Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey we're back.
Speaker 2: We're black Bread Ambition and.
Speaker 1: Bishops is back and they're popping like, hey, now, hey,
Speaker 1: May's back.
Speaker 2: Yes, Mandy's curls are bad, honey, how are you?
Speaker 3: Mandra I'm very much better. I got a lot of
Speaker 3: I don't sound better because I was just in Georgia
Speaker 3: and the pollen kicked my You know what, I don't
Speaker 3: want to draw too much attention.
Speaker 1: To it, but do you see Okay, I love it
Speaker 1: if we.
Speaker 3: Draw attention to that. And if you're on YouTube, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm pointing to. Okay, if I draw attention
Speaker 3: or he or the thing sees itself in the camera,
Speaker 3: because I'm just like very casually trying to get sure
Speaker 3: that I cover up, hoping he just thinks that this
Speaker 3: is just white noise and Mommy's not doing anything interesting.
Speaker 3: It's spring break, y'all, okay, and I the kids are
Speaker 3: here in the camps are closing at two pm, like
Speaker 3: what I know? Yeah, but no, I just got back
Speaker 3: from Georgia. I think, y'all. I had a lot of
Speaker 3: I forgot what I said last week. I just know
Speaker 3: it was a blur and I was super sad and
Speaker 3: tiff again carried, but I did get some sweet messages
Speaker 3: from folks and my dad. I'm happy to report I
Speaker 3: went to Georgia for a few days. My dad is
Speaker 3: doing so well and he is looking so good. I
Speaker 3: know if you're talking about. I took him to get
Speaker 3: his first haircut, and I feel, like six weeks it
Speaker 3: looks so handsome, looks so handsome. I even talked him
Speaker 3: into letting the guy shampoo it. I don't think he
Speaker 3: even knew. It's like one of these old school, old
Speaker 3: school bar He's one of the same barber in Union
Speaker 3: City where I grew up for like the first part
Speaker 3: of my child, don't know all my whole child was.
Speaker 3: It was like five year chunks in different places. So
Speaker 3: spent a chunk of time in Union City, Georgia, south
Speaker 3: of Atlanta anyway, So shout out to Kenny at the
Speaker 3: barber shop that I still don't know what its name
Speaker 3: is in Red Oak. Nothing no, nothing makes me feel
Speaker 3: more normal than just fighting with my dad about directions
Speaker 3: in the car when I'm driving him. Oh wow, especially
Speaker 3: in all Atlanta, and I'm just like, yes, Dad, I know,
Speaker 3: take a left at the yellow sign and the short tree.
Speaker 3: You know, make sure you take a rite at the
Speaker 3: short tree, not the tall tree, but the little one.
Speaker 3: I've done told you know what I mean. Like I
Speaker 3: like to have the GPS on just for my own
Speaker 3: I hate that we're millennials, Like we like to know
Speaker 3: what our next five steps are going to be. I
Speaker 3: like to look at the map and know that my
Speaker 3: little blue line is going to go the right way.
Speaker 3: And he just fought with the jeep anyway, he stressed
Speaker 3: me out, but it was it was so fun and
Speaker 3: my my, you know, you know who back there got
Speaker 3: to watch Pop Pop get a big boy haircut and yeah,
Speaker 3: he's doing real well. He had visitors yesterday. And when
Speaker 3: he starts holding court and talking for hours and hours
Speaker 3: on end, I just like sat back and I was like, wow,
Speaker 3: a month ago he could barely get five words out.
Speaker 3: So I almost like, God is good. I've never said
Speaker 3: that once in my life. Girl, Like, am I a
Speaker 3: church girl, Charlotte? I guess I am a church honestly though,
Speaker 3: Like the number of relatives I have who are pastors
Speaker 3: in Georgia, Like I really ought to be more. But no,
Speaker 3: God is good, yes period that. Yeah, how are you are?
Speaker 3: The church Blossoms blossoming.
Speaker 4: Yet peak, although this is a year two you just
Speaker 4: I'm gonna, yeah, you have to come to I want
Speaker 4: to say, it's like early April that it reaches this peak,
Speaker 4: so you have to come.
Speaker 3: Like, God, that's like next week. Okay, So it's.
Speaker 1: Like within next two weeks they're going to reach their peak.
Speaker 1: So I'm excited. Although I'm why, I'm like, where are you?
Speaker 1: Maybe you know, I feel like they pop then they don't.
Speaker 1: But I'm because I'm looking around like it's not looking poppy.
Speaker 3: Just yeah, have to like, what's the come on?
Speaker 1: I know, I'm like, they're better, but yeah, so last
Speaker 1: week I fell.
Speaker 3: Wait.
Speaker 2: You know how most of the time as an.
Speaker 3: Face people are injuring, I always walk out.
Speaker 1: Was coming down the steps to my house and I
Speaker 1: was listening to like this book that I've been listening to,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I just it was I missed
Speaker 1: the last step. You know, you miss calculate one too
Speaker 1: all the time. I'm like, but you said you catch yourself.
Speaker 1: I mean I said a door. I have not fallen
Speaker 1: as an a door. I want to talk about fail.
Speaker 1: I mean I felt like a five year old, like
Speaker 1: fell knee to the ground, hip to the ground, all
Speaker 1: my back looking at the sky.
Speaker 2: And then you know, usually when you when you're five
Speaker 2: or six, you hop up. I tried to hop up
Speaker 2: my body. It's like you forgot your forty four.
Speaker 1: I laid there for a little bit, just the guy
Speaker 1: to my breakfast.
Speaker 3: Who stairs were you?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: My own?
Speaker 2: And then I laid there for a minute.
Speaker 3: And it wasn't even have that many steps.
Speaker 1: I know, it's like three steps, and I missed the
Speaker 1: last one. And then I just laid there and I said,
Speaker 1: so I had for as I had to just roll
Speaker 1: over to my side.
Speaker 2: I had to roll over to my side.
Speaker 1: Then I had to get on all fours and I said,
Speaker 1: oh okay, and I realized, okay, your niece are scraped.
Speaker 1: That's official. And I was like, oh, my hands are scraped.
Speaker 1: And then I got up and I said, oh okay,
Speaker 1: I'm okay. So I walked halfway up and I was like,
Speaker 1: I was going for a walk, my daily one. So
Speaker 1: I walked like, you know, maybe just like not even
Speaker 1: half a block, and then my inside voice like chold.
Speaker 3: Asspect, Oh no, are you okay? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I mean I thought I was okay.
Speaker 1: And then this morning I woke up, I said, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm just running my knee. I started limping. I'm like,
Speaker 1: why is my knee hurt? And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's right, Timmy took a tumble.
Speaker 3: So yeah, you know, I don't think that was age.
Speaker 3: I think that's just.
Speaker 2: I know, you know, I have not fallen like that, and.
Speaker 3: Like, that's real hard to go downstairs. I mean it
Speaker 3: was doing something else.
Speaker 2: You do a little something like you know, you catch yourself.
Speaker 1: It was I mean it was I was like an
Speaker 1: ant with this with this like a turtle on.
Speaker 3: Her back, just like legs like a yeah, but it
Speaker 3: was one with.
Speaker 2: The said that's an episode.
Speaker 1: And I there was no call she do it, and
Speaker 1: no people walking by, so I'm sure the ring.
Speaker 3: No one, no one honked at you. Oh is not
Speaker 3: the worst I know, are you? Okay? Just leave me
Speaker 3: protect If you see someone who falls down, just ignore them.
Speaker 3: I mean, all they want in the whole to be ignored.
Speaker 3: That's different, yes, but if they look like you know,
Speaker 3: under the age of like let's say fifty, then just
Speaker 3: leave them alone. And if they're not crying and screaming
Speaker 3: in pain, just walk just turn around. You can check
Speaker 3: on them, but don't say anything, yes, turn around. You
Speaker 3: can be like they look okay, they look okay. You know,
Speaker 3: I find a bush for five minutes just to be
Speaker 3: sure if you really want to, but don't talk to
Speaker 3: them that shame.
