WEBVTT - Call Me! 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:14.800 It's I do a Part two with your celebrity mentor 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:18.000 Kelly Clin mets On. So I'm talking to one of 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:21.520 my producers, Feather today and we are talking about a 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:24.119 guy that they set me up with Amy Sugarman and 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:26.480 had their Monday set me up with this really great guy, 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:28.560 and I can't wait to tell you every thing. 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:31.960 I Kelly have there. 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:37.000 So first of all, we have to dive in because 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.720 I believe you had a phone date with mister Tennis. 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:43.960 And if you don't know who mister Tennis is or 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:46.479 what we're talking about, you definitely need to go back 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.240 and listen to the last episode where we gave all 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:52.240 the intel on that. But okay, so first of all, 0:00:53.440 --> 0:00:58.440 you had your phone date with mister Tennis. Tell me everything. 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.760 Okay, So miss stro Tennis, we were supposed to talk 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:04.360 last night. I was working until like eight thirty and 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:06.240 we were supposed to talk last night. He's in LA 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:08.720 and I'm in New York and he was like, no problem, 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:11.160 So hoop number one. I was like, you have a 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:13.760 certain amount of time to talk to me. No problem, 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:16.160 he called. I had my phone on silent because I 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:18.760 was doing a podcast, so my phone on silent, so 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:22.839 I didn't see his call, and I was like watching 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:26.360 like some TV show and I looked at my phone 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:28.280 and I was like, I'm just going to text him. 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.440 And it was literally like twelve forty five in the 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:33.320 morning here, and I'm just like, hi, sorry, I mister, 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:35.120 your phone call my you know my phone. I was like, 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:36.960 I just want to let him. I just wanted to 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:40.680 let him know that I was responding because he had 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:42.360 made the effort and I wanted him to know, like, 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:45.039 you know, I'm a I'm a I'm a lot of things, 0:01:45.040 --> 0:01:47.280 but I'm not a jerk, and so like I'm going 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.800 to just respond and be like, hey, sorry, my phone 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:53.000 was literally on silent, but I'm up, so if you 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:56.840 want to talk. And then I was like talk question mark. 0:01:57.240 --> 0:01:58.960 And then I'm like I just got to call him. 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:00.600 So I called him left to have a. 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:02.880 Message, so then he didn't answer. 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:06.480 He didn't answer. But this is something I never ever ever. 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.360 First of all, I'm not a phone person. I'm a 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:12.720 texting person, so you know, this is like so out 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.480 of my wheelhouse. But I was just like it's fine. 0:02:14.880 --> 0:02:16.720 And then I was like, let's talk tomorrow morning. 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:20.000 Wait wait, wait, go back did you leave him a 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.760 message when you called him on the phone. 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:28.360 Yes, And I said, let's speak tomorrow morning because I 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:32.400 have to leave for to go skiing at eleven you 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.600 know New York times, And so he was like, okay, 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:41.960 I'll call you at seven thirty LA time. I was like, wow, okay, 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.400 Like it's the holiday week, it's a big week for people. 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:47.480 Most people are off, and I just thought it was 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.119 really great that he was just like hoop one, number one, 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:54.440 hoop number two, like didn't care, like it's just like 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:55.359 a problem. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:03:00.160 I also really liked the pace of communication. Right, he's 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:04.200 not leaving you on red, he's not not returning you 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.840 know all those kind of tropes that people think that 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:08.560 you have to do in the dating scene. You have 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:11.360 to wait three days to call somebody back, or wait 0:03:11.400 --> 0:03:13.920 two hours before you respond to a text. He's not 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:15.760 doing any of that, you know what I mean? Which 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:19.240 I love. I love this, So way to go, mister Tennis. Okay, 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:21.639 so tell me then what happens. 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:26.880 So we start to talk, and he's very you can 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:29.760 tell immediately he's a very educated human just by the 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:33.320 way he talks, how he talks the subject matter. 