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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: decision decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty.

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Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, you want to say together decisions decisions.

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Speaker 1: How are sow?

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Speaker 3: Welcome to decisions Decisions and scene.

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Speaker 2: I'm your girl, mandyb I'm weezy, and all I want

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Speaker 2: to know is did you meet Denzel?

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Speaker 1: I didn't get to meet Denzel, and I was so sad.

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Speaker 1: But let me.

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Speaker 3: Tell you how to hold everything in me to not

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Speaker 3: literally lean forward and go like this, because that's how

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Speaker 3: close I was to the stage. I had an inner

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Speaker 3: moment of being like, Okay, bitch, this is what you

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Speaker 3: work hard for. Because I was so excited to be

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Speaker 3: able to go see Othello when it was on Broadway

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Speaker 3: and literally my seat was bb I will say I

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Speaker 3: was mad though, because uh, I got so scared last

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Speaker 3: year with going to the hospital and having a kidney

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Speaker 3: infection that I had to the bathroom daring Act one

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Speaker 3: and bitch because I was second row and they entered

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Speaker 3: through the orchestra, No, bitch, I couldn't go back to

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Speaker 3: my seat. So Act one thirty five minutes. I watched

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Speaker 3: it on a thirty two inch TV downstairs by the bathroom,

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Speaker 3: but I got Act two is the best act anyways, but.

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Speaker 1: It was you know what the line came they let

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Speaker 1: you go. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, the actors were entering through the orchestra, so so

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Speaker 3: like because they were doing that, they couldn't have people.

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Speaker 1: If you were orchestra and bitch you got up, you

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Speaker 1: couldn't where it's the five hundred.

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Speaker 3: Oh by the way, I want to give a little

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Speaker 3: tip to anyone if this happens again.

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Speaker 1: It's no longer on Broadway. Ended on June eighth, But

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Speaker 1: if you guys.

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Speaker 3: Want to see a Broadway show and the ticket seemed

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Speaker 3: to be a lot, if you have the ability for

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Speaker 3: someone to just go to the box office and by

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Speaker 3: the ticket.

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Speaker 1: I paid four ninety nine for my seat. I literally

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Speaker 1: at it was with me.

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Speaker 3: Right after I bought it, I went on step hub

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Speaker 3: to see that same row eight eighty six. So I

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Speaker 3: literally saved almost four hundred dollars by getting my ticket

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Speaker 3: at the box office.

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Speaker 1: Ticket master got the feed.

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Speaker 2: Y'all gotta just say okay, now, oh, I did want

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Speaker 2: to say, uh huh.

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Speaker 1: If y'all listened to.

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Speaker 3: The cinema where we talked about sinners.

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Speaker 1: I felt the same, a bitch need the subtitles or

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Speaker 1: was a.

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Speaker 3: Little upset that they didn't speak in modern day English.

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Speaker 1: How would they do the subtitles in a flame?

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Speaker 3: Well, bitch, I don't know what there's there's a they

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Speaker 3: got listening assistance and shit. I was like, can if

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Speaker 3: I could have had something to where it was broken

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Speaker 3: down in like modern day talk? So here was my

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Speaker 3: thing about the show. Denzel phenomenal. He was way better

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Speaker 3: I felt like, Nigga, you and Rome while you sound

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Speaker 3: like you from Brownsville, Like I felt like he didn't

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Speaker 1: But he sounded very Shakespeare.

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Speaker 3: However, the show took place in modern time, which was confusing.

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Speaker 3: So set design, they wore US marines like costumes and

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Speaker 3: And then in one of the things, he was like,

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Speaker 3: are they in Venice and Cyprus and Shakespearean times or not?

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Speaker 3: Like there was a confusion a little bit for me there,

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Speaker 3: but Jake Jillhome, I ain't.

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Speaker 1: Gonna hold you.

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Speaker 2: It looked it looked heavy as I don't know, maybe

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Speaker 2: For him, it looked heavy. I will say that I'm

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Speaker 2: a hood boger and I'm embarrassed to say, so Othello.

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Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know.

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Speaker 3: The reason also outside of Denzel and Jake as to

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Speaker 3: fever films. And y'all are just gonna laugh at this

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Speaker 3: at this point at my film selection is OH based

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Speaker 3: on OH was based on Othello?

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Speaker 1: Look it up, y'all.

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Speaker 3: It's with Makai Fifer and Julia Styles and so because

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Speaker 2: But so it was giving like Hamilton, how it's old

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Speaker 3: I didn't say I didn't like it. I just think

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Speaker 3: like not Shakespeare in English, but like English English. So literally,

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Speaker 3: as I'm watching it, did you go by yourself? I

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Speaker 3: went by myself? Absolutely? And it was dope because the

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Speaker 1: She was like, I go to place all the time

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Speaker 1: by myself. Which movie? Yeah, I loved it.

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Speaker 3: So for those of y'all who don't know othello, I

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Speaker 3: want to give it to y'all in like a urban take, okay.

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Speaker 1: Because I felt so ghetto daring.

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Speaker 3: Act two is when all the drama takes place, and

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Speaker 3: I'm literally like scary movies.

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Speaker 1: I'm gagged.

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Speaker 3: I'm gagged. And so basically you got a general, a

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Speaker 3: why you married this nigga without telling me who the

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Speaker 3: fuck is this. So anyways, we meet them in a

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Speaker 3: the middle of something professional, war wise, work wise, whatever.

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Speaker 2: But basically we I met with Iago. Iago is looking to.

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Speaker 3: Become second in line after after Denzel's character Othello like

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Speaker 3: like doing everything loyal, trying to kind of brown nose

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Speaker 1: Well a little did this, Nigga.

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Speaker 2: No.

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Speaker 1: Othello was like, yeah, no, I'm giving a job to Cassius.

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Speaker 1: So Cassius is next in line.

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Speaker 2: Iago med as fuck cause he's like, bitch, I should

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Speaker 2: be next. So Iago, who's who you think is loyal?

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Speaker 2: Who Othello believes to be his friend is? So is

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Speaker 2: to be next in line.

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Speaker 1: That bitch.

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Speaker 3: He started putting little things in his ear, like yo,

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Speaker 3: play where Othello's like, no, not my woman, Cassius. Cassius

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Speaker 3: didn't do that to me, mind you. Cassius over there

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Speaker 3: a hold, Jezebel, a little hope or whatever. Basically, Iago

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Speaker 3: start setting little things, put some shit in Cassius's room.

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Speaker 1: Othello finds out.

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Speaker 2: He's like, there's no way that would end up in

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Speaker 2: Mandy is saving you guys five hundre dollar because I

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Speaker 2: didn't know we gonna get the whole poll.

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Speaker 3: No, it's Shakespeare. No, this ain't no spoiler. It's it's Shakespeare.

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Speaker 3: So like it's it's everywhere, Like I'm just telling y'all

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Speaker 3: if you can't understand Shakespeare in English, like me, just

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Speaker 3: the tea. So basically, then Denzelle's heartbroken, like Cassius, you

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Speaker 3: betrayed me.

