WEBVTT - Hindsight is 2020 with Freddie Prinze Jr.

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<v Speaker 1>This is How Men Think with growths and I heard

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<v Speaker 1>radio podcast. Welcome to the first episode of How Men

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<v Speaker 1>Think in My name is brooks Like, And I got

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<v Speaker 1>my brooks Like, I got my gracious co host here

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<v Speaker 1>with me, Mr Gavin de Gros. Buddy, Yeah, you two,

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<v Speaker 1>it's been like a year since I've seen you, almost

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<v Speaker 1>you get it feels like it. It actually feels like

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<v Speaker 1>it's been it's been like a decade. Is that it's

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<v Speaker 1>been a decade. It's a new decade, buddy. Welcome to

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<v Speaker 1>the new year, my man. It's a good new year.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a great new year, hopefully even better than last year,

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<v Speaker 1>which I thought was top of the top for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Really not really, it's pretty good. I had a good one, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but it can always be a little better. Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a gift for you to start off in

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<v Speaker 1>a wonder the most wonderful possible way. Is it a

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<v Speaker 1>home pregnancy test? Why you're going through something? No, it

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<v Speaker 1>is not. It is. It is the gentleman sitting to

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<v Speaker 1>our right with us, to this guy with us today

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<v Speaker 1>in studio with a bow on him, the one and

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<v Speaker 1>only my my wife fan girl. When I told her

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<v Speaker 1>that you were coming in. Mr Freddie Prince Jr. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a gift just for you man, just for you

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<v Speaker 1>to see my gift. Yeah, brokes for wearing the rapper Man.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, I self unwrapped to stay kicked back.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever you need, perfect Freddy, I gotta play this clip

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<v Speaker 1>for you. So the other day I told Julianne that

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<v Speaker 1>you were coming in and East and our engineer here's

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<v Speaker 1>going to que it up for you. Tell me when

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<v Speaker 1>you're ready East. Oh, here it is, so I'm filming here.

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<v Speaker 1>She doesn't like, literally, are you like all time crush

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<v Speaker 1>of all crushes? It's too funny. She did the dramatic

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<v Speaker 1>breath yea, like after you have a cold beer. She's

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<v Speaker 1>got a book, cookbook. Let's not let's not turn me

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<v Speaker 1>into some novelist. I'm not Jack Carrowac or anything like that. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but she was, Oh my god, she was fired up.

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<v Speaker 1>She's actually out of town, so she wasn't able to

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<v Speaker 1>come in. Otherwise I guarantee she'd be making appearance on

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast. So your wife, Your wife's probably in her

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<v Speaker 1>mid thirties. I'm not trying to expose in a young

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<v Speaker 1>early thirties somewhere in there, so that that's the age.

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<v Speaker 1>So the right around that age is all these grown

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<v Speaker 1>people and all the boys of that generation hate me,

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<v Speaker 1>and all the girls of that generation do what your

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<v Speaker 1>lady did, which is just love me. And I feel

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<v Speaker 1>bad because like they made their guys go see a

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<v Speaker 1>bunch of romantic comedies where the expectation of what a

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<v Speaker 1>guy should be is never gonna be achieved by anyone

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<v Speaker 1>who wasn't reading lines from a script. And so all

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<v Speaker 1>these and now that's their ex girl right now, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so they have a reason to hate me. And then

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<v Speaker 1>your girl said Summer Catch, which every year, by the way,

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<v Speaker 1>I love that movie. That movie well you saw in

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<v Speaker 1>the right vein then, but the Major League Baseball Network

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<v Speaker 1>plays it every year and on social media, like one

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<v Speaker 1>out of every ten messages that will come to me

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<v Speaker 1>be some guy like what is this romantic comedy doing

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<v Speaker 1>on the mL beach. I'm like, it's not a documentary, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know who's in it? Chill out. By the way,

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<v Speaker 1>So I was a hockey player. I was a hockey player.

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<v Speaker 1>I so, I I don't know why I loved I

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<v Speaker 1>just loved Summer Catch. I loved it. It had a

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<v Speaker 1>blue collar field to it, And I think hockey is

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<v Speaker 1>a very blue collar sport. Um as far as like

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<v Speaker 1>all the athletes go outside of combat sports like hockey

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<v Speaker 1>guys are the toughest guys. I don't see any other

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<v Speaker 1>athletes talking trash ever about their contracts and and what

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<v Speaker 1>guaranteed money and what isn't, but they'll call out other

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<v Speaker 1>sports and athletes. I've met a lot of hockey guys

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<v Speaker 1>and outside of combat sports like those are the toughest

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<v Speaker 1>kind of blue color. And there was a blue collar

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<v Speaker 1>in this to it because it was that amateur league

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<v Speaker 1>Cape cod League. It was guys trying to chase their

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<v Speaker 1>dream getting getting into the pros. And I got to

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<v Speaker 1>pitch to Ken Griffey Jr. Man, you got to hit

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<v Speaker 1>bombs off. Did you grow up playing baseball? Um? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you have a baseball background? I grew up playing little

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<v Speaker 1>league ball. And then my godfather is Bob Wall, And

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<v Speaker 1>Bob Wall was the guy that trained Bruce Lee when

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<v Speaker 1>Bruce came to America and vice versa. And his best

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<v Speaker 1>friend was Chuck Norris and Geane Liddell or Gene LaBelle

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<v Speaker 1>and uh Pat Johnson, the guy with the mustache and

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<v Speaker 1>the original karate kid. That's like the referees like alright, Laurel,

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<v Speaker 1>So like that was a dude of taught me how

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<v Speaker 1>a wheel kick. Come on. Those were the guys that

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<v Speaker 1>that I kind of grew up on and and those

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<v Speaker 1>are the dudes that raised me. And they all had

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<v Speaker 1>daughters pretty much except Chuck. They grabbed on it. My

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<v Speaker 1>dad armed a lot of My dad was a stand

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<v Speaker 1>up comic in the seventies and and he died tragically

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<v Speaker 1>and but charmed a lot of very smart men and women,

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<v Speaker 1>and all those people kind of said, yeah, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>take care of you and not let and not let

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<v Speaker 1>bad stuff happen to you. So they all kind of

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<v Speaker 1>took care of me in uh in that regards so right.

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<v Speaker 1>But Bob wall Man, I'm telling if you don't know

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<v Speaker 1>who he is, watching Bruce Lee movie, he's got a scar.

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<v Speaker 1>He's the guy with the scar down his eye. Bruce

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<v Speaker 1>w a L L bro as simple as a pimple.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, just a study still alive. He lives right

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<v Speaker 1>down the road in Tarzanic. Is still beat my ass. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>then guy handed me my first black betties old as hell,

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<v Speaker 1>and I He'll still with my look at him, look

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<v Speaker 1>at look at that stuff. Damn yeah, he looks so

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<v Speaker 1>hold on that that scars real. I was like, if

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<v Speaker 1>that's that, dude, I mean that he looks like I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen hockey players that are beat up, but that looks

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<v Speaker 1>beat He's got those man scars. Only a man can

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<v Speaker 1>rock that scar or like an old Western I got.

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<v Speaker 1>I got a question for you, Um, do you uh

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<v Speaker 1>do you still get like fan girls like my wife

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<v Speaker 1>just did in that video? Do you get that quite often?

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<v Speaker 1>You're married, now you have two kids, but like, do

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<v Speaker 1>people still see you not like when I was younger?

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<v Speaker 1>Like when I was younger, girls would run up and

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<v Speaker 1>steal whatever I was eating and just bounce like a

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<v Speaker 1>like a green Beret in a night getting a pow

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<v Speaker 1>and just ghosted, And I'm like, what where they go?

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<v Speaker 1>What was that? But now you know it's people are chill, man.

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<v Speaker 1>It's mostly their kids tripping out that I don't look

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<v Speaker 1>like Fred from Scooby Dude, or kids tripping out that

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<v Speaker 1>I that my voice sounds a lot like this Jedi

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<v Speaker 1>from a Star Wars cartoon and they find out it is,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're like, WHOA, that's cool. You know, I get

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of can you tell my kid, may the

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<v Speaker 1>Force be with you? Yeah? Man, So that's more now,

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<v Speaker 1>But when I was younger, yeah, people would trip out

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<v Speaker 1>of it. What about hate from dudes? And he hate

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<v Speaker 1>from dudes always bro, Yeah, since I mean, some guys

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<v Speaker 1>are actually funny about it. They're like, man, I hated

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<v Speaker 1>you so much in the nineties and then they're right,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're actually pretty cool. And you know, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>take myself too seriously. I have a podcast with Josh

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<v Speaker 1>Wolfe called Friends and the Wolf and we're very open

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<v Speaker 1>and honest about being Dad's this business, our histories. He's

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<v Speaker 1>a stand up comic and has been banging it out

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<v Speaker 1>for years, so we both kind of look at the

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<v Speaker 1>business from from different angles and life from very different angles.

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<v Speaker 1>And uh so I don't take the hate as hate,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like I don't. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know you and my like I said, I was raised

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<v Speaker 1>by weird old school guys where if you didn't earn

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<v Speaker 1>my respect, then your opinion really didn't mean much. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's a hardcore way to live. But that's how we

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<v Speaker 1>were raised. So there was normal to us, right. So

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<v Speaker 1>I like social media, I like when people get mad.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people get mad at me over like Star Wars stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people get mad because they just didn't like my movies, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and they'll just they'll just reach out and be like, hey, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you sucked in whatever, and down to you. I'm like, yo, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even see that movie. Like I just got

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<v Speaker 1>the check and like I did the premiere and then

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<v Speaker 1>I went to Jerry's bowling Alley. I didn't even stay

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<v Speaker 1>for the movie. If you didn't like it, that's on you, man.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't help out you interpret information. Do you ever

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<v Speaker 1>do you ever get like, do you ever get hate mail? Obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you get like girls throwing themselves at you, buddy,

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<v Speaker 1>But what about hate mail? More like dudes like hating

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<v Speaker 1>on you. Occasionally, there's always a hater out there somewhere,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, girl through their stuff at

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<v Speaker 1>you something. Yeah, yeah, there's always something weird. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>There's always gonna be one, you know, give us a story,

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<v Speaker 1>give us a story. You have a story, Well, it

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<v Speaker 1>could be anything. It could be like, you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>got a family member dying and everybody's reaching out saying,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, feel bad for you. And there's always one dude,

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<v Speaker 1>he's out there. It's like, yo, man, should have happened sooner,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean? That one dude, I've got

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<v Speaker 1>crist right field heat for no reason. You're like, what exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>There's always gonna be one and and uh, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>whether whether that's karma or what, you know, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>take it. You gotta take the bad with the good,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. And uh, there's been enough,

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<v Speaker 1>there's been enough blessings with the success that I'll take

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<v Speaker 1>some of the burdens here and there. It's not it's

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<v Speaker 1>not that big. There's no perfect life. My mom used

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<v Speaker 1>to say, people are gonna find a reason to hate

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<v Speaker 1>you for something, So just like what you like and

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<v Speaker 1>don't don't worry about that. I had a guy though

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<v Speaker 1>in the jiu jitsu mats who's straight up said like, hey, man,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want to roll? And I was looking at him.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like yeah, but it was like he was

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<v Speaker 1>and he was gassed up to yeah. I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say his dave because he plays football. Um, but we

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<v Speaker 1>sit down and before we even go, we're just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like shaking hands and he goes, man, I really

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<v Speaker 1>hated you back in the day man, I was just

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<v Speaker 1>like and that, right, but he was he was a

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<v Speaker 1>white belt. He was there to like learn techniques that

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<v Speaker 1>he could apply in the NFL. And I was already

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<v Speaker 1>a blue belt with a couple one or two stripes

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<v Speaker 1>back then, and so I wasn't that worried. But his

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<v Speaker 1>arms were as big as my waist, Like he was huge, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And so the guy who ranto place was like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to show him leverage and how to apply that.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're rolling and for the first minute, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>laying there lazy, and I'm just hoping his big muscles

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<v Speaker 1>get tired. And so I'm sitting there, sitting there. He's

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<v Speaker 1>trying to tap me out, but he doesn't really know

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<v Speaker 1>any submissions. He's just trying to muscle everything. And I

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<v Speaker 1>shrimp out every time he leaves an opening or fill

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<v Speaker 1>the space when he leaves it with an arm that

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<v Speaker 1>I can kind of hook over a bicep something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>But he's a monster, Like anywhere he wants to put me,

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<v Speaker 1>he can put me. Eventually, he starts to get a

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<v Speaker 1>little tired and I shrimp out and I take his

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<v Speaker 1>back and I choke him out, and he tapped he taps.

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<v Speaker 1>He taps the mat like a pro wrestler, like not

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<v Speaker 1>the jiu jitsu guy like you're supposed to because he's

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<v Speaker 1>never done it. And I only squeezed a little bit right,

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<v Speaker 1>and he he tapped early, so we doubt he's mad. Dude.

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<v Speaker 1>He just goes in the corner and he's fumeing just

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<v Speaker 1>and he's gassed out too. He's breathing hard just like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, hey, man, the first day is the

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<v Speaker 1>worst day of They did this to me. And I

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<v Speaker 1>told him this, like this philosophy that Henner Gracie taught

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<v Speaker 1>to me and uh. And the first day I tried

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<v Speaker 1>to roll with him and muscle up and I said

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<v Speaker 1>how much do you bench press? And he goes brought

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<v Speaker 1>a bench press four pounds and I was like, yeah, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I go how much does your belt wig? And he

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<v Speaker 1>goes out, what like a pound? I go, yeah, bench

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<v Speaker 1>pressed up for me. And he grabs his belt and

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, what do you mean? I was like, just

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<v Speaker 1>bench press up, bench press it up. He goes, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't go, well, why he goes it's connected to me?

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<v Speaker 1>And then I kind of just looked at him and

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<v Speaker 1>waited and He's like, Oh, don't even do that. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just telling you what I was told. I'm connected to

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<v Speaker 1>you and you can't get me off. And martial arts

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<v Speaker 1>always kind of helped me be humble and and and

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<v Speaker 1>accept kind of everything coming at you because martial arts

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<v Speaker 1>always gave you options, and it taught you patients, and

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<v Speaker 1>it taught you discipline, and so that was sort of

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<v Speaker 1>my approach. That's my approach to everything, to be honest, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>both my kids are involved in it. I still trained

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<v Speaker 1>today as much as my year old body will let me.

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<v Speaker 1>I already I need another surgery already. It's ridiculous. But

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<v Speaker 1>uh but yeah, man, So I really try to bring

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<v Speaker 1>that into to my family life. My wife was a

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<v Speaker 1>badass taekwondo girl kicking vampires butts on Buffy back in

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<v Speaker 1>the day, so she respects the R two. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was just blessed to be here in southern California where

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<v Speaker 1>in the eighties the karate kid came out, and every

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<v Speaker 1>martial artist in the world that wanted to make money

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, I'm moving there, and they did, and

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<v Speaker 1>we got spoiled because of it, you know. But there's

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<v Speaker 1>it's hard to find a bad school out here. So

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<v Speaker 1>did you take that with you? Did you? Did you

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<v Speaker 1>tell the football player when you were done that he

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<v Speaker 1>just got by a teen idol? No? I I did

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<v Speaker 1>say this. We were in the locker room later and

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<v Speaker 1>there were two other football players and they're this big,

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<v Speaker 1>huge black dude is big, huge white dude was like

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<v Speaker 1>six eight and uh, he wasn't even pro yet. He

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<v Speaker 1>was college getting ready to go. I didn't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what, bro, Like, you look like you're

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<v Speaker 1>about to retire your humus. But he said something like

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<v Speaker 1>if this was a you know, but if this was

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<v Speaker 1>a fight, you know, he'd have got knocked out. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, but you have to tell everyone you

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<v Speaker 1>got tapped out by the dude from Scooby Doo and

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<v Speaker 1>his friends were like oh. I was like looking at him, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta take that with you, bro. It's such a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful art format. It's such a My mom is ah,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom took up karate I think when she was

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<v Speaker 1>like in her fifties. Um, and she's my mom's a

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<v Speaker 1>third degree black belt. Hell yeah, what did she train? Uh? What?

0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:42.400
<v Speaker 1>I want to say? What? Okay? So she's going up

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<v Speaker 1>with obscure martial arts. I don't know exactly the there's

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<v Speaker 1>so many different modalities in it. But um, she tried

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<v Speaker 1>out for the women's Canadian national team when she was

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<v Speaker 1>and she in. She placed fifth and the two girls

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<v Speaker 1>that made the national team were so Yeah, my mom

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<v Speaker 1>is a badass. So we mess around in the kitchen.

