Speaker 1: Here's something that's just crazy and this is so difficult
Speaker 1: to understand, but some people are just not going to heal.
Speaker 1: What's up, guys, Welcome to the podcast. Got my favorite guest.
Speaker 1: He's so much better than Chad so mad, dude. I'm
Speaker 1: just kidding he's but he is one of my favorite
Speaker 1: humans in the time. You guys are my favorite guests,
Speaker 1: So back back at you. Second week in a row.
Speaker 1: We got Bernie back in the podcast room to help
Speaker 1: answer your questions. The reason Bernie's on here is because
Speaker 1: if I have a question in my life for the
Speaker 1: last twenty two years, I call Bernie and I say, hey, Burns,
Speaker 1: I got something I'm dealing with, can you help me?
Speaker 1: And he always delivers just what I need to hear.
Speaker 1: It's a great thing to have for that long and
Speaker 1: also reminds us that we getting old. Man, we're getting old. Yeah,
Speaker 1: here you got the silver fox thing going. Man, I
Speaker 1: know we're getting old, both of us. So the format
Speaker 1: of this podcast is we answer your questions if you
Speaker 1: have anything you want to walk through with us, And
Speaker 1: we like to say it's like we're sitting around a campfire,
Speaker 1: embers are dying down and you walk up and you say, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: can I talk about something, something that's been on my mind,
Speaker 1: something's been bothering me, something I'm excited about, a decision
Speaker 1: I have to make, could I ask you? And so
Speaker 1: then we walk through it like we're around that campfire
Speaker 1: and h and we talk about it as much as
Speaker 1: we can. We're not always right, and that's okay. We're
Speaker 1: just going to tell you what the best advice we
Speaker 1: would give each other as buddies, that's what we want
Speaker 1: to give you. Yeah, And I definitely want to recognize
Speaker 1: that we have a voice here, which I don't take lightly,
Speaker 1: and I know that Griz doesn't take lightly. We have
Speaker 1: a voice, and there's a lot of people out there
Speaker 1: that don't have a voice, and so we want to
Speaker 1: use it in a way that comes across as very
Speaker 1: humble and curious and really here, I know the heart
Speaker 1: of this podcast from Granger to you guys is to
Speaker 1: encourage and build you up and enter into your heartbreak.
Speaker 1: You're suffering your life. Your challenge is with you, and
Speaker 1: we want to be a voice that is that kind
Speaker 1: of positive influence for you. Absolutely absolutely so to get
Speaker 1: on this podcast to get your question to me, email
Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Don't hesitate could be
Speaker 1: about anything. The only thing I really ask is make
Speaker 1: it about a phone linked question, because if it gets
Speaker 1: more than that, it's harder to read. And we'll walk
Speaker 1: through it with you. So we got the first one
Speaker 1: right here. I've got a bunch of them today. Subject
Speaker 1: line on this one is as soon as you stop looking,
Speaker 1: it says Hey Granger. And by the way, Burns, I
Speaker 1: read this question right before, it's it's kind of interesting. Okay,
Speaker 1: Hey Granger, I want to start off by saying music
Speaker 1: and everything you stand for, you've showed me a clear
Speaker 1: path to get closer to God, and I want to
Speaker 1: thank you for that. My name is Abigail. I'm twenty
Speaker 1: years old. I'm from a small town in Alberta, Canada. Recently,
Speaker 1: I decided that I was not going to look for
Speaker 1: a relationship at the moment. I wanted to work on
Speaker 1: myself and make sure that I'm truly ready for one.
Speaker 1: But of course, because I decided that just like your song,
Speaker 1: happens like that, as soon as I stopped looking, it
Speaker 1: was right in front of my face, the guy I
Speaker 1: made an effort to see more frequently now because he's
Speaker 1: the guy that my family wants me to be with.
Speaker 1: Now he's asking me if we can go get coffee sometime,
Speaker 1: and I'm so stumped. Do I continue my path of
Speaker 1: self discovery and see where it goes or talk to
Speaker 1: one of these guys. I really don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: And my family's influence over who they want me to
Speaker 1: be with is really taking a toll on me. So
Speaker 1: here we go. This is interesting. So she has two guys,
Speaker 1: the guy that I made an effort to see more
Speaker 1: frequently now and the guy that my family wants to
Speaker 1: be me to be with, are saying that she go
Speaker 1: to coffee. And so basically what's happening here is this
Speaker 1: is someone that's listened to the podcast that's taken our
Speaker 1: advice burns on being single and secure, being happy alone,
Speaker 1: finding contentment, and just as I have predicted on this podcast,
Speaker 1: when you start doing that, when you make an effort
Speaker 1: to be content and single and content alone, you are
Speaker 1: putting off an attraction to others because they see that
Speaker 1: and they're like, man, what is it about that girl?
Speaker 1: Like she's different. Confidence is like moth to a flame. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So because of that and because of her confidence and
Speaker 1: her security in herself. She's now put off this attraction.
Speaker 1: I want to use this question as an example to
Speaker 1: so many others that we try to preach this into.
Speaker 1: And my theory has always been that when you do this,
Speaker 1: you just become more attractive, you become different, becomes something special.
Speaker 1: And now look at Abigail. She's got two guys wanting
Speaker 1: to take her to coffee. And one of them is
Speaker 1: the one she used to really like and now and
Speaker 1: and the other one is like the guy that her
Speaker 1: family really wants her to be with. So you're you're
Speaker 1: asking the question to me like this is a dilemma,
Speaker 1: but I'm telling you this is awesome. Yeah, like Abigail,
Speaker 1: this is amazing. And I want everyone to see what
Speaker 1: Abigail has done that she's put an effort into working
Speaker 1: on being secure with herself because like I said, you're
Speaker 1: you're you're gonna be born alone and you're gonna die alone,
Speaker 1: and you have to be secure with that that you
Speaker 1: alone will be born and die. So so what does
Speaker 1: she do now? And she's stumped. Yeah, she does she
Speaker 1: continue on the path of self discovery and see where
Speaker 1: it goes, or see where it goes with either one
Speaker 1: of these eyes, which is interesting dilemma now right, We've
Speaker 1: never answered one like this. This is like next level.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go back to something. I don't know why
Speaker 1: it popped in my head that we said on the
Speaker 1: last podcast, and maybe it applies, guys, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm just you know, we're just talking around a campfire here, right.
