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Speaker 1: then the riches, then my poverty, then all of this.

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Speaker 1: help me stress test this as you say. I've got

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Speaker 1: trying to I'm trying to understand how we put God

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Speaker 1: our last question with Jordan. These three things we fail at.

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Speaker 1: So trusting God, fearing, fearing God, waiting for God. And

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Speaker 1: three things? And to what extent is your life reflecting

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Speaker 1: these three things? Because trusting God means you got it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not worried about tomorrow. If we trusted him fully,

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Speaker 1: which we don't, none of us do. If we trusted

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Speaker 1: him fully, then we would never worry about anything. We

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Speaker 1: would only be present today and we would say, let

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Speaker 1: not mine. We would say that every time. So the

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Speaker 1: second is fearing God, because if we truly feared God,

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Speaker 1: way different in every decision we made in our entire life,

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Speaker 1: it would reflect on that would be God would disapprove

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Speaker 1: Because so many times we pray and then we see

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Speaker 1: Wait for the Lord. That could be years of waiting.

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Speaker 1: So those three things kind of answer all of our

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Speaker 1: Are you waiting? I can't stop doing this? Are you fearing?

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Speaker 1: I can't stop worrying? Are you trusting? And so here's

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Speaker 1: my point. Those three things are things that we could

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Speaker 1: work on in our prayer life by preaching it back

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Speaker 1: to ourselves repetitively saying this, saying God in your meek

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Speaker 1: preach it back to yourself to eliminate those voices, and

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Speaker 1: then you go, God, I fear you, a righteous fear.

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Speaker 1: small you are. Now, I'm talking about that kind of fear. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And the wrath of God. Some people are thinking fire

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Speaker 1: and brimstone. No, the wrath of God being what Jesus experienced,

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Speaker 1: which is complete separation, yes from God. That is you

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Speaker 1: know me, God, you know me, and I don't want

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Speaker 1: to ever live in a world where you don't right.

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Speaker 1: That kind of fear, yeah, the one that can fulfill

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Speaker 1: and restore and redeem and save that God, I don't

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Speaker 1: know you. That kind of fear is what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: And then the third is waiting God, I will wait

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Speaker 1: for you. And then all these voices go, well, you can't,

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Speaker 1: I can't wait. I need it now, I need it now.

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Speaker 1: I want to answer now. I want to fix this now.

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Speaker 1: pain now. I want my reward now. And you go, God,

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Speaker 1: I will wait for you. Because your answer will always

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Speaker 1: when I need it. You see the full picture, and

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Speaker 1: on you. So we preach those three things to ourselves

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Speaker 1: every night. Yeah, no, e three morning. No, man, that's

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Speaker 1: Griz in the past that has been very helpful for

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Speaker 1: me is go find yourself some wilderness. Throughout the Bible,

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Speaker 1: retreat to pray with his father, to pray to his father.

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Speaker 1: And you see these people throughout Bible, they would always

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Speaker 1: So maybe the space that you're in everything that Granger

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Speaker 1: for a walk, go go get lost in nature, leave

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Speaker 1: but say hey, I'm gonna be disconnected, and then just

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Speaker 1: said over and over and then like wrestle with them.

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Speaker 1: Wrestling with God is like he loves that he loves

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Speaker 1: to answer and hear from you and like show you

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Speaker 1: suggest doing that as well. Love it, man, love having

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Speaker 1: you on your Bernie. It's good to be here. Can

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Speaker 1: we take a quick second and acknowledge that you're now

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Speaker 1: a movie star? Good, you're a movie star? Man, Like,

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Speaker 1: could call and say, we're scrapping the movie. It's no

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Speaker 1: good really until it's out. I mean, like at any

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Speaker 1: Nobody is ever just in case you guys are wondering,

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Speaker 1: So still, I think they were either desperate or I

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Speaker 1: Part of this part really sucked. Yeah, you haven't been

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Speaker 1: on the podcast since then because I was trying them

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Speaker 1: all by myself during that time. So it's a movie

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Speaker 1: about a country singer that lost his wife two years

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Speaker 1: desperately trying to find meaning and redemption and the restoration

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Speaker 1: Like I really need to do this. Yeah, and it's

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Speaker 1: just a good story. So having never been on a

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Speaker 1: other movies? No, that's it. What was the one thing

