01:26,080 Speaker 2: excited for like what lies ahead. 1228 01:01:27,320 --> 01:01:28,520 Speaker 1: Absolutely, you deserve it. 1229 01:01:29,440 --> 01:01:30,320 Speaker 2: Thank you, Manja. 1230 01:01:30,400 --> 01:01:33,560 Speaker 1: I'm probably on our we on our grown Ish we 1231 01:01:33,800 --> 01:01:36,440 Speaker 1: on our beginning in the middle Ish. 1232 01:01:37,800 --> 01:01:38,800 Speaker 2: Yes, I love that. 1233 01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:44,040 Speaker 1: All right, Well, congrats, Okay, I'm so excited. I don't 1234 01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:45,880 Speaker 1: know what to do. Can I watch the end? Double? 1235 01:01:46,160 --> 01:01:47,920 Speaker 1: I don't know how it's gonna work. I'm sure you'll 1236 01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:51,600 Speaker 1: have details. I'll check out your Instagram page. Yes, oh okay, 1237 01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:54,600 Speaker 1: all right, well thanks for another wonderful show. I have 1238 01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:57,120 Speaker 1: to go upstairs because apparently my son's having a meltdown 1239 01:01:57,160 --> 01:01:57,840 Speaker 1: because he's teething. 1240 01:01:58,120 --> 01:02:00,720 Speaker 2: Oh I saw him with your microwave. I thought that 1241 01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:01,360 Speaker 2: was so cute. 1242 01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:05,040 Speaker 1: Oh where he put the entire Dutch oven in the microwave. Yeah, 1243 01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:06,840 Speaker 1: he loves He might be like I don't know. I 1244 01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:09,080 Speaker 1: think all babies like to cook, but he he loves 1245 01:02:09,120 --> 01:02:12,800 Speaker 1: watching me cook. But it's really dangerous to the point 1246 01:02:12,840 --> 01:02:15,600 Speaker 1: where he wants he wants to be held while I'm cooking, 1247 01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:18,480 Speaker 1: which you know, grease is flying all kinds of stuff. 1248 01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:21,320 Speaker 1: So I've started just like opening the pots and pans 1249 01:02:21,320 --> 01:02:23,200 Speaker 1: and he'll take them out, and like, I opened a 1250 01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:26,360 Speaker 1: little package of baby tomatoes and he is that what 1251 01:02:26,520 --> 01:02:27,880 Speaker 1: you call them? What are they called baby? 1252 01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:29,840 Speaker 2: You know the little one tomatoes? 1253 01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:35,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, those tomatoes, and he puts them in the 1254 01:02:35,520 --> 01:02:37,200 Speaker 1: pot and he stirs them up. Yeah. 1255 01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:37,600 Speaker 2: I love that. 1256 01:02:38,240 --> 01:02:40,160 Speaker 1: It's safe. But now he puts it in the microwave 1257 01:02:40,200 --> 01:02:42,560 Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, shoot, he knows how to push 1258 01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:42,919 Speaker 1: the button. 1259 01:02:43,080 --> 01:02:45,400 Speaker 2: And I saw that, oh Rio with the peg attention. 1260 01:02:45,520 --> 01:02:47,040 Speaker 2: He was like, push the button. 1261 01:02:47,200 --> 01:02:49,840 Speaker 1: Once he knows how to do. He's just waiting. He 1262 01:02:49,960 --> 01:02:52,720 Speaker 1: has been waiting, lying in wait all this time. Now 1263 01:02:52,760 --> 01:02:54,400 Speaker 1: he's like, I got the legs, I got I can 1264 01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:58,280 Speaker 1: walk I had the height. It's over for these, it's tall. 1265 01:02:58,520 --> 01:03:01,680 Speaker 2: He is so tall too. Yes, Oh he's such a 1266 01:03:01,760 --> 01:03:03,280 Speaker 2: cutie pie. I love those curls. I was like, oh, 1267 01:03:03,440 --> 01:03:05,360 Speaker 2: Mama got cute curls. You got cute curls.