WEBVTT - EP. 431: The Problem With Ordering Fajitas, Good Nut, & Fertility Rituals 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.760 Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say 0:00:02.800 --> 0:00:06.000 decision decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty. 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.400 You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast. 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:13.600 Oh wait, you want to say together decisions decisions. 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:14.560 How are sow? 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:19.079 Welcome to decisions Decisions and scene. 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:22.360 I'm your girl, mandyb I'm weezy, and all I want 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:23.560 to know is did you meet Denzel? 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:25.680 I didn't get to meet Denzel, and I was so sad. 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:27.120 But let me. 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:30.480 Tell you how to hold everything in me to not 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:32.599 literally lean forward and go like this, because that's how 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:37.199 close I was to the stage. I had an inner 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:41.640 moment of being like, Okay, bitch, this is what you 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.320 work hard for. Because I was so excited to be 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:48.440 able to go see Othello when it was on Broadway 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:52.199 and literally my seat was bb I will say I 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:55.120 was mad though, because uh, I got so scared last 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:57.320 year with going to the hospital and having a kidney 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:01.360 infection that I had to the bathroom daring Act one 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:03.880 and bitch because I was second row and they entered 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:05.880 through the orchestra, No, bitch, I couldn't go back to 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:08.800 my seat. So Act one thirty five minutes. I watched 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:12.080 it on a thirty two inch TV downstairs by the bathroom, 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:16.360 but I got Act two is the best act anyways, but. 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:18.080 It was you know what the line came they let 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:18.880 you go. Yeah. 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:23.520 No, the actors were entering through the orchestra, so so 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:26.440 like because they were doing that, they couldn't have people. 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:28.640 If you were orchestra and bitch you got up, you 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:30.640 couldn't where it's the five hundred. 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:33.119 Oh by the way, I want to give a little 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:35.640 tip to anyone if this happens again. 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.520 It's no longer on Broadway. Ended on June eighth, But 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:40.400 if you guys. 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:43.839 Want to see a Broadway show and the ticket seemed 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:46.480 to be a lot, if you have the ability for 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.320 someone to just go to the box office and by 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:48.720 the ticket. 0:01:49.280 --> 0:01:52.200 I paid four ninety nine for my seat. I literally 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:53.080 at it was with me. 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:55.680 Right after I bought it, I went on step hub 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:58.640 to see that same row eight eighty six. So I 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.400 literally saved almost four hundred dollars by getting my ticket 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:02.200 at the box office. 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:04.040 Ticket master got the feed. 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:07.520 Y'all gotta just say okay, now, oh, I did want 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:08.680 to say, uh huh. 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:10.760 If y'all listened to. 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:13.920 The cinema where we talked about sinners. 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:19.120 I felt the same, a bitch need the subtitles or 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:19.440 was a. 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:24.600 Little upset that they didn't speak in modern day English. 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:26.079 How would they do the subtitles in a flame? 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.919 Well, bitch, I don't know what there's there's a they 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:33.000 got listening assistance and shit. I was like, can if 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:35.680 I could have had something to where it was broken 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.480 down in like modern day talk? So here was my 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:42.520 thing about the show. Denzel phenomenal. He was way better 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.960 on this than he was the Gladiator. Like on Gladiator, 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:47.959 I felt like, Nigga, you and Rome while you sound 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:49.760 like you from Brownsville, Like I felt like he didn't 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:53.600 even try to sound like I felt like we didn't 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:55.440 even try to sound Roman, bitch. 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.400 But he sounded very Shakespeare. 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:01.440 However, the show took place in modern time, which was confusing. 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:06.679 So set design, they wore US marines like costumes and 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:11.360 stuff like that, but then the props were very dated. 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:13.520 And then in one of the things, he was like, 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:15.840 I'm gonna put you on a plane. So I'm like, bitch, 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:18.440 are they in Venice and Cyprus and Shakespearean times or not? 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:20.760 Like there was a confusion a little bit for me there, 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:24.800 but Jake Jillhome, I ain't. 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:25.280 Gonna hold you. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:29.280 It looked it looked heavy as I don't know, maybe 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:31.680 it ain't. I know he say he don't watch his legs, 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:34.519 but he did. Yeah, he came out and say he 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:36.120 didn't watch his legs, and I was like, I watched him. 0:03:36.120 --> 0:03:41.680 For him, it looked heavy. I will say that I'm 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:46.880 a hood boger and I'm embarrassed to say, so Othello. 