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Speaker 1: I didn't expect this. Well. The memorization was really tripping

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Speaker 1: me up because it was the script was one hundred

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Speaker 1: So I would get my call sheet the night before

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Speaker 1: All the actors had to mark a number. So I

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Speaker 1: was number one, and so every time I see a one,

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Speaker 1: that means I'm in it, I would be like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: seen forty six, Seen eighty three, Seene twenty eight, Seeing

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Speaker 1: one oh five, we're doing all those today. So then

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Speaker 1: my lines and memorize them. And then sometimes we'd get

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Speaker 1: do that tomorrow. Today we're going to do eighty two,

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Speaker 1: and I'd be like eighty two. So I'd pull out

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Speaker 1: my script and I would start highlighting. And because you

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Speaker 1: have to memorize at a level that's more than just

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Speaker 1: believe it, yeah and embody it. And then you have

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Speaker 1: to be able to react to the other people. So

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00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: then I would have to kind of memorize their lines

640
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 1: at least somewhat, so I know what they're about to

641
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 1: say and when I'm going to start my next dialogue.

642
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 1: So that was It made me so nervous. Every day.

643
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 1: I would show up and be like, I don't mess

644
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 1: this up because it would take them so long to

645
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:53,280
Speaker 1: set up a scene, and then you're fighting the clock.

646
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 1: So you don't want to be the one that's holding

647
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 1: them up because you didn't memorize how many people are

648
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 1: like looking at you right now fifty five? Man, did

649
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 1: you ever have you know those? It's always fun to see,

650
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,399
Speaker 1: like the outtakes of the movie, did y'all have any

651
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 1: of those right things? Laughing? And there was a couple

652
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:13,240
Speaker 1: of times there was there was a couple of moments

653
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 1: where we were just like, it was really funny, and

654
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 1: hopefully we'll get those outakes. I feel like if me

655
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 1: and you ever did a movie, it would be mostly

656
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 1: outtakes and we would we would just be laughing at shus.

657
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 1: What that's right? That's right? Well, no one came to

658
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 1: listen to me, so let's listen to Let's hear their questions, right, okay,

659
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 1: all right? Subject line I hate being left on. I

660
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 1: don't really know what that means, but it says, hey, grander.

661
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:41,240
Speaker 1: My name is Isaac. I'm sixteen. I live in Kansas City, Kansas.

662
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 1: Recently my life has changed a lot, from no girls

663
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 1: to hanging out with girls often. I feel very immature

664
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 1: in the sense that my mind always wants to like

665
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 1: a girl. I've never been in a serious relationship, but

666
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm always going from one girl to

667
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 1: the next, and ended up fling and end up feeling empty.

668
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 1: I have a good relationship with God and pray a lot.

669
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 1: That's a lowercase G. But I want lowercase G God

670
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,720
Speaker 1: to make me feel like I don't need any girls

671
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 1: in my life. Any advice? Love the podcast How old

672
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:14,439
Speaker 1: was he? Sixteen? Sixteen? So does this say his name?

673
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:19,120
Speaker 1: Oh it doesn't, so anonymous man. The first thing I'm

674
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 1: gonna say to you, bro, is that your attraction to

675
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 1: girls is because you're a boy, and it's natural like that.

676
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 1: That's the way you were created. You were created to

677
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: have attraction to a girl so that one day you

678
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:38,359
Speaker 1: could find one to marry and then make babies. Like

679
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:45,439
Speaker 1: that's the most elemental animal nature about you. So you're

680
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 1: wanting God to take away something that that's like saying, God,

681
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: take away my sense of hunger because all I want

682
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 1: to do is eat, So take away my hunger. Well

683
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 1: that's not I mean, what do you want to do?

684
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: You go to a country struction site and say take

685
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 1: away my hearing? Because this is too loud. No, you

686
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: don't take away that desire. You're not going that's natural.

687
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 1: You can lead to construction site. You need a healthy

688
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: relationship with food and a healthy relationship with noise and

689
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship with your attraction. That's what I was

690
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:22,800
Speaker 1: getting at, Yes, exactly, So how does he do that? Well,

691
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: you're sixteen, so I think you're right in and not

692
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 1: be okay. First of all, you're right in the fact

693
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: that you went from not hanging out to girls to now.

