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Speaker 2: My landlord banned me from my apartment because of my

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Speaker 2: roommates lies, but no one believes me.

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Speaker 3: I bang you from breathing.

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Speaker 2: For some backstory, I need to explain how I met

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Speaker 2: my entitled roommate. I had been working at this one

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Speaker 2: restaurant that had many locations, so when my mom decided

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Speaker 2: I was able to transfer my job to a different

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Speaker 4: Okay Storytime suburden. So it was my senior year and

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Speaker 4: I hated everybody at my house and at school. It

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Speaker 4: was finally at my new job that I found a friend.

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Speaker 4: She was my manager and was a few years older

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Speaker 4: than me. I didn't care because now at least I

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Speaker 4: had a friend. There was a lot of drama at

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Speaker 4: that store, and eventually we had gotten closer and had

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Speaker 4: talked about moving in together after I graduated. We hadn't

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Speaker 4: expected that I would lose my job right before I

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Speaker 4: moved in, so my mom and the money my father

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Speaker 4: until I had gotten a job later.

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Speaker 2: Here is the original cast. More will be added along

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Speaker 2: the way. Everyone's names have been changed. Me Duh female roommate, Mila,

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Speaker 2: male roommate, Robert, my boyfriend Frederick.

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Speaker 3: Okay, my roommates moved in weeks before me.

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Speaker 2: I had my room already picked out, though I spent

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Speaker 2: a weekend with Mila cleaning her apartment and moving her

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Speaker 2: most clean roommate, but I let it slide. The restaurant

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Speaker 2: that we worked at put her in one. I threw

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Speaker 2: a result. I ignored it and helped her move in

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Speaker 3: When me and my.

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Speaker 2: Stepdad had moved in, she got up in a huff,

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Speaker 3: I tried to apologize, but she brushed it off.

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Speaker 2: As I moved my things in, she began lighting a

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Speaker 2: not what we're doing. My stepdad didn't say anything, but

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Speaker 2: I moved in the middle of the summer and didn't

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Speaker 2: like October or something. In the meantime, I took care

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Speaker 2: fair warning, I wasn't in the same headspace as I

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Speaker 2: am now, and a lot of my actions during this

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Speaker 2: so please don't judge me too hard. I was a

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Speaker 2: sugar baby just for some spending cash. My mom pretty

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Speaker 2: much paid my bills and my boyfriend would give me gas,

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Speaker 2: money and stuff. I don't agree with it now, but

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Speaker 2: I was comfortable before I started school. I spent my

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Speaker 3: You know, typical stoner housewife stuff.

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Speaker 2: You know, I was just living the unemployed stoner housewife dream.

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Speaker 3: That's a new one.

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Speaker 5: I don't know about that one, The stoner housewife.

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Speaker 3: The stoner housewife.

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Speaker 2: Well, now you're getting the inside scoop, new character unlocked.

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Speaker 2: So remember when I said I didn't have a lot

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Speaker 2: guess that would have been fair if, like, we liked

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Speaker 2: Mela is allergic to bread, which cut down on a

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Speaker 3: That doesn't sound wrong at all. Well, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like she's like, yeah, And he would always

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Speaker 3: It sounds like he's doing exactly what he needs to do.

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Speaker 2: Robert would tell us that since he was the person

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Speaker 2: doing mine and Meala's laundry and other things. Here's where

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Speaker 3: See the floor.

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Speaker 2: She used sheets to cover her windows, but rarely opened them,

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Speaker 2: So I would go into the mess and clean up

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Speaker 3: Okay, so now you're cleaning too much?

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Speaker 2: Yep, all right, I just meant like, maybe do a

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Speaker 2: don't do your disgusting trash hoarder roommates laundry.

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Speaker 3: And clean her room for her. This is true, that's

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Speaker 2: However, the mess seemed to flow over into the other rooms.

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Speaker 2: She had a shelf of old perfumes and other bathroom

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Speaker 2: I would even do her hair and she would do mine.

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Speaker 2: After I dyed my hair pink gone. With a days

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Speaker 2: October rolls around and I get a job at the

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Speaker 2: I would be going to work. Oh I forgot that.

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Speaker 2: It was Oh peace job.

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Speaker 3: I forgot about that too, Loki. I thought you just

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Speaker 3: I didn't. No. No, I'm literal understanding, literal sugar baby and.

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Speaker 2: car got hit, So I guess it's okay for Frederick's

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Speaker 2: car to get hit instead, Okay. Tension between them only

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Speaker 2: escalated when Frederick got kicked out and was CouchSurfing between

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Speaker 3: This wasn't bad. We just avoided Meela like the plague.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure there were a lot of little things that

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Speaker 2: They had plans to go out, and I helped Mila

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Speaker 3: Those are the memories of that.

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Speaker 5: They're all fatty in my day, back in my day,

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Speaker 3: We're the golden Boys. That's right, Golden boy, that was

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Speaker 2: So I get there, thirty minutes, drive and hang out

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Speaker 2: She tells me that she's locked herself out. I asked

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Speaker 2: I later found out that she had left her keys

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Speaker 2: a day. That's not possible, I'm miss true, but it

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Speaker 2: was worth it. I was happy, but still my roommate

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Speaker 2: she would make comments about how she felt like I

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Speaker 2: If I was home when she got home and I left,

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Speaker 3: I had told Mela this in early May.

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Speaker 2: It was at this time that we talked about Mela

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Speaker 3: I offered to pay the fees. Then everything she flipped.

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Speaker 3: I didn't care. I was pissed.

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Speaker 2: It was also around this time that I met mine

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Speaker 3: He lived about.

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Speaker 2: Forty minutes away from me when I lived in my house,

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Speaker 2: One time I got pulled over. As a result, I

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Speaker 2: Now I'm in jail. Oh god, Well I'd forgotten to

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Speaker 3: Oh god, Okay, he's op an a hole. I feel

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Speaker 5: It's just with everything that Opie does, like you're enabling

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Speaker 2: She did say that this is not her anymore, oh anymore?

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Speaker 5: She's like I've changed. Oh yeah, but vexed Moxie says

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Speaker 5: op is chaotic. Hotel, That's for sure. It seems like

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Speaker 3: Hat on her disarm. Yeah, but that that is definitely

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Speaker 2: Opie also did say he's like, I have no friends

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Speaker 3: And you wonder why you have no friends because you're

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Speaker 2: I don't know if there's a subreddit about the best

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Speaker 2: experien speriences in jail, but if there is, boil boy,

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Speaker 2: do I have a story for it. Anyways, this set

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Speaker 2: I packed up as much as I could in two hours.

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Speaker 2: Most of my belongings are in trash bags in places

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Speaker 3: I threw most of my stuff and moved into my

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Speaker 2: I had to skip out on utilities that month, and

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Speaker 2: my rent was paid by my deposit. Both of my

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Speaker 2: roommates were pissed off, but Mela at least had the

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Speaker 2: so later, I take my key and go to my house.

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Speaker 2: The front door was unlocked, like always. I got all

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Speaker 2: including clothes, makeup, and other things. I never did get

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Speaker 2: my shape tape back. I took what I could back,

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Speaker 2: window panes to my china cabinet, floor mats for my car,

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Speaker 3: Hi. There's so many questions for op. I had too

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Speaker 3: many plates. I couldn't fit the.

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Speaker 2: Cat, namely, why didn't you take your cat? And what

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Speaker 2: happened in jail? Too many plates? But you know what,

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Speaker 2: we don't have too many of what episodes? Oh, full

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Speaker 2: episodes with stories like this, we don't have enough. We

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Speaker 2: just keep making more of them, and you can go

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Speaker 2: listen to them on Spotify or Apple Podcasts or wherever

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Speaker 2: you get your podcasts from. Just search Okay story time

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Speaker 2: and you will find the backlogs. You'll find the archives,

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Speaker 2: and there you can peruse them. Is OPI an Ale?

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Speaker 5: I think it is the like cleaning and enabling and

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Speaker 5: been like, Okay, you know what, this is your mess.

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Speaker 5: I'm not gonna deal with it anymore. Literally, yeah, take

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Speaker 5: it on and just go live your life. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: Definitely your roommate Mila's trash can for stealing your stuff though,

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Speaker 3: that's super whack.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully you can get that back somehow. Me me me

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Speaker 2: a little clandestine mission. Yeah, I kind of am in agreement. Later,

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Speaker 2: I got a text from my old landlord telling me

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Speaker 3: I'm going back to the house.