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:35.440 What did you think of his voice. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.320 When you heard his voice on the other end of 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:42.840 that call, Was it like deep and sexy? Was it like, 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:45.560 I don't know what did he sound like? 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.960 You can tell that he talks a lot on the phone. 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:55.880 He's got a great like game on the phone. Okay, charismatic, 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:59.680 very easy on the phone. Again, like I'm a Texter, 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:01.920 Like I can text you and till you're blue in 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:04.480 the face, but to talk to me on the phone, 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:08.360 I'm like, oh my god, Okay, I like it for 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:12.760 some reason, you know, because he was vetted by you 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:16.279 and Amy. I just feel like I just want to 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:20.120 be open with him too, and so this is something 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:24.440 I would never do. But he I was just like, 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:26.360 I need you to know who I am from my 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:31.520 mouth so that we can just like have fun. And 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.440 he was like, okay. It was like, shoot, tell me whatever. 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:37.120 And so I told him about you know, not getting 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:40.359 married and why and you know, not that I'm like, 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:43.840 you know, money hungry. I just was protecting my kids. 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:48.880 And so we had a really really nice conversation about 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:53.800 all of that, and we talked about his kids, and 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:56.920 we talked about his ex wife. We talked about where 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:59.400 he grew up, and you know, his parents have been 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:03.000 together for my parents were together, so we had a 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:06.919 lot of like common upbringing, which I think means a 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:10.320 lot to people. You know, He's like, I'm I like 0:05:10.360 --> 0:05:12.120 to play tennis, I'm an athlete. I'm like, I have 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.200 athletic tendencies. But I wouldn't say I'm like an athlete. 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.000 I just am like, you know, I like to go 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.760 for a run. That doesn't mean I'm, like, you know, 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:23.360 an all star athlete. But he's just got a lot 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:26.560 of the similar we have, like a similar upbringing, which 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:29.719 really makes things like it was just very easy to 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:31.560 communicate with him. I thought I was talking to someone 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:32.880 I had known for a long time. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:39.960 Okay, was there flirting happening on the phone. 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:42.839 It was like I wouldn't say I was like a flirting, 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.479 but I was like doing things I wouldn't normally do, 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:49.080 Like I made a coffee and I was just talking 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:52.039 to him like I was. I wasn't sitting down. And 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.000 then I got my picked my dogs up, but I 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:55.760 took them to the walked them to the dog park. 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.080 We're outside, and I was just like it was like 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:03.520 a real life conversation, which normally again like if I'm 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:06.559 if anyone is taking me on a date or trying 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:09.520 to talk to me, I'm usually really really buttoned up 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:12.760 because I'm like they have all these preconceived notions. They 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:16.120 think I'm crazy, they think I'm this They like, you know, 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:18.720 why isn't she be married after all this time? What's 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:23.680 wrong with her? So like I just like self sabotage myself, 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:27.080 like crazy, and so I just don't say anything, which 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:31.520 makes a lot of guys think that I'm like you know, 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:35.719 they're like they're get they get mixed messages because I'm friendly, 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:39.440 but then I'm super reserved. So they're like you are 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:43.360 like you have so many you know, barriers and boundaries. 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:45.400 Was he flirting with you? 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:47.520 I think he was just trying to like get a 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:51.640 sense of like who I am, what I what my 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:55.080 what my possibilities are, Like I mean, obviously he lives 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.919 in California. Obviously I live in New York, so like 0:06:58.000 --> 0:06:59.520 what does that look like? I think he was just 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:02.560 like Okay, he was like, you're a real You're a 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:04.880 cool chick. He's like, and I don't mean that, Like 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:09.560 he's like, you're just like really cool, easy and fun, 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.200 and like I'm like, I'm just I'm just ready for 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:14.800 my next chapter, like really ready, and I know people 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.240 are like my second chapter is going to be like this. 