Speaker 1: It's topic times called eight hundred and five five one
Speaker 1: to join into the discussion with the Breakfast Club talk
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: Good morning everybody at ej NV, Charlamagne the Guy. We
Speaker 2: are the Breakfast Club. We are celebrating the twentieth season
Speaker 2: of wild'n Out. We have cast members every morning this
Speaker 2: week and we have Chico Bean and Justina Valentine this morning,
Speaker 2: and we're asking this comes from a comment that Game
Speaker 2: said yesterday. We're talking about friends. Do we put too
Speaker 2: much pressure on our friends?
Speaker 3: That is the question.
Speaker 2: You know, things change, you know, at one time, yeah,
Speaker 2: it was easy. We play ball all day long, we
Speaker 2: play video games. You know, we'll go out and hang go.
Speaker 3: To the clubs and all that.
Speaker 2: But now when you get a little older, you got families,
Speaker 2: the things to do.
Speaker 3: Do we put too much pressure on our friends? That
Speaker 3: is the question.
Speaker 4: We start with you, Justina, Yes, because some of your friends,
Speaker 4: you know, they just don't progress with you. They want
Speaker 4: to stay bombs. They still sell in regular.
Speaker 3: Weed and you still have them.
Speaker 4: He's the truth, but you gotta love them from afar
Speaker 4: because we're not selling regular weed no more, like we're
Speaker 4: doing different things. And then and then those people become
Speaker 4: liabilities because I have some friends that I love, I
Speaker 4: grew up with, but I can't bring them around anymore
Speaker 4: because I don't know what they're gonna do. And then
Speaker 4: they're a reflection of meat. So you gotta love them
Speaker 4: from a distance, not bring them to your industry events.
Speaker 3: And you know, it's a space in your heart.
Speaker 2: You are the celebrity of the crew, right, you're on
Speaker 2: wilding Out, You're doing so many different things.
Speaker 3: You had a movie, you got records.
Speaker 2: So when they have events, you are the person they
Speaker 2: expect to come because they want to show you off
Speaker 2: to their friends, right, And that's not a real friend.
Speaker 4: And it's like a meet and greet when you think
Speaker 4: you're going to Summon's birthday or like family party. So
Speaker 4: it's like you got to pick and choose when you
Speaker 4: do it. You can't do all of them. And if
Speaker 4: they're really a friend, they're gonna understand. And there's a
Speaker 4: lot of people that don't understand. But like I said,
Speaker 4: by a bou, buy a little outside of regular weed
Speaker 4: from them.
Speaker 3: And keep it moving.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's not disparage regular weed. There's still a market
Speaker 5: for that out here. There is definitely a market and
Speaker 5: there's some successful salesmen of regular weeks, so salute to
Speaker 5: those dudes. But I think that I just think people
Speaker 5: are dependent upon what you bring when you have a
Speaker 5: certain type of energy. So I never fought people for
Speaker 5: being upset about not being able to have my presence
Speaker 5: because I understand the type of energy that I bring
Speaker 5: to any situation. So I think that we have a
Speaker 5: responsibility as people who have been given the blessings that
Speaker 5: we've been given.
Speaker 3: If somebody is really your friend and somebody you really.
Speaker 5: Love them, to sit them down and explain, like what
Speaker 5: comes with this because they don't understand. They just see
Speaker 5: what they think is going on. It's times that you
Speaker 5: have to take the time out to say, hey man,
Speaker 5: this is the reason why this has to change, and
Speaker 5: this is different, and this is different. I think without
Speaker 5: doing that, you're just letting them, leaving them to their
Speaker 5: own devices, and you're not allowing them to understand what
Speaker 5: comes with a level of success that most people never reach.
Speaker 5: Like how many Djmvies in your family? Right, how many
Speaker 5: Charlemagne's in yours? It's only one of those, you know
Speaker 5: what I mean? So when you are that one, you
Speaker 5: it comes with a greater responsibility.
Speaker 3: I will say this. You know, for me, it's not
Speaker 3: even the money, the celebrity or the fam. It's more
Speaker 3: of the family. Right.
