WEBVTT - SUNDAY SAMPLER - The Nashville Podcast Network (12-8-24)

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<v Speaker 1>Hey guys, Sunday Sampler Time, just some of the podcasts

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<v Speaker 1>from the Nashville Podcast Network. Since a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>don't put up podcasts on Sundays, we put this up

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<v Speaker 1>maybe here a little bit of what you like, and

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<v Speaker 1>you go listen to the whole thing. In the Vets

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<v Speaker 1>Office with Doctor Josie, Doctor Josie sat down with doctor

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<v Speaker 1>Amy Addis, who is a house called Veterinarian in New

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<v Speaker 1>York City. So that means celebrity pets like share Billy, Joel,

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<v Speaker 1>Joan Rivers and some crazy stories. So that's pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Four Things with Amy Brown. I had Marcus King on

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<v Speaker 1>Who's Awesome Morgan's podcast? Oh that's coming up here, but

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to get started with a clip from

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<v Speaker 1>in the Vets Office with Doctor Josie, with that New

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<v Speaker 1>York City Vet.

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<v Speaker 2>You're listening to In the Vets Office with Doctor Josie Horschhak.

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<v Speaker 3>The people you got close to you were pretty high profile.

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<v Speaker 4>And what I have noticed on this podcast especially is

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<v Speaker 4>will have stars, country music stars or like Bobby Bones

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<v Speaker 4>come on and you talk to them about their career

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<v Speaker 4>and their goals, and they're they're kind of one person.

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<v Speaker 4>And then when you talk to them about their animals,

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<v Speaker 4>you can just see like a completely different side of them.

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<v Speaker 4>I think just from watching her on TV that Joan

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<v Speaker 4>Rivers is pretty intimidating. I'm assuming that you probably saw

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<v Speaker 4>a lot more of a softer side to her with

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<v Speaker 4>her animals.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw all sides of Joan Rivers. She was an

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<v Speaker 2>enormous personality. She was driven in a way that very

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<v Speaker 2>few people are.

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<v Speaker 5>When I would go.

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<v Speaker 2>Into her home to work with the dogs, there would

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<v Speaker 2>be posted on the refrigerator her daily schedule, and it

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<v Speaker 2>said things like up at five, exercise, makeup, leave for studio,

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<v Speaker 2>and then her entire day was calculated down to the

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<v Speaker 2>moment and it ended at midnight. I mean, she was

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<v Speaker 2>very regiment, old enough to be more than my mother,

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<v Speaker 2>and she had a schedule that would have run me

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<v Speaker 2>into the ground. So she was an enormously busy person,

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<v Speaker 2>and she was extremely demanding, and her dogs were so

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<v Speaker 2>important to her. So I was used to getting yelled

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<v Speaker 2>at on occasion or emails that I wish she had

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<v Speaker 2>never sent to me. But when she was finished with that,

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<v Speaker 2>she turned out to be, of course a very dear friend.

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<v Speaker 2>So we would go through the cycles of Joan's love

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<v Speaker 2>and her wrath. She was an enormous supporter of mine.

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<v Speaker 2>When I started my house call practice, she told everyone

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<v Speaker 2>she knew. The relationship over those years turned into a lovely,

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<v Speaker 2>lovely friendship where we went out to dinner together. I

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<v Speaker 2>mean she called one day. We had homes close to

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<v Speaker 2>each other, about one hundred miles north of New York City,

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<v Speaker 2>and she called and said, take me to the movies

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<v Speaker 2>on Saturday night.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was like she didn't ask.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, she didn't ask a question. She would have

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<v Speaker 2>the most beautiful dinner parties where the group of people

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<v Speaker 2>around the table were just from all different types of

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<v Speaker 2>parts of her life, and every person felt like they

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<v Speaker 2>were the guest of honor. She was an enormously gracious, warm,

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<v Speaker 2>loving person with a little bit of a biting part.

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<v Speaker 3>Of her person.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't want to be on her bad side. Oh no,

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<v Speaker 4>I love the story about her Yorky. I think it

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<v Speaker 4>was a Yorky that you had encouraged her to get

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<v Speaker 4>a surgery that she did not really want to do,

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<v Speaker 4>and then she ended up doing it and was like

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<v Speaker 4>I was right to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Said, well, she was never wrong, of course, But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like even with her first Yorkie, Spike. Spike went to

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<v Speaker 2>work with her wherever she was. He traveled around, he

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<v Speaker 2>was part of the show, and I recommended that because

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<v Speaker 2>he wasn't feeling well, that maybe she would leave him

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<v Speaker 2>out of the show that week and he should stay home.

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<v Speaker 2>And like all of a sudden, you know, she had

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<v Speaker 2>just looked at me and she said, don't tell me

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<v Speaker 2>what to do, just make my dog well enough to go.

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<v Speaker 6>Like you didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't messed with them exactly. Wow. Yeah, it's funny

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<v Speaker 3>we do, even if they're not famous.

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<v Speaker 4>You have everybody that's a bugineer and has owners that

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<v Speaker 4>can be a little bit more demanding, And I think

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<v Speaker 4>our job is to kind of look past at and

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<v Speaker 4>see like, Okay, where's this coming from. They just really,

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<v Speaker 4>at the core of it, love their pet and want

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<v Speaker 4>their pet to be okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a client who moved to New York after

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<v Speaker 2>he retired. He had been a movie producer, so he

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<v Speaker 2>moved from California to New York and he lived in

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<v Speaker 2>new apartment with his two cats. And he paged me

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<v Speaker 2>on a Saturday night for an emergency and I called

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<v Speaker 2>him back immediately. I said, what's the problem. He said,

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<v Speaker 2>my cat just scratched me with his nails. His nails

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<v Speaker 2>are too long. Come and cut them. I said, it's

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<v Speaker 2>ten o'clock and a Saturday night. I don't I don't

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<v Speaker 2>make house calls. If you truly had an emergency, it

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<v Speaker 2>would help you. But I'm not coming to cut your

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<v Speaker 2>cat's nails. And he kind of hesitated and said, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>in La, nobody would ever say no to me. So

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<v Speaker 2>he was like being brought back into the real world.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're like not in New York, no means no.

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<v Speaker 2>And you're retired.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, exactly, exactly.

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<v Speaker 4>Another thing that you talked about in the book that

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<v Speaker 4>I really loved and I have seen with my own

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<v Speaker 4>experience as a veterinarian, is that no, there is no

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<v Speaker 4>such thing as a disabled pet, and so we have

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of patients that require amputations, or they lose

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<v Speaker 4>an eye, or they go deaf, and so I really

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<v Speaker 4>loved how you put an emphasis on that. I think

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<v Speaker 4>I tell my owners all the time. We can learn

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<v Speaker 4>so much from our animals. I have had dogs going

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<v Speaker 4>through chemo that are bouncing around and rolling in the grass.

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<v Speaker 4>Dogs on three legs or cats on three legs that

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<v Speaker 4>would never know the difference. And if someone cut my

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<v Speaker 4>leg off, I probably would be in bed crying about

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<v Speaker 4>it for six months.

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<v Speaker 3>You're the rest of my life. Who knows.

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<v Speaker 4>But they are just so resilient in that way.

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<v Speaker 5>What was your house like South Carolina?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 7>What was it?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know the physically, what was the house like

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of bedrooms?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah. So I initially grew up in a ranch, three bedroom,

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<v Speaker 6>one bathroom house with a side room where I had

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<v Speaker 6>my drums set and my guitar and I would just

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<v Speaker 6>spend hours in there, either playing drums. My grandfather tell

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<v Speaker 6>me how to play a train beat, and he'd play

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<v Speaker 6>along with me.

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<v Speaker 5>What's the train beat?

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<v Speaker 8>Can you.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh like it got it gotta go out? I hear

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<v Speaker 5>the train coming. That's what I think when you do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, yeah, maybe just because we're trains in it

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm very slow.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah no, no, no, I mean that that's the train

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<v Speaker 6>be that's the quint essential. And he taught me, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>because it's all about the timing and like not letting

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<v Speaker 6>it drag, not letting it rush, just keeping it right there.