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:20.200 I don't have any preconceived notions of like what that 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:23.400 looks like. I just know that I don't I want 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:26.600 to be in an environmenthere I can trust someone and 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:29.760 I can just like feel good about feeling good. Like 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:34.280 that's my whole twenty twenty five forward thinking. 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:48.760 So tell me, like, did you guys make plans for 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:51.559 your first date in real life? 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.800 Yes, well, he says to me, very sweet. He was like, 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.120 you know, he was like, I know you're talking about me, 0:07:58.160 --> 0:07:59.680 and I'm like, yeah, I'm talking about you because I 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.320 want the world to know. First of all, one reason 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:05.360 that I'm talking about this in real time is because 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.480 I want the world to know that there's nothing wrong 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:12.200 with being vulnerable, and there's nothing wrong with taking a risk, 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:15.280 and there's nothing wrong with doing something you might necessarily 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:17.800 think that's not the right thing for you because it 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:21.560 doesn't check all those boxes that everyone's checking. And so 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.320 I don't need to check a box. I just want 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.160 to enjoy my life. I've raised my kids on my own, 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:32.040 I've like gotten more degrees and licenses than I know 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:34.480 what to do with I. You know, I have this 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:38.600 like laundry list of like all of these accolades, but 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:42.400 I don't have trust. So what am I going to do? Like, 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:44.679 am I going to lay in my casket with like 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:48.040 my real estate licenses? Or am I going to be 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:49.840 smiling and happy? 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:53.360 I vote for smiling and happy, me too, thank you. 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:54.800 And also in. 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:59.120 Twenty twenty five, right, it's about, like you said, doing 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:03.360 things that you know, maybe you normally wouldn't do. Maybe 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:05.640 you normally wouldn't dat a guy that's on the other 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:09.280 side of the country, but maybe we just need to 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.800 switch it up a bit, you know, and try something new. 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:15.360 And it's not like he never comes to New York. 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:19.959 He has not only reason now, but he also works there. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:23.800 So it kind of makes sense in you know, an 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:26.840 interesting way. I think that there's a lot here. So wait, 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:30.000 so go back, tell me about what's the plan for 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:31.040 the first date. 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.520 So he's like, we're definitely doing something in the new year. 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:36.920 And he was like, you know, your offices are at 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:40.199 iHeart and my offices are right around the corner. And 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.200 he also works with someone in it. He works in 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:45.600 the entertainment space and so and one of my really 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:49.360 close friends when I went to college with does something similar. 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:53.320 So he understands like my life and he understands too, 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:56.640 you know when you're like when I tell people that 0:09:56.679 --> 0:09:59.840 I started modeling when I was fifteen, they're like, oh wow. 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:04.720 I'm like no, no, no, no no no wow. Like no, 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:09.760 like teaching yourself Latin at fifteen, because you're like traveling 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:14.040 to Mauritius with you know, by yourself. Like that's not 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:17.319 a wow, that's a okay, Like that was your path. 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:19.080 That's like when you had like someone that was like 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:23.760 on television when they were younger, It's like that's part 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:27.000 of their narrative. It's not a wow, it's like a oh, well, 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:30.199 you had the opportunity and some people do things with 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:34.880 it and some people don't. And he really kind of 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:42.000 understood that it's been really challenging for me to continue 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.400 to pivot to provide for my kids. And he was 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.920 very like, very very very sweet and very understanding. 