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Speaker 2: Apparently Mila had told him that I broke in and

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Speaker 2: frantically to find a place for me to put my cat,

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Speaker 2: but she had already offered him up to anyone that

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Speaker 3: Heartbroken, I blocked her. I heard nothing from her again.

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Speaker 3: Fast forward a.

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Speaker 2: Couple months, I met my new job and I get

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Speaker 2: a series of texts from her new roommates about how

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Speaker 3: I just finally blocked them. Thanks for reading, and that's

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Speaker 2: My roommate made my freshman year horrible, but she got

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Speaker 2: what she deserved in the end.

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Speaker 3: I spelled calling it. Oh.

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Speaker 2: This is from last year, my freshman year of college,

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Speaker 2: and I was told to Reddit would love this crap.

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Speaker 2: Not my first post, but it's like my third, so

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry for any errors and I hope this is

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Speaker 2: the right forum for this.

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Speaker 3: Some basic information.

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Speaker 2: My dad is a professor at the college I attend,

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Speaker 2: ad junked and teaches the core classes everyone is required

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Speaker 2: to take.

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Speaker 3: This comes in later, by the way. This comes from user.

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Speaker 2: Rin Maru thirteen, and you can submit your stories.

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Speaker 2: Hey, yo, so I was really hyped up to be

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Speaker 2: starting college like most people are. Who isn't excited to

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Speaker 2: course I was excited to make new friends, specifically hoping

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Speaker 2: freshman year roommate. Now I was going to a local college,

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Speaker 2: larger ones. So since I didn't know anyone, I had

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Speaker 2: a roommate randomly assigned to me enter entitled the Roommate.

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Speaker 2: Let's call her Jasmine. As soon as I got her number,

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Speaker 2: I texted her to ask about her interests and try

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Speaker 2: you're planning to spend a year living with someone. Pretty

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Speaker 2: much from the start, I got weird vibes from Jasmine,

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Speaker 2: things started getting weird fast. For example, I told her

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Speaker 2: don't think that's weird, Yeah, but OP says, okay, weird

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Speaker 2: and I drew up our roommate agreement for him, and

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Speaker 2: she asked if she could FaceTime her boyfriend from time

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Speaker 2: I was totally fine with that and agreed since I

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Speaker 2: it turns out that when she said FaceTime from time

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Speaker 3: Put your headphones on and whisper. Make it so I can't.

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Speaker 5: Just facetiming you because my freakin' remate.

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Speaker 3: It is like, really freaking I fight. I hate them,

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Speaker 3: where it's like, yeah, she's still I would leave in

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Speaker 2: I would have to deal with her talking to her boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Because they slept with FaceTime on.

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Speaker 2: It got to the point where I did not feel

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Speaker 3: It was a rough time.

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Speaker 2: Jasmine got fed up with my desk being piled with

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Speaker 3: What a whack move?

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Speaker 2: That is the wackest move, Like you're gonna get whacked

442
00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:10,600
Speaker 2: for pulling something that whack?

443
00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:13,760
Speaker 3: Whoa you be sleeping with the fishes? No, No, not

444
00:19:13,840 --> 00:19:17,359
Speaker 3: like that. I meant like papers.

445
00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:20,600
Speaker 2: You know, like ast like an exhibitionist boxing match. I

446
00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:23,120
Speaker 2: got a confused text from my dad, who was under

447
00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:25,280
Speaker 2: the impression that she had asked me a lot of

448
00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:27,320
Speaker 2: times to clean up and I just ignored her, when

449
00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:30,679
Speaker 2: in reality I had never once been asked. Let it

450
00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:34,560
Speaker 2: be known that Jasmine never cleaned messas either. The room

451
00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:36,880
Speaker 2: was covered in clumps of her hair. I know it's

452
00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:40,280
Speaker 2: hers because she had black hair and I'm blonde, and

453
00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:42,320
Speaker 2: she never swept. It got to the point where I

454
00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:45,000
Speaker 2: would do all the cleaning for roune checks, yet she

455
00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,119
Speaker 2: complained about me the one time I didn't clean my

456
00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:50,879
Speaker 2: desk during a depressive episode. Other things that happened I

457
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:53,520
Speaker 2: will list below because describing them all in detail would

458
00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 2: take too much time. Left her TV on full volume

459
00:19:56,119 --> 00:19:58,360
Speaker 2: and then fell asleep with the remote hidden in her

460
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:01,959
Speaker 2: blankets somewhere the TV he was primarily controlled by that remote,

461
00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:03,879
Speaker 2: and I could not find the power button and slept

462
00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:05,520
Speaker 2: on a couch in the common area that night.

463
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:08,920
Speaker 3: Oh low key, I feel like.

464
00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:11,720
Speaker 2: You failed the survival check on that one. Like, unplug

465
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 2: the TV from the wall.

466
00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:15,800
Speaker 3: What are we doing? Pull the plug out of the

467
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 3: easiest thing to do.

468
00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:19,720
Speaker 2: You can just go right up to the monitor and

469
00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:22,880
Speaker 2: go and pull that right out and it's off. Never

470
00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:25,719
Speaker 2: actually brought the items for the room she had promised

471
00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,760
Speaker 2: to bring. No rug no cleaning supplies, no nothing. Number

472
00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:31,520
Speaker 2: three told her boyfriend she wanted to flush my petfish

473
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:34,320
Speaker 2: because he wasn't a pretty beta fish. I loved fish

474
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:37,200
Speaker 2: and hearing the band fish and I heard this while

475
00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:40,640
Speaker 2: wearing headphones that she thought were playing music. I kept

476
00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,600
Speaker 2: a close eye on my fish after that. She also

477
00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:46,000
Speaker 2: broke up with her boyfriend every few weeks wailed about

478
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,640
Speaker 2: it loudly to her friends on guess what FaceTime? Oh

479
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:52,439
Speaker 2: so surprising, and then they would get back together that

480
00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 2: same night. Not the worst thing ever, But if you're

481
00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:56,520
Speaker 2: going to scream at your boyfriend over the phone, please

482
00:20:56,520 --> 00:20:58,440
Speaker 2: don't do it while I'm studying in the room. For

483
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 2: she sent me text saying I wasn't a good person,

484
00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 2: that she had never been rude to me, and that

485
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 2: I should come correct. When I spoke to her after

486
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:07,640
Speaker 2: I finally got up the nerve to confront her about

487
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:10,639
Speaker 2: her actions, she did the bad touch and talked dirty

488
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 2: to her boyfriend while I was in bed and she

489
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 2: thought I was asleep. Needless to say, I didn't sleep

490
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 2: well at all while that was going on.

491
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 3: Also, ope, time to go. Hey I'm away, IM not asleep. Hey,

492
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:22,239
Speaker 3: I can hear you.

493
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 2: Stop. I went to my RA multiple times and asked

494
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:27,719
Speaker 2: her to speak to Jasmine about this. She brought us

495
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:29,720
Speaker 2: in a few times for us to talk things out,

496
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,640
Speaker 2: but that was just a time for us to vent

497
00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 2: our feelings and for the RA to send us on

498
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:36,359
Speaker 2: our way without actually doing anything to help, and without

499
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:38,480
Speaker 2: her saying that I was in a toxic environment.

500
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 3: I didn't have grounds to.

501
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,399
Speaker 2: Move rooms, so I was stuck in this situation and

502
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 2: nothing changed. This was also around the time when that

503
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 2: story was going viral about the girl rubbed used tampons

504
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 2: on her African American roommates things, and considering that I

505
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,160
Speaker 2: attended a southern college in the heart of the Bible

506
00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 2: Belt with a predominantly white student population and Jasmine was

507
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 2: the only black girl on hall, I wasn't sure how

508
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:03,040
Speaker 2: far the crazy would extend, and I didn't want to

509
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:04,880
Speaker 2: anger her to the point that she decided she would

510
00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:07,919
Speaker 2: accuse me of being towards her. Looking back now, I

511
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:10,560
Speaker 2: know that wouldn't have made sense. Most of my friends

512
00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:13,239
Speaker 2: at the time were and still are African American and

513
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 2: all knew what was going on and would have vouched

514
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:16,240
Speaker 2: for me.

515
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 3: But freshman year me was terrified. All of this came to.