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<v Speaker 6>And I started on drums actually, so I just I

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<v Speaker 6>spent a lot of time alone. But it was you know,

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<v Speaker 6>next door was my grandparents' house, and I just hang

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<v Speaker 6>out with them when my dad was work and just

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<v Speaker 6>played guitar all day or drums to sing.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll just call it the blues. Before your voice hits puberty?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you I don't know, man, And how bluesy

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<v Speaker 1>can you be with a high pitched voice?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I mean you'd have to ask, Like like Tina Turner,

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<v Speaker 6>I mean that was that was the and like Aretha Franklin,

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<v Speaker 6>like I liked soul singers. Sure, I feel like you know,

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<v Speaker 6>even like bb King after like sixty eight sixty nine

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<v Speaker 6>Bibe was putting out like soul records.

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<v Speaker 1>But did it change for it at some point where

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<v Speaker 1>you were singing but your voice had hit puberty and

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<v Speaker 1>then after it.

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<v Speaker 6>Was I started singing when I was when I was thirteen,

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<v Speaker 6>So I think that's why I made before that Nah, Wow,

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<v Speaker 6>I just played guitar. I was too bashful to sing.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, first time singing. Then then why in public? Why

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<v Speaker 1>what got you there?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, you know I had always kind of expressed my

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<v Speaker 6>you know, trauma or whatever it was, just through the guitar,

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<v Speaker 6>and you know, when I was thirteen, the girl I

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<v Speaker 6>had a crush on died in a car accident, and

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<v Speaker 6>it really fucked my head up. And I had had

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<v Speaker 6>all these abandonment issues anyway, and they all just kind

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<v Speaker 6>of like came to a head, and I was really

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<v Speaker 6>not able to, you know, find a way to comfort myself,

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<v Speaker 6>you know. And we didn't have the distractions that we

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<v Speaker 6>have now, you know, so I wasn't on an iPad

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<v Speaker 6>or anything to like fully escape and immerse myself in

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<v Speaker 6>something else. So that's when I decided to start writing

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<v Speaker 6>and start singing, you know, just so I had two

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<v Speaker 6>more vessels to put my pain through. And I think

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<v Speaker 6>the first time I sang publicly, I sang not my

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<v Speaker 6>Cross to bear by the Oman Brothers.

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<v Speaker 9>Man.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, that's not an easy one.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not an easy so you decided to just go Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's I'm a little teapot, right.

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<v Speaker 6>That's how I learned to swim, you know, just get

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<v Speaker 6>thrown into the deep end.

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<v Speaker 5>I spent a lot of time in therapy. I got

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<v Speaker 5>some crazy abandonment issues myself. Dad left when I was

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<v Speaker 5>five or six.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom died drugs in her forties, and so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>mine are to the point where.

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<v Speaker 5>They're built in, like they're cooked in.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can acknowledge them, and I can see them,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can see it affect and I can feel

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<v Speaker 1>it affected me.

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<v Speaker 5>But I can ignowlre it. Right like forever, I didn't

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<v Speaker 5>even know.

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<v Speaker 7>I gotta know why.

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<v Speaker 5>I was just wanted to be by myself or.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, everything told me. I loved them tomorrow about

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<v Speaker 1>my wife a few years ago. But I was just

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<v Speaker 1>always like, this is who I am, This is who

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<v Speaker 1>I am, this swam But that's that was like what

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<v Speaker 1>mine were rooted in.

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<v Speaker 5>What was yours a parent thing? Was yours a home

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<v Speaker 5>type thing?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, my mom left when I was very young, and

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<v Speaker 6>that was really hard for me, and that was it's

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<v Speaker 6>still something that I really struggle with.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, is she alive now, she's still alive.

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<v Speaker 6>Her health's not very good, but we you know, we've

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<v Speaker 6>packed things up and we're we're a lot closer now.

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<v Speaker 5>You know that you're a better man than I am.

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<v Speaker 5>Like my real dad's still alive. I don't talk to him.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean it's it's challenging.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, how old were you?

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<v Speaker 6>I was like five, so like that age is really

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<v Speaker 6>really tough because you know, I'd go to school every day,

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<v Speaker 6>I'd get sent home from kindergarten every day because I'd

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<v Speaker 6>cry so hard that i'd throw up. And this was

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<v Speaker 6>a daily thing because you don't know where her mother's at.

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<v Speaker 6>It's you know, just as a as a mammal, a living,

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<v Speaker 6>breathing mammal, You're just instinctively you're gonna need your mother's

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<v Speaker 6>affection and love and attention. And I didn't have it.

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<v Speaker 6>And I have my grandmother, who was, you know, really

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<v Speaker 6>like my mother.

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<v Speaker 1>My grandma adopted me. We might be the same person. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're except for that smoothie. That's too much I need again,

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<v Speaker 1>I need lots of show. Yeah. So your grandma was

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<v Speaker 1>very instrumental and your your upbringing, huh.

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<v Speaker 6>And she was, you know, just a really sassy German

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<v Speaker 6>woman and just very loving, very affectionate. And it almost,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, kind of balanced it out. How affectionate she was,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, made up for the fact that my mother

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<v Speaker 6>had left. But you know, I still I love my

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<v Speaker 6>mother and I try to take care of her the

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<v Speaker 6>best I can.

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<v Speaker 7>Cast up little food for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Life always pretty, but it's pretty beautiful that for a

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<v Speaker 1>little mouth.

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<v Speaker 5>Said, cut your kicking with full with Amy Brown.

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<v Speaker 10>First, I want to go over what real alcohols you

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<v Speaker 10>can have or the ones you may want to stay

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<v Speaker 10>away from again if you're trying to avoid the anxiety. Apparently,

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<v Speaker 10>dark liquors like whiskey, prosecco, champagne, and red wine are

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<v Speaker 10>the worst. They have chemicals that worsen hangovers and anxiety.

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<v Speaker 10>Sugary cocktails are also a no go, which after I

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<v Speaker 10>read this, I was like, oh, okay, my drinks the

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<v Speaker 10>other night on my date YEP had prosecco mixed in

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<v Speaker 10>a sugary concoction, So damn that was likely my problem.

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<v Speaker 10>The high sugar, which leads to a sugar spike and

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<v Speaker 10>then a sugar crash, which then will increase my anxiety,

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<v Speaker 10>my irritability. And then also I had no idea about this,

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<v Speaker 10>but the bubbles in prosecco and champagne they speed up

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<v Speaker 10>the absorption of alcohol in our bloodstream, which lead to

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<v Speaker 10>a quicker and more intense effect. So at the time,

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<v Speaker 10>it's feeling really good and it's all enjoyable and you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 10>I feel great, this is fun, which might lead you

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<v Speaker 10>to order more, and then the after effects of that anxiety,

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<v Speaker 10>which I was also surprised to see red wine on

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<v Speaker 10>the worst list. I mean, the whiskey, the sugary drinks,

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<v Speaker 10>I get that was easy for me to understand, but

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<v Speaker 10>red wine was a little confusing. But I guess it's

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<v Speaker 10>a sugar and chemical thing. And I am bummed to

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<v Speaker 10>see prosecco on there. And keep that in mind though,

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<v Speaker 10>with New Year's Eve coming up, prosecco, champagne, a lot

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<v Speaker 10>of that is served, and maybe you want to avoid

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<v Speaker 10>that this time of year and see if you feel

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<v Speaker 10>better the next morning. Now, as for the best drinks

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<v Speaker 10>to have to decrease your anxiety, the article said to

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<v Speaker 10>stick to clear liquors like vodka, gin, or tequila with soap.

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<v Speaker 9>Tequila kayala is a little.

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<v Speaker 5>What are you all?

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<v Speaker 11>I was sitting back here and I was like, man,

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<v Speaker 11>I can't wait to hit this. When she says tequila, okay,

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<v Speaker 11>that's scuba.

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<v Speaker 10>Steve, I had no idea he was even listening to this.

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<v Speaker 10>He's back in his glass production room.

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<v Speaker 3>Tequila.

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<v Speaker 10>You can have vodka, gin or tequila with soda, water

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<v Speaker 10>or fresh citrus. Those are easier on your system. And

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<v Speaker 10>then again, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate, don't forget water between drinks.

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<v Speaker 10>It can make a huge difference. And we know this.

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<v Speaker 3>I know this.

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<v Speaker 10>We don't always do it, but just make a deal

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<v Speaker 10>with yourself, make smarter choices, and then you'll have less anxiety. Now,

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<v Speaker 10>Ray speaking of the glass room where Scuba works. He

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<v Speaker 10>is one of our producers on the Bobby Bone Show,

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<v Speaker 10>and he was actually just making fun of me this

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<v Speaker 10>morning for being sold that I can't even handle one drink.