Speaker 2: I got six and a wife, so it's like it's
Speaker 2: separating that time. So if somebody has a birthday party
Speaker 2: or something has somebody, I got to split that time
Speaker 2: with my kids playing football, my kids playing basketball, or
Speaker 2: me just trying to be there for my kids. You know,
Speaker 2: like you said, we are on the road, we're doing shows.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you lucky enough where you can take your daughter
Speaker 2: because she sometimes she doesn't have school. But the times
Speaker 2: when we are home, it's like I want to get
Speaker 2: that time in that I missed, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: And sometimes I'd be like, I'll be honest, I don't
Speaker 2: want to go. I want to spend the time with
Speaker 2: my wife. I want to spend the time with my kids.
Speaker 2: I like seeing the moments of you know, like this
Speaker 2: weekend was I call my daughter a jailbird, right, this
Speaker 2: was the first time she broke out of her crib,
Speaker 2: like she hopped over the thing. Like I was there
Speaker 2: for that. But if i'd have been on the road
Speaker 2: or i'd been I would have missed that, you know,
Speaker 2: what I mean.
Speaker 5: So my dad comes with a level of being in
Speaker 5: the game for a certain amount of time and certain
Speaker 5: things that's never going to impress you anymore because you've
Speaker 5: been doing this for thirty years, right, So if you
Speaker 5: still trying to get the pleasure of being in the
Speaker 5: club after thirty years, of course you tripping. You know
Speaker 5: I'm talking about for those that progression, the process of aggression.
Speaker 5: Throughout your career, You've had to teach people as they
Speaker 5: go with you. Now, if you thirty years in and
Speaker 5: it's still somebody mad at you don't want to come
Speaker 5: to the strip club, then that's not your friend. But
Speaker 5: somebody who understands you grew them to understand that, Hey,
Speaker 5: I got six kids, now now it's time for me
Speaker 5: to dedicate myself this direction. Like most people don't understand
Speaker 5: that if you don't teach them, because they don't ever
Speaker 5: get to the position to be able to do the
Speaker 5: things that you do being somebody who's successful.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I agree with Game for the most part. I
Speaker 6: agree with most of what he's saying because if you're
Speaker 6: my friend, you're my friend. But I'm not going to
Speaker 6: put pressure on you. I'm not gonna scresh you to
Speaker 6: show up everywhere because just because you're my partner, but
Speaker 6: you also got to know your friends, right like all
Speaker 6: my people know how I am. Folks know I don't
Speaker 6: like to go out, Okay, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6: But I do think you have to make time for
Speaker 6: your real friends, you know what I mean. I have
Speaker 6: friends that I want to see at least once a month.
Speaker 6: I like kicking it with them, so you know, we
Speaker 6: make sure we get up in politic at least once
Speaker 6: a month. But I'm also in the blood position that
Speaker 6: I have, you know, business with my friends, and you know,
Speaker 6: I work with my friends, and like you know, we
Speaker 6: end up in a lot of the same spaces. Like
Speaker 6: even last going out to the you know, the book
Speaker 6: a whole thing, my best friend, my wife is withn't
Speaker 6: even like it's like Angela Raya is there, you know,
Speaker 6: Mallory is there. Like these my people, my son and dad.
Speaker 6: He's my partner, so it was good that all of
Speaker 6: us could get together for moments like that.
Speaker 5: And you've upgraded your circle, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: You've upgraded the circle of people that you're able to
Speaker 5: operate with. Most people don't. That's what I'm saying they
Speaker 5: don't have the access that you have. So if you upgrade,
Speaker 5: your friends, like all of us in here, have the
Speaker 5: same level of access depending on where we are. Most
Speaker 5: people that come with you only gonna have that access
Speaker 5: if you're there. So you've got to be able to
Speaker 5: help your friends upgrade their access, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: And I think that comes with that level of training
Speaker 5: throughout the time.
Speaker 2: But I also like, even with my friends, I like
Speaker 2: to invite them to my crib. And the reason why
Speaker 2: my friends because now everything's at my crab. I got
Speaker 2: my kids here, I got my wife. You bring your kids.
Speaker 2: Now it's family. We can sit there, we can drink.
Speaker 2: We ain't got to worry about getting home. We ain't
Speaker 2: got to worry about what happens out there, and we
Speaker 2: could just enjoy.
Speaker 3: Hey, babe, we could get both. We're going to Djambi house.
