Speaker 1: I'm so glad that therapy when I was introduced to
Speaker 1: it happened when it happened, because it has really helped
Speaker 1: me survive everything that I've gone through, going through therapy
Speaker 1: with my divorce, realizing or I was wrong, being able
Speaker 1: to say, well, wait a second, perhaps you did become
Speaker 1: a little controlling. Now that I'm going to start couples therapy,
Speaker 1: I am looking forward to becoming a better partner and
Speaker 1: eventually a better wife. You guys know what time it is.
Speaker 1: It's time for your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill. I'm
Speaker 1: your host Cheeky's and I'm so happy to be recording
Speaker 1: a new episode for you guys today. I'm constantly talking
Speaker 1: about how much of an advocate I am for therapy,
Speaker 1: and therapy has helped me so much over the years.
Speaker 1: So I thought i'd record an episode on some of
Speaker 1: the biggest lessons I've learned about you. But I'm ready
Speaker 1: to jump into today's episode, so let's do it. This
Speaker 1: is Cheeky's and Chill. Alrighty guys, So I'm gonna make
Speaker 1: this short and sweet and to the point, but bottom line,
Speaker 1: I love therapy and I think we all need it.
Speaker 1: It's not a sign of weakness. It's not that there
Speaker 1: is something wrong with you, that you're crazy, none of that.
Speaker 1: Because I don't know about you, guys, but growing up,
Speaker 1: I heard it was more of like a negative thing.
Speaker 1: If you have to go to therapy, it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: something's wrong with you, and depression doesn't exist, and blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. Thank goodness, now people speak about depression and
Speaker 1: anxiety a little bit more openly, especially after the pandemic,
Speaker 1: and talk about therapy, and I hear it a lot
Speaker 1: more now, which I'm so grateful for because I've been
Speaker 1: in therapy since I was twelve years old, when you know,
Speaker 1: we found out, or my mom found out that I
Speaker 1: was sexually abused by my dad. My mom didn't know
Speaker 1: much about therapy, she had never gone to therapy herself,
Speaker 1: and the police department and the doctor basically mandated it,
Speaker 1: like you have to take her to therapy, and once
Speaker 1: she does her individual therapy, you guys have to do
Speaker 1: family therapy. So that's when my journey started with therapy.
Speaker 1: And I'm so glad that it happened. When it happened
Speaker 1: therapy when I was introduced to it, because it is
Speaker 1: really I think helped me survive everything that I've gone
Speaker 1: through and that I've had to face and endure in
Speaker 1: my lifetime. And I remember being twelve and talking to
Speaker 1: this strange person, this woman that she was so nice,
Speaker 1: but I was like, how am I going to tell
Speaker 1: her everything? But it was so nice to not feel shy.
Speaker 1: She made me feel so comfortable and I was able
Speaker 1: to just express to her without worrying about her getting
Speaker 1: upset or feeling shy, just telling her everything that had happened.
Speaker 1: Things I still at that moment, and I think my
Speaker 1: entire life really was able to talk to my mom
Speaker 1: about it. I was able to talk to my mom
Speaker 1: you guys, about what had happened, the details of the
Speaker 1: sexual abuse to anyone really. So it was nice to
Speaker 1: speak to someone that wasn't in my household, that wasn't
Speaker 1: my thea, that wasn't my sister, that wasn't my mom,
Speaker 1: that it was just like someone that wanted to know
Speaker 1: how I was doing. And I liked it. I would
Speaker 1: leave there and I'm like, oh, I could breathe. I
Speaker 1: just felt lighter, and it really helped me get through it,
Speaker 1: especially after my dad, you know, went on the run
Speaker 1: for ten years, I continued it and it was covered
Speaker 1: at that time by our insurance, so that was great.
Speaker 1: So I was able to do it for a few months.
Speaker 1: And then we did family therapy, which was kind of
Speaker 1: cool because my mom was still trying to figure out
Speaker 1: how to deal with this whole situation, and you know,
Speaker 1: and I think she did a great job. You know,
Speaker 1: she never questioned me. She was very supportive of like
Speaker 1: whatever it is that I was feeling, but she never
Speaker 1: allowed me to victimize myself, you know, to feel sorry
Speaker 1: for myself. It was kind of like, Okay, this happened,
Speaker 1: let's move forward. And I'm so grateful she was like that,
Speaker 1: without her even knowing, she would give me therapy. So anyways,
Speaker 1: the point is that's when I started, and I've learned
Speaker 1: a lot about myself, about life, about other people through therapy.