Speaker 2: We're gonna we're gonna call it like g A W D.
Speaker 2: God is good with the tea is good. Hey ba fam.
Speaker 1: We're gonna take a quick break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: Because He is good. Because I also avoided a major scam.
Speaker 2: Are you ready for this?
Speaker 3: You need scams? I know that's gonna be the next
Speaker 3: intro for your book.
Speaker 2: So this scam book is like.
Speaker 1: The thing is, they almost got me a few months ago,
Speaker 1: but because God is what good, it didn't work out.
Speaker 1: And then they try to get me again twice this weekend.
Speaker 1: I said, hold on, maybe I should google.
Speaker 2: So here's what happened. A month ago.
Speaker 1: This podcast that I thought this major podcast reached out
Speaker 1: to me and said, hey, we'd love to have you on.
Speaker 1: I was like yeah, yeah, sure. They're like, oh, we
Speaker 1: actually pay our guests. I was like really okay. They
Speaker 1: were like Australia or something. I'm like, well, maybe that's
Speaker 1: how they do it in Australia. And it wasn't a
Speaker 1: little bit of money.
Speaker 2: I want to.
Speaker 1: Say, it was like anywhere from five thousand, six thousands.
Speaker 2: It wasn't you know. I said, oh, okay, So everything
Speaker 2: looked legit. And then the day.
Speaker 1: Like maybe it was a few days before we're supposed
Speaker 1: to do the podcast, they were like, we're gonna do
Speaker 1: it on we want to also go simultaneously live on Facebook.
Speaker 1: And I said okay, and what had to happen? And
Speaker 1: I've done this with like Chase and not Bag of
Speaker 1: America Prudential before. Is that like you like basically kind
Speaker 1: of joint log in behind the scenes, And for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: it wasn't clicking, Like they couldn't access like my behind
Speaker 1: the scenes Facebook and I was just like oh and
Speaker 1: then like well we could do it on YouTube and
Speaker 1: I said okay, And then same thing YouTube. It was
Speaker 1: only huh girl, By God to grace. It wasn't like
Speaker 1: they weren't able to link whatever they need to link
Speaker 1: behind the scenes. They said, hey, Tiffany, let's try again
Speaker 1: tomorrow because the podcast is in two days. I said,
Speaker 1: no problem. Then the next day I was waiting on
Speaker 1: Zoom and nobody showed up. And then I was like
Speaker 1: this doesn't seem right. So then a week later they
Speaker 1: hit me up and said, oh my bad. I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: that seems odd because I was supposed to be a
Speaker 1: guest this week.
Speaker 3: So it was like a big show.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't remember the first show, so I ignored it.
Speaker 1: So when they said, to my bad, can we jump
Speaker 1: back on? I just ignored them. I was like, they're
Speaker 1: not serious. Then this week Tracy reached out to me
Speaker 1: and said two podcasts reached out, one saying they paid
Speaker 1: three thousand dollars and one say they paid ten thousand.
Speaker 1: I said really, and one was Crime Junkies And I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: doesn't have a thing they to do with me. So
Speaker 1: we're going back and forth, and they kept saying, how
Speaker 1: do you want to get paid? And Tracy said, something
Speaker 1: doesn't seem right because they seem more interested in paying
Speaker 1: you than actually like, what is Tiffany need to do?
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, she doesn't need to do anything.
Speaker 3: Really, so what very very fishy?
Speaker 1: Yes, And so they kept being assisted, how do you
Speaker 1: want to get paid? I'm like, what's going on here?
Speaker 1: So then I said, googled podcasts Facebook scam because it
Speaker 1: was the same thing. Let's link behind a Facebook child.
Speaker 1: The reason, the thing, the way, the pot the scam
Speaker 1: works is whatever they are doing behind the scenes of Facebook,
Speaker 1: they take control of your and steal it from you.
Speaker 1: Oh and has like five hundred thousand followers and my
Speaker 1: job and I said, oh my gosh. So the first time,
Speaker 1: that's what they were trying to do. But God said,
Speaker 1: look at this, fool me, not them block And I
Speaker 1: was like, well, come on over to YouTube and steal
Speaker 1: my stuff there.
Speaker 3: And again were they like trying to get you to
Speaker 3: add them as an admin or something.
Speaker 1: I didn't think too much of it because I had
Speaker 1: done it before, but these problems we were legitimate brands
Speaker 1: and so yeah, so I googled it, I thought, I said,
Speaker 1: oh my goodness. So I sent it to Tracy was like,
Speaker 1: any of these come in that and then she said
Speaker 1: I was like, Tree, I'm gonna strangle you. She was like,
Speaker 1: you know what I should have There should have been
Speaker 1: a red flag because they were using a Gmail. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, we won't use the Gmail.
Speaker 3: We used the Gmail.
Speaker 2: We have brought up this podcast.
Speaker 3: And she was a cow.
Speaker 1: But like three four million followers or whatever. And so
Speaker 1: that's why I didn't really think anything of it. I
Speaker 1: was like, well, he use a Gmail, but she said,
Speaker 1: I thought that was odd, but I know some people
Speaker 1: do anyway. That is the super scam is that they
Speaker 1: get you to basically log them in behind the scenes
Speaker 1: on whatever, Facebook, YouTube or whatever. They take it over
Speaker 1: and steal it from you, and they hoped the dangle
Speaker 1: that will pay you. Obviously they're not paying you. That
Speaker 1: as like, you know, to lower your defenses of like, oh,
Speaker 1: I can't wait to do this thing because some poor
Speaker 1: other guy he had like a million people following him
Speaker 1: on Facebook or whatever platform and they took it over.
Speaker 2: He never got it back.
Speaker 3: So just putting it out like I wonder if they
Speaker 3: and then they hold it for ransom or something like
Speaker 3: we'll give you back control.
Speaker 1: No, they just use it because they're like, you know,
Speaker 1: to push whatever their agenda is. You know, like because
Speaker 1: you on Facebook, you could change the name. So now
Speaker 1: you got a million people following whatever scam you're really
Speaker 1: you're really pushing, you know, I know, girl, literally so.
Speaker 3: Glad that you I'm glad that you trusted your spidey sense.
Speaker 2: Girl, after almost being tricked like five times. It only took.
Speaker 3: We said you were having, you had a couple of
Speaker 3: senior moments.
Speaker 2: Let's try to borrow.
Speaker 3: But what if I give you my address? Nobody's come here?
Speaker 3: I know, I know what was looking at me like
Speaker 3: look at hah, look a look at look at this?
Speaker 2: Come look on, we're here. And I get to keep
Speaker 2: my Facebook account, So.
Speaker 3: I will say, if you are, if you use any
Speaker 3: platform like that, what I And it makes sense to
Speaker 3: me that kind of scam. I didn't know. It was
Speaker 3: like I hadn't heard of the podcast angle. But I
Speaker 3: will get occasionally solicited on IG behind the scenes like
Speaker 3: and this, and these accounts will have hundreds of thousands
Speaker 3: of followers, and I think in this day and age,
Speaker 3: a lot of people do judge credibility based on how
Speaker 3: many followers you have. It's like the herd mentality classic, Oh,
Speaker 3: they have one hundred thousand followers, they must be legit.
Speaker 3: But that's so not the case because a lot of
Speaker 3: it can be like bots, and you know they can
Speaker 3: they can work the system. But anyhow they'll reach out
Speaker 3: and they'll say we've gotten our clients, you know, or
Speaker 3: I'm reaching out. I represent clients who've been on the
Speaker 3: Good Morning America E News TMZ, like these big brands
Speaker 3: or whatever, and they want you to have a business
Speaker 3: call with them, and it's basically like you pay them
Speaker 3: to place you at these places. And for me, like
Speaker 3: maybe there are it's one of those things. Maybe it's
Speaker 3: like a teeny bit legitimate, like maybe I would never
Speaker 3: pay anyone for media placements. It's too hard to guarantee that,
Speaker 3: Tracy Nose, Like anyone who works in media knows you can't.