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Speaker 2: Iaga, Like what you want to do?

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Speaker 1: You want me to go kill that nigga?

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Speaker 3: So then Iago set up to go kill Cassius because

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Speaker 3: So bro, he gonna send one of his niggas to

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Speaker 3: go kill Cassius. He believes Cassie got murked bitch and

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Speaker 3: did it. But Othello don't know that yet. All O'thello

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Speaker 3: know is I can't have no Hoe as a.

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Speaker 2: Wife, Othello is Denzel, so bitch. Next scene, Othello pull

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Speaker 2: because he's like, bitch, you got to go. So she

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Speaker 2: wakes up and it is literally telling him, bro, I

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Speaker 2: ain't fucking Cassius.

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Speaker 1: You sitting here acting like I cheated on you.

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Speaker 3: I didn't cheat on you. I don't know why you

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Speaker 3: You got to go, so bitch, he literally kills that bitch.

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Speaker 1: Literally. You see her like so Othello like, yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Ain't dating no Ho, you got to go kill her

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Speaker 3: as literally he kills her.

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Speaker 2: Come walk in his homeboy like sorry, I know we

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Speaker 2: put the hit on Cassius, but that nigga ain't die.

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Speaker 3: And he's like, well, I just killed my fucking wife.

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Speaker 3: So a lot of fuck Cassius. Bit y'all did my job.

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Speaker 1: How you ain't doing your job? Uh huh. So the

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Speaker 2: No, not my best friend. How you kill my best friend?

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Speaker 2: Fuck nigga, Oh I'm coming for you. Start yelling at

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Speaker 2: motherfucking Othello and Othello, like your friend was a house.

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Speaker 1: She had to go.

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Speaker 3: Next thing, you know, he brings up the thing that

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Speaker 3: got left in the room that Iago placed in Cassia's room,

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Speaker 3: and the friend was like, nah, I took it.

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Speaker 1: Mind you.

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Speaker 3: The friend is Iago's bitch, So she's like, no, I

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Speaker 1: She really didn't cheat on you. You just killed my friend.

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Speaker 3: And she starts saying all the ways in which she like,

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Speaker 3: actually did this and is now realizing Iago did it, bitch.

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Speaker 3: Iago walk over to her, slice her neck.

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Speaker 1: Bitch, you talking too much. You got to go.

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Speaker 3: So then the arms come in and it's like Iago,

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Speaker 3: this fuck nigga, we know you set up to kill Cassius.

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Speaker 1: You just killed this bitch. They have him in chambers,

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Speaker 1: bitch now like he's trying to get out. It looks

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Speaker 1: like the Chicken man. He's trying to get out.

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Speaker 2: So everybody's in the scene now and Denzel realizes he

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Speaker 2: about to go to jail.

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Speaker 1: He about to lose his little his little things.

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Speaker 3: Cassius is about to take over, and he's like, you

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Speaker 3: know what, I just killed this bitch. Y'all gonna talk

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Speaker 3: about me. I'm about to be disbarred now from and

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Speaker 3: that's not even disbarred. What is it when you get

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Speaker 3: taken out.

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Speaker 1: Of the army? So he kills himself, bitch, yes, discharged.

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Speaker 3: So he's literally like every which way that I have

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Speaker 3: been an honorable man will now be ruined. I can't

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Speaker 3: live on this earth as an unhonorable man, dishonorable man, whatever.

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Speaker 1: And he's like, who kill himself? So, bitch, you literally

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Speaker 1: watch it.

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Speaker 3: It's like damn, everybody did and in scene and I'm

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Speaker 3: just like, damn, I know I remember watching oh, and

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Speaker 4: I think I did see him. Yeah, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: Bro Let me tell you writers, directors, filmmakers, they're about

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Speaker 2: I'm going to a party on Friday and Writing Coogler's invited.

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Speaker 4: I hit him with that line that what am I.

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Speaker 2: the best movies of all time.

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Speaker 1: You can just say that.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't want bring it up or do like

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Speaker 1: No, I gotta wash up what you mean?

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Speaker 2: Okay, So I want to talk about birthdays really quick.

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Speaker 2: This girl throws a birthday party my homegirl, Gabrielle.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I'm not mad at him laughing. It was

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Speaker 1: It's a ketchup.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so birthdays. Friend throws a party for thirty first

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Speaker 2: I was like, how is your night? Because I took

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Speaker 2: I am so tired. I will never do a birthday

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Speaker 2: to hear this because you looked beautiful. All your friends

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Speaker 1: She's like, next year, I don't even I just want

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Speaker 2: What is the thing? Is it that we don't have

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Speaker 2: these people? Birthdays become so fucking stressful. I felt so

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Speaker 2: sorry for this morning, Nandy. I literally was like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, you want to go to lunch? No, I

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Speaker 1: It's like the exhaustion of hosting.

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Speaker 4: A lot was going on.

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Speaker 3: he literally literally I I So. I pulled up on

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Speaker 1: You weren't you weren't working that night. I literally just

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Speaker 3: So and this was during fashion week and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: He looked at me and was like, because everyone came

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Speaker 1: And he said, help me. It was bad, and I

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Speaker 4: I mean, she looked like she was having fun too,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. She even said at one point, like every time

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Speaker 2: She said, so many times I just want to dance,

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Speaker 1: Almost another one everybody has a better time at your

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's not even on the dance floor the

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Speaker 1: It's not even just birthday parties.

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Speaker 3: Though I hear this a lot as the sentiment around

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Speaker 1: It's about let's be very.

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Speaker 3: Clear, everyone there is gonna judge the venue, the food,

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Speaker 3: so it in turn becomes a party for everyone else,

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Speaker 3: and it normally isn't fun like I think that. And

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Speaker 3: and it's a very low percentage because they're both.

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Speaker 2: No, it wasn't not low, but it was low enough.

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Speaker 2: I think we talked about it horrible it was. It

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Speaker 4: Whenever I do consultations for DJing weddings, and I actually

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Speaker 4: I'm like, congratulations, I'm glad it's a special day, but

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Speaker 4: all the pictures they take the bride in the groom, barelead,

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy guys are bringing up weddings.

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Speaker 2: Because after she vented for like fifteen minutes with me,

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Speaker 2: the next thing out of her mouth, this girl's not engaged.

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Speaker 1: She said, eloping is going to be great. That's what

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Speaker 2: Because the next thing you think is, oh, I'm not

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Speaker 2: gonna be able to do this. Like I'm gonna tell you.

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Speaker 2: It really showed me how much we throw parties for

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Speaker 1: It's too much.

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Speaker 2: Like this year on my birthday, mine kind of went

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Speaker 2: the other way. So I got a big ass fucking

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Speaker 2: house for all my friends to come.

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Speaker 4: Christ.

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Speaker 2: This is what I think people should do on their birthdays, right,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, just get the house and bite people on

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Speaker 2: the trip, they buy the ticket.