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<v Speaker 10>Ray likes to drink, but mostly I would say, now

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<v Speaker 10>it's during brunch on Saturdays. That's his time to go out.

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<v Speaker 10>And he's the one that got me on on Booze

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<v Speaker 10>a while back, which is a supplement that helps you

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<v Speaker 10>feel better after drinking. And I will say it has

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<v Speaker 10>helped me, but sometimes I run out or other times

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<v Speaker 10>I just forget to take it. And last weekend, you know,

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<v Speaker 10>I had those drinks, but I was out of unboozed.

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<v Speaker 10>So I do need to order more. And I will

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<v Speaker 10>shout out Ray because he has a code sisin twenty three.

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<v Speaker 10>So I think his handle on Instagram is like sisin

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<v Speaker 10>Ray Mundo, but sisin is like for season, but s

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<v Speaker 10>z N twenty three, and that'll get you a discount

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<v Speaker 10>if you're curious about Unbooze, and I'll link it in

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<v Speaker 10>the show notes. But in addition to taking something like

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<v Speaker 10>Unbooze that may help you out. Another option might be

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<v Speaker 10>non Alcoholic Spirits.

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<v Speaker 9>Now.

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<v Speaker 10>I came across that brand recently, like I told you,

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<v Speaker 10>thanks to that Instagram ad, and what I ordered specifically

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<v Speaker 10>was from Little Saints. It's a whole non alcoholic brand,

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<v Speaker 10>so there's nothing confusing about it. You don't go to

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<v Speaker 10>the website and you're like, wait, which one's the alcohol,

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<v Speaker 10>which one's not, because they all look like alcohol but

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<v Speaker 10>nothing is. And I was most intrigued by their drink

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<v Speaker 10>that mimics tequila. I thought it would come in handy

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<v Speaker 10>for when I want a margarita something like that. When

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<v Speaker 10>I got the bottle and the mail, I saw that

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<v Speaker 10>the company is also founded by a woman, which I love.

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<v Speaker 10>And my overall review is four point five out of five.

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<v Speaker 10>I really liked it so much so that, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 10>may order more stuff from the site, Like I was

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<v Speaker 10>saying to Eddie, maybe I'll order some gifts for people.

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<v Speaker 9>I know.

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<v Speaker 10>There's a lot of na brands out there. This is

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<v Speaker 10>just the only one that i've tried and really enjoyed

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<v Speaker 10>so far. And this one is infused with lines Made,

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<v Speaker 10>which is a functional mushroom. It's an adaptogen. It's good

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<v Speaker 10>for brain health, mood support, gut health, and a lot

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<v Speaker 10>of other things. I've always loved lines Made, so to

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<v Speaker 10>have it in my mocktail it's like a bonus. I

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<v Speaker 10>don't know if it's just me or if y'all are

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<v Speaker 10>also getting more non alcoholic type ads, but I do

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<v Speaker 10>think that drinking is on the decline drinking alcohol. People

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<v Speaker 10>are drinking less, which I guess is good and probably

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<v Speaker 10>why some brands have increased marketing because they want to

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<v Speaker 10>capitalize on the fact that people are drinking less, or

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<v Speaker 10>they are curious about drinking less.

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<v Speaker 3>And speaking of.

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<v Speaker 10>Curiosity, I decided to do a little research because I

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<v Speaker 10>was like, Okay, what are the statistics on this, like,

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<v Speaker 10>is drinking actually going down? And I found that, on average,

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<v Speaker 10>this is from NC Solutions, Americans are drinking three drinks

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<v Speaker 10>per week and that's down from four to five drinks

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<v Speaker 10>in twenty twenty three. Millennials in particular are drinking less,

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<v Speaker 10>like forty percent less this year than last year, with

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<v Speaker 10>an average of three drinks per week. Which is crazy

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<v Speaker 10>to think about if we were going from five drinks

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<v Speaker 10>to three and with dry January coming up next month

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<v Speaker 10>might be the highest year of participation yet because this

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<v Speaker 10>last January was up ten percent from the year before,

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<v Speaker 10>So it's just in one year and ten percent jump.

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<v Speaker 10>That is a lot of people. And the top of

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<v Speaker 10>reasons Americans are drinking less include while we want to

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<v Speaker 10>improve our physical health, we want to save money.

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<v Speaker 3>Although I will say.

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<v Speaker 10>The non alcoholic drinks they might be more expensive than

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<v Speaker 10>the alcohol ones, so maybe they're saving money and just

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<v Speaker 10>not drinking anything, not even the fake version. And overall,

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<v Speaker 10>we just want to make lifestyle changes.

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<v Speaker 11>We're gonna do it live.

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<v Speaker 7>We are the one, two three sore losers. What up, everybody?

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<v Speaker 7>I am lunchbox. I know the most about sports, so

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<v Speaker 7>I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions, because

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<v Speaker 7>I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.

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<v Speaker 12>It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male.

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<v Speaker 12>I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser,

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<v Speaker 12>my wife.

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<v Speaker 11>We do have a farm.

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<v Speaker 12>It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot

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<v Speaker 12>of crops, hopefully soon corn pumpkins. I believe maybe a

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<v Speaker 12>little fescue to be determined over to you, coach, And.

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<v Speaker 7>Here's a clip from this week's episode of The Sore Losers.

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<v Speaker 7>My in laws come in and they act like my

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<v Speaker 7>house is a pile of shit. They act like we

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<v Speaker 7>can't take care of ourselves. They start up, They're like,

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<v Speaker 7>my father's like, hey, where is that curtain rod that

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<v Speaker 7>your your wife once hung up? I'm like what, She's

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<v Speaker 7>never mentioned a curtain rod in her life to me.

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<v Speaker 11>All the stuff you didn't do.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like, what curtain There's no curtain rod and he goes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>she said she gave me a to do list and

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<v Speaker 7>one of them was hanging this curtain rod.

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<v Speaker 11>I coach, you haven't done it for six months.

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<v Speaker 7>I have never been told about a curtain rod anywhere.

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<v Speaker 7>And I'm like what. And he's like, yeah, she told

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<v Speaker 7>me that you guys want to hang a curtain rod

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<v Speaker 7>in the kid's bedroom. I'm like, we do. So he

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<v Speaker 7>goes down and hang. He hangs the damn curtain in

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<v Speaker 7>the kid's bedroom and I'm like, what the hell you

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<v Speaker 7>want to just take my man card to then? Oh,

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<v Speaker 7>then we bought a mirror that she bought a mirror

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<v Speaker 7>in an estate sale, and she I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 7>where do you want to hang it? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 7>I do notice she's stuck in the closet. Never said

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<v Speaker 7>anything else about it. Her parents are there and her

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<v Speaker 7>father and La was like, now, so where is this

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<v Speaker 7>mirror going. And I'm like, I don't know, and he goes, no, no,

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<v Speaker 7>she said she wanted it in the kitchen right And

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like, no, she has not mentioned anything about a

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<v Speaker 7>damn mirror to me since we you know, like we

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<v Speaker 7>bought the mirror we put in the closet and she

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<v Speaker 7>said she was gonna think about it. He's like, no,

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<v Speaker 7>she said, she wants it hung up right here. So

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<v Speaker 7>he gets out the tape measure and starts marking shit

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<v Speaker 7>and hangs it right on the wall.

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<v Speaker 11>Yeah, let me get the tape measure. It's in the bedroom.

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<v Speaker 7>And I'm like, well, what the hell? Like they start

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<v Speaker 7>just doing everything, but you got him knocked off the

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<v Speaker 7>list though it was never on the list.

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<v Speaker 11>But you're saying it's a little bit. It's a little bit.

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<v Speaker 13>I was gonna say, emasculating, yeah, and a little bit

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<v Speaker 13>of like okay, and like the kid's laundry, you know

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<v Speaker 13>what I mean, it gets washed and it stays in

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<v Speaker 13>the laundry room and you never put it away.

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<v Speaker 7>So they go in there and that's where they pick

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<v Speaker 7>out their clothes. I'm the man in this house, Jim, No, No,

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<v Speaker 7>father in law like, Hey, we're gonna clean this up

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<v Speaker 7>right now. We're gonna clean this laundry up right now?