Speaker 1: Instead of telling you what to do, I want to
Speaker 1: remind you of who God is, and I want you
Speaker 1: to push into who God is and let that be
Speaker 1: the determining factor and decision maker of what you should do. Listen, listen,
Speaker 1: just be still and listen. And I think he's gonna
Speaker 1: tell you, you you know, ask him for clarity, like like
Speaker 1: we've said before. And I don't know if we could
Speaker 1: tell you, oh yeah you should do this, you shouldn't,
Speaker 1: because it sounds like there's there's freedom in that confidence
Speaker 1: that she now has. Yeah, you know, from our view,
Speaker 1: we don't know these dudes and we don't know our family,
Speaker 1: and it's like, well, you could do either, so you
Speaker 1: know what the other interesting thing about this question is
Speaker 1: is that we talk so much about heartbreak on this
Speaker 1: podcast and recovering from it or dealing with it or
Speaker 1: being in the middle of it. So here's a question
Speaker 1: that's pre heartbreak. Oh yeah, it's good. Right. So what
Speaker 1: we're just talked about off the air was the importance
Speaker 1: of guarding your heart. So first of all, I would say,
Speaker 1: coffee's not gonna hurt anybody. Go to coffee with both
Speaker 1: of them. It's not gonna hurt anybody. But go in
Speaker 1: first with this confidence that you are fine by yourself
Speaker 1: without a relationship, and two that you are going to
Speaker 1: guard your heart no matter what happens, no matter if
Speaker 1: you go, wow, I really click with this guy. I
Speaker 1: actually really like this guy. But I'm gonna guard my
Speaker 1: heart because it's not his yet and it wouldn't be
Speaker 1: until you get married. But you're going to guard your
Speaker 1: heart saying I'm gonna hold on. I'm not gonna show
Speaker 1: them all my cards. Right, I'm gonna take this slow.
Speaker 1: There's no rush. You're twenty years old. There is no
Speaker 1: reason to speed anything up. You could do this now.
Speaker 1: It's hard six months down the road when you already
Speaker 1: sped it up. It's hard to slow it down once
Speaker 1: this train gets going. So right now, the train is
Speaker 1: on the track, stopped at the station, before it goes
Speaker 1: recognize I'm gonna take it slow. I think one thing
Speaker 1: also to kind of look for. I'm just thinking whenever
Speaker 1: I was in kind of that courtship period with my
Speaker 1: now wife, is I had a heart that was like,
Speaker 1: I want to guard her heart as well as mine.
Speaker 1: I want to lead us in this way. So these
Speaker 1: guys like, look at how they're Are they really trying
Speaker 1: to guard your heart and protect you, or are they like, hey,
Speaker 1: more selfishly, Hey, I just want to I want to
Speaker 1: spend time with you, and I want to I want
Speaker 1: to do this. I want to do this instead of
Speaker 1: respecting you and really saying, oh, let's take this slow,
Speaker 1: let's get to know each other, let's kind of take
Speaker 1: it the way that you're talking about. Yeah, that's great.
Speaker 1: I think the family component. If a family's telling you
Speaker 1: they don't like a guy, take it to heart. If
Speaker 1: a family's telling you they do like a guy, that
Speaker 1: doesn't matter that much to me. I don't know it
Speaker 1: means like your heart's going to like them or not.
Speaker 1: But that's great. It's great for the first coffee date,
Speaker 1: but nothing after the coffee date. So I don't think
Speaker 1: that should influence you. Yeah, above all else, guard your heart.
Speaker 1: I think Granger said it. We live in this society
Speaker 1: that we are just talking about where we are just
Speaker 1: so quick to give ourselves away. And I don't know
Speaker 1: why we do that. Why do we do that when
Speaker 1: we know that that is what leads to heartbreak And
Speaker 1: that's not that's not just a relationship. But think about
Speaker 1: a job where you know your career and a company
Speaker 1: that you just joined and you didn't really you know,
Speaker 1: think about the and talk to the people and like
Speaker 1: and you know, research the company that you were going
Speaker 1: to work for in the line of work, and then
Speaker 1: you just like jumped in. It's like, man, now I'm
Speaker 1: like heartbroken because this didn't go the way I thought.
Speaker 1: It's like, if you slowed down and just guard your
Speaker 1: heart a little bit, have the confidence that Abigail has.
Speaker 1: I think we could avoid a lot of it. Abigail,
Speaker 1: when you go to coffee, and you don't have to,
Speaker 1: by the way, if you're like, man, I'm just not
Speaker 1: into this right now, I'm kind of on a good role.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna avoid coffee. I think that's fine. I don't
Speaker 1: think there's anything wrong also with going to coffee with
Speaker 1: these guys because I think you'll learn something about the
Speaker 1: opposite sex and you'll learn something more about yourself through it.
Speaker 1: Either way, if you start licking one of these guys,
Speaker 1: like if you feel the little butterfly in your stomach, like, Wow,
Speaker 1: this guy's really sweet and I'm attracted to them. If
Speaker 1: you feel that you're heading down two one of two roads,
Speaker 1: and I want you to hear this one. This is
Speaker 1: either somebody that's going to break your heart or you're
Speaker 1: going to be dealing with a heartbreak with or two
Speaker 1: your future spouse. So handle accordingly. You are going down
Speaker 1: one of these paths once again for the tenth time.
Speaker 1: That's so good that those are really the paths. And
Speaker 1: I mean, do we think about that when we go
Speaker 1: into these things, that those are really the two paths,
Speaker 1: and we think that there's like these other options, it's like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: we'll just kind of see. It's like no, you're you're
Speaker 1: just going down these two too, and so you have
Speaker 1: to have that mindset. Uh. That's really good. All right,
Speaker 1: good luck, Abigail. Let's see and thanks for listening. Yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for listening. Oh here's an interesting
Speaker 1: one burns subject line law of attraction. Hey, Grangeur. This
Speaker 1: is Luke from Michigan. I love listening to your podcast
Speaker 1: during my workout. Anyway. My question is about practicing the
Speaker 1: Law of attraction as a Christian. Is it's safe to
Speaker 1: use the Law of attraction and other positive thought moment movements? Thanks?