Speaker 3: You can't. You can pay a publicist or pay whoever,
Speaker 3: but guaranteeing a spot like that's some bs. So for
Speaker 3: any like if you have a business or you're wanting
Speaker 3: to promote something, please don't Like I would just say,
Speaker 3: be really cautious before you pay someone who's promising you
Speaker 3: that you're going to get placed somewhere like viewed somewhere,
Speaker 3: get some kind of gig, because I thought that's just
Speaker 3: money down the garbage.
Speaker 1: Absolutely no, you're right, because you can be a publicist.
Speaker 1: You're paying them to pitch you and to connect you.
Speaker 1: And basically it's fingers crossed and the men of the
Speaker 1: publicist is the better relationships too hard you have they have,
Speaker 1: the more likely it is to get a yes. But
Speaker 1: there's still no there's still no guarantee. So someone to
Speaker 1: say they're guaranteed. I've seen that a lot, like, oh,
Speaker 1: if you know, I guarantee I can get you on
Speaker 1: Good morn in America.
Speaker 2: I've seen people.
Speaker 1: Actually say in Tracy Space, my publicists, they'll say, like,
Speaker 1: you know, ten thousand dollars to get you on Good
Speaker 1: Morning America, fifteen thousand the guy, you know, it's so susy,
Speaker 1: sus sus and so just like you know, and you know,
Speaker 1: like I said, a lot of these podcasts, the first
Speaker 1: one was like out of the country, so I thought
Speaker 1: maybe I'm Australia.
Speaker 2: That's what they do, you know.
Speaker 1: And also too, to your point, Mandy, that person that
Speaker 1: was reaching out to you from one hundred thousand followers
Speaker 1: that might have been a stolen page that they're now
Speaker 1: reaching out see.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, see go listen. You just can't trust anybody anymore.
Speaker 3: And now with AI girls.
Speaker 1: Are these curls.
Speaker 3: Get close so I can see these curls and if
Speaker 3: they really dig in, they'd be like, hey, it's Easter.
Speaker 3: Ray Mandy, I've been watching. I just I wanted to
Speaker 3: introduce myself and let you know I'm gonna go on GMA,
Speaker 3: you can come with me. I'm like, Esa, I'll give
Speaker 3: you money. Wow, the internet is scourry. While I was
Speaker 3: in Georgia, though, my little news tidbit so, while I
Speaker 3: was in Georgia doing a six hour lego project with
Speaker 3: he who must not be.
Speaker 2: Named over there here's being.
Speaker 3: Very good by the way, While I was spending six
Speaker 3: hours building that thing, my dad was next door in
Speaker 3: his room. He's taken over the ground floor of my
Speaker 3: or the basement of the bachelor pad the mayon cave
Speaker 3: of my brother's house, and he was next door watching
Speaker 3: like Channel five Action News, which I actually love to
Speaker 3: watch when I'm in Georgia just to have it on
Speaker 3: the background. It just brings back memories. And he's like, hey, mane,
Speaker 3: come come, come check this out. And I'm like, when
Speaker 3: was the last time my dad was like, come watch
Speaker 3: something on the TV. And usually I would be like, no,
Speaker 3: I'm not getting out. Was not going to be worth it.
Speaker 3: I probably would have missed it by the time I
Speaker 3: get to your room, because that's how TV were anyway.
Speaker 3: But they were talking about four one case and he
Speaker 3: was like, because you know I got my dad first
Speaker 3: four or one k not long ago, and he's really
Speaker 3: proud of it. And he's, Eh, the stock market's up,
Speaker 3: he said, the Dow's going up, down's going up. What
Speaker 3: does that mean. I was like, yeah, that means that
Speaker 3: investments are going up. So it's a good thing that
Speaker 3: you're invested. And he's like, now what do I do.
Speaker 3: I'm like, not a darn thing, go back and mind
Speaker 3: your business and there's nothing to do Congress, But I did.
Speaker 3: I did log onto his endvine and it was nice
Speaker 3: because I don't know, it hasn't been so rough this year,
Speaker 3: at least not for my accounts, but I think I
Speaker 3: saw like twelve and fourteen percent they were up, which
Speaker 3: is definitely above average. So hey, this is one of
Speaker 3: those times where you can pat yourself on the back
Speaker 3: for just putting money in and forgetting about it and
Speaker 3: then just keep doing that, unless, of course, you're Tiffany
Speaker 3: and you're gonna get all the edge in vacation. You
Speaker 3: know on how to invest, and you're going to level
Speaker 3: it up the rest of us, and we're just skating by.
Speaker 3: We don't have to do anything. Set and forget it.
Speaker 3: Heybe a fan. We're going to take a quick break
Speaker 3: and we'll be right back. Do you want to talk
Speaker 3: about your little investing, your little yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, no. I mentioned last week.
Speaker 1: I think I messed in last week that I you know,
Speaker 1: I asked Terry she was on our show, but I
Speaker 1: asked her specifically Terry Ijama to teach me, like if
Speaker 1: she would coach me, like how much would it be
Speaker 1: to work with her? Because honestly, I don't have like
Speaker 1: four investment accounts or broker's accounts, and I'm just and
Speaker 1: certainly I invest with my you know, I have find
Speaker 1: my financial advisor, who you know, I love.
Speaker 2: But my concern is I don't like not really.
Speaker 1: Being able to fully understand what's all going on, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, And so not that.
Speaker 2: I know anything, obviously I do, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I My desired outcome at the end of the day
Speaker 1: is when I'm no longer like the budget needs to
Speaker 1: I want to be able to make money other ways.
Speaker 1: And certainly you can invest in real estate, but it's
Speaker 1: not passive at all, you know, Like real estate is
Speaker 1: pretty a hard heavy lift and business is for sure
Speaker 1: not passive, you know, which I'm enjoying now. But what
Speaker 1: happens when I don't, and I really want to all
Speaker 1: my kind of like in the market girlies, does it
Speaker 1: take work, but you can kind of be in and
Speaker 1: then not be in as you kind of wanted to. Oh,
Speaker 1: you can set some of your investments to be more
Speaker 1: passive mutual. Don got to put on eye makeup, yes,
Speaker 1: And so I kind of wanted that. I want that
Speaker 1: as an option. So I already have some real estate,
Speaker 1: you know, I have business, and I am in the market,
Speaker 1: but it's kind of like I've given that responsibility over
Speaker 1: to my financial advisor, and I wanted to have an
Speaker 1: even more intelligent conversation with her when it comes to,
Speaker 1: you know, mark investing in the market. So anyway, I
Speaker 1: asked Terry Ejama if she could coach me because one,
Speaker 1: I like the fact that once she went to MIT,
Speaker 1: she's a smarty yardy. And two I like the fact
Speaker 1: that I'm an educator. Yeah I know, right.
Speaker 2: I was like, isn't that what the astronauts.
Speaker 3: Engineers? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Right, So I was like, oh, he's fine.
Speaker 1: And then too, I like the fact that she's an educator.
Speaker 1: She's vice principal for like ten years years. I was like,
Speaker 1: cause you know me, I'm always looking for a good
Speaker 1: What is this terry you're talking about?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know she must have mentioned that on the show,
Speaker 3: but I don't forgot.
Speaker 2: I know, I didn't. Yeah, I was like wow.
Speaker 1: And then I like the fact that she's already over
Speaker 1: thirty five thousand students, many of which have been able
Speaker 1: to make a thousand dollars in a day, not every
Speaker 1: single day, but in a day from scratt you know,
Speaker 1: from like not having to not having to know how
Speaker 1: to do anything. And and so she said, yeah, of course, Tiffany,
Speaker 1: you know, I'll coach you. And then she mentioned that
Speaker 1: she had this five day challenge and it's super beginner,
Speaker 1: you know, like if you're out here buying and selling,
Speaker 1: it ain't you. And day one is all about the
Speaker 1: stock market learning, like like what is the daw?
Speaker 2: What is sep five hundred? What is all that?