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:48.480 For those of you who don't know. 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:52.960 The reason also outside of Denzel and Jake as to 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:55.960 why I wanted to see this play on stage is 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:59.680 not because I'm as Shakespeare buff, but one of my 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:03.280 fever films. And y'all are just gonna laugh at this 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:08.560 at this point at my film selection is OH based 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.560 on OH was based on Othello? 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:11.760 Look it up, y'all. 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:15.160 It's with Makai Fifer and Julia Styles and so because 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:18.520 and instead of them being like General's bitch. 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:20.520 Makai Fifer is the star basketball. 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:23.840 But so it was giving like Hamilton, how it's old 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:25.680 in time but new school, like it felt like it 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.919 shouldn't have Like I'm like like if these no, I 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:29.279 loved it. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:31.120 I didn't say I didn't like it. I just think 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:33.840 that the set design was odd. And I'm like, if 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.640 we and modern times make these niggas speak more English, 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:41.359 like not Shakespeare in English, but like English English. So literally, 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:43.640 as I'm watching it, did you go by yourself? I 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:45.599 went by myself? Absolutely? And it was dope because the 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:47.840 lady next to me was probably like seven or eighty. 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:50.240 She was like, I go to place all the time 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:53.360 by myself. Which movie? Yeah, I loved it. 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:58.480 So for those of y'all who don't know othello, I 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:03.720 want to give it to y'all in like a urban take, okay. 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:06.680 Because I felt so ghetto daring. 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:09.599 Act two is when all the drama takes place, and 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:12.960 so I'm watching it like, oh no, she didn't like 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:14.880 I'm literally like scary movies. 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:15.640 I'm gagged. 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:22.599 I'm gagged. And so basically you got a general, a 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:28.320 black general, which was Denzel. So Denzel marries this girl, Desdemona, 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:32.640 who's like the daughter of someone really high up right 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:37.760 in the game, let's say that really high up. So 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:42.120 this black general marries marries her without telling her father 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:44.920 or anything. So the father find out and it's like, now, 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:46.760 why you married this nigga without telling me who the 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:50.960 fuck is this. So anyways, we meet them in a 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:54.680 setting where the father finds out and they are in 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:58.120 the middle of something professional, war wise, work wise, whatever. 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:04.200 But basically we I met with Iago. Iago is looking to. 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:09.400 Become second in line after after Denzel's character Othello like 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:12.920 comes down. So Iago's like his right hand man, Iago 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:16.560 like doing everything loyal, trying to kind of brown nose 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:18.720 his way to take Othello's position. 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:21.159 Well a little did this, Nigga. 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:21.240 No. 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:25.120 Othello was like, yeah, no, I'm giving a job to Cassius. 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.840 So Cassius is next in line. 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:32.000 Iago med as fuck cause he's like, bitch, I should 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:36.560 be next. So Iago, who's who you think is loyal? 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:40.159 Who Othello believes to be his friend is? So is 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:43.080 so angry and upset at Othello for not choosing him 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.159 to be next in line. 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:46.239 That bitch. 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:49.440 He started putting little things in his ear, like yo, 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:53.680 bitch sleeping with Cassius. And so we're in this like 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:59.279 play where Othello's like, no, not my woman, Cassius. Cassius 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:01.680 didn't do that to me, mind you. Cassius over there 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:03.520 fucking on a little woman of the night. He got 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:08.760 a hold, Jezebel, a little hope or whatever. Basically, Iago 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:12.960 start setting little things, put some shit in Cassius's room. 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:14.280 Othello finds out. 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.520 He's like, there's no way that would end up in 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:20.160 his room without my woman leaving it there. By the way, 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:21.880 Mandy is saving you guys five hundre dollar because I 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:22.920 didn't know we gonna get the whole poll. 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:27.840 No, it's Shakespeare. No, this ain't no spoiler. It's it's Shakespeare. 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:32.160 So like it's it's everywhere, Like I'm just telling y'all 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:35.640 if you can't understand Shakespeare in English, like me, just 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:41.600 the tea. So basically, then Denzelle's heartbroken, like Cassius, you 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:42.160 betrayed me. 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:45.640 Iaga, Like what you want to do? 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:46.920 You want me to go kill that nigga? 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.480 So then Iago set up to go kill Cassius because 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:52.880 now he feels like this is a way for him 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:54.880 to get the job that Cassius is about to get. 