1 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: I'm so glad that therapy when I was introduced to 2 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: it happened when it happened, because it has really helped 3 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: me survive everything that I've gone through, going through therapy 4 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: with my divorce, realizing or I was wrong, being able 5 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: to say, well, wait a second, perhaps you did become 6 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: a little controlling. Now that I'm going to start couples therapy, 7 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: I am looking forward to becoming a better partner and 8 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 1: eventually a better wife. You guys know what time it is. 9 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:43,519 Speaker 1: It's time for your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill. I'm 10 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 1: your host Cheeky's and I'm so happy to be recording 11 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: a new episode for you guys today. I'm constantly talking 12 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: about how much of an advocate I am for therapy, 13 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: and therapy has helped me so much over the years. 14 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: So I thought i'd record an episode on some of 15 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 1: the biggest lessons I've learned about you. But I'm ready 16 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: to jump into today's episode, so let's do it. This 17 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: is Cheeky's and Chill. Alrighty guys, So I'm gonna make 18 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:22,040 Speaker 1: this short and sweet and to the point, but bottom line, 19 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 1: I love therapy and I think we all need it. 20 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: It's not a sign of weakness. It's not that there 21 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:32,679 Speaker 1: is something wrong with you, that you're crazy, none of that. 22 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: Because I don't know about you, guys, but growing up, 23 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,479 Speaker 1: I heard it was more of like a negative thing. 24 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: If you have to go to therapy, it's like, oh, 25 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: something's wrong with you, and depression doesn't exist, and blah 26 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 1: blah blah. Thank goodness, now people speak about depression and 27 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: anxiety a little bit more openly, especially after the pandemic, 28 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: and talk about therapy, and I hear it a lot 29 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 1: more now, which I'm so grateful for because I've been 30 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: in therapy since I was twelve years old, when you know, 31 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: we found out, or my mom found out that I 32 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: was sexually abused by my dad. My mom didn't know 33 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: much about therapy, she had never gone to therapy herself, 34 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:12,360 Speaker 1: and the police department and the doctor basically mandated it, 35 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 1: like you have to take her to therapy, and once 36 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: she does her individual therapy, you guys have to do 37 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: family therapy. So that's when my journey started with therapy. 38 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 1: And I'm so glad that it happened. When it happened 39 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: therapy when I was introduced to it, because it is 40 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:32,119 Speaker 1: really I think helped me survive everything that I've gone 41 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 1: through and that I've had to face and endure in 42 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: my lifetime. And I remember being twelve and talking to 43 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: this strange person, this woman that she was so nice, 44 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:45,919 Speaker 1: but I was like, how am I going to tell 45 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: her everything? But it was so nice to not feel shy. 46 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: She made me feel so comfortable and I was able 47 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: to just express to her without worrying about her getting 48 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: upset or feeling shy, just telling her everything that had happened. 49 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: Things I still at that moment, and I think my 50 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: entire life really was able to talk to my mom 51 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 1: about it. I was able to talk to my mom 52 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: you guys, about what had happened, the details of the 53 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: sexual abuse to anyone really. So it was nice to 54 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,119 Speaker 1: speak to someone that wasn't in my household, that wasn't 55 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: my thea, that wasn't my sister, that wasn't my mom, 56 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: that it was just like someone that wanted to know 57 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 1: how I was doing. And I liked it. I would 58 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: leave there and I'm like, oh, I could breathe. I 59 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: just felt lighter, and it really helped me get through it, 60 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 1: especially after my dad, you know, went on the run 61 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: for ten years, I continued it and it was covered 62 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 1: at that time by our insurance, so that was great. 63 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: So I was able to do it for a few months. 