Speaker 1: Day two all about ETFs because this is the way
Speaker 1: you can invest without having to learn how to reach
Speaker 1: charts and ATF is like a bucket, you know, of
Speaker 1: investments that can be traded or bought and sold like
Speaker 1: a stock. Right, that's day two. So day one and
Speaker 1: day two are all about knowledge. What I really like
Speaker 1: the three last three days are all about taking action.
Speaker 1: Day three is all about how do you open up
Speaker 1: your first brokera's account or a brokera's account, like what
Speaker 1: to look for and we get to open it together.
Speaker 1: Like I said, I have four because that's when I
Speaker 1: heard of one, I'd be like open, open, but I.
Speaker 2: Don't do anything with them.
Speaker 1: Day four is buying your first stock, so like I've
Speaker 1: bought stock before, I've used like Robinhoods and stuff. But
Speaker 1: for those of you who haven't, you get to actually
Speaker 1: do the mechanic of buying it. And if you don't
Speaker 1: have enough money to buy, that's okay because there's a
Speaker 1: simulator so you can use paper money. And day five
Speaker 1: is selling that stock, so you really get like in
Speaker 1: these five days. It's really for beginners who are like, okay,
Speaker 1: I now have the mechanics and later on throughout the year,
Speaker 1: you know, Terry's gonna have other things that I plan
Speaker 1: on partner with her with. But this is a great
Speaker 1: five day like a course. Now it's not free. You know,
Speaker 1: when I do a challenge, my stuff be free. But
Speaker 1: it's not free because Terry has a different business. Okay,
Speaker 1: it is ninety seven dollars. You know to something to
Speaker 1: consider for five Yeah, so it's five days. It's ninety
Speaker 1: seven dollars. And so if you think that, you know,
Speaker 1: like you're interested, and I know there's like a VIP upgrade,
Speaker 1: and I think I want to say, you get like
Speaker 1: a six day and you get like cause I'm flying
Speaker 1: to South Carolina to teach, like she has like some
Speaker 1: guest coming, so I am like doing like mindset about
Speaker 1: money or whatever. I'm not teaching investing obviously, so I
Speaker 1: think there's like other like bonuses that you get when
Speaker 1: you upgrade.
Speaker 2: But it's something for me.
Speaker 1: I told myself like, and my team has decided, like
Speaker 1: my sisters were all kind of doing it together, like
Speaker 1: is this something I'm even interested in? Ninety seven dollars?
Speaker 1: Is I know it's a lot of money for some,
Speaker 1: but for many it's not a good way to see
Speaker 1: is this something I'm even interested in? It's live, which
Speaker 1: I do like, so it forces you to take it. Now,
Speaker 1: it's April fifteen to the nineteenth, eight pm to ten
Speaker 1: pm Eastern Standard time, so you want to make sure
Speaker 1: that you're available.
Speaker 3: Like a five day in a row.
Speaker 2: Yeah, five days in a row.
Speaker 1: And then you might say you know, you might do
Speaker 1: it and be like, eh, you know what, I'm not
Speaker 1: ready for the market, or you might be like, okay,
Speaker 1: now I've got the fundamentals and the mechanics under what's
Speaker 1: next and so yeah, so it's Trade and Travel dot Com,
Speaker 1: but I partner with Terry, so you add slash the Bunjonessa.
Speaker 1: So Trade and Travel dot Com slash the Buganisa and
Speaker 1: the people who use my link, I have like a
Speaker 1: bunch of like freebies and goodies that I'm adding to
Speaker 1: those people because I want to.
Speaker 2: I really want to.
Speaker 1: I want like low key, I would love to create
Speaker 1: like an investment club myself. Not an investment club where
Speaker 1: I tell you what to invest an investment club were,
Speaker 1: but literally it's like an accountability partnership.
Speaker 3: You know, yeah, you're like.
Speaker 1: Yes, Like literally, that's honestly, That's what I'm like. I'm
Speaker 1: doing this because I want to. Because there's one thing
Speaker 1: to have a teacher, but Terry's not gonna be able
Speaker 1: to teach me all the time. I want to be
Speaker 1: able to be in this club and say do they
Speaker 1: make get that understanding? And so one of the bonuses
Speaker 1: is that like if you use my link, is that
Speaker 1: like I'm forming like a just a temporary club to
Speaker 1: see if even I'm interested in that, because I really
Speaker 1: want to have a group of women in particular.
Speaker 2: I mean men can join too, but you know I did.
Speaker 3: It sounds a little stressful though, because my I I
Speaker 3: mean having a club having you know, because I just
Speaker 3: watched that movie on the plane, Dumb Money. I mean
Speaker 3: I read it mostly because I forgot my headphones. They
Speaker 3: didn't fit the jack thank you Apple. So I read
Speaker 3: the subtitles of Dumb Money the movie.
Speaker 1: It's okay, No, is that no forar news to rob me. No,
Speaker 1: it's not dumb Never I'm thinking about the wrong thing.
Speaker 2: Go ahead, dumb America ferra.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yes, yeah. So anyway, this movie came It
Speaker 3: was kind of sucked because it came out during the
Speaker 3: writer's strike, so none of the actors really could promote
Speaker 3: it or whatever and the actors strike. But anyway, it's
Speaker 3: a good movie. It's it's basically it's all about the
Speaker 3: game stop, game stop, stuck run up like where the redditors.
Speaker 3: It's like it started on this subreddit. I forget what
Speaker 3: it was called. I think it's literally like it was
Speaker 3: either a game stop subreddit or at least a investing subreddit,
Speaker 3: and you know Reddit has all these like teen like
Speaker 3: all these you know subs and a million different niches
Speaker 3: you can join. And they, yeah, a bunch of like
Speaker 3: regular people shorted or went and bought game Stop stock.
Speaker 3: I'm trying not to have confuse thos. And because they
Speaker 3: bought so much, it drove the stock price up. But
Speaker 3: then so many hedge funds had shorted the stock, which
Speaker 3: basically means they were going to lose money. They bet
Speaker 3: that it was going to go down by betting against it.
Speaker 3: When game Stop started to go, they were just losing
Speaker 3: billions of dollars and they had to get bailed out,
Speaker 3: and it was very David and Goliath and David got
Speaker 3: screwed and all that, because you know they were all
Speaker 3: like hold, hold, hold, like they were trying to really
Speaker 3: hold the line anyway. So that's where my head kind
Speaker 3: of went. I'm like, you know, it's it's good to have.
Speaker 3: I love the accountability and like having other voices. I
Speaker 3: get nervous because of our human inclination to sort of
Speaker 3: like follow the pack. Yeah, and sometimes that works out. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but then I think the education piece has to be
Speaker 3: there too, because at the end of the day, you
Speaker 3: got to know when it's like that's good for you. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm going to do this.
Speaker 1: And that's why I think having like because all y'all,
Speaker 1: one of my things, I feel like one of the
Speaker 1: I don't want to say claim to fans is but
Speaker 1: one of the things I pride myself on is being
Speaker 1: honest when I'm like, I don't know that like even
Speaker 1: a gig of money, Like you know, the chapters that
Speaker 1: are not my expertise, I'm like, so this is not
Speaker 1: my expertise, but guess what I brought in a booster
Speaker 1: the estate planning. This is my attorney, the insurance, this
Speaker 1: is my financial advisor, this is the you know, like
Speaker 1: they like in the investment chapter, I brought in like
Speaker 1: two people who want the Courtney who talked about investing
Speaker 1: for wealth and Kevin, who talked about investing for retirement.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: So one of I think, to me, a really good
Speaker 1: teacher is not here to know everything but to help
Speaker 1: me make connections. And that's that's not the space that
Speaker 1: I'm leaning into because I really believe that in through community,
Speaker 1: that is the way that we're all going to be okay.
Speaker 1: And you know, like, if I could figure it out
Speaker 1: on my own, I'm sure I could, but I don't
Speaker 1: want to. So I'm like, I am going to vet
Speaker 1: and suss out the best educators I can find. But
Speaker 1: then ultimately, it's really the community that you really do
Speaker 1: the work with on a day to day basis, And
Speaker 1: so I'm trying to build some accountability for myself.