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.320 So bro, he gonna send one of his niggas to 0:07:57.360 --> 0:08:04.000 go kill Cassius. He believes Cassie got murked bitch and 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:07.520 did it. But Othello don't know that yet. All O'thello 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:10.440 know is I can't have no Hoe as a. 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:17.160 Wife, Othello is Denzel, so bitch. Next scene, Othello pull 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:21.200 up to the room his bitch sleep. He kissed her 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.440 because he's like, bitch, you got to go. So she 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.400 wakes up and it is literally telling him, bro, I 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:28.360 ain't fucking Cassius. 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:30.600 You sitting here acting like I cheated on you. 0:08:30.760 --> 0:08:32.480 I didn't cheat on you. I don't know why you 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:36.120 think I cheated on you. He said, bitch, you lying. 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:40.120 You got to go, so bitch, he literally kills that bitch. 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:45.000 Literally. You see her like so Othello like, yeah, I. 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:47.360 Ain't dating no Ho, you got to go kill her 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.720 as literally he kills her. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:51.520 Bitch. 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:55.079 Come walk in his homeboy like sorry, I know we 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:57.160 put the hit on Cassius, but that nigga ain't die. 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:00.640 And he's like, well, I just killed my fucking wife. 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:03.400 So a lot of fuck Cassius. Bit y'all did my job. 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:06.040 How you ain't doing your job? Uh huh. So the 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.719 friend of the wife comes in and it's like. 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:13.120 No, not my best friend. How you kill my best friend? 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:15.920 Fuck nigga, Oh I'm coming for you. Start yelling at 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:18.360 motherfucking Othello and Othello, like your friend was a house. 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:18.959 She had to go. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:21.920 Next thing, you know, he brings up the thing that 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:24.920 got left in the room that Iago placed in Cassia's room, 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:28.439 and the friend was like, nah, I took it. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:28.800 Mind you. 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:32.720 The friend is Iago's bitch, So she's like, no, I 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:34.360 took I took that thing. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:37.720 She really didn't cheat on you. You just killed my friend. 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:40.720 And she starts saying all the ways in which she like, 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:44.920 actually did this and is now realizing Iago did it, bitch. 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:47.680 Iago walk over to her, slice her neck. 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:49.840 Bitch, you talking too much. You got to go. 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:53.200 So then the arms come in and it's like Iago, 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:56.320 this fuck nigga, we know you set up to kill Cassius. 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:58.800 You just killed this bitch. They have him in chambers, 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:01.440 bitch now like he's trying to get out. It looks 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:03.520 like the Chicken man. He's trying to get out. 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:08.520 So everybody's in the scene now and Denzel realizes he 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:09.559 about to go to jail. 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:11.920 He about to lose his little his little things. 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:16.160 Cassius is about to take over, and he's like, you 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:19.760 know what, I just killed this bitch. Y'all gonna talk 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.520 about me. I'm about to be disbarred now from and 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:24.240 that's not even disbarred. What is it when you get 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:24.800 taken out. 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:28.520 Of the army? So he kills himself, bitch, yes, discharged. 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.560 So he's literally like every which way that I have 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:35.840 been an honorable man will now be ruined. I can't 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:39.920 live on this earth as an unhonorable man, dishonorable man, whatever. 0:10:40.320 --> 0:10:44.720 And he's like, who kill himself? So, bitch, you literally 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:45.079 watch it. 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:50.280 It's like damn, everybody did and in scene and I'm 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:54.520 just like, damn, I know I remember watching oh, and 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.080 it's why I enjoyed it so much. 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:58.360 And I was like the same way. We have the 0:10:58.360 --> 0:10:59.479 same tropes. 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:04.040 With like the secretary who fucks with the man and 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:05.920 tries to kill the wife because she now wants to 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:08.240 be the wife role. Like y'all know the Beyonce movie 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.520 that we've seen in thirty different renditions. I'm like, I 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:12.760 don't know if it's on two b, I don't know 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:14.560 where it's at, But I want to know why we 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.079 haven't seen more renditions of modern. 0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:23.320 Day Othello's no dude. 0:11:23.360 --> 0:11:25.520 That ship was That ship was a tent like and 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:29.600 it reminded me. It reminded me of like the books 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.480 and and things that I used to read that had 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:36.840 sex love betrayal, and also at the same time, how 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:42.640 you literally could see something and completely miss it and 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:46.680 get it wrong because of your own peripheral vision to 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:50.720 a not believe somebody. I think like, it was literally, 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:53.720 it's a tragedy. It's it's it's literally a tragedy. Shut 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:54.439 the fuck up, Edden. 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:57.600 It's literally a tragedy. But as I was watching it, 0:11:57.720 --> 0:11:59.960 I was like, ooh, t this nigga line. 