WEBVTT - Ep. 27 — Wanda has zero F---s to give 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.200 Let's just get started, man, Okay, do you want to 0:00:19.239 --> 0:00:21.360 do like a little intro because I'm feeling kind of 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:23.239 like hot underneath the collar if I had a collar. 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:24.520 I have something to I want. 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:26.840 To talk about. Yes, we could just get right into it. 0:00:27.280 --> 0:00:31.160 Okay, So Brandon Ambition fam. We're recording a few days 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:36.880 earlier this time because I'm going on vacation. Oh my god, 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:38.960 I can't wait. You know how they say there's studies 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:41.479 at show that you're never happier about vacation than the 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:43.199 week before you go on vacation. 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:45.320 Even more so than when you're actually on vacation. 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:47.320 Yes, and then yeah, so I feel like I'm a 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:51.200 peak excitedness right now. So forgive us if we miss 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:52.680 a few days worth of news. We'll get to that 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.520 next week. I have to start things off by talking 0:00:56.520 --> 0:01:02.760 about Leanne lah Beauty. Do you know LeAnn Lahavas? No, 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:04.840 have you talked about her before? So she is this 0:01:04.959 --> 0:01:09.800 British like beautiful singer, singer songwriter. She's like, it's hard 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:11.640 to describe her music. It's kind of like a mix 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:15.320 of R and B soul folk. She's kind of like 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:20.039 a Corinne Bailey, ray Born Hill vibe. She's amazing. Okay, 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:24.759 she's kind of She's not huge huge, but she's big ish. 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.200 I'll say, I've been to two of her shows. I 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:29.720 went to her show in September. She performed in New 0:01:29.800 --> 0:01:32.600 York and we just went and actually spent a pretty 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:35.199 penny getting good seats for her show that she did 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:41.240 earlier this month at the at A venue also downtown Manhattan. Anyway, 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.120 I love her music, like everyone loves her and like 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.200 there was nothing it was probably the crowd like seventy 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:50.000 five percent, just like black women at her shows like 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:55.280 Women Lovely and anyway, all that aside, she went on 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:57.480 a Twitter raid today. So the brit Awards for this 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.400 weekend or this week yesterday or the day before or 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.520 something like that, right, the briton words, that's like the 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:03.480 Grammys of Britain. 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.120 Yeah, I saw so you know how. 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:09.880 They had the hashtag Oscar so white. Yes, they had 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:13.400 the hashtag going BRIT's so white because I think someone 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:16.480 wrote that. Like anyway, the vast majority of nominees were white, 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:19.600 and then of course the winners were white. Okay, Leanne 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:22.480 who I think she was nominated? She was definitely there. 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:24.720 I mean, she's British totally makes sense. She is she 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:26.920 white black? Ok Yeah, I should have said that. So 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.000 she's mixed. She's biracial, half Jamaican, half Greek. 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:31.239 Okay, she's wow. 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:36.000 Yeah, she has like big beautiful natural hair. She I mean, 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:39.400 you could just I have to before I tell you 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:41.640 why I'm so everyone's so upset at Leanne right now. 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:44.480 I have to talk about like when women of color 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:47.600 talk about Leanne, they feel like that sense of ownership 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:49.600 in her because she rocks the natural hair. She's a 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:52.400 beautiful black woman. She feels like, you know how, we 0:02:52.440 --> 0:02:54.880 get really attached and we're like, oh, she's ours, She's 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.840 for us, like you know how, kind of like Beyonce, 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:01.000 but like on a smaller scale. So she came out 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:05.600 on Twitter, don't know why, denouncing the britso white hashtag. 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:08.440 And it wasn't just the fact that she was saying 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:11.360 that the hashtag. She called it horrible and she called 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:17.200 it racist. She said that she wanted to be removed 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:20.520 from any reference to it, and she deleted all these tweets. 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:23.360 So thank you blavity dot com for curating all these 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:25.800 people who took screenshots. You know, people aren't to let 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.760 anyone get away with anything. You know, there's always a start. 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:31.120 You cannot use Twitter. I think you can delete stuff 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:32.600 and it's just number just gonna. 