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Speaker 1: second dat day. How early do you introduce somebody to
Speaker 1: your friends after you guys have just started dating. It
Speaker 1: takes a while for me to want to introduce people
Speaker 1: to my friends because it's very important to me. So
Speaker 1: if I take a girl around my friends, I means
Speaker 1: I'm finally really into her, and then she can meet
Speaker 1: my friends. And then after meeting them, she goes. They
Speaker 1: all seem like terrible people. I hate them. You should
Speaker 1: never talk to them again, and you can only spend
Speaker 1: time with me from now on. I fall in love
Speaker 1: right there instantly. That's what I look for in a woman. Well,
Speaker 1: George is on the phone today and that's how he
Speaker 1: spent his second date with the girl that he wants
Speaker 1: to call today. He spent it meeting her friends at
Speaker 1: her birthday party. How's it going, George? Good? How are
Speaker 1: you guys doing pretty good? So where'd you meet the
Speaker 1: girl that you want to call today? Well, we discovered
Speaker 1: each other dating app oh, like a tender type of situation. Yep,
Speaker 1: one of those types of situation. Is it tender? Yes? Okay,
Speaker 1: a tender type of situation. It was tender. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't want to claim it right. Yeah. People love doing
Speaker 1: that like an app on your phone and sometimes you
Speaker 1: swipe one way, sometimes you swipe the other way. Yeah,
Speaker 1: one of those. Were you excited about going on a
Speaker 1: date with her? Are you just looking for a hook up?
Speaker 1: I mean it's always excited when you get a match
Speaker 1: on tender, especially your guys think, uh yeah, I was
Speaker 1: excited and we just met for coffee. Okay, So where
Speaker 1: do the friends and birthday party come into play on
Speaker 1: this thing? I mean, I thought we hit it off.
Speaker 1: We really enjoyed our company. We had a conversation at
Speaker 1: the end of the day. She just said, Hey, this
Speaker 1: might seem weird, but it could be fun. I got
Speaker 1: my birthday party this Weekend's gonna be friends there and
Speaker 1: she'd be pretty chill. Do you want to come? That's
Speaker 1: actually an awesome invite for you for a second date.
Speaker 1: Because I don't know, somewhere subconsciously in my head, anytime
Speaker 1: a girl invites me to a birthday party, even a
Speaker 1: friend of mine, him thinking like, oh, she wants me
Speaker 1: to be her present that night? Is that how you felt?
Speaker 1: I took it as a good sign. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I have never thought that invited a guy to my
Speaker 1: birthday party before? All you guys go quickly so much
Speaker 1: that comes to being invited to a birthday party. That's
Speaker 1: what a guy's thinking if he invites you to birthday parties,
Speaker 1: Like that is what I want to unwrap later. Did
Speaker 1: you get her anything for her birthday? Saying, as you
Speaker 1: barely know her, I brought a bottle of wine. But
Speaker 1: that was a good gesture. Yeah, it's a perfect gift.
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? And was she excited to see you? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I felt like I was welcome. I thought I felt
Speaker 1: like I wanted me there. She wanted to invite you
Speaker 1: to her birthday party and show up. It's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you actually shove up? Well, she could have been preoccupied
Speaker 1: with all of her friends and family, like it'd be
Speaker 1: easy to not be able to spend a whole lot
Speaker 1: of time with you. No, No, I got the vibe
Speaker 1: that she was very excited for me to be there.
