1 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:15,360 Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:20,599 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to say thank you more than please. 4 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,280 Speaker 1: From childhood, we are prompted to say please and thank you, 5 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: and that's great, but one breakthrough insight of adulthood is 6 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 1: that you need to say thank you a lot more 7 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: than you say please. That is, you need to express 8 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: gratitude much more often than you make requests. Making sure 9 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: this ratio is right, we'll lead to a much better life. 10 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: This episode is first airing on Halloween. My kids love 11 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: going door to door to collect candy, and they say 12 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: trick or treat pretty regularly. The thank you parts sometimes 13 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 1: takes a bit more prompting. We practice beforehand, but there 14 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: are still times when a little costumed creature is racing 15 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: off immediately after grabbing the candy. So it goes with kids, 16 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: there are fewer thank yous than requests, but as we 17 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:24,399 Speaker 1: get to our adult lives, it is really important to 18 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: watch this ratio. We need people to do things, and 19 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: using please as good and thank you should naturally follow. 20 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: But it is even better to thank people when you 21 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: haven't made a specific request. That's when the ratio starts 22 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: tipping toward the right direction. So, for instance, when someone 23 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 1: in your household does a chore without you asking, that 24 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: should inspire a big thanks. Someone who does something extra 25 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: should be noticed. Even something that is part of a 26 00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: job can garner a thank you. And it great when 27 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: people do their jobs, and if you are just feeling 28 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: grateful in general, that is worth letting people know thank 29 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: you for being wonderful. Perhaps that sounds cheesy, but I 30 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 1: wouldn't mind hearing it a few more times, and my guests, 31 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 1: as you'd probably like it too. There are a few 32 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 1: reasons to watch this ratio. First, I think it gets 33 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: us out of the mindset of taking more than giving. 34 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,920 Speaker 1: About a year ago, I did a Before Breakfast episode 35 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: on Dorry Clark's rule of no asks for a year. 36 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: In other words, when you are networking with people, don't 37 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: ask for favors until three d sixty five days have 38 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: gone by. In this context, we are talking about saying 39 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for a year with your professional 40 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: acquaintances before you ever get to a please. Let's just 41 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: say that if you're please comes after that many thank yous, 42 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: it will be treated a lot more seriously. It is 43 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 1: the rare person who wouldn't try to help you if 44 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 1: they could. But beyond that, it feels good to express thanks, 45 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:17,639 Speaker 1: and it is a gift to the world that really 46 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 1: doesn't cost anything. Even if you can't give other resources, 47 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: you can give thanks in abundance. Why not thank the 48 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: grocery store bagger for being cheerful? Why not thank the 49 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: crossing guard for their work? Why not thank the postal 50 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: clerk for taking your mail. You never know when your 51 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: thanks will really matter to someone, so there is zero 52 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: reason to be stingy. It's like being able to give 53 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: money away over and over talk about feeling rich, So 54 00:03:56,240 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: make sure to say thank you more than please when 55 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: you express your gratitude. The people who contribute to the love, productivity, 56 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: and smooth operations in your life will know that you 57 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: value them and what they do. You'll contribute to a 58 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:20,800 Speaker 1: culture of appreciation, not a culture of demands, and that 59 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:26,040 Speaker 1: is a culture to be grateful for. In the meantime, 60 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: this is Laura, Thanks for listening, and here's to making 61 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:41,479 Speaker 1: the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to 62 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 1: hear from you. 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