694
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 1: Often that's what happens about between thirteen and sixteen. You're like,

695
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 1: one day you don't care, and then one day you

696
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,879
Speaker 1: wake up and you're like, I care about all of them.

697
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 1: So in this environment, in the sixteen seventeen, eighteen fifteen,

698
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: in this world, my advice to you would be to

699
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:56,280
Speaker 1: hang out with girls often in groups. Try to avoid

700
00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:01,320
Speaker 1: the single alone times with the girls, but maintain a healthy,

701
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 1: healthy environment of there's three girls and four guys and

702
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 1: we're going to the movies, or we're going to the

703
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 1: lake to go fishing, and there's five girls and six

704
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 1: guys and whatever. But there's always this group. And so

705
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: you're seeing the girls interact with their friends and your

706
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: friends and y'all's all the interactions. You're learning, like your

707
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: brain is a computer and you're just taking in the

708
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: nature of girls and how they react and the jokes

709
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 1: that they laugh at, the jokes they don't laugh at.

710
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 1: And you're seeing how they interact with each other, which

711
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 1: is going to be different than how they interact with you.

712
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 1: And you're just constantly learning, and this is a good

713
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: place to be as a sixteen year old. What you

714
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 1: don't want to do is single one of them out

715
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,439
Speaker 1: and then you end up getting away from your friends

716
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,319
Speaker 1: and you're just alone with her all the time. Now,

717
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 1: that's really good, really good advice. The other thing to remember,

718
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 1: Grangeer and I both were sixteen yaro boys at one time.

719
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: And here's what we got to remember. Your brain is

720
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:02,400
Speaker 1: not fully developed yet and it won't be for a while.

721
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:06,720
Speaker 1: So it's okay, just like you know, hit the brakes

722
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:10,320
Speaker 1: a little bit. Everything's gonna be okay. Just calm it down.

723
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 1: You're you're gonna make some good decisions. You're gonna make

724
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: some bad decisions. Just be sixteen. Everything's gonna be okay. Yeah,

725
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:22,479
Speaker 1: You're just your neurons are just firing like crazy because

726
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, your mind and everything in you

727
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 1: is telling you, I like girl, yeah, girl, good for me, yeah,

728
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 1: And you're trying to figure this out and like, oh

729
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: what I do, but it's like you're, okay, just take

730
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 1: it easy, have some grace for yourself. You say that

731
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 1: you have a relationship with God and you're praying those

732
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 1: are great things. Push into those things, and hopefully your

733
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: brain whenever it does actually you know, your frontal lobes connect,

734
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: then maybe we'll have some hope. Yeah. The only slight

735
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 1: little thing to say here is too when you're saying,

736
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 1: I want God to make me feel like I don't

737
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 1: need girls in my life. Once again, please recognize not

738
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:01,359
Speaker 1: a knock on you, brother, but recognize how silly that

739
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 1: thought is. I want God to make me feel like

740
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 1: I don't need a girl in my life. Well, God

741
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 1: made Adam and Eve. You know, like God, God's gonna

742
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:11,720
Speaker 1: give you a woman and it's gonna and that woman's

743
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: to you, and like this is just natural. Man. So

744
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 1: you're just in this in between neurons, fire and time

745
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 1: and uh. And maybe what he's trying to say is, God,

746
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 1: give me a healthy relationship with my attraction. Give me

747
00:43:34,920 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: what was what did he say? Again? Like, God, help me,

748
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 1: God make me feel like I don't need girls in

749
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: my life. Okay, yeah, so give me security in you. Yeah,

750
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: maybe that's the better question to the better prayers like

751
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 1: I give me a good relationship with the opposite sex

752
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 1: and make me secure, and who you've made me alone? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

753
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 1: and you're right you don't need girls in your life.

754
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 1: So yeah, there you go, a good man. And I think, yeah,

755
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: the last thing is totally good question, totally natural. Bernie

756
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 1: and I have both been there. Nothing wrong with the question,

757
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with you. Everything is firing on all perfect cylinders. Yeah,

758
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 1: this one a subject line in need of some guidance. Hey, granger,

759
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 1: my name is John. When to ask for guidance from

760
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 1: a friend with a friend of mine, We've grown up

761
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: together and gone to church together for the past fifteen years.

