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Speaker 1: It's I do a Part two with your celebrity mentor

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Speaker 1: Kelly Clin mets On. So I'm talking to one of

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Speaker 1: my producers, Feather today and we are talking about a

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Speaker 1: guy that they set me up with Amy Sugarman and

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Speaker 1: had their Monday set me up with this really great guy,

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Speaker 1: and I can't wait to tell you every thing.

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Speaker 2: I Kelly have there.

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Speaker 3: So first of all, we have to dive in because

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Speaker 3: I believe you had a phone date with mister Tennis.

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Speaker 3: And if you don't know who mister Tennis is or

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Speaker 3: what we're talking about, you definitely need to go back

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Speaker 3: and listen to the last episode where we gave all

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Speaker 3: the intel on that. But okay, so first of all,

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Speaker 3: you had your phone date with mister Tennis. Tell me everything.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So miss stro Tennis, we were supposed to talk

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Speaker 1: last night. I was working until like eight thirty and

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Speaker 1: we were supposed to talk last night. He's in LA

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Speaker 1: and I'm in New York and he was like, no problem,

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Speaker 1: So hoop number one. I was like, you have a

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Speaker 1: certain amount of time to talk to me. No problem,

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Speaker 1: he called. I had my phone on silent because I

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Speaker 1: was doing a podcast, so my phone on silent, so

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Speaker 1: I didn't see his call, and I was like watching

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Speaker 1: like some TV show and I looked at my phone

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm just going to text him.

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Speaker 1: And it was literally like twelve forty five in the

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Speaker 1: morning here, and I'm just like, hi, sorry, I mister,

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Speaker 1: your phone call my you know my phone. I was like,

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Speaker 1: I just want to let him. I just wanted to

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Speaker 1: made the effort and I wanted him to know, like,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm a I'm a I'm a lot of things,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not a jerk, and so like I'm going

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Speaker 1: to just respond and be like, hey, sorry, my phone

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Speaker 1: was literally on silent, but I'm up, so if you

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Speaker 1: want to talk. And then I was like talk question mark.

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Speaker 1: And then I'm like I just got to call him.

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Speaker 1: So I called him left to have a.

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Speaker 2: Message, so then he didn't answer.

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Speaker 1: He didn't answer. But this is something I never ever ever.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I'm not a phone person. I'm a

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Speaker 1: texting person, so you know, this is like so out

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Speaker 1: of my wheelhouse. But I was just like it's fine.

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Speaker 1: And then I was like, let's talk tomorrow morning.

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Speaker 2: Wait wait, wait, go back did you leave him a

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Speaker 2: message when you called him on the phone.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And I said, let's speak tomorrow morning because I

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Speaker 1: have to leave for to go skiing at eleven you

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Speaker 1: know New York times, And so he was like, okay,

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Speaker 1: I'll call you at seven thirty LA time. I was like, wow, okay,

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Speaker 1: Like it's the holiday week, it's a big week for people.

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Speaker 1: Most people are off, and I just thought it was

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Speaker 1: really great that he was just like hoop one, number one,

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Speaker 1: hoop number two, like didn't care, like it's just like

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Speaker 1: a problem.

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Speaker 3: I also really liked the pace of communication. Right, he's

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Speaker 3: not leaving you on red, he's not not returning you

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Speaker 3: know all those kind of tropes that people think that

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Speaker 3: you have to do in the dating scene. You have

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Speaker 3: to wait three days to call somebody back, or wait

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Speaker 3: two hours before you respond to a text. He's not

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Speaker 3: doing any of that, you know what I mean? Which

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Speaker 3: I love. I love this, So way to go, mister Tennis. Okay,

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Speaker 3: so tell me then what happens.

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Speaker 1: So we start to talk, and he's very you can

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Speaker 1: tell immediately he's a very educated human just by the

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Speaker 1: way he talks, how he talks the subject matter.

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Speaker 2: What did you think of his voice.

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Speaker 3: When you heard his voice on the other end of

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Speaker 3: that call, Was it like deep and sexy? Was it like,

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Speaker 3: I don't know what did he sound like?

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Speaker 1: You can tell that he talks a lot on the phone.

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Speaker 1: He's got a great like game on the phone. Okay, charismatic,

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Speaker 1: very easy on the phone. Again, like I'm a Texter,

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Speaker 1: Like I can text you and till you're blue in

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Speaker 1: the face, but to talk to me on the phone,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, Okay, I like it for

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Speaker 1: some reason, you know, because he was vetted by you

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Speaker 1: and Amy. I just feel like I just want to

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Speaker 1: I would never do. But he I was just like,

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Speaker 1: he was like, okay. It was like, shoot, tell me whatever.

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Speaker 1: And so I told him about you know, not getting

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Speaker 1: And so we had a really really nice conversation about

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Speaker 1: he grew up, and you know, his parents have been

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Speaker 1: together for my parents were together, so we had a

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Speaker 1: lot of like common upbringing, which I think means a

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Speaker 1: lot to people. You know, He's like, I'm I like

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Speaker 1: to play tennis, I'm an athlete. I'm like, I have

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Speaker 1: athletic tendencies. But I wouldn't say I'm like an athlete.

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Speaker 1: I just am like, you know, I like to go

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Speaker 1: I had known for a long time.

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Speaker 3: Okay, was there flirting happening on the phone.

