WEBVTT - 365 Days Later... 0:00:02.279 --> 0:00:07.560 Welcome everyone to a very special edition of and TJ. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:12.920 It is over recording this December fifth, and that is 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:16.160 a very special day for us. It is our one 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:22.840 year anniversary for the podcast. We'll take. We'll take what 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:25.520 we can get and we used. 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:27.440 To do back in the day. It's just a slow class, slow. 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:30.440 Class, right. Yeah, that's ye powerful. 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:35.160 Meaningful anniversary. Wow. We have so many anniversaries we can't yeah, 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:38.040 we can't keep them straight. But this is a can't 0:00:38.040 --> 0:00:40.279 believe we're sitting here a year later. I'm not I'm 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:42.960 not saying I can't believe we made it a year 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:46.199 during the podcast, but I couldn't imagine I would ever 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:48.479 have a one year anniversary of a podcast. That's not 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:52.000 something that was in my mind not too terribly long ago. 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:54.680 So it's it's it's kind of incredible. And it's been 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:55.319 a hell of a year. 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.920 Yeah, and I know that, you know, but and anyone 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:03.440 who knows me knows I am a big believer in celebrating, 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:07.679 in celebrating anniversaries and birthdays, because these are the moments 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:12.560 where we can not only feel good about where we are, 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:15.520 but reflect back on how far we've come. And I 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:17.880 think that's what I wanted to do just for a 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:20.520 little bit today. I also wanted to point out we 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:23.480 on social media, on our on our social media page, 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:26.760 asked all of you to send in your questions and 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:30.399 we are going to be answering your questions in just 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:33.720 a bit. Andy, how many questions do we get. 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:38.280 You guys got I would say at least I have 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:39.679 fifty questions at least right here. 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:41.400 Oh wow, that's a lot of questions. And those were 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:43.920 curated questions. We haven't seen them, by the way, but 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.679 we can't wait to answer what is on your mind. 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.960 But we wanted to share a little bit about what's 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:51.480 on our minds on this day. First. And you know, 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:54.480 I was thinking about starting over, and I was looking 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:58.000 up starting over in your forties and fifties, and so 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:00.960 many people, maybe some of you listening, have had to 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:03.360 do that or maybe will have to do it. And 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.960 anytime you have to start over, it's a daunting task. 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:11.000 And I think back to last December fifth, and there 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:14.799 were tears, there were fears. I was scared and excited 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.200 all at once. Do you remember how you feel or. 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:24.040 Felt December fifth of last year. I was frustrated, I 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:31.800 was pissed, I was nervous. That became fear later, But 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.359 it wasn't a celebratory a day at the time, because 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.360 we learned that they are still forces out there who 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:39.440 are after us no matter what we do, and our 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:43.359 success and our joy and our happiness and our future 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:47.400 is threatening and upsetting to some people. So that was 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:50.040 a big day for us a year ago, and others 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:53.160 chose to try to attack us on that day. Even so, 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.359 that's my honest answer. I was I and that's how 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:57.480 I was that day, and that was all kinds. We 0:02:57.560 --> 0:03:02.440 had family stuff going on because of it. That was 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:05.799 some ugliness on December fifth last year, and nobody will 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:08.840 ever know, and we will never reveal, but it was 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:11.040 a difficult day, a very difficult day, and it shouldn't 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:11.280 have been. 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:15.640 You know what, I don't know how I forgot about 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.079 all of that, but you're right, that marked so much 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:22.079 of the day, and I do believe looking back, and 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:25.440 we have had plenty of tough days in between, and 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:28.720 we still will have plenty of tough days going forward. 0:03:29.360 --> 0:03:32.360 But it's what you learn along the way about what 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:35.880 you're made of and how you get through these things, 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:41.240 how we get through it together, which is challenging in moments, 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:44.400 but it's what brings us together in the end. And 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:48.320 I think, gosh, going through darkness gives you the perspective 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.560 of how great it feels to be in the light, 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.720 to be in the sunshine. And when you have those moments, 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:57.040 man lean into them, celebrate them. But I remember once 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.640 we got the first podcast launched on December fifth, then 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:02.240 became the real challenge of Okay, we're gonna have one 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:06.360 podcast a week. What do listeners want to hear from us? 