516
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:22,479
Speaker 2: The ground conclusion the week before finals. I lent her

517
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,920
Speaker 2: money earlier in the year, twenty bucks, and I had

518
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 2: a night out with a friend that I wanted cash for,

519
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 2: so I asked her to pay me back over text,

520
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:32,160
Speaker 2: since I kept forgetting and wanted it in writing. Here's

521
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 2: how it played out me. Hey, Jasmind, just wanted to

522
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 2: let you know that I'm going out tonight and I

523
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 2: would appreciate it if you could pay back that twenty

524
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 2: dollars I lent you in January.

525
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:45,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'll do it, but I don't have the money.

526
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 3: I know for a fact that she has a job

527
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 3: on campus that gives a paycheck every other week.

528
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 2: Well, you've had months now, and I get that money

529
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 2: can be tight, but I've given you a lot of

530
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 2: time to pay me back.

531
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 3: So please either venmo me or leave it in cash

532
00:22:57,960 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 3: on my desk. No reply, And.

533
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:03,639
Speaker 2: Then my phone rings and it's Jesmine, so I answer it.

534
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 3: Me, Hey, who the F do you think you are?

535
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 2: Me?

536
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 5: Will you have no right to text my number asking

537
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 5: me for money I don't have. I haven't paid in months,

538
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 5: I don't have the money. Don't ever text me again.

539
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:22,199
Speaker 5: You don't have the right to speak to me that way.

540
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 5: You should speak to me in person about this.

541
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,160
Speaker 3: Click immediately hangs up.

542
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:31,240
Speaker 2: I immediately break down and cry for a while before

543
00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:33,720
Speaker 2: calming down and deciding that I'll talk to her again

544
00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 2: after that night.

545
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,360
Speaker 3: Also, this is twenty dollars, Like that was a lot

546
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 3: of college student. I'm broke. Listen, man, I've been in

547
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 3: the spot where I can't afford twenty bucks.

548
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:45,240
Speaker 2: But it's like I just mean more of like the

549
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 2: you don't have the right to message me. It's like,

550
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 2: this is not that serious. Yeah it's twenty bucks.

551
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 3: Nah.

552
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 5: She's being very calm, like she's saying what she needs

553
00:23:58,080 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 5: to say is like, hey, just like leave it on

554
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 5: my asking whatever. But I feel like her communication did

555
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 5: not cross the line.

556
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 3: No, it didn't get to the point where she deserved

557
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 3: to be like told off. No way.

558
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 2: If she wants me to talk in person, then I'll

559
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 2: do that too.

560
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 3: I just want my money back.

561
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 2: So when she gets back, I give her some time

562
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 2: and then hesitantly bring up money again. She's a lot

563
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 2: more calm this time, but still evasive. Oh Jasmine, Oh yeah,

564
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 2: I get that. But I haven't paid in months.

565
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,119
Speaker 5: They messed up something with my information, so I'm waiting

566
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 5: on a bunch of paychecks.

567
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 2: Me.

568
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 3: Oh man, that's I'm sorry.

569
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:36,439
Speaker 2: But you have been going to bars every weekend with

570
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,359
Speaker 2: your friends, so you seem to have money for that.

571
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 3: So I really just like my twenty dollars. Why the

572
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,879
Speaker 3: f are you all up in my business like that?

573
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 3: That is so rude.

574
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 2: Well, you're talking on the phone all the time, so

575
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 2: I hear like.

576
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:56,080
Speaker 5: Listening in on conversations. Is he dropping you are so rude.

577
00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 5: That's what every one of the halls thinks you are.

578
00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:01,399
Speaker 5: Everyone says you're roote. That's why no one likes you

579
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 5: or talks to you. That's why you don't have any friends.

580
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 3: Ouch. I knew I didn't have more than one or

581
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,159
Speaker 3: two friends on the hall, but that immediately triggered my

582
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 3: social anxiety and made me think back over my actions

583
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,240
Speaker 3: and worry that the blame really was on me. So

584
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 3: I'm trying not to cry now, me raising my voice.

585
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:20,399
Speaker 2: Well, maybe if you actually used headphones and didn't talk

586
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,959
Speaker 2: on FaceTime all hours of the day, I wouldn't know

587
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:27,560
Speaker 2: all your business. But you're pretty effing.

588
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 3: Hard to ignore. What the F did you just say

589
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 3: to me?

590
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:33,679
Speaker 5: I have a boyfriend and being in a long distance

591
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 5: relationship is hard, and talking on FaceTime helps.

592
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 2: I know I'm in a long distance relationship too, but

593
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 2: I make sure I talk when you aren't in the

594
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 2: room or I leave the room, and I use headphones

595
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:53,360
Speaker 2: for privacy, and I don't talk.

596
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 3: All the time.

597
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 5: Well, you must have a terrible relationship because I've never

598
00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 5: seen you FaceTime, and.

599
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 2: Yet we are going to two years strong, while you

600
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:03,200
Speaker 2: can't even last three weeks without a breakup.

601
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,360
Speaker 3: At that moment, my neighbor from the next room came

602
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 3: over and knocked and asked for us to quiet down,

603
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 3: and you guys shut up please, no okay.

604
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 2: I got up and left my room, going to try

605
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 2: to find somewhere quiet to cry. The girl next door,

606
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 2: an actual angel of a girl, saw me and went

607
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,679
Speaker 2: with me downstairs, bringing the ra and sitting with me

608
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 2: and bringing me tissues while I sobbed and spilled everything

609
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 2: about Jasmine to her and comforting me, saying that no

610
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 2: one thought I was rude at all, and that I

611
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 2: was liked by many people on the hall.

612
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:32,679
Speaker 3: I was just not around to hear it.

613
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 2: My Ra finally decided to escalate things to her boss,

614
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 2: who talked to me and Jasmine separately, and even though

615
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,879
Speaker 2: she could not do anything for us, she promised to

616
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 2: give me priority housing next year and pulled strings to

617
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 2: get me into the nicest housing on campus, where I

618
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 2: have sweet style living with my own private room, and

619
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 2: I'll have that for the.

620
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 3: Rest of my college career.

621
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 2: Jasmine paid me my twenty dollars because I had her

622
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 2: agreeing in writing that she owed me and could not

623
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:01,680
Speaker 2: deny the fact, and then I blocked her and deleted

624
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 2: all connections to her. After she moved out, I was

625
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 2: ready to forget all about her and move on. There's

626
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 2: no real victory here. This isn't pro revenge or anything,

627
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 2: but I do have some closing info you might find satisfying.

628
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,440
Speaker 2: So remember how I said that my dad was a

629
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 2: professor teaching a required class. Well, for some reason, Jasmine

630
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 2: decided to take his course, meaning that at the end

631
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,639
Speaker 2: of the semester, I got all the details from my

632
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 2: dad regarding her behavior in his class.

633
00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 3: By the way, we're gonna tell your dad on you.

634
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 3: If you don't listen to full episodes with stories like this,

635
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:34,159
Speaker 3: what are you gonna do?

636
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 2: We will be informing the faculty, oh God, and they're

637
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 2: gonna report back to us whether or not you've gone

638
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 2: to Spotify or Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

639
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 3: From and have searched.

640
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:49,159
Speaker 2: Okay, story time, because that is all you need to

641
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:54,239
Speaker 2: do to find a bottomless well of juicy episodes that

642
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 2: you can just draw from at any moment. I never

643
00:27:58,320 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 2: had to deal with an Raai, didn't go to universe

644
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 2: like that, so I can't speak. But at the same time,

645
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,959
Speaker 2: I can say that like clearly you needed more evidence,

646
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 2: So gather more evidence. You should definitely be able to

647
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 2: be like, hey, I just can you not be on

648
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 2: the phone all the time, Like it's distracting I'm trying

649
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,199
Speaker 2: to focus on studying. Or it's like or can you

650
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 2: just use headphones? And if she's like no, absolutely not,

651
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 2: then it's like I'm gonna, I guess talk to Ari

652
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:22,679
Speaker 2: about this because it's like, I feel like I need

653
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 2: a new roommate. I feel like we're not getting along. Yeah,

654
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 2: turns out Jasmine missed so often it did absolutely no

655
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: homework and did so poorly on exams that he had

656
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 2: no choice but tough fail her.

657
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 3: And when I checked the student registry this.

658
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:39,479
Speaker 2: Year, she is no longer attending the school because if

659
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 2: I had to guess, I would say it's because she

660
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 2: never went to classes and spend most of her study

661
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 2: time on a phone.

662
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 3: As for me, I am still at this school.

663
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Speaker 2: I have three great suite mates, with two more good

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Speaker 2: friends moving in next year. I have a solid GPA,

665
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Speaker 2: a healthier mental state, a stable relationship, have kept my scholarship,

666
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Speaker 2: and most importantly, I've grown a spine with the help

667
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Speaker 2: of therapy, anxiety medication, and realizing my own self worth.