64 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 1: And then we did family therapy, which was kind of 65 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: cool because my mom was still trying to figure out 66 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: how to deal with this whole situation, and you know, 67 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: and I think she did a great job. You know, 68 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: she never questioned me. She was very supportive of like 69 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,120 Speaker 1: whatever it is that I was feeling, but she never 70 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: allowed me to victimize myself, you know, to feel sorry 71 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: for myself. It was kind of like, Okay, this happened, 72 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: let's move forward. And I'm so grateful she was like that, 73 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: without her even knowing, she would give me therapy. So anyways, 74 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: the point is that's when I started, and I've learned 75 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: a lot about myself, about life, about other people through therapy. 76 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 1: And I think the difference between therapy, I feel, and 77 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 1: counseling or life coaching is that in therapy, you're just 78 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 1: able to express yourself and just let it out and 79 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: talk freely to someone that is not going to judge 80 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: you and just unload. And then life coaching is more 81 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:38,200 Speaker 1: like here are the tools, you know. So I've done 82 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: both and they've both been great. And I started off 83 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 1: with therapy and then as I got older, I did 84 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: life coaching. But it's helped me out through you know, 85 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 1: that situation, the sexual abuse. It helped me through I 86 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 1: experienced bullying at a young age because we didn't have 87 00:04:57,560 --> 00:05:00,279 Speaker 1: you know, I didn't have the right shoes. I didn't 88 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:03,360 Speaker 1: have the cool clothes. You know, we didn't my mom 89 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 1: wasn't driving the best car then, you know what I mean, 90 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: So little things like that, and also because of my 91 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: body weight, So that helped me, especially through like my 92 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:15,320 Speaker 1: divorce and mainly through losing my mom. And I think 93 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 1: that was one of the most important sessions. I'll never 94 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: forget that session when my therapist told me, and I've 95 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: shared this with you guys plenty of times here on 96 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: the podcast, but you know, when my therapist said, two 97 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:33,159 Speaker 1: weeks before my mom passed, you know, you need to 98 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:36,559 Speaker 1: start living your life as if your mom were no longer. 99 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 1: Here guys, at that moment, I was like, what are 100 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: you saying. He was a very very strong therapist, this man, 101 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: and I'm so grateful for him, and I don't know 102 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:49,479 Speaker 1: where he is or what happened. I lost touch, but 103 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: I hope he's well, because little does he know he 104 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: helped me so much. He's the one that taught me 105 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: it is okay to love people from Afar if they 106 00:05:57,400 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: are not good for your heart and your mental health. 107 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: Doesn't matter who they are, it's okay for you to 108 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: excuse yourself from their life and remove them from yours. 109 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: And I for a long time, I was like, what, 110 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: I live in a culture where it's like family. You know, 111 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,479 Speaker 1: blood is thicker than water, and it's like, no matter what, 112 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 1: that's your family member, that's your mom, your dad, Like 113 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: you need to put up with them even if there 114 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: is emotional, verbal, even physical abuse. Sometimes that's how I think. 115 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: And I don't know about you guys, other Latin people 116 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: here listening, if you guys experienced that, but I definitely did. 117 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 1: And he really helped me understand that. I'll never forget 118 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: when he told me that. And I was at first 119 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: in shock and I was resistant, and I was like, 120 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,080 Speaker 1: what is he talking about? And I'm not gonna lie. 121 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 1: I thought, Okay, well, he's Caucasian, you know, maybe he 122 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 1: just doesn't understand my culture, you know, but it really 123 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 1: helped me. I left there and I cried, and I 124 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 1: was like, how am I gonna like go on with 125 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: my life, and like, oh, my mom's not here when 126 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: I know she's literally fifteen minutes away from my house. 127 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: But it helped me because I started little by little 128 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: practicing it, and then my mom passed and I continued 129 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: with therapy and I had to actually when she passed, 130 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: it had to stop a little bit because I had 131 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: to go like tend to my siblings and make sure 132 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: they were okay, and I got them into therapy. I 133 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: was like, you guys got to get into therapy. I've 134 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: I've all of us, all of my siblings were all 135 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: we've all done therapy. To me, it's something that has 136 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: been super important. I'm like, no, this is huge. If 137 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: there's anything we're gonna invest in, it's going to be therapy. 