Speaker 1: How did she introduce you to her friends? This is
Speaker 1: George from tender, or she says a friend of mine,
Speaker 1: you know, or as a guy I'm dating. Even how
Speaker 1: she introduced you, Yeah, I think she said friend, this
Speaker 1: is a friend of mine. We didn't go into details
Speaker 1: about tinder. I think that's a good later. But all
Speaker 1: of her good girlfriends knew, like they all got the
Speaker 1: lowdown before you showed up. Yeah, I got the sense
Speaker 1: as they knew, because whenever she introduced me, they go, oh, yeah, George,
Speaker 1: you're the guy. That's a good sign. That means that
Speaker 1: she's talking about you to her friends. Yeah, where they
Speaker 1: were all in room when she sliped right, Because the
Speaker 1: last thing you want to do is go, this is George,
Speaker 1: this guy I just met, And they go I've never
Speaker 1: heard of you. She hadn't. She's not excited about you
Speaker 1: one bit. So that's a good sign. Yeah. I actually
Speaker 1: met her parents, her parents who were at the party, um,
Speaker 1: and they seem like nice people. We chatted and it
Speaker 1: wasn't as awkward as it should have been. But then
Speaker 1: the next day the text he would be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: what are we gonna do next? And then took a
Speaker 1: long time for respond and when she did, she just said, uh,
Speaker 1: let me pull it up. She said, Hey, I feel
Speaker 1: I need to be honest. I'm not interested in taking
Speaker 1: this any further. Well, you don't. You're not wondering if
Speaker 1: you're not getting a call back from her because she's
Speaker 1: busy or something. You know specifically that she does not
Speaker 1: want to talk to you again. Yeah, and then I
Speaker 1: asked why. If I can ask why and just no response,
Speaker 1: so I have no idea. You seem like, I mean,
Speaker 1: were you social at the party, because I think it's
Speaker 1: always such a red flag if you invite somebody and
Speaker 1: then you have to like babysit them the whole time. No,
Speaker 1: I thought I was. I thought I was making the round.
Speaker 1: I thought I didn't think I offended anybody. So it
Speaker 1: just sounds like you got bad reports from friends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, like that's how I would read it. I
Speaker 1: thought I got along with their friends great. I liked
Speaker 1: their friends a lot, And I don't think I did
Speaker 1: anything crazy like like pull my junk out waving around.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's actually the problem. Maybe that's what you needed
Speaker 1: to do make a really lasting impression. Yeah, Yeah, maybe
Speaker 1: I missed read the situation. Yeah, get hired for all
Speaker 1: sorts of birthday parties in that group. You gotta know
Speaker 1: when it's a party where you're supposed to wait your
Speaker 1: junk out at the end. You have to know that,
Speaker 1: because if you don't, it's just bad form, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? True? All right, true? Well, yeah, we'll
Speaker 1: play a song. Come back, call her and get your
Speaker 1: second date update. All right, thank you, hang on looking
Speaker 1: jubil In the morning, George is on the phone with us.
Speaker 1: He wants to call a girl named Lisa. Today. They
Speaker 1: met on tender, went out for a coffee date. She
Speaker 1: liked him so much she invited him to her birthday party.
Speaker 1: He went there, said he had a fun time, talked
Speaker 1: to all her friends, family, all that good stuff. But
Speaker 1: a few days later he didn't hear anything back, and
Speaker 1: then she texted him saying, I'm not really interested. He's
Speaker 1: curious why and if he did something wrong? George, I
Speaker 1: didn't even think to ask the obvious question here at
Speaker 1: the birthday party? Did you sleep with one of her friends? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Uh no, no, I think i'd remember that. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: there's a follow up to that. Does she have any pets?
Speaker 1: And did you sleep with them? Good? It's you hear
Speaker 1: how these second date updates end up a lot. All right.
Speaker 1: She did have a very cute dog, but no, we
Speaker 1: did not have all right, So from my perspective, everything
Speaker 1: should be good and she shouldn't be blowing you off.
Speaker 1: Are you ready to call her? Yeah? Well yeah, let's
Speaker 1: do it, all right. But if I find out like
Speaker 1: she had a bird or something and you had relations
Speaker 1: with it, I'm gonna be pissed that you lied to me.
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no no no no. I'm just trying
Speaker 1: to make sure we're on the same page. All right.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna die the phone of her right now and
Speaker 1: get her on the phone and get your second Date Update.
Speaker 1: You're ready, Yeah, let's do this. Hullo. Hi, can I
Speaker 1: speak to Lisa? Please her? Hey Lisa, how are you?
Speaker 1: This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Um, Hello, Hello,
Speaker 1: I'm calling you today because one of our listeners emailed
Speaker 1: us and asked us to get you on the phone. Really,
Speaker 1: m It's a segment that we do on our show
Speaker 1: called the Second Date Update. It's where if you go
Speaker 1: out on a date with somebody and then end up
Speaker 1: blowing them off, they email us and ask us to
Speaker 1: get that person on the phone and ask why so
Speaker 1: you recently went out on a date with somebody that
Speaker 1: listens to our show. Um, all right, his name is George.