762
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,920
Speaker 1: She is best friends with my girlfriend. My girlfriend and

763
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 1: I have been dating for four months and she has

764
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 1: expressed displeasure in the fact that we are dating and

765
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: blames issues in our friendship because of it. She's also

766
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: been making very questionable decisions in college. We're concerned about

767
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 1: her well being and her faith. My girlfriend has tried

768
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 1: to talk to her about this, and she immediately gets

769
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 1: defensive and gets mad that she disagrees and is calling

770
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 1: her out. At the moment, I'm angry with her, and

771
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to be destructive, so I avoid the conversation.

772
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: I want to get your take on this as how

773
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: as Christians we should approached the situation. Should we continue

774
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 1: trying to pursue this relationship or distance ourselves from her

775
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:19,399
Speaker 1: because they're still because they are still within reason. Thanks

776
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 1: for taking time to answer, Love the podcast. So John, Okay,

777
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 1: there's some problems here, John, and it's a great question.

778
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 1: And let me just kind of tap on this a

779
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 1: little bit and then let Bernie dig. You've we've grown

780
00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: up together and gone to church together. Okay, so you've

781
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: been with this You've known this girl for fifteen years,

782
00:45:45,120 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 1: and you've been dating your girlfriend for four months. Do

783
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 1: you think there's a little bit of jealousy going on

784
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 1: between her and her friend of fifteen years and her

785
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 1: best friend that's a girl are dating now and not

786
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 1: spending so much time with hers as you used to.

787
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 1: I think that's pretty obvious. This also means that they

788
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 1: met when they were like five years old. Yeah, is

789
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 1: that right around that? Yeah, they've pretty much three years

790
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:23,040
Speaker 1: ago college. Yeah, so I could understand this girl expressing

791
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 1: displeasure in the fact that you're dating and blames issues

792
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: in our friendships because of it. Is she right to

793
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 1: think that? No? But is she justified in thinking it? Yeah?

794
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: That makes total sense on paper just reading that. Now,

795
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,800
Speaker 1: here's the deal. She's been making questionable decisions in college,

796
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 1: and we're concerned about her well being and her faith.

797
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: The only thing you could do that. The worst thing

798
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 1: you could do is call her out on specific things

799
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: she's doing, because who are you to tell her that?

800
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:56,359
Speaker 1: Who am I? Who's Bernie? Who are any of us

801
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: to say, Hey, you're making some questionable decisions and we're

802
00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 1: worried about your well being and her faith? And she's like, what,

803
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 1: I've known you for fifteen years. The better idea is

804
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:15,359
Speaker 1: to pour into her, love her, model Christ to her,

805
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: be there for her, answer her questions. Be a friend.

806
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 1: You say that you're angry with her, we'll work on that.

807
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:28,320
Speaker 1: You say, I don't want to be destructive. Well, being

808
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 1: angry with her, distancing yourself and judging her decisions is

809
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: causing disruption. So pour into her and realize, realize that

810
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: she's what she's seeing. She's seeing you a fifteen year

811
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:49,720
Speaker 1: old friend and her other best friend dating, and she's

812
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,880
Speaker 1: the third will left out see it for what it

813
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 1: is without knowing all the details of in the dynamics

814
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 1: of everything that you're talking about, I get a sense

815
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: that one of the breakdowns here is communication. And hey, guys,

816
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 1: this is something that the community group that I'm a

817
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: part of is really going through and digging into kind

818
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:25,400
Speaker 1: of post pandemic thinking of all of the low lying

819
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 1: trauma or the relationship hurt or damage or everything that

820
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 1: was done, whether it was from outside sources or within

821
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:37,080
Speaker 1: you know, groups of friends. These are real things, guys,

822
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: and we have to understand that it's probably gonna be

823
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 1: a little messy to actually sit and talk with people

824
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:50,879
Speaker 1: and communicate the hurt that you have and coming to

825
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 1: the table with humility and honesty and grace for the

826
00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 1: other person and curiosity to really listen to the pain

827
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: that they have felt their perspective and receive it as

828
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 1: like Okay, I hear you and that sucks, and I'm

829
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:07,160
Speaker 1: here for you, Like I actually am on your team

830
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 1: in this situation. Does she know that you're on her team? Yes,

831
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 1: overwhelmingly on her team, Like I'm We're here because we

832
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:17,400
Speaker 1: love you. And this isn't lip service, but this is

833
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 1: something that is not just for this email. But I

834
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:25,719
Speaker 1: think for all of us to recognize this, there is

835
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 1: has happened a lot in this world and is still

836
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 1: happening to where we really need to be conscious of

837
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 1: our community, who be open to what is going on

838
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 1: around me, Where is the hurt? Where have relationships been fractured,

839
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 1: and be willing as believers to push in to that.