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Speaker 1: I did that for my thirty thing. Still Nope, I'll

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Speaker 1: never do it again.

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Speaker 2: So it was five bedrooms, Me and my man Kill

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Speaker 2: and her husband Andre, It was Vannie and I think

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Speaker 2: Mea and her husband. Just a bunch of friends, right, girls,

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Speaker 2: didn't you know about end a trip? It was too

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Speaker 2: Andre got book for an event, Vinnie had.

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Speaker 1: To go viewed his mom. Everybody was like and it

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Speaker 1: was real life shit plans we had for months, you know.

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Speaker 3: I know I felt bad. I did all this booking

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Speaker 3: We fly into Mexico during a hurricane. House gets canceled,

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Speaker 1: And now they know how I am. Guess what.

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Speaker 3: They all land right before me. And so because they

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Speaker 3: all know how I get in my anxiety, they all

439
00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:34,480
Speaker 3: come together and are trying to find us another house

440
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:37,879
Speaker 3: because Mexico is trying to send everyone to a fucking

441
00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 3: stadium like on some bunker down type shit I mean,

442
00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,560
Speaker 3: And so literally we ended up going shopping. We end

443
00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 3: up still doing the boat, but the waters were still choppy.

444
00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:51,680
Speaker 3: But literally dinner, dinner, reservation, everything, what.

445
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:52,760
Speaker 4: You got on a boat?

446
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:53,320
Speaker 2: No?

447
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:56,919
Speaker 1: No, no, no. Two days later, wait no, the hurricane passed.

448
00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:57,920
Speaker 1: It came and passed.

449
00:20:58,119 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 4: I still wouldn't got down on a boat for another week.

450
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 1: Nigga. I was in Mexico. How would that be out

451
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:07,360
Speaker 1: We're from Florida. Those Yeah, a hurricane. You go out

452
00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:09,639
Speaker 1: that night, Let's be very clear. I'll say, let's be

453
00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 1: very clear. A party.

454
00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 3: We we got through the night hurricane passed. I look outside,

455
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,880
Speaker 3: I said, also, little a couple of branches on it.

456
00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 1: We could have win.

457
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:23,360
Speaker 3: I literally was real. Florida, Like, bro, they's so extra.

458
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 3: They always do this when hurricanes come.

459
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 1: It ain't even that serious.

460
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:38,520
Speaker 2: Oh, speaking of birthdays, I was literally thinking, okay, so

461
00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 2: this whole thing's going on right. My boyfriend for his

462
00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:45,440
Speaker 2: birthday that week, we're going on a cruise. I was like, oh,

463
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 2: he's never done one. I've done a munch with my

464
00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 2: family back in the day.

465
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:52,119
Speaker 1: This will be cute. From La Easy. Something came up

466
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 1: with my job. They're very big gigs.

467
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,239
Speaker 2: One of the days we've bet on the boat, and

468
00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 2: I was like, you know, what if we were married.

469
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 1: He would tell me.

470
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,760
Speaker 2: Do this gig like that's how much money it is.

471
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 2: He would be like, bitch, are you out of your mind?

472
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 2: So I called him, I told him what was going on.

473
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 2: He was like, listen, I feel like you want to

474
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,400
Speaker 2: do so much for me because I do so much

475
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 2: for you. I need you to understand this type of

476
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 2: man I am. I'm gonna tell you again. We can eat,

477
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:22,520
Speaker 2: we can sit in the hotel room. I can be

478
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:24,159
Speaker 2: right there while you do this event, even if it

479
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,920
Speaker 2: was on my birthday. You have got to stop overthinking

480
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 2: these big events in life. And like I realized, my

481
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 2: love language is gift giving so much that sometimes it's

482
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,399
Speaker 2: not translating because the way that I'm like to be

483
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 2: shown up for what he's doing is the same thing

484
00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 2: I'm doing. Is that how many times I tell you

485
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 2: we can do nothing, we can go to eat, we

486
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 2: could go see a movie, Please stop thinking so deeply.

487
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 2: And I was really feeling guilty because number One, when

488
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 2: we plan something for someone or when we're trying to

489
00:22:57,800 --> 00:22:58,120
Speaker 2: do a.

490
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 1: Gesture, it really is about them.

491
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 2: However I do at the same time, and this could

492
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:09,879
Speaker 2: be something that's totally wrong and it's semi related to

493
00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:13,199
Speaker 2: your ex partner with throwing you the birthday party. I

494
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 2: want you to know I'm doing this for you and

495
00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 2: I want you to really feel my love from this,

496
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 2: almost more than my brain can even think.

497
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 1: Are you enjoying this? I want you to feel it.

498
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 1: I guess it could.

499
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,119
Speaker 2: It's selfish, but it's like I don't know how else

500
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 2: to show up sometimes because I am such a pleaser.

501
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 2: And it was just this whole conversation of like, bitch,

502
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 2: you wear cancel a vote and we just doing dinner.

503
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 1: Now I didn't. I found out a way to move

504
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:39,160
Speaker 1: the event, but I say this.

505
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:40,439
Speaker 4: To say move the event.

506
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, figure out another time to do it,

507
00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:46,679
Speaker 2: and I charge them less money. But basically what I

508
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 2: was gonna say was like, anyone that's planning for a friend,

509
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 2: anyone that's planning an event, you really do have to

510
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 2: sit and ask maybe you're not super selfish in that

511
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,240
Speaker 2: story you told us you said your ex was.

512
00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 1: Like, what about what I wanted to do? Those words

513
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:01,160
Speaker 1: feel selfish?

514
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,160
Speaker 2: Maybe I'm not saying those words, but am I actually

515
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:06,680
Speaker 2: being selfish? And we really got to sit with ourselves,

516
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 2: like are all the grand gestures you're making, and all

517
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 2: the plans you're trying to make actually not something that

518
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 2: person wants. And I haven't really sat with myself in

519
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,439
Speaker 2: a while and thought that because I'm just trying to

520
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,720
Speaker 2: be a mirror of what he's doing for me. I mean,

521
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:24,360
Speaker 2: I do think that there's a difference from gifting your

522
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:29,160
Speaker 2: partners something that hasn't been discussed and giving your partner

523
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 2: something they literally said they didn't want verbatim.

524
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

525
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,239
Speaker 3: True, Like, there's power in listening to a partner and

526
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 3: even if you can't afford or get them exactly what

527
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 3: they ask for, to give them something they literally said

528
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 3: they don't want because you've never done it, or it

529
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 3: would make you feel good, or it's a way that

530
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:49,680
Speaker 3: you feel like you could show your love is selfish.

531
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:53,160
Speaker 1: And yeah, I don't.

532
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 2: Think that showing your trying to make grand gestures to

533
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 2: show your love is selfish.

534
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 1: I think not listening is. Yeah, But that's.