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<v Speaker 11>What in this place look like?

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<v Speaker 1>Dude?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like, holy s. They like, we can't even take

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<v Speaker 7>care of ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>Dude.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh you're talking about mount laundry?

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<v Speaker 11>Honey, what happened to the mountain back here? Dude? It's

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<v Speaker 11>awesome though, once it all gets done.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, But I'm sitting there trying to watch football going.

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<v Speaker 11>Across the top.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm trying to relax, and there's drilling freaking knocking stuff out,

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<v Speaker 7>like pulling this out, moving this, doing that, And I'm like, so,

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<v Speaker 7>am I allowed to relax? Or am I supposed to

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<v Speaker 7>go help that?

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<v Speaker 12>That was my big dilemma, right, You just stand there

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<v Speaker 12>and really you're in support.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, I can't see a TV.

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<v Speaker 11>Well, see, we have a lot of tea.

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<v Speaker 12>I made sure that we're a TV household, so usually

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<v Speaker 12>any project.

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<v Speaker 7>We're doing, I have a TV I guess what spare bedroom.

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<v Speaker 7>How often do I go in the spare bedroom?

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<v Speaker 8>You do?

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<v Speaker 12>But bezos, you got this roller TV that I can

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<v Speaker 12>roll roll around the spare bedroom.

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<v Speaker 7>Never go in there. That's where the in laws are staying, right,

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<v Speaker 7>And what a pointless room, right, It's so dumb. It's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 7>we need a spare bedroom, you know when people come visit.

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<v Speaker 7>Guess how often people come visit? Maybe once a year.

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<v Speaker 7>So you can figure it out through an air mattress subury.

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<v Speaker 7>You don't need a spare bedroom. It's absolutely stupid. But

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<v Speaker 7>I'm I don't go in the spare bedroom. But since

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<v Speaker 7>they're staying in there, we need to tidy up the

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<v Speaker 7>spare bedroom.

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<v Speaker 11>So we're in there.

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<v Speaker 7>The in laws are moving the bed, vacuuming behind the bed, dude,

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<v Speaker 7>and I'm like, what the they're acting like that we

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<v Speaker 7>live in the damn shithole. And then I've never done

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<v Speaker 7>anything in my life. I mean, they've got the vacuum out,

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<v Speaker 7>they got the mop they're you know, doing washing the

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<v Speaker 7>sheets and the comforter and the pillows and the every

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<v Speaker 7>day coach.

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<v Speaker 12>That's not even the worst of it. Did you get

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<v Speaker 12>criticized for your tools?

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<v Speaker 7>Oh, next, Hey, where are your drill bits? Oh they're

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<v Speaker 7>right there in that closet. They may have a little

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<v Speaker 7>dust on them. And he's like, I didn't see him.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't think you have any drill bits. And I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 7>I have drill bits, man, they should be right there.

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<v Speaker 7>So I didn't. I didn't find them. He goes, I'll

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<v Speaker 7>just go to home depot and get them. You got

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<v Speaker 7>home depot and I'm like, all right, man, and he

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<v Speaker 7>goes home Depot gets whatever he needs. He comes back

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<v Speaker 7>and he's like, oh, they are in that closet. They

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<v Speaker 7>were just underneath something. I'm like, I told you. He goes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>but these these drill bits are better. These are these

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<v Speaker 7>are a little bit newer. And he goes to get

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<v Speaker 7>my electric drill and he's like, seems like you need

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<v Speaker 7>an electric drill. The battery's not holding a charge. No,

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<v Speaker 7>I charge that thing every night.

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<v Speaker 5>Should be good.

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<v Speaker 7>And he's like, you want to go pick you up

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<v Speaker 7>one right now? I'm like, or he goes, you want

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<v Speaker 7>to go to home depot with me and get one.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like, no, I really don't. I don't have any

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<v Speaker 7>desire right now at this moment, at this point in

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<v Speaker 7>time to go to home depot to get a gosh

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<v Speaker 7>darn drill. I would just like to relax. And he's like,

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<v Speaker 7>I'll just go to home depot. So he goes back

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<v Speaker 7>to home depot.

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<v Speaker 11>He made a double trip to depot.

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<v Speaker 7>He made a triple tip trip to depot. Right, that's bad.

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<v Speaker 11>That means you didn't have it.

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<v Speaker 7>Coach, No, I had a drill. I had the drill bits,

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<v Speaker 7>but apparently the battery wasn't holding its charge. Then he

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<v Speaker 7>the back door, like when it's wintertime, it's harder to

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<v Speaker 7>lock it.

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<v Speaker 11>Yeah, you gotta winterize it, man, And.

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<v Speaker 7>He's like, oh, you need a chisel. He's like, do

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<v Speaker 7>you have a chisel?

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<v Speaker 12>I might Coach, you've been asked for the electric gun,

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<v Speaker 12>the chisel, the curtain rod in an ancient mirror.

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<v Speaker 7>And I'm like, no, no, man, I don't I don't

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<v Speaker 7>have a I don't have a chisel.

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<v Speaker 8>Heels.

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<v Speaker 7>I wish i'd known that for I got to go

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<v Speaker 7>back to home depot and he goes back down. Nebo

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<v Speaker 7>gets the chisel and he's like, chiseling out where the

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<v Speaker 7>lot goes because I guess it's sunken down or it's

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<v Speaker 7>not level anymore. So it was hitting the top and

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<v Speaker 7>he chisels a little piece of the wood off. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 7>none of this shit bothers me. None of this bothers me.

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<v Speaker 7>Can we like, I've lived in this house and none

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<v Speaker 7>of this has bothered me. I have not wanted to

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<v Speaker 7>fix any of this. No one has told me I

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<v Speaker 7>need to fix any of this. But they come to

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<v Speaker 7>town and it's like, oh my god, this house is

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<v Speaker 7>falling apart. And then the spare bedroom. Guess what, right,

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<v Speaker 7>we never used the spare bedroom. I never put a

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<v Speaker 7>curtain rod up never, or a shower curtain, right, and

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<v Speaker 7>so like, how are we supposed to take a shower?

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<v Speaker 7>I never, I didn't think about that. Whenever you come,

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<v Speaker 7>we usually just hang a towel and it gets on

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<v Speaker 7>the or put some towels on the floor and then

0:25:46.960 --> 0:25:52.880
<v Speaker 7>brust the water. Well that's unacceptable. Well we'll just run

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<v Speaker 7>the target real kit quick and we'll get a shower

0:25:54.920 --> 0:25:56.760
<v Speaker 7>curtain and rot and oh my god.

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<v Speaker 12>Damn dude, four depots and a target.

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<v Speaker 7>It was like, I mean, it made me just sitting

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<v Speaker 7>there going and then my wife's like, is everything okay?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm like, well, besides the fact that they think I

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<v Speaker 7>am incapable of doing anything. And b I don't know

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<v Speaker 7>if I'm other supposed to sit there and help, or

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<v Speaker 7>if I'm if I'm allowed to sit here and watch football.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 7>The you know protocol here.

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<v Speaker 12>The protocol is this, you offer something that's just completely pointless.

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<v Speaker 12>So for example, for me, it's just Gary, let me

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<v Speaker 12>hold this ladder for you. No, man, does these things

0:26:25.800 --> 0:26:29.720
<v Speaker 12>hold themselves? It it's four legs, stupid, Okay, no worries.

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<v Speaker 11>Man.

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<v Speaker 12>You offer something that you know they don't even need

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<v Speaker 12>help with. You know, hey, dude, it is getting darker.

0:26:34.760 --> 0:26:36.000
<v Speaker 12>You to grab a light or something.

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<v Speaker 5>No, man, I'm good.

0:26:37.119 --> 0:26:39.040
<v Speaker 7>Oh okay, Uh, just let me know if.

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<v Speaker 11>Anything you know you're offering, you know what am I

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<v Speaker 11>gonna do?

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<v Speaker 12>Hold a light?

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<v Speaker 7>You know, stuff like that. Because I looked at the

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<v Speaker 7>curtain run and they were I mean, it took him

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<v Speaker 7>forty five minutes to do the curtain run.

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<v Speaker 12>I'm like, guys, you gotta measure it. That's a whole thing.

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<v Speaker 12>It's not just sticking it up there. Gary would measure it.