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<v Speaker 1>I try and choke her out in the kitchen a mom.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom is so slippery. That's moms and single mothers. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. Man. My mom had to She had

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<v Speaker 1>to learn how to fight just to hang with with

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<v Speaker 1>me because it was just her and me in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>So she she had to hold mits when I was

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<v Speaker 1>doing moti, you have to hold the leg. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>she drank. That's awesome, dude. Well, I got a question

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<v Speaker 1>for you guys because it's the new year. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>new year. I want to roll into this. What is

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<v Speaker 1>what is something that you guys are most excited about

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<v Speaker 1>in the new year individually? Something that really weird? Man,

0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:51.400
<v Speaker 1>I want to hear weird that the listeners weren't weird. Alright,

0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:53.800
<v Speaker 1>this is I hope it connects to people I like,

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<v Speaker 1>I like helping out kids. I'll start it with that, alright. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I started a game channel where we play a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of board games, tabletop games, rpg like Dungeons and Dragons

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff, because I love video games. But board games

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<v Speaker 1>always had accountability because you if you did something, your

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<v Speaker 1>friend was right there. If you stole money and monopoly

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<v Speaker 1>and they caught you like that, rap always always cheated.

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<v Speaker 1>I would I cheat every time. I don't think I've

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<v Speaker 1>played a game straight in my life whatever, but that

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<v Speaker 1>accountability always made it more real, right. So I started

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<v Speaker 1>this channel and we had a lot of success on

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<v Speaker 1>Twitch and YouTube playing RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons. But

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<v Speaker 1>this one happened to me in the Star Wars world,

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<v Speaker 1>and I found this group of kids in Santa Monica

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<v Speaker 1>that are all home schooled kids, and this mom to

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<v Speaker 1>sort of get them to interact with each other because

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<v Speaker 1>they don't get that opportunity at school, she created this

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<v Speaker 1>like Dungeons and Dragons League for kids. But the game

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<v Speaker 1>master or dungeon master has a major, has a master's degree,

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<v Speaker 1>and his street So instead of playing Dungeons and Dragons

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<v Speaker 1>with trolls and elves and humans, he puts them in

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<v Speaker 1>real moments in history and then applies the rules of

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<v Speaker 1>d and d so he took him into the Boston

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<v Speaker 1>tea party. Yeah, and they got to be a part

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<v Speaker 1>of that. We're gonna take him to the Alamo and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we hold it this time and all these great

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<v Speaker 1>moments in history that we can redo. So we're getting

0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:26.360
<v Speaker 1>ready to cast it and put it together and shoot it.

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<v Speaker 1>And I really want to showcase that for family it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be family friendly content. We have stuff that's not

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<v Speaker 1>family friendly where we're all grown ups cussing at each

0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.840
<v Speaker 1>other over a dumb game, but it's awesome does But

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<v Speaker 1>this one is gonna be way family friendly. I've seen

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<v Speaker 1>these kids play games, this one group, these four girls,

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<v Speaker 1>they're they're all postpubescent and the boys in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of puberty, and they just run this dude. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>they run him ragged, like he knows what marriages like

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<v Speaker 1>five times over and he's and he's twelve, and he's twelve.

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<v Speaker 1>The amount of heat and nagging that he takes before, during,

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<v Speaker 1>and after every decision he makes is like Al Bundy.

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<v Speaker 1>It would make out Bundy Wheat. This kid isn't He's

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<v Speaker 1>a legend. If he ever gets married, it's gonna last forever.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure he won't. But God, this kid, Bro, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>telling you, you've ever been you've never been a friends

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<v Speaker 1>with somebody. So you had a twelve year old dude

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<v Speaker 1>who knows what being married five times and sailing is

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<v Speaker 1>like this legend. I'm not gonna say his name as

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, but he's a legend. What's what's something real quick?

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<v Speaker 1>We gotta go to break here quickly? What's something that's

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<v Speaker 1>got you really excited in the new year? For me?

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<v Speaker 1>Just cutting a record? Um, I'm about finally pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>done writing it. So now this year will be the

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<v Speaker 1>record making process and hopefully that'll be done sooner than later.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you tease us anything about that record? No way? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>How long? Like how long was the writing process? For man?

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<v Speaker 1>The writing process is always my whole life, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And so, um, it's been a it's been a few

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<v Speaker 1>years now, so I'm already three years off my last

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<v Speaker 1>record cycle. Um. But I'm never in a hurry, which

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<v Speaker 1>is a big problem in some ways. I just rather

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm done, haven't actually be done, then feel like,

0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:19.399
<v Speaker 1>oh I shouldn't put it out. I should have finished

0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:22.119
<v Speaker 1>that tune and I should have finished that bridge, should

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<v Speaker 1>have written a better intro to yourself. Yeah, man to

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<v Speaker 1>do all the time. It's a lot harder man show

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<v Speaker 1>business right, and business is the bigger word exactly. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's a tough appreciate that I heard chapters on the radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Really thank you for that. I took a picture and

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<v Speaker 1>send it to did you get my we thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for that. I think millennials do, or they take a

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<v Speaker 1>picture of the you know, the radio and then they

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<v Speaker 1>be it felt good, fel it felt good getting that

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<v Speaker 1>from you. And it's a you know, the record I'm

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<v Speaker 1>making is further you know, that direction, further towards the

0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:03.639
<v Speaker 1>country record type of thing. But but even even further

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<v Speaker 1>further more like a Bob Seeger meets uh Tom Petty

0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:10.480
<v Speaker 1>meets to John Mellencamp kind of record. So really really

0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:13.960
<v Speaker 1>like a nineteen seventies songwriter rock record, which is essentially

0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:17.400
<v Speaker 1>what's really country music? Now, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>It's head in that more that direction. You know, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>say our big announcement. Now. I was going to wait

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<v Speaker 1>till the I was that that would be what we

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<v Speaker 1>call an immaculate conception. What is this big? I haven't

0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:38.600
<v Speaker 1>been like doing that lately. What's going on that quiet.

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<v Speaker 1>So well, I'll tell you all that stuff later. But

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<v Speaker 1>so on January is the Podcast Award, of which we

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<v Speaker 1>are not nominated for. One yes announcement. Wow, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>believe that Brooks will be on stage age with Rick,

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan and Dmitri introducing a performance wonderful boy. Further to that, secretly,

0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:13.920
<v Speaker 1>I've also been learning all his songs and dance moves

0:20:14.000 --> 0:20:18.240
<v Speaker 1>and all that in case he invites me out on stage.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been learning how to play hockey and the roller

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<v Speaker 1>blades are gonna perform on skates. Yeah, you get to

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<v Speaker 1>push me down the stairs. That's right. And on that note,

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<v Speaker 1>take a break because we've got big stuff. Yeah, we

0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:34.399
<v Speaker 1>got some big stuff coming. We asked, We asked our

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<v Speaker 1>listeners what were some of the things that you wanted

0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:39.639
<v Speaker 1>us to address the most in so we have a

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<v Speaker 1>list of five. We have a big list. But uh,

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<v Speaker 1>some of our main topics are anxiety, money management, work,

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<v Speaker 1>life balance, stress, and uh, diet and so we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to get into some of this after this break. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit disappointed because I don't know if it's

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<v Speaker 1>just me, but I always thought Tony was going to

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<v Speaker 1>be a lot more futuristic than it turned out to be. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Hollywood sold you a false bill of goods on that crap.

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<v Speaker 1>Ye're flying cars and a Barbara, but that was Jetson's

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<v Speaker 1>is a lie. I'm disappointed. You don't you don't think

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<v Speaker 1>you deserve a robot Rosie that cooks and talk smack

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<v Speaker 1>to you. At the same time, she was like the

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<v Speaker 1>maid from the Jefferson's but with rust and we don't

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<v Speaker 1>even get that instant food. I want my Christmas dinner,

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas dinner, none of that. What a major letdown. We

0:21:36.760 --> 0:21:38.840
<v Speaker 1>got as far as ramen soup. That's as quick as

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<v Speaker 1>it got. These two. I saw Dolorian yesterday. I passed

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<v Speaker 1>one and I was like, oh my god. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>what if they's got the flux capacitor and that side.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's here's the morality test right here. If you get

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<v Speaker 1>the Sports Almanac and you have a chance to go

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<v Speaker 1>back in time, you do you become No, it's not who. Okay,

0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:07.359
<v Speaker 1>so I know what your answer is. It's not who.

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<v Speaker 1>It's do you use it for yourself or do you

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<v Speaker 1>not want to alter? Or do you stay? Do you stay?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you become bis? Come on, yeah, you're you're rolling

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<v Speaker 1>in that path would definitely, that's a brilliant movie. Got

0:22:22.240 --> 0:22:24.480
<v Speaker 1>to I'd literally be like, I bet Kirk Gibson's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>hit a home run right here of special million dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you never seen Back to the future too? I

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<v Speaker 1>have a long time ago, but that's I can't remember

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<v Speaker 1>that would not would you wouldn't know because Karma and

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<v Speaker 1>I do enough bad stuff that the karma is already.

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<v Speaker 1>This is This is a great segue because our first

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<v Speaker 1>guest on this show is a money manager. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know how you say money manager, expert, money experts.

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<v Speaker 1>So we have Nicole she rich? Is she rich? If

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<v Speaker 1>she's not rich, I'm not taking any advice we have.

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<v Speaker 1>We have Nicole lapping on with us. Nicole, are you there? Well,

0:23:03.440 --> 0:23:14.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm a rich bitch alright, Uh, Nicole, I appreciate you

0:23:14.840 --> 0:23:17.520
<v Speaker 1>jumping on with us. UM. A lot of our listeners

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<v Speaker 1>have said the number one issue they want to address

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<v Speaker 1>in is money management. They want to learn how to

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<v Speaker 1>uh invest money, save money, money, or manage their money

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<v Speaker 1>so that they're not so much living paycheck to paychecker

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<v Speaker 1>and incurring huge debts. UM, could you give our community

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<v Speaker 1>just your first the low level, the low hanging fruit

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<v Speaker 1>on how to better manage their money in the new year.

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<v Speaker 1>You know is that a man is not a financial plan,

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<v Speaker 1>period full stop. Wait, she's the other way you can

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<v Speaker 1>get it together. It's not that complicated. I know that

0:24:01.840 --> 0:24:06.159
<v Speaker 1>a lot of money stuff sounds jargon E and I

0:24:06.200 --> 0:24:08.320
<v Speaker 1>think that money is a language like anything else. We

0:24:08.359 --> 0:24:10.720
<v Speaker 1>just don't have a rosetta stone for it growing up,

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<v Speaker 1>Like we learn a lot of vs stuff growing up

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<v Speaker 1>in school will never use again, like yeah, or the

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<v Speaker 1>Pythagoran zurum, like I have no idea why we need

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<v Speaker 1>to know that, but we don't learn how to do

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<v Speaker 1>a budget or taxes or business plans. So once you

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<v Speaker 1>can speak the language, then I think you can steel empowered.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you start off by thinking of a spending

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<v Speaker 1>plan instead of a budget, like just the way you

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<v Speaker 1>frame it can help a lot. You come from a

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<v Speaker 1>place of aspiration versus deprevation, So in the same way

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<v Speaker 1>as you would think of an eating plan instead of

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<v Speaker 1>a crash giant, a spending point is something that sustainable

0:24:51.200 --> 0:24:55.399
<v Speaker 1>and allows these small indulgences. So I suggest breaking down

0:24:55.680 --> 0:25:00.080
<v Speaker 1>your monthly spending plans spending percent going to the essentials,

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<v Speaker 1>so everything you need to live on every single day,

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<v Speaker 1>but through the transportation or whatever, going to the end game,

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<v Speaker 1>so your future self. You're investing, you're saving all that

0:25:10.600 --> 0:25:13.879
<v Speaker 1>good stuff, and then fifteen percent going to the extras.

0:25:14.200 --> 0:25:17.400
<v Speaker 1>So the latte by the way, that there's three ees,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you some alliteration of I like the only

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<v Speaker 1>financial person who will tell you to buy your morning latte.

0:25:25.320 --> 0:25:28.560
<v Speaker 1>You have to. You have to treat yourself otherwise, just

0:25:28.720 --> 0:25:32.960
<v Speaker 1>like in a regular diet, you'll end up bitching later on. Yeah, um, nicole.

0:25:33.280 --> 0:25:36.919
<v Speaker 1>The baby boomers kind of destroyed Western civilization with instead

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<v Speaker 1>of living to be happy, it was about attaining as

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<v Speaker 1>much crap as you could get. And they've been blamed

0:25:43.720 --> 0:25:45.960
<v Speaker 1>about this for years, but we've sort of taken that

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<v Speaker 1>to a new level. What are the types of habits

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<v Speaker 1>or how do you break bad habits of trying to

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<v Speaker 1>acquire so much stuff at a young age and putting

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<v Speaker 1>yourself in that kind of debt. How what are the

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<v Speaker 1>ways you would use to break those habits? Totally amen,

0:26:01.840 --> 0:26:03.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean, debt is the only four letter word I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like, by the way, and I think when you're

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<v Speaker 1>tackling your debt, you really need to prioritize to pulverize,

0:26:11.840 --> 0:26:15.399
<v Speaker 1>I say, um, because not all debt is created equal,

0:26:15.520 --> 0:26:19.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, like there's some good staffs, I guess, avocados

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<v Speaker 1>compared to French fries. There's some good debt like student loans,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, compared to credit card debt. So if you're

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<v Speaker 1>tackling your debt, you don't want to just indiscriminately pay

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<v Speaker 1>it off. You want to look at the highest integrate

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<v Speaker 1>first and so typically that's your credit card, So pay

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<v Speaker 1>off all of that first. And then if you have

0:26:36.040 --> 0:26:38.679
<v Speaker 1>a car loan, which you shouldn't, but if you do,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to keep paying on a depreciating asset,

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<v Speaker 1>so you pay that off second. And then if you

0:26:43.960 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 1>have a mortgage, then you would pay that off, and

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:49.160
<v Speaker 1>then finally your student loans. Because they can take away

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<v Speaker 1>your house, they can take away your car, but they

0:26:51.440 --> 0:26:55.600
<v Speaker 1>can't take away your brain. And I think just generally

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<v Speaker 1>not acquiring stuff like that is a change in mindset.

0:26:59.200 --> 0:27:01.800
<v Speaker 1>What I would say to you people who just continue

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<v Speaker 1>to buy things to try and make them happy, which

0:27:05.800 --> 0:27:09.760
<v Speaker 1>as we know, never really seuse fruition is coming up

0:27:09.800 --> 0:27:13.120
<v Speaker 1>with what your goals actually are. And you know, when

0:27:13.160 --> 0:27:15.240
<v Speaker 1>people say I just want a million dollars. I'm like,

0:27:15.320 --> 0:27:17.200
<v Speaker 1>what do you want to do with that million dollars?

0:27:17.400 --> 0:27:19.399
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you want more than a million dollars, maybe need

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:21.560
<v Speaker 1>less than a million dollars. I have no idea. It's

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<v Speaker 1>first figuring out the life you want to live, and

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<v Speaker 1>then reverse engineer to figure out how to get some

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<v Speaker 1>money to live the life you want. How do you

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<v Speaker 1>feel about when people buy a new car. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel great about it. A little bit of me cries

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<v Speaker 1>on the inside. Um, I think that more young people

0:27:40.240 --> 0:27:45.119
<v Speaker 1>get into leases. Do you guys have leases? Or I

0:27:45.440 --> 0:27:55.840
<v Speaker 1>own two cars? That's probably real? Yeah, totally. Like the

0:27:55.880 --> 0:27:59.679
<v Speaker 1>biggest appreciation period is in the first four years. So

0:27:59.840 --> 0:28:02.600
<v Speaker 1>if you buy a car after four years, like it's

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<v Speaker 1>four years old, then that's the sweet spot and then

0:28:05.800 --> 0:28:08.439
<v Speaker 1>you can run that thing into the ground. Um. But

0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:10.560
<v Speaker 1>at least it was like the biggest scam in the

0:28:10.600 --> 0:28:15.119
<v Speaker 1>history of the world. So what do you recommend people

0:28:15.160 --> 0:28:17.680
<v Speaker 1>do with the car as far as cars go? Exactly,

0:28:17.840 --> 0:28:20.000
<v Speaker 1>buy a four year old car, lease a four year

0:28:20.000 --> 0:28:23.000
<v Speaker 1>old car, by four year old car, by a four

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:29.040
<v Speaker 1>year old car buying and run the gepies into the ground. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Buffett has I think like some old lopes telling you

0:28:32.000 --> 0:28:34.720
<v Speaker 1>I bought a two thousand eleven Toyota four Runner. It's

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<v Speaker 1>what I loved every day. I bought it used. I've

0:28:38.200 --> 0:28:40.520
<v Speaker 1>got over a hundred twelve thousand miles on it now

0:28:42.320 --> 0:28:45.320
<v Speaker 1>like old muscle cars more. Yeah, and those don't they

0:28:45.360 --> 0:28:47.760
<v Speaker 1>don't get driven on the four oh five Like that's

0:28:47.760 --> 0:28:51.320
<v Speaker 1>a car. So I'm with that. But yeah, I bought

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:53.600
<v Speaker 1>a used car. It already had miles on, it was tamer,

0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:56.040
<v Speaker 1>and it still runs like a dream. So you gotta

0:28:56.120 --> 0:28:59.560
<v Speaker 1>do that? What about rent or own your home? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Good question, man, I just interrupt really quick before we

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<v Speaker 1>move on. What would be the one major expense to

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<v Speaker 1>get hip on first? Would it be get a used

0:29:09.240 --> 0:29:11.239
<v Speaker 1>car rather than a new car? Would that be like

0:29:11.280 --> 0:29:14.480
<v Speaker 1>your first advice? What would be like the one first move?

