WEBVTT - #129 Some people aren’t going to heal 0:00:00.600 --> 0:00:05.119 Here's something that's just crazy and this is so difficult 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:10.920 to understand, but some people are just not going to heal. 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:26.960 What's up, guys, Welcome to the podcast. Got my favorite guest. 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:32.280 He's so much better than Chad so mad, dude. I'm 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.600 just kidding he's but he is one of my favorite 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:36.879 humans in the time. You guys are my favorite guests, 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:39.840 So back back at you. Second week in a row. 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:43.720 We got Bernie back in the podcast room to help 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.920 answer your questions. The reason Bernie's on here is because 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:48.360 if I have a question in my life for the 0:00:48.440 --> 0:00:52.600 last twenty two years, I call Bernie and I say, hey, Burns, 0:00:53.000 --> 0:00:55.720 I got something I'm dealing with, can you help me? 0:00:55.920 --> 0:00:58.959 And he always delivers just what I need to hear. 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:01.120 It's a great thing to have for that long and 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:04.759 also reminds us that we getting old. Man, we're getting old. Yeah, 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:08.000 here you got the silver fox thing going. Man, I 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:11.679 know we're getting old, both of us. So the format 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:14.000 of this podcast is we answer your questions if you 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:16.320 have anything you want to walk through with us, And 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:18.600 we like to say it's like we're sitting around a campfire, 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:22.119 embers are dying down and you walk up and you say, hey, guys, 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:25.280 can I talk about something, something that's been on my mind, 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.960 something's been bothering me, something I'm excited about, a decision 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:31.760 I have to make, could I ask you? And so 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:34.720 then we walk through it like we're around that campfire 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.640 and h and we talk about it as much as 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:41.560 we can. We're not always right, and that's okay. We're 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:43.960 just going to tell you what the best advice we 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.840 would give each other as buddies, that's what we want 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:50.040 to give you. Yeah, And I definitely want to recognize 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:55.640 that we have a voice here, which I don't take lightly, 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:57.480 and I know that Griz doesn't take lightly. We have 0:01:57.560 --> 0:01:59.560 a voice, and there's a lot of people out there 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:02.480 that don't have a voice, and so we want to 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:05.080 use it in a way that comes across as very 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:08.720 humble and curious and really here, I know the heart 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.800 of this podcast from Granger to you guys is to 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:16.600 encourage and build you up and enter into your heartbreak. 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:20.880 You're suffering your life. Your challenge is with you, and 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.799 we want to be a voice that is that kind 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:28.480 of positive influence for you. Absolutely absolutely so to get 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:31.200 on this podcast to get your question to me, email 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:35.040 Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Don't hesitate could be 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.000 about anything. The only thing I really ask is make 0:02:37.040 --> 0:02:39.600 it about a phone linked question, because if it gets 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:43.440 more than that, it's harder to read. And we'll walk 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:45.720 through it with you. So we got the first one 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:47.920 right here. I've got a bunch of them today. Subject 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.720 line on this one is as soon as you stop looking, 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.320 it says Hey Granger. And by the way, Burns, I 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:57.639 read this question right before, it's it's kind of interesting. Okay, 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.239 Hey Granger, I want to start off by saying music 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:02.600 and everything you stand for, you've showed me a clear 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:04.320 path to get closer to God, and I want to 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.880 thank you for that. My name is Abigail. I'm twenty 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:10.880 years old. I'm from a small town in Alberta, Canada. Recently, 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:13.440 I decided that I was not going to look for 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:16.200 a relationship at the moment. I wanted to work on 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:19.120 myself and make sure that I'm truly ready for one. 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:23.600 But of course, because I decided that just like your song, 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:26.040 happens like that, as soon as I stopped looking, it 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.280 was right in front of my face, the guy I 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:33.480 made an effort to see more frequently now because he's 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:35.320 the guy that my family wants me to be with. 