Speaker 3: That's what it is.
Speaker 5: We get to come to his house and see how
Speaker 5: coming through. We can buy some bracelets as an entry.
Speaker 3: Hello from you, what's up?
Speaker 7: Brother?
Speaker 3: Talk to us. We're talking about do we put too
Speaker 3: much pressure on our friends?
Speaker 7: Yeah? I think a lot of you. You gotta do
Speaker 7: like females because ie, female friends break off for birthdays.
Speaker 7: I've been with a lot of my ducts. I've been
Speaker 7: went to high school. You probably see each other, like
Speaker 7: you know, every once in a while, but it's not
Speaker 7: really that important to us. We know you got me
Speaker 7: to do. But female, is that true? Justine realis?
Speaker 3: So this is Justina.
Speaker 6: If you got homegirls and they don't repost your maximum cover,
Speaker 6: you feel like they're not your friends.
Speaker 3: No, it's all good. Listen.
Speaker 4: I think you got to accept people for who they
Speaker 4: are and how much they could give you. You know what
Speaker 4: I mean, because everyone's not the same, so you know
Speaker 4: you can reciprocate the energy or just know who that
Speaker 4: person is. But females with the birthdays, yes, a lot
Speaker 4: of them are crazy. If you miss a birthday event
Speaker 4: like you are out of their friend circle. I don't
Speaker 4: know why females are like that.
Speaker 3: I'm not like that.
Speaker 4: I'm the type of like celebrate other people. But some
Speaker 4: females don't play about that. I've seen girls not speak
Speaker 4: to other girls. I was like one of the besties
Speaker 4: because they couldn't make it to a birthday.
Speaker 3: Trip, which is crazy. They do, yes, they don't play
Speaker 3: with it. Posting like not.
Speaker 2: Posting a front on a birthday and not posting a
Speaker 2: maximum couver and not posting an event.
Speaker 5: I saw it before, But I can understand where that
Speaker 5: comes from too, because most people, the most exciting time
Speaker 5: of their year is their birthday. You know, That's the only.
Speaker 3: Day that's all about that.
Speaker 5: Real that's the only day that they get celebrated, and
Speaker 5: then it's about them like their life is horrible, except
Speaker 5: but this is the only time I get to be
Speaker 5: excited and people are happy to be around me, and
Speaker 5: you kind of forced to be happy to be able
Speaker 5: to be around somebody on their birthday. So when it's
Speaker 5: like a birthday trip to somebody or birthday dinner and
Speaker 5: somebody be like, I'm good now, you really don't got
Speaker 5: to deal with me because you don't rock with me
Speaker 5: the rest of the year anyway, and you missed my
Speaker 5: birthday dinner. So that's why I think people get mad
Speaker 5: at that, because most people get their happiness on their birthday.
Speaker 6: So what if your friend call you and says happy
Speaker 6: birthday and pours into you. Wouldn't you rather that rather
Speaker 6: that than the public display of affection on social media.
Speaker 4: Public want the public display more than anything else. They
Speaker 4: don't even care if they want to show public.
Speaker 3: Let's let's let's talk about this more when we come back.
Speaker 2: And I don't really do the birthday did this because
Speaker 2: I know that trick, right, that's the trick like eight
Speaker 2: hundred five A five one oh five one?
Speaker 3: Do we put too much pressure on our friends? Pull
Speaker 3: us up?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 3: It's the breakfast clog the morning.
Speaker 1: It's topic time called eight hundred five A five one
Speaker 1: oh five one to join it to the discussion with
Speaker 1: the breakfast.
Speaker 2: Club morning everybody, it's the j Envy Charlamagne to gud
Speaker 2: we are the Breakfast Club now if you just join
Speaker 2: us with asking do we put too much pressure on
Speaker 2: our friends?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 2: This comes from the game The game Left to comment,
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna read some of it though it was
Speaker 2: pretty interesting.
Speaker 3: Who read better? You are just hilarious? Should I say
Speaker 3: who read worse? I still love jes.
Speaker 4: I love Jack's accent, Like.
Speaker 5: You need to be a segment who raised their hand
Speaker 5: on the Breakfast Club and just get people to.