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:50.800 What would you say was like your favorite part of 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:55.120 the conversation? Like what are you taking away from Like that? 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:56.040 Was there a moment? 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:57.600 Was there? Did he make you laugh? 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.240 Was there a story he told you about himself that 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:03.360 you were like, I think this is why I want 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:05.600 to talk or get to know mister Tennis a little 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:06.079 bit more. 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:08.480 I want to go get to know mister Tennis a 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:12.319 little bit more because he spoke about when his kids 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.959 were young and he got divorced and instead of moving 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:19.880 into like, you know, an equally big house, he moved 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:25.160 into a smaller apartment and he was with his kids 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:28.760 in this environment that was a far away from you know, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:32.040 where his ex wife was, because he wanted his children 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:36.600 to have their home. And to this day he's like 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:39.199 his two kids are like, oh my god, remember when 0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:42.120 we lived there, and how much fun that was. And 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:48.040 I really appreciate the fact that he got divorced and 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:53.079 made a concerted effort to ensure like the genuine wellness 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:57.200 of his children by like having a small environment so 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.600 that everyone was together and it was like a big hug. 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.400 And I know what that feels like because I'm in 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:04.839 that hug space right now with my little apartment. I 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:08.280 love being here. I mean, I just love it. And 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:13.880 so it was just really just felt good, just felt 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.640 good to hear that from men. And it wasn't like 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:20.200 I'm a single parent and I do everything my ex 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:22.680 one wife was not that. It was all about how 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.840 he could make his children feel safe. 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:30.960 And what do you think about dating a guy long 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:34.920 distance that also has kids that are maybe not as 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:37.120 old as your kids, Like, what do you think about that? 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:40.679 So I always wanted like a farm of children. I 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:43.960 love love kids, And that's one of my biggest regrets 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:45.240 is that I didn't have more kids. And I know 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:48.360 my two girls would be like mom, but I really 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:53.640 I love children. I just really appreciate them, their minds 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:55.679 and just like I just love children so much, and 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:59.000 so I wish that I had had more. I just 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:01.120 wasn't with the right peaceeople that I was in an 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.440 environment where I could, you know, be what you know, 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.880 make have more children. So I really regret that. So 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.200 that's one thing. And to hear him talk about his 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:14.840 kids just really made me like very happy. And I 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:18.240 love that. I love that I'm a Almi bear. That's 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:21.360 like who I am, Like, yeah, that's my first, that's 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.160 my first. You know, people are like, I'm a multi 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:26.080 heights in it. I'm like, I guess i am, but 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:27.600 I'm not really, I'm I'm a bear. 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:29.319 I think that's great. 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:32.080 And I love that you guys are connecting on something 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:35.280 that is so foundational to both of you, right, which 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:39.000 is being a parent, being an active parent in your kids' lives. 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:42.000 I think that's really amazing. Tell me, so we're going 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:43.319 to have our first. 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:45.679 I R L date in the new year. I love that. 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:51.800 But between now and then, what's the plan are you do? 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.280 You guys have another phone date set up? I know 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:57.320 you're about to leave on a ski trip. Like what 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:00.520 what are you thinking about doing or what's the next step? 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:03.520 Well, he was just very sweet too, and he was 0:14:03.600 --> 0:14:05.800 like listen, He's like I want to talk to you. 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:07.360 He's like, you know, I know you're gonna be in 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:09.160 Vermont with your kids, but like I'm here and I'd 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:11.400 love to talk to you and call you and send 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:14.080 me pictures and you know, it's everything safe with me. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:15.440 You can do you know, whatever you want to do, 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.880 you can't. I mean, obviously, just like not being weird, 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.240 but he was just like he loved the fact that 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:23.400 I sent him a little video with Tarzan and I 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:23.960 I love it. 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:27.160 Can I make a suggestion for the fun Okay, let's 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:33.040 think about this. Maybe it's when you're in Vermont maybe 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:39.000 it's a little uh like opery ski, little wine face 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:43.040 time or something together. You know, maybe the kids are 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:46.920 off doing something and Kelly's back at the lodge by herself. 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:50.880 Or maybe it's like a little I don't know, a 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:55.560 fond due date FaceTime or a little cooking like maybe 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:58.520 you're cooking dinner and you have him on FaceTime and 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:01.200 like he's chatting with you about like your day on 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:05.360 the slopes or something like. I think it's I don't 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:09.320 think it's inappropriate now that there's been an initial great 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:12.640 phone call to then follow that up with like a 0:15:12.760 --> 0:15:18.440 cute little FaceTime mini date prior to the IRL date. 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:30.800 I love that. It was interesting too, is that he 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.600 was like I know that there's you're probably dating and 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:36.400 talking to a lot of people, which I was like okay, 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.320 and he was just like I just like hope that 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:42.160 you like wait for me and like so I can 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:43.680 meet you, Kelly. 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:44.600 I am dead. 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:50.960 That is so excuse me, mister Tennis. Mister Tennis. That 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:56.400 is such a gentleman line. That is I just asked 0:15:56.400 --> 0:16:00.360 you if there was flirting. That is flirting. It's like 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:04.440 not like yes, that is like laying it down. That 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:08.400 is literally like, I understand that you are a high 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.120 value woman, because that is what he's saying by saying 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:15.040 that there are other men in your aura. Is I 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:17.960 acknowledge you are a high value woman, and I want 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:22.120 you to know that I am interested in you. So 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:25.960 I hope you don't forget about me like a girl. 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:30.880 I know this is calear communication. There is no gray 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:35.080 area with this man. Mister Tennis is interested. 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:36.280 Wow. 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:41.640 I love this, Kelly. You sent the universe. 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:45.040 You're like, this is what we've talked about, right, like 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:48.960 using this podcast to put out to the world what 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:51.480 you want. Right. So the first thing you did was 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:54.880 you wrote a letter to your dear future husband. And 0:16:55.000 --> 0:17:00.320 now we're watching the ripple effects of that huge moment 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:03.040 where you put it all out. There is now coming 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:03.720 back to you. 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:05.680 This is so exciting. 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:13.040 When we started, I was very guarded. I was super insecure. 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:17.800 I was so embarrassed. I was I was embarrassed. I 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:21.679 was humiliated. I felt like I had, like, you know, 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:26.600 hurt someone else. I felt like I had harmed my children. 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:31.240 Like there was just so much It's not like negativity, 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:33.159 it's just like there was so much. There were so 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:37.560 many feelings that were so raw and real, and I 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:41.040 don't feel like that anymore. I don't feel like there's hurt. 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:43.639 I feel like my kids are happy and healthy and 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:47.320 excited about things. You know, just it just feels good 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:51.159 to be an environment that's like happy, and you know, 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:54.160 who knows, who knows if it's going to be mister Tennis, 0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:57.639 But I do know that I'm on the right path 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:00.159 to meeting that special human. 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:01.800 You definitely are. 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:05.600 And what I love about this is that mister Tennis 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:09.600 is being extremely clear right Like a lot of the 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:13.560 time I think we hear in dating stories, especially early on, 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:18.080 it's about like playing games, or it's about like am I. 