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:39.640 Now he's asking me if we can go get coffee sometime, 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:43.040 and I'm so stumped. Do I continue my path of 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:47.200 self discovery and see where it goes or talk to 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.160 one of these guys. I really don't know what to do. 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:52.120 And my family's influence over who they want me to 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:54.960 be with is really taking a toll on me. So 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:59.360 here we go. This is interesting. So she has two guys, 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.160 the guy that I made an effort to see more 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.600 frequently now and the guy that my family wants to 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.040 be me to be with, are saying that she go 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:10.000 to coffee. And so basically what's happening here is this 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:12.880 is someone that's listened to the podcast that's taken our 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:18.440 advice burns on being single and secure, being happy alone, 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:22.839 finding contentment, and just as I have predicted on this podcast, 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.080 when you start doing that, when you make an effort 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:31.560 to be content and single and content alone, you are 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:35.719 putting off an attraction to others because they see that 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:37.520 and they're like, man, what is it about that girl? 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:43.800 Like she's different. Confidence is like moth to a flame. Yeah, 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:48.000 So because of that and because of her confidence and 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:52.200 her security in herself. She's now put off this attraction. 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:54.800 I want to use this question as an example to 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:57.400 so many others that we try to preach this into. 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:00.560 And my theory has always been that when you do this, 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:04.479 you just become more attractive, you become different, becomes something special. 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:08.160 And now look at Abigail. She's got two guys wanting 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:11.560 to take her to coffee. And one of them is 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:14.040 the one she used to really like and now and 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:15.640 and the other one is like the guy that her 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:18.920 family really wants her to be with. So you're you're 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:21.160 asking the question to me like this is a dilemma, 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.240 but I'm telling you this is awesome. Yeah, like Abigail, 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:27.840 this is amazing. And I want everyone to see what 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:32.360 Abigail has done that she's put an effort into working 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:36.360 on being secure with herself because like I said, you're 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:41.280 you're you're gonna be born alone and you're gonna die alone, 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:45.320 and you have to be secure with that that you 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:50.040 alone will be born and die. So so what does 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:54.080 she do now? And she's stumped. Yeah, she does she 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:58.240 continue on the path of self discovery and see where 0:05:58.240 --> 0:05:59.720 it goes, or see where it goes with either one 0:05:59.720 --> 0:06:05.599 of these eyes, which is interesting dilemma now right, We've 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:07.839 never answered one like this. This is like next level. 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:11.160 I'm gonna go back to something. I don't know why 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:12.600 it popped in my head that we said on the 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:19.200 last podcast, and maybe it applies, guys, I don't know. 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.800 I'm just you know, we're just talking around a campfire here, right. 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:26.800 Instead of telling you what to do, I want to 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.159 remind you of who God is, and I want you 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:35.320 to push into who God is and let that be 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:41.000 the determining factor and decision maker of what you should do. Listen, listen, 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:44.520 just be still and listen. And I think he's gonna 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:46.880 tell you, you you know, ask him for clarity, like like 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:50.160 we've said before. And I don't know if we could 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:51.960 tell you, oh yeah you should do this, you shouldn't, 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:57.440 because it sounds like there's there's freedom in that confidence 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:01.200 that she now has. Yeah, you know, from our view, 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:03.160 we don't know these dudes and we don't know our family, 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:05.560 and it's like, well, you could do either, so you 0:07:05.600 --> 0:07:08.520 know what the other interesting thing about this question is 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:12.000 is that we talk so much about heartbreak on this 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:15.160 podcast and recovering from it or dealing with it or 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:17.800 being in the middle of it. So here's a question 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:22.280 that's pre heartbreak. Oh yeah, it's good. Right. So what 