Speaker 3: Call in and read out loud. That'd be crazy, liar.
Speaker 3: You know. I used to bet him every morning and
Speaker 3: I was like, if you can read this, this sentence.
Speaker 2: So this paragraph, without messing up, I'll give you one
Speaker 2: hundred dollars and I would win every morning.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we need to do that. That needs to be
Speaker 3: a good segment, because you had to read over it
Speaker 3: a couple of times.
Speaker 2: It now the game said, y'all put too much pressure
Speaker 2: on friends. We are all grown now. If a friend
Speaker 2: can't make it, they can't make it. If you ain't
Speaker 2: talking to your friend in two weeks, that's okay.
Speaker 3: If they got to sit you out.
Speaker 5: Joy Up next, we got Charlamagne and the God give
Speaker 5: it a shot on who raised their hand?
Speaker 3: You read it, I'm gonna give it to you.
Speaker 6: I'm give it to you. You let me see, y'all
Speaker 6: put too much pressure on friends. We are all grown now.
Speaker 6: If a friend can't make it, they can't make it.
Speaker 6: If you ain't talk to your friend in two weeks,
Speaker 6: that's okay. If they got to sit out your birthday
Speaker 6: festivities because money funny, that's okay. We've grown now, got kids,
Speaker 6: husband's boyfriends, wife's girlfriend's careers. It's just not enough time
Speaker 6: in the day to give your man, kids, customers, clients, work, friends, siblings,
Speaker 6: et cetera. One hundred percent and still be mentally stable.
Speaker 6: We are at an age now where it's when we
Speaker 6: see each other. We see each other when we do
Speaker 6: be present and love on each other during that time.
Speaker 6: My mother is an English teachers, bestselling authors.
Speaker 4: Your inflections were just perfection.
Speaker 5: That's somebody to get paid to read ads?
Speaker 3: Right is.
Speaker 2: We got Kierro Good morning Cairo. Hello, Hey, what's your thoughts?
Speaker 2: So you put too much pressure on your friends.
Speaker 7: You're supposed to, You're really supposed to.
Speaker 4: People let you love to eat these days and.
Speaker 7: That's why everybody turning out so selfish. I can't tell
Speaker 7: you how many says of anything that I do for people.
Speaker 7: They need to reciprocate that. It's real. Friends.
Speaker 4: If there's a gap one month, two weeks, you know,
Speaker 4: we're all cool.
Speaker 6: We're fine.
Speaker 7: I'm in Miami. I think it out my girlfriends in
Speaker 7: New York when I feel like it, and it's all cool.
Speaker 4: But you have people, and I call them vampire leechies.
Speaker 7: They like to come stalk everything from.
Speaker 3: You as they don't keep nothing back.
Speaker 7: Thousands of hours talking people from the phone.
Speaker 6: You know, me and my kids and everything help everybody,
Speaker 6: but when it's time, so they don't turn up people
Speaker 6: to turn up.
Speaker 7: That's why everybody's those delfish the days.
Speaker 3: I do agree with her.
Speaker 6: You do have to reciprocate, Like, you know, this person
Speaker 6: has shown up to your birthday, this person has, you know,
Speaker 6: hit you up to say happy birthday or whatever.
Speaker 3: You should reciprocate that. That's that's that's the least you
Speaker 3: can do. Hello, who's this they Stephan? Good morning doing today?
Speaker 3: Good good? You put too much pressure on your friends.
Speaker 7: I used to when I was younger, but as I
Speaker 7: got older, you know, I kinized that that own life
Speaker 7: to stop putting through my own side.
Speaker 3: All right, Well, what's the moral of the story, guys
Speaker 3: were ending this? How we close this out?
Speaker 6: I mean, I think the moral the stories just reciprocate
Speaker 6: the energy, right, like you should match energies with your friend.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think if you're busy enough with your
Speaker 4: own life, you understand the next person when they can't
Speaker 4: make it to an evance. So you know, those friends
Speaker 4: that get upset like that, they probably are not in
Speaker 4: the same space or place as you.
Speaker 6: So you know, Justin and Chico, Justina, there somebody you
Speaker 6: got mad at for not posting your maximum cup of Chico.
Speaker 6: There's somebody that didn't repost eighty five south showing that.