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<v Speaker 12>He would put a laser on it, dude, he would.

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<v Speaker 12>He's got the drill gun. You're gonna do one side

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<v Speaker 12>then the other. There's a lot to level it. There's

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<v Speaker 12>a level on top. Me dude, me, I'd stick it

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<v Speaker 12>up two darts in the sides right.

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<v Speaker 7>And we had the exact same conversation. I said, guys,

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<v Speaker 7>it's been forty five minutes. What's going on? Why is

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<v Speaker 7>their tape all over the wall. And my wife's like, oh,

0:27:17.520 --> 0:27:19.439
<v Speaker 7>you know how my dad is. He likes to measure

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<v Speaker 7>everything and make sure everything's perfect. And she goes, that's

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<v Speaker 7>how I prefer it. You know what I mean is

0:27:24.560 --> 0:27:27.240
<v Speaker 7>if we just measure, measure, measure, measure, measure, make sure

0:27:27.240 --> 0:27:30.359
<v Speaker 7>everything's perfect. You prefer perfectly measured. She goes, let me

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<v Speaker 7>guess your dad would have just got up there and

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<v Speaker 7>eyeballed it. I said, yeah, I think he would eyeballed it.

0:27:34.680 --> 0:27:36.080
<v Speaker 7>That's what I would have done. I'd have just looked

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:39.760
<v Speaker 7>your dad would I'm a construction guy, I know, but

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<v Speaker 7>I think he eyeballed a lot, like a curtain rod.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't think you is a big deal.

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<v Speaker 12>I would almost imagine that the curtain rod can probably

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<v Speaker 12>there's probably what is it called backsplash or something where

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<v Speaker 12>it's actually level there. You would just need to level

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<v Speaker 12>the top and boom it.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know, but I'm just saying I left that

0:27:56.400 --> 0:28:00.760
<v Speaker 7>week feeling like, holy s man. He this dude thinks

0:28:00.800 --> 0:28:02.719
<v Speaker 7>I am the laziest person in the world because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 7>I don't want to do any of this crap. I

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<v Speaker 7>just want to watch football. I'd never planned to do

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<v Speaker 7>any of this be he criticized my tools, what I'm

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<v Speaker 7>working with. He was like, you need to step up

0:28:11.359 --> 0:28:15.879
<v Speaker 7>your game, and b see, they're coming back in like

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<v Speaker 7>two weeks.

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<v Speaker 11>Dude.

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<v Speaker 12>The worst is a tool criticization, criticizing It happened to me.

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<v Speaker 12>I would I He goes, hey, will you go get

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<v Speaker 12>me get me something to screw this in.

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<v Speaker 14>Dude.

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<v Speaker 11>I just went and got a Phillips screwdriver, like a

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<v Speaker 11>hand one.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, dude.

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<v Speaker 11>He wanted like some drill gun. That's I bring him

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<v Speaker 11>that and he's like, what.

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<v Speaker 5>The is this?

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<v Speaker 11>I was like, at Phillips, fuck you want.

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<v Speaker 12>He goes, We'll be out here all night if I'm

0:28:46.720 --> 0:28:49.080
<v Speaker 12>gonna do it with that, my that's a good point.

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<v Speaker 12>He's like, you ain't got that thing, you know, whatever

0:28:51.760 --> 0:28:54.480
<v Speaker 12>the name is, it's just it's like a hydraulic gun.

0:28:54.680 --> 0:28:57.280
<v Speaker 12>And he's like, but dude, my I hand him like

0:28:57.360 --> 0:28:59.840
<v Speaker 12>it's limp and it has no cord connected to it, and

0:28:59.880 --> 0:29:00.240
<v Speaker 12>I'm I'm.

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<v Speaker 11>Like, yeah, just this little phillips.

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<v Speaker 7>Dude.

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<v Speaker 8>He's like that, get out of here, man.

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<v Speaker 11>So then I do it, and then I'm walking with

0:29:07.080 --> 0:29:07.840
<v Speaker 11>my little phillips.

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<v Speaker 5>Screwy. Wasn't good at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Take personal mules men.

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<v Speaker 15>Well, because November is men's Mental Health Awareness month. It

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<v Speaker 15>just happened. The whole November movement was happening. I really

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<v Speaker 15>wanted to focus this episode on men's mental health and

0:29:54.800 --> 0:29:56.560
<v Speaker 15>talk about it in a lot of different ways. But

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<v Speaker 15>first up, I have an expert on with me. Doctor

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<v Speaker 15>and doctor Adra you are a psychotherapist, but also you

0:30:04.720 --> 0:30:07.800
<v Speaker 15>kind of focus heavily on men's mental health.

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<v Speaker 3>How are you?

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<v Speaker 5>How you doing?

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<v Speaker 14>I'm great, I'm so good. I'm so happy to be

0:30:12.520 --> 0:30:16.480
<v Speaker 14>here and excited to talk more about my passion.

0:30:16.800 --> 0:30:21.360
<v Speaker 15>Say you're a male and you did finally find a therapist,

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<v Speaker 15>and you're like, okay, this could be a fit for me.

0:30:23.880 --> 0:30:24.120
<v Speaker 14>Yep.

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<v Speaker 15>But then taking that a step further, is they feel

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<v Speaker 15>uncomfortable to do so why do you feel it has

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<v Speaker 15>been generally harder for men to get into.

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<v Speaker 14>Therapy generally, I think we expect men to be hyper independent.

0:30:42.000 --> 0:30:45.200
<v Speaker 14>They're problem solvers, you know, there's the trope around the

0:30:45.240 --> 0:30:47.240
<v Speaker 14>lone wolf, like you can do it on your own,

0:30:47.920 --> 0:30:51.960
<v Speaker 14>you can figure it out, and you are the provider,

0:30:52.080 --> 0:30:54.200
<v Speaker 14>you are the protector. Like they're all these and even

0:30:54.200 --> 0:30:58.640
<v Speaker 14>if these are stereotypes, they are really powerful expectations that

0:30:58.760 --> 0:31:02.200
<v Speaker 14>still exist in our society. And there are powerful expectations

0:31:02.240 --> 0:31:05.160
<v Speaker 14>that some men really hold true. Like there are a

0:31:05.160 --> 0:31:09.840
<v Speaker 14>lot of men that feel really proud of that traditional masculinity.

0:31:10.240 --> 0:31:11.760
<v Speaker 14>There are a lot of women who look to men

0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:14.400
<v Speaker 14>who want men to uphold that real traditional masculinity. There

0:31:14.400 --> 0:31:15.880
<v Speaker 14>are men who may be feel in conflict with it,

0:31:15.920 --> 0:31:20.880
<v Speaker 14>but regardless, there's an expectation. And so we're essentially asking

0:31:20.920 --> 0:31:24.160
<v Speaker 14>men to set aside everything that society has asked them

0:31:24.200 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 14>to be. You're a little boy, boys, don't cry, suck

0:31:27.800 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 14>it up, be a man. Don't cry. I'll give you

0:31:30.480 --> 0:31:32.840
<v Speaker 14>something to cry about. Like I have men who are

0:31:32.960 --> 0:31:36.160
<v Speaker 14>commenting on my videos on TikTok and sending me dms

0:31:36.160 --> 0:31:39.719
<v Speaker 14>all the time, sharing the experiences they had at ages

0:31:39.720 --> 0:31:42.320
<v Speaker 14>as young as four or five or six where they learned, oh,

0:31:42.360 --> 0:31:45.240
<v Speaker 14>I'm too old to cry now. And so when you

0:31:45.360 --> 0:31:48.080
<v Speaker 14>learn that young that you're not supposed to have those

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:50.760
<v Speaker 14>sorts of emotions, that you're supposed to figure it out

0:31:50.760 --> 0:31:52.920
<v Speaker 14>on your own, man up. And then we expect them

0:31:53.000 --> 0:31:56.480
<v Speaker 14>decades later to feel super comfortable walking in and asking

0:31:56.520 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 14>for help. There's just such a discrepancy there between what

0:32:00.080 --> 0:32:03.760
<v Speaker 14>we generally expect men to be and then what the

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<v Speaker 14>experience and process of asking for help and going to

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<v Speaker 14>therapy usually is.