840
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: And Hey, I'm going to suffer a little bit with

841
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:49,839
Speaker 1: you for a while because I know on the other

842
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:56,240
Speaker 1: side is this is healthy relationship where we have open

843
00:49:56,280 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 1: communication and I now know you better. You know how

844
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:01,799
Speaker 1: how to love me, and I know how to love

845
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 1: you better because we went through this together. So I

846
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: would just really encourage and I say that with the

847
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:10,840
Speaker 1: most humble heart and know that I'm going through similar things.

848
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 1: Enter into the conversation. We're in this culture where we

849
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: just want to hear soundbites and dismiss or a line,

850
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 1: and it's not that way, guys, It's really not. We

851
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 1: have to enter into the conversation with humility and curiosity,

852
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:33,719
Speaker 1: replace your judgment with grace and love. Yeah, that's good

853
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:39,879
Speaker 1: because why because that's what's done to you and you're

854
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 1: no better and I'm no better. Let's grab one more

855
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:47,840
Speaker 1: at Burns. This one says, Hey Granger, my name is Hannah.

856
00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 1: I'm twenty two years old, huge fan of music. It's

857
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 1: got me through some hard times. Thank you, Hannah. I'm

858
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 1: gonna see you in concert for the first time in May,

859
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 1: and I'm so excited. My father has been an alcoholic

860
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: for a long time and has blamed myself and others

861
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 1: around him for why he drinks so much. My family

862
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,080
Speaker 1: and I have tried so many things to try and

863
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,800
Speaker 1: help him, but it never seems to work. We're Christian,

864
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:12,479
Speaker 1: and I've been hoping and praying that God will heal

865
00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:16,240
Speaker 1: him and help him overcome drinking. Do you have any advice?

866
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:26,320
Speaker 1: Thank you, Hannah. I'm sorry, Hannah, I'm so sorry. I

867
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: love your heart in this I love your heart through

868
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 1: this email. Here. The first thing we could say is,

869
00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 1: don't believe the blame game. It's not your fault that

870
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: he's an alcoholic. It's not other's fault that he's an alcoholic.

871
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 1: So although he might say it, don't take it to heart.

872
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: I believe you already know that here's something that's just crazy.

873
00:51:55,440 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 1: And this is so difficult to understand, but some people

874
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 1: are just not going to heal. Do we stop praying

875
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:09,319
Speaker 1: for him? No? Do we stop trying? No? But we

876
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:14,719
Speaker 1: rest We rest on the piece. Ultimately, that's not it

877
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 1: can't be fixed by us. It's bigger than that, it's

878
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:25,360
Speaker 1: deeper than that, and some people might never heal. I

879
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:28,320
Speaker 1: don't want to dismiss any hope for your father, because

880
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 1: we hope that he does. But I don't want you

881
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:38,480
Speaker 1: to live an entire life and then watch him waste

882
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 1: away in this world and always worry about what more

883
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 1: can I do? What more could I say? What better

884
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:51,800
Speaker 1: prayer could I say? Because sometimes people can't be healed.

885
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:56,359
Speaker 1: I'm sorry your father's an alcoholic, and I think you're

886
00:52:56,360 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 1: doing all the right things. Yeah, I think this really

887
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:07,480
Speaker 1: is just devastating and so hard to hear. I do

888
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:12,680
Speaker 1: think that you need to consider boundaries in you know,

889
00:53:12,719 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 1: in relationships where we have toxic elements and unhealthy elements.

890
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 1: There is a process of you know, communication and reconciliation

891
00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:28,360
Speaker 1: and understanding and seeking those things out, just like we

892
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 1: just said, but there comes a point where you need

893
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: to recognize I need to have some boundaries in place

894
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:41,919
Speaker 1: that protect my heart above all else, guard your heart.