Speaker 1: And I think the difference between therapy, I feel, and
Speaker 1: counseling or life coaching is that in therapy, you're just
Speaker 1: able to express yourself and just let it out and
Speaker 1: talk freely to someone that is not going to judge
Speaker 1: you and just unload. And then life coaching is more
Speaker 1: like here are the tools, you know. So I've done
Speaker 1: both and they've both been great. And I started off
Speaker 1: with therapy and then as I got older, I did
Speaker 1: life coaching. But it's helped me out through you know,
Speaker 1: that situation, the sexual abuse. It helped me through I
Speaker 1: experienced bullying at a young age because we didn't have
Speaker 1: you know, I didn't have the right shoes. I didn't
Speaker 1: have the cool clothes. You know, we didn't my mom
Speaker 1: wasn't driving the best car then, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: So little things like that, and also because of my
Speaker 1: body weight, So that helped me, especially through like my
Speaker 1: divorce and mainly through losing my mom. And I think
Speaker 1: that was one of the most important sessions. I'll never
Speaker 1: forget that session when my therapist told me, and I've
Speaker 1: shared this with you guys plenty of times here on
Speaker 1: the podcast, but you know, when my therapist said, two
Speaker 1: weeks before my mom passed, you know, you need to
Speaker 1: start living your life as if your mom were no longer.
Speaker 1: Here guys, at that moment, I was like, what are
Speaker 1: you saying. He was a very very strong therapist, this man,
Speaker 1: and I'm so grateful for him, and I don't know
Speaker 1: where he is or what happened. I lost touch, but
Speaker 1: I hope he's well, because little does he know he
Speaker 1: helped me so much. He's the one that taught me
Speaker 1: it is okay to love people from Afar if they
Speaker 1: are not good for your heart and your mental health.
Speaker 1: Doesn't matter who they are, it's okay for you to
Speaker 1: excuse yourself from their life and remove them from yours.
Speaker 1: And I for a long time, I was like, what,
Speaker 1: I live in a culture where it's like family. You know,
Speaker 1: blood is thicker than water, and it's like, no matter what,
Speaker 1: that's your family member, that's your mom, your dad, Like
Speaker 1: you need to put up with them even if there
Speaker 1: is emotional, verbal, even physical abuse. Sometimes that's how I think.
Speaker 1: And I don't know about you guys, other Latin people
Speaker 1: here listening, if you guys experienced that, but I definitely did.
Speaker 1: And he really helped me understand that. I'll never forget
Speaker 1: when he told me that. And I was at first
Speaker 1: in shock and I was resistant, and I was like,
Speaker 1: what is he talking about? And I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I thought, Okay, well, he's Caucasian, you know, maybe he
Speaker 1: just doesn't understand my culture, you know, but it really
Speaker 1: helped me. I left there and I cried, and I
Speaker 1: was like, how am I gonna like go on with
Speaker 1: my life, and like, oh, my mom's not here when
Speaker 1: I know she's literally fifteen minutes away from my house.
Speaker 1: But it helped me because I started little by little
Speaker 1: practicing it, and then my mom passed and I continued
Speaker 1: with therapy and I had to actually when she passed,
Speaker 1: it had to stop a little bit because I had
Speaker 1: to go like tend to my siblings and make sure
Speaker 1: they were okay, and I got them into therapy. I
Speaker 1: was like, you guys got to get into therapy. I've
Speaker 1: I've all of us, all of my siblings were all
Speaker 1: we've all done therapy. To me, it's something that has
Speaker 1: been super important. I'm like, no, this is huge. If
Speaker 1: there's anything we're gonna invest in, it's going to be therapy.
Speaker 1: You know. So they were going to therapy. And then
Speaker 1: after I've continued, I go on and off. It's not
Speaker 1: just going through therapy or going to therapy when and
Speaker 1: everything is falling apart in your life. Yes you definitely,
Speaker 1: yes we need it, but also when things are great,
Speaker 1: it's just it's it's like a car, you know, you
Speaker 1: got to keep maintaining it. The maintenance is important. Which
Speaker 1: is why I just had a session yesterday and it
Speaker 1: was great, and I was like, I hadn't had a
Speaker 1: session in like three weeks, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I felt so much better, you guys. So I just
Speaker 1: want to share my experience with you guys and let
Speaker 1: you guys know how passionate I am about this topic
Speaker 1: and what I have learned and how much it's helped me.