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:26.000 we're just talked about off the air was the importance 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:29.960 of guarding your heart. So first of all, I would say, 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:33.800 coffee's not gonna hurt anybody. Go to coffee with both 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:37.120 of them. It's not gonna hurt anybody. But go in 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:40.680 first with this confidence that you are fine by yourself 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:43.960 without a relationship, and two that you are going to 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:47.680 guard your heart no matter what happens, no matter if 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.920 you go, wow, I really click with this guy. I 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:54.200 actually really like this guy. But I'm gonna guard my 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:57.520 heart because it's not his yet and it wouldn't be 0:07:57.600 --> 0:07:59.400 until you get married. But you're going to guard your 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:02.360 heart saying I'm gonna hold on. I'm not gonna show 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:05.400 them all my cards. Right, I'm gonna take this slow. 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:09.440 There's no rush. You're twenty years old. There is no 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:13.040 reason to speed anything up. You could do this now. 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:16.560 It's hard six months down the road when you already 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:18.840 sped it up. It's hard to slow it down once 0:08:18.960 --> 0:08:21.840 this train gets going. So right now, the train is 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:24.960 on the track, stopped at the station, before it goes 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:28.760 recognize I'm gonna take it slow. I think one thing 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:33.560 also to kind of look for. I'm just thinking whenever 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:36.280 I was in kind of that courtship period with my 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:39.680 now wife, is I had a heart that was like, 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:43.640 I want to guard her heart as well as mine. 0:08:43.720 --> 0:08:46.800 I want to lead us in this way. So these 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:51.520 guys like, look at how they're Are they really trying 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:55.400 to guard your heart and protect you, or are they like, hey, 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:58.880 more selfishly, Hey, I just want to I want to 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:00.240 spend time with you, and I want to I want 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:01.520 to do this. I want to do this instead of 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:05.280 respecting you and really saying, oh, let's take this slow, 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:09.079 let's get to know each other, let's kind of take 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.160 it the way that you're talking about. Yeah, that's great. 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:14.160 I think the family component. If a family's telling you 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:17.880 they don't like a guy, take it to heart. If 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:20.560 a family's telling you they do like a guy, that 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.200 doesn't matter that much to me. I don't know it 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:24.880 means like your heart's going to like them or not. 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.880 But that's great. It's great for the first coffee date, 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:32.959 but nothing after the coffee date. So I don't think 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:36.480 that should influence you. Yeah, above all else, guard your heart. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:39.120 I think Granger said it. We live in this society 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:41.880 that we are just talking about where we are just 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:46.240 so quick to give ourselves away. And I don't know 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:48.960 why we do that. Why do we do that when 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:52.280 we know that that is what leads to heartbreak And 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:57.120 that's not that's not just a relationship. But think about 0:09:57.120 --> 0:10:01.040 a job where you know your career and a company 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.880 that you just joined and you didn't really you know, 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.040 think about the and talk to the people and like 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:10.920 and you know, research the company that you were going 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:12.520 to work for in the line of work, and then 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.400 you just like jumped in. It's like, man, now I'm 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:17.600 like heartbroken because this didn't go the way I thought. 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:21.200 It's like, if you slowed down and just guard your 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.240 heart a little bit, have the confidence that Abigail has. 0:10:26.480 --> 0:10:28.360 I think we could avoid a lot of it. Abigail, 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:31.000 when you go to coffee, and you don't have to, 0:10:31.040 --> 0:10:33.360 by the way, if you're like, man, I'm just not 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.680 into this right now, I'm kind of on a good role. 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:38.480 I'm gonna avoid coffee. I think that's fine. I don't 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:41.080 think there's anything wrong also with going to coffee with 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.600 these guys because I think you'll learn something about the 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:47.240 opposite sex and you'll learn something more about yourself through it. 