1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,520 Speaker 1: My girlfriend broke up with me, had a baby with 2 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:05,320 Speaker 1: another man. Now she's dying and wants me to adopt 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: the kid. Okayop, but dum dumb dumb but dumb dumb 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: but dum dump dumb but dum dumb dumb. 5 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 2: Dumb um storre store store, and the crowd goes wild. 6 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 2: That was That was John's nineteen sixties uh talk show. 7 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: Wow, thank you so much, welcome. My girlfriend broke up 8 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 1: with me, had a baby with another man. Now she's 9 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: dying and wants me to adopt the kid. 10 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 2: That is a roller coaster, but I want to strap 11 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 2: in and get ready to go on the loop de loops. 12 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 2: Not a situation I would want to be in. No, 13 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 2: but I want to hear about it and live vicariously 14 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:50,560 Speaker 2: through others pain. 15 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: I thirty one M met my ex girlfriend twenty nine 16 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: female on a dating app around seven years ago. She 17 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: had a son just six months. All the time she 18 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 1: was with multiple guys and ended up pregnant, still not 19 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: knowing who the biological father is. 20 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 2: Ooh big oo ouch. 21 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: But it wasn't that much of an issue to me 22 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,960 Speaker 1: because she seemed like a great person and we had 23 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: a lot in common. After a few weeks of chatting 24 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: and talking online, we went on a first date and 25 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:18,319 Speaker 1: had a great time. After that, we just started hanging 26 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: out whenever she could, and shortly after she introduced me 27 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: to her son. A few months into our relationship, we 28 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: moved in together to save money. 29 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 2: Dude, you shouldn't move in with someone to save money 30 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,199 Speaker 2: if it's a romantic partner, because that's when things can 31 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 2: go buy it and. 32 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:35,479 Speaker 1: A few months like that's not a lot of time. 33 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: I started helping take care of her child whenever I could, 34 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: and we really grew fond of each other, and he 35 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: even started calling me Papa, and we just went along 36 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: with it since my girlfriend didn't mind. Now, almost five 37 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: years into our relationship, she told me that she wants 38 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: to break up with me because I became boring and 39 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: not an active person like I used to be. 40 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 2: That hurts man, not even like yeah, you know, I 41 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 2: think our life or just going in different directions, like 42 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 2: you're boring and you're fat and ugly, and I at too. 43 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: We used to go on hikes and travel around the 44 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 1: country on weekends, so I obviously don't do that much anymore. 45 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: And she also said I work too much, you know, 46 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: the cherry on the. 47 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:20,639 Speaker 2: Cake, damn, trying to provide for the family. 48 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 1: It was a rough time after that, and I had 49 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: a hard time accepting it, although not as hard as 50 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: explaining to a five year old that he'll no longer 51 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: be seeing. 52 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 2: As popable, oh bro. 53 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: But I managed to get over it in a few months. 54 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 1: I found a better job that allowed me to work remotely, 55 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 1: and I had a lot of free time, so I 56 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: actually ended up exploring a few other countries sick. 57 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 2: Sometimes you gotta drop the baggage to become a freeman. 58 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: Don't check it in, just put it on. Carry on now. 59 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,079 Speaker 1: A few days ago, I got a call from my ex. 60 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: So you know time is passed, okay. She said that 61 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,079 Speaker 1: she is sick and in the hospital. She removed one 62 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: of the tumors in her breast, but recently found another 63 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 1: tumor in her other breast and she will need that 64 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 1: removed as well. So like this is this is serious, 65 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: serious stuff right here. Yeah, she is scared that she 66 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: might die if it doesn't work out. Oh no, asked 67 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: me if i'd be willing to become her son's legal 68 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 1: guardian and adopt him, since she has no one else 69 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: to ask. 70 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 2: Frick, dude, that is such a tough ask. 71 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: Now, as mentioned, I live a different lifestyle now, he's 72 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: no longer boring. 73 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 2: Because of her. Yeah, he ain't got the time. 74 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,640 Speaker 1: I travel a lot. I invest in myself. So I 75 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: told her that I can't do that. She told me 76 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 1: that her son misses me and would love to see me, 77 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: but I said no again. And after I said no again, 78 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: she started crying, calling me names before just ending the call. Now, 79 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: I talked to my sister and my parents about this, 80 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: and they told me that it's an effed up thing 81 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: to refuse after all those years that we spent together. 