WEBVTT - Say thank you more than please

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to say thank you more than please.

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<v Speaker 1>From childhood, we are prompted to say please and thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's great, but one breakthrough insight of adulthood is

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<v Speaker 1>that you need to say thank you a lot more

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<v Speaker 1>than you say please. That is, you need to express

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<v Speaker 1>gratitude much more often than you make requests. Making sure

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<v Speaker 1>this ratio is right, we'll lead to a much better life.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode is first airing on Halloween. My kids love

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<v Speaker 1>going door to door to collect candy, and they say

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<v Speaker 1>trick or treat pretty regularly. The thank you parts sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>takes a bit more prompting. We practice beforehand, but there

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<v Speaker 1>are still times when a little costumed creature is racing

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<v Speaker 1>off immediately after grabbing the candy. So it goes with kids,

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<v Speaker 1>there are fewer thank yous than requests, but as we

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<v Speaker 1>get to our adult lives, it is really important to

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<v Speaker 1>watch this ratio. We need people to do things, and

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<v Speaker 1>using please as good and thank you should naturally follow.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is even better to thank people when you

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<v Speaker 1>haven't made a specific request. That's when the ratio starts

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<v Speaker 1>tipping toward the right direction. So, for instance, when someone

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<v Speaker 1>in your household does a chore without you asking, that

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<v Speaker 1>should inspire a big thanks. Someone who does something extra

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<v Speaker 1>should be noticed. Even something that is part of a

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<v Speaker 1>job can garner a thank you. And it great when

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<v Speaker 1>people do their jobs, and if you are just feeling

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<v Speaker 1>grateful in general, that is worth letting people know thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for being wonderful. Perhaps that sounds cheesy, but I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't mind hearing it a few more times, and my guests,

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<v Speaker 1>as you'd probably like it too. There are a few

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<v Speaker 1>reasons to watch this ratio. First, I think it gets

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<v Speaker 1>us out of the mindset of taking more than giving.

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<v Speaker 1>About a year ago, I did a Before Breakfast episode

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<v Speaker 1>on Dorry Clark's rule of no asks for a year.

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<v Speaker 1>In other words, when you are networking with people, don't

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<v Speaker 1>ask for favors until three d sixty five days have

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<v Speaker 1>gone by. In this context, we are talking about saying

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, thank you for a year with your professional

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<v Speaker 1>acquaintances before you ever get to a please. Let's just

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<v Speaker 1>say that if you're please comes after that many thank yous,

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<v Speaker 1>it will be treated a lot more seriously. It is

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<v Speaker 1>the rare person who wouldn't try to help you if

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<v Speaker 1>they could. But beyond that, it feels good to express thanks,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is a gift to the world that really

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't cost anything. Even if you can't give other resources,

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<v Speaker 1>you can give thanks in abundance. Why not thank the

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store bagger for being cheerful? Why not thank the

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<v Speaker 1>crossing guard for their work? Why not thank the postal

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<v Speaker 1>clerk for taking your mail. You never know when your

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<v Speaker 1>thanks will really matter to someone, so there is zero

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<v Speaker 1>reason to be stingy. It's like being able to give

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<v Speaker 1>money away over and over talk about feeling rich, So

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<v Speaker 1>make sure to say thank you more than please when

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<v Speaker 1>you express your gratitude. The people who contribute to the love, productivity,

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<v Speaker 1>and smooth operations in your life will know that you

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<v Speaker 1>value them and what they do. You'll contribute to a

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<v Speaker 1>culture of appreciation, not a culture of demands, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is a culture to be grateful for. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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<v Speaker 1>the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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