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.760 Either way, if you start licking one of these guys, 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.240 like if you feel the little butterfly in your stomach, like, Wow, 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:56.400 this guy's really sweet and I'm attracted to them. If 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:59.880 you feel that you're heading down two one of two roads, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.319 and I want you to hear this one. This is 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:05.800 either somebody that's going to break your heart or you're 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:09.440 going to be dealing with a heartbreak with or two 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:15.680 your future spouse. So handle accordingly. You are going down 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:19.000 one of these paths once again for the tenth time. 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:24.640 That's so good that those are really the paths. And 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:26.800 I mean, do we think about that when we go 0:11:26.880 --> 0:11:29.120 into these things, that those are really the two paths, 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:33.000 and we think that there's like these other options, it's like, oh, well, 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:35.600 we'll just kind of see. It's like no, you're you're 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:38.880 just going down these two too, and so you have 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:42.520 to have that mindset. Uh. That's really good. All right, 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:49.120 good luck, Abigail. Let's see and thanks for listening. Yeah, 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:51.600 thank you, thank you for listening. Oh here's an interesting 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:57.240 one burns subject line law of attraction. Hey, Grangeur. This 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.280 is Luke from Michigan. I love listening to your podcast 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.120 during my workout. Anyway. My question is about practicing the 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:05.280 Law of attraction as a Christian. Is it's safe to 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:10.080 use the Law of attraction and other positive thought moment movements? Thanks? 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:16.520 You know what that is? I guess not. It's there 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:22.839 is what Luke is referring to. And I think it's 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:24.840 a book called the Law of Attraction. I think that's 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.120 what it's called. But there's there's a lot there's a 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:32.439 lot of different books and different lines of thought psychologically 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:37.920 with this the Law of attraction. It's basically if you, 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:41.360 if you, if you think it, if you move towards it, 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:46.800 the world is like a magnet that brings it to you. Okay, 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:51.360 So it's this idea that it's like Jedi mind tricks, 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:54.160 you know, it's it's it's this idea, and there's these 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.120 books that will just lay it all out for you 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:59.440 and just show you examples. But it's like if you 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:03.920 if you love a Lamborghini, and that's all you think 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:05.600 about it, and you put it on your screensaver and 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:07.240 you put a poster on your wall, and that you 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:10.240 work towards it, then that law of attraction will eventually 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:15.560 get you a Lamborghini. And I do think that you 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:19.360 are your discernment is correct. Luke that as a Christian 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:24.079 this can get dangerous because nothing about the law of 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:28.920 attraction is biblical. In fact, nothing about it is proven 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:34.360 in any way to be anything besides just a strange 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:38.480 analogy that people have made in trying to explain the universe. 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:42.080 People use all kinds of different ways to explain. People 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:45.240 say that we say karma, you know, like, I don't 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:49.160 even use the word karma. When someone says that's just 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:52.000 bad karma, man, I'm like, why I don't believe in karma. 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:54.680 I like to say it. I like to just say 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:59.680 it because because if I say it, it puts it 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.800 out there and it kind of releases that repentance from 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:08.000 my own mind. Because karma is anti Christian. The law 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:12.280 of attraction essentially is anti Christian. Why because it's explaining 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.160 the universe and the conception of the universe and the 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:18.600 creation of everything and the direction of our lives in 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:24.240 a different way that's not biblical. Yeah, I think that 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:29.240 I don't know enough about this topic to kind of 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:33.480 really weigh in specifically, but I think there always is 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:37.840 the mentality of thinking that there's these kind of laws 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:40.480 of the universe that the Bible took and just applied 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:45.120 instead of this is the fundamental truth and every other 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:51.520 truth that exists is God's truth and has been pulled 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:58.160 into other places and