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Speaker 1: It was like I wouldn't say I was like a flirting,

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Speaker 1: but I was like doing things I wouldn't normally do,

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Speaker 1: Like I made a coffee and I was just talking

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Speaker 1: to him like I was. I wasn't sitting down. And

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Speaker 1: then I got my picked my dogs up, but I

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Speaker 1: We're outside, and I was just like it was like

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Speaker 1: a real life conversation, which normally again like if I'm

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Speaker 1: because I'm like they have all these preconceived notions. They

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Speaker 1: think I'm crazy, they think I'm this They like, you know,

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Speaker 1: why isn't she be married after all this time? What's

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Speaker 1: wrong with her? So like I just like self sabotage myself,

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Speaker 1: makes a lot of guys think that I'm like you know,

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Speaker 1: they're like they're get they get mixed messages because I'm friendly,

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Speaker 1: but then I'm super reserved. So they're like you are

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Speaker 2: Was he flirting with you?

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Speaker 1: I think he was just trying to like get a

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Speaker 1: what my possibilities are, Like I mean, obviously he lives

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Speaker 1: what does that look like? I think he was just

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Speaker 1: like Okay, he was like, you're a real You're a

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Speaker 1: cool chick. He's like, and I don't mean that, Like

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Speaker 1: he's like, you're just like really cool, easy and fun,

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Speaker 1: and like I'm like, I'm just I'm just ready for

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Speaker 1: my next chapter, like really ready, and I know people

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Speaker 1: are like my second chapter is going to be like this.

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Speaker 1: I don't have any preconceived notions of like what that

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Speaker 1: to be in an environmenthere I can trust someone and

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Speaker 1: I can just like feel good about feeling good. Like

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Speaker 1: that's my whole twenty twenty five forward thinking.

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Speaker 3: So tell me, like, did you guys make plans for

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Speaker 3: your first date in real life?

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Speaker 1: Yes, well, he says to me, very sweet. He was like,

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Speaker 1: you know, he was like, I know you're talking about me,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, I'm talking about you because I

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Speaker 1: want the world to know. First of all, one reason

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Speaker 1: I want the world to know that there's nothing wrong

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Speaker 1: with being vulnerable, and there's nothing wrong with taking a risk,

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Speaker 1: and there's nothing wrong with doing something you might necessarily

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Speaker 1: think that's not the right thing for you because it

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Speaker 1: doesn't check all those boxes that everyone's checking. And so

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Speaker 1: I don't need to check a box. I just want

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Speaker 1: to enjoy my life. I've raised my kids on my own,

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Speaker 1: I've like gotten more degrees and licenses than I know

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Speaker 1: what to do with I. You know, I have this

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Speaker 1: like laundry list of like all of these accolades, but

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Speaker 1: I don't have trust. So what am I going to do? Like,

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Speaker 1: am I going to lay in my casket with like

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Speaker 2: I vote for smiling and happy, me too, thank you.

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Speaker 2: And also in.

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Speaker 3: Twenty twenty five, right, it's about, like you said, doing

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Speaker 3: things that you know, maybe you normally wouldn't do. Maybe

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Speaker 3: you normally wouldn't dat a guy that's on the other

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Speaker 3: switch it up a bit, you know, and try something new.

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Speaker 3: And it's not like he never comes to New York.

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Speaker 3: He has not only reason now, but he also works there.

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Speaker 3: So it kind of makes sense in you know, an

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Speaker 3: interesting way. I think that there's a lot here. So wait,

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Speaker 3: so go back, tell me about what's the plan for

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Speaker 3: the first date.

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Speaker 1: So he's like, we're definitely doing something in the new year.

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Speaker 1: And he was like, you know, your offices are at

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Speaker 1: iHeart and my offices are right around the corner. And

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Speaker 1: he also works with someone in it. He works in

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Speaker 1: So he understands like my life and he understands too,

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Speaker 1: you know when you're like when I tell people that

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Speaker 1: I started modeling when I was fifteen, they're like, oh wow.

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Speaker 1: I'm like no, no, no, no no no wow. Like no,

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Speaker 1: a wow, that's a okay, Like that was your path.

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Speaker 1: That's like when you had like someone that was like

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Speaker 1: of their narrative. It's not a wow, it's like a oh, well,

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Speaker 1: it and some people don't. And he really kind of

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Speaker 1: understood that it's been really challenging for me to continue

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Speaker 1: very like, very very very sweet and very understanding.

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Speaker 3: What would you say was like your favorite part of

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Speaker 3: Was there a moment?

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Speaker 2: Was there? Did he make you laugh?

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Speaker 3: Was there a story he told you about himself that

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Speaker 3: you were like, I think this is why I want

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Speaker 3: to talk or get to know mister Tennis a little

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Speaker 3: bit more.

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Speaker 1: I want to go get to know mister Tennis a

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Speaker 1: little bit more because he spoke about when his kids

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Speaker 1: were young and he got divorced and instead of moving

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Speaker 1: into like, you know, an equally big house, he moved

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Speaker 1: into a smaller apartment and he was with his kids

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Speaker 1: in this environment that was a far away from you know,

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Speaker 1: his two kids are like, oh my god, remember when

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Speaker 1: we lived there, and how much fun that was. And

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Speaker 1: I really appreciate the fact that he got divorced and

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Speaker 1: But I think that that we're missing out on these

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Speaker 1: because you know, or he needs to work on hisself.

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Speaker 1: It has nothing to do with you. You're just like

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Speaker 2: I love it so much fun Kelly, this is great.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Heather. I can't wait to clue you guys into

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Speaker 1: everything that happens on my journey with mister Tennis, and

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Speaker 1: I will definitely keep you updated in real time. So

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Speaker 1: if you listeners want any kind of a dating advice,

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Speaker 1: show notes and I'm just really excited to share all

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Speaker 1: of the new information that I've learned. So where I

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Speaker 1: do Part two an iHeartRadio podcast, We're falling in Love

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