WEBVTT - Rabbit, Rabbit with Mario Cantone... (S1 E9 "The Turtle and the Hare") 0:00:01.639 --> 0:00:04.880 Hi, I'm Kristin Davis, and I want to know are 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:11.840 you a Charlotte? We are here at Are You a 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:15.840 Charlotte with the fantastic guests Mario kntone and we are 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:19.600 going to rewatch episode one oh nine. It's called The 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:23.360 Turtle and the Hair and it is directed by Michael Fields. 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:27.040 This is the second episode directed by mister Fields, who 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:28.400 unfortunately I have. 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.440 No memory of. I'm very sorry, mister Fields. And it 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:34.360 is written by Nicole Averrel and Sue Klensky. 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:36.640 Oh, I did stand up comedy. We know both of 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:39.560 them who I think I've met. 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:43.159 Yeah, we worked together many times with while Michael was 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:43.960 at the club at. 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:45.720 The Okay, so there's a connection. 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.080 This is the season when our writers weren't really with 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:51.760 us necessarily. They were they had written in La. Darren 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.280 had had a writer's room in La and scripts would 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:57.760 come and we wouldn't necessarily meet them, unlike every other year. 0:00:57.920 --> 0:00:59.280 Right and Jenny. 0:00:59.320 --> 0:00:59.960 At this point we. 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.520 Rewatched last episode one eight with Jenny. That was her 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.560 first Jenny Biggs, that was her first episode. And she 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.160 reminded me that she had been a consultant, she'd been 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:12.240 brought on, she'd been uh, that was her episode to right, 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:13.880 and then she was a consultant, so it was her, 0:01:14.000 --> 0:01:16.640 Darren and Michael in a room, which is kind of 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:18.880 amazing to think about it. And I hadn't really remembered 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:20.560 that she had been around the first season, which is 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:21.000 kind of a. 0:01:21.200 --> 0:01:23.520 Jenny after Sex and the City put me on two 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:25.240 seasons of men in trees. 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:29.000 No way, come on. 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:29.280 Yeh. 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:30.680 She was great. 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.720 She's the best. Okay, So this is a very interesting episode. 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:37.880 Saw all the episodes in the first season, right, so 0:01:38.120 --> 0:01:40.199 as you know, all of us are in it, and 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:42.840 then we have we start at this crazy wedding. 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:46.160 Didn't it look like it was the eighties? Yeah? Well yeah, 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:46.880 I mean because it. 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:50.000 Wasn't the eighties, but I mean the colors in the 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.480 room and the and also we had no money. Like 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:56.000 at one point, Samantha goes to a restaurants just supposedly 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:58.320 the talk of the town, and I'm like, what what. 0:01:58.280 --> 0:01:58.960 Is that restaurant? 0:01:59.200 --> 0:01:59.320 Oh? 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:02.680 Yeah, at the bar, and yeah, it's like the saddest 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:05.800 talk of the town restaurant I've ever seen. But we 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.520 had no money in the beginning compared to you know, 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.959 later and now especially but you know, luckily now we 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:14.440 have people asking us to film at the super cool 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:18.600 restaurant because we're still recovering, you know, the restaurant business. 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:20.919 But back in the day not so much. 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:23.480 No one knew who we were or what we were doing. 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:27.400 So we begin at this wedding where a character named 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:29.480 Brooke not played by myself. 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.240 A little bit confusing because I have previously. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:34.520 Played a character named Brook for Darren, but Noah is 0:02:34.560 --> 0:02:37.560 not me. She's getting married, but Carrie thinks that she's 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:40.320 getting married to someone who she doesn't really love, and 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:44.240 this begins the thematic conversation of is everyone in New 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.680 York settling in their relationships? Which is a really good 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:51.639 conversation to have and a very very important, I. 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:53.280 Think conversation to say. 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:57.840 In my mind, obviously I'm single, but in my mind, 0:02:57.960 --> 0:03:00.560 you should never settle, like I do not think that 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.799 you should settle. You know, people are not yes, and 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:06.560 I love There's this one moment. I'm just gonna talk 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:08.959 to you about it now. I sometimes go out of order. 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:11.560 There's this one moment where Carrie goes out with the 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:14.880 bride after the wedding to return some wedding gifts, and 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.239 she's still trying to figure out like, is she happy? 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:18.040 Is she not happy? 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:18.760 What's going on? 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.120 Is she pleased with her decision or not? 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.520 If she doesn't really love the guy, which doesn't seem 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:26.280 like she's passionately in love. And she says something like 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:29.520 what does it feel like to be married? And the 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:31.840 broke character says, it feels like. 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:35.240 A weight has been lifted? And I felt that. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:38.960 I felt that, And isn't that crazy that I would 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:43.080 still feel that today in twenty twenty five, And I 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.480 know that things have changed about this, but like, we 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:49.480 are so socialized that you have to be paired up in. 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:50.360 Whatever way that is. 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:52.360 It might be married, it might not be married, whatever 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:56.040 it is, it is a social situation where people want 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:57.920 an explanation if you are not paired. 0:03:57.920 --> 0:03:59.680 Oh sure, and it is stressful. 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:00.840 I'm sure it is. 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:04.400 I'm sure it is right, especially for I think, well 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:06.480 back in my day, especially for straight people. 0:04:06.680 --> 0:04:08.680 He were gay, they were like whatever. 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:12.160 Right, But then gay marriage became acceptable. And I don't know, 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:13.760 do you feel that pressure now you've been married for 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:15.720 a long time, do you feel like that pressure? 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:16.000 No? 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:20.000 I never felt that pressure because I just I'm a coupler. 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.960 It definitely was always a coupler. I wanted to be 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:27.279 with somebody, right, Yeah, But when I met Jerry, it 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:30.440 was you know, nineteen ninety I met him and I 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:32.920 was with someone else at the time, and then we 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:34.120 were friends for a year and half and then I 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:36.520 went when I broke up with my ex site we 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.479 started to get together like six months later. It just 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:43.760 accelerated into that. But it's yeah, I mean I didn't settle. 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:44.159 I knew. 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.120 Go on, Oh he's awesome. He didn't settle at all. 0:04:47.160 --> 0:04:49.440 Oh no, okay, so wait, this is okay. So first 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:51.360 of all, let me talk about how we look at 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:54.039 the wedding, because what's going on with all of our hairs. 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:58.320 My hair, it's so you but in that corner with 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:02.080 all the weekends insane, it is ads right, it is as. 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:07.400 I've never seen that. What were we thinking? And you 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:09.480 looked all kind of like like there was a slight like. 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:14.520 Punk thing, and we talk about like that were and 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:16.880 then they when they cut towards at the kids table o, 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:19.040 My god, I almost fell out. 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:20.279 Because this still happens to me. 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:22.360 I mean, it's rough to go to a wedding at 0:05:22.360 --> 0:05:24.040 this point because I'm like, if I have to sit 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:26.279 with those children. Oh, I don't know what I'm going 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:29.160 to do. I don't know what I'm to do. I 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:31.039 don't really don't want to do that, but you know, 0:05:31.200 --> 0:05:33.599 sometimes people do get married, and I do feel like 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:37.160 I should go, So we'll see. But when coming up, 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.200 I'm sure she's not. I mean, if I'm sitting with 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:40.080 my own kids, it's. 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:42.760 Okay, yeah, sure. Don't you hate when they mix you 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:47.800 up to the separate you. Why are you doing that? 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.000 That's not right. No, that's not right. People. 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.000 I want to get to a situation, you know what 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:52.320 I mean? 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:53.359 Right, they can be. 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:56.360 But anyway, we're at this woman Brooks wedding and we're 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:57.279 we're at. 0:05:57.120 --> 0:06:01.039 The reject table. She's so harsh. 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:04.040 We've got kids, and then we've got this man, Bernie 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:07.440 Turtle Tob who's kind of hysterical. She's known for good 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:12.480 investments but bad breath. And I'm really happy. I mean, 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:14.839 first of all, Samantha has this whole storyline with him 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.839 that I found kind of perplexing. I don't remember this 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:19.840 at all, right, but I was like, since when does 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:21.919 Samantha try to like fix anyone. 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:24.040 Up and right and settle right. 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:30.000 Luckily, she comes to she kind of definitely different than 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:33.160 we see later, Like like I also thought like, oh, 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:36.360 Samantha also is getting kind of worked out, right, because 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:37.760 I don't ever remember that. 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:39.040 I don't ever remember that. 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.480 But the nice thing about when she takes this guy out, 0:06:41.520 --> 0:06:44.560 she dresses him differently and whatnot, and she tells him 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.480 that he has bad breath, and he says very sweetly 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:50.479 that he's taking these Chinese herbs, which I totally relate 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:52.600 to because I have many times in life been taking 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:55.039 Chinese IRBs and I probably had Chinese irb breath. I 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:57.800 don't know, but he very sweetly says that, and she's like, oh, 0:06:57.800 --> 0:06:59.599 we can work on that. And it's kind of sweet 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:01.120 of her, you know what I mean, Like she's very 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:03.000 kind of mother to him. 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:04.640 And she actually wants to better him, I know. 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:06.520 And then she gives up. 