Speaker 1: You know what that is? I guess not. It's there
Speaker 1: is what Luke is referring to. And I think it's
Speaker 1: a book called the Law of Attraction. I think that's
Speaker 1: what it's called. But there's there's a lot there's a
Speaker 1: lot of different books and different lines of thought psychologically
Speaker 1: with this the Law of attraction. It's basically if you,
Speaker 1: if you, if you think it, if you move towards it,
Speaker 1: the world is like a magnet that brings it to you. Okay,
Speaker 1: So it's this idea that it's like Jedi mind tricks,
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's it's this idea, and there's these
Speaker 1: books that will just lay it all out for you
Speaker 1: and just show you examples. But it's like if you
Speaker 1: if you love a Lamborghini, and that's all you think
Speaker 1: about it, and you put it on your screensaver and
Speaker 1: you put a poster on your wall, and that you
Speaker 1: work towards it, then that law of attraction will eventually
Speaker 1: get you a Lamborghini. And I do think that you
Speaker 1: are your discernment is correct. Luke that as a Christian
Speaker 1: this can get dangerous because nothing about the law of
Speaker 1: attraction is biblical. In fact, nothing about it is proven
Speaker 1: in any way to be anything besides just a strange
Speaker 1: analogy that people have made in trying to explain the universe.
Speaker 1: People use all kinds of different ways to explain. People
Speaker 1: say that we say karma, you know, like, I don't
Speaker 1: even use the word karma. When someone says that's just
Speaker 1: bad karma, man, I'm like, why I don't believe in karma.
Speaker 1: I like to say it. I like to just say
Speaker 1: it because because if I say it, it puts it
Speaker 1: out there and it kind of releases that repentance from
Speaker 1: my own mind. Because karma is anti Christian. The law
Speaker 1: of attraction essentially is anti Christian. Why because it's explaining
Speaker 1: the universe and the conception of the universe and the
Speaker 1: creation of everything and the direction of our lives in
Speaker 1: a different way that's not biblical. Yeah, I think that
Speaker 1: I don't know enough about this topic to kind of
Speaker 1: really weigh in specifically, but I think there always is
Speaker 1: the mentality of thinking that there's these kind of laws
Speaker 1: of the universe that the Bible took and just applied
Speaker 1: instead of this is the fundamental truth and every other
Speaker 1: truth that exists is God's truth and has been pulled
Speaker 1: into other places and either distorted or reconfigured in order
Speaker 1: to cool people in and fulfill some manly earth or
Speaker 1: humanly glorification instead of god glorification. So this without knowing
Speaker 1: much about it, maybe this one and other did he say,
Speaker 1: like other philosophical other positive thought, positive thought movements? Yeah,
Speaker 1: as a believer, and it sounds like Luke is a
Speaker 1: is a Christian and a believer. I think you just
Speaker 1: have to go back to the Word and that needs
Speaker 1: to be the lens in which you see all these
Speaker 1: other things and the guiding light in your life. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I've had to learn to like listen to
Speaker 1: these other movements and these other things and say like, oh, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that that's actually in the in the Book of Hebrews,
Speaker 1: and here's why it's true. So yeah, I'm going to
Speaker 1: take that. I'm going to take that, but I'm not
Speaker 1: validating your movement here in its hole h. We'll take
Speaker 1: the thoughts of that. Like Bernie said, if the Bible's
Speaker 1: the foundation, then what we could build on top of
Speaker 1: that foundation is things like this. I'll tell you this, Luke, Hey,
Speaker 1: try to think positive, try to work hard. Use those
Speaker 1: two things. Try to work hard and think positive. Why
Speaker 1: because that is at a law of the universe that
Speaker 1: karma will reward you. No, that's just because you're put
Speaker 1: on this earth to till the ground and work the ground.
Speaker 1: And you're here on this earth to use your joy
Speaker 1: to lift others and be a light to others. So
Speaker 1: try to think positive and work hard. I'm speaking of
Speaker 1: the speaking of light. The next question subjectline is wondering
Speaker 1: in darkness. Hey, grandear, my name is Jordan. I'm twenty
Speaker 1: eight years old. I'm a deputy sheriff from Utah. I
Speaker 1: have two sons, six and seven, from my first marriage.
Speaker 1: I have a very successful career, and I feel like
Speaker 1: at the rest of my life has been unsuccessful. I've
Speaker 1: been through two divorces, the second of which I really
Speaker 1: tried hard to save, but her abuse towards my sons
Speaker 1: ended up causing us to split up. We have been
Speaker 1: divorced almost two years Now. I grew up very active
Speaker 1: in the Mormon Church. Within the last year I've fallen
Speaker 1: away from it because I disagree with some of their teachings,
Speaker 1: but I still believe in God and Jesus. I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm constantly wondering around in the dark when it
Speaker 1: comes to religion and finding a woman to have a
Speaker 1: family with. Please give me advice on what I should do.
Speaker 1: Thanks Jordan. Wow, there's a lot there. There's a lot.
Speaker 1: Shout out to to Jordan, thank you for email, and
Speaker 1: Buddy twenty eight, thank you for your service as a
Speaker 1: deputy sheriff, and shout out to all of our friends
Speaker 1: in Utah. Well, Okay, the foundation of a lot of
Speaker 1: these the issues that you're having is coming from your
Speaker 1: lack of understanding of who God is and building a
Speaker 1: foundation upon that. So we could being right off the
Speaker 1: last question, so having a biblical understanding of who God is.
Speaker 1: And Bernie said this on the last podcast that what
Speaker 1: we want our heart for you so much in this
Speaker 1: podcast is what did you say to understand the nature
Speaker 1: of God? Not to necessarily give you a next step
Speaker 1: or a direction in life, but we want you to
Speaker 1: understand who God is and we will both stand here
Speaker 1: right now and tell you that the way to understand
Speaker 1: him is by devoting your time in the scriptures daily,
Speaker 1: really daily. And the reason I say it like that
Speaker 1: is because there was most of my life I wasn't
Speaker 1: so I know that it sounds crazy to say daily,
Speaker 1: but it's a daily commitment. I think morning are a
Speaker 1: great time if you just set your alarm a little
Speaker 1: bit earlier and you just open your Bible and you say, God,
Speaker 1: I open my eyes to this because I don't understand it.
Speaker 1: I live in darkness. I don't want to live in darkness,
Speaker 1: which John would be a great place to start, because
Speaker 1: John talks about light and darkness a lot in his book.
Speaker 1: But God, I want to understand you, and I know
Speaker 1: that by communicating with each other. I pray and you
Speaker 1: speak through your word these scriptures. So I'm going to
Speaker 1: open this and I want to know wisdom from you
Speaker 1: because I want to be able to lead my family.
Speaker 1: I want to be able to reconcile these two divorces.
Speaker 1: I want to be able to know that the Mormon
Speaker 1: Church was wrong for me, and I felt a discernment
Speaker 1: from you, and now I could see why because here's
Speaker 1: the discrepancies right here in the scriptures, peeing all the
Speaker 1: new emails I'm about to get from the LDS church.