Speaker 1: So hopefully you guys can also go to therapy and
Speaker 1: not think of it in a negative way, you know,
Speaker 1: because like I said earlier, some of us were taught
Speaker 1: or heard that it was a bad thing. But it's not, okay.
Speaker 1: Another very important breakthrough that I had in therapy was
Speaker 1: when the whole thing with my dad happened, and I
Speaker 1: felt when I was twelve, I remember, I was like
Speaker 1: almost thirteen, had been in therapy for almost like a
Speaker 1: whole year. So anyways, I remember the therapist telling me
Speaker 1: this is not your fault. I need you to know
Speaker 1: that this is not your fault, that you didn't do
Speaker 1: anything wrong, because for a long time I felt like, well,
Speaker 1: what if it was me? What if I hugged him
Speaker 1: too much? What if I called this upon myself? For
Speaker 1: you know, I thought so many different things. And that's
Speaker 1: one thing that when I heard that for those of
Speaker 1: you who have dealt with sexual abuse or have a
Speaker 1: family member or a friend like, it is so important
Speaker 1: to let them know it's not your fault and it
Speaker 1: doesn't make you less valuable because for a long time,
Speaker 1: you guys, I felt dirty, I felt less than I
Speaker 1: felt like no one's gonna want me. I'm used up.
Speaker 1: I had all these thoughts at such a young age,
Speaker 1: even after you know what I mean, Like it took
Speaker 1: I'm telling you years a therapeat it to hear this
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, get that out of your mind.
Speaker 1: You're not used up. You're still going to find someone
Speaker 1: that's going to love you and value you for who
Speaker 1: you are and it's not your fault. And another thing
Speaker 1: was I was always told you're a liar. You're a liar,
Speaker 1: like because I think my dad wanted to make my
Speaker 1: mom believe that. And I did feel like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: to appoint you guys, where I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: is this all allied? Did I make this up in
Speaker 1: my mind? Did this really happen? Like I was questioning
Speaker 1: and doubting myself. It was the craziest thing. So that's
Speaker 1: one thing that going to therapy like got me out
Speaker 1: of my head and saying these things out loud and
Speaker 1: having someone else tell you, hey, wait stop, that is
Speaker 1: not true and helping you understand what is really happening.
Speaker 1: So that was a huge thing. Another thing was my divorce.
Speaker 1: That was another breakthrough, you guys, going through therapy with
Speaker 1: that and uh, realizing that or I was wrong as
Speaker 1: well because I was so fixated on this didn't work
Speaker 1: because you hurt me because the things that he had
Speaker 1: done were so loud, right, and so in your face
Speaker 1: where it's like, Okay, the divorce happened because of you,
Speaker 1: and it didn't work because of you, but really being
Speaker 1: able to say, well, wait a second, do you not
Speaker 1: see that perhaps you did become a little controlling because
Speaker 1: of what was happening, but still, let's take away what
Speaker 1: he did. You had the power to stop yourself from
Speaker 1: being that way. And that was another moment where I
Speaker 1: was like, oh shoot, because I wanted to kind of
Speaker 1: blame him for everything, and looking within yourself and saying,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not going to focus so much
Speaker 1: on what that other person did or didn't do or whatnot.
Speaker 1: It's what can I change to move forward because I
Speaker 1: never want this to happen again. I want a healthier relationship.
Speaker 1: I want to be better dude. And this just was
Speaker 1: like a few years ago, after being in therapy for years,
Speaker 1: I had to go through therapy for the sexual abuse,
Speaker 1: for my mom, for just like getting into the music industry,
Speaker 1: going through a divorce. Now with even my current relationship,
Speaker 1: it's like it's fine tuning and still learning. It's like
Speaker 1: we're evolving creatures, We're changing constantly. Things are changing around us.
