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Speaker 1: First Day follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Because it's Christmas time, we're counting down the twelve first

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Speaker 2: day follow ups of Christmas has voted on by you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we countdown all the way to the number one first

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Speaker 2: day follow up that you voted on. Shane is on

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Speaker 2: the phone today for our first date follow up, and

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Speaker 2: he's getting ghosted by a girl named Carolina. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we're gonna call her and see if

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Speaker 2: she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get

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Speaker 2: him another date. But first, Shane, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from her?

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Speaker 3: It's been probably like three weeks?

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Speaker 4: Okay, have you reached out to her in that.

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Speaker 3: Time, Yeah, like maybe four or five times.

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Speaker 5: That is a definite ghosting.

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Speaker 6: So I don't think that's why he's tell him that

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Speaker 6: he knows tell us about your day.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Shane.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I actually met her on Instagram. She just

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Speaker 3: slid my DMS and apparently we'd gone with the same

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Speaker 3: college together, but I didn't know her while we were

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Speaker 3: both there. But we chatted for probably a few weeks,

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Speaker 3: and then we met up at this bar. It had

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Speaker 3: arcade games in it. We played Papa Shaw and ski

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Speaker 3: ball and stuff. It was cute. What really attracted me

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Speaker 3: to her was that she was competitive about it. You know,

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Speaker 3: I love that and a girl. But we did that,

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Speaker 3: had some drinks, had some snacks, and it was a

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Speaker 3: great time. Like a lot of floriding, a lot of

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Speaker 3: touching going on. We talked endlessly, we laughed like it

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Speaker 3: really seemed like perfect date. Yeah, I mean, the only

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Speaker 3: thing that I can think of is that we both

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Speaker 3: ubered there, and then after the date we both went

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Speaker 3: in our respective ubers now. But before that, she pulled

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Speaker 3: me into the alley and we made out like pretty intensely,

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Speaker 3: and it escalated into like this weird dirty talk. I mean,

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Speaker 3: she told me to tell her that I was a

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Speaker 3: piece what she Yeah, she made me do this little

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Speaker 3: strip tease and she was filming this and.

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Speaker 4: We were okay with that.

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Speaker 3: It was weird, but something about it was kind of hot,

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Speaker 3: like I was kind of into it. She kept asking

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Speaker 3: me if I wanted more, and obviously I said yes,

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Speaker 3: And then on a dime, it just completely.

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Speaker 6: Stopped because your cars came or just all of a sudden,

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Speaker 6: She's like okay, I'm done now.

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Speaker 3: No, it's like the switch was just turned off, and

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Speaker 3: she thanked me for the night. She gave me one

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Speaker 3: more kiss, and then she asked me if I knew

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Speaker 3: what I did, and I didn't know how to answer that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know if it was some kind

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Speaker 3: of like kinky build up thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that was it.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that was the That was the last time I.

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Speaker 5: Talked to her, So, you know, you did something, he

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Speaker 5: did a strip tease.

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Speaker 4: Maybe I did something to her.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I have no idea. It was so bizarre.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, and you've texted her and she said nothing

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Speaker 5: to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 4: I was just so invested.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, what was like the last thing you did

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Speaker 2: before she just stopped.

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Speaker 3: I mean I think I just you know, said I

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Speaker 3: like to see her again, and I had a great time.

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Speaker 3: You had the usual end of day small talk.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean, like when you was a naughty

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Speaker 2: little boy, well transition, Yeah, Like was there something that

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Speaker 2: you did when she was like, okay, I'm done.

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Speaker 4: Like pull your pants up, proclaim.

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Speaker 3: No. The way that she actually it didn't seem like

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Speaker 3: she was reacting to something that I did. It just

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Speaker 3: no idea why right.

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Speaker 2: In the middle of your first date follow up? If

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Speaker 2: you're just joining us. Shane is on the phone, and

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Speaker 2: Shane is getting hosted by Carolina. So we're about to

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Speaker 2: call her and see if just alice why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But first, Shane, why

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Speaker 2: don't you catch everybody up on your date with Carolina?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So in our on Instagram we went out, had

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Speaker 3: a great time in Arcade bar. Afterwards she had me

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Speaker 3: I was pretty into it, and then she just suddenly

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Speaker 5: Okay, are you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 4: I would want to know what I'm ready?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, here we go.

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Speaker 4: She will go laugh.

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Speaker 7: Sorry, Hi, Hey, Hey is this Carolina?

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Speaker 2: H Yeah, this is the Jewbil Show. It's a radio show.

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbul.

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Speaker 5: How are you Hi?

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Speaker 4: Am Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Do you listen to the show?

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Speaker 3: I I do?

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Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, do you have any idea why we're calling

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Speaker 2: you today?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 1: No, not really.

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Speaker 5: Okay, have you heard a first date follow up? Before.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, yeah, well that's why we're calling you.

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Speaker 2: We got an email about you from somebody that you're ghosting. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: his name is Shane.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 5: Really yeah.

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Speaker 2: Shane emailed us and told us about your date and

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Speaker 2: he said it's been three weeks since he heard from you,

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Speaker 2: and he wants to know if you'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting him.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, I am ghosting him because I got what

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Speaker 1: I want from him. It wasn't Oh my god, I

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Speaker 1: can't believe you actually called you. It wasn't. It like,

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Speaker 1: was not a real date.

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Speaker 5: Fore, it wasn't a real date.

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Speaker 4: What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So I was literally just on Instagram. You probably

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Speaker 1: told you that that's how we met, But I was

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Speaker 1: and I saw himma, and I recognized him because he

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Speaker 1: screwed over my sister in college.

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Speaker 5: Oh how so.