138 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: You know. So they were going to therapy. And then 139 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: after I've continued, I go on and off. It's not 140 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: just going through therapy or going to therapy when and 141 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: everything is falling apart in your life. Yes you definitely, 142 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 1: yes we need it, but also when things are great, 143 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: it's just it's it's like a car, you know, you 144 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 1: got to keep maintaining it. The maintenance is important. Which 145 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 1: is why I just had a session yesterday and it 146 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: was great, and I was like, I hadn't had a 147 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: session in like three weeks, and I was like, oh, 148 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: I felt so much better, you guys. So I just 149 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: want to share my experience with you guys and let 150 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: you guys know how passionate I am about this topic 151 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: and what I have learned and how much it's helped me. 152 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: So hopefully you guys can also go to therapy and 153 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: not think of it in a negative way, you know, 154 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: because like I said earlier, some of us were taught 155 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: or heard that it was a bad thing. But it's not, okay. 156 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: Another very important breakthrough that I had in therapy was 157 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 1: when the whole thing with my dad happened, and I 158 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 1: felt when I was twelve, I remember, I was like 159 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,679 Speaker 1: almost thirteen, had been in therapy for almost like a 160 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:57,320 Speaker 1: whole year. So anyways, I remember the therapist telling me 161 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: this is not your fault. I need you to know 162 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: that this is not your fault, that you didn't do 163 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: anything wrong, because for a long time I felt like, well, 164 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: what if it was me? What if I hugged him 165 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 1: too much? What if I called this upon myself? For 166 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: you know, I thought so many different things. And that's 167 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: one thing that when I heard that for those of 168 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: you who have dealt with sexual abuse or have a 169 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: family member or a friend like, it is so important 170 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: to let them know it's not your fault and it 171 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 1: doesn't make you less valuable because for a long time, 172 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 1: you guys, I felt dirty, I felt less than I 173 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: felt like no one's gonna want me. I'm used up. 174 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: I had all these thoughts at such a young age, 175 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: even after you know what I mean, Like it took 176 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: I'm telling you years a therapeat it to hear this 177 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 1: and be like, hey, get that out of your mind. 178 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:54,680 Speaker 1: You're not used up. You're still going to find someone 179 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,320 Speaker 1: that's going to love you and value you for who 180 00:09:57,360 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: you are and it's not your fault. And another thing 181 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:04,319 Speaker 1: was I was always told you're a liar. You're a liar, 182 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: like because I think my dad wanted to make my 183 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 1: mom believe that. And I did feel like, oh my gosh, 184 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 1: to appoint you guys, where I was like, oh my god, 185 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: is this all allied? Did I make this up in 186 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:17,559 Speaker 1: my mind? Did this really happen? Like I was questioning 187 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 1: and doubting myself. It was the craziest thing. So that's 188 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: one thing that going to therapy like got me out 189 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 1: of my head and saying these things out loud and 190 00:10:27,440 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 1: having someone else tell you, hey, wait stop, that is 191 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 1: not true and helping you understand what is really happening. 192 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 1: So that was a huge thing. Another thing was my divorce. 193 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: That was another breakthrough, you guys, going through therapy with 194 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:50,439 Speaker 1: that and uh, realizing that or I was wrong as 195 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: well because I was so fixated on this didn't work 196 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 1: because you hurt me because the things that he had 197 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: done were so loud, right, and so in your face 198 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 1: where it's like, Okay, the divorce happened because of you, 199 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 1: and it didn't work because of you, but really being 200 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: able to say, well, wait a second, do you not 201 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:16,839 Speaker 1: see that perhaps you did become a little controlling because 202 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: of what was happening, but still, let's take away what 203 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,959 Speaker 1: he did. You had the power to stop yourself from 204 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: being that way. And that was another moment where I 205 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 1: was like, oh shoot, because I wanted to kind of 206 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 1: blame him for everything, and looking within yourself and saying, 207 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not going to focus so much 208 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: on what that other person did or didn't do or whatnot. 