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:37.200 Go away unless twenty sixteen, unless you're like Edward Snowden, 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:41.120 but even then, So anyway, she's like going back and 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:45.160 forth tweeting at people, just random people, talking about how she. 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:47.280 Doesn't think that we should be using it as very offensive, 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:51.760 saying every like like like Stacy Dash level stuff like 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:54.280 oh well, if there was a hashtag Brits so black, 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.040 there'd be outraged, So why isn't the other way around? 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:02.680 And then she caps everything off with one single tweet, 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:05.920 one single hashtag, all Lives Matter. 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:15.760 Oh gosh, what where you making? Father? You don't understand. 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:17.920 I just read this. I was busy all day. I 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:20.240 didn't see I didn't notice this happening. I didn't feel 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:23.320 the ripple in the matrix when this happened on Twitter. 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:26.159 But I was just reading in a minute agoing, oh man, 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:29.680 why And then she deleted everything, and all that slept 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:31.159 is like a tweet saying she's going to go visit 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:32.080 her grandma right now. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.040 Yeah, I bet you are. 0:04:34.320 --> 0:04:36.000 Your Grandma's who you go to when you know you 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.320 did wrong and he wants someone to love you anyway. 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:42.000 An right, Hey, Grand's like it's okay baby. 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:46.800 Ah, it's just really disappointing, and people are Blavity has 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:47.920 a hilarious story. 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:49.600 Oh I want to read what's her name again? 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:53.760 Leanne Leanne l I A N N E. Okay, her 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:55.839 music is is good. I'm not gonna do you know 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:58.839 what anyway, So the Blavity story, the Blavity story is 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:03.640 called seventeen Hilari reactions to Leanne Lahavas becoming a problematic 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:06.120 fave because she was everyone's fave. She was like the 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:07.080 prom queen. 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:08.240 You know, ah damn. 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:11.520 And it's not even like the Beyonce level, where I 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:14.000 feel like Beyonce was so huge that everyone was waiting 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:16.880 and like they were really expecting Beyonce to speak out, 0:05:17.120 --> 0:05:19.360 And that's why everyone was so excited about the Formation 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:21.880 video because they were like, finally, we've been waiting for 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.960 someone of her caliber to call people out on this. 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.120 With Leanne, there's not all that pressure there. But at 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.400 the same time, she's not so huge she's on a 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:32.840 central figure in Black America at all. She's British for 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:36.320 one thing, and I mean I'll get to that as well. 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:38.040 I think her being British plays a big role in 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:43.600 her point of view, although I think that the UK 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:46.560 has maybe not as many problems with the police because 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:50.039 police don't even carry firearms in the UK. But I'm 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:53.800 gonna venture a guess that blacks in the UK are 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:56.880 not treated all the time as equally as as whites, 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.640 just like it is here. She even tweeted at someone 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:03.920 who was saying I thought she were half Jamaican. She's like, listen, 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.839 I don't mean to. She's like, no offense, bad idea, 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:11.680 whatever you episode of sad, delete delete, I just stop, 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:16.600 no offense. But I'm also half Greek, is what she responded. Okay, 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.040 well just because go ahead. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:22.760 Honestly, it's so hilarious because I'm like looking like Blavity 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:26.680 has no chill, no chill. It's like number one tweet, 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.120 it's about to go down the second tweet. It is 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:33.040 like the picture of like what is John John Legend's wife. 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:35.680 Christy Tagan? The Christy Tagan reaction, Yes. 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:41.600 And that's like the the Beyonce like ooh face, yes, yo, 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:45.160 it is hilarious. Oh. You know what the thing is 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:48.360 with social media? You just I don't understand. What I 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:51.640 don't get is that regular everyday people know not to 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.680 wild out on social media. What did you want with 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:57.039 celebrity brains? Like I know not to put anything crazy 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.840 on social media, Like my friends know, I've never really 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:03.080 anything crazy from them. Why is it so difficult for 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:05.760 somebody who has a huge following to say, you know what, 0:07:06.040 --> 0:07:08.159 I might this might not be a good. 