either distorted or reconfigured in order 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:04.080 to cool people in and fulfill some manly earth or 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:09.800 humanly glorification instead of god glorification. So this without knowing 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:15.160 much about it, maybe this one and other did he say, 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:23.280 like other philosophical other positive thought, positive thought movements? Yeah, 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:27.920 as a believer, and it sounds like Luke is a 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.120 is a Christian and a believer. I think you just 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:31.720 have to go back to the Word and that needs 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:34.320 to be the lens in which you see all these 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:39.720 other things and the guiding light in your life. So yeah, 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:43.680 I mean I've had to learn to like listen to 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:47.560 these other movements and these other things and say like, oh, yeah, okay, 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:50.920 that that's actually in the in the Book of Hebrews, 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:53.480 and here's why it's true. So yeah, I'm going to 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:55.320 take that. I'm going to take that, but I'm not 0:15:56.360 --> 0:16:00.720 validating your movement here in its hole h. We'll take 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.920 the thoughts of that. Like Bernie said, if the Bible's 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:07.000 the foundation, then what we could build on top of 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:09.920 that foundation is things like this. I'll tell you this, Luke, Hey, 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:15.040 try to think positive, try to work hard. Use those 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:19.320 two things. Try to work hard and think positive. Why 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:21.240 because that is at a law of the universe that 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:25.520 karma will reward you. No, that's just because you're put 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:28.040 on this earth to till the ground and work the ground. 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:33.480 And you're here on this earth to use your joy 0:16:33.880 --> 0:16:36.440 to lift others and be a light to others. So 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:43.520 try to think positive and work hard. I'm speaking of 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:47.600 the speaking of light. The next question subjectline is wondering 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.800 in darkness. Hey, grandear, my name is Jordan. I'm twenty 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:53.480 eight years old. I'm a deputy sheriff from Utah. I 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:57.000 have two sons, six and seven, from my first marriage. 0:16:57.520 --> 0:16:59.680 I have a very successful career, and I feel like 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:03.680 at the rest of my life has been unsuccessful. I've 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:06.600 been through two divorces, the second of which I really 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:09.440 tried hard to save, but her abuse towards my sons 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:11.840 ended up causing us to split up. We have been 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:14.840 divorced almost two years Now. I grew up very active 0:17:14.840 --> 0:17:17.480 in the Mormon Church. Within the last year I've fallen 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:19.920 away from it because I disagree with some of their teachings, 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:23.240 but I still believe in God and Jesus. I feel 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:25.639 like I'm constantly wondering around in the dark when it 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:28.520 comes to religion and finding a woman to have a 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:31.520 family with. Please give me advice on what I should do. 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:36.520 Thanks Jordan. Wow, there's a lot there. There's a lot. 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:40.720 Shout out to to Jordan, thank you for email, and 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:43.639 Buddy twenty eight, thank you for your service as a 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:45.960 deputy sheriff, and shout out to all of our friends 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:55.520 in Utah. Well, Okay, the foundation of a lot of 0:17:55.560 --> 0:18:01.640 these the issues that you're having is coming from your 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:08.000 lack of understanding of who God is and building a 0:18:08.040 --> 0:18:11.080 foundation upon that. So we could being right off the 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:14.840 last question, so having a biblical understanding of who God is. 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:17.920 And Bernie said this on the last podcast that what 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:20.639 we want our heart for you so much in this 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:24.040 podcast is what did you say to understand the nature 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:28.280 of God? Not to necessarily give you a next step 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:31.119 or a direction in life, but we want you to 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:35.440 understand who God is and we will both stand here 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:39.000 right now and tell you that the way to understand 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:44.840 him is by devoting your time in the scriptures daily, 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.879 really daily. And the reason I say it like that 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.720 is because there was most of my life I wasn't 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:55.800 so I know that it sounds crazy to say daily, 0:18:55.920 --> 0:19:01.120 but it's a daily commitment. I think morning are a 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:03.680 great time if you just set your alarm a little 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:07.760 bit earlier and you just open your Bible and you say, God, 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:13.560 I open my eyes to this because I don't understand it. 0:19:13.720 --> 0:19:17.040 I live in darkness. I don't want to live in darkness, 0:19:17.040 --> 0:19:19.680 which John would be a great place to start, because 0:19:19.760 --> 0:19:22.440 John talks about light and darkness a lot in his book. 0:19:22.480 --> 0:19:26.000 But God, I want to understand you, and I know 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:30.479 that by communicating with each other. I pray and you 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:33.159 speak through your word these scriptures. So I'm going to 0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:37.120 open this and I want to know wisdom from you 0:19:37.359 --> 0:19:38.920 because I want to be able to lead my family. 