0:29:15.800 --> 0:29:20.480
<v Speaker 1>Major life moves? First first first major life move is

0:29:20.600 --> 0:29:23.760
<v Speaker 1>like stepping away from all of this stuff and figuring

0:29:23.760 --> 0:29:26.080
<v Speaker 1>out your credit score, because your credit score is like

0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:30.600
<v Speaker 1>your financial report card, um and you that's actually gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make the most difference on whether you get a house

0:29:33.520 --> 0:29:36.040
<v Speaker 1>or car. Like, your interest rates are not created equal.

0:29:36.120 --> 0:29:38.120
<v Speaker 1>I know you guys all sit around and share your

0:29:38.120 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 1>interest rates on your credit cards. Man, yeah, right before

0:29:44.240 --> 0:29:47.360
<v Speaker 1>you call in, we had an interest rate specialists. That's true.

0:29:47.760 --> 0:29:50.880
<v Speaker 1>He's not lying. That's all we do around here. So

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<v Speaker 1>much promance with interest rates. No, I think you know,

0:29:54.600 --> 0:29:58.600
<v Speaker 1>we don't realize that your interest to race on everything

0:29:58.640 --> 0:30:01.600
<v Speaker 1>you borrow money for is connected to your credit score.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you can increase that and get that in order,

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<v Speaker 1>then you're going to be saying a lot of money

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<v Speaker 1>and interest in the long run. So that's the very

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<v Speaker 1>number one first thing. And then as far as the

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<v Speaker 1>house buying versus renting, I think there's a huge misconception

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<v Speaker 1>and I talked about this and you bunk get a

0:30:19.360 --> 0:30:22.880
<v Speaker 1>lot enriched fish where a house is an investment, like

0:30:22.960 --> 0:30:26.160
<v Speaker 1>a house is not an investment. Houses that LEDs to live.

0:30:27.000 --> 0:30:30.959
<v Speaker 1>And you know, unless you're some you know, flipper person

0:30:31.200 --> 0:30:34.000
<v Speaker 1>on some TV show like this is not a game

0:30:34.080 --> 0:30:37.120
<v Speaker 1>to make money. You know, when people say my grandma

0:30:37.560 --> 0:30:40.200
<v Speaker 1>bought a house for twenty five grand and now it's

0:30:40.200 --> 0:30:43.000
<v Speaker 1>worth two hundred and fifty grand or whatever. You know,

0:30:43.000 --> 0:30:47.320
<v Speaker 1>what people forget is that that thing inflation happened. And

0:30:47.400 --> 0:30:50.400
<v Speaker 1>so when Granama bought that house, you know, movie tickets

0:30:50.440 --> 0:30:53.640
<v Speaker 1>were also five sets and so, and you never get

0:30:53.640 --> 0:30:56.160
<v Speaker 1>the money back what you know that you put into

0:30:56.160 --> 0:30:58.920
<v Speaker 1>the house. If something goes wrong, look in the mirror,

0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:01.600
<v Speaker 1>you're the landlord. And so I think when you're building

0:31:01.640 --> 0:31:05.000
<v Speaker 1>your career, especially, I like to put the sexty back

0:31:05.000 --> 0:31:09.000
<v Speaker 1>into renting because you're missing out on your opportunity cost Otherwise,

0:31:09.040 --> 0:31:12.000
<v Speaker 1>a lot of young people are housed poor, Like they

0:31:12.360 --> 0:31:16.160
<v Speaker 1>save up a hundred grand or whatever by um, buy

0:31:16.200 --> 0:31:19.480
<v Speaker 1>a house and then can't do anything else, and that

0:31:19.760 --> 0:31:22.640
<v Speaker 1>is no life to live. In my opinion, I agree

0:31:22.640 --> 0:31:24.720
<v Speaker 1>with that, But there's also the flip side of that

0:31:24.840 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 1>to to look at the other side is that having

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<v Speaker 1>your own home brings an immense sense of calm and

0:31:31.000 --> 0:31:35.840
<v Speaker 1>peace um, which is almost invaluable to some people. So

0:31:36.200 --> 0:31:39.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to discourage everybody from not buying a home.

0:31:39.400 --> 0:31:41.479
<v Speaker 1>I would just I would encourage you to look at

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<v Speaker 1>what the priorities are in your life. But I completely

0:31:45.600 --> 0:31:47.680
<v Speaker 1>get what you say. You could have that hundred thousand,

0:31:47.720 --> 0:31:49.760
<v Speaker 1>You could invest that hundred thousand. It could make you

0:31:49.800 --> 0:31:51.800
<v Speaker 1>more money while you rent. You could do other things.

0:31:51.880 --> 0:31:54.239
<v Speaker 1>You could travel, you could live a different style of

0:31:54.280 --> 0:31:57.040
<v Speaker 1>life if that's what you want. What is the dumbest

0:31:57.080 --> 0:32:01.040
<v Speaker 1>mistake women make because I can ask that the guys can't.

0:32:03.240 --> 0:32:05.880
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, for the housing thing, I'll just know really quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>The difference, um is like thinking of your house is

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<v Speaker 1>an investment. I'm all about a house being you're staying

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:14.360
<v Speaker 1>short and your calm. But just frame it exactly that way.

0:32:14.400 --> 0:32:16.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't think like you're going to be making a

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<v Speaker 1>ton of money in the long run. That's not the

0:32:18.720 --> 0:32:21.760
<v Speaker 1>that's not the reason, you know. I think the biggest

0:32:22.080 --> 0:32:25.560
<v Speaker 1>mistake that we make is we try to go into

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<v Speaker 1>the new year cutting stuff out cold turkey, so you know,

0:32:30.280 --> 0:32:37.120
<v Speaker 1>no morning latte or do not find any fun stuff

0:32:38.960 --> 0:32:44.000
<v Speaker 1>saying oh like living you know in austerity, and we

0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:46.960
<v Speaker 1>all know that that doesn't last. So a lot of

0:32:46.960 --> 0:32:49.160
<v Speaker 1>women will come to me and say, you'll be so

0:32:49.200 --> 0:32:52.200
<v Speaker 1>proud of me I cut out the morning latte um,

0:32:52.360 --> 0:32:55.200
<v Speaker 1>or you know, I'm not going out, and then come

0:32:55.480 --> 0:32:58.560
<v Speaker 1>April May they're like, yeah, I bought a Gucci purse

0:32:58.600 --> 0:33:03.520
<v Speaker 1>because it was so good bye. I'm like, hello, captain obvious,

0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:06.640
<v Speaker 1>if you just bought a latte and give yourself small indulgences,

0:33:07.000 --> 0:33:10.880
<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't binge on that. Can I ask you some

0:33:10.920 --> 0:33:16.280
<v Speaker 1>more stuff. Yeah, if you buy a property, do you

0:33:16.280 --> 0:33:18.320
<v Speaker 1>ever really own the property? Being that you gotta pay

0:33:18.360 --> 0:33:24.640
<v Speaker 1>property texts, you never get philosophical. That's what Gavin does

0:33:24.640 --> 0:33:29.280
<v Speaker 1>on this show. I like it. Here's another one. You

0:33:29.280 --> 0:33:32.760
<v Speaker 1>want to answer that one? That's like, if you buy

0:33:32.800 --> 0:33:34.840
<v Speaker 1>a townhouse, do you really own it? Because you only

0:33:34.880 --> 0:33:36.800
<v Speaker 1>own up to the paint. You don't own the roof.

0:33:36.960 --> 0:33:40.800
<v Speaker 1>And it's not even a town it's a house. It's

0:33:40.840 --> 0:33:43.640
<v Speaker 1>what I'm talking about. And here's another. Are you gonna

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:48.720
<v Speaker 1>answer that? Or what are we gonna wait all day? Well,

0:33:48.840 --> 0:33:52.160
<v Speaker 1>by the way, there's also in you know, um like

0:33:52.320 --> 0:33:55.480
<v Speaker 1>tom Springs Areas, the Indian Land. You actually don't own

0:33:55.480 --> 0:33:59.840
<v Speaker 1>that land. You don't own the land in Mexico to

0:34:00.080 --> 0:34:03.040
<v Speaker 1>you can do like a year lease is basically like

0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:04.480
<v Speaker 1>the law they'll give you and then like yeah, and

0:34:04.560 --> 0:34:07.400
<v Speaker 1>we take that crap back no better. How much you've

0:34:07.400 --> 0:34:10.480
<v Speaker 1>invested in it. That's incredible. Let me ask you something, Nicole.

0:34:10.840 --> 0:34:12.600
<v Speaker 1>Let's say I'm eighteen years old. It was a long

0:34:12.640 --> 0:34:14.960
<v Speaker 1>time ago, but let's say I'm eighteen years old and

0:34:15.040 --> 0:34:17.000
<v Speaker 1>my mom just said it's time for you to get

0:34:17.000 --> 0:34:18.799
<v Speaker 1>out and do your thing, which she said, which I

0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:23.480
<v Speaker 1>respect I have a job that allows me rent at

0:34:23.520 --> 0:34:26.680
<v Speaker 1>my apartment. What are the choices I need to start making?

0:34:27.000 --> 0:34:29.920
<v Speaker 1>Right then, I'm eighteen, I'm on my own. I'm trying

0:34:29.920 --> 0:34:31.799
<v Speaker 1>to be a man. I have no idea how to

0:34:31.800 --> 0:34:33.960
<v Speaker 1>be a man. How do I make a good decision

0:34:33.960 --> 0:34:38.960
<v Speaker 1>with my money? I think that starting young with dusking

0:34:39.520 --> 0:34:42.120
<v Speaker 1>is a great way to go because, of course, so

0:34:42.239 --> 0:34:45.320
<v Speaker 1>longer you keep your money in the market, over time,

0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:47.880
<v Speaker 1>you're going to make ten percent. And that's not saying

0:34:47.920 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 1>that you're watching the market every single day, because I

0:34:50.160 --> 0:34:52.400
<v Speaker 1>think that's bad news. There's like you need a value

0:34:52.480 --> 0:34:55.160
<v Speaker 1>to look at the market, um, But over time in

0:34:55.200 --> 0:34:58.080
<v Speaker 1>solution is throwing out about three pours. So basic masks

0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:00.680
<v Speaker 1>like I'm happy we learned this stuff is not a

0:35:00.680 --> 0:35:03.720
<v Speaker 1>lot of other stuff. But you know, ten minus three

0:35:03.920 --> 0:35:06.799
<v Speaker 1>is seven percent, so you're gonna need seven percent just

0:35:06.960 --> 0:35:11.400
<v Speaker 1>to buy the same stuff later on um that you

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:16.000
<v Speaker 1>are buying today. And so I would start investing early

0:35:16.040 --> 0:35:20.600
<v Speaker 1>on with basics stuff like nothing's too exotic. Although the

0:35:20.680 --> 0:35:23.560
<v Speaker 1>rule of them is to take your age and put

0:35:23.640 --> 0:35:27.479
<v Speaker 1>that allocation in bonds um and then put the rest

0:35:27.520 --> 0:35:30.240
<v Speaker 1>in stock. So if you're eighteen, I put twenty percent

0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:34.960
<v Speaker 1>in bond, which is a safer investment, and then the

0:35:35.040 --> 0:35:37.560
<v Speaker 1>rest of the eight percent going into stocks, which is

0:35:37.560 --> 0:35:42.160
<v Speaker 1>a more aggressive investment, and ETFs mutual funds. It's just

0:35:42.400 --> 0:35:45.640
<v Speaker 1>that's a big basket, that's all diverse about it, and

0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:48.000
<v Speaker 1>you don't really need to think about it. I think

0:35:48.000 --> 0:35:49.799
<v Speaker 1>it's the way to go and those are easy you

0:35:49.840 --> 0:35:52.560
<v Speaker 1>can you can do that on them at your bank

0:35:52.640 --> 0:35:55.200
<v Speaker 1>or a bunch of different online. One more question on

0:35:55.239 --> 0:36:00.040
<v Speaker 1>that on that UH category, has there ever been a

0:36:00.040 --> 0:36:04.720
<v Speaker 1>add time to get in the market historically speaking, where

0:36:05.440 --> 0:36:08.880
<v Speaker 1>so if you got in young before, you're still lost.

0:36:09.560 --> 0:36:14.400
<v Speaker 1>Now there's i've, I was there a time I'VE. Last

0:36:14.440 --> 0:36:17.359
<v Speaker 1>year I studied this a lot. I read a lot

0:36:17.400 --> 0:36:20.280
<v Speaker 1>of financial books because I was out of hockey, retired

0:36:20.320 --> 0:36:23.000
<v Speaker 1>from hockey, The biggest earning years of my life were

0:36:23.000 --> 0:36:26.200
<v Speaker 1>probably behind me, and I wanted to know that the

0:36:26.239 --> 0:36:29.400
<v Speaker 1>money that I had earned could could carry me financially

0:36:29.440 --> 0:36:33.480
<v Speaker 1>the rest of my life. And so I studied a

0:36:33.480 --> 0:36:35.319
<v Speaker 1>lot of this and Amy, I'd actually like to do

0:36:35.440 --> 0:36:39.360
<v Speaker 1>like a full financial episode to talk about the stuff,

0:36:39.360 --> 0:36:42.719
<v Speaker 1>the difference between a fiduciary and a broker for investments,

0:36:42.760 --> 0:36:45.800
<v Speaker 1>all this kind of stuff. It's better to be for it.

0:36:46.239 --> 0:36:52.839
<v Speaker 1>I mean, but while he was asking that, but you know, no,

0:36:53.080 --> 0:36:56.840
<v Speaker 1>it's better to be it's better in the market in

0:36:56.880 --> 0:37:01.399
<v Speaker 1>the market period. If you there's some go nical, Yeah,

0:37:01.440 --> 0:37:03.480
<v Speaker 1>it's better to be in the market period. But you know,

0:37:03.560 --> 0:37:07.040
<v Speaker 1>you're never gonna be able to tell when you're in

0:37:07.120 --> 0:37:10.719
<v Speaker 1>the low end, right, So the only truisms in Wall

0:37:10.760 --> 0:37:13.560
<v Speaker 1>three and maybe in life is by low zel high

0:37:13.800 --> 0:37:16.719
<v Speaker 1>and it's better to be low expectations, and so you're

0:37:16.719 --> 0:37:19.640
<v Speaker 1>never going to be able to know right when that

0:37:19.880 --> 0:37:22.560
<v Speaker 1>when stuff is on sale is ideally you would buy

0:37:22.600 --> 0:37:25.800
<v Speaker 1>when you know, during the depression when when stocks neuron

0:37:25.920 --> 0:37:30.240
<v Speaker 1>sale essentially um. So sometimes when you're going into the market,

0:37:30.280 --> 0:37:33.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, for easy maths, let's say you have twelve

0:37:33.280 --> 0:37:36.080
<v Speaker 1>brand and you want to invest it and take it

0:37:36.120 --> 0:37:39.320
<v Speaker 1>over a year and put a thousand dollars every single month,

0:37:39.400 --> 0:37:43.480
<v Speaker 1>and so you're sort of hedging for the fluctuations in

0:37:43.560 --> 0:37:47.800
<v Speaker 1>the market. Interesting, over the last twenty years, the snpis

0:37:47.840 --> 0:37:52.400
<v Speaker 1>averaged eight percent a year. Correct, So it doesn't matter

0:37:52.640 --> 0:37:54.920
<v Speaker 1>what time really you get in the market. If you're

0:37:54.960 --> 0:37:57.640
<v Speaker 1>in the market for the long term play, just get

0:37:57.800 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 1>in the market and there's There's two things to keep

0:38:00.239 --> 0:38:03.200
<v Speaker 1>in mind there for young people, because the philosophies that

0:38:03.200 --> 0:38:05.640
<v Speaker 1>we're talking about right here are the two things that

0:38:05.760 --> 0:38:08.480
<v Speaker 1>eighteen year old guys are really horrible at, And the

0:38:08.520 --> 0:38:11.520
<v Speaker 1>first one is patients and the second one is thinking

0:38:11.600 --> 0:38:14.960
<v Speaker 1>long term. Right, Like, it's just unless you had strict

0:38:15.000 --> 0:38:19.040
<v Speaker 1>ass parents, it just wasn't a scenario. So when you're

0:38:19.080 --> 0:38:21.720
<v Speaker 1>when you're talking to young kids and they are kids,

0:38:21.760 --> 0:38:23.719
<v Speaker 1>and I know how dumb I was at eighteen. If

0:38:23.719 --> 0:38:25.279
<v Speaker 1>people weren't looking out for me, I would have been

0:38:25.320 --> 0:38:28.839
<v Speaker 1>a wreck. So you know, a simple thing is like

0:38:28.920 --> 0:38:31.359
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to just think stocks like bonds are

0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:34.000
<v Speaker 1>a different, separate thing. I invest in bonds if you

0:38:34.040 --> 0:38:37.560
<v Speaker 1>need that kind of an endorsement. Um. There's there's cities

0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:40.239
<v Speaker 1>that have bonds, like just locally here in California that

0:38:40.320 --> 0:38:43.400
<v Speaker 1>do great dividends in Palm Desert or Carmel or places

0:38:43.440 --> 0:38:46.320
<v Speaker 1>like that. But that's long term money that you guys

0:38:46.480 --> 0:38:50.200
<v Speaker 1>can't touch. So if it's money you can't afford to invest,

0:38:50.520 --> 0:38:52.879
<v Speaker 1>then maybe wait till you get that promotion at work

0:38:52.960 --> 0:38:55.800
<v Speaker 1>or until you get that next job. But starting early

0:38:55.960 --> 0:39:01.320
<v Speaker 1>and starting to develop habits and investing early isn't easy,

0:39:01.360 --> 0:39:04.200
<v Speaker 1>but it's necessary. So you've got to do more patients

0:39:04.200 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 1>than what the average eighteen year old does, and it

0:39:06.280 --> 0:39:09.320
<v Speaker 1>takes practice. You're gonna screw up. I did a lot.