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<v Speaker 15>So being someone who is such an advocate for mental

0:32:10.800 --> 0:32:14.320
<v Speaker 15>health for everyone to address these issues and go to

0:32:14.400 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 15>therapy utilizing this space, How is the best way we

0:32:18.840 --> 0:32:23.400
<v Speaker 15>can encourage men that they are not losing their masculinity

0:32:23.440 --> 0:32:27.760
<v Speaker 15>and in fact gaining emotional intelligence and emotional vulnerability to

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<v Speaker 15>become like a better version of this man that they

0:32:30.360 --> 0:32:33.320
<v Speaker 15>want to be. On this podcast, if I am encouraged,

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<v Speaker 15>somebody's listening to this and like, yes, this is all true,

0:32:35.800 --> 0:32:38.840
<v Speaker 15>this is how I feel. Yes, how is someone like

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<v Speaker 15>me or say the women who are listening and their

0:32:41.320 --> 0:32:45.680
<v Speaker 15>partner or their brother or their family member, how can

0:32:45.720 --> 0:32:48.840
<v Speaker 15>they make it a space for that person in their

0:32:48.880 --> 0:32:52.280
<v Speaker 15>life to show them that they can have both because

0:32:52.360 --> 0:32:54.560
<v Speaker 15>they have been taught, you know, on learning these things

0:32:54.800 --> 0:32:57.200
<v Speaker 15>is part of that. But how can people help them

0:32:57.320 --> 0:32:58.480
<v Speaker 15>to understand that better?

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<v Speaker 11>Well?

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<v Speaker 14>I think part of what happens is that I do

0:33:02.200 --> 0:33:06.360
<v Speaker 14>believe therapy as a resource or like coaching, even I

0:33:06.360 --> 0:33:08.680
<v Speaker 14>feel like I know a lot of men's coaches who

0:33:08.720 --> 0:33:12.040
<v Speaker 14>do essentially what I do in therapy, But there's a

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<v Speaker 14>branding shift which I think can be a little bit

0:33:14.400 --> 0:33:17.160
<v Speaker 14>more accessible for some men. But I do think even

0:33:17.200 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 14>therapy is becoming a less stigmatized resource, and even in

0:33:21.560 --> 0:33:23.640
<v Speaker 14>some places in the country, almost like a status symbol,

0:33:23.760 --> 0:33:25.640
<v Speaker 14>like oh, yeah, I've got the best therapist in New York,

0:33:25.680 --> 0:33:26.920
<v Speaker 14>Like you're in LA Like yeah, I'm going to go

0:33:26.920 --> 0:33:28.720
<v Speaker 14>see my therapists. Like there are places where I see

0:33:28.760 --> 0:33:31.920
<v Speaker 14>that shift happening, And I think especially versus for that,

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<v Speaker 14>I do see that shifting a bit. I think what

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<v Speaker 14>we can do general population can do is in our

0:33:38.680 --> 0:33:41.959
<v Speaker 14>own homes and with our own relationships with men. What

0:33:42.000 --> 0:33:44.920
<v Speaker 14>I hear from a lot of men is that before

0:33:44.920 --> 0:33:47.400
<v Speaker 14>they're even considering going to therapy, you know, they're gauging

0:33:47.400 --> 0:33:49.680
<v Speaker 14>in their own life. Is there space for me to

0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:52.160
<v Speaker 14>be emotional? Is there space for me to be vulnerable?

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<v Speaker 14>And what happens when I do take up that space.

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<v Speaker 14>What happens when I do allow myself to be vulnerable.

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<v Speaker 14>I open up, I cry, I share that I'm struggling,

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<v Speaker 14>I share that I'm hurting, I share that I'm I'm worried,

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<v Speaker 14>I'm scared. And what happens, what I hear happen. And this, again, generally,

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<v Speaker 14>this is not everyone, not at all. But I think

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<v Speaker 14>the men who are especially reluctant to therapy is that

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<v Speaker 14>in their own lives, they're experiencing what happens when they

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<v Speaker 14>are vulnerable and emotional, and it's completely turning them off.

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<v Speaker 14>So they're feeling like, Okay, I opened up to my spouse,

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<v Speaker 14>I opened up to my girlfriend, or I opened up

0:34:24.880 --> 0:34:27.600
<v Speaker 14>to my friends, and they they shut me down, or

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<v Speaker 14>they laughed it off, or they dismissed me, or you know,

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<v Speaker 14>I told her how I was feeling, and she seemed okay,

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<v Speaker 14>maybe she seemed a little uncomfortable in the moment that

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<v Speaker 14>I cried. And then three weeks later we got into

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<v Speaker 14>a fight and she turned it against me and she

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<v Speaker 14>threw it in my face. And so I think that unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 14>we are all unlearning a lot of these stereotypes. Women included,

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<v Speaker 14>are unlearning what it looks like for a man to

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<v Speaker 14>be a man, and what our expectations are and what

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<v Speaker 14>we want and how we reconcile those differences. If we're

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<v Speaker 14>wanting men to ship, then we're also having to recognize, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 14>my expectations and and what I've been socialized to expect

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<v Speaker 14>speets to show.

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<v Speaker 16>Hey, it's Mike d And this week on Movie Mike's

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<v Speaker 16>Movie podcast, I did a spoiler.

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<v Speaker 17>Free movie review of Mowana two.

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<v Speaker 16>I love me some animated Disney movies, and I know

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<v Speaker 16>I'm saying that as an adult male in his thirties,

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<v Speaker 16>but I broke down the entire movie. There have been

0:35:14.120 --> 0:35:16.480
<v Speaker 16>so many major movies coming out recently, so be sure

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<v Speaker 16>to subscribe to my podcast to hear more spoiler free reviews.

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<v Speaker 16>But right now here are my thoughts on ma Wana two.

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<v Speaker 16>Let's get into it now. A spoiler free review of

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<v Speaker 16>mo Wana. To the question I want to answer by

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<v Speaker 16>the end of this review is was it even necessary?

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<v Speaker 16>And yes, I know, I'm an adult man talking about

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<v Speaker 16>a movie primarily meant for kids, but it's a Disney movie.

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<v Speaker 17>It is important, so we're here to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 16>Pretty much, what this movie is about I hate to

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<v Speaker 16>say it, it's basically the same thing as the first one.

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<v Speaker 16>When it comes to the plotline, Mowana goes out on

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<v Speaker 16>another big adventure. This one is going to test her

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<v Speaker 16>levels of being a leader. Now somebody now who can

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<v Speaker 16>speak and communicate with the ocean to a whole new level.

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<v Speaker 16>Main problem I had it with this movie not just

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<v Speaker 16>that the story was very repetitive from the first one.

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<v Speaker 17>There's no real struggle. It kind of feels like.

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<v Speaker 16>The villain was a rehashed version of the villain from

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<v Speaker 16>the first movie.

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<v Speaker 17>It was the music.

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<v Speaker 16>The music was so important to Moana one, really so

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<v Speaker 16>important in.

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<v Speaker 17>Any Disney movie right now.

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<v Speaker 16>You need that one big song and Mawana you had

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<v Speaker 16>that song how Far I'll Go, which is a big

0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:26.720
<v Speaker 16>anthem from that movie. It is the character defining song

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<v Speaker 16>of Mowana. That is your hit from that Every Disney

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<v Speaker 16>musical movie needs that song to really resonate with kids,

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<v Speaker 16>to really drive this to be a movie that a

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<v Speaker 16>kid is gonna leave the theater and immediately want to

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<v Speaker 16>go watch it on Disney Plus, even though it isn't

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<v Speaker 16>available yet. You need that song to define your movie.

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<v Speaker 16>Mawana Io did not have that song. It didn't have

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<v Speaker 16>a how Far I'll Go. It didn't have a year Welcome,

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<v Speaker 16>which is another character defining song from Maui. It didn't

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<v Speaker 16>even have the shiny Thing song from one of the

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<v Speaker 16>villains in the first movie. There were no memorable songs

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<v Speaker 16>whatsoever in Mowana Too. And what I believe it comes

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<v Speaker 16>down to is that Linn Manuel Miranda was not a

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<v Speaker 16>part of this movie. He did not write the songs.

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<v Speaker 16>You have two new female writers who did all the music,

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<v Speaker 16>and they were really just given guidance from Lynn Manuel

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<v Speaker 16>Miranda before they started making the music for this movie.