Speaker 2: I don't know what that's going to look like. Don't
Speaker 2: hold me to a child.
Speaker 1: I might get tired, but at least for now, this
Speaker 1: is a great little jump start five days. We might
Speaker 1: say I hate it, and you I say I love it,
Speaker 1: and then I get to see, you know what, that
Speaker 1: actually was kind of fun. Let's do this community together
Speaker 1: and I will bring the experts in here, Like I
Speaker 1: don't really know what how to do options, and I
Speaker 1: don't I think, really you should wait and really learn
Speaker 1: how to do basic investing first. But these are the
Speaker 1: types of things that there might be an interest. And
Speaker 1: one thing I am good at is I have access
Speaker 1: to some of the best of the best of the best.
Speaker 2: And I can reach out. So yeah, So if you're
Speaker 2: wanting to join Trade and Travel dot Com, Slo's gonna join.
Speaker 3: Anyone's club.
Speaker 1: It would be yourself, you know, because like I mean,
Speaker 1: like I said, I am a student as well, and
Speaker 1: so when I'm vetting for this in particular, that I'm
Speaker 1: vetting for myself too. And we'll put the link in
Speaker 1: the show notes. But yeah, I mean, like I said,
Speaker 1: it's five days. If we hated, then you know, we
Speaker 1: find something else. But I'm just determined to do something
Speaker 1: beyond making money in this one way. There has to
Speaker 1: be ways that I can make money when I don't
Speaker 1: want to be for basic what does that look like?
Speaker 3: So well, you mentioned real estate like ten minutes ago,
Speaker 3: but I'm going to try to use it as a
Speaker 3: segue anyway, because one thing that we've we've totally forgot
Speaker 3: to talk about, which has only been a few days
Speaker 3: in the news, but just big news for anyone who's
Speaker 3: planning to sell a home and kind of like oop,
Speaker 3: sorry to anyone who recently sold a home. But the
Speaker 3: National Association of Realtors, which is like one of the largest,
Speaker 3: maybe the largest trade association in the entire country. They're
Speaker 3: just massive and they have so much power, but they
Speaker 3: have they were sued by I think it was a
Speaker 3: collective of homeowners. I think it was a class action,
Speaker 3: I forget, but anyway, they had to settle because they
Speaker 3: were sued over the realtor fee, that six percent commission
Speaker 3: that you know now that I'm now that the settlements
Speaker 3: come through, that they've they've that six percent commission, the
Speaker 3: automatic commission that you would pay your realtor for selling
Speaker 3: your home is gone. Like they are not allowed to
Speaker 3: make it standard anymore. And apparently now you're able to
Speaker 3: negotiate with your realtor like okay, they may say, okay,
Speaker 3: well standard, you know, we charge a commission of six percent. Well,
Speaker 3: now this means you can find a realtor who charges
Speaker 3: four percent or five percent or two percent and be like, well,
Speaker 3: you know Jenny down, you know down at Century whatever,
Speaker 3: she's only charging me two and a half percent commission.
Speaker 3: So and use that as leverage and more bargaining power
Speaker 3: to negotiate down that real estate or sorry, the realtor
Speaker 3: fee of six percent, because I mean, I think the
Speaker 3: average home price now is over two hundred thousand dollars,
Speaker 3: So it's not a little bit of money that you're
Speaker 3: paying to have someone sell your put your home on
Speaker 3: the market or whatever for you. And so it's a
Speaker 3: huge huge deal and potentially a huge savings I.
Speaker 2: Know, so then like, is it gonna be worth it
Speaker 2: to be a real.
Speaker 3: Start these days?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 3: See that's the thing. I mean, I still think it will.
Speaker 3: I think what it does is because it doesn't eliminate
Speaker 3: the ability to charge it, it just stops people from
Speaker 3: like making it just yeah, from having an automatic like
Speaker 3: you know. And I hope they come for car rental
Speaker 3: agencies next, because when I tell you, they will smile
Speaker 3: at you. It's just like when when I'm going to
Speaker 3: make another Game of Thrones reference because I don't know why,
Speaker 3: but anyway, Tiffany just like glaze over and just let
Speaker 3: it happen. When Danny at the end of Game of
Speaker 3: Thrones gets like shanked of spoiler alert whatever it's been years,
Speaker 3: gets shanked while the love of her life is kissing her.
Speaker 3: That's what it's like to rent a car in America.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, you know, especially in Atlanta where they
Speaker 3: got the Riz, they got that Southern Riz and they're
Speaker 3: like oh yeah, baby, like yeah, oh this is your son,
Speaker 3: Oh how cute? Yeah, and you visit and oh that's nice.
Speaker 3: Well just you know, just I'm ride here and I'm
Speaker 3: looking at the thing, and I'm like, the rental that
Speaker 3: I prepaid for was two hundred and eighty dollars for
Speaker 3: a five day car rental. And I'm like, damn man, ma'am.
Speaker 3: And she still smiled as we handed me a glass
Speaker 3: of sweet tea at the same time. Might as well be.
Speaker 3: I'm like, why does the total say five hundred dollars.
Speaker 3: She's like, oh, oh, well, you know, that's just the
Speaker 3: liability insurance. And I was like, yeah, but I answered
Speaker 3: that question. I said, I declined the insurance because my
Speaker 3: credit card covers it. Yes, oh yeah, well well some cards,
Speaker 3: some cards don't really cover this kind of insurance. I
Speaker 3: forget which kind it was, so you know, that's what's
Speaker 3: added there. And I'm like, I was so ready to
Speaker 3: get out of there, but I was so mad because
Speaker 3: she didn't ask me about that type of insurance and
Speaker 3: it was just added on. And I'm like the bill, like, no,
Speaker 3: take that off, and like to the point where she
Speaker 3: had to go back in the system printed me a
Speaker 3: whole new receipt.
Speaker 2: Can you imagine?
Speaker 3: Yes, anyway, car mental agencies we have to get, y'all.
Speaker 1: We have to because your point many That's why I
Speaker 1: pay online to your point, So I could do that
Speaker 1: because you know, when you're there, it could be very
Speaker 1: easy to get.
Speaker 3: They're so good at it. It's such a betrayal, Like
Speaker 3: they really make you, you know, they're so friendly and
Speaker 3: they are getting and I don't know exactly how they
Speaker 3: get paid to sell you that extra insurance, but I
Speaker 3: have to believe they get some kind of commission or
Speaker 3: at least they get, you know, some kind of perks
Speaker 3: or benefit by being the big salesperson who can sell
Speaker 3: you the insurance. But yeah, that is such Oh it's
Speaker 3: so infuriating anyway. But realtors is the same way, but
Speaker 3: it's I don't know, it's in another high stress transaction.
Speaker 3: Nothing is more high stress than buying a home or
Speaker 3: selling a home. And like it's like, oh, yeah, just
Speaker 3: six percent, and at that point they're just hoping that, like,
Speaker 3: you know, all the money is so much money, what's
Speaker 3: an extra six percent going to be? But I'm yeah,
Speaker 3: definitely add the real turfy to the list of things
Speaker 3: that you can negotiate. There's a bunch of different things
Speaker 3: that you can negotiate on a home purchase, not just
Speaker 3: the you know, the cost of the home itself, but
Speaker 3: the fact that real turfees are getting added to the mix. Now,
Speaker 3: good real time realtors who I mean, it does take
Speaker 3: some skill to put a home on the market. And
Speaker 3: maybe they can, maybe they can show you that they
Speaker 3: deserve the six percent because of XYZ. But to have
Speaker 3: like a realtor who's really brilliant at their job get
Speaker 3: paid the same six percent as a realtor who's really
Speaker 3: phoning it in. And I think a lot of people
Speaker 3: have felt that like their realtor is not really the
Speaker 3: bringing it for them. Now you can say, okay, well
Speaker 3: I'm going to take you know, this fee is not automatic,
Speaker 3: like you got to work for it and show me
Speaker 3: that you're you know, doing something for me. And again
Speaker 3: also you can just say, all right, well this realtor
Speaker 3: is offering me four percent, I don't want to pay
Speaker 3: six What can you do and see if they can
Speaker 3: lower it for you.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 3: Also, they owe like a jillion dollars now and I think,
Speaker 3: let me read this really fast and I'll post this
Speaker 3: link in the show notes. Yeah, they've agreed to pay
Speaker 3: four hundred and eighteen million dollars over the next four
Speaker 3: years and their rest after lawyers get their pay because
Speaker 3: you know they the rest will go to people who
Speaker 3: sold their homes. Oh okay, so if you sold your
Speaker 3: home in recent years and paid what has been called
Speaker 3: inflated real estate commissions, the rest will go on to
Speaker 3: those people. So if you want to find out if
Speaker 3: you're entitled to compensation, check the lawyer's website. It's real
Speaker 3: Estate Commission Litigation dot com. Real Estate Commission Litigation dot com.