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.400 Idea because everybody loves celebrities and they're so used to 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.200 putting a tweet out there and everyone's laughing and loving 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:16.600 them and oh retweeting, and they just love me, love me, 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.560 love me, and they get in that mode and they 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.600 start to think everything I say matters, everything I say 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:23.160 is has a point and I need to say it. 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:25.040 Like they just get in that mode. And then it's 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:26.800 when they say something stupid. 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.840 Yeah, you know somebody wrote, wow, Leanne Lahaves broke my 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:31.680 little black heart. 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:35.080 Even what I'm saying, why, yeah. 0:07:34.960 --> 0:07:37.000 I mean, like, and I get it, I will say 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:40.760 this that. I mean, it's hard to see perspective if 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:44.160 you one are not kind of like inundated in that culture, 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:47.720 or you don't know anyone of that culture. Like for example, 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:51.280 when when Beyonce. Remember she did that recently, that video 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:55.320 with Coldplay, and she was wearing like Indian garb uh oh. 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:57.880 I never watched that, like Indian of India, right. 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:01.160 Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah that's so. And so at first 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.200 I was like, oh, she looks pretty. It didn't even click. 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:06.160 And then someone was like, oh, it's cultural appropriation, and 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:08.920 it didn't. I'm not gonna lie. That wasn't my knee 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:11.240 York reaction. But then I thought to myself, you know what, 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:14.320 I could see that. It's just because I'm not Indian. 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:16.840 So I did not have that reaction. But if I 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:22.480 saw Kesha dressed in like like cultural Nigerian clothes and like, 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:25.240 I'd be like, what what is she doing? Because you know, 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:29.080 so I can see how sometimes you can miss these 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:32.920 these cues if you're not a part of certain cultures. 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:36.080 But I think what's important is that then when someone 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:38.760 educates you and says, hey, this is why that, you 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:40.079 kind of take a step back and you're like, you 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.320 know what, I could see that or like, you know, 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:44.600 if I was in that person's shoes or if that 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:47.559 was my culture or that was my experience, I can 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:50.000 see how. You know, it's not hard to have empathy 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.640 for someone else by just really taking a step back. 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:56.400 It's just that people refuse to do so on both sides. 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.560 So it's not just the whatever the argument is. I 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:01.360 see that you know more and more. I mean, I'm 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:03.560 not gonna lie. Social media. It's like so depressing these 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:06.880 days because it's just so much you know, it is, yeah, 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:09.480 it is, and so but and what I'm saying is like. 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:11.280 We're all tired of responding to it too, bro. 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.480 We are. Honestly at that point, if. 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:15.120 You're not woke, then no one's gonna wake you up. 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:17.280 Yeah, you don't want to be woke. You're like no, 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.560 You're like you have okay, you threw your long clock 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:22.000 against the wall and you're just like, no, don't. And honestly, 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:23.920 I'm not trying to wake anybody up. I'm just like, man, 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.000 I'm just trying to get by day by day. You know, 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:28.120 I'm just trying to make sure I take my vitamins 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:31.000 in the morning, which, by the way, gummy vitamins are everything. 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.480 I just took my two gummy vitamins earlier. Are you 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:35.400 just discovering this. 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:38.280 No, But it's just I mean it's so crazy. But 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:41.160 literally every morning. I'm like, okay, when okay, she'll ripe 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:43.280 before breakfast. No, wait, okay, wait wait, cause they're so 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:46.640 they're so good. I'm like, should I take one down 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:51.000 and one later? They are so delicious it is sinful. 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:53.280 I'm like, I'm sure there's like no nutritional value in 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.520 the vitamins that I have, but darn it, I take 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:56.760 them every morning with joy. 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.400 I mean there's a placebo effect too. If it makes 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:00.880 you feel better, yes. 