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Speaker 1: My older sister, Elena and him were together and he

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Speaker 1: was totaled, just sleeping with anything that moved, just mind her,

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Speaker 1: making empty promises and all this crap. And she was so,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I've never seen her more heartbroken. It

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Speaker 1: was ridiculous.

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Speaker 4: This was in college.

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Speaker 1: Mm hm.

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Speaker 2: So you saw him on Instagram and set up a

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Speaker 2: date with him to get revenge.

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Speaker 5: Yes, Oh, so.

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Speaker 6: He never met you when he was dating your sister,

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Speaker 6: Like he had no clue who you were.

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Speaker 1: No, No, I said that. I told him that we

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Speaker 1: went to college together. He just went to college with

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Speaker 1: my sister. And I wasn't even like in the picture.

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Speaker 1: But I mean he believed it. I guess he believed

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Speaker 1: what he wanted to believe that a girl would want

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Speaker 1: to go out with him.

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Speaker 4: And girl, Okay, does your sister know that you did this?

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Speaker 1: She knows now, she didn't know before the fact, but

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Speaker 1: I wanted to give it to her kind of like

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Speaker 1: a surprise because she's like fine now, I mean she's

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Speaker 1: over him because she's garbage. But I and I wasn't

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Speaker 1: even thinking about it. I just saw him on Instagram

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Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, I have to

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Speaker 2: So is that why you filmed him doing all kinds

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Speaker 2: of weird things in an alley?

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Speaker 6: Like which part is revenge? Because it sounded kind of hot.

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Speaker 1: He definitely seemed to think that it was because he

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Speaker 1: was really into it, but I that was for Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was for the wrench. I showed my sister the

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Speaker 1: video and we were cracking up about it. It was

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Speaker 1: so freaking funny mm hmmm, and him saying I wanted

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Speaker 1: to make sure that I made him say that he

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Speaker 1: was a piece of.

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Speaker 3: Because he.

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Speaker 5: Thought that that was okay. He thought you were like

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Speaker 5: you know, that was your thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like the grade him or whatever.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, the next time someone pulls out their cell

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Speaker 2: phone in an alley and wants to film me doing

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Speaker 2: weird things, I'm gonna question it.

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Speaker 5: Twice made it.

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Speaker 1: He made it so easy.

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Speaker 4: He made it so easy.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for being honest with us. Karlina. Shane is

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Speaker 5: actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, seriously, I honestly I can't believe what

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Speaker 1: I'm hearing.

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Speaker 3: Are you serious?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: It's uh after like, do you just not really want

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Speaker 1: to talk after what you did to my sister? This

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Speaker 1: is just like if you heard someone I love like, like.

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Speaker 5: Seriously, that was years ago.

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Speaker 3: You are seriously crazy for doing.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're the one who would do whatever

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Speaker 1: a girl tells you in an alley, So I don't

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Speaker 1: really know, Like whatever.

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Speaker 3: You talk, I was in college, Like I'm a completely

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Speaker 2: You are.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely psychotic Okay, seriously, you're gonna record me like that?

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Speaker 3: Who else has seen this video?

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Speaker 1: Ja? Oh my god, literally read this Me and my

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Speaker 1: sister calmed down.

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Speaker 3: Why should I believe you? No, honestly, Carolin, I should

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, oh my god, please always overreacting literally like,

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Speaker 1: chill the f out?

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Speaker 3: What do you? You don't even know me?

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Speaker 1: No, I know what you're like, I know you did out.

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Speaker 3: How should I react to this?

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is insane. It's insane what you did.

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Speaker 1: You don't check people like that, you have.

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Speaker 3: Like, oh my god, absolutely, sever.

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Speaker 1: Man, it's just calm and it's just coming back around.

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Speaker 1: You just can't handle it.

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Speaker 3: Go yeah, sure, sure, Wow you're real. I really missed out.

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Speaker 1: Huh Yeah, I mean I guess you did. You're having fun.

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Speaker 1: You're the one who did all who was so willing

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Speaker 1: to do all this stuff in the alley with me,

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Speaker 1: Like you didn't take any convincing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I thought I was on a real date

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Speaker 3: and it turns you're doing a revenge on me. It's

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Speaker 3: just absolutely crazy.

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Speaker 1: Whatever. You just can't you just can't take it. Don't

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Speaker 1: dis it happen if you can't take it. Look Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, I'm gonna delete it anyway. I already said

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Speaker 1: my sister, and I'm gonna delete it after I show

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Speaker 1: one of my coworkers.

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Speaker 3: You'll be hearing from me, okay, getting legal advice about this.

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Speaker 3: I'm serious. I'm dead serious.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll hear from me on Instagram.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you can do anything, though, What does you say?

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Speaker 6: I willingly did a strip teeth and now it's public?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm sorry, Shane. I know that sucks on both sides.

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Speaker 6: I don't know what to say.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I guess I wont to net to video.

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Speaker 1: Then I'll just puld on to it and tase I

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Speaker 1: need to show it in court and we'll just entertain

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Speaker 1: me until then.

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Speaker 4: Yikes.

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Speaker 5: Well, Caroline, would you like another date with Shane? We'll

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Speaker 5: pay for it.

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Speaker 1: If you're paying for it, I'll just record him doing

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Speaker 1: more stupid stuff. That's fine me.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna hear from my lawyer.

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Speaker 1: Okay, cool.

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Speaker 3: You know what, I'm glad I cheated on your sister.

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Speaker 5: Oh is that the second date for you guys?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? No way in hell?

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Speaker 1: Yeah I don't think so. He obviously doesn't learn from

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Speaker 1: his mistakes, all right them? Bye, then stripper Boy Jubile's

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Speaker 1: first date follow up