Speaker 1: That's why for me it's important to continue for the
Speaker 1: rest of my life with therapy, especially being in the industry,
Speaker 1: so that I don't get caught up in things that
Speaker 1: aren't necessarily important. I can always focus on my mental health,
Speaker 1: my spiritual health, my emotional health. And that helped me
Speaker 1: so much to say, hey, wait a second, you're not perfect,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, you also did things
Speaker 1: that caused tension in the relationship. And when I saw
Speaker 1: it that way and my therapist told me, I was like, oh, shoot, okay,
Speaker 1: here's the mirror, look at it, look at yourself, and
Speaker 1: also forgive yourself. It's okay and forgive the person and
Speaker 1: not hold resentment and not only blame them, because when
Speaker 1: we do that, it's like you you you, Like they
Speaker 1: say you're pointing one finger, and there's three fingers pointing
Speaker 1: back at you. And for a long time, I was
Speaker 1: so upset and so angry for this and that, and
Speaker 1: it's like for a whole year, and it was so
Speaker 1: I was so unhappy and I was carrying so much
Speaker 1: that I was like, you know, what if that, you know,
Speaker 1: that's stuff that they have to deal with. Let me
Speaker 1: deal with what I have to deal with within myself
Speaker 1: and what can I change and how can I be
Speaker 1: a better human being? How can I be just better overall?
Speaker 1: So that helped me out. That was another breakthrough, you guys.
Speaker 1: And it was a harsh reality. I'm not gonna lie
Speaker 1: because I was say, wait, what, I'm not perfect? Oh
Speaker 1: my goodness. And then I started dating a medio and
Speaker 1: then I realized that I'm really I really have some
Speaker 1: things I got to heal. But it's been great and
Speaker 1: I'm learning and I'm growing and I can honestly say
Speaker 1: I'm very proud of where I'm at and how I
Speaker 1: feel about myself. And even after losing weight, you'd think, oh,
Speaker 1: my goodness, cheeky's like you've lost so much weight, like
Speaker 1: you are so confident. Yes I am, but there are
Speaker 1: little things. We all have little insecurities. And I owe
Speaker 1: it all to therapy, you guys, to talking to someone
Speaker 1: that has an unbiased opinion and advice that's only to
Speaker 1: be like, hey, I want the best for you, and
Speaker 1: that feels so good. Another thing that therapy has helped
Speaker 1: me with and I kind of mentioned it right now,
Speaker 1: but really stepping out of myself and out of an egoistic,
Speaker 1: egocentric mindset and being able to put myself into another
Speaker 1: person's shoes. That's another thing, and that isn't always the
Speaker 1: easiest thing to do, but it really has helped me
Speaker 1: be more compassionate with myself first and foremost, but also
Speaker 1: with other people and saying, well, wait a second, let
Speaker 1: me take a deep breath and say, okay, I'm feeling
Speaker 1: this way, but let me put my feelings to the
Speaker 1: side for a little bit and put myself in the
Speaker 1: other person's shoes. And it just helps you really see
Speaker 1: things in a different way. And I'm so grateful and
Speaker 1: I owe it honestly to my therapist, and I've had
Speaker 1: different therapists, you guys, throughout the years. I like to
Speaker 1: switch to them like for a while, Like right now,
Speaker 1: I've had this last therapist for the past I don't know,
Speaker 1: like year and a half, and she's been great. She's
Speaker 1: so awesome, And now she's going to become my couple's therapist.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm going to do therapy with the medium,
Speaker 1: and I'm really excited because that's like a whole other
Speaker 1: phase of therapy. But it's great if you can stick
Speaker 1: with the same one forever. But I just, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I like to also see what else I can learn
Speaker 1: from someone different, So it's all up to you. But
Speaker 1: it definitely has helped me become, I guess, in a way,
Speaker 1: a kinder person, a more compassionate person, and being able
Speaker 1: to understand that other people are going through things as well.
Speaker 1: You know, I can't take it personally when someone on
Speaker 1: social media is saying you're this, you're that, you're fat,
Speaker 1: you can't this, you can't whatever negative thing they're throwing
Speaker 1: at me. I've learned to say, you know what, instead
Speaker 1: of getting upset, I'm just gonna be compassionate, say you
Speaker 1: know what, this person is probably not happy, because if
Speaker 1: this person were happy, they wouldn't be saying this. A
Speaker 1: content person, a healthy person, doesn't have the need to
Speaker 1: go out and try to make another person feel bad.