82 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: I feel like trash now. So the question is, am 83 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: I the a hole for not wanting to adopt my 84 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: dying ex girlfriend's child? 85 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: Oh, dude, frick Like, dude, this is so tough. I 86 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 2: don't think he's an a hole for saying no. I mean, 87 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 2: like it's like it's not his problem necessarily. It's definitely 88 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:24,679 Speaker 2: not the nicest thing he could do. Like the nicest 89 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 2: thing he could do would be to adopt his ex 90 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:32,279 Speaker 2: girlfriends his dying ex girlfriend's kid, But like it's not 91 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 2: his responsibility, right, Like he's not related by blood he 92 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,359 Speaker 2: dated this girl for a couple of years, and you know, 93 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 2: the girl had a kid, but that doesn't mean that 94 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 2: it's suddenly his kid. And also the girl broke up 95 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 2: with him exactly. 96 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: Actually, there was an interesting comment that I pulled in 97 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 1: that in that regard. So this is from Unpopular Kryptonite. 98 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:53,920 Speaker 1: Great handle there. 99 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 2: Oh I actually got some kryptonite right here. Uh oh, 100 00:04:56,920 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 2: but yeah, that is right there. I've been crystaled. I'm 101 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 2: a Crystal boy. Now do Crystal saying sports sports? Crystal 102 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 2: sport boys. So on. 103 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 1: Popular Kryptoni says, not the a whole don't do it. 104 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: The kid doesn't remember you, it's been two years. She 105 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: can ask one of the more interesting excees to adopt her. 106 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:22,240 Speaker 2: Since you were so boring, baby, Yeah yeah, you know, 107 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 2: I totally forgot how mean she was when she broke 108 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 2: up with her exactly. Yeah. That's the thing is like 109 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:30,159 Speaker 2: she's like, you're so boring, Like I ask one of 110 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:36,479 Speaker 2: your more savage super savage. Oh yeah, I mean in 111 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 2: the end, although really quick, I don't like. If you 112 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:43,679 Speaker 2: want an empathetic answer, the Reddit comments are the worst place, 113 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 2: you know, if you want to go there for the empathy, 114 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 2: Like you're you're not. Like, if you want to become 115 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 2: a better person, just just don't take the advice of 116 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 2: Reddit comments. Reddit comments are like that that girl is 117 00:05:54,880 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 2: you know, crazy, or she's a complete b. You know, 118 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 2: we we out here trying to be mother Teresa. Yeah, 119 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 2: we're so, you know, we're trying to be better humans. 120 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 2: I had a little sugar to your society, you know 121 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:09,280 Speaker 2: what I mean? Like, I had an ex girlfriend of 122 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 2: like three years. She has a couple of sisters or 123 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 2: like like what, no, I have a four or five 124 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:18,480 Speaker 2: years ago. Like you dated her for four or five years. 125 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 2: I did her for two years and it ended like 126 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 2: four or five years ago. Okay, got it? Got it. 127 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 2: If she suddenly said, Sam, I'm dying, can you adopt 128 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 2: my sister, I'll be like, bro, you broke up with me? Yeah, 129 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 2: it's I don't. I don't think I'm like, uh no, 130 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 2: I you know that I've moved on. I'm living my life. 131 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 2: I got other things to worry about. I think. 132 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: I think that's like basically, if you break up with someone, 133 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: it's an opt out for their family essentially, Like you're 134 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: basically saying, like I don't want. 135 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 2: You in my life. 136 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I don't want you. I don't want you 137 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: in my life, in my family's life. 138 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:58,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you can't just like say like hey, you know, 139 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 2: like whenever you when you need something for someone else 140 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 2: in your family, just like hey, like I need your help. 141 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,159 Speaker 2: Like that's not how it works. No, like Op really 142 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 2: wanted to. That's fine, but yeah, yeah, like I think 143 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 2: it's okay for her to ask, that's a fair Yeah, 144 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 2: but I don't think it's Op's responsibility to say yes 145 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: yes or to guilt trip him. Yeah. Yeah, but you 146 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 2: know what, it is okay to guilt trip you. You 147 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 2: know what you should trip on that subscribe button baby, 148 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:30,679 Speaker 2: and that follow button on Spotify and on Dick Dog 149 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 2: and support is a Patreon too with Kathy Quickly, Kathy Quickly, 150 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 2: We love you, Kathy. We'll see you next time. See 151 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 2: you next time.