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:41.240 I want to be able to reconcile these two divorces. 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:44.000 I want to be able to know that the Mormon 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:47.640 Church was wrong for me, and I felt a discernment 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:50.040 from you, and now I could see why because here's 0:19:50.080 --> 0:19:53.080 the discrepancies right here in the scriptures, peeing all the 0:19:53.119 --> 0:19:56.160 new emails I'm about to get from the LDS church. 0:19:56.720 --> 0:20:00.800 Love you, love you, love you, guys. But but this 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:03.840 is my This is my way to tell you this, Jordan, 0:20:04.480 --> 0:20:09.399 is by you opening that book and saying, I have questions. 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:12.680 I want to know. I'm seeking draw me to you, 0:20:12.800 --> 0:20:16.600 draw me to you God, so that I could understand. Yeah, 0:20:16.680 --> 0:20:18.600 I think that I can already feel a lot of 0:20:18.640 --> 0:20:21.720 people out there thinking to themselves, like Granger, well, I've 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:24.480 tried that and it just doesn't do anything for me. 0:20:25.600 --> 0:20:30.679 That is fundamentally the problem. It you're not hearing what 0:20:30.760 --> 0:20:36.320 he's saying. It's not what you're doing, it's understanding who 0:20:36.400 --> 0:20:43.120 he is. You coming to the scripture is not a Okay, God, 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:46.040 I'm gonna come here and now you have to do 0:20:46.160 --> 0:20:52.040 your part right. It's it's understanding who he is, the 0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:56.720 creator of the universe, the the creator of the eyeball, 0:20:56.760 --> 0:21:00.000 as Granger has, you know, like described on this podcast before, 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:03.040 or like do we understand like who he is and 0:21:03.080 --> 0:21:05.800 what he's done and that he's worthy of our lives, 0:21:05.840 --> 0:21:08.760 our time that Grangeer's talking about going to the scripture 0:21:08.880 --> 0:21:12.600 changes dramatically when we understand who it is we're going 0:21:12.640 --> 0:21:16.119 to meet with. Remember the the prince that you that 0:21:16.240 --> 0:21:19.800 analogy you did Godly that was so good And I 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:22.479 don't remember all of the picture that you were painting, 0:21:22.520 --> 0:21:26.959 but it was this this image of do we understand 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:30.400 who is coming to our house? Why would we ever 0:21:30.560 --> 0:21:34.120 just sit down and be like, Okay, hey, now you're 0:21:34.160 --> 0:21:36.520 actually not doing so I'm gonna I'm gonna go in 0:21:36.560 --> 0:21:39.840 the back room and play some video games and are 0:21:39.880 --> 0:21:44.439 you kidding me? Like and and I think I'm not 0:21:44.480 --> 0:21:46.960 saying this in like an arrogant way because I know, 0:21:47.119 --> 0:21:50.439 like I've been at places in my life where that 0:21:50.680 --> 0:21:54.120 what the heart desire was not there and the relationship 0:21:54.200 --> 0:21:55.719 was not there, and it was a fight. And some 0:21:55.840 --> 0:21:57.920 days it still is. I was gonna say it still 0:21:58.000 --> 0:22:01.439 isn't don't get us wrong, It's still it still is 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:05.160 very much a fight. But I think for for you 0:22:06.040 --> 0:22:08.320 and for Granger and myself, I know there has been 0:22:08.440 --> 0:22:13.760 times where we kind of catch a glimpse of like, oh, Okay, 0:22:13.800 --> 0:22:19.120 I get it, you know, and I need to understand 0:22:19.200 --> 0:22:24.640 who who God is and not be so focused on 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:27.560 you know, these these things that I got to do 0:22:27.680 --> 0:22:30.000 or getting advice on. Okay, there's my next step. It's like, 0:22:30.200 --> 0:22:33.360 just stand in all I promise if you just stand 0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:37.560 in all of him and be still with that, things 0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:40.679 will slowly, he will, slowly his presence will start to 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:42.919 come Jordan, and I have two words for you to 0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:47.640 sum all this up. Total surrender. Total surrender. And it's 0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:50.720 like this, It's like you. And I've said this so 0:22:50.760 --> 0:22:52.760 many times on the podcast, and I wonder if anyone's 0:22:52.800 --> 0:22:55.480 ever done it. I don't know, but this is this 0:22:55.520 --> 0:22:58.520 is the truth. I want you to go home tonight 0:22:58.800 --> 0:23:01.160 after work, and I want you to get the kids down, 0:23:01.200 --> 0:23:02.720 and I want you to go back to your bedroom 0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:06.080 and I want you to hit your knees, the actual knees, 0:23:06.960 --> 0:23:08.919 and put your elbows on your bed and your knees 0:23:08.920 --> 0:23:12.159 on the ground, and go God. I'm just giving this 0:23:12.280 --> 0:23:15.119 to you because I can't do it. I can't do 0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:19.120 this anymore. I have messed up two marriages I've got 0:23:19.320 --> 0:23:22.600 I've got two sons that need a father with direction, 0:23:23.119 --> 0:23:27.000 with objective truth. I have followed the one hundred and 0:23:27.040 --> 0:23:29.840 eighty six rules of the Mormon Church and it didn't 0:23:29.920 --> 0:23:33.920 work for me. No more rules. I'm giving it all 0:23:34.119 --> 0:23:38.000 to you. My sacrifice is me. I was made in 0:23:38.040 --> 0:23:41.359 your image, and so my sacrifice is my image back 0:23:41.359 --> 0:23:43.560 to you. I'm gonna give it to you. Stop. I'm 0:23:43.560 --> 0:23:46.879