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:08.799 He's talking about those mushrooms for too long. 0:07:09.080 --> 0:07:12.560 Okay, he's analyzing the mushrooms in his dish and there's 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.760 like six possible mushrooms it is, and she's like, maybe 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:19.280 no one cares, she says really sweetly, also really sweetly, 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:22.760 and he's like, maybe it's chantrelle or whatever it is. 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:25.080 And then she's like I'm out, which is really true. 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:28.960 That really man, But that was a very departure type 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:31.960 of a Samantha s I felt, right, Also similar to 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.520 when I mean not similar, but kind of similar. Earlier 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:36.320 in the episode, she comes to my I take her 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:39.240 home because she's drunk and she lives with my door man. Yeah, yeah, 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:42.680 also I mean very Samantha. But also it's funny to 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.640 see her drunken, like not together, you know what I mean, 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.120 and Charlotte's trying to take care of her, which is. 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:48.960 Kind of cute. 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.880 And then this is the Rabbit storyline, when we actually 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:54.760 went to the pleasure Chest and filmed. 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:56.640 Oh, that's right, we're at the pleasure chest. 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:59.160 You know what's funny about this episode. I was rewatching 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:03.800 it and I had just seen it. Incidentally, I had 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:07.360 just seen this episode on HBO, maybe like a month ago, 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:09.960 You're kidding, And I was like, I was watching, Wait, 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.480 I just saw the wow, wow because I remember that 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:13.680 you being directed to. 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:17.440 The Yeah, I'm addicted to the Rabbit. Departure for Charlotte, 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:19.280 a very departure for a. 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:21.840 Very different thing for Charlotte. Charlotte is and that's what 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:24.680 I saw. I saw the place I thought when I saw. 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:28.240 It, I just remember, this was my no. 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:29.280 I know, my hair is. 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:32.560 A mess, sturdy mean, and I'm wearing green silk. 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:33.400 What the heck? 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:33.679 Man? 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:36.520 And you see like a lot of my apartment, which 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:38.520 is not how my apartment was later, and I've got 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:41.439 a big wall of books, which I think is super awesome. 0:08:41.520 --> 0:08:42.640 And where do those books go? 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:46.520 Because now in Charlotte's apartment they're all white, They're wrapped 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:47.320 in white paper. 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:49.880 Yes, yes, it's just a design. 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:51.160 So Charlotte, I. 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:52.200 Know, so Charlotte. 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.520 Anyway, back then they were all their real bindings, which 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:54.959 is cool. 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:57.720 Charlotte was interesting, but also. 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.199 Kind of mysterious. You're like, where's the real who was 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.960 the real show? Where is she going? Is going to 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:03.400 turn into? 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:03.640 Right? 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:07.960 I mean, and we of course know, but back then 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.200 I don't think she knew right because at first she's like, no, no, 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.960 vibrator is not going to take you out for your birthday. 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:16.840 A vibrator is not going to say I love you. 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:18.760 She's like, gives them a little speech at the very 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.400 sad coffee shop. You're at the real coffee shop in 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:24.959 Long Island City, that kind of scary coffee shop, sad 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:25.560 and scary. 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:29.760 Do you remember no, yeah, yeah, I remember? You remember 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:30.160 her set? 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:32.319 The coffee shop is not a set, it's a real 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:35.600 in Long Island City, which like in the middle of 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:37.000 the warehouses they used to be there. 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:40.240 She was saying that, you know, it's not going to 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:41.440 say I love you, and then all of a sudden, 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:42.840 she's she's canceling on. 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:46.199 That I and she's a bad liar, which is so 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:47.559 worse so me. 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:49.720 I'm a terrible liar, terrible liar. 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.679 They come and bang on my door and then they 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.520 grabbed the vibrator, which I thought was brave. 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:56.480 Oh yeah, you know. 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.400 I was like they were and I do vaguely remember 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.320 some conversation, and I also I vividly remember being at 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:05.080 the pleasure Chest because I'd never been to the pleasure Chest. 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.199 I was like, I can't believe we're filming here. 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.679 And we had to hold the thing up in our 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:12.640 face right like like you know on film, you can't 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.520 never hold anything down here because they have to cut 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:16.439 to an INSTI you have to hold it up. 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:17.679 It's like right in our face. 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:22.840 I was like, what all of us it's got the years. 