Speaker 3: I reposted it not at all.
Speaker 5: I can care less like that little one back there,
Speaker 5: make sure I stay in pocket on what's important. So
Speaker 5: I really don't care about what anybody else thinks as
Speaker 5: long as she cool. I think having children changes you
Speaker 5: in that regard, like that's the opinion that matters. You know,
Speaker 5: if you're a friend, that's a little different than having
Speaker 5: somebody who's who you're responsible for and who you're obligated to.
Speaker 5: So that's what I dedicate most of my energy to.
Speaker 5: So anybody who can't figure and fit in around that
Speaker 5: ain't a friend to me anyway. So it makes it
Speaker 5: easier to be able to identify what matters, and who
Speaker 5: don't post me, who don't say happy birthday, and who
Speaker 5: don't appreciate my accomplishments don't matter because to me, as
Speaker 5: long as she with whatever I got going on, I'm good.
Speaker 3: I would say this.
Speaker 2: I think I speak to my I speak to my
Speaker 2: my true circle of friends every day every day. Somebody
Speaker 2: don't go on and you know you just checking up
Speaker 2: on you or whatever it maybe we in a group chat.
Speaker 3: I speak to them every.
Speaker 2: Day it's a text at least.
Speaker 5: Necessary though for friendship. But that's not necessary. But I
Speaker 5: stops talking tomorrow every day with that change the dynamic
Speaker 5: of your friendship. And that's what That's what I think
Speaker 5: we need to leave it at. You know, if you
Speaker 5: really are friends and it's somebody you really love, then
Speaker 5: it doesn't matter if the communication stops. You can stop
Speaker 5: communicating for months or years. But whenever we come back in,
Speaker 5: it's like we never less friendship.
Speaker 3: That's how I feel. That's exactly I feel.
Speaker 6: That's a real quick question, right for the parents, Should
Speaker 6: our children be our friends? You know they always say
Speaker 6: your children shouldn't be your friends. Yes, like the oldest
Speaker 6: daughter gets you fifteen, that's my little partner, you know
Speaker 6: what I mean?
Speaker 3: My daughter my friends.
Speaker 5: Man, my daughter is my partner. I understand. You can't
Speaker 5: you can't be. In my opinion, you can't be you know,
Speaker 5: naive to the reality of the fact that these kids
Speaker 5: have access to way more information than we did. It
Speaker 5: was much more difficult for our parents to be friends
Speaker 5: with us because of the world that we lived in
Speaker 5: and the lack of information that we had. Now, being
Speaker 5: dishonest with your children, the way that you had to
Speaker 5: kind of be dishonest with us when we were growing up.
Speaker 5: You can't do that because all they gonna do is
Speaker 5: pick the phone up and to see that you full
Speaker 5: of stuff, right, I quote myself, you did all the way.
Speaker 5: So I think that it is possible to be friends now.
Speaker 3: You can't.
Speaker 5: You know, let your kids look at you as somebody
Speaker 5: that they can be friendly with all the time.
Speaker 3: You gotta have a level of respect there.
Speaker 5: But I want my daughter to be comfortable to talk
Speaker 5: to me as though she would talk to one of
Speaker 5: her buddies. Absolutely, because I want that information to come
Speaker 5: to me first, so I can help her navigate through
Speaker 5: whatever the world has for her that I've already experienced
Speaker 5: that she hasn't.
Speaker 3: So I want to be my kids.
Speaker 6: Love trolling my oldest daughter. We'll be playing the Paul's game,
Speaker 6: you know what I'm saying. Cause this generation isn't that
Speaker 6: far removed with your fourteen years because they do it
Speaker 6: the way.
Speaker 7: Logan.
Speaker 2: Want to be in the group chat with us your
Speaker 2: son if I want to be, He was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: put me. I'm like, I'm not putting you to you.
Speaker 5: He logan, you do not want to see what your
Speaker 5: father and this man talk about.
Speaker 3: You do not want to.
Speaker 5: See the pictures and stuff they send to each other. Logan,
Speaker 5: stay out of there, stay out of the.
Speaker 3: Matrix, all right. When we come back we got past
Speaker 3: the Agg's knowledge will be joining us, so don't move.
Speaker 3: It's to breakfast club. Good morning,