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Speaker 2: So I'd say I came out on top. Karma's a

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Speaker 2: bee to bees, and that is the.

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Speaker 3: End of that story.

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Speaker 5: Hey John Ogi host here, We're gonna get back to

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Speaker 5: this episode, but a quick three minute break of.

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Speaker 3: Ads from a sponsor's keeping the show alive.

674
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Speaker 2: I caught my mother with my married co worker, so

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Speaker 2: I exposed him to his wife.

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Speaker 3: Ain't nobody gonna date mom, Mama.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like your mom was exposing herself to your coworker.

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Speaker 2: H I know this title sounds weird, but hear me out.

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Speaker 2: This event took place before the pandemic. I had worked

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Speaker 2: at this job at least six years before I finally

681
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 2: left its toxic environment. Yes, I got along with just

682
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 2: about all of my coworkers. I also won't lie I

683
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 2: lived with my mom, which I will only say this

684
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 2: is because of a couple of things.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes.

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Speaker 2: From user fire E Neu Princess on the r slash

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime suburn. So my stepdad passed away from lunk

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Speaker 2: cancer in twenty eighteen, having passed seven months after he

689
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 2: was diagnosed in twenty nineteen. She and I got the

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Speaker 2: house we currently live in Now, when this event took place,

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Speaker 2: I worked nights at my job at the time. I

692
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 2: would normally be home around six am due to not

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Speaker 2: driving at the time, and it was too cold for

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Speaker 2: me to use my e bike, so I would get

695
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Speaker 2: rides from coworkers or bike depending on the weather. This

696
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 2: is Canada, so it can get cold. My asthma makes

697
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Speaker 2: it harder to bike in cold weather.

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Speaker 6: Oh and dependent on where you live in Canada, you

699
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Speaker 6: can't afford house. It's like two thousand dollars rent per person.

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Speaker 3: Well really easily.

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Speaker 5: Wow.

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Speaker 2: This was my day off, so I was hoping to

703
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Speaker 2: just relax and sleep, though that wasn't meant to happen.

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00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 2: It seemed as I was woken up by some sound

705
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Speaker 2: above me. I live in the basement at my house,

706
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Speaker 2: as it's a finished basement and my bedroom is under

707
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Speaker 2: the living room of the house. But I just chalked

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Speaker 2: it up to mom watching some TV. So I get

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Speaker 2: out of bed and go to grab my mom's bedding

710
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:55,680
Speaker 2: that was in the dryer. As I was getting up

711
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: the stairs and open the door, that's when I see

712
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Speaker 2: the dog.

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Speaker 3: Another thing I should point out.

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Speaker 2: The dog Buddy was my stepdad's dog who he would

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Speaker 2: refer to as his furry son. This dog kept my

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Speaker 2: mom saying when my stepdad passed away, and was always

717
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: comforted by this dog in everything that came into her life.

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Speaker 2: We had Buddy three years after my stepdad passed, before

719
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Speaker 2: he was diagnosed with lung cancer. Like my stepdad, we

720
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: still miss the dog now. It was strange for me

721
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 2: to see this dog in the kitchen. The basement door

722
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 2: leads into the kitchen instead of the living room or

723
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Speaker 2: my mom's room. He was practically glued to my mom's side,

724
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Speaker 2: So I asked, what are you doing out here, Buddy?

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Speaker 2: He's just wagging his tail at me. So I go

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00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 2: towards the living room door and saw that the door

727
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 2: was shut. Again, that confuses me, so I just mentally

728
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 2: shrug and opened the door.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Mom, I'm bringing up your.

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Speaker 2: H I stopped when I see a very familiar face

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Speaker 2: on the couch.

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Speaker 3: With my mom. Oh opee, this is stop right there, Mom.

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Speaker 3: I know who he is. Frank, forget the go to

734
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Speaker 3: my house. Get out, Frank, go see your own wife.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't clicking for me as to what was going

736
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 3: on at first, because again I just woke up from

737
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Speaker 3: doing a close and I didn't really get a heck

738
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Speaker 3: of a lot of sleep. How do you know him?

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00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 3: She asked, and the guy's eyes were wide since I

740
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 3: walked into the living room, I work with his wife.

741
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Speaker 3: Mom is in confusion and kind of leans back a little.

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Speaker 2: She asks him your ex wife, and she seems a

743
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 2: little skeptical. Before he could even answer, I said no, no, no,

744
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 2: his current wife, and then I inserted the coworker's name. Mom,

745
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 2: of course, is in shock, and again I don't clue

746
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 2: in as to what was going on just talking. As

747
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 2: I walk further into the living room with her betting

748
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Speaker 2: and set it on a chair, I pet buddy and

749
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Speaker 2: make sure he goes outside to do his thing, and

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Speaker 2: then I go back to my living room in the basement.

751
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 2: I'll clue you in. I know exactly why that betting

752
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 2: was in the washing machine. They're getting it ready. Two

753
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 2: people nappers anonymous.

754
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, platonically napping.

755
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 2: Platonic napper that yeah, my neighborhood has a platonic nap club.

756
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Speaker 3: Is your mom? Nope.

757
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 2: The guy was kicked out a while later, though before

758
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 2: he begged my mom to tell me not to tell

759
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 2: his wife about this because she's possessive, so for months

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Speaker 2: I kept my mouth shut.

761
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 3: Though that wasn't the only thing she told me.

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Speaker 2: She had told me that the reason why Buddy was

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Speaker 2: kept out of the living room was because the moment

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Speaker 2: this guy, let's call him Jay, walked into the house,

765
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Speaker 2: but he growled at him. This dog loves everyone he meets,

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Speaker 2: but he growled at this guy.

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Speaker 3: Good dog's no. Yeah, that dog was like.

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Speaker 2: You're married. I can tell that alone shocked me when

769
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Speaker 2: my mom told me that. Well, it turns out that

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00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: Jay also knew my mom's cousin and her cousin's husband.

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Speaker 3: They went to high school together.

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Speaker 2: Only found that out when Mom mentioned that was part

773
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:48,600
Speaker 2: of their conversation before I came up the stairs, when

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00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 2: Mom also told me that he was there because they

775
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 2: met on Tinder and that this was a day. Oh

776
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:57,240
Speaker 2: how I wished I'd known that sooner. I would have

777
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 2: kicked his behind out of the door. My set because

778
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Speaker 2: if there's one thing I hated.

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Speaker 3: It was cheaters.

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00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 2: My mom had been cheated on before and she hates them,

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Speaker 2: so she was thankful that I came up when I did.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, that's really sweet. Yeah, your mom was like, ugh,

783
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 3: he was about to make me in a fair partner. Disgusting.

784
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 3: But there's still more to this story.

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Speaker 2: As I said, I kept my mouth shut for months,

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00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 2: not telling my coworker and we'll call her l Months

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00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 2: after the date happened with my mother, I was working

788
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 2: with Lindsay. As we worked, I had heard her saying

789
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 2: that she was being kicked out of her townhouse. I

790
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 2: was confused and asked what happened. Lindsay told some of

791
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 2: us that jay tried to od and she had managed

792
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 2: to help him in time to save it. Oh my gosh,

793
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 2: so she had pretty much saved his life. Yet how

794
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 2: does he repay her by trying to get her kicked

795
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 2: out of the house. So when I heard that, I'm

796
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 2: just like, screw this, no repercussions. Then I told her

797
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 2: everything that happened, how he met my mom, to him

798
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 2: being at my house, to when I came up, everything.

799
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Speaker 3: When I was done, she just stared at me.

800
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Speaker 2: A mixture sure of shock as well as I'm not

801
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 2: really sure what the other look was, but she looked

802
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 2: like this had happened before, which she confirmed. It turns

803
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 2: out Jaye cheated on her throughout their entire marriage. They

804
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 2: have five kids. Her oldest is at least twenties or thirties,

805
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 2: I don't remember. Also, he was the possessive one, not Lindsey.

806
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 2: Whenever they quote unquote separated, he was always allowed to

807
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 2: see other people but not her and made dang sure

808
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 2: of that.

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Speaker 3: Dude, Jay, sounds this guy's a nightmare. Does sound like

810
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 3: a nightmare. This guy's horrendous.