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:02.320 It does. It puts a smile. I don't care what 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:04.080 kind of morning or what kind of dream I had 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:06.240 When I see that jar of done me vitamins on 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:10.880 my in my bathroom, on my bathroom sink, I'm like, yes, 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:12.040 you and me. 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:16.280 Oh, speaking of joy, can we please talk about Virginia 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:19.760 McLaurin one hundred and six year old Virginia mclauren who 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.720 got to visit the White House and shake her little 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:23.240 one hundred and. 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:24.280 Six year old booty. 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:27.000 Yes, that was Keith Obama's. That was so cute. 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:29.360 First of all, how was that so hilariously different from 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:32.960 the other older lady? They did they remember the other 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:33.640 older lady? 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:34.200 Oh? 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:34.880 What was her name? 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:38.199 FLOSSI? Yes, Oh, so we didn't talk about that last week, 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:39.880 but Tiffany and I got a little chuckle out of 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:43.120 the BuzzFeed. BuzzFeed, I think we're not BuzzFeed. This was 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.199 like a local report in Seattle. One hundred and how 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.560 cold was she? One hundred and fourteen or something something 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:51.040 like that. Ten Her name was FLOSSI just google Flossy. 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:56.560 Yes, old and FLOSSI is the sassiest oldest Like they're like, hey, Flossy, 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:58.520 she's drinking her little coffee, like why are you here? 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:01.200 And they're like, are you excited about your birthday? She said, 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:01.839 not one bit? 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:08.360 She said not one Yeah, she was not even going 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:12.480 to speed up her cadence a voice for this woman. 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:14.880 It's the best four minutes you can spend on the internet, 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:19.600 I would say. But Miss Virginia is not sassy. She's 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.840 just happy. It's so sweet to see her joy. 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:24.160 Yeah, that was really sweet. I was like, that's right, 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.440 you just danced it on up, you know. But that 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:31.160 was just hilarious, Like between the two of them, it's 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:32.760 been a great week for old people. 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.400 But you know, I'm really starting to feel And it 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:37.720 wasn't just because of that viral video of the little 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.480 girl the little black girl crying about Obama leaving? 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:41.040 Did you see that? 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:41.719 Yes? 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:42.520 I saw that one. 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:44.680 Oh it wasn't just because of that. But I'm starting 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:46.360 to really and I get the sense everyone is starting 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:48.960 to really feel sad about the end of the Obama's 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:51.880 And I think what's really making it for me is 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:55.520 just like the insanity of this presidential race right now. 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:59.760 I had to put my head on my desk earlier 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:03.440 today because Trump won Nevada this week. He's probably gonna 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.760 sweep some states on Super Tuesday next week. I cannot 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:10.760 believe we are letting this happen. And I don't know 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:15.320 what to do. I just every headline is another dagger 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.120 in my heart. I don't know what's happening. I don't 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:19.560 know how we allowed this to happen. If it was 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:22.120 the media, If it's just like there was way more 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:25.080 racist and bigots in America than I ever thought possible, 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:26.160 I guess that's the answer. 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:29.079 Any other buzzworthy things, Well. 0:12:28.920 --> 0:12:32.640 One last thing I wanted to share so I earlier 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:35.120 this week I was I wrote a story for Yahoo 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:37.439 about did you ever hear about that startup that launched 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:42.160 last fall called swan Love? Yeah, Swan luv So this 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:48.160 was from the very get go, a ludicrous platform for 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.120 a startup. They promised that they were going to loan 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:55.120 couples ten thousand dollars for their weddings, no strings attached, 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:58.120 so long as they stayed married. If they got divorced, 0:12:58.160 --> 0:13:00.160 they were going to get the ten thousand dollars back 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:02.439 with interest. If they stayed together, they can keep the 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:06.880 tang grin forever. So okay, crazy premise. How are you 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:09.320 going to finance that? How? How? 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:10.320 Why? So? 