0:39:09.600 --> 0:39:11.879
<v Speaker 1>That's where I was. I was lucky. One thing I'll

0:39:11.920 --> 0:39:13.840
<v Speaker 1>say that I did right in my life when I

0:39:13.880 --> 0:39:16.440
<v Speaker 1>had great advice when I was younger. Um as soon

0:39:16.480 --> 0:39:19.400
<v Speaker 1>as I turned pro and I started making money, my

0:39:19.480 --> 0:39:23.520
<v Speaker 1>financial advisor asked me, what is your biggest financial concern?

0:39:23.920 --> 0:39:26.759
<v Speaker 1>And my answer was that I don't want to be

0:39:26.920 --> 0:39:31.000
<v Speaker 1>an ex broke athlete when I'm sixty years old. I

0:39:31.040 --> 0:39:33.920
<v Speaker 1>want to know that I can fish and golf and

0:39:33.960 --> 0:39:35.960
<v Speaker 1>do whatever the hell I want the rest of my

0:39:36.000 --> 0:39:38.560
<v Speaker 1>life and just retire. And so when I was nineteen,

0:39:38.600 --> 0:39:41.120
<v Speaker 1>I put away three hundred thousand dollars. And I know

0:39:41.200 --> 0:39:43.759
<v Speaker 1>that's probably different than maybe most of our listeners, but

0:39:44.200 --> 0:39:46.960
<v Speaker 1>I put away three hundred thousand dollars that I won't

0:39:47.000 --> 0:39:49.960
<v Speaker 1>touch until I pay a penalty on if I touch

0:39:50.040 --> 0:39:52.880
<v Speaker 1>it before fifty nine and a half. And that money

0:39:52.880 --> 0:39:56.000
<v Speaker 1>will sit there and compound interest it's invested, and it

0:39:56.040 --> 0:39:58.840
<v Speaker 1>will compound and compound and compound, and hopefully it offers

0:39:58.840 --> 0:40:01.200
<v Speaker 1>me freedom the rest of my the question for Nicole

0:40:01.239 --> 0:40:03.239
<v Speaker 1>because I'm listening to all three of you guys talk

0:40:03.280 --> 0:40:05.400
<v Speaker 1>about this as men, and that's what this show is,

0:40:05.440 --> 0:40:08.920
<v Speaker 1>how men think. And I think, and I think Nicole

0:40:08.920 --> 0:40:12.360
<v Speaker 1>will agree that women do not make this as not

0:40:12.440 --> 0:40:14.960
<v Speaker 1>that they shouldn't. I think we're wrong, but women do

0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:17.400
<v Speaker 1>not make this as much of a priority as you

0:40:17.480 --> 0:40:21.640
<v Speaker 1>men do, just inherently by our nature. I would say

0:40:21.680 --> 0:40:23.920
<v Speaker 1>that's right. In my relime, to break down a wall

0:40:23.960 --> 0:40:26.319
<v Speaker 1>with a man is not a plant, right. So I

0:40:26.320 --> 0:40:29.000
<v Speaker 1>think that's why Nicole is amazing as a woman doing

0:40:29.040 --> 0:40:32.560
<v Speaker 1>what she does, because I'm pretty successful and I don't

0:40:32.560 --> 0:40:35.160
<v Speaker 1>do any of all the things y'all are talking about. Yeah,

0:40:35.200 --> 0:40:38.040
<v Speaker 1>it's I do it because in my life, my life

0:40:38.040 --> 0:40:40.239
<v Speaker 1>was shaped like that. I had prime earning years, I

0:40:40.280 --> 0:40:42.239
<v Speaker 1>had potential earning years as an athlete. I had a

0:40:42.280 --> 0:40:44.880
<v Speaker 1>shelf life, so I had to be aware that I

0:40:44.960 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>need to be smart with my money. So that started young.

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:53.759
<v Speaker 1>Are women failing when it comes to their finances? I

0:40:53.760 --> 0:40:56.640
<v Speaker 1>don't think we're failing. I've never met a woman who

0:40:56.680 --> 0:40:59.520
<v Speaker 1>is not a strong woman, So I think that there

0:40:59.600 --> 0:41:04.160
<v Speaker 1>is a desire to learn more about it, and I

0:41:04.239 --> 0:41:06.960
<v Speaker 1>just don't think there are enough resources. That's why I

0:41:07.040 --> 0:41:10.239
<v Speaker 1>of course do what I do. UM, but you know,

0:41:11.040 --> 0:41:13.880
<v Speaker 1>going to this sort of like philosophy and visit better.

0:41:14.400 --> 0:41:17.600
<v Speaker 1>I think if we're keeping it real, you know, women's

0:41:17.640 --> 0:41:20.600
<v Speaker 1>currency is more looks and men's currency is more money.

0:41:20.880 --> 0:41:22.920
<v Speaker 1>You can even feel that on the skating field, and

0:41:23.000 --> 0:41:26.840
<v Speaker 1>that's that's biological. You know, guess what we're attracted to.

0:41:26.960 --> 0:41:30.680
<v Speaker 1>And so I think that the desire is of course there.

0:41:30.840 --> 0:41:32.920
<v Speaker 1>And I go back to the investing thing and just

0:41:32.960 --> 0:41:37.160
<v Speaker 1>make like a quick footnote, UM that before you even

0:41:37.200 --> 0:41:40.040
<v Speaker 1>start investing, make sure you have an emergency fund, because

0:41:40.080 --> 0:41:42.640
<v Speaker 1>you can't go if you lose that job, that scenario

0:41:42.840 --> 0:41:45.520
<v Speaker 1>that eteen year old you can't go to the grocery

0:41:45.560 --> 0:41:49.320
<v Speaker 1>store with your four own k or your mortgage or whatever.

0:41:49.440 --> 0:41:53.719
<v Speaker 1>So would you recommend yeah, I mean six months if

0:41:53.760 --> 0:41:57.359
<v Speaker 1>you have a steady job. More about nine months if

0:41:57.400 --> 0:42:00.359
<v Speaker 1>you have a precarious job. So if you're a real

0:42:00.480 --> 0:42:04.560
<v Speaker 1>estate groper or you know, a model or whatever and

0:42:04.600 --> 0:42:07.120
<v Speaker 1>you you're not making the same amount every single month,

0:42:07.200 --> 0:42:11.600
<v Speaker 1>to make sure that that first, and you know, to

0:42:11.640 --> 0:42:14.000
<v Speaker 1>your guys, the point of just leaving it there and

0:42:14.080 --> 0:42:16.960
<v Speaker 1>not touching it, that's definitely the way to go, Like

0:42:17.000 --> 0:42:19.799
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't have zero in your bank account and then

0:42:19.840 --> 0:42:23.840
<v Speaker 1>three grands in you know, a municipal bond or a

0:42:23.880 --> 0:42:27.520
<v Speaker 1>CD even or anything that's going to earn you something

0:42:27.680 --> 0:42:35.120
<v Speaker 1>versus just sitting there. Well, I have one more question. Uh, college,

0:42:36.120 --> 0:42:40.239
<v Speaker 1>it's very expensive. Convince me that it's worth it nowadays.

0:42:41.680 --> 0:42:43.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh I don't think so, because I'm not going to

0:42:43.920 --> 0:42:49.000
<v Speaker 1>convince you of Um. I think in my second book,

0:42:49.040 --> 0:42:51.960
<v Speaker 1>Boss Bitch, I make the whole case against the n

0:42:52.000 --> 0:42:55.319
<v Speaker 1>b A, and I break down the economics of that.

0:42:55.600 --> 0:42:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I went to Northwestern, Like, I paid off

0:42:59.120 --> 0:43:02.719
<v Speaker 1>my student debt, But is that changing my career? No.

0:43:03.120 --> 0:43:05.759
<v Speaker 1>Had I done it all over again, I wouldn't have baughn.

0:43:05.920 --> 0:43:09.319
<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to start working. Um so UM. I

0:43:09.360 --> 0:43:13.279
<v Speaker 1>think a big issue for folks who also have kids

0:43:13.440 --> 0:43:17.920
<v Speaker 1>is that they're so concerned about for their kids college,

0:43:18.400 --> 0:43:21.120
<v Speaker 1>which and and and they put that in front of

0:43:21.160 --> 0:43:24.600
<v Speaker 1>their own retirement or their own investing, which is the

0:43:24.600 --> 0:43:28.279
<v Speaker 1>worst idea because you have to put your oxygen mouths

0:43:28.360 --> 0:43:30.960
<v Speaker 1>on first before helping others. If they don't say that

0:43:31.000 --> 0:43:33.120
<v Speaker 1>on the plane before take off, that to waste time.

0:43:33.160 --> 0:43:35.000
<v Speaker 1>It's totally true. You can't be of service to your

0:43:35.080 --> 0:43:37.320
<v Speaker 1>kids or anyone else if you're crashing and burning yourself.

0:43:37.560 --> 0:43:39.320
<v Speaker 1>And so by the time your kid goes to college,

0:43:39.520 --> 0:43:41.880
<v Speaker 1>there's probably going to be you know, a lot of

0:43:41.880 --> 0:43:44.600
<v Speaker 1>other methods to pay for it, and you're not going

0:43:44.680 --> 0:43:47.400
<v Speaker 1>to be helpful if their college is paid for it.

0:43:47.440 --> 0:43:50.080
<v Speaker 1>But like, you're living on cat food when you're retired,

0:43:50.280 --> 0:43:52.640
<v Speaker 1>and you gotta live on their couch. And so I

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:55.040
<v Speaker 1>think that's a really important thing to know. There's a

0:43:55.040 --> 0:43:58.840
<v Speaker 1>ton of vehicles, of course, to save for college. You know,

0:43:58.960 --> 0:44:03.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm not I'm Vegas, okay. Um the one on the

0:44:05.640 --> 0:44:08.920
<v Speaker 1>uh nicole uh. For our listeners listening that that want

0:44:08.960 --> 0:44:10.480
<v Speaker 1>to get in touch with you, where can they find you?

0:44:10.520 --> 0:44:13.480
<v Speaker 1>And also the book where can They get Make You creepy?

0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:15.680
<v Speaker 1>Don't tell us where we can find you. Just give

0:44:15.760 --> 0:44:21.560
<v Speaker 1>us for business inquiries. People reach out your Your book

0:44:21.600 --> 0:44:24.799
<v Speaker 1>is a New York Best New York Times bestseller. It's

0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:27.479
<v Speaker 1>called Rich. It's called Rich Bitch, a simple twelve step

0:44:27.520 --> 0:44:31.200
<v Speaker 1>plan for getting your financial life together. Uh. Finally, and

0:44:31.239 --> 0:44:33.200
<v Speaker 1>then you have Boss Bitch, which is a simple twelve

0:44:33.200 --> 0:44:36.759
<v Speaker 1>step plan to take charge of your career. Yeah. And

0:44:36.800 --> 0:44:42.160
<v Speaker 1>then my new book becoming Superwoman is uh, guess from

0:44:42.200 --> 0:44:47.399
<v Speaker 1>burnout to ballot super bitch over on the table? Were

0:44:47.600 --> 0:44:50.759
<v Speaker 1>happy on the table, It's through And then I was like,

0:44:50.800 --> 0:44:57.920
<v Speaker 1>the bitch thing is over where ultimate ultimate? Okay, but

0:44:58.080 --> 0:45:03.280
<v Speaker 1>here's the thing right here right about? What's the guy

0:45:03.480 --> 0:45:06.040
<v Speaker 1>version of this? Is it? Like rich dude, rich pro

0:45:06.320 --> 0:45:09.120
<v Speaker 1>rich fasters? Like, do you guys want to get in

0:45:09.200 --> 0:45:12.640
<v Speaker 1>on that be? What would the equivalent? But I think

0:45:12.640 --> 0:45:14.640
<v Speaker 1>you should write with Gavin. I think that'd be Gavin.

0:45:14.640 --> 0:45:18.960
<v Speaker 1>I think you should have some choice titles for you

0:45:19.160 --> 0:45:26.359
<v Speaker 1>the dough Bros. Nicole, I want to thank you so much.

0:45:26.600 --> 0:45:29.640
<v Speaker 1>We'd love to have you on AGAINDA to dive further

0:45:29.719 --> 0:45:34.000
<v Speaker 1>into this, Uh everybody, yeah, everybody check out those three books. Uh.

0:45:34.040 --> 0:45:36.359
<v Speaker 1>And then Nicole Lapping dot com is where you can

0:45:36.400 --> 0:45:40.480
<v Speaker 1>find her on the worldwide Web. Thanks Nicole Internet. Thanks

0:45:40.920 --> 0:45:45.200
<v Speaker 1>than young people. Got to check that out. You guys

0:45:45.200 --> 0:45:47.719
<v Speaker 1>gotta learn how to get your investments up early. Man.

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:50.239
<v Speaker 1>I hate trying to teach my friends that are in

0:45:50.280 --> 0:45:53.160
<v Speaker 1>their mid thirties what to be doing with stocks because

0:45:53.200 --> 0:45:55.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, look, I don't know. I just know what

0:45:55.400 --> 0:45:57.759
<v Speaker 1>I did and what kept me safe with the people

0:45:57.800 --> 0:46:00.200
<v Speaker 1>looking out for me if you're in your thirties trying

0:46:00.239 --> 0:46:02.399
<v Speaker 1>to figure out it's like learning to ride a bike

0:46:02.440 --> 0:46:05.640
<v Speaker 1>pedaling uphill. This is a whole lot of you. One

0:46:05.680 --> 0:46:07.560
<v Speaker 1>of my one of my best friends in the world,

0:46:08.040 --> 0:46:11.000
<v Speaker 1>says Brooks. There's nothing like debt to make a man

0:46:11.120 --> 0:46:16.640
<v Speaker 1>want to work. And I was like, oh no, brother,

0:46:16.880 --> 0:46:19.320
<v Speaker 1>And I would caution to anybody listening, don't have the

0:46:19.360 --> 0:46:22.080
<v Speaker 1>attitude that you could always work for money, that you

0:46:22.120 --> 0:46:24.400
<v Speaker 1>can always I can always find a job to get money.

0:46:24.960 --> 0:46:27.719
<v Speaker 1>Start saving now, Start being mindful and thoughtful with your money.

0:46:27.719 --> 0:46:29.839
<v Speaker 1>Put it away so your money is working for you.

0:46:29.920 --> 0:46:31.279
<v Speaker 1>We got to take a break and then we'll be

0:46:31.360 --> 0:46:41.839
<v Speaker 1>right back with some more. Right after this, we are

0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:44.440
<v Speaker 1>onto topic number two that the listeners want to hear

0:46:44.440 --> 0:46:47.080
<v Speaker 1>about on areas they want to improve the quality of

0:46:47.120 --> 0:46:51.040
<v Speaker 1>their life. In gav we've talked about this, we have,

0:46:51.320 --> 0:46:53.600
<v Speaker 1>we have. You don't get a lot of it. I say,

0:46:53.640 --> 0:46:58.319
<v Speaker 1>it's a weapon. We are talking about sleep. Yeah, that's

0:46:58.320 --> 0:47:01.319
<v Speaker 1>a hard one. Why is it so hard? I think

0:47:01.360 --> 0:47:03.719
<v Speaker 1>it's the probably the same kind of thing because when

0:47:03.719 --> 0:47:05.799
<v Speaker 1>you're playing hockey, you are in different time zones all

0:47:05.840 --> 0:47:08.720
<v Speaker 1>the time. Stuff like that, you know, traveling, travel, schedule.