Speaker 1: Love you, love you, love you, guys. But but this
Speaker 1: is my This is my way to tell you this, Jordan,
Speaker 1: is by you opening that book and saying, I have questions.
Speaker 1: I want to know. I'm seeking draw me to you,
Speaker 1: draw me to you God, so that I could understand. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that I can already feel a lot of
Speaker 1: people out there thinking to themselves, like Granger, well, I've
Speaker 1: tried that and it just doesn't do anything for me.
Speaker 1: That is fundamentally the problem. It you're not hearing what
Speaker 1: he's saying. It's not what you're doing, it's understanding who
Speaker 1: he is. You coming to the scripture is not a Okay, God,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna come here and now you have to do
Speaker 1: your part right. It's it's understanding who he is, the
Speaker 1: creator of the universe, the the creator of the eyeball,
Speaker 1: as Granger has, you know, like described on this podcast before,
Speaker 1: or like do we understand like who he is and
Speaker 1: what he's done and that he's worthy of our lives,
Speaker 1: our time that Grangeer's talking about going to the scripture
Speaker 1: changes dramatically when we understand who it is we're going
Speaker 1: to meet with. Remember the the prince that you that
Speaker 1: analogy you did Godly that was so good And I
Speaker 1: don't remember all of the picture that you were painting,
Speaker 1: but it was this this image of do we understand
Speaker 1: who is coming to our house? Why would we ever
Speaker 1: just sit down and be like, Okay, hey, now you're
Speaker 1: actually not doing so I'm gonna I'm gonna go in
Speaker 1: the back room and play some video games and are
Speaker 1: you kidding me? Like and and I think I'm not
Speaker 1: saying this in like an arrogant way because I know,
Speaker 1: like I've been at places in my life where that
Speaker 1: what the heart desire was not there and the relationship
Speaker 1: was not there, and it was a fight. And some
Speaker 1: days it still is. I was gonna say it still
Speaker 1: isn't don't get us wrong, It's still it still is
Speaker 1: very much a fight. But I think for for you
Speaker 1: and for Granger and myself, I know there has been
Speaker 1: times where we kind of catch a glimpse of like, oh, Okay,
Speaker 1: I get it, you know, and I need to understand
Speaker 1: who who God is and not be so focused on
Speaker 1: you know, these these things that I got to do
Speaker 1: or getting advice on. Okay, there's my next step. It's like,
Speaker 1: just stand in all I promise if you just stand
Speaker 1: in all of him and be still with that, things
Speaker 1: will slowly, he will, slowly his presence will start to
Speaker 1: come Jordan, and I have two words for you to
Speaker 1: sum all this up. Total surrender. Total surrender. And it's
Speaker 1: like this, It's like you. And I've said this so
Speaker 1: many times on the podcast, and I wonder if anyone's
Speaker 1: ever done it. I don't know, but this is this
Speaker 1: is the truth. I want you to go home tonight
Speaker 1: after work, and I want you to get the kids down,
Speaker 1: and I want you to go back to your bedroom
Speaker 1: and I want you to hit your knees, the actual knees,
Speaker 1: and put your elbows on your bed and your knees
Speaker 1: on the ground, and go God. I'm just giving this
Speaker 1: to you because I can't do it. I can't do
Speaker 1: this anymore. I have messed up two marriages I've got
Speaker 1: I've got two sons that need a father with direction,
Speaker 1: with objective truth. I have followed the one hundred and
Speaker 1: eighty six rules of the Mormon Church and it didn't
Speaker 1: work for me. No more rules. I'm giving it all
Speaker 1: to you. My sacrifice is me. I was made in
Speaker 1: your image, and so my sacrifice is my image back
Speaker 1: to you. I'm gonna give it to you. Stop. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stop worrying about tomorrow. I'm gonna start dwelling on
Speaker 1: the past mistakes. I'm gonna be right here at the
Speaker 1: foot of this bed with you right now. I'm giving
Speaker 1: this to you. Feed me with your wisdom, show me
Speaker 1: through your word, because I'm gonna set my alarm. I'm
Speaker 1: getting up tomorrow morning. I'm gonna start reading, and I
Speaker 1: might get lazy, i might get bored. Fight me. Open
Speaker 1: my mouth so I could praise you the psalm, say
Speaker 1: open my mouth, I am worthless. Open my mouth, open
Speaker 1: my eyes, open my ears to your truth. And I'll
Speaker 1: just keep showing up every morning when the mercies are new. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and the tendency is going to be to have expectation that, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm going to do this, and then he's gonna do this.
Speaker 1: But I'm going to just say that's not the point,
Speaker 1: because honestly, if you start doing these things Granger's talking
Speaker 1: about total surrender, there could become an immense amount of
Speaker 1: suffering that comes into your life that's happened to people
Speaker 1: right there. God is not a pill, it's not He's
Speaker 1: not a Okay, you do this, a negotiator, you do this,
Speaker 1: and then I'll do this for you. Like understanding this
Speaker 1: surrender is is because of who he is and us
Speaker 1: really understanding that, and then you're going to get to
Speaker 1: look back even through whatever suffering comes, even through whatever
Speaker 1: joy comes, and be like, Jesus is better. He's still
Speaker 1: so much better than than my triumphs, than my sufferings,
Speaker 1: then the riches, then my poverty, then all of this.
Speaker 1: He's better. And it's gonna make you want to get
Speaker 1: up the next morning again. Man, I love it. I've
Speaker 1: got three things that have been rattling around in my brain.
Speaker 1: This is brand new for me. I haven't talked to
Speaker 1: you about this, Bernie, but there's three things that equal
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Speaker 1: help me stress test this as you say. I've got
Speaker 1: three things rattling around in my brain here and I'm
Speaker 1: trying to I'm trying to understand how we put God
Speaker 1: first and the ways to do that, the ways to
Speaker 1: understand it. And there's three things, and this relates to
Speaker 1: our last question with Jordan. These three things we fail at.
Speaker 1: We come short every time, but we continue to lead
Speaker 1: in lean into them, and we continue to preach these
Speaker 1: three things to ourselves. And it's trusting God, fearing God,
Speaker 1: waiting for God. So we don't do either of those
Speaker 1: three things perfectly. Ever, we try to get better and
Speaker 1: better and better as we get older, as our faith grows.