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:12.600 This was back in November at the time. They had 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.600 everyone go to their website and sign up for their 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:17.240 list oh site. They were basically like saying, put your 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.600 email on the list and when we launched Valentine's Day 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.000 twenty sixteen, you'll be the first to be able to 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:25.840 apply for the Swan Love Wedding funding or whatever it 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:30.360 was called. And then Valentine's Day rolls around and people 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:32.800 went to the website and it wasn't working and they 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:35.280 were told to wait twenty four hours. Like one lady 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.120 I talked to you named Keana. She's twenty two years 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:40.480 old from Shreveport, Louisiana. She went back the next day 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:42.800 and the site was just down. So she went to 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:45.400 the Facebook page and there they posted a letter saying, 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:47.960 we're really sorry to let you guys know, we decided 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.800 to change our business strategy, basically change the whole way 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.040 the platform works, and instead of giving you guys ten 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.800 thousand dollars, we're going to allow you to raise money 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:59.280 from your friends and family up to ten thousand, and 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:02.040 then if you'd get divorced, you owe them the money back. 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:05.880 What So they completely lopsided on there on their initial promise. 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:09.559 And I mean not that any any reporter who initially 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:12.240 covered it was that surprise because it sounded crazy, right, 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:16.040 they said they they said they were overwhelmed by the interest. 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:20.480 No duh? Why no duh? I mean the Trader Joe's 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:24.840 sample line goes out the wall. Okay, teny little paper cup. 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:27.560 Sometimes I'm asking myself when I'm at Trader Joe's. Why 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:29.400 am I standing in this line for a teeny tiny 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:33.400 little paper cup with a baby sized morsel of pretzel? 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:36.080 Why you're there? You're like, I don't care, I'll get 0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:36.600 my press. 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:37.920 It's free, so you want it, right? 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:39.560 Yes? Oh yeah? 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:41.240 Yeah. So I couldn't even get in touch with the 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:45.240 CEO because they are obviously just hiding under a rock somewhere. 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:48.800 But they said that they people so many people, so 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:50.680 many people signed up that they would have had to 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:55.640 show out two billion dollars. Wow, wah, two billion. Maybe 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:56.840 you should have thought about. 0:14:56.640 --> 0:14:59.120 That, right, Like, who's not gonna go for free money? 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:01.880 Yeah, that was a nunny story. But you know what, 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:06.080 I talked to like four or five really upset brides 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.400 to be and the comments, of course were really negative, saying, 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:11.240 you know, why would you ever expect anybody to pay 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:14.240 for your wedding? This is trashy. But as someone who's 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.760 planning a wedding, I can I can I empathize with 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.360 these women? You know, if there was a chance for 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.640 ten k I would I would snatch that up in 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:22.680 a heartbeat exactly. 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:24.840 And people always you know, one thing, my friend told 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:27.600 me that my friend marked to it because I was 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:30.640 like having like a hard time with I was doing 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:33.240 something nice for like a group of people, and somebody 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:37.000 was complaining and I'm like, but it's nice and it's free. 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:40.000 I don't understand. And he said, Tiffany, my mentor told me, 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.720 you could literally stand in the middle of time Square 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.080 with a stack of one hundred dollar bills, giving them 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:47.440 one to each person, and somebody will say this is 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:50.280 not enough. The next person will say, you know, this 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:52.400 is too much. The next person would say, well, how 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:53.920 come they get the same amount as me? I have 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:57.440 more bills than No matter what you do, that there's 0:15:57.440 --> 0:15:59.960 always gonna be someone, not everyone and not even most, 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.720 but there will always be someone to complain, even if 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:05.960 it's something good and free and amazing, And so you 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.400 just learn that, like just got to kind of roll 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:11.080 with it, like, well, there's always going to be some pushback, 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:12.560 you know, when it comes to. 