535
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 2: Where where I thought about your exing the party, because

536
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,879
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, this is an interesting tie because mine

537
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 2: isn't rooted in the narcissism, but it is rooted in

538
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 2: me people pleasing. So it's like these two different things,

539
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 2: and you I could have really have shown up and

540
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,440
Speaker 2: been doing something that someone's like, this is too much.

541
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,199
Speaker 2: So I just realized, you know, throughout this whole thing

542
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 2: with a birthday conversation all that like.

543
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,640
Speaker 1: I've been doing too much. I've you doing too much.

544
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: A lot of times. I even do too much of

545
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: my parents.

546
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 2: There's times where I take my mom's shop and are

547
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 2: we doing all these extra things? You'd be like, what

548
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 2: is it my fucking birthday?

549
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: And I don't know what that is.

550
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 2: I wonder if it's an only child, Oh my god,

551
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:36,920
Speaker 2: please like me shit. But yeah, I'm starting to see

552
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,639
Speaker 2: it just show up a lot.

553
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 4: No, I mean, I feel like, I mean, don't I

554
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 4: guess the way I'm analyzing it, what you're saying, does

555
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 4: it sound like like me. It's more like I'm trying

556
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 4: to make a grand gesture.

557
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:47,400
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

558
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 2: I don't see it as And also, it's this thing

559
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 2: of life. Why are we doing all this shit for

560
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,239
Speaker 2: someone that's just happy. Even if it's a homegirl and

561
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 2: you're planning something great for her, she might have been like, bitch,

562
00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 2: we could have went anywhere. It's that type of shit.

563
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 2: It's just kind of like it's not always needed. So

564
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 2: I want to say that to say keep shit?

565
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 4: Can I can I go on the opposite room. Have

566
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 4: you guys done the fijidas thing? You guys talked about

567
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 4: this man to make shit say the whole thing filling everybody.

568
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 4: So so there was a whole thing on social media

569
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:21,639
Speaker 4: at one point talking about how you don't take too

570
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 4: much attention from the birthday person on their birthday. An example, right,

571
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 4: you go to a Mexican restaurant. I don't care whichever

572
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 4: one you guys go to. The point is the com

573
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 4: you see the you see the menu, there's tacos ares

574
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 4: burritos that ethos A discussed the etctera. You are the

575
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:39,919
Speaker 4: birthday girl. Damn, I don't want to put you in

576
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 4: this for fuck it, the birthday girl. We easy orders

577
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 4: fajitas on that event. Now what happens when you get

578
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 4: the fieta?

579
00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: Everybody looks at you because it's smoking, and say.

580
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 4: By looks at you because it's smoking. Now the internet

581
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 4: was split. Do you order the fijitas if it's not

582
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 4: your birthday?

583
00:26:56,840 --> 00:27:00,600
Speaker 1: Yo? What just because the attention? Ye niggas need to

584
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 1: go to therapy. I ain't gonna hold you. Get the

585
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 1: fuck out of here.

586
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 3: First off, if y'all know me, y'all know that Mexican

587
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 3: is the bottom three worst cuisines in the world.

588
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: You are hate Mexican food.

589
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 3: So y'all will never see me at a Mexican restaurant

590
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 3: for a celebration. But for me, I think, let me

591
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 3: take it away from the Mexican restaurant, so that I

592
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 3: what's an equivalent. The equivalent would be you're good dress,

593
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 3: so you would know the equivalent would be you are

594
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 3: the birthday girl. There is a theme for how y'all

595
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:39,919
Speaker 3: should all dress, and someone decides that even though they

596
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 3: received the theme, they're going to show up in whatever

597
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 3: they want to wear, which in turn it's what they wanted.

598
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 3: They're just not listen, you know, and so they get

599
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 3: all the attention. Now for everyone at the table, it

600
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 3: don't matter how good the birthday girl is dressed, which

601
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 3: we said, we're all white, and you got on fucking

602
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 3: pattern or black or red maybe red, you know what

603
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 3: I mean, like to stand out shah, And that I

604
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 3: think is that's what I would say, is that's someone

605
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 3: that maybe shouldn't be there. To me, you ordering fajitas

606
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 3: just because it's sizzle pop and everyone I.

607
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 2: Mean, I see it's like in a what's the word

608
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 2: not an analogy? Yeah, it is like it's just I

609
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 2: get it though, because to me it's it actually is

610
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,439
Speaker 2: a good outfit if it's your birthday. And let's just say, yo,

611
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 2: bitch got out fit and she got.

612
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 1: Her hair bust down and the makeup done.

613
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 2: You just kind of like, oh my god, I thought

614
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,400
Speaker 2: it was all about me. Bitches be getting like that,

615
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 2: And I saw something online to let me know.

616
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: I love boy.

617
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,399
Speaker 2: Bitches be like what they don't want their homegirl to

618
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 2: show them out fun their day. There is a wedding

619
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 2: theme saying the theme is show up the bride. My

620
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 2: homegirl did this for her wedding in Mexico City, Gila.

621
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 2: I walked in and I was like, why does everybody

622
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 2: look this good? She's like, oh my god. I teld

623
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 2: everybody like, I mean, purple, pink, green, the designs ship symmetrical,

624
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 2: sticking out.

625
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 1: You know what that is? That is a bitch that

626
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 1: ain't insecure like to me.

627
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 3: To me, also, someone out be hell subjective. I've had

628
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 3: friends I don't like how they dress at all, so

629
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 3: they show out. Is not my show out? And if

630
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 3: you bet that I pulled up and you like my

631
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 3: fit and I'm just better than you.

632
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 1: Bitch. You should have had a solace. I don't know

633
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 1: what it's. Here's one. I don't what about the homegirl

634
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 1: that you call your friend? What you wearing to night?

635
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: I wear jeans.

636
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 2: I can remember jeans. I'm cute, not as social up

637
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 2: in a tight dress. But you know I was gonna

638
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 2: put these damn jeans and take top phone. I changed

639
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 2: my mind because I didn't like how the jeans fit me.

640
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 4: So you feel deceived.

641
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 1: No, I just want to like, Oh, you should have

642
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: seen it. It's so funny. Shut it.

643
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:40,959
Speaker 2: No, I don't like when I step out with one

644
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 2: other person. If it's a few of us, it's fine.

645
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 2: If you're really dressing in heels and I'm wearing sneakers.

646
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 2: But you could have told me this. No, this was

647
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 2: actually funny.

648
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 3: This just happened me and my homegirls Shanna shout out

649
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 3: to Shauna. We went to Barmargo Barmargo on my little spot.

650
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 3: So we go out, and we had already gone out

651
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 3: like three or four times before then. And sometimes I'd

652
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 3: be me my stun attire, I'll be dressed down. But

653
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 3: every time we went out. She likes to get caught up.

654
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 3: She's a mom, and she's like, bitch, if I'm coming

655
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 3: up in the city, I'm gonna be cute. So what's

656
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 3: crazy is we go to Barbargo and she's like, okay, girl,

657
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 3: I will pull up.