Speaker 1: So trusting God, fearing, fearing God, waiting for God. And
Speaker 1: so this goes to you, Jordan, are you doing these
Speaker 1: three things? And to what extent is your life reflecting
Speaker 1: these three things? Because trusting God means you got it.
Speaker 1: I'm not worried about tomorrow. If we trusted him fully,
Speaker 1: which we don't, none of us do. If we trusted
Speaker 1: him fully, then we would never worry about anything. We
Speaker 1: would only be present today and we would say, let
Speaker 1: this cut pass from me, but your will be done,
Speaker 1: not mine. We would say that every time. So the
Speaker 1: second is fearing God, because if we truly feared God,
Speaker 1: we feared the wrath of God. Then we would be
Speaker 1: way different in every decision we made in our entire life,
Speaker 1: it would reflect on that would be God would disapprove
Speaker 1: of me in this right. And then the third is
Speaker 1: waiting for God. If we truly waited for God, we'd
Speaker 1: be so full of patience. We wouldn't have any problems.
Speaker 1: Because so many times we pray and then we see
Speaker 1: in the psalms, wait for the Lord, Wait for the Lord,
Speaker 1: Wait for the Lord. That could be years of waiting.
Speaker 1: So those three things kind of answer all of our
Speaker 1: problems that we have. It's like, I'm mad at God.
Speaker 1: Are you waiting? I can't stop doing this? Are you fearing?
Speaker 1: I can't stop worrying? Are you trusting? And so here's
Speaker 1: my point. Those three things are things that we could
Speaker 1: work on in our prayer life by preaching it back
Speaker 1: to ourselves repetitively saying this, saying God in your meek
Speaker 1: voice at the foot of your bed when you're just
Speaker 1: distraught and you say God, I trust you, and there's
Speaker 1: all these alarms that are going off in you going
Speaker 1: you don't really, you don't really, you don't really, not totally,
Speaker 1: not fully, and you go, God, I trust you, you
Speaker 1: preach it back to yourself to eliminate those voices, and
Speaker 1: then you go, God, I fear you, a righteous fear.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about Halloween scary. I'm talking if you
Speaker 1: really understood the massive presence of our creator and how
Speaker 1: small you are. Now, I'm talking about that kind of fear. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And the wrath of God. Some people are thinking fire
Speaker 1: and brimstone. No, the wrath of God being what Jesus experienced,
Speaker 1: which is complete separation, yes from God. That is you
Speaker 1: know me, God, you know me, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to ever live in a world where you don't right.
Speaker 1: That kind of fear, yeah, the one that can fulfill
Speaker 1: and restore and redeem and save that God, I don't
Speaker 1: want to ever live in a world where I don't
Speaker 1: know you. That kind of fear is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: And then the third is waiting God, I will wait
Speaker 1: for you. And then all these voices go, well, you can't,
Speaker 1: I can't wait. I need it now, I need it now.
Speaker 1: I want to answer now. I want to fix this now.
Speaker 1: I want to end the suffering now and in the
Speaker 1: pain now. I want my reward now. And you go, God,
Speaker 1: I will wait for you. Because your answer will always
Speaker 1: come at the time I need it, and I don't
Speaker 1: know when I need it. I'm too stupid to know
Speaker 1: when I need it. You see the full picture, and
Speaker 1: I don't see the full picture. So I will wait
Speaker 1: on you. So we preach those three things to ourselves
Speaker 1: every night. Yeah, no, e three morning. No, man, that's
Speaker 1: so good. I'll end it with something that I've told
Speaker 1: Griz in the past that has been very helpful for
Speaker 1: me is go find yourself some wilderness. Throughout the Bible,
Speaker 1: it talks about Jesus would as often as he could
Speaker 1: retreat to pray with his father, to pray to his father.
Speaker 1: And you see these people throughout Bible, they would always
Speaker 1: kind of like go into the wilderness. They would treat retreat, retreat.
Speaker 1: So maybe the space that you're in everything that Granger
Speaker 1: has just said, go into the woods by yourself, Go
Speaker 1: for a walk, go go get lost in nature, leave
Speaker 1: your phone, make sure everything's good at the house or whatever,
Speaker 1: but say hey, I'm gonna be disconnected, and then just
Speaker 1: go and then repeat these things that he has just
Speaker 1: said over and over and then like wrestle with them.
Speaker 1: Wrestling with God is like he loves that he loves
Speaker 1: to answer and hear from you and like show you
Speaker 1: and reveal things to you. So yeah, I would just
Speaker 1: suggest doing that as well. Love it, man, love having
Speaker 1: you on your Bernie. It's good to be here. Can
Speaker 1: we take a quick second and acknowledge that you're now
Speaker 1: a movie star? Good, you're a movie star? Man, Like,
Speaker 1: have you written the Oscar speech? At any point, they
Speaker 1: could call and say, we're scrapping the movie. It's no
Speaker 1: good really until it's out. I mean, like at any
Speaker 1: time they'd be like, yeah, we changed our mind. It's
Speaker 1: no good. You suck, dude. But that's pretty cool, man.
Speaker 1: Nobody is ever just in case you guys are wondering,
Speaker 1: nobody's ever asked me to be the lead in the movie.
Speaker 1: So still, I think they were either desperate or I
Speaker 1: fooled them in something else. So can you give us,
Speaker 1: like you know, the people out there, just a little
Speaker 1: glimpse of like this was cool, this was a really cool.
Speaker 1: Part of this part really sucked. Yeah, you haven't been
Speaker 1: on the podcast since then because I was trying them
Speaker 1: all by myself during that time. So it's a movie
Speaker 1: about a country singer that lost his wife two years
Speaker 1: prior and then he has three kids and he's he's
Speaker 1: desperately trying to find meaning and redemption and the restoration
Speaker 1: of joy in his life. He's he's an angry man.
Speaker 1: He is losing his grip on his children, and he's
Speaker 1: just trying to find this restoration and he just misses
Speaker 1: his wife. And I read the script and I was
Speaker 1: just like, man, I feel so sorry for this guy,
Speaker 1: Like I really need to do this. Yeah, and it's
Speaker 1: just a good story. So having never been on a
Speaker 1: movie before, movie set before, have you been in any
Speaker 1: other movies? No, that's it. What was the one thing
Speaker 1: that you stepped on, you know, to the set and
Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, this is weird or this is like
Speaker 1: I didn't expect this. Well. The memorization was really tripping
Speaker 1: me up because it was the script was one hundred
Speaker 1: and thirty four scenes or something. I was in probably
Speaker 1: ninety of those, and I had to memorize them, you know.