Speaker 3: And especially that I'm assuming this this could apply to everyone.
Speaker 3: A lot of people sold during the pandemic, you know.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I would definitely run to that link and
Speaker 3: you can definitely post that in the show notes for y'all.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, I thought, you know, as you said, if
Speaker 1: you or someone has been affected by misotheli methoth, what
Speaker 1: misl like as bests?
Speaker 3: Right, the commercials I remember after watching the Prices right
Speaker 3: in the middle of the day. Yeah, Like watch cable
Speaker 3: news on TV these days. It's so funny because I'm like,
Speaker 3: I'm getting a picture of who does watch it. It's
Speaker 3: like a lot of varicose vein, you know, bunyan commercials,
Speaker 3: like diabetes commercials.
Speaker 1: It's very remember that always to be the old white
Speaker 1: dude that was like, do you have diabetes?
Speaker 3: Yeah? How did he die? He was in the news
Speaker 3: recent I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I remember hit like that. He
Speaker 1: had like glasses and a mustache. He was I think
Speaker 1: he was part of like some.
Speaker 2: TV show, you know.
Speaker 1: But I just remember him saying, do you have diabetes? No,
Speaker 1: they got the sugar, the sugar I got that baby
Speaker 1: got the sugar I got.
Speaker 5: And now it's time to boost up, break up, boost up,
Speaker 5: break up? Boost You gonna boost, you gonna break, what
Speaker 5: you're gonna do, what you gonna take?
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 2: Manja are you gonna booze? Oh? He being the book?
Speaker 3: I'm obsessed. Oh I wish I know he can he
Speaker 3: And there we go. Are we gonna break?
Speaker 2: Are we gonna break? Before? He's about to turn up?
Speaker 2: Turn up Tuesday?
Speaker 3: Heard me sing a little bit. Yeah we have been dang,
Speaker 3: but forty two minutes is really good, buddy, It is
Speaker 3: really good. Say hi to mommy's work friend, miss tipical
Speaker 3: work friend.
Speaker 2: Don't do me like that.
Speaker 3: I don't know what how I do. Ascribe you to
Speaker 3: a four year old I colleague, me to Auntie Tiffy,
Speaker 3: I don't care about that lady. I know, want I
Speaker 3: want to talk. That's the launcher you were talking about.
Speaker 3: That's awesome, Sweetie. Can you say hi to Auntie Tiffy?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 2: Because Hi Hi, Rio say Hi?
Speaker 3: You break with that you're on the podcast.
Speaker 2: He can't hear you, Hi, real.
Speaker 3: He can't hear you, but she says, ha ha. All right, now,
Speaker 3: can you go back to your couch and be quiet
Speaker 3: like I said, yes, ma'am what I'm hearing, Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 3: Where's your words? Yes, ma'am. Eh, I don't want to
Speaker 3: see yes, ma'am.
Speaker 2: To be a far of your friend.
Speaker 3: Show them what a great mama. All right. Anyway, Yeah,
Speaker 3: we're doing good, and we're doing good. That is not that.
Speaker 3: That's not the tablet, a tablet or a book. It
Speaker 3: is my phone on YouTube. Kids, That is what that is.
Speaker 2: Well, you know what's speaking of which I think I'll
Speaker 2: go first. I'm gonna do a little break.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, yes, it's a little shady break since we're
Speaker 1: talking simply since we're introducing baby so and y'all know
Speaker 1: I've got two DCEs Lily and a million so Malia,
Speaker 1: my niece that lives the closest her birthday's coming up.
Speaker 3: She's turning seven. I can't.
Speaker 1: Apparently, Hello Kitty is the thing now, I'm like, but
Speaker 1: you said it's a girl. We're off that Hello Kitty Kitty,
Speaker 1: I know, So of course I have to get an
Speaker 1: all kind of Hello Katy Shenanigans plushy and notebook and
Speaker 1: stickers and YadA YadA YadA.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So an if you are child psychologists, as riddle me this.
Speaker 1: So Amelia had. This is like her second or third
Speaker 1: spring concert that we've gone to, and she specifically said, Mommy,
Speaker 1: I want my aunties to come. Auntie Otto, which is
Speaker 1: me Adoci and Auntie chi Chie, which is Tracy. I
Speaker 1: want my aunties to come, Mommy.
Speaker 2: Are they coming? Are they coming out? Becoming? Big thing?
Speaker 2: You did? If you didn't come that it's a big deal. Later,
Speaker 2: I want you to come. Why where I went?
Speaker 1: I said, okay, okay. So we go to the spring concert.
Speaker 1: They do a great job. Her school is like eighty
Speaker 1: percent maybe even eighty five percent Latina Latino because we're
Speaker 1: in the north ward of Newark, which is very Hispanic.
Speaker 2: So there's a lot of like.
Speaker 3: Which is so cute, really out there.
Speaker 2: The one little brown chocolate Chip with her friends, her
Speaker 2: moroccas whatever.
Speaker 3: Hey, she's getting cultured already. She love first of all
Speaker 3: her accent.
Speaker 2: What was she says? Man, it's worth. I'm like, that's
Speaker 2: what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: She is like her because she her pronunciation is profecto okay,
Speaker 1: So anyway, I love her.
Speaker 2: Her best friend of Lina's, this little Domdican girl.
Speaker 1: Everything is great afterward, you know, like we all rush
Speaker 1: to the back because we all want to see the
Speaker 1: babies as they come out, and you know, be like,
Speaker 1: oh I saw you, so they can see you, because
Speaker 1: when you're on stage, I can't see you. So for
Speaker 1: the second or third unirow, Amelia comes out and I said, meanie.
Speaker 1: She looked at me with horror in her face, like
Speaker 1: who was this stranger?
Speaker 2: I was like, wait, I'm confused.
Speaker 1: She literally took her friend and put her friend in
Speaker 1: front of her said stand here. I saw her, mad
Speaker 1: I have it on video, I said, mayn Was she embarrassed.
Speaker 3: Of you?
Speaker 5: Mandy?
Speaker 1: I said, Amelia, then you know, get you taper off,
Speaker 1: because now I've got ten six year old looking at
Speaker 1: you like, oh child.
Speaker 3: What are you just too much? She was you were
Speaker 3: too much? Do you bring out too much energy, weren't cool.
Speaker 1: One of her friends, who took pity on me, said, Amelia,
Speaker 1: he's just call you. She looked at her friend like.
Speaker 2: Like her friend Lily was like a Millia. Would you
Speaker 2: do that to that lady some.
Speaker 1: Because me while these other kids they giving selfies with
Speaker 1: their parents, hugs and kisses all the stuff, and me,
Speaker 1: I'm just standing like I do know her?
Speaker 3: I promise, oh my saidness.
Speaker 1: So then later her mother asked her and said, Ami,
Speaker 1: because Amelia is a boundary setting queen Amelia. It is
Speaker 1: who we would all be if we did not if
Speaker 1: we didn't grow up with trauma. So Amelia, she said, Amelia,
Speaker 1: when we come, how come you after you don't know?