Speaker 1: I think you would remember going on a date with
Speaker 1: George because you also invited him to your birthday party.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, I didn't. Sounds like regret in your voice
Speaker 1: right there. You have a second to talk to us
Speaker 1: about George, Yeah, I have a second. So he told
Speaker 1: us about how you guys met and he went to
Speaker 1: your birthday party. He thought everything went great, and then
Speaker 1: you sent him a text message saying you didn't want
Speaker 1: to talk to him anymore. Did he do something wrong? What?
Speaker 1: You know what? He was great with my friends, but
Speaker 1: the reactions at the end of the night were just
Speaker 1: not what I expected. Did your friends not like him?
Speaker 1: I thought it was kind of a douche or something.
Speaker 1: It wasn't my friends who reacted about him. It was
Speaker 1: it was my parents. Oh oh, your parents didn't like him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like really didn't like him at all. Really, are they
Speaker 1: like really strict parents. No, they're not really over protected.
Speaker 1: That's why weird that they didn't like this person. What
Speaker 1: did they say to you? Well, they told me he
Speaker 1: asked questions, and they told me he asked my mom,
Speaker 1: how many grandkids do you want? What? Yes, King, I
Speaker 1: don't know. She didn't make it seem like he was joking.
Speaker 1: Was it in context though about something they were talking about.
Speaker 1: How long was he talking to your parents? He was
Speaker 1: talking to them for a long time. I think he
Speaker 1: was trying to impress them or something. But he was
Speaker 1: with them for a while before I got married. My
Speaker 1: mom would not really bring up grandkids, but some of
Speaker 1: them are like, oh my god, I can't wait till
Speaker 1: she final gets married, give me some gran No, No,
Speaker 1: that's not my moment at all. But to ask that
Speaker 1: after like the first time meeting them, and especially we
Speaker 1: just went to coffee once, like we've only been on
Speaker 1: one date, did she get the feeling? I mean, because
Speaker 1: I could see him talking to her just being like, hey,
Speaker 1: do you want grand kids someday? That's cool, yell, But
Speaker 1: if he's like, how many grandkids you want? Because I'm
Speaker 1: about to do work, I'm getting ready to do work tonight.
Speaker 1: With how she felt about it, Yes, that's okay to her.
Speaker 1: But don't you think I mean one question like that
Speaker 1: like it was enough to write him off. No, it
Speaker 1: was the second question that he asked my parents second,
Speaker 1: what what else did he ask your parents other than
Speaker 1: if they want grandkids? He he asked my dad for
Speaker 1: permission to marry me. Shut up that he had to
Speaker 1: have been joking. There's no way he did. He had
Speaker 1: to have been joking, though. No, my dad said he
Speaker 1: was serious. Are you sure your dad's reading it correctly?
Speaker 1: I can't imagine a guy being out technically your second
Speaker 1: date at your birthday party and then asking your father
Speaker 1: for permission to marry you. I wish it had it happened,
Speaker 1: but it did. And is that why you sent him
Speaker 1: a text saying I don't want to talk to you anymore. Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: By the way, I completely support that if that's I'd
Speaker 1: love to know if he was actually joking, though, wouldn't you? No?
Speaker 1: I I mean, I trust my parents, all right. Well,
Speaker 1: I'd like to ask him. And he's actually on the
Speaker 1: other line listening right now, so we can do that.
Speaker 1: Are you serious? Yes? I am. First of all, this
Speaker 1: is being blown way out of proportion, way out of proportion.
Speaker 1: I was having an adult conversation with them, adults about
Speaker 1: adults thing. I don't know right now. This whole situation
Speaker 1: is just confusing. It's really confusing to me too, George,
Speaker 1: did you ask her father if you could marry her?
Speaker 1: It was in the context of a fun conversation, and
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I was just like, hey, man,
Speaker 1: what do you think if I married your daughter? So
Speaker 1: you weren't joking though, because you just didn't deny it.