Speaker 1: So I would get my call sheet the night before
Speaker 1: and I would have to see, like we're all marked.
Speaker 1: All the actors had to mark a number. So I
Speaker 1: was number one, and so every time I see a one,
Speaker 1: that means I'm in it, I would be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: seen forty six, Seen eighty three, Seene twenty eight, Seeing
Speaker 1: one oh five, we're doing all those today. So then
Speaker 1: I would go and get my highlighter and highlight all
Speaker 1: my lines and memorize them. And then sometimes we'd get
Speaker 1: there and be like, hey, we're scrapping eighty six, We're
Speaker 1: do that tomorrow. Today we're going to do eighty two,
Speaker 1: and I'd be like eighty two. So I'd pull out
Speaker 1: my script and I would start highlighting. And because you
Speaker 1: have to memorize at a level that's more than just
Speaker 1: you could recite it. You have to be able to
Speaker 1: believe it, yeah and embody it. And then you have
Speaker 1: to be able to react to the other people. So
Speaker 1: then I would have to kind of memorize their lines
Speaker 1: at least somewhat, so I know what they're about to
Speaker 1: say and when I'm going to start my next dialogue.
Speaker 1: So that was It made me so nervous. Every day.
Speaker 1: I would show up and be like, I don't mess
Speaker 1: this up because it would take them so long to
Speaker 1: set up a scene, and then you're fighting the clock.
Speaker 1: So you don't want to be the one that's holding
Speaker 1: them up because you didn't memorize how many people are
Speaker 1: like looking at you right now fifty five? Man, did
Speaker 1: you ever have you know those? It's always fun to see,
Speaker 1: like the outtakes of the movie, did y'all have any
Speaker 1: of those right things? Laughing? And there was a couple
Speaker 1: of times there was there was a couple of moments
Speaker 1: where we were just like, it was really funny, and
Speaker 1: hopefully we'll get those outakes. I feel like if me
Speaker 1: and you ever did a movie, it would be mostly
Speaker 1: outtakes and we would we would just be laughing at shus.
Speaker 1: What that's right? That's right? Well, no one came to
Speaker 1: listen to me, so let's listen to Let's hear their questions, right, okay,
Speaker 1: all right? Subject line I hate being left on. I
Speaker 1: don't really know what that means, but it says, hey, grander.
Speaker 1: My name is Isaac. I'm sixteen. I live in Kansas City, Kansas.
Speaker 1: Recently my life has changed a lot, from no girls
Speaker 1: to hanging out with girls often. I feel very immature
Speaker 1: in the sense that my mind always wants to like
Speaker 1: a girl. I've never been in a serious relationship, but
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm always going from one girl to
Speaker 1: the next, and ended up fling and end up feeling empty.
Speaker 1: I have a good relationship with God and pray a lot.
Speaker 1: That's a lowercase G. But I want lowercase G God
Speaker 1: to make me feel like I don't need any girls
Speaker 1: in my life. Any advice? Love the podcast How old
Speaker 1: was he? Sixteen? Sixteen? So does this say his name?
Speaker 1: Oh it doesn't, so anonymous man. The first thing I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say to you, bro, is that your attraction to
Speaker 1: girls is because you're a boy, and it's natural like that.
Speaker 1: That's the way you were created. You were created to
Speaker 1: have attraction to a girl so that one day you
Speaker 1: could find one to marry and then make babies. Like
Speaker 1: that's the most elemental animal nature about you. So you're
Speaker 1: wanting God to take away something that that's like saying, God,
Speaker 1: take away my sense of hunger because all I want
Speaker 1: to do is eat, So take away my hunger. Well
Speaker 1: that's not I mean, what do you want to do?
Speaker 1: You go to a country struction site and say take
Speaker 1: away my hearing? Because this is too loud. No, you
Speaker 1: don't take away that desire. You're not going that's natural.
Speaker 1: You can lead to construction site. You need a healthy
Speaker 1: relationship with food and a healthy relationship with noise and
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship with your attraction. That's what I was
Speaker 1: getting at, Yes, exactly, So how does he do that? Well,
Speaker 1: you're sixteen, so I think you're right in and not
Speaker 1: be okay. First of all, you're right in the fact
Speaker 1: that you went from not hanging out to girls to now.
Speaker 1: Often that's what happens about between thirteen and sixteen. You're like,
Speaker 1: one day you don't care, and then one day you
Speaker 1: wake up and you're like, I care about all of them.
Speaker 1: So in this environment, in the sixteen seventeen, eighteen fifteen,
Speaker 1: in this world, my advice to you would be to
Speaker 1: hang out with girls often in groups. Try to avoid
Speaker 1: the single alone times with the girls, but maintain a healthy,
Speaker 1: healthy environment of there's three girls and four guys and
Speaker 1: we're going to the movies, or we're going to the
Speaker 1: lake to go fishing, and there's five girls and six
Speaker 1: guys and whatever. But there's always this group. And so
Speaker 1: you're seeing the girls interact with their friends and your
Speaker 1: friends and y'all's all the interactions. You're learning, like your
Speaker 1: brain is a computer and you're just taking in the
Speaker 1: nature of girls and how they react and the jokes
Speaker 1: that they laugh at, the jokes they don't laugh at.
Speaker 1: And you're seeing how they interact with each other, which
Speaker 1: is going to be different than how they interact with you.
Speaker 1: And you're just constantly learning, and this is a good
Speaker 1: place to be as a sixteen year old. What you
Speaker 1: don't want to do is single one of them out
Speaker 1: and then you end up getting away from your friends
Speaker 1: and you're just alone with her all the time. Now,
Speaker 1: that's really good, really good advice. The other thing to remember,
Speaker 1: Grangeer and I both were sixteen yaro boys at one time.
Speaker 1: And here's what we got to remember. Your brain is
Speaker 1: not fully developed yet and it won't be for a while.
Speaker 1: So it's okay, just like you know, hit the brakes
Speaker 1: a little bit. Everything's gonna be okay. Just calm it down.