209 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: It's what can I change to move forward because I 210 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,599 Speaker 1: never want this to happen again. I want a healthier relationship. 211 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 1: I want to be better dude. And this just was 212 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: like a few years ago, after being in therapy for years, 213 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: I had to go through therapy for the sexual abuse, 214 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: for my mom, for just like getting into the music industry, 215 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: going through a divorce. Now with even my current relationship, 216 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,880 Speaker 1: it's like it's fine tuning and still learning. It's like 217 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 1: we're evolving creatures, We're changing constantly. Things are changing around us. 218 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: That's why for me it's important to continue for the 219 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: rest of my life with therapy, especially being in the industry, 220 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:13,080 Speaker 1: so that I don't get caught up in things that 221 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,480 Speaker 1: aren't necessarily important. I can always focus on my mental health, 222 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:20,480 Speaker 1: my spiritual health, my emotional health. And that helped me 223 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: so much to say, hey, wait a second, you're not perfect, 224 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, you also did things 225 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: that caused tension in the relationship. And when I saw 226 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: it that way and my therapist told me, I was like, oh, shoot, okay, 227 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: here's the mirror, look at it, look at yourself, and 228 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 1: also forgive yourself. It's okay and forgive the person and 229 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: not hold resentment and not only blame them, because when 230 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,559 Speaker 1: we do that, it's like you you you, Like they 231 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 1: say you're pointing one finger, and there's three fingers pointing 232 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 1: back at you. And for a long time, I was 233 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: so upset and so angry for this and that, and 234 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: it's like for a whole year, and it was so 235 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: I was so unhappy and I was carrying so much 236 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 1: that I was like, you know, what if that, you know, 237 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:05,440 Speaker 1: that's stuff that they have to deal with. Let me 238 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: deal with what I have to deal with within myself 239 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: and what can I change and how can I be 240 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 1: a better human being? How can I be just better overall? 241 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 1: So that helped me out. That was another breakthrough, you guys. 242 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:19,760 Speaker 1: And it was a harsh reality. I'm not gonna lie 243 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:23,199 Speaker 1: because I was say, wait, what, I'm not perfect? Oh 244 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:26,719 Speaker 1: my goodness. And then I started dating a medio and 245 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,960 Speaker 1: then I realized that I'm really I really have some 246 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:32,680 Speaker 1: things I got to heal. But it's been great and 247 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:34,959 Speaker 1: I'm learning and I'm growing and I can honestly say 248 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 1: I'm very proud of where I'm at and how I 249 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:42,920 Speaker 1: feel about myself. And even after losing weight, you'd think, oh, 250 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: my goodness, cheeky's like you've lost so much weight, like 251 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 1: you are so confident. Yes I am, but there are 252 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 1: little things. We all have little insecurities. And I owe 253 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: it all to therapy, you guys, to talking to someone 254 00:13:56,320 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 1: that has an unbiased opinion and advice that's only to 255 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: be like, hey, I want the best for you, and 256 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: that feels so good. Another thing that therapy has helped 257 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 1: me with and I kind of mentioned it right now, 258 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:16,560 Speaker 1: but really stepping out of myself and out of an egoistic, 259 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:22,080 Speaker 1: egocentric mindset and being able to put myself into another 260 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 1: person's shoes. That's another thing, and that isn't always the 261 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 1: easiest thing to do, but it really has helped me 262 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 1: be more compassionate with myself first and foremost, but also 263 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 1: with other people and saying, well, wait a second, let 264 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 1: me take a deep breath and say, okay, I'm feeling 265 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:40,960 Speaker 1: this way, but let me put my feelings to the 266 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 1: side for a little bit and put myself in the 267 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: other person's shoes. And it just helps you really see 268 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:49,640 Speaker 1: things in a different way. And I'm so grateful and 269 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 1: I owe it honestly to my therapist, and I've had 270 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 1: different therapists, you guys, throughout the years. I like to 271 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: switch to them like for a while, Like right now, 272 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 1: I've had this last therapist for the past I don't know, 273 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: like year and a half, and she's been great. She's 274 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: so awesome, And now she's going to become my couple's therapist. 