Speaker 1: So that's another thing. It's helped me with that as well,
Speaker 1: with the cyber bullying and people being rude, because that
Speaker 1: can take you into like a dark, dark, dark hole,
Speaker 1: and it's helped me with that as well. Also with
Speaker 1: my siblings. You know, I was kind of like their
Speaker 1: mother figure for so long, and I had to learn
Speaker 1: to step away and be more of a sister figure
Speaker 1: and let them make mistakes and learn and come to
Speaker 1: me when they're ready and not be so invasive and
Speaker 1: overbearing because I was. And it's like, I don't want
Speaker 1: you to fall, like let me help you, let me
Speaker 1: hold you by your hand, and it's like, that's not
Speaker 1: the way life works. It's go ahead, I'm gonna let
Speaker 1: go of your hand. You go your own way and
Speaker 1: figure things out. And that was a hard pill for
Speaker 1: me to swallow. And the fact that all my siblings,
Speaker 1: all of them are either in therapy or have been
Speaker 1: in therapy, I think it's really helped us heal the
Speaker 1: loss of our mother and understand that all of us
Speaker 1: feel different about it and are going to mourn her
Speaker 1: differently and at different times. And I think that that
Speaker 1: has been a game changer, because you know, sometimes like Jenica,
Speaker 1: for instance, my sister Jenica, she she's not one to
Speaker 1: cry and to express how much she misses my mom.
Speaker 1: If she says it, it's like, oh shoot, but she
Speaker 1: does it on her alone time, you know, and for
Speaker 1: a while, it's kind of like, well, you don't miss her,
Speaker 1: you don't cry, like you don't have feelings, and it's
Speaker 1: like that's not a right way to look at it.
Speaker 1: So it's like going to therapy has helped us understand
Speaker 1: each other and the process of losing our mom and
Speaker 1: how we all handle it differently. And that's why I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful because all of us again are on the
Speaker 1: same page. And I can honestly tell you guys that
Speaker 1: I am so glad that I was going and I
Speaker 1: was in therapy before I met Emilio, and we both
Speaker 1: are in therapy now. He's been in therapy consistently since
Speaker 1: we've been together, like weekly. If he misses a session,
Speaker 1: it's like not more than a month, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like he's very, very consistent, and I appreciate
Speaker 1: that because that shows me he's doing his work, his
Speaker 1: internal work. Because a relationship, and I've learned this throughout
Speaker 1: the years and through therapy, is a relationship is basically
Speaker 1: two individuals coming together with their own thoughts, their own opinion,
Speaker 1: is their own feelings to help each other not necessarily
Speaker 1: become better. It's like, no, you have to work on
Speaker 1: yourself as an individual and then come back and want
Speaker 1: to be a better person for yourself first and foremost,
Speaker 1: and then for your partner. And I think him and
Speaker 1: I are on the same page. And I'm glad that
Speaker 1: I've gone through every relationship I've gone through because it's
Speaker 1: really just helped me learn more about myself, about what
Speaker 1: I want and I don't want, and how I want
Speaker 1: to be different in myself to have a healthier relationship.
Speaker 1: And it really has helped my relationship a lot. And
Speaker 1: now we're going into the phase of Okay, for two
Speaker 1: and a half years, we've been doing our individual therapy
Speaker 1: and now we're going to do our couples therapy because
Speaker 1: now we're engaged, and now we have to know that
Speaker 1: this is a huge commitment and are we both ready
Speaker 1: for it, and I'm excited for that because we're still
Speaker 1: learning from each other, we're still growing. And now that
Speaker 1: I'm going to start this new phase of therapy, like
Speaker 1: doing couples therapy and having a partner that is so
Speaker 1: willing and so open to doing it, I am looking
Speaker 1: forward to becoming a better partner and eventually a better wife,
Speaker 1: you know. And I think communication is huge, but being
Speaker 1: able to communicate in the right way as well, and
Speaker 1: understanding that he is his own individual person and there's
Speaker 1: no need to control or to have to know where
Speaker 1: he is at every moment of the day. And this
Speaker 1: is huge, you guys, because this is one thing that
Speaker 1: I was very worried about before and even now where
Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, things change once you get married, and
Speaker 1: I kind of and I think through therapy, I'm like
Speaker 1: really looking forward to understanding that I don't have to
Speaker 1: see it that way, that it could be something very beautiful,
Speaker 1: that it's like we're growing together and things will change,
Speaker 1: but maybe it'll change for the better, instead of seeing
Speaker 1: it as a negative thing. So I'm really looking forward
Speaker 1: to that, and I'm excited to do it with this
Speaker 1: couple because they've also had obviously their share of situations
Speaker 1: in their marriage, and this is why they can give
Speaker 1: us advice and counseling because they are now a healthy
Speaker 1: relationship because of what they've gone through and what they've
Speaker 1: grown through, you know. So I'm really looking forward to that.