Speaker 2: She said, I didn't see you.
Speaker 3: She said that's not true.
Speaker 2: You did see it.
Speaker 1: And then Amelia said, well, I don't want to talk
Speaker 1: about it. She said, oh, well why not? Mommy, I said,
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about it. And if we're
Speaker 1: going to talk about it, I'm gonna you know, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna leave the room. I said, So this is what
Speaker 1: happens when kids don't get beaten's.
Speaker 3: That was the number of times that I've said the
Speaker 3: exact same thing of my dad. I'm like, oh, don't
Speaker 3: judge my parenting. You had it easy. You could go
Speaker 3: grab a belt and all your problem.
Speaker 2: Girl fixed all this.
Speaker 1: So like, so my my friend Linda, who's a counselor,
Speaker 1: said that you want to get I said, well, did
Speaker 1: were we supposed to do? An instant because old school
Speaker 1: says child having that child up and saying who the
Speaker 1: hew you talking to? And then new school parents says
Speaker 1: that you let them have boundaries, and she said you do.
Speaker 1: Here is kind of like how you navigate that. You
Speaker 1: allow her to say I don't want to talk about
Speaker 1: it in the moment, and then you say, understood, but
Speaker 1: tomorrow at three pm, we're.
Speaker 2: Going to talk about it.
Speaker 1: So you reassert yourself as a parent, like we don't
Speaker 1: have to talk about it in this moment because you're
Speaker 1: feeling whatever, But tomorrow or tonight at six pm after dinner,
Speaker 1: we're talking about it. Then you can literally say, like Alexa,
Speaker 1: please set an alarm for six pm to talk to
Speaker 1: Amelia about it. So that way it's like, no, no,
Speaker 1: we're talking about it, but I'm going to give you
Speaker 1: some agency that maybe in this moment you don't want
Speaker 1: to and I said okay, I like that. So then
Speaker 1: later when she came to the house, I was like, Amelia,
Speaker 1: I asked her that. I said, why you know, did
Speaker 1: you see me?
Speaker 2: At first? She said no. I said, well, remember was
Speaker 2: supposed to be truthful.
Speaker 1: She said, okay, I saw you. I said, why didn't
Speaker 1: you say hi back? Do you do you not want
Speaker 1: me to come? She said I did want you to come?
Speaker 1: And I said did you not want me to say hi?
Speaker 1: She was like, yes, I did not want you to
Speaker 1: say hi. I said, are you embarrassed?
Speaker 3: She nodded.
Speaker 1: Now to do with that?
Speaker 3: Embarrassed? What though that there's just someone really excited to
Speaker 3: see her?
Speaker 1: I guess so because you know I'm with I'm the
Speaker 1: auntie with the pictures in the video.
Speaker 3: And are we all doing that? I mean she's only six, No,
Speaker 3: Mammy is still working.
Speaker 4: Yes.
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't care nothing about your job,
Speaker 2: but yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: So basically she admitted that, like I do want you
Speaker 1: to come, I just don't want.
Speaker 2: You to speak to me. So I don't know what
Speaker 2: that means.
Speaker 3: I was like, I mean, yeah, I don't either, although
Speaker 3: when I did whatever not at the Grammys, when like
Speaker 3: she was two or three or I don't know how
Speaker 3: she was, but she's like, and Jay and b are
Speaker 3: just politely clapping, not even over the top, and she's like,
Speaker 3: it's enough, just calm down down. I think there is that,
Speaker 3: Like I do think a lot of kids are like that.
Speaker 3: And I get that from Rio sometimes too. When I'm
Speaker 3: really excited or I'm doing a fun dance, I'm singing
Speaker 3: really loud. It's like mom stopping. I don't know what
Speaker 3: that is, but it sounds normal to me. So, hey,
Speaker 3: I guess girl.
Speaker 1: I was like, so, maybe you don't want me to come?
Speaker 1: She says, no, no, I want you to come. I'm like,
Speaker 1: you just don't want you want me to come?
Speaker 3: And be silent? See how she feels when you don't
Speaker 3: do anything. Just give her the stomach, Yeah, give her this.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be like, I'm gonna look at her,
Speaker 1: maybe wave and just be like maybe not even just
Speaker 1: like make sure she sees me, she knows that I came,
Speaker 1: and just be quiet and then maybe yeah. So there's
Speaker 1: my brown break break from Shady Babies.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was gonna say, what's the title of
Speaker 3: that one? Shady Shady Baby break? Man? I'm gonna do
Speaker 3: a break too. Mine's a little bit well, it's just different,
Speaker 3: but I want to do a break. I don't know
Speaker 3: what that, like the overarching theme is gonna be, but
Speaker 3: I two things happened this week. One this article came
Speaker 3: out on Essence that people are all talking about, and
Speaker 3: say what you will about the quality of the article.
Speaker 3: I used to be a business journalist and I would
Speaker 3: write stories like this. You know, you write like an
Speaker 3: opinion article like that. I understand what it takes to
Speaker 3: like write this kind of piece, and you know, you
Speaker 3: do it a little bit because you know it's going
Speaker 3: to be a conversation starter. And sometimes you know, I
Speaker 3: wouldn't necessarily do this, but I do feel like the
Speaker 3: headline and the style of the article is meant to
Speaker 3: incite a reaction, you know what I mean. So this article,
Speaker 3: if you haven't read it yet, it's on Essence dot
Speaker 3: com by Jasmine Browley. It says it's time to admit
Speaker 3: that being liked is more important than being good at
Speaker 3: your job. With a picture of Amanda Seals, who's been
Speaker 3: a guest on Brown Ambition. Remember we had Amanda Seels
Speaker 3: on the show.
Speaker 2: I know that was kind of a big deal.
Speaker 4: It was.
Speaker 3: I mean, it still is. And I remember I remember
Speaker 3: I don't know if I was talking. Maybe I said
Speaker 3: it live with her or with you at least. But
Speaker 3: I'm like, why do I feel like I'm not supposed
Speaker 3: to like Amanda Seals? Like the Internet seems to make
Speaker 3: me feel like she's done something crazy and wrong, and
Speaker 3: really there hasn't been like one thing Amanda Seeals has done.
Speaker 3: She's just very like, she's extremely opinionated, she's extremely brilliant
Speaker 3: and smart, and you know, she's the kind of person
Speaker 3: who will call out shenanigans when she sees shenanigans. And
Speaker 3: I'm saying that because the homeboys behind me, you know,
Speaker 3: and I completely you know, it's that whole quote like
Speaker 3: well behaved women rarely make history whatever. Like she she
Speaker 3: cares deeply. I think about the issues that she speaks about,
Speaker 3: and she's not one of those people who will thrive
Speaker 3: in a corporate setting at all, because you have to
Speaker 3: have a level of like and to be in a
Speaker 3: corporate setting, It's true, like you do have to be
Speaker 3: personable or at least like be the kind of person
Speaker 3: other people want to work with. That's just what it's like.
Speaker 3: Like a not a rotten egg, but like a person
Speaker 3: in a company or a person on a team who
Speaker 3: is agitating and looking for you know, looking to question
Speaker 3: everything and all that. It disrupts the flow that the
Speaker 3: nine to five lusious clock in and clock out kind
Speaker 3: of mentality that a lot of corporate jobs have. It
Speaker 3: doesn't mean that I don't feel like, you know, someone
Speaker 3: like Amanda. It's not a bad thing. I also include myself.
Speaker 3: I found out that I'm not a corporate girly either
Speaker 3: after a while, because I just get tired of faking
Speaker 3: and like going with the flow so much. But the
Speaker 3: fact that the article like used her picture and you know,
Speaker 3: it was a really kind of a weak article, just
Speaker 3: a weak opinion on how you know, in careers you
Speaker 3: do need to be liked and how your talent is
Speaker 3: not the only thing that matters. And at the end
Speaker 3: of it, I'm just kind of like you're using Amanda
Speaker 3: Seals as an example here, and I think again it's
Speaker 3: to get clicks, because people do feel some kind of
Speaker 3: way about a lot of what she has to say.
