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Okay, 11 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, my husband and I are headed towards 12 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 1: divorce if he doesn't stop lying to me and playing 13 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: me for a fool. I worked the third shift as 14 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: a dispatcher, but I make sure our children are ready 15 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: for bed before I leave. I think I'm a great 16 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: mom and even better wife, so I get offended when 17 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: my husband acts like I'm falling short on my wifely duties. 18 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: The past two weeks, he has been making little comments 19 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: about sleeping alone every night. And I have been the 20 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: breadwinner since we got married thirteen years ago and moved 21 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 1: to the third shift for a promotion and more money. 22 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: I did not expect him to complain so much about 23 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:15,200 Speaker 1: me being gone at night, especially because we do have 24 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: sex before I go to work and after I come 25 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: home from work. He's never been denied sex, not one 26 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: time in thirteen years, so when I heard him on 27 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: the phone with a female, I was shocked. My days 28 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: off are Sunday and Monday, and he expects me to 29 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,399 Speaker 1: sleep late. I got up early Sunday to make a 30 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,839 Speaker 1: big breakfast for my children and my husband wasn't in bed. 31 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: I heard him in the kitchen, so I tiptoe to 32 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 1: see if he was sneaking a piece of pound cake 33 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: I had made. He was standing by the pound cake, 34 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: but he was on the phone and rubbing himself. I 35 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:53,200 Speaker 1: stood there for a good while and listened to him whispering, 36 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: but I could not make out what he was saying. 37 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 1: He was aroused, so I knew it was not a 38 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: man on the phone with him. I went back to 39 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: bed and texted him to see where he was. He 40 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: came into the bedroom looking foolish and out of breath. 41 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: He said he was thirsty and went to get water. 42 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: I told him he was very thirsty, and it's going 43 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: to cost him his marriage? How can he cheat when 44 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: the sex has never been an issue? Here? Um, you 45 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: know what what is that supposed to me? I just say, 46 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear what you uh huh, and 47 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear what yourance it's gonna be, sir? 48 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:42,839 Speaker 1: What is that supposed to mean? Though? Okay, don't get 49 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 1: don't throw stuff out there. All right, here we go. 50 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:52,640 Speaker 1: I knew that was coming, all right. Listen, you want 51 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: a reason why he's doing what he's doing. Sometimes you 52 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: don't need a reason. You know he's just doing it. 53 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 1: In your husband's case, he has time to do stuff 54 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: like this. I am curious though, because you said you 55 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 1: are the breadwinner in the family. Now does that mean 56 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: you make more money than him? Or do you make 57 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: all the money? Because if you're the sole moneymaker, what 58 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: is he doing? And I think you're right. You sound 59 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: like a great mom and an awesome wife. Men always 60 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: want more sex and he gets that every day before 61 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: and after you go to work, so he has nothing 62 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: to complain about. There to come on twice a day 63 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 1: after twenty three years of marriage, that's a whole lot. 64 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: People don't usually do that after twenty three years of marriage. 65 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: Excuse me, that's one of the worst things he can 66 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: do is cheat on you. After you make the money, 67 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: do the wifely duties, take care of the kids while 68 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: he sits at home. You didn't say he went to 69 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 1: work while he sits at home and does nothing but complain. 70 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: You should be the one getting on him about not 71 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: working and living off I said twenty three years of marriage. 72 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: Thirteen years is a marriage living off just your salary 73 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: for the last thirteen years. I think he's trifling, and 74 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 1: I think you're right. You guys could be heading for 75 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: divorce if he doesn't stop. I mean, he wants to 76 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: work all day, take care of this lazy man, and 77 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: then he's starting to cheat. No, ma'am, you have every 78 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 1: right to feel the way you feel. Steve, very good answer, 79 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 1: my answer, Very good answer, as I knew it would 80 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:29,840 Speaker 1: be right. Thank you. I really don't have a solution 81 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 1: for this right here, because it seems rather obvious. But 82 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: let me point out a couple of things in this 83 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: letter that I found interesting. I can see and I 84 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: can hear sect she thinks that her and her husband 85 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: is heading for divorce if he don't stop lying and 86 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: playing me for a food so now I don't understand 87 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:02,679 Speaker 1: that statement. If you're not going to address the issue. 88 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,280 Speaker 1: You want him to stop lying and playing you for food. 89 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: So let's find out you're working the third ship. You 90 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,480 Speaker 1: want him to you know, as a dispatcher, but you 91 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: make sure the kids is ready forbid. Think you're a 92 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: great mom, and you think your better wife. So you 93 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: offended when your husband acts like you're falling short on 94 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: your wifely duties. And the past two weeks he's been 95 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: making little comments about sleeping alone every night. I've been 96 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 1: the breadwinner since we got married thirteen years ago and 97 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: moved to the third shif promotion and more money, and 98 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: I expect him to complain so much about me being 99 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:51,359 Speaker 1: gone that night, especially because we do have sex before 100 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: I go to work or after I come home from work. 101 00:05:54,720 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: He's never been denied sex, not one time in thirteen years. Man, 102 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: let's stops doing better than a lot of people upon 103 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 1: the boy boy. This line right here just jumps out 104 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: to page at me. Yes, he's never been denied six 105 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: not one time in thirteen years. I'm being done. What 106 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:27,839 Speaker 1: why do I do that? I've been six thirteen times 107 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:36,039 Speaker 1: in a year, thirteen times last week oh, hang on 108 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: six thirteen times in a month. Keep it right there. 