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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry letter subject my lady acts like

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Speaker 1: words there with the title of your book, Steve, you

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Speaker 1: get that well anyway, Dear Stephen Shirley. I am dating

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Speaker 1: a beautiful, strong, talented woman and everything was okay in

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Speaker 1: the beginning until we had sex for the first time.

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Speaker 1: She controlled everything from start to finish, and she did

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Speaker 1: not let me do anything. She got on top and

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Speaker 1: that was it, and it seemed to go on forever.

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Speaker 1: Come on. I tried to talk to her and plead

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Speaker 1: but she was not trying to have it. The second

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Speaker 1: time we had sex, she brought in toys. Yes, my

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Speaker 1: them on us. I stood my ground and told her

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Speaker 1: that was not going to happen. After that, I started

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Speaker 1: noticing things like her wanting to drive all the time

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Speaker 1: when we go out, and she always rubs my back

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Speaker 1: in public and helps me out when I'm ordering food

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Speaker 1: in restaurants. We were out last weekend and she grabbed

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Speaker 1: my butt in public in front of several of my boys,

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Speaker 1: and they are still joking with me about that. When

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Speaker 1: we ride the train together, she always insists that I

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Speaker 1: sit and she prefers to stand up. I know that

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Speaker 1: she is a very independent woman, and that's why I

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Speaker 1: love her. But I can't get with this type of behavior.

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Speaker 1: I wear the pants and I need her to know it.

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Speaker 1: What can I do to get her to back down

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Speaker 1: and let me lead? Please give me your opinions on

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Speaker 1: how I should handle this situation. Well, one thing's for sure.

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Speaker 1: She's not a shy girl, is she not at all? No? Uh?

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Speaker 1: And she is a bit controlling, wouldn't you say? I

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Speaker 1: don't like the controlling part. I really don't. I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: like it if a man did it to a woman.

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Speaker 1: I think she's a bit much. However, a lot of

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Speaker 1: men in your position would welcome this. Uh, they really would,

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Speaker 1: especially the sex part. Now, the public part about her

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Speaker 1: sitting on the you sitting on the train, and her

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Speaker 1: insisting that she stands, and and all of this and

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Speaker 1: grabbing your But you know she's too much. I think

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Speaker 1: you think she's too much, uh, to the point where

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Speaker 1: it isn't even fun for you. Uh. And and I

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Speaker 1: gotta ask you. She did all this the very first time,

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Speaker 1: and then the second time she brought toys. You said

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Speaker 1: you spoke up when she brought the toys. I guess you,

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Speaker 1: you know, put your foot down or something, and and uh,

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Speaker 1: I just think you're gonna have to do much more

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Speaker 1: too late because she is in control of this relationship

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Speaker 1: whether you like it or not. You say, you wear

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Speaker 1: the pants in the family, and you need her in

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Speaker 1: the relationship and you need her to know it. Well, Um,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it's never too late. But you know,

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Speaker 1: she's wearing the pants. Okay, she's wearing the pants, and

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Speaker 1: she's in control, and you're doing what she's telling you

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Speaker 1: to do. She tells you to sit down on the train,

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Speaker 1: and guess what you do? Sit down on the train? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, what is it? Why? Why don't

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Speaker 1: you speak up? Why don't you let her know how

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Speaker 1: you feel? What is going on here? Are you the

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Speaker 1: because she's pretty strong and you're doing exactly what she says.

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Speaker 1: That's my opinion. In this situation. If you want to

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Speaker 1: do something different, you got to talk to her about it.

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Speaker 1: If she'll listen, and if you're sitting and she's standing Steve, well, well,

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Speaker 1: my lady, act like a man and think like a man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, well everything was okay in the beginning too.

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Speaker 1: We mess my hand sex for the first time. She

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Speaker 1: me do anything. She got on top, and that was it,

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Speaker 1: and it seemed to go on forever. Let's focus here.

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Speaker 1: I don't know when the last time I've been had sex.

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Speaker 1: And I said, it seemed to go on forever. What

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Speaker 1: it seemed to go on forever. Say that, you know,

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Speaker 1: don you can end this any time. Yeah, just a

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Speaker 1: it can be over now. M So she controlled everything,

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Speaker 1: talk to her, plead with her. Let me do something. Baby, baby, baby,

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Speaker 1: get down, baby, baby, baby, come on, okay, baby baby

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Speaker 1: stop for a minute, baby, hold up, baby, baby you

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Speaker 1: bound stop bounding? Baby, baby, Baby, come here, baby, hold up, baby,

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Speaker 1: hold up down, baby, hold on, Please please let me

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Speaker 1: do something. Baby, you get out, Let me get on top, baby, Baby,

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Speaker 1: let me get on top, baby, please, please, baby, let

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Speaker 1: me get on top. Please Baby, stop me too much.

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Speaker 1: You hurt me. I'm just going on just too long.

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Speaker 1: I don't like it this long right here. It bothered me.

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling some kind of way by myself. Baby. Please stop,

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Speaker 1: please please baby, let me get on talking. Baby. Let

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Speaker 1: me don't do that no more. Baby, Please, I'll ask

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Speaker 1: you about five six times a matter of fact, I

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Speaker 1: I don't want it like that no more. You're spanking me, y'a.

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Speaker 1: Don't want you spanking me like that. Baby, stop spanking me.