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Speaker 2: Once she had everything I told her, she had finally

812
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 2: been pushed because with what I told her, it seemed

813
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 2: that it was far worse than what he's done in

814
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 2: the past. Their marriage was just toxic from what I

815
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 2: learned later on, not just with destroying her property such

816
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:48,239
Speaker 2: as her phone, but he hacked into her Facebook to

817
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 2: make posts. I don't know all the details, but what

818
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 2: I do know is that there is now a restraining

819
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 2: order against him. Yeah good, this is wild. Jay needs

820
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 2: to go deep into the oort cloud, deep into the

821
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:03,239
Speaker 2: oort cloud for j He even tried to tear her

822
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 2: down by saying that no man would want her because she.

823
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 3: Was used and old.

824
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 2: O no, no, no, no, black hole now black hole for JA. Yeah,

825
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,399
Speaker 2: mind you, she's not old. She's still young and has

826
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 2: a lot of life in her. Then he told her

827
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 2: that she's too old to get a union job. Now

828
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Speaker 2: you really crossed the line.

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Speaker 3: Come on, do old the work in the union. Come on, dude,

830
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 3: you gotta tell me I'm do all the work in

831
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 3: the union. He's agist. Come on. She proved him wrong

832
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 3: on all accounts. There we go. She got herself a

833
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 3: good man.

834
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, got a good paying job I'm gonna assume in

835
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 2: the union.

836
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:37,320
Speaker 3: And now she's.

837
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 2: Even lost weight. Hell, she's doing a dang good job

838
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:42,399
Speaker 2: living her life right now. But there was one thing

839
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 2: that I had asked her after I told her everything,

840
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 2: I said, Lindsey, you said I look just like my mom?

841
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 3: Right? She said, yes, you do.

842
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 2: I had posted pictures of me with my mom on

843
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:55,760
Speaker 2: Facebook from my mom's fiftieth birthday, and Lindsay had commented,

844
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 2: just how much my mom and I look alike.

845
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 3: I'm her clone, to say the least.

846
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 2: Her husband had met me many times in the past,

847
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 2: because he would sometimes bring Lindsay coffee or bring her

848
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 2: the debit card that she forgot. So how is it

849
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: that your husband didn't even notice how much I looked

850
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 2: like my mom when he met her? I asked her words,

851
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:15,239
Speaker 2: I can't help but smile at the thought of such

852
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 2: a thing. Quote, because he's an effing idiot. I laughed

853
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 2: a little at that. Even their son, who also worked

854
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 2: with us, told me that his dad isn't that smart

855
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 2: or bright. So you can tell that it had to

856
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 2: be true if his own wife now ex wife and

857
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 2: son would tell me the same thing. And by the way,

858
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you the same thing that you

859
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 2: may have heard before, which is, if you want to

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Speaker 2: stories like this. And before we finish it off, because

866
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:56,840
Speaker 2: there is a little bit left, Yeah, this guy's dumb.

867
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's I mean, this guy's dumb. I just hated

868
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 3: not that's just how I do. Not pick up on that.

869
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,360
Speaker 2: If they are like clones, that's one thing. But like,

870
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 2: I don't know, he's just not a very he's not

871
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 2: very aware. He seems to have lived his life not

872
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 2: needing to be very aware because he can just be like, well,

873
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:13,959
Speaker 2: we're separated, but I get to see whoever I want

874
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 2: and you can't, and it's just like, yeah, whatever, I'll

875
00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:18,320
Speaker 2: just take the easy No you can't.

876
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 3: It's like black and white. Yeah, I wonder, Like I feel.

877
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:23,920
Speaker 2: Like this is a cautionary tale of like when people

878
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:26,439
Speaker 2: start cheating on you, it's time to go. Yeah, because

879
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 2: it's like there was comments about how you cheated on

880
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 2: her the entire marriage, and it's like I get it,

881
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,760
Speaker 2: Like you're probably doing it for the children, I would assume,

882
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 2: but like, I don't know. I don't think it's a

883
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 2: good thing to have a relationship like that, sort of

884
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 2: inform your kids on what's right and what's wrong. Anyway,

885
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 2: I'm gonna finish this off. When I had even told

886
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,760
Speaker 2: Lindsay how he knew my mom's cousin and her husband,

887
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 2: Lindsay had told me that it was most likely that

888
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 2: he would have tried to get lucky with her as well,

889
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 2: though that wasn't going to happen anyway, because my mom's

890
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 2: cousin is still very much in love with her husband.

891
00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 2: They're high school sweethearts. So this guy tried to get lucky,

892
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 2: only for it to ruin his marriage. Karma at its finest,

893
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 2: but I still wished I had said something to her sooner.

894
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 3: I won't lie.

895
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 2: That is my only regret with this, but I'm at

896
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 2: least happy that she got out of that toxic marriage

897
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 2: now living her best life without that absolute dumkey. And

898
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 2: that is the end of that story. But don't go anywhere,

899
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 2: because we got another one coming up right now.

900
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 3: My ex cheated on me with my friend. Then he

901
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 3: cheated on her too. Hey, just playing the classics over here.

902
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:35,720
Speaker 6: A two for one deal. The tea from this story

903
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 6: has finally finished brooming and now I feel comfortable sharing

904
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 6: it with our community. There was a lot that happened,

905
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 6: so please bear with me. The characters fake names me

906
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 6: female thirty one, my ex boyfriend Matt thirty three, Sadie

907
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 6: the other woman female thirty four. By the way, this

908
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,360
Speaker 6: comes from Siren's song twenty five on the r slash

909
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 6: Okay story tom So, I've brought it so back in

910
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:00,879
Speaker 6: twenty twenty three, I met Matt on a dating set.

911
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 6: He was funny, a Disney nerd, and kind of cute.

912
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 6: He wasn't my usual time, but I thought, what deck,

913
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 6: Maybe I should try something different. We started messaging and

914
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 6: eventually met up in person for a brunch date before

915
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 6: I had to go to work. The next day, we

916
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 6: met again because he was flying out to Oregon to

917
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:20,800
Speaker 6: visit his aunt. I work at an airport. We continued

918
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 6: messaging while he was away and continued seeing each other

919
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 6: when he returned. A few months passed and our dates

920
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 6: turned into nights at my place since he was working

921
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 6: in the state right next to mine, similar to if

922
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 6: I lived in Kansas and he was on an assignment

923
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 6: in Missouri. At the end of May, I finally felt

924
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 6: safe enough in the relationship to finally sleep with him.

925
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 6: He made sure I felt sure in my decision and

926
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 6: made sure to get my consent, and that meant everything

927
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 6: to me. And this continued with my occasional dates that

928
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:55,920
Speaker 6: I planned, including my favorite idea of going to Barnes

929
00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 6: and Noble and buying books, not going to lie That

930
00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:02,719
Speaker 6: was a great idea I had. Eventually, I asked.

931
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 3: If he could give me a ride to the airport.

932
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 6: As my mother and I were going to Disneyland for

933
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 6: my thirtieth birthday. He said yes, but there was a

934
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,360
Speaker 6: small pause, but I didn't see anything out of the

935
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 6: ordinary with that. He got to my apartment later than

936
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 6: I expected, but he said he was running late because

937
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:24,240
Speaker 6: he was helping his family set up his grandmother's birthday.

938
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,280
Speaker 6: The night, we watched Coco and fell asleep soon after.

939
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 6: When he dropped me off at the airport, he seemed distracted.

940
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 6: While in LA He didn't respond much, but I thought

941
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 6: that was due to him finishing his assignment with the

942
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 6: military thing he was doing. Our last day at Disney

943
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 6: not the last day of our trip. It was Wednesday,

944
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 6: and we were there still until Saturday. Was when he

945
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 6: broke up with me via text, and here it is verbatim.

946
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, but I think it's time for us to

947
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 6: part ways. It was nothing you did wrong. I am

948
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:59,320
Speaker 6: moving and I am unwilling to take this relationship any further.

949
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 6: I am so slorady to hurt you, and I hope

950
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 6: you have a good life. Goodbyope after you drive her

951
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 6: all the way to Disneyland from Missouri.

952
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's pretty not good timing.

953
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 2: And maybe he just couldn't couldn't hold it in anymore,

954
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:14,319
Speaker 2: couldn't hold it in at all?

955
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:15,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, let her know.

956
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 6: So an eight month relationship ended in one text, and

957
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:22,439
Speaker 6: I got all that just as we were leaving Disneyland,

958
00:42:22,640 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 6: it was great. The rest of the week in LA

959
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 6: was beyond painful. My mom was more than happy changed

960
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 6: the plans we had due to the unexpected development At home.