658
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: I decide because I know this bitchman to be dressed up.

659
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 3: I put on my little fucking top four heels, I

660
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 3: put this little flour dressed on a dress to wear.

661
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: I showed my my boyfriend and he was like, I

662
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: didn't even know you owned anything like this. What the fuck?

663
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 3: So I shows each I show up and I'm dressed

664
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 3: up and she said, now, bitch, why you all dressed up?

665
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 1: I said, bitch, because you already dressed up. And I

666
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 1: felt bad that I don't be mad at yo.

667
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 3: She came dressed down and she was like, bitch, I

668
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 3: dressed down because I knew I got to meet which'all asked.

669
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 2: So's a deal unless we playing sneak.

670
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 3: I guess that's different at thirty at thirty five, depending

671
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 3: on where we're going, we need flat no dress, dress

672
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 3: for dress for the occasion, Like, bitch, you might be

673
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 3: going to bad. I got a boyfriend, and if I

674
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 3: don't want to dress up. I'm gonna dress with what

675
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 3: makes me comfortable. Me and my friends actually now do

676
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 3: not ever have conversations about, well, what you're wearing, because

677
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:14,239
Speaker 3: everyone has their own styles. Nine times out of ten,

678
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: I ain't gonna like half the ship my fraywhere.

679
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 2: To me if we're going casual, because I do think

680
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 2: like if we're gonna show up casual together, like if

681
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 2: me and my girl, if it's a Friday night we're

682
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 2: going to club. If we really gonna be casual, let's

683
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 2: be on a ship together, beach, Let's do the crop

684
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 2: top and the cargo jeans together.

685
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 4: Switch it up.

686
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 3: Oh, you know, my best friend twist her ankle, and

687
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: I knew that hole was gonna be wearing flats for

688
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 3: a while.

689
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: Well, bitch, I'm wearing heels. Doc my friend I wear bitch,

690
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 1: lost a broke the fuck Anyway, let's get to our

691
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 1: no host Bart.

692
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 3: If you haven't yet, guys, make sure you purchase no

693
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 3: host Bart to do a manifesto of sexual exploration and

694
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 3: power and join us on tour NHB tour dot com.

695
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 3: We are bringing the pages, took the stages in a

696
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 3: city near you. We are making it so different than

697
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 3: any live show you've seen before, but you were still

698
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 3: getting all of the horrible Okay.

699
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: Are we taking a page? Are you picking it? No?

700
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 3: I am reading an excerpt. Okay, this comes from my chapter.

701
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 3: Why don't they just call it a vacuum? So this

702
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 3: is the chapter around my abortion. It's in the pain

703
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 3: section of the book. My mom says she wishes she'd

704
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 3: had this conversation with me earlier, and that it wasn't

705
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 3: in the form of a trauma bond. No one had

706
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 3: talked to her either, so this was part of our

707
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: familial cycle. She said she would have talked to me

708
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 3: earlier about the consequences and results of the actual birds

709
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 3: and bees.

710
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 1: But here's the issue. The problem is a cyclical one.

711
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 3: Before she got pregnant at fifteen, no one had ever

712
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 3: talked to her about sex either. Those were from different generations.

713
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 3: My mom and I both remember being told very little

714
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 3: at school. She didn't have planned parenthood or any resources

715
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 3: at the time. In Newport, Ritchie, Florida, where she grew up.

716
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 3: I remember a sex ad class where we, and when

717
00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 3: I say we, I mean the young women were told

718
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 3: by our teacher to abstain from having sex the boys

719
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 3: were going to be boys and the girls were going

720
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 3: to say angelic virgins. Somehow, math is my strong suit,

721
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 3: and I remember thinking about how it would work in

722
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 3: real time that math was not mathing. We were told

723
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 3: not to have sex because we would either A get pregnant,

724
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 3: B get HIV or some other sexually transmitted disease that

725
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 3: would make you filthy or see all the above. Well,

726
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 3: I was battling the multiple choice selection, and here I

727
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 3: was being a pregnant. I wanted to ask both of

728
00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 3: you if there is any conversation, and I know this

729
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 3: may be a difficult question for you because she's no

730
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 3: longer here, but are there any conversations that you wish

731
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 3: you had had specifically with your mom regarding sex or

732
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 3: sex sooner that maybe came up later.

733
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 4: I think no, no, because there typically For me, it

734
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 4: all came from my father as a man that I

735
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:15,760
Speaker 4: swear the birds in the bees conversation was five seconds

736
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 4: that month with your dad. Yeah, and your mom never

737
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 4: had it, which everything I've learned in terms of sex

738
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:21,880
Speaker 4: is from the entering.

739
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 1: How are you? Oh? Wow? They had you. I wonder

740
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: if this had to do with.

741
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 4: Age thirty, because it's my father's sixty.

742
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 3: Okay, oh wow, so even later on we're a little

743
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 3: bit more mature.

744
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 1: They definitely knew themselves more sexually. Yeah wow. And it

745
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 1: was still like five seconds and that which is.

746
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 4: But but I don't condom condom? Yeah basically that's really what?

747
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: Right?

748
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, like basically that just wear a condom or don't

749
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 4: get people pregnant.

750
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you.

751
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 3: My mom even knowing I was having sex because I

752
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 3: had to come and throw a positive pregnancy test on

753
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:56,920
Speaker 3: the bed. I had wished that, and and that happened

754
00:34:56,920 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 3: when I was just about to turn sixteen. And for me,

755
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 3: that was definitely the age where instead of me being

756
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 3: told to go to the other room or anything like that,

757
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 3: it should have been where when her friends was over,

758
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:16,240
Speaker 3: my aunties were over and conversations were being had because

759
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 3: a lot of my mom's friends and my aunts was dating.

760
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 1: They weren't.

761
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 3: Like again, I didn't grow up seeing healthy marriages or

762
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 3: people in long standing relationships.

763
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:29,399
Speaker 1: Like my aunt wasn't with my uncle, my mom wasn't

764
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: with my dad.

765
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:33,840
Speaker 3: Her friends were all single bitches out you know, they

766
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 3: go on a playpool to find some niggas, and so

767
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 3: I wish just the conversation about how sex doesn't really

768
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 3: make someone like you happen.

769
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 1: And I do wish that I knew.

770
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,840
Speaker 3: The trauma that my mom experienced with sex, with dating,

771
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:52,959
Speaker 3: and specifically her decision to have an abortion. I wish

772
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 3: that conversation came without the need to trauma bond with

773
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 3: each other. I would have liked to known my mom

774
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 3: a little bit more or as a woman and not.

775
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: Just a mom personally. What about you?