895
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:44,920
Speaker 1: And it really sucks that it's your dad that you

896
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 1: have to do that with. But I do think sometimes

897
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: you need to consider what how am I exposing my

898
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:59,400
Speaker 1: heart to this unhealthy treatment? And this is this goes

899
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:02,280
Speaker 1: not just for a father daughter, but this is within

900
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 1: a family, within you know, a relationship, a marriage like that.

901
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 1: How are we communicating with each other? And how are

902
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 1: these boundaries you know, being set and when should they be?

903
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:17,360
Speaker 1: I don't think I have the answers. This is a really,

904
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 1: really tough one. So a way to help what Bernie's

905
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 1: saying is and this kind of relates to the last

906
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 1: question is don't always when you're around him or communicating

907
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 1: with him, don't always be on the judgment side, Like Dad,

908
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 1: we got to get you to do you got to

909
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 1: stop this week? Hey Dad, I talked to a new person.

910
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 1: Here's a new facility that's taken in people, and here's

911
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 1: the price of it. And Dad, I'm praying sometimes you

912
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 1: got to back off and just be like I love you, Dad,

913
00:54:45,680 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 1: Love you Dad? Do you know that? Dad? Have I

914
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:50,920
Speaker 1: told you lately? I love you for who you are,

915
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:54,280
Speaker 1: for who you are today right now? I love you Dad?

916
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 1: Have you said that in a while? Handing you might

917
00:54:57,239 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 1: have but sometimes that's also healing for your own heart,

918
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 1: and it also helps with the boundaries that Bernie's talking about.

919
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 1: It helps guard yourself by saying, Dad, I'm not responsible

920
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,319
Speaker 1: for you. I'm just responsible for the love that I

921
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:15,280
Speaker 1: have for you because you're my dad, And don't always

922
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:17,560
Speaker 1: try to fix. We are fixers as people. We want

923
00:55:17,560 --> 00:55:19,359
Speaker 1: to fix, fix fix, got to think of something, got

924
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 1: to read this book, got to listen to this podcast, dad, Dad,

925
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:23,120
Speaker 1: you got to go to this church, Dad, you got

926
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 1: to talk with this counselor here's a new therapy. It's like, Dad,

927
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:31,840
Speaker 1: I just love you and that can change the world. Yeah, No,

928
00:55:31,960 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 1: You're absolutely right. I love hearing my wife talk about

929
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:39,680
Speaker 1: the Lord speaking to her. It's like one of my

930
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 1: favorite things in the world. And last Sunday, you know,

931
00:55:44,960 --> 00:55:47,400
Speaker 1: there was something that she said after the service. She's

932
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 1: you know, with you know, another situation that we've not

933
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:53,880
Speaker 1: like this, but similar, where she just said, I just

934
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:58,280
Speaker 1: felt the Lord impressing on me to move forward in love.

935
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:02,480
Speaker 1: So I'm not I'm not hanging in the past. I'm

936
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:06,160
Speaker 1: not jumping ahead way to the future. I'm not standing

937
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 1: still in this but I'm moving forward and I'm doing

938
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 1: it with a focus of love. It's everything. Granger was

939
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 1: just saying, just move forward in love and let it

940
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: rest in his hands. That's that's really all you can do.

941
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 1: All the therapy in the world, all the podcasts in

942
00:56:22,320 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 1: the world, all the treatments, and everything you could do

943
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 1: in the world, don't underestimate the power of love and

944
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:32,320
Speaker 1: how it can change and the ripple effect that it

945
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 1: could have to change drastically people's lives. Don't underestimate the

946
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:44,120
Speaker 1: power of loving someone. That's it so good. Love him, dude.

947
00:56:44,160 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 1: I could do this all day. Man, this is so fun.

948
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for you know, cominging in

949
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 1: and Granger keep asking me back. It really is a privilege.

950
00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:53,880
Speaker 1: I don't take it lightly. Man, this is really really awesome.

951
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:56,600
Speaker 1: Thank you and we love you guys. Thank y'all, ye ye,

952
00:56:56,960 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 1: thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate

953
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 1: all of you. Guys. You could help me out by

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Speaker 1: rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, subscribe

955
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Speaker 1: to this channel. Hit that little like button and the

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957
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 1: a video. If you have a question for me that

958
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: you would like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at

959
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,720
Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Yi