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:26.440 I know, it's a crazy situation. It's a crazy situation. Yes, 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:28.040 the rabbit was a big deal. 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:30.920 Turtle in the hair. 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:34.040 I know, I know, I know, so I like that departure. 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:35.960 But can I tell you what else pops up in 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:36.280 my mind? 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:36.880 This is what I do. 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:38.360 I free flow my memory and then I'm going to 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.960 look at my papers. Sara Jessica and I are doing 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:44.560 that yoga scene and we're in the top floor of 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.360 Silver Cup, which was empty at the time. So like 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:48.960 if you were to look at those windows, you would 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:51.920 see Manhattan in the distance, which we also filmed in 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:57.679 last season Evan, just like that, and I believe we actually, no, 0:10:57.840 --> 0:10:59.920 it was somewhere where we were supposed to be in Brooklyn. 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:02.040 I can't remember what thing it was, but we were 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:05.000 supposed to be in Brooklyn so we could use the skylight. 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:09.520 I remember also what I did, the scene I did 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:12.319 with with with Sarah Jessica. 0:11:12.120 --> 0:11:15.320 When she was going to buy that apartment. Yeah, it was. 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:17.720 They built it. They built it up with the skylight. 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:21.080 Oh, the one with those with too much se totally, Yes, 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:21.880 they built it up there. 0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:24.000 That was that's the same floor. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:28.400 Jessica and I had been a yoga teacher before before 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.440 I got Maler's place and We're up there and it's 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:34.120 very cold. They have the air conditioning on too much, 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.520 and I'm like, you guys, it's too cold. 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.680 You have the sets are often they're having to do 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:40.319 a lot of work. I get it. 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:43.120 But we had to do yoga, and I remember saying like, 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:44.840 we need to we need to warm up, we need 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:46.280 to warm up, we need to warm up. But Sarah 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:48.679 had been a dancer, right, so she's super limber. I'm 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:51.200 pretty limber, you know, and we're just doing our stretches. 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.960 Sarah Jessica pulled a muscle in the back of her 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:58.760 leg that I still feel bad about because we had 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.680 had you had a wretch, But you're acting, right, You're 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.240 acting and you're not thinking. And I know she's very limber, 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:06.679 and I remember just like doing the thing like we 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:08.320 were supposed to do, and I just feel like I 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:10.839 pulled her too far or something and it hurt her 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:14.319 to sit on it on a hard chair for years. 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:16.880 No way, like we'd be in a theater scene, you 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:18.720 know how we had all those scenes like the fashion 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.760 show that she was sitting with us. But we'd be 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:21.599 sitting somewhere. 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.280 And she'd be like, oh, and I just feel terrible. 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:27.080 Terrible bad. She I don't think she blames me, but 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.320 I still feel bad. I still feel bad. But I 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.960 love that scene. It's a really fun scene. And we 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:35.160 look like little children obviously, which is really funny. Okay, 0:12:35.320 --> 0:12:38.200 back at the wedding. We're at the wedding. I mean, man, 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.280 oh man, I don't even know what to make of it. 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:44.679 Like when you look at people. You know, let's just 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:46.640 talk about women right now for a second. Let's leave 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:48.920 gay men out of it. For gay women, let's talk 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:51.360 about with straight women. Yeah, do you feel like there's 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:54.679 pressure to settle and get married and have the thing, 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:55.760 the big wedding? 0:12:55.920 --> 0:13:00.199 And you know, still I still do. I do. Thick 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:05.440 times have changed, but I do. Also there's I don't 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:06.640 know if there's social pressure. 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:08.960 I guess there is some social pressure pressure, but there's 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:11.960 a lot of inner pressure that women put on themselves. 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:12.959 Because we've been socialized. 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:16.240 They think that this wouldn't be supposed to be, that 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:17.280 it's going to make you happy. 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.840 When if you had a friend that you felt was 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:24.440 settling to get that marriage, you know, would you say something. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.559 No, I would you know, after they were divorced, I'd 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:30.240 be like, I never liked them, but you know beforehand, 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:31.559 I can No, it's. 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.719 Too delicate, it's difficult, and I really have. 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:35.640 To make sure even if they don't get married, you 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.000 have to make sure they are broken up and they 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:39.679 are never getting back together again. 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:47.880 Say anything, yeah, yeah, yeah, you don't want to create problem. No, 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.600 you don't want them to be mad at you, right, Yes, 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.040 I know it's rough though. I don't ever say anything 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:55.200 about anything because I don't I don't really know what's 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:56.000 going on in that relation. 