961
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 6: That night, I contacted a friend from home to tell

962
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,280
Speaker 6: her what happened. I noticed that Matt had blocked me everywhere,

963
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:41,919
Speaker 6: so I had my friend do a little research on him.

964
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 6: That is when she noticed that his relationship status had

965
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 6: been updated to a relationship with Sadie. That was when

966
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 6: it was revealed that he had been cheating on me. No,

967
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 6: I had another friend reach out to her since I

968
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:58,560
Speaker 6: couldn't find her due to him blocking me, and also

969
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 6: I was more than a little broken. We conversed a

970
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:05,280
Speaker 6: little while I was on vacation, but eventually I asked

971
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 6: her to reach out when I got back home so

972
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 6: I could try to make the most out of the

973
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 6: rest of my time away before I came back to

974
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 6: the drama. She did respect that after getting home, she

975
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 6: did reach out and we communicated a little bit. Come

976
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 6: to find out, they had been together for a month

977
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 6: and we're moving in together while I was on vacation.

978
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 3: Okay, so.

979
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 2: I should have known better than to trust a Disney adult.

980
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:33,440
Speaker 6: At one point, my eggs tried to say that I

981
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 6: had ignored him saying no the night before I left,

982
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 6: when in reality, he initiated that night. It got to

983
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,760
Speaker 6: the point that Sadie was going to stay with Matt

984
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 6: and ignore the fact that she was the other woman. Obviously,

985
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 6: bagging a cheater is worth bragging about, as our Queen

986
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 6: would say. In October, I started therapy and tried to

987
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:55,760
Speaker 6: move on. The only thing that could make me smile

988
00:43:55,920 --> 00:44:00,360
Speaker 6: through the darkest days were okay storytimas videos. Fast forward

989
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 6: to January, I am finally able to look back at

990
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 6: the trip with nostalgia instead of dread. The very next day,

991
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 6: I got a message from Sadie which I read on

992
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 6: my final break from work. I'm afing dumb lass. I

993
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:17,960
Speaker 6: stayed with him, I moved to city name with him,

994
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 6: and he freaking cheated and left me and then moved

995
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 6: back in with his mom and literally abandoned me in

996
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 6: his dumb last town. I'm so sorry I didn't listen.

997
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 6: So you know, remember the early.

998
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 2: Days of how he was cheating on his girlfriend to

999
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:36,239
Speaker 2: be with you, and now those are the days that

1000
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 2: you get to have of him cheating on you with

1001
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 2: some other girl, like, isn't it you know it's all

1002
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:42,720
Speaker 2: full circle?

1003
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:45,760
Speaker 3: It's all full circle, dude? Or should I say full

1004
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:48,719
Speaker 3: circle because that's what you are? Ooh, part of the

1005
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 3: full circle. You're a circular.

1006
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 6: It was in two messages that she sent, and I

1007
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:56,439
Speaker 6: lost it in a fit of laughter, because karma comes

1008
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 6: for everyone. We spoke for a few days over messages

1009
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 6: and it got to the point that she wanted to

1010
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 6: meet up. I responded, as as much fun that would

1011
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 6: be to me, you were still the person he cheated

1012
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 6: on me with. I don't think that meeting would be

1013
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 6: good for my mental health. We did become friends on

1014
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 6: social media and interacted on there very so often, and

1015
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:17,359
Speaker 6: Matt kind of hated that fact. A few months go

1016
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 6: by and Sadie is in a new relationship with Will

1017
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 6: and I go on vacation with my mom to Saint Louis,

1018
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 6: life is good and the silence of peace is ruined

1019
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 6: by a message from Sadie.

1020
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 3: She cheated on Will with Matt.

1021
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:33,240
Speaker 2: Okay, so she's completing this circle of stupidity here. According

1022
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 2: to Sadie, Matt messaged her that he was wrong to

1023
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 2: cheat and he still loved her and whatnot, like that

1024
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 2: they slept together, and he told her he lied and

1025
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 2: he didn't love her.

1026
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 3: He just wanted to sleep on her.

1027
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:51,399
Speaker 6: Oh wow, wow, Okay, okay, here's the craziest part. Will

1028
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 6: eventually forgave her, and of course with this new development,

1029
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 6: she needed to tell me. A few weeks go by

1030
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,360
Speaker 6: and I get one word and message from her f

1031
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:05,720
Speaker 6: and a picture right after that of four positive pregnancy tests.

1032
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 6: Oh that's right, this bee was pregnant and she had

1033
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:17,479
Speaker 6: no idea who the baby daddy was. Ah, I would

1034
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 6: be pulling my hair out if I was Will right now.

1035
00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 2: If I was any one of these people, I'd be

1036
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 2: losing my brains.

1037
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 6: Dude, you don't have to do this to yourself. With

1038
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 6: everything that was going on, I continue to fill in

1039
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:33,839
Speaker 6: my therapist in all the drama, and my coworkers, and

1040
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 6: no one could believe what was going on. Sadie continued

1041
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 6: to keep me up today on what was going on.

1042
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 6: At one point she thought she had a miscarriage. It

1043
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 6: was just too early to find a heartbeat. But when

1044
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 6: she told me Matt, his response was, well, we're doing

1045
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 6: karaoke if you want to come over. I've tried to

1046
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 6: distance myself from the drama because I didn't want any

1047
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 6: part of it.

1048
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 3: Yet Sadie kept me in the loop.

1049
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 6: I think mainly because I was one of the few

1050
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 6: people who knew about the baby daddy drama online. She

1051
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 6: made it seem like Will was the father, yet the

1052
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 6: way that she was talking to me the baby was

1053
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 6: actually matts.

1054
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 3: You don't have to be friends with this hot mess.

1055
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:12,839
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1056
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 6: There's a thing called blocked, and you can put someone

1057
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 6: on that list and they're blocked.

1058
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:20,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, or you can just be like, hey, I don't

1059
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 2: want to talk about this stuff with you.

1060
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 3: It makes me viscerally uncomfortable. If that's the case.

1061
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 6: At least she was going to try to gain full

1062
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:31,320
Speaker 6: custody of the child and get him to pay child support.

1063
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,919
Speaker 6: She was worried he was going to try and use

1064
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 6: her mental health struggles against her, and based on the

1065
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:40,280
Speaker 6: fact that she told Matt she had cancer, she didn't.

1066
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 6: I'm not sure he was going to try and fight

1067
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 6: for custody. She actually asked if I could be a

1068
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:50,880
Speaker 6: character witness for her if needed, and tell my story

1069
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 6: to show that Matt would be a bad parent. Basically,

1070
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,280
Speaker 6: she was going to use the child as a weapon

1071
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 6: to hurt Matt. If the child was actually his. No,

1072
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 6: that's just gonna show how much more of a mental

1073
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:05,760
Speaker 6: illness you have if you use Opie as a character witness.

1074
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 2: I just think it's insane to be like, hello, home

1075
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: wrecking victim, give me your character be a character witness

1076
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:12,920
Speaker 2: for me.

1077
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 3: Please.

1078
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 6: Eventually, Sadie moved in with Will in their hometown. She

1079
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:21,279
Speaker 6: shared bump updates. It wasn't until the six month mark

1080
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,720
Speaker 6: it actually looked like she was pregnant and not fat

1081
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 6: and all that. Jazz I just stopped responding to her

1082
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 6: messages and she got the message to keep me at

1083
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:33,320
Speaker 6: arms link until I got the invite to the baby shower.

1084
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 6: I didn't go because I had to work and I

1085
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:38,320
Speaker 6: wasn't going to miss work for a baby shower for

1086
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:41,120
Speaker 6: someone who caused me so much pain. But I did

1087
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:43,239
Speaker 6: find out what the name of the kid was, and

1088
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:46,600
Speaker 6: it's bad. I'm not gonna share it to keep it anonymous,

1089
00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:49,640
Speaker 6: but whatever you're thinking, it's probably worse. And the theme

1090
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:52,400
Speaker 6: of the shower was raccoon or as I like to

1091
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:55,400
Speaker 6: call it, trash pandas she had the child about a

1092
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 6: month early and the father is mad.

1093
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 2: Wow who shout out to everyone who got that right

1094
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Speaker 2: on their paternity bingo card.

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Speaker 6: The baby is fine, just in the nick you and

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Speaker 6: Will is trying to get periental rights through the court.