275 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:07,440 Speaker 1: You know, I'm going to do therapy with the medium, 276 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: and I'm really excited because that's like a whole other 277 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 1: phase of therapy. But it's great if you can stick 278 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: with the same one forever. But I just, I don't know. 279 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:19,480 Speaker 1: I like to also see what else I can learn 280 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: from someone different, So it's all up to you. But 281 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: it definitely has helped me become, I guess, in a way, 282 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:28,600 Speaker 1: a kinder person, a more compassionate person, and being able 283 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 1: to understand that other people are going through things as well. 284 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: You know, I can't take it personally when someone on 285 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 1: social media is saying you're this, you're that, you're fat, 286 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 1: you can't this, you can't whatever negative thing they're throwing 287 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 1: at me. I've learned to say, you know what, instead 288 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 1: of getting upset, I'm just gonna be compassionate, say you 289 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,760 Speaker 1: know what, this person is probably not happy, because if 290 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: this person were happy, they wouldn't be saying this. A 291 00:15:52,680 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: content person, a healthy person, doesn't have the need to 292 00:15:57,640 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 1: go out and try to make another person feel bad. 293 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 1: So that's another thing. It's helped me with that as well, 294 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:04,680 Speaker 1: with the cyber bullying and people being rude, because that 295 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:07,240 Speaker 1: can take you into like a dark, dark, dark hole, 296 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 1: and it's helped me with that as well. Also with 297 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 1: my siblings. You know, I was kind of like their 298 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 1: mother figure for so long, and I had to learn 299 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: to step away and be more of a sister figure 300 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:29,160 Speaker 1: and let them make mistakes and learn and come to 301 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: me when they're ready and not be so invasive and 302 00:16:31,440 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: overbearing because I was. And it's like, I don't want 303 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: you to fall, like let me help you, let me 304 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: hold you by your hand, and it's like, that's not 305 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 1: the way life works. It's go ahead, I'm gonna let 306 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: go of your hand. You go your own way and 307 00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:45,720 Speaker 1: figure things out. And that was a hard pill for 308 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 1: me to swallow. And the fact that all my siblings, 309 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,560 Speaker 1: all of them are either in therapy or have been 310 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:55,360 Speaker 1: in therapy, I think it's really helped us heal the 311 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 1: loss of our mother and understand that all of us 312 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 1: feel different about it and are going to mourn her 313 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:05,000 Speaker 1: differently and at different times. And I think that that 314 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: has been a game changer, because you know, sometimes like Jenica, 315 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: for instance, my sister Jenica, she she's not one to 316 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,120 Speaker 1: cry and to express how much she misses my mom. 317 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 1: If she says it, it's like, oh shoot, but she 318 00:17:16,720 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 1: does it on her alone time, you know, and for 319 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:21,399 Speaker 1: a while, it's kind of like, well, you don't miss her, 320 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,160 Speaker 1: you don't cry, like you don't have feelings, and it's 321 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 1: like that's not a right way to look at it. 322 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:28,080 Speaker 1: So it's like going to therapy has helped us understand 323 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: each other and the process of losing our mom and 324 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: how we all handle it differently. And that's why I'm 325 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 1: so grateful because all of us again are on the 326 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 1: same page. And I can honestly tell you guys that 327 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:42,919 Speaker 1: I am so glad that I was going and I 328 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:45,600 Speaker 1: was in therapy before I met Emilio, and we both 329 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:52,040 Speaker 1: are in therapy now. He's been in therapy consistently since 330 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 1: we've been together, like weekly. If he misses a session, 331 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,359 Speaker 1: it's like not more than a month, you know what 332 00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:00,240 Speaker 1: I mean, Like he's very, very consistent, and I appreciate 333 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 1: that because that shows me he's doing his work, his 334 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:07,119 Speaker 1: internal work. Because a relationship, and I've learned this throughout 335 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 1: the years and through therapy, is a relationship is basically 336 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 1: two individuals coming together with their own thoughts, their own opinion, 337 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:19,880 Speaker 1: is their own feelings to help each other not necessarily 338 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:21,879 Speaker 1: become better. It's like, no, you have to work on 339 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:24,160 Speaker 1: yourself as an individual and then come back and want 340 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 1: to be a better person for yourself first and foremost, 341 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:29,000 Speaker 1: and then for your partner. And I think him and 342 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 1: I are on the same page. And I'm glad that 343 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 1: I've gone through every relationship I've gone through because it's 344 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:37,159 Speaker 1: really just helped me learn more about myself, about what 345 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:38,880 Speaker 1: I want and I don't want, and how I want 346 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:42,760 Speaker 1: to be different in myself to have a healthier relationship. 347 00:18:43,600 --> 00:18:46,640 Speaker 1: And it really has helped my relationship a lot. And 348 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 1: now we're going into the phase of Okay, for two 349 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 1: and a half years, we've been doing our individual therapy 350 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: and now we're going to do our couples therapy because 351 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 1: now we're engaged, and now we have to know that 352 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 1: this is a huge commitment and are we both ready 353 00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:03,160 Speaker 1: for it, and I'm excited for that because we're still 354 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:06,399 Speaker 1: learning from each other, we're still growing. And now that 355 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:08,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to start this new phase of therapy, like 356 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:12,040 Speaker 1: doing couples therapy and having a partner that is so 357 00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:14,679 Speaker 1: willing and so open to doing it, I am looking 358 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: forward to becoming a better partner and eventually a better wife, 359 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:27,160 Speaker 1: you know. And I think communication is huge, but being 360 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 1: able to communicate in the right way as well, and 361 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 1: understanding that he is his own individual person and there's 362 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:37,680 Speaker 1: no need to control or to have to know where 363 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:40,399 Speaker 1: he is at every moment of the day. And this 364 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 1: is huge, you guys, because this is one thing that 365 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:46,320 Speaker 1: I was very worried about before and even now where 366 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:49,159 Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, things change once you get married, and 367 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:51,280 Speaker 1: I kind of and I think through therapy, I'm like 368 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:55,359 Speaker 1: really looking forward to understanding that I don't have to 369 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: see it that way, that it could be something very beautiful, 370 00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:59,880 Speaker 1: that it's like we're growing together and things will change, 371 00:19:59,880 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: but maybe it'll change for the better, instead of seeing 372 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:05,879 Speaker 1: it as a negative thing. So I'm really looking forward 373 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:08,320 Speaker 1: to that, and I'm excited to do it with this 374 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:12,840 Speaker 1: couple because they've also had obviously their share of situations 375 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,120 Speaker 1: in their marriage, and this is why they can give 376 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:20,000 Speaker 1: us advice and counseling because they are now a healthy 377 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,439 Speaker 1: relationship because of what they've gone through and what they've 378 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 1: grown through, you know. So I'm really looking forward to that. 379 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,840 Speaker 1: I really really am. And am I nervous. Yes, I'm 380 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: nervous because I'm pretty sure that I'm going to hear 381 00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:34,840 Speaker 1: things I don't want to hear about myself. But it's 382 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: okay because being uncomfortable also helps you grow. So I 383 00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:41,440 Speaker 1: want to grow and I want to be a better 384 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:44,119 Speaker 1: version of myself for myself and for my partners. So 385 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 1: really looking forward to it. I'll keep you guys updated 386 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:49,480 Speaker 1: on that after a few sessions, and you know, I'll 387 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 1: always be honest. So I'm sure I'm going to hear 388 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:53,440 Speaker 1: a few things and I'm not gonna want to hear. 389 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,199 Speaker 1: The truth hurts sometimes, you guys, but that is what 390 00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:59,159 Speaker 1: helps us become better, which is why I want to 391 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,640 Speaker 1: do this episode. You got to be honest and tell 392 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:03,880 Speaker 1: you guys that I'm not trying to shove it down 393 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 1: your throat. You