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:16.560 Listen, there's another this reminded me of. I was listening 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:19.240 to one of my really one of my new favorite podcasts. 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:25.320 It's called Strangers, and it's basically stories about strangers doing things. 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:27.640 You know, it's just it runs the gamut. But there 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:30.600 is a recent story that this woman produced and put 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:33.600 together about a woman in Wisconsin who just decided to 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:37.200 donate a kidney, just decided to donate it anonymously or 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:40.240 not anonymously, but to donate it to somebody, okay. And 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:42.920 she went to this website called donormatch dot com or 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:45.840 something where you can find people who are looking for donors. 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:48.800 They basically set up profile saying, you know, here's my story, 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:52.280 I really need a kidney. I'm seventy five, I'm fifty five. Whatever. 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:56.160 So she picks someone that she likes. She's an older 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:59.400 woman in her sixties, and she's pretty healthy anyway. Blah 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.000 blah blah. She's giving this woman one of her organs 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:05.480 that she does not need to give anybody. It's hers. 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.600 She could keep it like most of everybody else, because 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:11.359 no one just gives kidneys unless you really know someone 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:11.960 who needs. 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:12.840 It, right mm hmm. 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:17.320 And yet, and yet she's gotten so much crap from 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:20.560 people who are upset because she chose someone who's older. 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:23.600 They're upset because she chose someone at all. They think 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:26.399 that she's playing god. She should have done an anonymously, 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.520 you know, like why didn't she give it. I'm just like, 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:31.600 but she's giving an wagon. 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:34.439 I don't understand what is Like, let's really talk about that, 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:36.359 because I'm not gonna lie. I've been struggling with that 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:39.920 this week, like in my business, like I can't even 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:42.280 tell you, Mandy. Sometimes I'm like, I'm just gonna close 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:45.320 the shop and then you guys can help yourself because 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:49.040 I just don't get how like, I don't understand. I'm like, 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:52.440 but it's free. Someone actually emailed me to say, hey, 0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:54.800 you know, i'd like, you know, half an hour of 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:56.879 your time, and you know, to like, I'm doing your 0:17:56.960 --> 0:17:59.320 challenge which is free. You know, I'm in the group 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:02.000 which is free. Thank you for all the resources which 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:04.879 are free, but I want you to talk to me 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:06.840 on the phone stranger that I don't know. And I 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:09.640 just said, honestly, like, I don't have the bandwidth to 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:11.680 do one on once, but I could certainly suggest when 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:14.119 someone to you or even better, the group is free, 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:16.199 and if you post your question in the group, I 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:18.640 will tag the appropriate person that can help you get 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:22.879 your response. You know that was not enough. It was, well, 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:27.560 I think you're selfish and I, you know what, this 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:30.600 might not be the right program for me, the free program. 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:32.439 I was like, am I unaware of some payment that 0:18:32.480 --> 0:18:35.080 she made? This might not be the right program? And 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:37.480 I just thought, and I just I didn't even know 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:40.840 what to say there. Literally, I have nearly ninety thousand 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:45.040 people doing this free thing, and it's just not possible 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.119 for me to get on the phone. And I you know, 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:48.880 I tried to explain it because I always I always 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:51.159 feel like you know that sometimes people reach out to 0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:53.159 me and I know that they're scared or they're afraid, 0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:55.640 and I understand that, so I try, you know, even 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.520 when I'm upset with them. I never you take that tone. 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:01.119 You know, I'm not gonna lie. I might say it 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:02.760 out loud, but I'm not gonna write you back that way, 0:19:03.119 --> 0:19:05.280 because I always believe you should leave with kindness. But 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:07.040 it took everything in my body. I had to step 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:10.360 away from the computer, like I just I just And 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:12.639 it's days like that, and it's been happening more and 0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:16.640 more where folks are just like, you mean to tell 0:19:16.680 --> 0:19:18.520