0:47:08.840 --> 0:47:11.400
<v Speaker 1>Same thing with me playing music. Uh, and if I

0:47:11.400 --> 0:47:14.560
<v Speaker 1>don't have my tour bus, it's just just bananas, you

0:47:14.600 --> 0:47:17.200
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. When you're hopping on flights and

0:47:17.239 --> 0:47:20.400
<v Speaker 1>you're you're catching you know, twelve minutes of sleep in

0:47:20.440 --> 0:47:23.360
<v Speaker 1>a in an uber or or car or whatever. You know,

0:47:23.440 --> 0:47:29.040
<v Speaker 1>it's kind of it's kind of erratic. Um. But fundamentally speaking,

0:47:29.080 --> 0:47:34.200
<v Speaker 1>my my rhythm is late night. You know. Fundamentally speaking,

0:47:34.239 --> 0:47:38.000
<v Speaker 1>I usually need typically if I'm going to get proper sleep,

0:47:38.080 --> 0:47:40.440
<v Speaker 1>like a good eight hours, it won't I won't be

0:47:40.440 --> 0:47:43.040
<v Speaker 1>able to fall asleep usually until the sun starts coming up,

0:47:43.800 --> 0:47:48.160
<v Speaker 1>which is really weird. Freddy is gonna ask, you have

0:47:48.160 --> 0:47:51.960
<v Speaker 1>two kids, how do you sleep? Man? Look, I'm you're

0:47:51.960 --> 0:47:54.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna be talking to the two of the two of

0:47:54.040 --> 0:47:56.120
<v Speaker 1>the three people in this group, doctor are some of

0:47:56.120 --> 0:48:01.920
<v Speaker 1>the most unhealthy sleep habit habit apologizing. But I have

0:48:01.960 --> 0:48:05.880
<v Speaker 1>two kids, I have a video game habit, and I'm

0:48:05.920 --> 0:48:09.440
<v Speaker 1>an actor writer. So you know, first of all, I

0:48:09.520 --> 0:48:11.759
<v Speaker 1>can't even go to sleep unless I'm listening to like

0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:15.279
<v Speaker 1>Richard pryor stand up comedy special, and then when it's over,

0:48:15.600 --> 0:48:17.480
<v Speaker 1>I wake up and have to put on a different

0:48:17.520 --> 0:48:19.200
<v Speaker 1>one and if I don't do that, I'm just sitting

0:48:19.239 --> 0:48:24.680
<v Speaker 1>there like this. So eight hours, oh sweet god, eight hours.

0:48:24.680 --> 0:48:27.399
<v Speaker 1>I think I was probably like seventeen, eighteen years old

0:48:29.320 --> 0:48:32.720
<v Speaker 1>and that was a good night, right there. Man, Okay,

0:48:32.800 --> 0:48:34.959
<v Speaker 1>I got a gift for you, gentlemen, got a gift

0:48:35.000 --> 0:48:38.280
<v Speaker 1>for you. Just giving gifts here today. So in studio

0:48:38.320 --> 0:48:41.800
<v Speaker 1>with us, we have a clinical psychologist and both a

0:48:41.840 --> 0:48:44.480
<v Speaker 1>diplomat of the American Board of Sleep Medicine and a

0:48:44.600 --> 0:48:48.080
<v Speaker 1>fella of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. He's also

0:48:48.160 --> 0:48:50.600
<v Speaker 1>you'll see him up in that resumet. You'll also see

0:48:50.680 --> 0:48:53.320
<v Speaker 1>him on the Doctor Oz show. We have doctor Mike

0:48:53.760 --> 0:49:01.200
<v Speaker 1>Bruce with say it right, Bruce, Um, Mike gott asleep.

0:49:01.360 --> 0:49:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I have said every podcast I've said that rest is

0:49:05.000 --> 0:49:07.600
<v Speaker 1>a weapon. I was a professional athlete. Rest is a weapon.

0:49:07.640 --> 0:49:10.160
<v Speaker 1>And to your point, Freddie, I try and get nine

0:49:10.160 --> 0:49:15.680
<v Speaker 1>hours a night like that is. What's actually interesting about

0:49:15.719 --> 0:49:18.719
<v Speaker 1>that is when you look at athletes in particular, athletes

0:49:18.760 --> 0:49:22.239
<v Speaker 1>actually may actually require more sleep. There's some great data

0:49:22.280 --> 0:49:24.920
<v Speaker 1>out of Stanford that showed that when you extended sleep,

0:49:24.960 --> 0:49:28.000
<v Speaker 1>free throw percentages increased. And so when you start to

0:49:28.040 --> 0:49:31.040
<v Speaker 1>look at specific tasks within the athletic field, depending upon

0:49:31.120 --> 0:49:33.759
<v Speaker 1>the sport. It can actually you can see and it's

0:49:33.760 --> 0:49:41.080
<v Speaker 1>significant improvement in overall. Y, you're you're a mess, right Like,

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:44.759
<v Speaker 1>that's just the bottom line is you're a mass the

0:49:44.800 --> 0:49:47.560
<v Speaker 1>whole thing. I haven't gotten eight since seventeen. So also,

0:49:47.760 --> 0:49:50.400
<v Speaker 1>to be fair, eight hours is a myth, guys, Okay,

0:49:50.520 --> 0:49:52.640
<v Speaker 1>not everybody needs eight. It actually turns out to be

0:49:52.680 --> 0:49:55.560
<v Speaker 1>genetically predetermined. I can look at your twenty three and

0:49:55.640 --> 0:49:57.759
<v Speaker 1>me data or your ancestry dot com data. I can

0:49:57.760 --> 0:49:59.759
<v Speaker 1>tell you exactly how much sleep you need. I can

0:49:59.760 --> 0:50:02.440
<v Speaker 1>tell you the quality that that sleep is going to be.

0:50:02.480 --> 0:50:05.640
<v Speaker 1>I can even help be predictive of potential sleep disorders

0:50:05.640 --> 0:50:08.000
<v Speaker 1>that you can amy, Can we do this? Can we

0:50:08.040 --> 0:50:12.279
<v Speaker 1>do this? Yeah? That's crazy. Can you give us an

0:50:12.280 --> 0:50:16.480
<v Speaker 1>example of of of a specific gene type that that

0:50:16.640 --> 0:50:20.080
<v Speaker 1>that meets us the sleeptally? So I'm gonna give you

0:50:20.080 --> 0:50:22.640
<v Speaker 1>one that actually applies to you. So there's something called

0:50:22.640 --> 0:50:25.319
<v Speaker 1>the pe R three gene. If there's a if there's

0:50:25.320 --> 0:50:28.640
<v Speaker 1>a slight variation there, it turns you into a night owl.

0:50:29.000 --> 0:50:30.920
<v Speaker 1>I believe you said that you are a night owl. Now,

0:50:31.080 --> 0:50:33.280
<v Speaker 1>what's also interesting about night owls? And I treat several

0:50:33.360 --> 0:50:35.800
<v Speaker 1>musicians artists who are actually out there continue to be

0:50:35.840 --> 0:50:38.080
<v Speaker 1>out there, much like yourself. So one of the things

0:50:38.080 --> 0:50:40.839
<v Speaker 1>that I've recognized is jet lag becomes a problem. One

0:50:40.880 --> 0:50:43.760
<v Speaker 1>of the guys that I treat does two hundred shows

0:50:43.840 --> 0:50:46.680
<v Speaker 1>a year. Oh yeah, that's okay, two hundred shows a

0:50:46.719 --> 0:50:49.960
<v Speaker 1>year in different spots, so jets but he couldn't do

0:50:50.000 --> 0:50:52.680
<v Speaker 1>it if he wasn't a night owl. And one of

0:50:52.680 --> 0:50:54.120
<v Speaker 1>the things I found is a lot of my super

0:50:54.120 --> 0:50:56.960
<v Speaker 1>creatives actors as well, have a tendency to be more

0:50:57.200 --> 0:51:01.479
<v Speaker 1>night people used to look right, I used to work.

0:51:01.560 --> 0:51:04.000
<v Speaker 1>I grew up in comedy clubs because my dad's Freddie Prince.

0:51:04.000 --> 0:51:05.400
<v Speaker 1>He was a stand up comic back in the day.

0:51:05.440 --> 0:51:07.240
<v Speaker 1>I was hanging out the improv when I was twelve,

0:51:07.640 --> 0:51:11.000
<v Speaker 1>watching guys do cocaine in the bathroom. Sure, so it was,

0:51:11.040 --> 0:51:15.879
<v Speaker 1>and the other part good for sleep, just TONI than

0:51:15.920 --> 0:51:19.200
<v Speaker 1>just saying. But when I when I stopped acting, I

0:51:19.239 --> 0:51:21.600
<v Speaker 1>took a random job for the w w E and

0:51:21.880 --> 0:51:25.840
<v Speaker 1>every stand up comic, every pro wrestler I know must

0:51:25.880 --> 0:51:29.359
<v Speaker 1>have the peer Is that a p E R three

0:51:29.440 --> 0:51:34.840
<v Speaker 1>gene Because that's every single man and woman in both

0:51:34.920 --> 0:51:38.120
<v Speaker 1>industries that I've met. Yeah, it's really fascinating because for

0:51:38.200 --> 0:51:40.840
<v Speaker 1>certain personality types, it turns out have certain what we

0:51:40.880 --> 0:51:42.920
<v Speaker 1>call chrono types. So you might not have heard the

0:51:42.920 --> 0:51:44.680
<v Speaker 1>word of chronotype, but you've heard of people being called

0:51:44.680 --> 0:51:47.040
<v Speaker 1>an early bird or a night ol. Turns out those

0:51:47.120 --> 0:51:49.680
<v Speaker 1>are chrono types. And when people don't go to bed

0:51:49.960 --> 0:51:53.799
<v Speaker 1>at the same time that their chronotype dictates genetically, they're

0:51:53.840 --> 0:51:57.840
<v Speaker 1>off and that causes sleeplessness. So there's it's it's unbelievable,

0:51:57.840 --> 0:52:00.480
<v Speaker 1>and there's some really interesting tools out there people can

0:52:00.560 --> 0:52:03.279
<v Speaker 1>use if they're suffering from sleeplessness. There's some new tech

0:52:03.360 --> 0:52:05.920
<v Speaker 1>that's been coming out lately these days. Also, if you're

0:52:05.920 --> 0:52:08.920
<v Speaker 1>a video game guy, one thing you've got to consider

0:52:09.040 --> 0:52:14.200
<v Speaker 1>is blue light blocking glasses. A pro gamer send him

0:52:14.239 --> 0:52:17.799
<v Speaker 1>to me to carer. Yeah, both of my kids like

0:52:17.960 --> 0:52:20.680
<v Speaker 1>to game, and I had to actually create my own

0:52:20.880 --> 0:52:24.200
<v Speaker 1>line of blue light blocking glass. Let. Absolutely, we'll get

0:52:24.200 --> 0:52:25.960
<v Speaker 1>you something. So what happens with the blue light? What

0:52:26.040 --> 0:52:30.080
<v Speaker 1>is that your eyes and turns off the melatonin Fawcett

0:52:30.080 --> 0:52:32.719
<v Speaker 1>in your brain? So I love melatonin. We do. We

0:52:32.760 --> 0:52:34.879
<v Speaker 1>all love melatonin at night, but not in this good

0:52:34.960 --> 0:52:38.200
<v Speaker 1>dream morning. Yeah. Absolutely, and it's actually a really good antioxidant.

0:52:38.280 --> 0:52:41.120
<v Speaker 1>But there's actually some newer tech that's out now that

0:52:41.200 --> 0:52:42.759
<v Speaker 1>i'd love to tell you guys about because I get

0:52:42.760 --> 0:52:46.520
<v Speaker 1>the opportunity to see really really cool, weird stuff that's

0:52:46.560 --> 0:52:48.640
<v Speaker 1>out there, and it can be super helpful for folks.

0:52:49.200 --> 0:52:51.760
<v Speaker 1>Let me ask you this. I grew up surfing, I

0:52:51.760 --> 0:52:53.440
<v Speaker 1>I was born and raised here as born at Cedar SI,

0:52:53.520 --> 0:52:56.640
<v Speaker 1>and I I've never needed an alarm clock to wake up.

0:52:56.680 --> 0:52:59.040
<v Speaker 1>That's a good sign. If I have to get up

0:52:59.080 --> 0:53:00.839
<v Speaker 1>for work and I know I have to be there

0:53:00.840 --> 0:53:03.160
<v Speaker 1>at seven, it's gonna take me an hour. Then at

0:53:03.160 --> 0:53:06.239
<v Speaker 1>six whatever, it'll be five, nine or six on the dot,

0:53:06.320 --> 0:53:09.239
<v Speaker 1>no matter what. Just my eyes have open. Yeah, it's

0:53:09.920 --> 0:53:14.319
<v Speaker 1>what what does I hate it? By the way, what

0:53:14.320 --> 0:53:16.640
<v Speaker 1>what does that? What is it that makes you go,

0:53:16.880 --> 0:53:19.080
<v Speaker 1>hey man, you got thirty second still at six am?

0:53:19.120 --> 0:53:21.279
<v Speaker 1>Good up? So once again, your genetics are playing a

0:53:21.400 --> 0:53:23.200
<v Speaker 1>role here. Like if I took your twenty three and

0:53:23.239 --> 0:53:25.359
<v Speaker 1>me data or your ancestry dot com data, I could

0:53:25.400 --> 0:53:28.879
<v Speaker 1>literally show you on the genome where some of that

0:53:28.920 --> 0:53:32.200
<v Speaker 1>stuff is happening for you. It's it's quite it's really

0:53:32.280 --> 0:53:35.960
<v Speaker 1>quite fascinating. But remember light plays a significant role. So

0:53:36.040 --> 0:53:39.160
<v Speaker 1>as light increases in the bedroom as the sun rises,

0:53:39.560 --> 0:53:41.840
<v Speaker 1>light comes through your eyelids and it sends a signal

0:53:41.840 --> 0:53:44.600
<v Speaker 1>to your brain to turn off that melatonin faucet, just

0:53:44.680 --> 0:53:46.759
<v Speaker 1>same way that blue light does at night. Right. So

0:53:46.760 --> 0:53:48.719
<v Speaker 1>that's why we were the blue light blocking glasses at night.

0:53:48.719 --> 0:53:51.120
<v Speaker 1>We want blue light in the morning. We don't want

0:53:51.120 --> 0:53:53.200
<v Speaker 1>blue light at night, so we want sunlight in the morning.

0:53:53.280 --> 0:53:54.799
<v Speaker 1>So a lot of my athletes what I have them

0:53:54.840 --> 0:53:56.239
<v Speaker 1>do as soon as they wake up, they drink a

0:53:56.239 --> 0:53:58.120
<v Speaker 1>full bottle of water and they get fifteen minutes of

0:53:58.160 --> 0:54:01.440
<v Speaker 1>sunlight immediately because it removed was the brain fog, and

0:54:01.480 --> 0:54:03.480
<v Speaker 1>then they can move on with their day. I love that.

0:54:03.520 --> 0:54:05.120
<v Speaker 1>I love that you're doing it that way versus like

0:54:05.160 --> 0:54:08.520
<v Speaker 1>a pound of coffee or here's like some I'm sint

0:54:08.560 --> 0:54:10.879
<v Speaker 1>a big, big pharmaceutical guy, and I'm trying to stay

0:54:10.920 --> 0:54:12.960
<v Speaker 1>away from a lot of the stimulants and the suff

0:54:13.080 --> 0:54:15.160
<v Speaker 1>I want people to get a good quality sleep. I

0:54:15.160 --> 0:54:17.040
<v Speaker 1>want people to be able to fall asleep easily, get

0:54:17.120 --> 0:54:19.600
<v Speaker 1>good quality sleep, do some things. I'd love to tell

0:54:19.640 --> 0:54:21.400
<v Speaker 1>you about this new piece of tech that I actually

0:54:21.400 --> 0:54:24.400
<v Speaker 1>had float by me. It's kind of interesting. It's called Modius,

0:54:24.440 --> 0:54:26.120
<v Speaker 1>And what it is is it's a headset that you

0:54:26.200 --> 0:54:28.560
<v Speaker 1>put on these little things that go behind here. You

0:54:28.600 --> 0:54:32.000
<v Speaker 1>wear for about thirty minutes before bed, and it sends

0:54:32.040 --> 0:54:34.960
<v Speaker 1>a mild signal into a very particular part of your

0:54:34.960 --> 0:54:38.440
<v Speaker 1>brain to shift that circadian cycle. This is Philip K.

0:54:38.680 --> 0:54:42.120
<v Speaker 1>Dick do Android's dream of electric sheep stuff. Man, this

0:54:42.200 --> 0:54:46.640
<v Speaker 1>is like stop sleeping, tune to channel. This is crazy.

0:54:47.080 --> 0:54:50.799
<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing is, it's healthy, it's non pharmaceutical and

0:54:50.840 --> 0:54:53.920
<v Speaker 1>it works like that was because I was super duper skeptical,

0:54:54.000 --> 0:54:56.279
<v Speaker 1>to be fair, like I got, I get all kinds

0:54:56.280 --> 0:54:59.000
<v Speaker 1>of crazy stuff that shows up in my mom's called mobius.

0:54:59.000 --> 0:55:01.920
<v Speaker 1>What is it camobius health. Have you ever heard of

0:55:01.960 --> 0:55:05.839
<v Speaker 1>the bio charger? I have heard of the biocharge. Yeah,

0:55:05.880 --> 0:55:08.000
<v Speaker 1>so I like there's things about that that I like.

0:55:08.040 --> 0:55:10.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry it was modi us, not with a B

0:55:10.719 --> 0:55:12.880
<v Speaker 1>to be clear. I was thinking of the French artists

0:55:12.920 --> 0:55:17.520
<v Speaker 1>more mobius. There's a little bit of a cross over there.

0:55:17.640 --> 0:55:20.120
<v Speaker 1>But what's interesting is the signal is very very mild.