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:20.919 We talked about this in the last episode, about like 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:24.240 am I texting too much? Am I not texting enough? 0:18:24.359 --> 0:18:27.280 And all of that, And he is just being clear 0:18:27.400 --> 0:18:30.959 and concise with all of his communication. He is saying, 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:34.119 I understand you're busy. I still want to see you. 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:37.520 I understand that you have a lot going on. I'd 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:40.000 still like to talk to you. I understand that you 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:44.639 have maybe other suitors or men pursuing you. I'm interested 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:47.880 in you. Like he is laying it all out there, 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:51.119 which I think is really wonderful, and I think like 0:18:51.760 --> 0:18:55.159 this is a really great start to something special. So 0:18:55.280 --> 0:18:57.200 I think all of I speak for all of us 0:18:57.240 --> 0:19:00.760 listeners as well, that we can't wait to hear about 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:05.920 what the next mister Tennis update is. But definitely keep us, 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:10.080 you know, informed as to what happens. And you know, 0:19:10.600 --> 0:19:13.840 we would we can't wait to have you go on 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:17.400 your first IRL date, Like that's going to be really exciting. 0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:19.400 But don't you think it's strange? You know? He said 0:19:19.440 --> 0:19:22.159 to me, Sorry, didn't interrupt you, but he said to 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:24.720 me too, he was like, normally I wouldn't do this. 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:28.840 I wouldn't try to make a plan with you. You're 0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:31.320 you know, like to see you fly across the country 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:33.080 and see you for a certain for you know, for 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:36.480 an hour or you know. I wouldn't do those things 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:38.480 if I did, if it weren't if I weren't vetted 0:19:38.520 --> 0:19:42.360 by a friend. And I was like when he said that, 0:19:42.800 --> 0:19:44.480 I was like, that's so true, because he was like, 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:45.960 if I'd met you on RYE or something like that, 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:47.359 I wouldn't do that. And I know a lot of 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:49.879 people that do, like get on planes and do all 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:52.840 that stuff, and like that's amazing, And I love that 0:19:52.920 --> 0:19:55.760 sense of adventure, but like, I'm not that kind of person, 0:19:56.000 --> 0:20:00.320 Like I'm I'm not like I would never do I 0:20:00.359 --> 0:20:01.920 would never get on a plane to meet somewhere. 0:20:01.920 --> 0:20:04.159 We're both doing something out of your comfort zone. But 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:05.960 I think it goes back to what we were talking 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:09.120 about in the last episode, right, which is like we 0:20:09.240 --> 0:20:12.479 all need to get out of our comfort zone and 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.439 do things that are a little bit different if we 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:18.400 want to see different results. And on top of it, 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:22.080 we're also turning to the core people in our lives, 0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:25.879 right for those kinds of great people. So I think 0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:28.439 a lot of us are getting stuck in this white 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:33.040 mentality and then being frustrated by you know, those not 0:20:33.160 --> 0:20:36.000 turning out well. But when we go to our actual 0:20:36.080 --> 0:20:39.760 people in our lives who know us and also know 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:44.919 other great people, that's where really fantastic love connections can happen. 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:48.600 Or if it's not a love connection, maybe you're just 0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:52.120 starting twenty twenty five off really nice and having your 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:56.080 faith and men reinstilled, because mister Tennis is being like 0:20:56.119 --> 0:21:00.159 a real gentleman and you thus far haven't had a 0:21:00.200 --> 0:21:03.359 lot of really great gentlemen in your life in recent years, 0:21:03.440 --> 0:21:04.120 you know what I mean? 0:21:04.160 --> 0:21:05.080 In the dating scene. 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:09.320 So it's nice that he's, if anything, he's reinforcing that 0:21:09.400 --> 0:21:11.520 faith that there are good guys out there. 0:21:12.200 --> 0:21:14.320 Yeah, and you know, I just want to be open 0:21:14.440 --> 0:21:17.359 and follow lead with my heart, like I don't want 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:20.960 to be like And I told him this, and I said, 0:21:21.280 --> 0:21:25.720 you know, I've been hiding behind all this work, and 0:21:25.760 --> 0:21:28.120 even Cheryl and I talk about like we're so busy, 0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:31.080 and we're so busy. I'm working, I'm providing la la 0:21:31.160 --> 0:21:34.840 da da. Like the reason that we the reason that 0:21:34.920 --> 0:21:38.760 I say that is because it protects me, because why 0:21:38.800 --> 0:21:41.240 would I want to be open and trust my heart 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:46.960 with someone when I've had so many times before where 0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:48.800 my heart has been broken. 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:54.400 So when you were talking to mister Tennis, did your 0:21:54.440 --> 0:21:57.080 connection to Cheryl ever come up in the conversation. 0:21:58.000 --> 0:21:58.280 Yes. 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:02.480 I was like, oh my gosh, I spoke to Cheryl 0:22:02.560 --> 0:22:04.919 yesterday and she told me that you guys went on 0:22:05.000 --> 0:22:08.680