109 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming 110 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: up to the Strawberry letter. Today's subject is I can 111 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: see and I can hear. All right, we'll get back 112 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening to the Steve 113 00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:58,719 Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's 114 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters subject I can see and I can hear? 115 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,159 Speaker 1: You know. In first, like I said, I don't have 116 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: an I don't really have an idea of what to tell. 117 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: It's wasn't about this letter. I just found some stuff 118 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: in the letter interested. She's been married for thirteen years 119 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: to a man. She's the primary breadwinner in the house. 120 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: She works the third shift, which is midnight and or 121 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 1: levin to make sure the kids is in bed before 122 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: I leave. She thinks she's a great mom and probably 123 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: even better wife. I don't disagree with her in anything 124 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: I saw on that let him. And then she's offended 125 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 1: because her husband act like she's falling short in her 126 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 1: wifely duties because for the past a couple of weeks 127 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 1: he'd been making comments about having to sleep alone at night. Now, 128 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: she says she's been the primary breadwinner since they got 129 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: married thirteen years ago, and she went to the third 130 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: shift so she could get a promotion and more money 131 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: and then but she didn't expect him to complain so 132 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:55,119 Speaker 1: much about her being gone at night. Especially now. Listen 133 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: to me now, because we do have sex before I 134 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: go to work, after I come home from work. He 135 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: has never been denied sex, not one time in thirteen years. 136 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: Just don't know where this line came from. Envy times, 137 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:34,679 Speaker 1: So what never X in fifteen years? Man, I didn't 138 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: feel out time cards, out of put in verbal requests, 139 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:52,200 Speaker 1: written requests. I bought houses for its women, pools called rings, 140 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: diamond jewelry dogs. I don't even like dogs dogs. And 141 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 1: he has never been denied sex nine one time. So 142 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,720 Speaker 1: when I heard him on the phone with a female, 143 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:10,319 Speaker 1: I was shocked. My day's off his Sunday and Monday, 144 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 1: and he expects me to sleep late. I got up 145 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: early Sunday morning to make a big breakfast. The pay attention. 146 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: When I'm reading now for my children and my husband 147 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 1: wasn't in bed. I heard him in the kitchen, so 148 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: I tippy told to see if he was in there 149 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: sneaking a piece of pound cake I had made. He 150 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:33,679 Speaker 1: was standing over that pound in the cake, but he 151 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 1: was on the phone. Excuse me, that's not what they says. 152 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 1: I heard him in the kitchen up sneaking a piece 153 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:49,719 Speaker 1: of pound cake I made, and he was standing over there. 154 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 1: And I accidentally said he was standing over that pound 155 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 1: in the cake. He was actually standing by the pound 156 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: cake that the church say. Man, yeah he over there, 157 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:11,080 Speaker 1: Oh just yeah, I accidentally said pounding, but he was 158 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: over that time. She thought he was sneaking a piece 159 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 1: of pounds, right, but he was on the phone, rubbing himself. Old. 160 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 1: Then I was correct, See my bad. I take back 161 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 1: my apology. I was a sorry, sorry, Yeah, you see 162 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:35,080 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yea. So now I stood there for 163 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: a good while and I listened to him whispering, but 164 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:40,760 Speaker 1: I couldn't make out what he was saying. That that 165 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 1: right there, that is his ticket out of this whole thing. 166 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: She said. I stood there for a while listening to 167 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: him whisper, but I could not make out what he 168 00:10:54,640 --> 00:11:00,040 Speaker 1: was saying. Then she said he was aroused, so I 169 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: knew it was not a man on the phone with him. 170 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: I went back to bed and text him see where 171 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 1: it was. He came into the bedroom looking foolish and 172 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:10,719 Speaker 1: out of breath. He said he was thirsty and went 173 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 1: to get water. I told him he is very thirsty 174 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 1: and it's gonna cost him his marriage. How can he 175 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: cheat when sex has never been an issue him? Wait 176 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 1: a minute later, if you don't address what you saw right, 177 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:31,280 Speaker 1: the question is how can he cheat when sex has 178 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: never been an issue? Here, that's a stupid ass question. See, 179 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: you don't understand we're not allowed to cheat even if 180 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 1: sex is an issue, because you ain't denied him in 181 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: thirteen years. Yeah, I've already been denied thirteen times this year. 182 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 1: We know. Stop saying that, and I want all y'all 183 00:11:56,280 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 1: to realize how happen Tash has been denied. I can't 184 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: count the times this year I've been denied This year, 185 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:13,680 Speaker 1: Junior been married two weeks, he's been denied a month, 186 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 1: thirty days, and he's been denied already. So I don't 187 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:23,200 Speaker 1: really understand how your problem is. How can he cheat 188 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: when sex has never been an issue? We're not allowed 189 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:31,280 Speaker 1: to cheat as sex is an issue. So that's the 190 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:35,439 Speaker 1: problem you've had him. What should she do? She needs 191 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: to get down to the bottom of us. But the 192 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: only thing, like I say, the out he got is 193 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:42,160 Speaker 1: she could not make out what he was saying. Now, 194 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: if I come back in there and it looks like 195 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:46,959 Speaker 1: I'm slightly aroused, I'm just gonna tell you it happens 196 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 1: every morning to me. Oh that's gonna be the lie. Okay, 197 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: that happened right every morning to me, So that ain't 198 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:59,599 Speaker 1: waking up all right. 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