0:55:20.120 --> 0:55:21.600
<v Speaker 1>You don't feel it. You wear it for thirty minutes,

0:55:21.600 --> 0:55:24.000
<v Speaker 1>you can do it while watching TV. You take it off,

0:55:24.040 --> 0:55:26.840
<v Speaker 1>you lie down and you go to sleep. Um. Interesting,

0:55:27.040 --> 0:55:30.919
<v Speaker 1>So don't do when you're driving. Absolutely do this when

0:55:30.960 --> 0:55:35.040
<v Speaker 1>you're driving, or sure, um, don't take the melotonin flavored

0:55:35.040 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 1>ments while you're driving, and exactly, and don't use this

0:55:38.640 --> 0:55:40.680
<v Speaker 1>type of device. But it's pretty amazing when you start

0:55:40.680 --> 0:55:43.279
<v Speaker 1>to think about tech and inn tech actually have an

0:55:43.320 --> 0:55:46.359
<v Speaker 1>influence on our biology. And the answer is yes, as

0:55:46.360 --> 0:55:48.200
<v Speaker 1>long as we're responsible with it and we use it

0:55:48.239 --> 0:55:50.600
<v Speaker 1>in the right ways. Well, we're never gonna do that.

0:55:50.680 --> 0:55:53.920
<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be terminator to judgment day. Just not as

0:55:53.960 --> 0:55:57.920
<v Speaker 1>soon as everyone said. But I'm a big believer in technology,

0:55:58.000 --> 0:56:00.520
<v Speaker 1>but human beings are not responsible in enough to be

0:56:00.600 --> 0:56:04.320
<v Speaker 1>responsible with the technology. And someone's gonna go on, build

0:56:04.320 --> 0:56:08.040
<v Speaker 1>a sleep robot. It'll take over the world. They'll go

0:56:08.160 --> 0:56:12.600
<v Speaker 1>like inception, like two point out to put you to sleep.

0:56:12.640 --> 0:56:16.239
<v Speaker 1>I'll jump into your brain. I'm like, yeah, that's great,

0:56:16.280 --> 0:56:18.600
<v Speaker 1>and you steal on my bank codes. I am so

0:56:18.719 --> 0:56:23.280
<v Speaker 1>fascinated by people who do not prioritize prioritize sleep because

0:56:23.360 --> 0:56:26.960
<v Speaker 1>I can't stand waking up and feeling like ass. I

0:56:27.000 --> 0:56:30.200
<v Speaker 1>can't stand artistic thing. Man. Every artist I know and

0:56:30.280 --> 0:56:33.839
<v Speaker 1>every jock I know is the other way like I'm

0:56:34.160 --> 0:56:36.839
<v Speaker 1>friendly with a lot of UFC fighters and stuff, and

0:56:36.920 --> 0:56:41.800
<v Speaker 1>their sleep is money there, it's there, it's a weapon.

0:56:42.360 --> 0:56:44.520
<v Speaker 1>And every artist I know it's like they're texting me

0:56:44.560 --> 0:56:46.640
<v Speaker 1>at midnight like, hey, man, were you doing. I'm just like,

0:56:47.000 --> 0:56:49.080
<v Speaker 1>what are you doing? Like like with my with my

0:56:49.160 --> 0:56:52.800
<v Speaker 1>actors and with my musicians, I actually create a situation

0:56:52.840 --> 0:56:54.279
<v Speaker 1>for them where they don't have to go to bed

0:56:54.320 --> 0:56:56.200
<v Speaker 1>before two o'clock in the morning, because a lot of

0:56:56.239 --> 0:56:58.640
<v Speaker 1>them like when when you're out there, you don't get

0:56:58.640 --> 0:57:01.080
<v Speaker 1>off stage until what time to three o'clock in the

0:57:01.200 --> 0:57:03.239
<v Speaker 1>I mean it just depends, right, And so late at night,

0:57:04.760 --> 0:57:06.239
<v Speaker 1>one of the guys I w with prints you don't

0:57:06.280 --> 0:57:09.120
<v Speaker 1>even start till two am exactly, wouldn't even get on stage.

0:57:09.160 --> 0:57:11.799
<v Speaker 1>So when you what I do is I actually do

0:57:11.840 --> 0:57:13.799
<v Speaker 1>a whole shift for them, and I keep them on

0:57:14.280 --> 0:57:17.320
<v Speaker 1>night mode, and then I have them sleeping during different

0:57:17.320 --> 0:57:19.960
<v Speaker 1>times during the day, so you're having them blackout curtains

0:57:20.040 --> 0:57:22.640
<v Speaker 1>and I can get pretty extreme if I need to.

0:57:22.680 --> 0:57:25.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm actually a performance coach and I use sleep as

0:57:26.000 --> 0:57:28.200
<v Speaker 1>my secret weapon, right, And so I used sleep to

0:57:28.240 --> 0:57:30.800
<v Speaker 1>assess people, and I used sleep to actually help motivate

0:57:30.840 --> 0:57:34.120
<v Speaker 1>people as well as give them more avenues for productivity.

0:57:34.360 --> 0:57:38.520
<v Speaker 1>Sleep is the secret weapon of all secret weapons. And

0:57:38.560 --> 0:57:41.600
<v Speaker 1>it's it's interesting when you say priorities, right, So I'll

0:57:41.600 --> 0:57:44.120
<v Speaker 1>give you the best priority talk that I ever give anybody.

0:57:44.320 --> 0:57:47.680
<v Speaker 1>Is you can last for about four minutes without air.

0:57:47.960 --> 0:57:50.400
<v Speaker 1>You can last for about four days without water. You

0:57:50.400 --> 0:57:53.160
<v Speaker 1>can go twenty five days without food. You can go

0:57:53.760 --> 0:57:56.680
<v Speaker 1>for six days without sleep. Okay, well let's talk day four.

0:57:57.200 --> 0:58:00.560
<v Speaker 1>You are crazy. Let's talk about that. Let's talk about

0:58:00.640 --> 0:58:05.160
<v Speaker 1>the debilitative effects absolutely lack of sleep. So like I've

0:58:05.160 --> 0:58:07.600
<v Speaker 1>seen it in the poker room, right, like a poker

0:58:07.600 --> 0:58:10.320
<v Speaker 1>player too, when poker was big, and you would see

0:58:10.800 --> 0:58:12.680
<v Speaker 1>I saw people falling asleep at the table literally and

0:58:12.720 --> 0:58:15.160
<v Speaker 1>you would see that the way it would affect their choices.

0:58:15.560 --> 0:58:18.360
<v Speaker 1>Question there the rate at which they would call and

0:58:18.680 --> 0:58:20.840
<v Speaker 1>guys when they thought they were like talk about how

0:58:20.960 --> 0:58:24.080
<v Speaker 1>quickly just one night of no sleep can break you down.

0:58:24.160 --> 0:58:27.520
<v Speaker 1>So it's really interesting. So there's a cute sleep deprivation,

0:58:27.560 --> 0:58:30.080
<v Speaker 1>so like pulling it all nighter. And then there's the

0:58:30.360 --> 0:58:33.600
<v Speaker 1>I didn't get like normally my body needs seven and

0:58:33.640 --> 0:58:35.919
<v Speaker 1>I only got five and a half or five days

0:58:35.960 --> 0:58:38.760
<v Speaker 1>in a row. So there's cumulative and then there's acute.

0:58:38.960 --> 0:58:41.600
<v Speaker 1>Acute has some really interesting effects on it, specifically with

0:58:41.640 --> 0:58:44.920
<v Speaker 1>decision making and frontal lobe cognitive stuff. The more sleep

0:58:44.920 --> 0:58:47.720
<v Speaker 1>deprived you get from an acute standpoint, it just gets

0:58:47.720 --> 0:58:49.560
<v Speaker 1>worse and worse. As a matter of fact, um, speaking

0:58:49.560 --> 0:58:51.800
<v Speaker 1>of poker, I think it was Phil Locke who did

0:58:51.840 --> 0:58:59.000
<v Speaker 1>like an eight day poker right right, Jennifer exactly, and

0:58:59.280 --> 0:59:01.160
<v Speaker 1>he was a man by the end of it. He

0:59:01.280 --> 0:59:04.040
<v Speaker 1>was doing the stupidest things you could possibly do. Sleep

0:59:04.040 --> 0:59:08.800
<v Speaker 1>effects every organ system, every disease state, everything you do

0:59:09.160 --> 0:59:12.000
<v Speaker 1>is affected by sleep. To give you some interesting science

0:59:12.000 --> 0:59:15.240
<v Speaker 1>that's been coming out lately, the Nobel Prize in Medicine

0:59:15.440 --> 0:59:19.680
<v Speaker 1>last year was given to circadian researchers. Okay, we know

0:59:19.800 --> 0:59:23.800
<v Speaker 1>that cancer cells multiply faster the more sleep deprived you

0:59:23.840 --> 0:59:28.280
<v Speaker 1>are cancer. Okay, we're not messing around here. We know

0:59:28.320 --> 0:59:30.880
<v Speaker 1>that you can deliver chemotherapy at particular times in the

0:59:30.880 --> 0:59:33.600
<v Speaker 1>twenty four hour cycle. It's more effective and you need

0:59:33.680 --> 0:59:38.360
<v Speaker 1>less chemo Like this is the secret of all. You

0:59:38.560 --> 0:59:41.720
<v Speaker 1>actually in the room and lie down, all right. I'm

0:59:41.720 --> 0:59:45.360
<v Speaker 1>big in the professional video gaming space. I like that

0:59:45.400 --> 0:59:47.440
<v Speaker 1>world a lot and a lot of video game streamers

0:59:47.440 --> 0:59:49.840
<v Speaker 1>try to do these things for charity, so I feel bad.

0:59:49.880 --> 0:59:52.800
<v Speaker 1>But they say, Hey, I'm doing a marathon twenty four

0:59:52.880 --> 0:59:55.120
<v Speaker 1>hours of gaming straight, will you please retweet me? And

0:59:55.120 --> 0:59:58.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, bro, you need to go watch they shoot horses,

0:59:58.400 --> 1:00:02.280
<v Speaker 1>don't They like, can't do that? Like marathon dancing was

1:00:02.320 --> 1:00:04.280
<v Speaker 1>not cool. It was a lot of ticket with a

1:00:04.360 --> 1:00:08.919
<v Speaker 1>death sentence. That's not what That's not like you want

1:00:09.440 --> 1:00:12.680
<v Speaker 1>it's so important. There's a I heard rumor that there's

1:00:12.720 --> 1:00:16.840
<v Speaker 1>a show in England, uh, and it's a sleep deprivation show.

1:00:17.440 --> 1:00:19.960
<v Speaker 1>And they put a briefcase with a half a million

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<v Speaker 1>dollars in the middle of a room and they say,

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<v Speaker 1>everybody stay awake. Last person standing gets the case. They

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<v Speaker 1>used to do that in Japan. It's it's an idea

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<v Speaker 1>from a Japanese game show. They used to do weird deprivations,

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<v Speaker 1>the worst idea in the universe to get somebody to

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<v Speaker 1>say no when it's five grand on the line. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you ever see there's some TV show where I can't

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<v Speaker 1>remember it was there some study where they sleep to

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<v Speaker 1>deprive people for twenty four hours and then they put

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<v Speaker 1>them through driving tests. Yeah, that's so. It's really interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>If you lose approximately three hours of sleep at night,

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<v Speaker 1>it's almost like if you were to blow a point

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<v Speaker 1>oh five wow I and so, like they put them

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<v Speaker 1>through a driving test at twenty four hours, then they

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<v Speaker 1>weren't allowed to sleep again. They put them through one

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<v Speaker 1>at like twenty seven at thirty hours. These people are

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<v Speaker 1>driving their thirty hours no sleep. They're driving on this

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<v Speaker 1>like course whatever. And there's like cats in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of their own not real ones. Obviously they're just hammering

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<v Speaker 1>everything like they are. They don't give a damn anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>They just they have no pognitive function left right, and

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<v Speaker 1>and what happens think about it from a decision making standpoint,

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<v Speaker 1>Like everybody makes a lot of important decisions throughout the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of them are more important than others. For example,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have decisions if with your children right, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to be sleep deprived making decisions about things

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<v Speaker 1>that are yell at your kids quick. As my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>her best line is if when she when if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sleep deprived or somebody in the houses, she's like, Daddy,

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<v Speaker 1>you're acting like a grumpy fish. And it's like that's

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<v Speaker 1>the most perfect description there is, Like I totally understand

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<v Speaker 1>what you're saying, I need to go take an oup?

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<v Speaker 1>What about that? Was my next question? What about naps?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm a huge advocate of naps. On game days,

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<v Speaker 1>we would practice in the morning, go home from that

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<v Speaker 1>nap for two hours in the afternoon because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think I have the PR three or the PR three. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I have that because I'm like bad

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<v Speaker 1>by nine o'clock at night. But if I sleep from

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<v Speaker 1>one till three, I can then perform at seven until ten,

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<v Speaker 1>which is when our games were at that Canadian discipline. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Which really interesting is if you look in hockey in particular, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>there was a sleep expert that came in many many

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<v Speaker 1>years ago. I think it was with the Pittsburgh Penguins,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not positive. Um, And it was during the Stanley

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<v Speaker 1>Cup and they were having all kinds of and so

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<v Speaker 1>he changed the practice time because these guys had jet

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<v Speaker 1>lag from moving all around and by just changing the

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<v Speaker 1>practice time by giving them naps, guess what, all of

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<v Speaker 1>a sudden, they had more energy. They performed better than

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<v Speaker 1>they ended up. Actual Matten did that with the Chicago

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<v Speaker 1>Cubs when the in the World Series. You had a

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<v Speaker 1>sleep expert the whole season right now. Almost every single

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<v Speaker 1>professional team out there, doesn't matter. The sport has got

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<v Speaker 1>somebody like me who's coming on board and looking at

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff and trying to really help. Because it's a

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<v Speaker 1>performance game and these guys are in gals are all

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<v Speaker 1>being tested for performance enhancing you know, drugs. So that's out.

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<v Speaker 1>What else can you do? Sleep? You gotta help these

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<v Speaker 1>pro gamers out, man. You gotta nobody do something together.

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<v Speaker 1>Be fine, Yeah, man, nobody's helping them out. Nobody knows that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's kind of a it's like the wild West. Still.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta gotta help these kids out, man, well and

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<v Speaker 1>their kids. So they've got developing brains, like all the

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<v Speaker 1>reasons they should be getting even more sleep, um, and

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<v Speaker 1>they're unfortunately they're not. We had a sleep doctor quote

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<v Speaker 1>unquote sleep doctor. I don't know if you'd like that

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<v Speaker 1>term or not, probably about seven eight years ago. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>every team has you get you get a presentation all

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<v Speaker 1>the time from these guys. They are checking with you randomly.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll plan as soon as our schedule comes out, the

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<v Speaker 1>schedule goes to the sleep the team sleep doctor, and

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<v Speaker 1>he plans your travel. Athletes take it as seriously as

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<v Speaker 1>you think they need to. Well, that's part of the issue.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that the doctor can plan that like, hey, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna stay overnight in this city and we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>fly the next day, and of the players are going

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<v Speaker 1>to go, oh, I got a green light in New

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<v Speaker 1>York City, Like there goes my sleep. Right. Um, But

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<v Speaker 1>if that doesn't happen as much anymore, if you're responsible athlete,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be in the league for a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>you won't do that. What I am is the rookies

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<v Speaker 1>are the partiers, and the guys are like, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>I want like this has got to last. I've got

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<v Speaker 1>a shelf life, right, and I wanted to last. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>The NFL is called not for long right for a reason,

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<v Speaker 1>And so we want to see our athletes performing better.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, as a fan, you want to see it also.

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<v Speaker 1>And so what I've noticed when I work with athletes

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<v Speaker 1>is the young ones they're out partying. The guys that

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<v Speaker 1>have been around two or three seasons, they're like, oh no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like the social media when these player NBA

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<v Speaker 1>players get caught at nightclubs, it's all sleep. Doctors just

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<v Speaker 1>sleep shaming them. You bet. It's also it's also it's

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<v Speaker 1>also insane how alcohol disrupts your sleep that withdraws and

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<v Speaker 1>it'll here's the craziest thing about that. Alcohol is the

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<v Speaker 1>number one sleep aid in the world. More people drink

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<v Speaker 1>themselves to sleep than anything else. And while alcohol makes

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<v Speaker 1>you feel sleepy, there's a really big difference between going

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<v Speaker 1>to sleep and passing out right. And so what we

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<v Speaker 1>want to do is want to avoid the passing out.

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<v Speaker 1>So my general recommendation, it's okay to having a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of adult beverages with your you know, your meal at night,

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<v Speaker 1>but give yourself one hour per alcoholic beverage and one

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<v Speaker 1>glass of water per alcoholic beverage. That way your body

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<v Speaker 1>moves it through the system. You can have a nice

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<v Speaker 1>glass of wine or a Scotch with dinner and then

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<v Speaker 1>you can still fall asleep and do well. And anything

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<v Speaker 1>over to it's severely one of two beers. Okay, anything

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<v Speaker 1>over that is what we were taught in our presence.