Speaker 1: You're you're gonna make some good decisions. You're gonna make
Speaker 1: some bad decisions. Just be sixteen. Everything's gonna be okay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: You're just your neurons are just firing like crazy because
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, your mind and everything in you
Speaker 1: is telling you, I like girl, yeah, girl, good for me, yeah,
Speaker 1: And you're trying to figure this out and like, oh
Speaker 1: what I do, but it's like you're, okay, just take
Speaker 1: it easy, have some grace for yourself. You say that
Speaker 1: you have a relationship with God and you're praying those
Speaker 1: are great things. Push into those things, and hopefully your
Speaker 1: brain whenever it does actually you know, your frontal lobes connect,
Speaker 1: then maybe we'll have some hope. Yeah. The only slight
Speaker 1: little thing to say here is too when you're saying,
Speaker 1: I want God to make me feel like I don't
Speaker 1: need girls in my life. Once again, please recognize not
Speaker 1: a knock on you, brother, but recognize how silly that
Speaker 1: thought is. I want God to make me feel like
Speaker 1: I don't need a girl in my life. Well, God
Speaker 1: made Adam and Eve. You know, like God, God's gonna
Speaker 1: give you a woman and it's gonna and that woman's
Speaker 1: to you, and like this is just natural. Man. So
Speaker 1: you're just in this in between neurons, fire and time
Speaker 1: and uh. And maybe what he's trying to say is, God,
Speaker 1: give me a healthy relationship with my attraction. Give me
Speaker 1: what was what did he say? Again? Like, God, help me,
Speaker 1: God make me feel like I don't need girls in
Speaker 1: my life. Okay, yeah, so give me security in you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe that's the better question to the better prayers like
Speaker 1: I give me a good relationship with the opposite sex
Speaker 1: and make me secure, and who you've made me alone? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you're right you don't need girls in your life.
Speaker 1: So yeah, there you go, a good man. And I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: the last thing is totally good question, totally natural. Bernie
Speaker 1: and I have both been there. Nothing wrong with the question,
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with you. Everything is firing on all perfect cylinders. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this one a subject line in need of some guidance. Hey, granger,
Speaker 1: my name is John. When to ask for guidance from
Speaker 1: a friend with a friend of mine, We've grown up
Speaker 1: together and gone to church together for the past fifteen years.
Speaker 1: She is best friends with my girlfriend. My girlfriend and
Speaker 1: I have been dating for four months and she has
Speaker 1: expressed displeasure in the fact that we are dating and
Speaker 1: blames issues in our friendship because of it. She's also
Speaker 1: been making very questionable decisions in college. We're concerned about
Speaker 1: her well being and her faith. My girlfriend has tried
Speaker 1: to talk to her about this, and she immediately gets
Speaker 1: defensive and gets mad that she disagrees and is calling
Speaker 1: her out. At the moment, I'm angry with her, and
Speaker 1: I don't want to be destructive, so I avoid the conversation.
Speaker 1: I want to get your take on this as how
Speaker 1: as Christians we should approached the situation. Should we continue
Speaker 1: trying to pursue this relationship or distance ourselves from her
Speaker 1: because they're still because they are still within reason. Thanks
Speaker 1: for taking time to answer, Love the podcast. So John, Okay,
Speaker 1: there's some problems here, John, and it's a great question.
Speaker 1: And let me just kind of tap on this a
Speaker 1: little bit and then let Bernie dig. You've we've grown
Speaker 1: up together and gone to church together. Okay, so you've
Speaker 1: been with this You've known this girl for fifteen years,
Speaker 1: and you've been dating your girlfriend for four months. Do
Speaker 1: you think there's a little bit of jealousy going on
Speaker 1: between her and her friend of fifteen years and her
Speaker 1: best friend that's a girl are dating now and not
Speaker 1: spending so much time with hers as you used to.
Speaker 1: I think that's pretty obvious. This also means that they
Speaker 1: met when they were like five years old. Yeah, is
Speaker 1: that right around that? Yeah, they've pretty much three years
Speaker 1: ago college. Yeah, so I could understand this girl expressing
Speaker 1: displeasure in the fact that you're dating and blames issues
Speaker 1: in our friendships because of it. Is she right to
Speaker 1: think that? No? But is she justified in thinking it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: That makes total sense on paper just reading that. Now,
Speaker 1: here's the deal. She's been making questionable decisions in college,
Speaker 1: and we're concerned about her well being and her faith.
Speaker 1: The only thing you could do that. The worst thing
Speaker 1: you could do is call her out on specific things
Speaker 1: she's doing, because who are you to tell her that?
Speaker 1: Who am I? Who's Bernie? Who are any of us
Speaker 1: to say, Hey, you're making some questionable decisions and we're
Speaker 1: worried about your well being and her faith? And she's like, what,
Speaker 1: I've known you for fifteen years. The better idea is
Speaker 1: to pour into her, love her, model Christ to her,
Speaker 1: be there for her, answer her questions. Be a friend.
Speaker 1: You say that you're angry with her, we'll work on that.
Speaker 1: You say, I don't want to be destructive. Well, being
Speaker 1: angry with her, distancing yourself and judging her decisions is
Speaker 1: causing disruption. So pour into her and realize, realize that
Speaker 1: she's what she's seeing. She's seeing you a fifteen year
Speaker 1: old friend and her other best friend dating, and she's
Speaker 1: the third will left out see it for what it
Speaker 1: is without knowing all the details of in the dynamics
Speaker 1: of everything that you're talking about, I get a sense
Speaker 1: that one of the breakdowns here is communication. And hey, guys,
Speaker 1: this is something that the community group that I'm a
Speaker 1: part of is really going through and digging into kind
Speaker 1: of post pandemic thinking of all of the low lying
Speaker 1: trauma or the relationship hurt or damage or everything that
Speaker 1: was done, whether it was from outside sources or within
Speaker 1: you know, groups of friends. These are real things, guys,
Speaker 1: and we have to understand that it's probably gonna be
Speaker 1: a little messy to actually sit and talk with people
Speaker 1: and communicate the hurt that you have and coming to
Speaker 1: the table with humility and honesty and grace for the
Speaker 1: other person and curiosity to really listen to the pain
Speaker 1: that they have felt their perspective and receive it as
Speaker 1: like Okay, I hear you and that sucks, and I'm
Speaker 1: here for you, Like I actually am on your team
Speaker 1: in this situation. Does she know that you're on her team? Yes,
Speaker 1: overwhelmingly on her team, Like I'm We're here because we
Speaker 1: love you. And this isn't lip service, but this is
Speaker 1: something that is not just for this email. But I
Speaker 1: think for all of us to recognize this, there is
Speaker 1: has happened a lot in this world and is still
Speaker 1: happening to where we really need to be conscious of
Speaker 1: our community, who be open to what is going on
Speaker 1: around me, Where is the hurt? Where have relationships been fractured,
Speaker 1: and be willing as believers to push in to that.