776
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 2: I mean, I talked to my mom talked about sex

777
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 2: so early, and I'm sure we'll dig into this convo

778
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: when we interview her tomorrow, but something that's just coming

779
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 2: to my mind. It's interesting because like a lot of

780
00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 2: my homegirls talk about their mom with dating experiences and

781
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 2: I can't relate because she was married. But the interesting

782
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 2: thing is, I think it's very reflective. I saw my

783
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 2: mom in her dating. Technically, every single day all I

784
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 2: saw was my mom and is wife, you know what

785
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 2: I mean. So even though I knew her as an

786
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 2: individual person, I think it's probably what shaped me to

787
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 2: be the type of person I am because she was

788
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 2: such a wife. Being a housewife, that's your job. Every

789
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 2: single day, you're showing up like that, you're being that

790
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:47,840
Speaker 2: type of person.

791
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 1: Like. It was a weird thing too, because when I.

792
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 2: Got older and started dating men, my homegirls and I

793
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 2: have of course had relationship talks. When I started dating

794
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 2: romantic relationships, you talk a lot more about like my

795
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 2: mom was saying, you know, et cetera. I didn't realize

796
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: how jaded I was to single mom. It's pain like

797
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 2: just because the dating experience as a mom, a kid

798
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 2: sees it completely. They're watching it, they're viewing it like

799
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 2: that never happened to me. I don't really know what

800
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 2: my mom was like in according stage when I never

801
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 2: really asked much about like when they met. I also

802
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 2: don't really know what kind of happens when she's heartbroken

803
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 2: or sad.

804
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: They were in a marriage the whole time. I never

805
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 1: saw those phases.

806
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 2: So everything I learned about that shit is just through

807
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:40,760
Speaker 2: conversations through friends. So that's even and your parents were married, right, yeah,

808
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 2: so like, yeah, that's something.

809
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:46,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, my experience seeing that it was interesting because through

810
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 3: writing this book, I you know, I got to really

811
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 3: learn my mom more and her relationship with men, and

812
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 3: I remember getting so fucking mad at her and I

813
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:01,800
Speaker 3: snapped at her as an adult now. I remember asking

814
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 3: her like, who, if any of the partners that I

815
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 3: know of over the past thirty years did she feel

816
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 3: like was her favorite or the best or the one

817
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 3: that she wishes lasted? And the name of the person

818
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 3: that she said to me calls so much trauma as

819
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 3: a child, like basically in their breakup, he threatened to

820
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 3: share something that led my mom to try to commit suicide,

821
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 3: and it like I don't want to cry with it.

822
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: I was so mad at her.

823
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:39,760
Speaker 3: I said, that's the nigga, And I said, you're pathetic,

824
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 3: and I said, I want you to take it to therapy.

825
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: This man that.

826
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:47,279
Speaker 3: Maybe you're remembering how he maybe made you feel. But

827
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 3: the person that at the end tried to literally ruin

828
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 3: our family and did somewhat like brought a lot of

829
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 3: things out to where you literally almost like you know,

830
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 3: and I had to witness that, and I was so

831
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 3: upset and I was like, oh, I'm sorry, this is

832
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 3: something recent, and I was just like, in terms of

833
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 3: the conversations with my mom about like what healthy relationships

834
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 3: could look like, it frustrates me that at thirty five,

835
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm teaching her how to date and

836
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:24,280
Speaker 3: value herself more and seek out a partner that's worthy

837
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 3: of her. And I just feel like it's in reverse

838
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 3: now because I've had this show for the last eight

839
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 3: years and I've been able to learn myself and I've

840
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 3: gone to therapy. My mom is just what is now

841
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,280
Speaker 3: in therapy for the first time in her life at

842
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 3: fifty five.

843
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 2: I think, and I mean even now we see your

844
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 2: mom isn't even really wrong for probably thinking it, because

845
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 2: we now know sometimes those highs and loads of relationships,

846
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 2: you really keep in mind the good yeah, you want to,

847
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 2: you want to, so it's almost more prevalent than the

848
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 2: good guys. She probably passed over that maybe you thought

849
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:58,479
Speaker 2: about because no, no.

850
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: No, no, let's be very clear. They all suck. Oh well,

851
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: I like that's why I was like, which which one

852
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: was the best?

853
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 3: And what's crazy is the one that I liked the

854
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 3: most as an adult he was an alcoholic. He was

855
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 3: an alcoholic and a gambler. So although he was fun

856
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 3: and he was caring and we really like enjoyed his

857
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:24,440
Speaker 3: presence because he was a lot of fun with my mom, financially,

858
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 3: he was in debt because he would either drink or

859
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:30,360
Speaker 3: gamble all his money away, and so from an aspect

860
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:34,280
Speaker 3: of he was always a great person to be around.

861
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 3: As an adult standpoint, he wasn't great like And it

862
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 3: sucks that me. Looking through the history of my mom,

863
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 3: I don't see any any quality in her decisions of dating,

864
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 3: but in talking to her as an adult and recognizing

865
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:52,399
Speaker 3: the traumas of her with her stepdad, I just see

866
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 3: how much has passed down and what we see. A

867
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,399
Speaker 3: lot of us only know what we don't want, which

868
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 3: is why I always say I grew up knowing I

869
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,879
Speaker 3: didn't want to nigga like my daddy, but I didn't

870
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 3: grow up with an example of a man that I

871
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 3: Actually that's an example of a man.

872
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: I do the opposite to men.

873
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:11,720
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, my ex said all the time, my dad,

874
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 2: it's like he's just pinnacle, fuck you, fuck you like

875
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:15,359
Speaker 2: my dad.

876
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 1: This, my dad this.

877
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 2: And it was crazy because maybe towards the end of

878
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 2: my relationship not old baby, but another ex said, this

879
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 2: man that your dad is is so not realistic to

880
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:31,839
Speaker 2: today's time, and it's not realistic to even the man

881
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 2: you're looking for. That when you compare, it's frustrating. My

882
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 2: dad doesn't really drink. My dad doesn't go out that like,

883
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:41,240
Speaker 2: I would love someone social. I've literally said on this podcast,

884
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 2: I won't date someone but don't drink. And so just

885
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 2: thinking about it, I'm like, oh, I really am comparing

886
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 2: to the man that I'm not even looking for. My

887
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 2: dad is super chill, doesn't really care. I like someone

888
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 2: a little more hyper and more extroverted. Like it's crazy

889
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 2: because I didn't know how much I was setting a standard.

890
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: So it's like when they really are, it's all daddy issues.

891
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,720
Speaker 2: At the same time, maybe my daddy issues may look different,

892
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 2: but the fact that I compared every man, it's fucked up. Oh, well,

893
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 2: my dad does this, he takes care of the house.

894
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 2: He would never let my mom do this. Like, meanwhile,

895
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:15,359
Speaker 2: teamwork is such a normal part of twenty twenty five.

896
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 2: Let's be honest about the economy here. I don't even

897
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 2: want to be a housewife. But yet in the same breath,

898
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 2: I'm telling you I shouldn't be doing this because my

899
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 2: dad would never let me do it. Like, it's almost

900
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 2: crazy that the first impression of dating and men all

901
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:29,359
Speaker 2: comes from this one man.

902
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: It sucks, oh for you. Yeah, I've viewed a lot

903
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: of fun.