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<v Speaker 1>Anything from three to six, you're altering big time. From

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<v Speaker 1>six to ten, I mean you're just destroying I drink

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<v Speaker 1>Japanese socket and now those cups are small, so can

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<v Speaker 1>I go too bottles deep. You can go one of

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<v Speaker 1>those mini bottles to give yourself some time afterwards and

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<v Speaker 1>some water. Afterwards will be some time, there'll be someone.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you what. From a singing perspective, Uh, anything

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<v Speaker 1>booze booze feels good when you're doing the show, great,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. If I if I've got

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<v Speaker 1>a sore throat, I've got flamed on my throat, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>drink a little bit of whiskey and I'll clean it

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<v Speaker 1>off and like warm it up and helps me get

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<v Speaker 1>through the show for an hour or two. Great. But

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<v Speaker 1>if I hit it hard next day, I'm done, it's over.

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<v Speaker 1>And Uh, the same thing with sleep. I mean, if

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<v Speaker 1>I don't get a good night's sleep and I got

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<v Speaker 1>a show coming up and I've got to go do

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<v Speaker 1>a gig and I'm just having a hard time talking.

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<v Speaker 1>If I catch like even just an hour nap before

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<v Speaker 1>the show, my voice feels great. Changes it tremendously for me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. You go from from like

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<v Speaker 1>just incapable to just you got everything you need. You

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<v Speaker 1>become the rock star again or the actor or the athlete. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what's what's the philosophy? On the power nap is the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty minute nap? Does it do anything? So I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do you one better. I'm gonna teach you what I

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<v Speaker 1>call the nap a latte. All right now, this is

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<v Speaker 1>a technique that I created and it works really well. So,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, naps are great. I'm a big proponent

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<v Speaker 1>of naps. Unless you have insomnia. If you don't sleep

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<v Speaker 1>well at night, napping during the day is just gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make it worse, So don't do that. But let's say

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<v Speaker 1>you only got five hours and you've got a big presentation,

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<v Speaker 1>a gig, a game event, what what have you. Here's

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<v Speaker 1>what you can do. Go out and get a cup

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<v Speaker 1>of drip black coffee, put in three ice cubes just

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<v Speaker 1>to cool it down, slug it, and then literally minutes

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<v Speaker 1>after you finish it, close your eyes into a twenty

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<v Speaker 1>five minute nap. Here's what happens is there's this stuff

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<v Speaker 1>called a dennison in your brain that has to be

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<v Speaker 1>burned through. That's what the twenty minute nap does. Caffeine

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<v Speaker 1>fits perfectly into the same receptor sites in the brain,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's waiting in the wings. So when you take

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<v Speaker 1>that twenty five minute nap. It burns through that at Dennison,

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<v Speaker 1>the caffeine locks in. You're good for four hours. Guarantee,

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<v Speaker 1>it's rocks. There you go. Listeners, look at that nap

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<v Speaker 1>a latte years actually taking a lot of naps after

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<v Speaker 1>a cup of coffee, and people like, are you crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna wake you up. I'm like, nah, man, it

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<v Speaker 1>feels good. I want to take a nap. Well, interesting,

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<v Speaker 1>Where can our listeners? I I want to almost like

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<v Speaker 1>have a sit down with you for like an hour

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<v Speaker 1>myself so we can dive further into um your website,

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<v Speaker 1>where can people find you? The sleep doctor dot com?

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm availablet the sleep doctor dot com. And if

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<v Speaker 1>people want to check out that tech that I was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about, it's at Modius Health m O d I

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<v Speaker 1>U S health dot com. I want to try one

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<v Speaker 1>of those whole time. So Dr Michael Bruce, I appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>you coming in. I Amy I'd love to have him

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<v Speaker 1>back on for like a full episode. It's so helpful. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, buddy, I appreciate you. Bet well. He was awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>Dr Michael was awesome, right, fantastic. Now we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>get into topic number three that we're going to improve

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<v Speaker 1>in time management. Boy, And that's a tough one for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I'll just get a start by saying we're enemies. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>it's uh, we we are failing massively at this because

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<v Speaker 1>we have an itinerary for this podcast and we were

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<v Speaker 1>running way behind us. What happens and you bring an

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<v Speaker 1>actor in to fill in, then I'll do my best.

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<v Speaker 1>So we are going to get into time management. And

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<v Speaker 1>right now on the phone with us, we have Craig

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<v Speaker 1>jar O there. Great. Yeah, so first off you have

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<v Speaker 1>as Gavin said, Greg, well, welcome to the show first

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<v Speaker 1>and then second story, we're late buddy, So yeah, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate having me. So, Creig, you are the author

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<v Speaker 1>of time Management Ninja. I love that. So how does

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<v Speaker 1>one how does one become a time management ninja? Uh? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it really comes through a lot of practice.

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<v Speaker 1>And uh one of the first things I tell you

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<v Speaker 1>about time management is it doesn't have to be complicated.

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<v Speaker 1>It just has to be a part of your lifestyle. Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. So your mission is to help individuals

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<v Speaker 1>and companies sort of reclaim their time. Yes, yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>help companies and I also write a blog at timemagement

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<v Speaker 1>dot com, where I have a lot of articles that

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<v Speaker 1>individuals can use as well. So, where's the biggest waste

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<v Speaker 1>of time that you're seeing in companies or people? Individuals?

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<v Speaker 1>Like something for our listeners? How can they have? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>we all have twenty four hours in a day, but

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<v Speaker 1>how can we have It's something? Honestly, one of my

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<v Speaker 1>top five goals in is to have space in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>to create space in my life. So, um, what are

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<v Speaker 1>some of your tools and tips for me and our

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<v Speaker 1>listeners to be able to create more space and get

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<v Speaker 1>more time back in our lives. Well, I think the

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<v Speaker 1>easiest one to start with is always the one that

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<v Speaker 1>we're always carrying around with us, right in the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't wean, we don't go anywhere without it. Most

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<v Speaker 1>people sleep with it, and you know it to be

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<v Speaker 1>your best friend, but it's also your you worst enemy, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And a lot of people spend way too much time

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<v Speaker 1>on their phone. Yeah, that's I agree with. Yeah, the

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<v Speaker 1>phone thing is brutal, and it also your your C

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<v Speaker 1>five and C six discs in your neck. Don't don't

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<v Speaker 1>love you too much either. Here here, here's my question

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<v Speaker 1>for you. There was a movie that nobody saw with

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<v Speaker 1>Michael Keaton called Multiplicity, and it was about not Oh

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<v Speaker 1>you and me were the only ones. Brother. We really

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<v Speaker 1>like Michael Keaton. So me too. Um. So he has

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<v Speaker 1>this line where he's talking to this doctor who's a

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<v Speaker 1>geneticist who's going to create clones for him so he

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<v Speaker 1>can literally have more time. He's not gonna tell anyone

1:11:29.120 --> 1:11:30.840
<v Speaker 1>about the clones. That's how he's gonna pull it off.

1:11:31.160 --> 1:11:33.479
<v Speaker 1>And uh, when the doctor's first speaking to him, he says, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you do for fun and when you have

1:11:35.760 --> 1:11:37.559
<v Speaker 1>time off? And he says, I like to play golf

1:11:37.600 --> 1:11:39.000
<v Speaker 1>And he says, oh, how often do you get out?

1:11:39.040 --> 1:11:41.680
<v Speaker 1>And Michael Keaton just looks at him. He goes, never, Yeah, never.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm gonna have to cut back. And that's really

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<v Speaker 1>gonna hurt that. That is everybody I know working today,

1:11:49.880 --> 1:11:53.280
<v Speaker 1>because most people I know working today don't have one job.

1:11:53.400 --> 1:11:57.400
<v Speaker 1>They have to three four five different hustles going on

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<v Speaker 1>at once. How did you help a man? How do

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<v Speaker 1>you help that woman who legit has three four five

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<v Speaker 1>six things going on? The phone? Is the phone the

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<v Speaker 1>main thing? Like, take some time away from that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I I really do think the phone can be the

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<v Speaker 1>main thing. I like what you said about the golf

1:12:16.920 --> 1:12:18.639
<v Speaker 1>joke there. I want to address that in a second.

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<v Speaker 1>But the phone things, it's everybody's main thing, right We

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<v Speaker 1>we live and we live on these things now, And

1:12:24.400 --> 1:12:26.720
<v Speaker 1>for me, it always comes back to is it a

1:12:26.800 --> 1:12:29.599
<v Speaker 1>tool or is a toy for you? You know? And

1:12:29.640 --> 1:12:32.200
<v Speaker 1>are you using it to get things done and you know,

1:12:32.320 --> 1:12:35.400
<v Speaker 1>using it as a superpower to multiply your time, or

1:12:35.479 --> 1:12:37.759
<v Speaker 1>are using it to waste time and sitting there watching

1:12:37.800 --> 1:12:40.600
<v Speaker 1>YouTube or social social networks or whatever it may be.

1:12:40.760 --> 1:12:42.320
<v Speaker 1>So it's kind of like the best and worst thing

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<v Speaker 1>we have. So I think for many people it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of reevaluating how you're using it. But the other big

1:12:46.760 --> 1:12:49.680
<v Speaker 1>thing I would jump on right away is the interruptions. Right.

1:12:49.720 --> 1:12:51.479
<v Speaker 1>You know, we we can't go more than ten seconds

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<v Speaker 1>without our phone beeping or you know, giving us a

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<v Speaker 1>notification or whatever it may be. And it's not even

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<v Speaker 1>the phone calls these days, it's just all the pings

1:12:58.200 --> 1:13:00.040
<v Speaker 1>and stuff we get. So I think that's a a

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<v Speaker 1>area to start for most people. Is turning down the

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<v Speaker 1>noise on your phone, bring off a whole bunch of

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<v Speaker 1>a whole bunch of those notifications. I'm gonna blow your

1:13:07.960 --> 1:13:12.040
<v Speaker 1>mind right now. Okay, if um, just all our listeners.

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<v Speaker 1>If you were on your phone two hours a day,

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<v Speaker 1>So let's say you're let's say you're on Instagram or

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<v Speaker 1>YouTube or something. You're on your phone two hours a day,

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<v Speaker 1>that's one twelve of the day. Twenty four hours divided

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<v Speaker 1>by two, that's one twelve, which means that's one month

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<v Speaker 1>out of every year that you are on your phone. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that is one whole month of the year spent on

1:13:36.880 --> 1:13:40.479
<v Speaker 1>your phone on social media, just scrolling wasting away. That's

1:13:40.520 --> 1:13:43.160
<v Speaker 1>not accounting anything you're doing with your career. That's not

1:13:43.240 --> 1:13:45.680
<v Speaker 1>accounting sleeping, what you're doing with your friends, how you're

1:13:45.680 --> 1:13:49.200
<v Speaker 1>spending your life. That's one month out of twelve wasted.

1:13:49.360 --> 1:13:52.160
<v Speaker 1>The phone is a tricky thing, right, And and you

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<v Speaker 1>said something that I think is very smart. Is it

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<v Speaker 1>a toy or is it a tool? My godfather a

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<v Speaker 1>long time ago, when he was giving me the staff

1:14:01.160 --> 1:14:03.639
<v Speaker 1>drug speech and and don't drink and all that stuff,

1:14:03.640 --> 1:14:07.439
<v Speaker 1>he said, if it's not helping you push forward, if

1:14:07.439 --> 1:14:10.880
<v Speaker 1>it's not helping you achieve your goals, remove it from

1:14:10.920 --> 1:14:13.559
<v Speaker 1>your life. You'll have time for that later when you

1:14:13.640 --> 1:14:17.679
<v Speaker 1>run out of ideas. Um, the phone thing is tricky

1:14:17.720 --> 1:14:20.880
<v Speaker 1>because so many people they won't be being honest with themselves,

1:14:21.080 --> 1:14:24.880
<v Speaker 1>but they'll say I need my phone for work. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's this cop out excuse that I hear so many people.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there. Do you have a philosophy on breaking that habit?

1:14:32.000 --> 1:14:34.360
<v Speaker 1>Because more than anything, for people to get on board

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<v Speaker 1>with the philosophy, it's that first habit that has to

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<v Speaker 1>sort of be destroyed, either brick by brick or all

1:14:40.920 --> 1:14:44.760
<v Speaker 1>at once. Which way do you like more? Yeah? Yeah, No,

1:14:44.840 --> 1:14:47.840
<v Speaker 1>I like where you're going with that. And for most people,

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<v Speaker 1>especially with that that worked component, it's become a leash, right,

1:14:52.400 --> 1:14:55.200
<v Speaker 1>It's a leash that's always attached to us. And again

1:14:55.240 --> 1:14:57.080
<v Speaker 1>we always take these things with us every where we go,

1:14:57.120 --> 1:15:00.280
<v Speaker 1>even to bed, into the bathroom and everything. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would I think that's the first thing you

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<v Speaker 1>need to break down, is how do you break that

1:15:03.840 --> 1:15:07.200
<v Speaker 1>leash that your phone is Because we're checking our email,

1:15:07.280 --> 1:15:09.720
<v Speaker 1>we're checking our slack whatever may be, twenty four hours

1:15:09.720 --> 1:15:12.120
<v Speaker 1>a day, and that's not productive. Um, when it comes

1:15:12.160 --> 1:15:15.080
<v Speaker 1>to email in particular, I really challenge people, do you

1:15:15.120 --> 1:15:17.760
<v Speaker 1>really need your work email on your phone? And if

1:15:17.800 --> 1:15:21.439
<v Speaker 1>you do. Maybe you only check it morning, midday, and night,

1:15:21.600 --> 1:15:23.479
<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe three times a day or something like that.

1:15:23.720 --> 1:15:26.960
<v Speaker 1>But but incessantly checking your work messages and sessiantly trying

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<v Speaker 1>to plug in, You're never gonna get to your work.

1:15:28.680 --> 1:15:31.680
<v Speaker 1>You're never gonna get things done. Um you know. So

1:15:31.840 --> 1:15:33.800
<v Speaker 1>it's it's that leash that we need to break, and

1:15:33.840 --> 1:15:37.360
<v Speaker 1>that crap makes people anxious too. Constantly chat what did

1:15:37.400 --> 1:15:39.639
<v Speaker 1>that email? Comes? How to email? Like I see people

1:15:39.680 --> 1:15:43.000
<v Speaker 1>get two shakes because of that. The social media, I

1:15:43.000 --> 1:15:45.719
<v Speaker 1>think is the worst part of it because it's being

1:15:45.840 --> 1:15:50.080
<v Speaker 1>used as entertainment and that's that productive time that when

1:15:50.080 --> 1:15:51.519
<v Speaker 1>everyone at the end of that, I'm so ty wish

1:15:51.520 --> 1:15:53.479
<v Speaker 1>I had more time. It's like, be you spend three

1:15:53.479 --> 1:15:56.479
<v Speaker 1>and a half hours on Facebook today, you have time.

1:15:57.000 --> 1:16:01.240
<v Speaker 1>It's hard, though, to break that mindset. That whole there's

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's hashtags of fear of missing out right phone.

1:16:04.760 --> 1:16:07.040
<v Speaker 1>That's why people get alerts on their phone, which I'm

1:16:07.080 --> 1:16:09.200
<v Speaker 1>too old to get. I'm forty three years old. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't get a notification from a single app I have

1:16:11.880 --> 1:16:15.519
<v Speaker 1>outside of texts, I don't even get it. I don't

1:16:15.520 --> 1:16:17.559
<v Speaker 1>even hear my emails come up. I just check them

1:16:17.600 --> 1:16:18.960
<v Speaker 1>at the end of the day. When my wife and

1:16:18.960 --> 1:16:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I first started dating, there were things called kicks that

1:16:22.040 --> 1:16:24.960
<v Speaker 1>were out. It was like instant messaging. Every actor had one,

1:16:25.200 --> 1:16:27.960
<v Speaker 1>but me, Like, I hated being available. I have a

1:16:28.439 --> 1:16:30.400
<v Speaker 1>I have a have an app on my phone where

1:16:30.439 --> 1:16:32.479
<v Speaker 1>if you text me and I'm driving, it auto replies,

1:16:32.520 --> 1:16:34.640
<v Speaker 1>i'm driving, I can't talk to you right now. Like,

1:16:35.160 --> 1:16:37.240
<v Speaker 1>but that's not saving time, that's just trying to be safe.

1:16:37.240 --> 1:16:41.400
<v Speaker 1>But the phone thing, it's how do you convince someone

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<v Speaker 1>who says their life is their phone, I need this

1:16:44.920 --> 1:16:47.040
<v Speaker 1>for How do you convince them? How do you show

1:16:47.080 --> 1:16:50.920
<v Speaker 1>them they don't? Um, I think there's a couple of

1:16:50.960 --> 1:16:53.080
<v Speaker 1>things you can do to approach that. I was about

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<v Speaker 1>to use the word pomo, So I'm glad you went

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<v Speaker 1>there first. But this this fear of missing out. Everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>so afraid of missing something instead of actually living their

1:17:01.680 --> 1:17:04.040
<v Speaker 1>life or doing their own thing. And and if you

1:17:04.120 --> 1:17:06.360
<v Speaker 1>let that rule your life, you're you're not living your life,

1:17:06.360 --> 1:17:10.800
<v Speaker 1>You're living someone else's urgencies and notifications popping up. UM,

1:17:10.840 --> 1:17:13.160
<v Speaker 1>I think one thing you can do. I'm amazed that

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<v Speaker 1>you got you. Guys sound very disciplined around the notifications

1:17:15.640 --> 1:17:17.800
<v Speaker 1>and your phones and your technology. But I think for

1:17:17.840 --> 1:17:19.840
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people, they can really start by, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>doing a self examination of what's on your phone. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>one of the things that challenge people with is what's

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<v Speaker 1>on your home page or your phone. You know, we

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<v Speaker 1>don't even have one page now, we got you know,

1:17:27.960 --> 1:17:30.439
<v Speaker 1>nine pages of apps on our phones. But you know,

1:17:30.479 --> 1:17:32.280
<v Speaker 1>when I when I see somebody open up their phone

1:17:32.320 --> 1:17:34.000
<v Speaker 1>and the first thing thing that they've got there is

1:17:34.080 --> 1:17:38.720
<v Speaker 1>YouTube and ESPN and whatever else may be, you know, Instagram.