Speaker 1: I really really am. And am I nervous. Yes, I'm
Speaker 1: nervous because I'm pretty sure that I'm going to hear
Speaker 1: things I don't want to hear about myself. But it's
Speaker 1: okay because being uncomfortable also helps you grow. So I
Speaker 1: want to grow and I want to be a better
Speaker 1: version of myself for myself and for my partners. So
Speaker 1: really looking forward to it. I'll keep you guys updated
Speaker 1: on that after a few sessions, and you know, I'll
Speaker 1: always be honest. So I'm sure I'm going to hear
Speaker 1: a few things and I'm not gonna want to hear.
Speaker 1: The truth hurts sometimes, you guys, but that is what
Speaker 1: helps us become better, which is why I want to
Speaker 1: do this episode. You got to be honest and tell
Speaker 1: you guys that I'm not trying to shove it down
Speaker 1: your throat. You know, therapy and counseling and life coaching,
Speaker 1: but I kind of am. I'm a huge advocate and
Speaker 1: I just really want you guys to understand and to
Speaker 1: see how it's helped my life. And there are programs
Speaker 1: out there you guys, where they can help you, give
Speaker 1: you a nice discount or even sometimes for free through
Speaker 1: your insurance or through medical Like I think, if where
Speaker 1: there is a will, there is a way, and if
Speaker 1: you really want it, you can make it happen. And
Speaker 1: there are resources, so don't make an excuse of saying, oh,
Speaker 1: it's too expensive, because it can get expensive. Yes, absolutely,
Speaker 1: but there are also resources and websites that can help
Speaker 1: you with obtaining some good therapy, even if it's once
Speaker 1: a month, Every little bit helps. And yes, I take
Speaker 1: my breaks, Like I said earlier, I take my breaks.
Speaker 1: I take a couple months and then I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: let's go. It can't just be when we're feeling sad.
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, I'm happy, I'm grateful, Like it's in
Speaker 1: always just writing down notes. That's a big thing, you guys.
Speaker 1: Writing down notes like from my therapy session after helped
Speaker 1: me to go back so you know, and remind myself
Speaker 1: refresh my memory about that. That's another tip I wanted
Speaker 1: to tell you guys, write down the notes and write
Speaker 1: down things that you learn from your session so that
Speaker 1: you can apply them moving forward, you know. And just
Speaker 1: to close up the episode, I definitely think that if
Speaker 1: I wasn't in therapy and wasn't intentional about wanting to
Speaker 1: become a better version of myself every single day, I
Speaker 1: would be definitely a different person, for sure, one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: I think my faith in God and my spirituality and
Speaker 1: being in therapy has really helped me deal and mend
Speaker 1: my broken heart because I'm saying like I've had my
Speaker 1: heart broken in many different ways, not just by a
Speaker 1: significant other, but in different ways and in different situations
Speaker 1: and experiences in my life. It's helped me mend my
Speaker 1: broken heart art and it's helped me, I think, stay
Speaker 1: sane even in the industry as a Latina who isn't
Speaker 1: necessarily like you know. I mean, I'm a curvy girl,
Speaker 1: and I was even curvier before, so it's like that
Speaker 1: was a whole other thing. So I definitely would not
Speaker 1: be who I am today if it wasn't for therapy.
Speaker 1: So if you can, I would highly recommend that you
Speaker 1: find a therapist someone that fits you, and it's gonna
Speaker 1: take a little bit to find someone that you feel
Speaker 1: comfortable with. But don't give up and don't feel discouraged.
Speaker 1: If the first person you go to you're not vibing with,
Speaker 1: it's not your jam. It's gonna take a little bit
Speaker 1: to find the person that is your perfect fit that
Speaker 1: makes you feel comfortable. Okay, just be patient, all right?
Speaker 1: With that being said, you guys, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for listening to another episode of cheekysin show. I love
Speaker 1: that I can sit in front of the mic and
Speaker 1: share really personal stories with you guys. Now let's shift
Speaker 1: gears into this week's motivational quote, and the quote is
Speaker 1: taking care of yourself is productive. Mm hmm. Taking care
Speaker 1: of yourself is productive, guys. So thank you guys, los
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