904
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 2: No, but even in the opposite way, the impression of

905
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 2: men in a negative way or positive.

906
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: That's it.

907
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 3: I do want to skip reaction air for this episode

908
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 3: and do and get just a little bit more into

909
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:54,919
Speaker 3: the decision's decisions because I want to have more fun

910
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:58,560
Speaker 3: talking about it. I think it's been really fun to

911
00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 3: teach you guys the historical kind of ways in which

912
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 3: certain things around sex started. And this week, y'all don't

913
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:10,319
Speaker 3: make fun of me for the last one, because y'all

914
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 3: know I don't believe it, but we getting into it.

915
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:17,800
Speaker 3: We were talking about fertility rituals, the so sex soil

916
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 3: is sacred?

917
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 1: Did you so before fertility clinics?

918
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 3: And again, because I've spoke about talking to my friends

919
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 3: about navigating their biological clock and all these things, I

920
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 3: wanted to get into what people were doing before they

921
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 3: could go and literally get tested and to see if

922
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 3: they could have babies or not. So before fertility clinics,

923
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 3: people turn to sex magic, moon phases in sacred dances.

924
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 3: That's you're real to help the babies come the moon

925
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:49,919
Speaker 3: phases real, bitch, you believe it.

926
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you how I know. Read the love chapter.

927
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 3: Okay, yeesh, it's scary Also, what do you mean, so

928
00:43:57,320 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 3: what do you know about moon phases being tied to

929
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 3: fertill like just.

930
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 2: But all are different stages of ovulation heightened fertility like

931
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 2: it's crazy because we don't talk about it much anymore

932
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,560
Speaker 2: because we have so many other options. But the moon

933
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 2: phases were like the number one resource back in the

934
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 2: olden times on when it was prime and optimal to

935
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 2: get pregnant. And our period also is connected to the

936
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 2: moon as.

937
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 3: Well, even though we all have different cycles. Yes, interesting,

938
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:29,880
Speaker 3: goddamn very interesting there is.

939
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 1: Don't believe it's not the oh Freddian cycle.

940
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:36,280
Speaker 2: I believe not to be a hotel because I learned

941
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 2: this watching nineteen Keys clip. It was a nigga talking

942
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 2: meant to be very hotel.

943
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, I thought this motherfucker is bullshit.

944
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 2: He wasn't saying it was somebody out on them like

945
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 2: this nigga sounds stupid talking about pussy and furies, and

946
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I guess not. Well, let's start

947
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 2: as long as you got a coofie on off of

948
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 2: the talk shit.

949
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 1: But some of it be good, some of it don't.

950
00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:59,720
Speaker 1: Let's start with the with some historical hot spots.

951
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 3: Now, y'all know, we'd be liking to take y'all around

952
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 3: the world, no passport needed. So in ancient Mesopotamia, it's

953
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 3: always over there. Where is Mesopotamia? That's a real place. No,

954
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 3: it was, It don't exist no more. I think it

955
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 3: is the Roman or greeklan. Sorry, we're gonna let y'all

956
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 3: know where y'all at. It's a bottom of Mediterranean seat

957
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 3: in the Persian Gulf.

958
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 2: Iraq, Iraq, Yeah, bitch, it exists in a bombs cataline empire.

959
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 1: That was all it.

960
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 2: Today Mesopotamia is actually known as present day Iraq, So bitch,

961
00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 2: we in Iraq.

962
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,279
Speaker 1: Uh this only time y'all gonna be able to go there,

963
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:43,959
Speaker 1: all right?

964
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 3: So the goddess Inana's high priestess would perform sacred sex

965
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 3: rituals with kings to ensure a fertile kingdom. This was

966
00:45:53,680 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 3: called called heroes gamos. So basically I think it's heroes

967
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,840
Speaker 3: or none. No, I'm saying the game, look.

968
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: At me making the Spanish it probably.

969
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 3: And yeah, so I guess now here's the thing. Were

970
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 3: goddesses real things? The goddess, yes, would perform sacred rituals.

971
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 3: Goddesses was real? I thought gods and goddesses was fake.

972
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 2: They're humans that became much like a you could say,

973
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 2: like a prophet. Then Aphrodite is real. They made statues

974
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 2: after them. They were real though, Yeah, real people.

975
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:34,160
Speaker 1: Yes.

976
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 3: Hades and Zeus was real people. Yes, But Sidon he

977
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 3: was he was in the ocean.

978
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: He wasn't real real.

979
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 2: You gotta think, for example, no, I need you no, no,

980
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 2: For example, Moses and the parting of the Red Sea.

981
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 1: Now that's a Bible person, let me get it, let

982
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: me cook.

983
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 2: People say, even though that sounds crazy that he did that,

984
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 2: it was really a low tide sol all of the

985
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 2: Poseidon ship, all of the Aphrodite shit.

986
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:01,800
Speaker 1: These gods and goddesses, they were humans. They was not humans.

987
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 4: Ever, assertion that Greek gods are non real supported by

988
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:09,400
Speaker 4: archaeological elements evidence excuse me, comparative monology. The Greek gods,

989
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 4: as depicted in mythology are not considered to be literal,

990
00:47:11,680 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 4: spiritual beings that existed in the physical world. By monitor.

991
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 1: They was not in the physical world, that was not human.

992
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 4: However, they are viewed as powerful, symbolic.

993
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:23,800
Speaker 1: Symbolic they simples. They're not she said they were humans.

994
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 3: At one point this is given my chicken wing. I

995
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 3: think my chicken wing. Take bit, no, I think this

996
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:32,720
Speaker 3: is that was Hades and Zeus was not real Hercules.

997
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 4: Wings all the time.

998
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 3: I believe it and thought the wing was a toe.

999
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 3: Don't don't do that. That's just an anatomy that I

1000
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:42,759
Speaker 3: got wrong. You would see here.

1001
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 2: You thought a chicken wing and collucting on this day camera.

1002
00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 3: B I just said it. It is kind of a toe.

1003
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:52,280
Speaker 3: It's just the finger. Then, bitch, I got the wrong.

1004
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 2: I believe they were real, and I believe these books

1005
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 2: and all this Google ship makes us wants us to think.

1006
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: It's faith.

1007
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:00,919
Speaker 3: And you can now join Weezy's call at weezysct dot

1008
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 3: com just like I think and real. All right now,

1009
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:06,400
Speaker 3: y'all know we had to take it over to Egypt

1010
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 3: and the Pharaoh, which the pharaoh.

1011
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 1: Was an actual human being. This is.

1012
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:14,919
Speaker 4: Now, I don't think anything's real.

1013
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 3: The pharaoh was real, that was a real. This one

1014
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:21,400
Speaker 3: is crazy, y'all of Egypt. This one is crazy. And

1015
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:24,320
Speaker 3: this is how I guess he wanted to boost fertility

1016
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:28,880
Speaker 3: around Egypt. The pharaoh was expected to ejaculate into the

1017
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 3: Nile during a fertility festival to.