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<v Speaker 16>He sat down with them and gave them the blueprint

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<v Speaker 16>of what he did on the first one and what

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<v Speaker 16>worked in that movie. And then they said he was

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<v Speaker 16>just a phone call or FaceTime away. So maybe they

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<v Speaker 16>used him with some guidance here and there, but you

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<v Speaker 16>really felt his presence missing in these songs because they

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<v Speaker 16>lacked originality, and it felt like they were given the

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<v Speaker 16>assignment of, hey, do what we did in the first movie,

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<v Speaker 16>channel your best Linn Manuel Miranda and create your own songs,

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<v Speaker 16>but you have to fit in this box. And what

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<v Speaker 16>happens when you do that? When it comes to music,

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<v Speaker 16>is you lose that creativity because you're just trying to

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<v Speaker 16>do an impression. You're trying to cover the songs from

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<v Speaker 16>the first one and make them your own. But you

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<v Speaker 16>don't have that say artists doing it, and you don't

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<v Speaker 16>have that originality. Because if Lynn Manuel Miranda was given

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<v Speaker 16>this movie and said, hey, let's see what you can

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<v Speaker 16>do here with all these new characters, with this new storyline,

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<v Speaker 16>what songs can you create? He's not gonna do exactly

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<v Speaker 16>what he did in the first one. He's gonna experiment

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<v Speaker 16>and do different things. And that is where you get

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<v Speaker 16>the better songs, not trying to do an impression of

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<v Speaker 16>what you did in the first one, but trying to

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<v Speaker 16>build upon it and create new songs. And you see

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<v Speaker 16>this happening in movies all the time. Whenever the Batman

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<v Speaker 16>movies lost Danny Elfman and they had to bring in

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<v Speaker 16>a new composer and say, hey, do what Danny Elfman

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<v Speaker 16>did and create these themes. You can't do it because

0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:40.839
<v Speaker 16>you're trying to do an impression of somebody. You're not

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<v Speaker 16>being original, and you're really not growing the.

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<v Speaker 17>Music in any way.

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<v Speaker 16>So I really felt out of everything that was really

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<v Speaker 16>what was lacking in this movie. The improvements I do

0:38:51.480 --> 0:38:53.960
<v Speaker 16>think they made was the animation style, and where this

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<v Speaker 16>movie looked the best was in the nighttime animation scenes.

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<v Speaker 16>I think on the water at night there was a

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<v Speaker 16>level of depth and the shading and the overall flow

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<v Speaker 16>of these characters. I think that is where this movie

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<v Speaker 16>really shined. And those action sequences, especially in that third act.

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<v Speaker 16>So maybe the story was kind of the same thing

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<v Speaker 16>over and over again. The music was kind of just

0:39:14.840 --> 0:39:18.240
<v Speaker 16>slapped together, but the animation really I thought was improved

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<v Speaker 16>from the first one, so I think at least Disney

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<v Speaker 16>is getting that right. Because even the comedy wasn't anything new.

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<v Speaker 16>It was really just rehashing some of the jokes from

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<v Speaker 16>the first one, which again I don't think kids are

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<v Speaker 16>really going to care about that, and the theater people

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<v Speaker 16>were still laughing as this movie went along. But I

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<v Speaker 16>think the main thing was we didn't really see a

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<v Speaker 16>whole lot of development from the character of Moljana from

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<v Speaker 16>one to two because she went through that entire journey

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<v Speaker 16>in one, and at the start of this movie it

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<v Speaker 16>almost felt like she was back at that point after

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<v Speaker 16>going through all those things and finding out all these

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<v Speaker 16>things about herself and being this really strong character. By

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<v Speaker 16>the end of one, it almost like she regressed a

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<v Speaker 16>little bit and was.

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<v Speaker 17>Learning all over again.

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<v Speaker 16>Instead, I would have liked to have seen her shine

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<v Speaker 16>more at the beginning of this movie. He has still

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<v Speaker 16>been given a test that she had to overcome and do.

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<v Speaker 16>What she set out to do was find this island

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<v Speaker 16>and connect her people with the rest of the world.

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<v Speaker 17>That still could have been a test. But I would

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<v Speaker 17>have liked to see her.

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<v Speaker 16>Be kind of a stronger leader in the beginning, because

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<v Speaker 16>I think that would have been more impactful to kids

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<v Speaker 16>of seeing like, oh, she learned something from the first one.

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<v Speaker 16>She has these leadership skills now that she has to

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<v Speaker 16>hone in and the struggles of being the leader, where

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<v Speaker 16>even though you are strong and have proven yourself, how

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<v Speaker 16>do you kind of advance on that. Instead, it was

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<v Speaker 16>kind of just her from the beginning again all over

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<v Speaker 16>and then trying to do what she did in the

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<v Speaker 16>first one. So I think you have to give the

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<v Speaker 16>kids like a stronger role model at the beginning and

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<v Speaker 16>show what comes with even though you have proven yourself,

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<v Speaker 16>how you have to do it again. I will say

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<v Speaker 16>as much crap as I give the Rock. He is

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<v Speaker 16>actually a really good voice actor. I think he should

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<v Speaker 16>stop doing live action movies and just do a voice

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<v Speaker 16>acting because he really shines as I think he really

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<v Speaker 16>gives it as all. You can see his inflections and

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<v Speaker 16>how much he puts a lot of his personal details

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<v Speaker 16>into Maui. I think he has a lot of fun

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<v Speaker 16>with it. It's probably also easier to fit into his schedule.

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<v Speaker 16>He can just get into a recording booth, lay some

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<v Speaker 16>lines down, and then get on his private jet and

0:41:16.480 --> 0:41:18.359
<v Speaker 16>go work out for ten hours or whatever he does

0:41:18.400 --> 0:41:21.280
<v Speaker 16>whatever causes him to be five twelve hours late to set.

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<v Speaker 16>I think he actually does really great work in voice acting.

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<v Speaker 16>Maui is his best character in the last ten years.

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<v Speaker 16>Why is Maui his best character in the last ten years.

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<v Speaker 16>It's because it's the only character that he portrays that

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<v Speaker 16>actually has depth, that actually goes through something, that actually

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<v Speaker 16>has ups and downs, and doesn't win all the time.

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<v Speaker 16>Maui loses fights. Mali also wins fights. Maui goes through

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<v Speaker 16>sad times. All his other characters in every other movie,

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<v Speaker 16>he's just the same thing over and over again, wins

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<v Speaker 16>every fight, doesn't get a scratch on him, faces no adversity.

0:41:58.239 --> 0:42:00.560
<v Speaker 16>Maui actually has that, so I think that is why

0:42:00.560 --> 0:42:03.200
<v Speaker 16>he's so attached to this character and why he's gonna

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<v Speaker 16>do it again in the live action movie. But I'm

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<v Speaker 16>not that excited for that. I think he should just

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<v Speaker 16>stick to doing more animated roles. So for Mawana too,

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<v Speaker 16>I don't think it was entirely necessary. I was even

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<v Speaker 16>at a two point five for a while, but there

0:42:19.280 --> 0:42:21.360
<v Speaker 16>was some clapping at the end of this movie, and

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<v Speaker 16>I think people did leave satisfied, and I saw a

0:42:25.000 --> 0:42:27.480
<v Speaker 16>lot of happy faces all around. So I think I

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<v Speaker 16>have to give it a point five just because I

0:42:30.000 --> 0:42:33.200
<v Speaker 16>am an adult talking about an animated movie meant for

0:42:33.280 --> 0:42:35.840
<v Speaker 16>a much younger demographic, and if they had a good time,

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<v Speaker 16>I think that is worth a point five boost. So

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<v Speaker 16>for ma Wana two, I give it three out of

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<v Speaker 16>five hooks.

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<v Speaker 8>Carrylone.

0:42:54.239 --> 0:42:55.800
<v Speaker 6>She's a queen talking.

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<v Speaker 8>He was sown you. She's getting really a.

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<v Speaker 5>Soul.

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<v Speaker 6>Just let it flo no one can do it.

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<v Speaker 8>Quiet Cary Line. It's time for Caroline. I just I

0:43:11.960 --> 0:43:15.080
<v Speaker 8>love being a dad. I love shape and and I

0:43:15.120 --> 0:43:20.120
<v Speaker 8>love it's I just think it's important for them to

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<v Speaker 8>see how I carry myself and what's important and how

0:43:25.160 --> 0:43:31.120
<v Speaker 8>I treat their mama and and just them the truth.