know, therapy and counseling and life coaching, 394 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,960 Speaker 1: but I kind of am. I'm a huge advocate and 395 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:13,359 Speaker 1: I just really want you guys to understand and to 396 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:17,800 Speaker 1: see how it's helped my life. And there are programs 397 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:19,880 Speaker 1: out there you guys, where they can help you, give 398 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,640 Speaker 1: you a nice discount or even sometimes for free through 399 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:26,120 Speaker 1: your insurance or through medical Like I think, if where 400 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:29,239 Speaker 1: there is a will, there is a way, and if 401 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 1: you really want it, you can make it happen. And 402 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: there are resources, so don't make an excuse of saying, oh, 403 00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:38,119 Speaker 1: it's too expensive, because it can get expensive. Yes, absolutely, 404 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 1: but there are also resources and websites that can help 405 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 1: you with obtaining some good therapy, even if it's once 406 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,640 Speaker 1: a month, Every little bit helps. And yes, I take 407 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 1: my breaks, Like I said earlier, I take my breaks. 408 00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 1: I take a couple months and then I'm like, okay, 409 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 1: let's go. It can't just be when we're feeling sad. 410 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 1: It's like, okay, I'm happy, I'm grateful, Like it's in 411 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,120 Speaker 1: always just writing down notes. That's a big thing, you guys. 412 00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 1: Writing down notes like from my therapy session after helped 413 00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:09,919 Speaker 1: me to go back so you know, and remind myself 414 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 1: refresh my memory about that. That's another tip I wanted 415 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 1: to tell you guys, write down the notes and write 416 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: down things that you learn from your session so that 417 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:21,479 Speaker 1: you can apply them moving forward, you know. And just 418 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 1: to close up the episode, I definitely think that if 419 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:31,600 Speaker 1: I wasn't in therapy and wasn't intentional about wanting to 420 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:34,159 Speaker 1: become a better version of myself every single day, I 421 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:38,399 Speaker 1: would be definitely a different person, for sure, one hundred percent. 422 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 1: I think my faith in God and my spirituality and 423 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:47,359 Speaker 1: being in therapy has really helped me deal and mend 424 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,040 Speaker 1: my broken heart because I'm saying like I've had my 425 00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:52,359 Speaker 1: heart broken in many different ways, not just by a 426 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: significant other, but in different ways and in different situations 427 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,520 Speaker 1: and experiences in my life. It's helped me mend my 428 00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:02,120 Speaker 1: broken heart art and it's helped me, I think, stay 429 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:07,240 Speaker 1: sane even in the industry as a Latina who isn't 430 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: necessarily like you know. I mean, I'm a curvy girl, 431 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,959 Speaker 1: and I was even curvier before, so it's like that 432 00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:16,679 Speaker 1: was a whole other thing. So I definitely would not 433 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 1: be who I am today if it wasn't for therapy. 434 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:24,119 Speaker 1: So if you can, I would highly recommend that you 435 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 1: find a therapist someone that fits you, and it's gonna 436 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,920 Speaker 1: take a little bit to find someone that you feel 437 00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,639 Speaker 1: comfortable with. But don't give up and don't feel discouraged. 438 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:34,399 Speaker 1: If the first person you go to you're not vibing with, 439 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 1: it's not your jam. It's gonna take a little bit 440 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: to find the person that is your perfect fit that 441 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,960 Speaker 1: makes you feel comfortable. Okay, just be patient, all right? 442 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,440 Speaker 1: With that being said, you guys, thank you so much 443 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,720 Speaker 1: for listening to another episode of cheekysin show. I love 444 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,199 Speaker 1: that I can sit in front of the mic and 445 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 1: share really personal stories with you guys. Now let's shift 446 00:23:55,080 --> 00:24:04,959 Speaker 1: gears into this week's motivational quote, and the quote is 447 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 1: taking care of yourself is productive. Mm hmm. Taking care 448 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,560 Speaker 1: of yourself is productive, guys. So thank you guys, los 449 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:18,679 Speaker 1: quiro mucho. I appreciate you listening, and just send me 450 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: so much love and I will see you on the 451 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:27,239 Speaker 1: next episode. Okay, I love you guys. Do you need 452 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: advice on love, relationships, health emails. I'm so excited to 453 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 1: share with you that my Cheekys and Chill podcast will 454 00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:38,040 Speaker 1: have an extra episode drop each week. I'll be answering 455 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 1: all your questions. 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