1018
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 1: Bless the lamb bitch.

1019
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 3: I want to know who had to watch it or

1020
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:37,960
Speaker 3: if he did it in silence or he poured it

1021
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:39,839
Speaker 3: from a cup like well.

1022
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,320
Speaker 1: I think it was probably a kink because you know

1023
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 1: the grinks was freaks. No, you wished me in Egypt

1024
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:44,400
Speaker 1: not Greece.

1025
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:48,040
Speaker 4: Well all of them A good question. They also the

1026
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 4: jar directly, like.

1027
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:52,719
Speaker 1: Did he have to nut immediately? Or did was it

1028
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 1: just his ferm? That was maybe everybody watched it.

1029
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 3: No, he said it he was expected to ejaculate into

1030
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 3: the nile, So I feel like he had to nut

1031
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 3: into the river. This is crazy, y'all. Okay, So northern

1032
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,880
Speaker 3: Celtic tribes, how do we get here? For the fertility

1033
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:14,360
Speaker 3: of this Bonfires and beltane orgies were common. People believe

1034
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 3: sex during these rituals would ensure abundant crops and healthy livestock.

1035
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 1: So basically they threw a whole orgy.

1036
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 3: Where people assumed that during this moment, as we're having

1037
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 3: sex and essentially everything around us would be fertile, so

1038
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 3: the livestock would grow, plants would grow, and that I

1039
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 3: would inseminate you at the same time, because we're in

1040
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 3: belief that this is corn.

1041
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

1042
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 2: I wonder if there's something that they used to do

1043
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 2: with taste. Just imagine you're like, hey, how do I

1044
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 2: know if my seaman's any good? If it's salty, it's this.

1045
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 2: If it's sweet, it's this. How do you know what

1046
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,920
Speaker 2: healthy semen was back then? It can't just be consistency.

1047
00:49:58,160 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 1: You probably had to eat it.

1048
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:03,399
Speaker 3: I'll say my thoughts, My thoughts on that is that

1049
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 3: nut consistency. While yes, there's healthy and unhealthy, I do

1050
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,840
Speaker 3: also think it's subjective of what's healthy.

1051
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 1: No, no, no, of.

1052
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 2: What someone back then would assume it to be, because

1053
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 2: it would be based on what you enjoy.

1054
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: I know people like different nuts like you do. I

1055
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:22,919
Speaker 1: like different nuts.

1056
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 3: I think i'll guarantee you since you like bukaki and

1057
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:28,600
Speaker 3: shit like it and cream pies, the consistency and weigh

1058
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:30,759
Speaker 3: in which you like nut is probably different than I

1059
00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:31,239
Speaker 3: like nut.

1060
00:50:31,400 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 1: And this is y'all getting horrible decisions at this point.

1061
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 3: But I think we're late enough into the shel to like,

1062
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:39,359
Speaker 3: what is your your choice of not consistency? Okay, so

1063
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 3: let's talk about Wait, we might ask you what your

1064
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 3: nut consistency is.

1065
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's I like a volume shooter or I like

1066
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:49,879
Speaker 2: a drip down shoot. Sometimes I like it to shoot

1067
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: right up and then it just drips down the dick.

1068
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 1: Okay.

1069
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 2: I like to see it go from super thick white

1070
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:58,359
Speaker 2: to get runny a little bit, and then if I

1071
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,360
Speaker 2: pick it up to eat it, I like to be

1072
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:01,439
Speaker 2: able to still see the white.

1073
00:51:01,440 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: Don't clear up too quick. I still need white see.

1074
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:07,480
Speaker 1: Not that I'm racist. I ain't gonna hold you.

1075
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 3: I I like just enough nut to where I feel it.

1076
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 2: But no, I don't like a lot of nut. I

1077
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 2: like one moment. I like just enough to be like, ooh,

1078
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 2: you can't. I don't like volume. I don't want it

1079
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:26,280
Speaker 2: to be like a puddle.

1080
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:26,720
Speaker 1: I don't.

1081
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 2: I also don't like it too thick. I like it

1082
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 2: to kind of be like, like, what's.

1083
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:33,560
Speaker 1: The point in a little bit of squirt? Might as

1084
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 1: well pee? No, that's how I feel. Might as well

1085
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 1: nut cool?

1086
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 3: So to me the law, I like it, And I

1087
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:42,879
Speaker 3: also like it clear anything white, maybe because I associated

1088
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 3: with a yeast infection and I know it's not the same.

1089
00:51:45,680 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 3: I don't like super white shit like even okay, you

1090
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 3: know I watch gay porn.

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Speaker 1: You want clear nuts? Oh, I'm not gonna lie when

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Speaker 1: I watch gay porn.

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Speaker 2: If there's too much white stuff coming out the asshole

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00:51:57,480 --> 00:52:00,760
Speaker 2: onto the dick, I'm like, oh, it's too mess isy, yucky.

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Speaker 1: Don't know why it's so much white sulk, because that's

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Speaker 1: the louver colored to make a hunt. I don't like it,

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Speaker 1: so I won't.

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Speaker 3: I will turn off a video if if the dick

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Speaker 3: turns white from this.

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Speaker 1: Well, now that we've taken you to Egypt, everything we should,

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Speaker 1: I don't like it. No, no, no, no, no, hold on,

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Speaker 1: hold up, let me finish, Let me finish. I have

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Speaker 1: two more places.

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Speaker 3: So Japan Shinto tradition phallic festivals, y'all know, phallic means

1105
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:31,839
Speaker 3: penis or penis like shapes like Kanamara Matsuri celebrated fertility

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Speaker 3: with giant penis shaped floats.

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Speaker 1: By the way, y'all, this is still celebrated today.

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Speaker 3: I've not been to Japan yet, and I think for

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Speaker 3: research purposes, maybe the businessness can cover half of my trip.

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Speaker 1: Since it's for research, I'd.

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Speaker 3: Love to go be able to film these giant penis

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Speaker 3: shape floats. Last one in West Africa and Yoruba religion

1113
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 3: Yoroba Thank you, Aba, fertility dances and offerings to Osha,

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Speaker 3: Goddess of Love and fertility.

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Speaker 1: I'm a hotel though, don't you know.

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Speaker 3: By the way, they continue still today in Nigeria and

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Speaker 3: diaspora communities, but there are still fertility dances and offerings

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Speaker 3: to this goddess as a way to.

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Speaker 1: It's afrobast basically that hope.

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Speaker 3: These rituals made fertility communal joyful and spiritual, with women

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Speaker 3: often seen as life bringers rather than passive vessels. So

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Speaker 3: they celebrated the female bodies, their ability to carry the

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Speaker 3: acknowledgment that there was a womb there that brought life

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Speaker 3: women is not just things to bend over and fuck.

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Speaker 1: And get your net off.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, so that is the history of fertility in

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Speaker 3: some of the rituals that have been used over time.

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Speaker 2: Well, I will make sure to try my fertility dance

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