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Speaker 6: No idea how that's going. But not my monkeys, not

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00:49:14,160 --> 00:49:16,279
Speaker 6: my circus. But you know what circus you can go

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Speaker 6: to is you can listen to full episodes with stories

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Speaker 6: like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your

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00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,840
Speaker 6: favorite podcast app. It searchs okay, storytime for more stories

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Speaker 6: like this. We got a little bit more.

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Speaker 3: What is happening? This is just strange to me that

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00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 3: op has continued to be involved in this because the

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00:49:33,680 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 3: affair partner has become her like social media, like, oh,

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Speaker 3: let me fill you in. Oh, I'm into the DMS

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00:49:40,280 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 3: filling you in on my stuff. Wow, why are we

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Speaker 3: doing this? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's an energy drained to like entertain this stuff and

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00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,560
Speaker 2: to have it take up space in your brain.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, there were some things that I might have forgotten

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Speaker 6: or really omitted from the story as it spanned about

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Speaker 6: fifteen to eighteen months from breakup to now. I just

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00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,399
Speaker 6: shake my head whenever I think about how how much

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00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 6: my life has changed and how much I personally have

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00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 6: grown from this experience. Here's too, hoping my life is

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Speaker 6: never this eventful again.

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Speaker 3: Cheers.

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Speaker 2: Edit to ad he broke up with me the day

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Speaker 2: after my birthday. Hey, well you know you dodged a

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Speaker 2: bullet there.

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00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,479
Speaker 3: You really did. Oh my gosh, you did.

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Speaker 2: Not want to be the one having a bragg galiga

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Speaker 2: or whatever whoever this kid is.

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Speaker 6: Also, Will should not get parents a warrants because if

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Speaker 6: he does, we'll Matt not be able to pay child

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Speaker 6: sport anymore.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't know. I just know Will needs to leave.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Will needs to get it, really needs to get out

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00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:38,240
Speaker 3: of that relationship. He's not being valued in that relationship

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Speaker 3: at all. That's crazy. Well, you know what else is crazy.

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Speaker 3: That's the end of that story. We got another one

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Speaker 3: coming right up. Hey, it's Sam. We're gonna get back

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Speaker 3: to these stories.

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Speaker 2: My narcissistic ex boyfriend cheated on me, so I executed

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Speaker 2: a petty revenge.

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Speaker 3: Just free you ooo.

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00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 2: My ex is a classic narcissist in disguise. It took

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00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 2: him three years of pretending to be normal before he

1143
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 2: let them ask slip. Once he was bored and realized

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00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:15,040
Speaker 2: he couldn't easily manipulate me. It got very nasty, very fast.

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00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:17,200
Speaker 2: I won't get into all the terrible things he did

1146
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 2: or said. It's all been said before by countless women

1147
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,759
Speaker 2: out there, and it's not worth rethinking it when the

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Speaker 2: rest of the story is so much more fun. By

1149
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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user Demi Guys on the

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00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:29,840
Speaker 2: r slash okay storytime subreddit. There were a few little

1151
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:32,600
Speaker 2: petty things in the immediate aftermath, such as going home

1152
00:51:32,680 --> 00:51:35,240
Speaker 2: an hour into my workday to empty out the house

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00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 2: of everything I had ever paid for, which was about

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00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:39,320
Speaker 2: ninety percent of our stuff.

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00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 3: I had found out that he hadn't been.

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00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:44,840
Speaker 2: Paying my health insurance for three months, which had triggered

1157
00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 2: a realization that it was probably no longer safe for

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00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 2: me to live with him. While we sorted out logistics

1159
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 2: as originally planned. That day of sweat and rage packing

1160
00:51:53,719 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 2: had left him dumbfounded and scrambling, because an empty home

1161
00:51:56,880 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 2: that is empty save for a sofa and dust is

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00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 2: not a good look to prospective dates.

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Speaker 3: But the best fun came about two months after that.

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00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 2: I had suspected that he had cheated in the past,

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00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 2: but not at the time. It ended It was two

1166
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 2: months post breakup, and we were being somewhat amicable as

1167
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 2: I was awaiting him to repair some damage in our

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00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 2: rental house so the real estate would release me from

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00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 2: the freshly renewed lease. He had moved a new woman

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Speaker 2: in five weeks after we split.

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Speaker 3: Oh, which was not a surprise to me.

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Speaker 2: The man needs to be fonned over to survive gosh,

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Speaker 2: and I had had some further petty fun when I

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00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 2: had to threaten to move back in when he had

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00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 2: slipped on keeping up rent payments. He didn't want to

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Speaker 2: give up the beautiful house and had agreed to pay

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Speaker 2: at all. I had just paid the equivalent of notice.

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Speaker 2: But overall we had stayed friendly for his daughter, and

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00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 2: I had feigned some empathy when he lost his job unexpectedly. Then,

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00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 2: out of the blue, I got a Facebook message from

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00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 2: a person whose name I knew. Let's call her Bell

1182
00:52:54,320 --> 00:52:56,640
Speaker 2: for reasons that will be clear, but I hadn't ever

1183
00:52:56,719 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 2: met her.

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00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 3: She was his coworker out of state.

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Speaker 2: He was forty at the time and she was twenty two,

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00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,759
Speaker 2: and her message was basically a flood of information and

1187
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 2: apologies for having an affair with him and breaking us up.

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00:53:09,400 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 2: He had been spicy texting her across state lines and

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00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 2: even faked a work trip and paid flights to go

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Speaker 2: see and spicy sleep with her, despite me paying bills

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00:53:21,120 --> 00:53:24,680
Speaker 2: for his car and child because he was broke. The

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00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 2: gist of Bell's message was that he made her fall

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Speaker 2: for him. She ended her four year relationship to be

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00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: with him, and then he stole money from his work,

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00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 2: dumped her, and got them both fired by implicating her

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Speaker 2: in the theft.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, he's the guy who's like, I'm taking

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Speaker 3: you down with me. I don't care. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 3: she's got crabs in a bucket.

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Speaker 2: Man, he's got no money, he's got no prospects except

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00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 2: for this twenty two year old coworker that he's actively

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00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 2: neglecting his child to go and see.

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Speaker 3: Yi.

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00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 4: Wow.

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00:53:53,160 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 2: Then he had, of course, moved in with a whole

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00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 2: different woman two weeks later.

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Speaker 3: An absolute mess of a man, this one.

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00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 2: But I mean, honestly, he's gotta be hot, right, asked.

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00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 3: He's gotta be hot.

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00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,400
Speaker 6: If he doesn't have money though or looks like he has.

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00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 2: Exactly he's got no money, which is why he asked

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00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:10,359
Speaker 2: him money.

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Speaker 3: Really hot, I told Belle.

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00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 2: She didn't owe me anything, and she needed to worry

1215
00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:17,280
Speaker 2: more for herself and maybe her ex if she thought

1216
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:20,200
Speaker 2: that was something to repair. I basically told her, you're young,

1217
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 2: just learn from this, and one day it'll just be

1218
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 2: a fuzzy memory. I then told her I wanted only

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00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 2: one thing from her, which was information. I asked, at

1220
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:32,840
Speaker 2: which date did your communication with him switch from friends

1221
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 2: to more than that?

1222
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 3: Belle's answer confirmed what I knew.

1223
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:39,319
Speaker 2: This trifling man cannot end something without securing his next

1224
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:43,279
Speaker 2: move and his next spicily charged dopamine hit. So he

1225
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 2: started up a text fest with her two days after

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00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:49,680
Speaker 2: we had signed a refresh on our lease for twelve

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Speaker 2: more months. He had attempted to trap me into funding

1228
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 2: the rent if and when he couldn't, with every plan

1229
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:58,400
Speaker 2: to break up with me. It was classic, calculated and

1230
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 2: evidenced financial abuse, especially when you add on failing to

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00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 2: pay the health insurance of a partner with chronic illness

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00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 2: who's sending you money each month to pay it. I

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00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 2: went from amicable to red Hayes's fury at that moment,

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00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:13,799
Speaker 2: and began plotting some very quick moves to ensure I

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00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 2: never had to speak to that man again. I thanked

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00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 2: Belle for the info and further encouraged her to move

1237
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 2: on with her life. I then contacted the real estate

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00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:23,080
Speaker 2: and told them I was giving them three days to

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00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:25,359
Speaker 2: inspect the damage repairs and sign off on the least

1240
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 2: change they'd been dragging their feet, or I would go

1241
00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 2: to my psychologist and get the paperwork to be removed

1242
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 2: anyway under fairly new domestic abuse laws citing financial abuse only.