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:02.800 Oh, this bitch really ain't cheating, but she'd being accused 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:05.240 of cheating, and then this nigga so heartbroken, you gonna 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:09.199 kill her. I was like, I need, I need more 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:11.120 of this, and so maybe I just need to read 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:11.920 some more books. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:15.000 Come out so you could understand centers. No, no, no 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:16.199 old English was no. 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:17.080 Let's be very clear. 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:23.600 In my head, I'm like Denzel macay Pfeiffer does does Madino? 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.040 Does the Dino? Whatever? Does the Mona? 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:29.640 That's Julia Stiles diss the White Man with the Dark 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:30.280 Hair in the movie. 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:33.120 I'm literally watching it and only know what's happening. 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:37.120 I'm watching it actually like the tele novella, it's given espono, 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:38.720 it's given a language I don't understand. 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:40.880 I think you probably just need to watch more old 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:45.760 movies because or like medieval times, because I was struggling 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:48.080 in the middle the middle of Game of Thrones and 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:49.240 then it went away. 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.240 Now I can watch anything like that. 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.840 There's different languages, there's different like at the accent different like, 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:58.319 so once you watch it, it's like understanding Southern people. Once 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:02.520 you down there, you start getting it, baby. But I 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:05.880 like it, like I don't think I like Shakespearean lingo. 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:07.920 Like actually, like for. 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:10.200 The way that he was talking, and it was like, Bro, 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.760 you just said all the words to say nothing bitch. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:14.800 I was like, we could have cut this down of 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:18.640 like two sentences instead it was like three paragraphs. 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:22.440 It's so crazy how actors memorize all that shit. What's 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.839 crazy about you? Seeing Othello last night? My friend had 0:13:24.840 --> 0:13:28.600 a birthday party last night and in Walks there was 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:32.320 more like celebrities there. Jeremy o'harris walks in and the 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:33.840 best play I've ever seen with slave play. 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:35.520 And he didn't know he was. 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:37.600 She had a party and a rooftop in Central Park, 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:39.640 and I could tell he didn't know was somebody's birthday party. 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:43.160 He was just chilling. I was like this right, and 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:45.160 she's like, I mean, is he going to take a picture? 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:46.760 And You're like, how do you know Jeremy and her? 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:48.800 She's like who that? And I was like, you don't 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:52.199 understand who is it? So he's seeing my face and 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:55.640 I'm like, jagged, bitch, did you see him? 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:57.560 I think I did see him. Yeah, oh my god, 0:13:57.920 --> 0:13:58.520 later in the night. 0:13:58.600 --> 0:13:59.640 Yeah with the fro. Yeah. 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:04.800 Bro Let me tell you writers, directors, filmmakers, they're about 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:05.920 to become the new ship. 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:07.000 I just found out. 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:09.680 I'm going to a party on Friday and Writing Coogler's invited. 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:10.760 I'm trying to figure. 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:13.200 Out my speech. I'm not gonna bring it up unless 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:14.079 it just so happens. 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:16.080 Will I have too many cocktails to where I say 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:17.880 you can rob trains and play. 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:20.520 I hit him with that line that what am I. 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.440 Gonna do is everybody gonna bring it up? Am I 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:23.640 just gonna be the one that don't bring it up? 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:25.240 Am I gonna like play cool and try to be like, 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:26.760 la bitch, My nigga is gonna be there, So it's 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:28.280 not like I'm trying to fuck. How am I gonna 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:29.760 let this person know? I think you made one of 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:30.680 the best movies of all time. 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:31.560 You can just say that. 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:33.840 No, I don't want bring it up or do like 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:35.000 your rendition of sinners. 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:38.520 No, I gotta wash up what you mean? 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:39.680 Oh my god? 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.000 Okay, So I want to talk about birthdays really quick. 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:47.640 This girl throws a birthday party my homegirl, Gabrielle. 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:50.920 I'm sorry, I'm not mad at him laughing. It was 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.920 just a birthday. Yeah, I love this. 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:55.160 It's a ketchup. 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:59.760 Yeah, so birthdays. Friend throws a party for thirty first 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:03.600 birthd day on a roof. She calls me this morning, 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:05.840 and I'm sure she would repeat this story, but I 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:08.160 think it's the same old tale as time. And I 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:11.200 want everybody who's got a birthday coming up to hear 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.520 this story and let you know you got a chill. 