1:17:38.760 --> 1:17:40.400
<v Speaker 1>You know, that's what you're gonna do when you when

1:17:40.439 --> 1:17:42.000
<v Speaker 1>you're playing with your phone, you're gonna be playing with

1:17:42.000 --> 1:17:44.040
<v Speaker 1>it instead of using it for productivity. You know, do

1:17:44.080 --> 1:17:46.080
<v Speaker 1>you have your to dos to your calendar or stuff

1:17:46.160 --> 1:17:48.160
<v Speaker 1>right there instead of those games? You know, that's like

1:17:48.200 --> 1:17:51.320
<v Speaker 1>asking an alcoholic to look in the mirror that for real,

1:17:51.520 --> 1:17:54.040
<v Speaker 1>what's what's on the first page of your phone. That's

1:17:54.080 --> 1:17:56.840
<v Speaker 1>like looking into your own soul and genuinely kind of

1:17:56.880 --> 1:18:00.240
<v Speaker 1>analyzing what you see and is that something you respect

1:18:00.320 --> 1:18:02.639
<v Speaker 1>or someone you don't? Do you know, how I approach

1:18:02.680 --> 1:18:05.720
<v Speaker 1>a phone? This is I hope this this helped me

1:18:05.920 --> 1:18:09.240
<v Speaker 1>major and I hope this helps other people, Um Craig,

1:18:09.280 --> 1:18:15.040
<v Speaker 1>I approached my phone as I pay money each month

1:18:15.640 --> 1:18:20.160
<v Speaker 1>to have this device that gives me access to other people.

1:18:20.800 --> 1:18:23.920
<v Speaker 1>I do not pay money each month to give other

1:18:24.000 --> 1:18:28.080
<v Speaker 1>people access to me. So I think that's a big thing.

1:18:28.120 --> 1:18:29.920
<v Speaker 1>People think they have a phone, they have to be

1:18:29.960 --> 1:18:34.280
<v Speaker 1>accessible to everybody, and I have blackout times in the

1:18:34.360 --> 1:18:36.519
<v Speaker 1>course of my day. Amy knows this. When I'm training,

1:18:36.520 --> 1:18:42.360
<v Speaker 1>when I'm working out, my phone is nowhere nearly from

1:18:42.360 --> 1:18:44.840
<v Speaker 1>from nine o'clock till eight am, I have do not

1:18:45.000 --> 1:18:47.639
<v Speaker 1>disturb on. So if any text or phone call comes through,

1:18:47.920 --> 1:18:50.439
<v Speaker 1>with the exception of my wife, I do not. It

1:18:50.479 --> 1:18:52.760
<v Speaker 1>does not alert me. My phone is silent from nine

1:18:52.760 --> 1:19:02.479
<v Speaker 1>pm toe that quiet. All four of you comment on

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<v Speaker 1>what if somebody has a relationship that's long distance, so

1:19:06.240 --> 1:19:08.840
<v Speaker 1>really they rely on the phone and face time and

1:19:08.920 --> 1:19:11.680
<v Speaker 1>text id that to be able to communicate with their

1:19:11.720 --> 1:19:14.559
<v Speaker 1>significant other, Like what do all three of you think

1:19:14.840 --> 1:19:18.240
<v Speaker 1>and our experts. That's fine. I had to do that.

1:19:18.280 --> 1:19:20.880
<v Speaker 1>My wife and I FaceTime all the time because we

1:19:20.880 --> 1:19:24.759
<v Speaker 1>were living on oftimes. An exception to the rule. Yeah,

1:19:24.920 --> 1:19:27.120
<v Speaker 1>that's like family time though, It's just that that's the

1:19:27.160 --> 1:19:30.360
<v Speaker 1>construct we live in today. The Jetsons could do it,

1:19:30.720 --> 1:19:32.559
<v Speaker 1>so we get to do it, you know what I mean?

1:19:32.600 --> 1:19:35.040
<v Speaker 1>Like that, and that isn't time waste of time with

1:19:35.080 --> 1:19:38.439
<v Speaker 1>the family. I think it's more the YouTube stuff. It's

1:19:38.479 --> 1:19:42.440
<v Speaker 1>more the waiting for alerts on what celebrity or politician

1:19:42.560 --> 1:19:45.760
<v Speaker 1>or or or athlete did did what? And oh okay,

1:19:45.840 --> 1:19:48.000
<v Speaker 1>let me see what everybody's saying. It's like you just

1:19:48.000 --> 1:19:51.200
<v Speaker 1>spend forty minutes doing nothing. That's why your boss hates you.

1:19:51.600 --> 1:19:54.040
<v Speaker 1>That's why you don't get in respect. And one that's

1:19:54.040 --> 1:19:56.880
<v Speaker 1>why you don't get the promotion because you're concerned with

1:19:56.960 --> 1:19:59.720
<v Speaker 1>that stuff. I know that's hardcore these days, but that's

1:19:59.760 --> 1:20:04.120
<v Speaker 1>just that's real stuff. This guy really really what you're saying, Freddy,

1:20:04.240 --> 1:20:06.799
<v Speaker 1>is that a lot of people spend their time watching

1:20:06.880 --> 1:20:09.559
<v Speaker 1>other people's lives. At the base of it, that's what

1:20:09.880 --> 1:20:12.479
<v Speaker 1>better than you are spending your time. Gavin and I

1:20:12.880 --> 1:20:15.920
<v Speaker 1>fighting with you a couple of weeks ago, we Gavin,

1:20:15.920 --> 1:20:18.880
<v Speaker 1>I were so heated because we're like f this social

1:20:18.880 --> 1:20:21.160
<v Speaker 1>media where people are just showing their best lives and

1:20:21.200 --> 1:20:24.559
<v Speaker 1>then remember, everybody came at us. I'll show my worst life.

1:20:24.840 --> 1:20:28.559
<v Speaker 1>Did they come at us? Yeah? Yeah, it's that's why

1:20:28.720 --> 1:20:34.040
<v Speaker 1>because because we are making just saying that their pretty lives.

1:20:34.800 --> 1:20:40.720
<v Speaker 1>What did people come at us online and our co

1:20:40.880 --> 1:20:47.000
<v Speaker 1>host Gig here's a question, Greg, I have a question

1:20:47.000 --> 1:20:49.760
<v Speaker 1>for you. What about another topic? Um? What about work

1:20:49.840 --> 1:20:55.599
<v Speaker 1>life balance? How abo do you advise people there? Um?

1:20:56.439 --> 1:20:58.320
<v Speaker 1>I think there's two things you can mention there. One.

1:20:58.960 --> 1:21:00.920
<v Speaker 1>You know, I'll close the book on the technology for now.

1:21:00.920 --> 1:21:03.519
<v Speaker 1>We kind of beat the phone thing. But but but again,

1:21:03.640 --> 1:21:05.760
<v Speaker 1>it's about turning that off. It's about turning that off

1:21:05.800 --> 1:21:07.439
<v Speaker 1>when you when you go to bed. You know, we

1:21:07.520 --> 1:21:09.400
<v Speaker 1>talked about the pomo. You know a lot of people

1:21:09.400 --> 1:21:11.000
<v Speaker 1>that that's what they do right before they go to bed.

1:21:11.040 --> 1:21:13.040
<v Speaker 1>They don't even talk to their spouse. They're looking on

1:21:13.080 --> 1:21:16.160
<v Speaker 1>their phone or they're checking that work email. Um, he

1:21:16.439 --> 1:21:21.040
<v Speaker 1>will separate. That separates relationships. There's nothing more cold in

1:21:21.040 --> 1:21:22.960
<v Speaker 1>a relationship. It's so weird when you see two people

1:21:23.000 --> 1:21:25.360
<v Speaker 1>at a table out of dinner. Oh man, they're both

1:21:25.400 --> 1:21:28.320
<v Speaker 1>on their phones. It's so weird to me. And you

1:21:28.360 --> 1:21:30.479
<v Speaker 1>see it used to be like a unicorn, but now

1:21:30.640 --> 1:21:38.800
<v Speaker 1>they're texting. Right, that's very They don't even chat on

1:21:38.920 --> 1:21:45.679
<v Speaker 1>Game of Thrones. Okay, sorry, Craig, keep going, No, no,

1:21:45.760 --> 1:21:47.479
<v Speaker 1>that's good. That's good. And I actually talked about that

1:21:47.520 --> 1:21:49.360
<v Speaker 1>on my website. Was like, called it having an affair

1:21:49.400 --> 1:21:53.120
<v Speaker 1>with your smartphone in the dating sites, but you're having

1:21:53.160 --> 1:21:57.240
<v Speaker 1>an affair with your smartphone instead of with your spouse. Yeah. Um,

1:21:57.280 --> 1:21:59.800
<v Speaker 1>but go go back to work life balance. Um Again.

1:21:59.800 --> 1:22:01.920
<v Speaker 1>I think it's about setting those boundaries. And we've talked

1:22:01.920 --> 1:22:04.720
<v Speaker 1>about the FOMO, we talked about the interruptions, but I

1:22:04.720 --> 1:22:06.799
<v Speaker 1>think it's about spending some time. You know, you mentioned

1:22:06.800 --> 1:22:08.920
<v Speaker 1>how two hours a day adds up to a month

1:22:08.960 --> 1:22:11.400
<v Speaker 1>of your year. How much are you spending on your

1:22:11.439 --> 1:22:14.599
<v Speaker 1>life and and you know you can't force quality time.

1:22:14.640 --> 1:22:17.639
<v Speaker 1>It's about spending time on the family, but then also

1:22:17.640 --> 1:22:20.320
<v Speaker 1>spending time on yourself. And one of the other things

1:22:20.320 --> 1:22:22.000
<v Speaker 1>that I like to talk to people about is having

1:22:22.000 --> 1:22:24.120
<v Speaker 1>a hobby. And a lot of people like you made

1:22:24.120 --> 1:22:26.800
<v Speaker 1>that golf joke earlier for multiplicity, but but so many

1:22:26.800 --> 1:22:28.560
<v Speaker 1>people don't make time for a hobby. They're like, I

1:22:28.600 --> 1:22:31.040
<v Speaker 1>don't have time for that. But the truth is when

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<v Speaker 1>you invest in yourself and you invest in that personal time,

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<v Speaker 1>you actually multiply you know, your time because that passion,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, spreads to the rest of your life and

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<v Speaker 1>you're that much more enthusiastic and energetic. And so getting

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<v Speaker 1>in that golf time, if it's for you or it's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, whatever your hobby is, can actually give you

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<v Speaker 1>more time back in your life. And I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>a something that people don't see, that they need to

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<v Speaker 1>spend that time on themselves, whether it's at the gym

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<v Speaker 1>or doing a hobby or whatever it may be. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's dead on. And I look, I'm a big

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<v Speaker 1>believer in that. I found when I was a kid,

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<v Speaker 1>I figured out kind of what I loved and I

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<v Speaker 1>never let go of that. And as I grew up,

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<v Speaker 1>I used to play Dungeons and Dragons as a little kid, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And as I got older, that group went away because

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<v Speaker 1>it was all these adults say, no, I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>time and adult life and all this. And I finally

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<v Speaker 1>just started making time. And this was a good reason.

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<v Speaker 1>This was a good part of social media. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to just trash it. I found other people in

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<v Speaker 1>the local l A area that also played, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>looking for games and more. And if you make a hobby,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna go on a D and D tenement

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<v Speaker 1>a tangent. If you if you have a hobby, it

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<v Speaker 1>means you have passion for it. And if you have

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<v Speaker 1>passion for something, you will create the time because it's

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<v Speaker 1>more important to you then watching that basketball game in

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<v Speaker 1>March madness. It's more important to you than this all

1:23:42.520 --> 1:23:44.320
<v Speaker 1>this other stuff. It was more important to me than

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<v Speaker 1>going on dates with pretty ladies. That's how much I

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<v Speaker 1>loved it. I made it important, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you have passion for it, you can make

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<v Speaker 1>time for it. It's when it's when you're kind of

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<v Speaker 1>half ascid it. That's when you're like, oh no, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have enough time. Greig. I have a question for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I heard this analogy about work life balance. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to bounce it off and just get your thoughts on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody said that to me that work life balance was

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<v Speaker 1>like a teeter totter. So a teeter totter, you're never

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<v Speaker 1>just like if you were to sit still, perfectly balanced

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<v Speaker 1>with the person on the other side, you'd go crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>All of a sudden, You'll be like, okay, I gotta

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<v Speaker 1>move one way. So it's either you swing. You swing

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<v Speaker 1>into work a little harder and then it swings down

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<v Speaker 1>and you swing more into family time, and then once

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<v Speaker 1>you've had a lot of that, you swing back into

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<v Speaker 1>some work and it's this little it's a dance. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like a teeter totter up and down, back and forth

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<v Speaker 1>that it's it's not really a balance. It's never sitting

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<v Speaker 1>there where the teeter totter isn't moving, um, because that's

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<v Speaker 1>just boring for everybody. There's nothing there. But it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>a a give and a pull, or like a push

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<v Speaker 1>and a poll, and it's coming to coming back from

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<v Speaker 1>just moving in and out of work and out of

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<v Speaker 1>family time. Does that make sense to you? Te it was?

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. I like that, And it sounds a

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<v Speaker 1>little a little philosophical there, and if if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to go on the philosophy side, I think it absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>can be true in terms of you're always going back

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<v Speaker 1>and forth. I mean, there's never gonna be a perfect

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<v Speaker 1>stationary point to each stationary point. You're probably dead right, um.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think it wasn't trying to be more of it,

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<v Speaker 1>I say, just spreading that positivity rap. You know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's always going to go be going back and forth, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, we always have busy times at work,

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<v Speaker 1>We always you know sometimes have you know, either exciting

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<v Speaker 1>things or drama things at home. So you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>do think it's a it's that Teter Tyer analogy is

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<v Speaker 1>a good example or good philosophy. I'll say this though,

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<v Speaker 1>if you remember being on that playground to be on

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<v Speaker 1>that tier, Tyder, if you ever took it too far

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<v Speaker 1>and that board hit the ground on one side, it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't a good feeling for anybody, right. Oh yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>used to jump off on purpose just to make guys

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<v Speaker 1>wipe out. Man, take that time from him and make

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<v Speaker 1>it my own. But my point, my point is, I

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<v Speaker 1>think if that happens in our lives, if one side

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<v Speaker 1>hits the ground, you know, everything kind of comes out

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<v Speaker 1>of balance, you know, and if the if the personal

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<v Speaker 1>side or the work side goes too far, then it's

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<v Speaker 1>a jolt to the system for everybody. Yeah. Um, awesome, man. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>Where can people find you? Because I love I love

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<v Speaker 1>what you're talking about here, Craig. Where can people find you?

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<v Speaker 1>How to manage your time with Craig Jarrow? Um? Is

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<v Speaker 1>that where you hang out the most? Uh? No? Actually

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<v Speaker 1>you can find me two places, one on the web

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<v Speaker 1>at time management ninja dot com and then actually, I

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<v Speaker 1>just had a book come out two months ago. You

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<v Speaker 1>can find that on Amazon. It's twenty one tips for

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<v Speaker 1>more time and less stress in your life Time Managing Ninja.

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<v Speaker 1>So check that out. You know what I might do

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<v Speaker 1>a book? I might start like a book club where

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<v Speaker 1>I do a book a month. Good idea where I

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<v Speaker 1>do a book a month. I want to add that

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<v Speaker 1>we finally get invited over to your house. He gave

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<v Speaker 1>has been to my house. I just had gave over

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<v Speaker 1>for Thanksgiving? Did you about that? Yeah? That's awesome. Can

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<v Speaker 1>I jump in um? First of all, thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>inviting me for thanks you because you made my Thanksgiving bro.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you love you appreciate very much. But more important,

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<v Speaker 1>only can I make sure the books are small books? Yeah? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I like small books. I like small books because you

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<v Speaker 1>know my eyes get tired. That's something that will put

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<v Speaker 1>me to sleep. Yeah again, but that's a good stupid

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<v Speaker 1>a long book. Yeah, it's true. Even when I'm interested,

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<v Speaker 1>then you know you're gonna quit just based on the

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<v Speaker 1>thickness of it. You gotta put me to that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>That's true. I appreciate you, Craig, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for coming on