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<v Speaker 8>They're they're half crazy there. So we have a six

0:43:34.480 --> 0:43:40.480
<v Speaker 8>five twenty three year old and I'm just kind of

0:43:40.520 --> 0:43:43.239
<v Speaker 8>all about teaching them to grow up and be men.

0:43:44.640 --> 0:43:46.120
<v Speaker 9>How do you teach men in this world? I feel

0:43:46.160 --> 0:43:47.399
<v Speaker 9>like that's a lost art a little bit.

0:43:47.680 --> 0:43:52.000
<v Speaker 8>There's been so much people talk about you know, what's it?

0:43:52.080 --> 0:43:56.000
<v Speaker 8>Toxic masculinity is yes, And the worst thing you could

0:43:56.000 --> 0:43:57.399
<v Speaker 8>be is a is a man.

0:43:58.239 --> 0:44:00.799
<v Speaker 9>It's gone through a season where it's like being just

0:44:00.840 --> 0:44:03.880
<v Speaker 9>like a man's man is kind of like the worst truly,

0:44:03.920 --> 0:44:05.520
<v Speaker 9>the worst thing is And.

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<v Speaker 8>It's sad because I think that that's what we're supposed

0:44:09.960 --> 0:44:15.040
<v Speaker 8>to be. And I just I don't know, man. I

0:44:15.600 --> 0:44:20.120
<v Speaker 8>talked to him about every night we have storytell okay,

0:44:20.280 --> 0:44:23.759
<v Speaker 8>and it's I love it, a cherish it. And we'll

0:44:23.800 --> 0:44:24.319
<v Speaker 8>start off.

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<v Speaker 11>Got any questions, that's a great hit me with.

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<v Speaker 8>Some and they'll ask me, you know, was Bigfoot real?

0:44:30.360 --> 0:44:32.600
<v Speaker 9>Well? Apparently he is real and lives at y'all's farm.

0:44:32.880 --> 0:44:33.280
<v Speaker 8>True.

0:44:33.800 --> 0:44:37.160
<v Speaker 9>I've seen footage video footage on your TikTok of the

0:44:37.280 --> 0:44:38.440
<v Speaker 9>Bigfoot in the wild.

0:44:38.760 --> 0:44:40.560
<v Speaker 3>Do your kids know? Have they?

0:44:40.600 --> 0:44:42.600
<v Speaker 9>Do? They still they know Bigfoot's real.

0:44:42.800 --> 0:44:45.120
<v Speaker 8>Yes, they know Bigfoot's real. Santa Claus is.

0:44:45.120 --> 0:44:49.200
<v Speaker 9>Real, everything's real. I love that tooth keep the magic going.

0:44:49.560 --> 0:44:53.200
<v Speaker 9>I feel the same way. That's so fun. Everyone needs

0:44:53.200 --> 0:44:56.160
<v Speaker 9>to check out Rodney's into his TikTok and dig a

0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:59.120
<v Speaker 9>little deep and you'll find the real sighting of Bigfoot.

0:44:59.280 --> 0:45:01.600
<v Speaker 8>He was there, man, it was a birthday party at

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<v Speaker 8>the farm and it was a blast. I was laughing

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<v Speaker 8>and sweating. God, it was hot. Bugs were burning in

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<v Speaker 8>the commitment. But yeah, we have story time, and I'll

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<v Speaker 8>start off with you got any questions, and then all

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<v Speaker 8>hearts and mind's clear, can we move on?

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<v Speaker 9>And then all you see you say that all hearts

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<v Speaker 9>and mind's clear.

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<v Speaker 8>Sometimes yeah, a lot of times, so are we good?

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<v Speaker 8>And then we'll move on to a lot of times

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<v Speaker 8>it'll be some little Bible story. Last night it was

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<v Speaker 8>what was it, Oh, the the Jericho and marching around

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<v Speaker 8>Joshua would And so we went through that for a

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<v Speaker 8>little bit, and then we'll go into some story. And

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<v Speaker 8>I try to tell stories that incorporate them in the

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<v Speaker 8>story that it's them going through some crazy adventure and

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<v Speaker 8>it's just a special time. And I'll make them lay still,

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<v Speaker 8>close your eyes, pictured in your head, and we do

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<v Speaker 8>it every single night. I love it.

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<v Speaker 9>That's amazing, it's fun. Why is being a dad so

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<v Speaker 9>important to you?

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<v Speaker 8>It's a responsibility. I mean, it's the most challenging and

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<v Speaker 8>most rewarding thing I've ever done, will ever do. It's

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<v Speaker 8>it's part of you, know what you leave behind, And

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<v Speaker 8>it's teaching them to be in service and connected, to

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<v Speaker 8>be more than just a good citizen, but to make

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<v Speaker 8>a difference. And I mean that's the future of everything.

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<v Speaker 8>I just I truly believe that. And how they see

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<v Speaker 8>me carry myself and live my life is the first

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<v Speaker 8>thing on my mind what I'm thinking about. And it

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<v Speaker 8>is cool because Rose is How do I explain Rose?

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<v Speaker 8>I say, she's she's kinder than she's tougher than life

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<v Speaker 8>and kinder than love. She's just what a.

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<v Speaker 9>Wonderful thing to say about your wife. Tougher than life

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<v Speaker 9>and kinder than love.

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<v Speaker 7>She is.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, how has her love changed you? How has it?

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<v Speaker 9>How has it affected your heart and being married to her?

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<v Speaker 8>Man, I don't know if I do that.

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<v Speaker 9>Without crying.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's so sweet, Rodney, What a gift?

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<v Speaker 9>Having a love like that is also the biggest gift

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<v Speaker 9>you can have, exactly.

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<v Speaker 8>And for them to see that, I think that's so.

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<v Speaker 9>She's completely just metamorphosized you as a human with her love.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, and it's with her. It's when somebody loves you

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<v Speaker 8>that way. You're vulnerable, but you're tougher than anything that

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<v Speaker 8>could ever come at you. At the same time because

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<v Speaker 8>you have that.

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<v Speaker 9>Do you have a place to a soft place to land.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, you're kind of fearless. Nothing else can hurt you.

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<v Speaker 8>Nobody on earth can hurt me, but her. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 8>Things fall into place when you when you see somebody

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<v Speaker 8>love you, and you just I just quit, I quit

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<v Speaker 8>listening to me about me and just trust her.

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<v Speaker 9>Oh okay, so what did you about you tell you?

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<v Speaker 9>And what does she tell you about you?

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, it's that golden rule thing about you know,

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<v Speaker 8>treat others how you want to be treated. But that's

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<v Speaker 8>I can't remember where I even got this from. Hit

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<v Speaker 8>me a long time ago about I wouldn't walk up

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<v Speaker 8>to you and I don't know, say awful things to you,

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<v Speaker 8>punch me in. I wouldn't force a gallon a whiskey

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<v Speaker 8>down your throat or large or you know, super double

0:49:06.880 --> 0:49:09.160
<v Speaker 8>large pizza just cram it down your throat. So I

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<v Speaker 8>don't know why people do it. You do it to yourself,

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<v Speaker 8>those things you say things to yourself.

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<v Speaker 9>Like bad self talk exactly. That's it. It took me

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<v Speaker 9>forever to even realize what self talk was. Like, I

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<v Speaker 9>didn't know that for a long time until I started

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<v Speaker 9>getting into therapy and self aware that, like I even

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<v Speaker 9>had bad self talk. And then when I realized it,

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<v Speaker 9>I'm like, man, I am an asshole to myself, Like

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<v Speaker 9>I am picking myself apart, I'm tearing myself down. I

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<v Speaker 9>don't believe in myself. It takes a lot to change that.

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<v Speaker 9>Did you have some pretty gnarly self talk?

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<v Speaker 8>I think so? Yeah. You know, I grew up, I

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<v Speaker 8>was adopted, and.

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<v Speaker 9>Your adoption story is so touching and it's such a journey.

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<v Speaker 9>I mean, that's a lot to go through as a kid, it's.

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<v Speaker 8>But what it does to you is it makes you

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<v Speaker 8>you deal with self worth and you're trying to overcome

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<v Speaker 8>just abandonmenton that's your It's just a lot of self

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<v Speaker 8>worth stuff. So you you beat the ship out of

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<v Speaker 8>yourself over and over.

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