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:16.360 I was like, how is your night? Because I took 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.200 her mom home and my mom home. She said, girl, 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:23.840 I am so tired. I will never do a birthday 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:27.480 party again. I don't want to do this. At one point, 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:29.080 I wanted to lock myself in the bathroom. I was 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:32.360 talking to too many people. Yeah, I cannot believe I 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:36.040 put myself through this. I'm like, damn, I'm so sorry 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:38.360 to hear this because you looked beautiful. All your friends 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:40.800 are there supporting you. I hate that you feel like this. 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:43.600 She's like, next year, I don't even I just want 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:45.160 to do a trip with my friend. Maybe two, maybe three. 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:47.680 Maybe I need to go myself. Like she was like, overload. 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:51.240 What is the thing? Is it that we don't have 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:53.480 anything else to celebrate when we get older? Why is 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.240 it that we keep planning these fucking things with all 0:15:56.280 --> 0:16:00.240 these people? Birthdays become so fucking stressful. I felt so 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:02.600 sorry for this morning, Nandy. I literally was like, oh 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:03.840 my god, you want to go to lunch? No, I 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:06.360 want to go sweet, I don't need anything. 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:09.840 It's like the exhaustion of hosting. 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:10.760 A lot was going on. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:13.320 I mean I've been said this, Yeah, like most of 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:16.200 the times, I don't want to know my birthday Like yeah, 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:19.800 he literally literally I I So. I pulled up on 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:23.120 Eden's birthday and he wasn't DJing. 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:25.240 You weren't you weren't working that night. I literally just 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:28.280 dj No, he wasn't eve DJing, but he just had everyone. 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:29.440 He had everyone pull up. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:31.600 So and this was during fashion week and I was like, oh, 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:33.720 Edit's birthday, let me make sure I'll pull in and 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:37.080 I pull in, and I think maybe as soon as 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:39.640 I got there is just when the flood of his 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:42.960 friends came in, and I remember going to the bar like, Eden, 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.000 what do you want to drink? As soon as I 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:49.560 ordered he we did our shot literally immediately, literally and 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:51.920 I was only there for like fifteen maybe twenty minutes. 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.320 He looked at me and was like, because everyone came 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:58.000 at the same time, everyone was like happy birthday. And 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:00.000 then everyone started bringing him shots. 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:04.200 And he said, help me. It was bad, and I 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:07.119 saw his face. It's a terror. Why do we do that? 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:10.720 I mean, she looked like she was having fun too, 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:15.239 but I understand the sense of being overwhelmed. There's too 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:16.320 much attention is a thing. 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:17.040 Doubt. 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:20.160 Yeah. She even said at one point, like every time 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:22.200 I wanted to dance, I took a picture, somebody was 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.760 taking a picture with me. I was like, babe, mind 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:29.040 you Gabrielle's model, Like this is her job to take photos. 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.240 She said, so many times I just want to dance, 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:36.280 but you know you're really hosting. You're making sure everybody 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:39.040 else is having a good time. I feel so big 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:40.520 because when she was on a hunker plane and I 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:41.040 was like, girl. 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:46.239 Almost another one everybody has a better time at your 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:46.720 party than you. 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:48.320 I mean, it's not even on the dance floor the 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:48.680 whole time. 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:50.320 It's not even just birthday parties. 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:53.159 Though I hear this a lot as the sentiment around 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:57.399 weddings like that the wedding is essentially for everyone else 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:01.119 to celebrate, like the reception the wedding, and it's not 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:02.080 really about the couple. 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:04.440 It's about let's be very. 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:07.560 Clear, everyone there is gonna judge the venue, the food, 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:11.560 the DJ, is the bar open, and is it top 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:14.920 shelf or not? Like everyone makes it about them and 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.680 so it in turn becomes a party for everyone else, 0:18:19.040 --> 0:18:22.119 and it normally isn't fun like I think that. And 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:25.560 I just saw a statistic about even how many couples 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.480 end up actually having sex the night of their wedding, 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.120 and it's a very low percentage because they're both. 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:33.120 No, it wasn't not low, but it was low enough. 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:35.159 I think we talked about it horrible it was. It 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:38.120 was in the fifty or something, so it wasn't that low, 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:39.760 but it really wasn't as much as we think. 0:18:39.840 --> 0:18:42.600 Whenever I do consultations for DJing weddings, and I actually 0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:44.680 got one coming up in May, right, I tell them. 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:46.600 I'm like, congratulations, I'm glad it's a special day, but 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:49.040 I know it's going to be stressful because at the 0:18:49.080 --> 0:18:50.959 end of the day, it's really for everyone else. It's 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:54.280 all the pictures they take the bride in the groom, barelead, 0:18:54.400 --> 0:18:57.280