Speaker 3: But at the end of the article, it's sort of
Speaker 3: just like left it at Yeah, I can see why
Speaker 3: people don't like her, and it's something we all should
Speaker 3: think about. And like, if if I were a young
Speaker 3: black woman in corporate and you know, in the working world,
Speaker 3: and I read this article, I think the takeaway would
Speaker 3: be nothing. The takeaway would be have opinions and be
Speaker 3: bold and don't be surprised when people don't want to
Speaker 3: work with you. Don't be surprised if you lose opportunities.
Speaker 3: Where had I been writing it? And this is one
Speaker 3: of the reasons why I'm working on my book so
Speaker 3: I can put my voice out there on this. I
Speaker 3: would embrace the idea of collab like needing to be
Speaker 3: a good collaborator when you're in your career and let
Speaker 3: yourself free, like let yourself be free to a certain
Speaker 3: extent from everybody liking you. But if you want to
Speaker 3: be effective and make the impact that you want to have,
Speaker 3: your attitude, your personality, your approach to the work can
Speaker 3: hinder you if you're not going to take into consideration
Speaker 3: the people around you and their thoughts and feelings. And
Speaker 3: that's just like part of being a person in the
Speaker 3: world and trying to work with others' that's the reality.
Speaker 3: I don't think that this necessarily speaks ill of or
Speaker 3: you know, should make us look sideways at, you know,
Speaker 3: just people in corporate and choosing to work with their
Speaker 3: friends and all that. Like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 3: you want to work alongside somebody who is going to
Speaker 3: make you feel decent most of the time. That article
Speaker 3: came out and the second thing that happened is my
Speaker 3: girl who I will continue defending until the day I die,
Speaker 3: Jennifer Lopez j Lo, Jenny from the book. He's getting
Speaker 3: so much hate right now, talk about someone who does
Speaker 3: everything and to be liked and still y'all come for
Speaker 3: her like that. It really is, like it shows the
Speaker 3: other side of this whole Amanda Seals thing. Amanda Seals
Speaker 3: has all these opinions as very provocative. You know, doesn't
Speaker 3: put on a face for you. She's like putting on
Speaker 3: you know, just telling it real, real, and you know.
Speaker 3: And then you have j Loo, who is nothing but
Speaker 3: the image and the brand and the polish and the
Speaker 3: glow and all of those things. Perfection, perfection, perfection. They
Speaker 3: cannot stand her right now. So she came out, Jlo
Speaker 3: came out for while, she went and got back together
Speaker 3: with Ben Affleck. Right then she did this she has
Speaker 3: a new album out I forget what it's called, but
Speaker 3: she did a documentary on Amazon. Well, first she financed
Speaker 3: her own documentary. She spent like thirty million of her
Speaker 3: own dollars to create this music video movie. It's like
Speaker 3: a film, she says, a visual album for all of
Speaker 3: her songs on the album. And then also did a
Speaker 3: documentary about the making of that album, which is a
Speaker 3: model that plenty of pop stars have done. Do the album,
Speaker 3: make it, and then do a documentary about the behind
Speaker 3: the scenes. And I thought she was so brave, like
Speaker 3: say what you will. The music is the album. My
Speaker 3: favorite Jlo album, no is the you know? Was the
Speaker 3: movie like a like're gonna win an Oscar? Like I
Speaker 3: don't know. It was something to watch, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean, Hi buddy. But I feel like now people
Speaker 3: are coming for her, saying that she's trying too hard
Speaker 3: to be Jimmy from the Block. There's this clip in
Speaker 3: the documentary where she's like got her her real hair out.
Speaker 3: I honestly thought she was real. She was way more
Speaker 3: raw and authentic than she needed to be in the documentary,
Speaker 3: Like she took her extensions out and she's like, when
Speaker 3: I wear my hair like this. It just makes me
Speaker 3: feel like little Jenny running up and down the block.
Speaker 3: And there's this TikToker who's like, hey, Jenny up the
Speaker 3: block wants you to go away. The block has sent
Speaker 3: you a season desist. Stop claiming the block. Stop. You know,
Speaker 3: they were saying, like, you're a multi millionaire, go back
Speaker 3: to Beverly Hills, like you haven't lived in there? She
Speaker 3: really did, Yeah, Like the woman is from the Bronx
Speaker 3: like and it's a part of her identity. And it
Speaker 3: just makes me feel like, and you don't get to
Speaker 3: be Jennifer f and Lopez by caring what people have
Speaker 3: to say about you. Because they have been coming for
Speaker 3: her since day one and they still are talking about Ashanti.
Speaker 3: Ashanti's fine okay, and she got paid for the work
Speaker 3: that she did, right, How she can't sing and how
Speaker 3: because she doesn't sing the way that they want, they
Speaker 3: think that she should be singing, that she doesn't deserve
Speaker 3: to have a voice or to use it or to
Speaker 3: make music. And I just want to say, for the record,
Speaker 3: I love a woman who continues to make art because
Speaker 3: she can and use her voice because she can, and
Speaker 3: she has something to say. And I think that takes
Speaker 3: so much guts and so it's used to be so
Speaker 3: brave and so strong to know that you're going to
Speaker 3: get this kind of reaction and then just to do
Speaker 3: your art and make your art anyway, like I will,
Speaker 3: I will, I will die on this hill. I love
Speaker 3: Jennifer Lopez. I love Jenny from the Black, and I
Speaker 3: just think she deserves so much better. And I'm sick
Speaker 3: of the internet culture being like, oh, Brittany, We're so sorry.
Speaker 3: We shouldn't have been so hard on you. Oh Monica Lewinsky,
Speaker 3: we really messed up, didn't we owe Anita Hill? Like
Speaker 3: after you destroy somebody, Yeah, I need a hill, Like
Speaker 3: we should have believed you from the beginning. Me too,
Speaker 3: meet you, blah blah blah blah blah. But then we
Speaker 3: repeat the same cycle. We're just going to abuse a mother,
Speaker 3: a woman, you know, someone's daughter. We're just going to
Speaker 3: abuse her for trying to make art and put some
Speaker 3: love and positivity into the world. Like come, we can't
Speaker 3: have it both ways. I just want to see her
Speaker 3: be embraced. And you can say what you want about
Speaker 3: the art and whether or not it's your kind of
Speaker 3: art and whatever, but I would like a huge brown
Speaker 3: break from women being loved one minute and then abuse
Speaker 3: the next because of the art. What's happening. The show's over.
Speaker 3: We're freaking out now, buck, We're wrapping it up.
Speaker 2: We're wrapping it up. Yeah, no, I agree. I think
Speaker 2: you know, the Internet is not.
Speaker 1: A safe space for most people, and even if it
Speaker 1: is temporarily safe, it's not a safe space for long.
Speaker 1: And so as long as you know that, you know, like,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter how beloved you are, I mean.
Speaker 3: You know, they will bring you to be it and
Speaker 3: may be.
Speaker 2: You know, they'd be dragoned for filth these days.
Speaker 1: So yeah, knowing that, that's why, honestly we should all
Speaker 1: take our social media breaks, because it can be all too.
Speaker 3: Much and they'll just keep and just keep your auntie
Speaker 3: Tiffany has a hard stop in sixty seconds, one second, Okay,
Speaker 3: we just say my last words, yes, ma'am. Anyway, just keep.
Speaker 3: If you're someone who's letting the opinions of others get
Speaker 3: to you, like, wait them out, like, keep doing your work.
Speaker 3: Years will go by, you will like it, just waited out.
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter at the end of the day. Just
Speaker 3: keep doing your art, keep making your keep making your
Speaker 3: voice heard. It doesn't matter if people want to hear
Speaker 3: it or not. Like Amanda Seals is never going to
Speaker 3: stop doing what she does, she shouldn't either. Keep making
Speaker 3: your art, keep saying what matters to you, and you
Speaker 3: will outlast the critics and the TikTok viral moments and
Speaker 3: all that. Bs.
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