1243
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,359
Speaker 2: Of course, I wasn't out to make up lies. The

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00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 2: real estate leapt into action the next day. I guess

1245
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:43,399
Speaker 2: paperwork and seeking legal advice on new legislation is never

1246
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 2: worth it for agencies like this. I'm not sure what

1247
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:47,360
Speaker 2: they told him to get him to agree to the

1248
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:49,760
Speaker 2: inspection the next day, but I was shopping for groceries

1249
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 2: when they emailed to say I was officially off the lease.

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Speaker 3: Let's go.

1251
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,479
Speaker 2: I literally put my half full grocery basket down, left

1252
00:55:56,520 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 2: the store, drove home, and went to action. I wiped

1253
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:03,320
Speaker 2: him off every social media channel, block, delete, block, delete,

1254
00:56:03,360 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 2: I even tackled the ones you don't think of, like

1255
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 2: LinkedIn and my unused Tumbler. Everything blocked except his phone number.

1256
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 2: I then messaged all my friends to tell them that

1257
00:56:12,440 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 2: we are no longer amicable. He was a liar and.

1258
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:16,280
Speaker 3: A cheat and a thief.

1259
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 2: And whilst I wasn't going to tell them who to

1260
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:21,239
Speaker 2: keep as a friend on social media, I would appreciate

1261
00:56:21,360 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 2: it if they never breathed my name in his presence,

1262
00:56:24,719 --> 00:56:28,920
Speaker 2: let alone responded to any queries he might have about me. Ever, again,

1263
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 2: they were great about it, by the way. Then I

1264
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,160
Speaker 2: went to the local post office and sent him a

1265
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:36,040
Speaker 2: single package with two items in it. One the necklace

1266
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 2: that he bought me for Christmas, so it was super obvious.

1267
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:42,879
Speaker 2: I sent the package and two a single lego minifigure

1268
00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 2: of Bell from Beauty and the Beast that I had

1269
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 2: ordered express from eBay on the day I found out

1270
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 2: about his little affair with bell Ooh, that tiny doll

1271
00:56:54,320 --> 00:56:57,360
Speaker 2: was a simple message, portrayed without a word quote.

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00:56:57,440 --> 00:56:58,319
Speaker 3: I know about Bell.

1273
00:56:58,560 --> 00:57:00,480
Speaker 2: I know you lost your job, and if you so

1274
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:02,919
Speaker 2: much as utter a word in my direction, I will

1275
00:57:02,920 --> 00:57:07,040
Speaker 2: tell everyone, including your long suffering parents, that your employer

1276
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:10,719
Speaker 2: sacked you for five grand of theft, not whatever dumb

1277
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 2: excuse you gave them. I knew that the subtle knowledge

1278
00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:15,440
Speaker 2: that I could tell his parents would sting the most

1279
00:57:15,600 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 2: his Dad is the only person on the planet he respects,

1280
00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:20,560
Speaker 2: which I know because he's the only person of any

1281
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 2: gender who was never the subject of my ex's constant,

1282
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:27,920
Speaker 2: prolific man's planning. I received one text message from him

1283
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 2: the day he received the package. It said, your stuff

1284
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 2: is in your letterbox. He had returned both items, which

1285
00:57:33,600 --> 00:57:35,520
Speaker 2: I tossed in the trash on my way back to

1286
00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:38,400
Speaker 2: the house, grinning from ear to ear. His acknowledgment of

1287
00:57:38,440 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 2: it meant that I had got to him and he

1288
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:42,040
Speaker 2: had been dumb enough to show it. It was a

1289
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 2: cherry on top I didn't even expect, and I walked

1290
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:46,960
Speaker 2: right into the house to celebrate over.

1291
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:48,320
Speaker 3: A whiskey with my new roommate.

1292
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 2: My ex hasn't spoken a single word to me in

1293
00:57:50,560 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 2: the five years since. I know it kills him that

1294
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 2: he would have to jump through hoops to keep track

1295
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 2: of me these days, and whilst he might tell future

1296
00:57:57,720 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 2: victims I'm crazy, my complete lack of presence or interest

1297
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 2: in his life makes that lie hard to maintain. My

1298
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 2: psychologist told me that I had handled him in a

1299
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:08,800
Speaker 2: textbook perfect way for cutting off a narcissist.

1300
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:09,600
Speaker 3: And she was super proud of me.

1301
00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 2: I was proud of me too, and it has been

1302
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:13,959
Speaker 2: fun to finally tell my story. And by the way,

1303
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 2: you can hear stories just like this one. All you

1304
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:21,080
Speaker 2: gotta do is search up Okay story Time on your

1305
00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:24,960
Speaker 2: podcast platform of choice, whether that's Spotify or Apple Podcasts

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Speaker 2: or iHeartRadio, whatever floats your boat. There's a bajillion stories

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Speaker 2: just like this. All you gotta do is search up

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime.

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Speaker 3: Search it. So before we finish the story, we've got

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Speaker 3: some edits here.

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Speaker 6: I see the play by play she did, but I

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Speaker 6: want to know each step that she took and what

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Speaker 6: it did to disarm the narcissists in this scenario. The

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Speaker 6: psychiatrist said it was a perfect textbook play.

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Speaker 2: Normally I don't support the petty revenge, but it feels

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Speaker 2: like everything that Opie did in this story was kind

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Speaker 2: of like right on the money. It's like it didn't

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Speaker 2: really go over the line. It didn't like it didn't

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Speaker 2: you get into a territory where I'm like, all right,

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Speaker 2: you're just kind of like you're hurting your own mental

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Speaker 2: state more than anything. Seeing the necklace and then the

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Speaker 2: little Lego figurine, that's like, that's so perfect, yo. And

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Speaker 2: then he like gave it back, being like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I put your stuff in the letterbox.

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Speaker 3: You just threw it in the trash. It's like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's where. Yes, yes, dude.

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Speaker 6: One time my ex had a bunch of hoodies I

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Speaker 6: gave her. She sent them back and she put a

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Speaker 6: picture of us in there, and I washed all of them,

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Speaker 6: didn't even look through it, and in the washer there

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Speaker 6: was like fragments of the picture like around the washer,

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Speaker 6: and I was like, oh, it feel bad.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a that's a strong vibe, sending like

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Speaker 2: a sentimental photo with hoodies that don't belong to you anymore.

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Speaker 3: It's like, what are we doing here?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I sent her jars.

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Speaker 6: I was gonna make a jar of every month we

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Speaker 6: were together, with like little letters in it. And I

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Speaker 6: sent her jars back.

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Speaker 3: Like here's your Mason jars. Can I get my hoodie? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'll trade you six jars for three hoodies. That's kind

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Speaker 3: of what happened. I was watching. All right, let's finish

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Speaker 3: this story. Note number one.

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Speaker 2: I've left out a lot of things and changed some

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Speaker 2: details to keep this as private as possible. Because the

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Speaker 2: women he moved in straight after is by all accounts,

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Speaker 2: lovely and eventually escaped, though with.

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Speaker 3: Her own trauma. I'm sure I only found this out

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Speaker 3: through mutuals, and I blocked her right along with him

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Speaker 3: for my own sanity.

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Speaker 2: Girl, if you see this, I never hated you. I

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Speaker 2: moved on from him so fast. I only feared what

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Speaker 2: would happen to you. I hope you are doing great,

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Speaker 2: as I developed a friendship with a couple of his

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Speaker 2: exes who were total saints in helping me through it,

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Speaker 2: and his daughter has stayed in touch and she has

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Speaker 2: grown up to be wonderful.

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Speaker 3: Note number two.

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Speaker 2: My life is infinitely better now, and the shift started

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Speaker 2: within days of our split.

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Speaker 3: Says a lot, doesn't it.

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Speaker 2: Less than one month after the breakup, I got a

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Speaker 2: job that doubled my salary, the effects of which my

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Speaker 2: ex's jealous, unemployed eyes got to see in real time

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Speaker 2: in the weeks before I cut him off. I've moved

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Speaker 2: to a whole new city six months later, and I've

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Speaker 2: been with my current amazing man for nearly three years.

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Speaker 3: He treats me like a princess. Yeah, and that is

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Speaker 3: the end of That's still a perfect ending.

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Speaker 6: That is a perfect ending.

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Speaker 2: You went from the slimy slugman to the nightmare shiny

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Speaker 2: hero boy.

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Speaker 3: Well, let's see on that story. That is the end

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Speaker 3: of that story in this episode. So if you love us,

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Speaker 3: make sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.