Speaker 1: Look well, I mean, first of all, I didn't want
Speaker 1: them to think I was just some tinder guy, so
Speaker 1: it's kind of that was some credibility, you know, So
Speaker 1: I thought, well, for this guy to take me seriously,
Speaker 1: I should ask the question. Let's talk about putting me
Speaker 1: in the awkward position of this is my first Like, well,
Speaker 1: I guess second date with you, and I'm meeting your parents,
Speaker 1: but I'm supposed to hold the court for for an hour, okay,
Speaker 1: but you don't ask them to marry me after we've
Speaker 1: only been on one date. It just came up. It
Speaker 1: wasn't I didn't say. I didn't say, hey, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go propose your daughter. I said, hey, you know, down
Speaker 1: the line, what would you think of a guy like
Speaker 1: me marrying your daughter? I don't understand what's so crazy. Look,
Speaker 1: I just turned thirty. I'm in the present company of adults,
Speaker 1: and we're talking about adults thing. Marriage is on everybody's mind.
Speaker 1: You have gone a coffee with this girl, and that
Speaker 1: is it. We hit it off. Yeah, but hitting it
Speaker 1: off is way different than Hey, we're gonna get married, sir,
Speaker 1: can I have your daughter's hand in marriage? I didn't
Speaker 1: ask for her hand in marriage that moment. I asked
Speaker 1: down the line. Oh so it was a future proposal
Speaker 1: that you were thinking about. It was a future hypothetical.
Speaker 1: That doesn't make it any better, George, whether it was
Speaker 1: in the future or not, you don't ask it now.
Speaker 1: I mean, we did hit it off at the coffee shop,
Speaker 1: but it didn't hit off to say, Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: marry this person. Man. I'm just I think you're just
Speaker 1: way too uptight about this whole thing. I'm up tight
Speaker 1: about it. Really. Yeah, well I think it's crazy. Well, okay,
Speaker 1: I guess I'm sorry that I saw a future you
Speaker 1: know together, I'm sorry that makes me crazy. Well, then
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Yeah, Lisa, you should be flattered George wanted
Speaker 1: to marry you after one coffee date. Yeah, that's not flattering.
Speaker 1: Why is that not flattering? Because it's creepy? Okay, I
Speaker 1: guess I just don't understand. I feel like that's like
Speaker 1: a pretty high compliment you could pay somebody. Gude, you
Speaker 1: don't even know her. You just met her, well, and
Speaker 1: she's having me meet her parents. Yeah, but she didn't
Speaker 1: specifically say, hey, come meet my parents. Didn't she just
Speaker 1: ask you to go to her birthday? Yeah? But she
Speaker 1: left me alone with her parents for like an hour.
Speaker 1: I mean you think she would see that and be like, oh,
Speaker 1: so like pissed off that she left you with her
Speaker 1: parents so long. You're like, I'm just gonna screw this
Speaker 1: whole thing up right now. Hey, sir, No, I wasn't pissed.
Speaker 1: I was actually like, Okay, she must really like me.
Speaker 1: She's putting me together with her parents. I never heard.
Speaker 1: What did her dad say to you after you ask
Speaker 1: for her hand in marriage? He just laughed it off,
Speaker 1: and I did too, and I took that as like, oh,
Speaker 1: he likes me. I love to know what he was thinking. Yeah, Well,
Speaker 1: this is normally the point where I ask if you
Speaker 1: guys want to go out on a second date and
Speaker 1: I will pay for it. But instead, George, would you
Speaker 1: like to propose to Lisa right now? I will pay
Speaker 1: for the catering at your wedding. If she says yes,
Speaker 1: please don't. Lisa, don't want free, free wedding catering. I'll
Speaker 1: pay for it. No, no, thank you. Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: I think the moment's passed on that one, didn't you sure?
Speaker 1: I don't know, Lisa, as it passed. Yes, it's definitely passed.
Speaker 1: It was never even there. It's a good point, Lisa.
Speaker 1: Thank you for your time anytime yep. And I'm sorry
Speaker 1: that you're not going to be getting married to George
Speaker 1: anytime soon. Thankfully. If a girl ever asked me to
Speaker 1: meet her parents, I will likely decline. Brooking chubble in
Speaker 1: the morning,