Speaker 1: And Hey, I'm going to suffer a little bit with
Speaker 1: you for a while because I know on the other
Speaker 1: side is this is healthy relationship where we have open
Speaker 1: communication and I now know you better. You know how
Speaker 1: how to love me, and I know how to love
Speaker 1: you better because we went through this together. So I
Speaker 1: would just really encourage and I say that with the
Speaker 1: most humble heart and know that I'm going through similar things.
Speaker 1: Enter into the conversation. We're in this culture where we
Speaker 1: just want to hear soundbites and dismiss or a line,
Speaker 1: and it's not that way, guys, It's really not. We
Speaker 1: have to enter into the conversation with humility and curiosity,
Speaker 1: replace your judgment with grace and love. Yeah, that's good
Speaker 1: because why because that's what's done to you and you're
Speaker 1: no better and I'm no better. Let's grab one more
Speaker 1: at Burns. This one says, Hey Granger, my name is Hannah.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty two years old, huge fan of music. It's
Speaker 1: got me through some hard times. Thank you, Hannah. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna see you in concert for the first time in May,
Speaker 1: and I'm so excited. My father has been an alcoholic
Speaker 1: for a long time and has blamed myself and others
Speaker 1: around him for why he drinks so much. My family
Speaker 1: and I have tried so many things to try and
Speaker 1: help him, but it never seems to work. We're Christian,
Speaker 1: and I've been hoping and praying that God will heal
Speaker 1: him and help him overcome drinking. Do you have any advice?
Speaker 1: Thank you, Hannah. I'm sorry, Hannah, I'm so sorry. I
Speaker 1: love your heart in this I love your heart through
Speaker 1: this email. Here. The first thing we could say is,
Speaker 1: don't believe the blame game. It's not your fault that
Speaker 1: he's an alcoholic. It's not other's fault that he's an alcoholic.
Speaker 1: So although he might say it, don't take it to heart.
Speaker 1: I believe you already know that here's something that's just crazy.
Speaker 1: And this is so difficult to understand, but some people
Speaker 1: are just not going to heal. Do we stop praying
Speaker 1: for him? No? Do we stop trying? No? But we
Speaker 1: rest We rest on the piece. Ultimately, that's not it
Speaker 1: can't be fixed by us. It's bigger than that, it's
Speaker 1: deeper than that, and some people might never heal. I
Speaker 1: don't want to dismiss any hope for your father, because
Speaker 1: we hope that he does. But I don't want you
Speaker 1: to live an entire life and then watch him waste
Speaker 1: away in this world and always worry about what more
Speaker 1: can I do? What more could I say? What better
Speaker 1: prayer could I say? Because sometimes people can't be healed.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry your father's an alcoholic, and I think you're
Speaker 1: doing all the right things. Yeah, I think this really
Speaker 1: is just devastating and so hard to hear. I do
Speaker 1: think that you need to consider boundaries in you know,
Speaker 1: in relationships where we have toxic elements and unhealthy elements.
Speaker 1: There is a process of you know, communication and reconciliation
Speaker 1: and understanding and seeking those things out, just like we
Speaker 1: just said, but there comes a point where you need
Speaker 1: to recognize I need to have some boundaries in place
Speaker 1: that protect my heart above all else, guard your heart.
Speaker 1: And it really sucks that it's your dad that you
Speaker 1: have to do that with. But I do think sometimes
Speaker 1: you need to consider what how am I exposing my
Speaker 1: heart to this unhealthy treatment? And this is this goes
Speaker 1: not just for a father daughter, but this is within
Speaker 1: a family, within you know, a relationship, a marriage like that.
Speaker 1: How are we communicating with each other? And how are
Speaker 1: these boundaries you know, being set and when should they be?
Speaker 1: I don't think I have the answers. This is a really,
Speaker 1: really tough one. So a way to help what Bernie's
Speaker 1: saying is and this kind of relates to the last
Speaker 1: question is don't always when you're around him or communicating
Speaker 1: with him, don't always be on the judgment side, Like Dad,
Speaker 1: we got to get you to do you got to
Speaker 1: stop this week? Hey Dad, I talked to a new person.
Speaker 1: Here's a new facility that's taken in people, and here's
Speaker 1: the price of it. And Dad, I'm praying sometimes you
Speaker 1: got to back off and just be like I love you, Dad,
Speaker 1: Love you Dad? Do you know that? Dad? Have I
Speaker 1: told you lately? I love you for who you are,
Speaker 1: for who you are today right now? I love you Dad?
Speaker 1: Have you said that in a while? Handing you might
Speaker 1: have but sometimes that's also healing for your own heart,
Speaker 1: and it also helps with the boundaries that Bernie's talking about.
Speaker 1: It helps guard yourself by saying, Dad, I'm not responsible
Speaker 1: for you. I'm just responsible for the love that I
Speaker 1: have for you because you're my dad, And don't always
Speaker 1: try to fix. We are fixers as people. We want
Speaker 1: to fix, fix fix, got to think of something, got
Speaker 1: to read this book, got to listen to this podcast, dad, Dad,
Speaker 1: you got to go to this church, Dad, you got
Speaker 1: to talk with this counselor here's a new therapy. It's like, Dad,
Speaker 1: I just love you and that can change the world. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: You're absolutely right. I love hearing my wife talk about
Speaker 1: the Lord speaking to her. It's like one of my
Speaker 1: favorite things in the world. And last Sunday, you know,
Speaker 1: there was something that she said after the service. She's
Speaker 1: you know, with you know, another situation that we've not
Speaker 1: like this, but similar, where she just said, I just
Speaker 1: felt the Lord impressing on me to move forward in love.
Speaker 1: So I'm not I'm not hanging in the past. I'm
Speaker 1: not jumping ahead way to the future. I'm not standing
Speaker 1: still in this but I'm moving forward and I'm doing
Speaker 1: it with a focus of love. It's everything. Granger was
Speaker 1: just saying, just move forward in love and let it
Speaker 1: rest in his hands. That's that's really all you can do.
Speaker 1: All the therapy in the world, all the podcasts in
Speaker 1: the world, all the treatments, and everything you could do
Speaker 1: in the world, don't underestimate the power of love and
Speaker 1: how it can change and the ripple effect that it
Speaker 1: could have to change drastically people's lives. Don't underestimate the
Speaker 1: power of loving someone. That's it so good. Love him, dude.
Speaker 1: I could do this all day. Man, this is so fun.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for you know, cominging in
Speaker 1: and Granger keep asking me back. It really is a privilege.
Speaker 1: I don't take it lightly. Man, this is really really awesome.
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