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Speaker 1: I want to spank you. Now. Stop baby, Baby, don't

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Speaker 1: slap me in the mouth no more. Okay, don't don't

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Speaker 1: slap me in the damn mouth no more. She's too much,

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Speaker 1: all right, listen, Steve, hold it right there. Can't make

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Speaker 1: me cray. It ain't much of a recap coase we

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Speaker 1: didn't go nowhere, coaches. If he was dating this beautiful, strong,

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Speaker 1: talented woman, everything going fine, then they didn't. Didn't it

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Speaker 1: had sex for the first time. She controlled everything to

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Speaker 1: stop to Benny finished. She let me do nothing. She

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Speaker 1: with let me do some work, but she wasn't having it. Baby,

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Speaker 1: stop just too much, it's going on too long. She

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Speaker 1: was just you bound too hard. That's too hard, baby,

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Speaker 1: Baby pulled up. Hold hold the baby, baby, Baby can

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Speaker 1: return over just one time, baby, just turn over one time.

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Speaker 1: Let me get on top. I know, I know, baby,

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Speaker 1: but I just want to try. Baby, Just let me try.

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Speaker 1: What's your me? Shut up? Baby, hold on, hold on, baby,

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Speaker 1: tell me shut up? All right, No, I'm gonna shut up,

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Speaker 1: but let me turn open. Shut up. Okay, See now

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Speaker 1: that's going on. The second time we had sex, she

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Speaker 1: bought in toys. Yes, my girl had toys and thought

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Speaker 1: cut it on and use it on me. Then I'm

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Speaker 1: you're gonna shut up. Now you're gonna take this here,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a time. Shut up, boy, Yes, Jesus toys.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry about what it is. Wow, don't worry about it. Now.

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Speaker 1: What you're gonna do is you're gonna stop just so

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Speaker 1: what You're gonna just be a little punk now. And

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Speaker 1: then when after that, I started noticing things like she

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Speaker 1: want to drive all the time, sit your punk hats

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Speaker 1: over there in the past to fast, sit in the back.

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Speaker 1: Then we go out, she always rubbed in my back

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Speaker 1: with both hands, just giving me a neck massage in public.

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Speaker 1: Then when I'm trying to order my food, she don't

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Speaker 1: let me order. He gonna have what I have? Bring

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Speaker 1: him a cosmopolitan with extra fruit? What color he want?

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Speaker 1: An umbrella? Can you put an umbrella in it? He

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Speaker 1: the umbrella? Shut up? And then we was out last

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Speaker 1: week and she grabbed my butt in public in front

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Speaker 1: of several of my board and they still joke with

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Speaker 1: nothing to them, dude, because you ain't gonna say nothing

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Speaker 1: to her, so they lighting your hands up. When we

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Speaker 1: ride to train together, she always insisted I sit, and

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Speaker 1: she preferred to stand up right here. I stand up

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Speaker 1: and hold this damn rail and want your little weak

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Speaker 1: hands falling because you got some bids. Since you're gonna

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Speaker 1: want you rested, and it's gonna go. Yes, it's gonna

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Speaker 1: go on forever. But I know she's a very independent

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Speaker 1: woman and that's why I love her. But I can't

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Speaker 1: you're fee to do about it? Though? You know? I know,

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Speaker 1: and now I can't get with this type of behavior.

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Speaker 1: My question you though, so far based on this letter,

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Speaker 1: what you feel I stole it? Suggest you don't open

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Speaker 1: your damn because then you said I wear the pants

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Speaker 1: and I need her to know it. Well, if she

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Speaker 1: don't know it, it's because she thinks she got them on.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't a dog on the real, on the real,

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Speaker 1: just reading this that right here, you're better leave alone.

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Speaker 1: I ain't talking about leave her because she's gonna hunt

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Speaker 1: you down. I'm talking about just let it go the

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Speaker 1: way it is because you ain't. You ain't got the

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Speaker 1: N T on, But it ain't no wyn end, no

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Speaker 1: ass pans. You need an eye and an eye and yours. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, though I wear the pants and I need

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Speaker 1: her to know it. We'll tell her what can I do?

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Speaker 1: Get her to back down and let me lead? Why

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Speaker 1: don't you leave? See I don't even I don't know

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Speaker 1: how to tell you this the way a woman will

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Speaker 1: she ain't letting you leave because she don't think you

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Speaker 1: got it? So what can I do to get her

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Speaker 1: to bad down and let me lead? Let me? I

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Speaker 1: ain't never had to ask some woman let me lead,

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Speaker 1: because I'm gonna lead. I'm a out for mayle. Please

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Speaker 1: give me your opinions on how should handle this situation. Dog.

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Speaker 1: You probably need to shut your little point ass. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna just be real with you. You don't need to

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Speaker 1: say nothing to this girls. I don't think you can whipple.

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Speaker 1: And you just got to get ready for tonight because

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Speaker 1: she's getting back up on top. And it ain't nothing

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Speaker 1: for ever a matter of fact, it's in the last forever. Now,

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Speaker 1: that's what you about to do. And you and write

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Speaker 1: another letter into Steve and see what happened to your ass?

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Speaker 1: And next time I bring some towards and here you

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Speaker 1: don't be talking about what what? What? What do it

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Speaker 1: come inside? Is he this size? We use? We don't

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Speaker 1: use feathers in here? Get that other one out, Get

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Speaker 1: that one out. Touch it, your hands on it, now,

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Speaker 1: throw it over here, He says. She acts like a

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Speaker 1: man and thinks like get your mother too. Cut him

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Speaker 1: on all right, See, we gotta get out of here.

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