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:57.360 Whip don't right, it's. 0:13:57.760 --> 0:14:02.120 Look and the rule to one's relationship is none of 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:06.240 anybody's business, and there are different rules to different people's relationships. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:19.000 That is a very very good point. We cut back 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:22.480 to Carrie and she's typing in her adorable way. I 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:25.960 just love it so much. Then she calls big And 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.440 and she asks him why did he get married? And 0:14:30.520 --> 0:14:32.800 I have to say this, I've been on a very 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:37.760 big journey with big rewatching the first season because I 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.520 just can't believe how he is to her, Like he's just. 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:44.480 So yes, not giving you know at all. 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:48.920 Yeah, until this episode, I felt like he broke down 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:49.880 a little bit more. 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:51.440 He's a little warmer. 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:54.200 To her, do you know what I mean, finally, finally, finally, 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:56.640 because I think also she's going through this whole thing 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:59.120 of like, oh, I'm dating someone who never wants to 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:01.560 get married again, should I do? And she actually has 0:15:01.600 --> 0:15:03.600 to contemplate all these things and then he has to 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:06.360 kind of like reach out to her rather than her 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:08.440 always reaching out to him. None of these things ever 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:10.760 occurred to me when we were filming this. Well, you're 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:14.360 seeing it totally differently, totally I think because of the times, 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:16.520 but also think when you're in it, you're just trying 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:18.400 to do it. You know, you're just trying to do it. 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:20.280 And Charlotte was so big, so I was. 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:23.800 During that scene when they called this a split screen, yes, 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.080 very Brian to Palma's. 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:28.520 Terror love split screen. 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:32.040 We loved it and they talk that what did you 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:33.840 think of that? You think it was weird? I what? 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:36.000 I immediately went, it's a split screen. 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:36.800 He loved it. 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:39.040 I liked it. I did. I did like I like 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:42.280 look watching it. Like I said to you, I like 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:44.480 the tone of it too all I like to talk 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:48.280 to so much. Sure does. It's twenty two minutes like bam, 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:50.520 bam bam, and you're like, oh, I want more. It's 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:52.120 like it's a short twenty two minutes. 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.760 It's very short, I know, and they get so much 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:57.360 in there. I know, the writing is so good, so 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:00.360 so good, so so good. Okay, So Carry calls Big 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:04.640 and she basically says, you know, why did he get married? 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:05.720 And then he says he was. 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:09.200 A fool in love, which are just like, what, really, 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.520 at what age were you a fool in love? Because 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.520 this is not who we know him to be. And 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:17.080 then he says he's never going to get married again. 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:21.040 And then would you see her gulp exactly, which is 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:23.400 also I think kind of surprising in a way because 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:25.520 she's quite the you know, the girl about town. 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:29.160 Well that's when you know that you really has deep feeling. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:35.400 Deep feelings, I know, sweet Carrie. Then so last week 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.680 we found out that he had been married. Now we're 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:39.440 casually finding out. But I do feel like this is 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:41.640 how relationships are in the beginning, right, Like people just 0:16:41.680 --> 0:16:44.800 say stuff like kind of like of course, but in reality, 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:46.960 you're you're over on the other side, like what it's 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:50.120 a clue. That's a bad clue, you know, like you're nitpicking, 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.040 a'll not not even nippicking, but you're you're just like 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:58.800 accruing details, right, trying to make the picture together. Okay, 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:02.240 so then the rest of us are not surprised to 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:05.239 hear that Big doesn't want to get married. But I 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:07.439 think this is a major bummer, which is so funny 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:11.399 because it's something that I would say, now, oh silliness. 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:13.520 You wonder if they were paying attention to how I talk. 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:16.760 I don't know. But then of course deman that Cared 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:20.600 not surprised at all. And then she says, I wasn't 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:23.600 even thinking about getting married until I was told I couldn't, 0:17:23.840 --> 0:17:26.200 and which I think is so true, right, Like you're 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:29.040 just on your own tracks, and you're assuming that other 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:31.600 people are possibly on that track too, and then you 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:33.840 hear that they're not in this shock right because you're 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:38.199 just kind of going about things assuming that their possibilities. 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:40.720 Right. That's not always the case, is right. 0:17:40.720 --> 0:17:42.480