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.800 What do we want to share with listeners? What is 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:12.440 our lane? Is it news? Is it interviews? Is it 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.160 personal insight? You know, we had all of these questions 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:19.240 swirling around, and we struggled initially with just coming up 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:23.360 with one podcast a week. Remember staring at each other 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:28.000 with our computers up at your dining room table, trying 0:04:28.040 --> 0:04:30.360 to come up with ideas and feeling like we didn't 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:32.120 know what we were doing because we didn't know what 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:32.560 we were doing. 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:35.520 Well, I question still if we have any frickin' idea 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:39.400 what we're doing. But this was a learn We are 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:44.440 very adept at broadcasting. We are trained, we are seasoned. 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.400 Right with those resumes, you can put us in front 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:51.280 of a microphone, and we know what to do. If 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:54.440 this was a case where we didn't actually know what 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:56.839 to do before getting to the microphone, and then to 0:04:56.920 --> 0:05:00.440 some degree, we didn't know how comfortable to get on 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:02.480 the microphone. We didn't know how. I can give you 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:05.920 a hard time all the time about getting into broadcast modes, 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:08.080 but this is one place you cannot do that, and 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:09.919 we've experienced that as well. And we learned that in 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:13.400 conversations we've had in this very studio that wow, there's 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.560 a warmth here, there's an energy here. We got something 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.520 out of this interviewee that we never would have gotten 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:21.400 in a studio at a network. So there was a 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:26.320 huge learning curve and I am very much comfortable now. 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:28.280 But you talked about we struggled with one a week, 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:30.479 and now we're up to god knows how many. 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:34.720 Well, we're doing at least six a week, sometimes eight, 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:37.119 and even this week because we're taping a few ahead 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:39.159 of time, I think we're going to be doing nine 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:42.840 podcasts this week. So that makes me smile and laugh 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:46.360 and also want to go take a nap. What a 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:48.960 difference in your makes one a week seemed like a 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:52.760 daunting task, and now we're just churning out sometimes nine 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:53.039 a week. 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:56.360 But again, not too long ago, we were wondering. We 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:59.719 were sitting around wondering when we would have anything to do. Again, 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.920 we're longing for some like, Wow, nobody's gonna want to 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:05.880 work with us, so what are we going to do next? 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:09.000 We had those questions, and now it seems I know 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:10.880 where you're coming from, obviously because I'm right next to 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:13.200 you through it. But it seems odd to complain a 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:14.719 single bit about being busy. 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.919 Oh please, I'm with you. I'm with you. I you 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:20.719 and I both said this from the beginning. Give us work, 0:06:21.279 --> 0:06:24.120 Let's be busy. That's where we feel our strongest. But 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:27.000 I will say, and this is honest, I have not 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:30.560 worked this hard since I was in my twenties and thirties, 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:34.800 early on in my career, trying to prove myself, trying 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.159 to work my way up the ladder up to network news. 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:40.559 And so in a way, we are doing that again. 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:42.400 No, I've always worked this hard. 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.599 You did work harder than I did. It can work, 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:49.240 But you know, for me, I had gotten to a 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.760 place where I knew exactly what I needed to do, 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:53.360 and it wasn't just goodbye. 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:55.720 I'm kidding, I'm sorry. I'm actually thrive. 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.360 I know, I know, but I would say that now 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:02.400 there was this new feeling of having to reprove myself. 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:04.400 I can only speak for me, but I felt. 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:06.880 That and still do, which is always a mistake. Exactly 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:09.240 And when was the last time I gave you that line? 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:10.400 Probably earlier today? 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:13.880 That line you talked about it when I looked at 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.240 you and I said, you have nothing to prove. 0:07:19.160 --> 0:07:21.960 You said that to me in the marathon when I 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:25.880 was very upset at feeling weak and sick and not 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:29.800 feeling strong and was worried about my time and worried 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:30.840 about ruining your time. 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.040 Nothing to prove to anybody. 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:35.160 And that made my shoulders relax. On this podcast, either, 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:37.680 can you remind me of that daily? Because that would help. 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:38.840 I nothing improved. 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:42.280 I do feel like that still, for sure, because. 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:43.600 Well, where does that come from? I mean, what did 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:46.680 your mom do to you early on in life that 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:47.560 got you? 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:51.760 He says that because just full disclosure here, my mom 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:54.559 and dad are actually visiting this week and my mom's 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:56.320 in the studio with us, so that was a little 0:07:56.640 --> 0:08:01.960 a little fun Pope at Mama Roeboch. No, I didn't 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:05.920 feel that way until we went through what we went through, 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:08.280 and then you feel like you have to rebuild something 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:11.920 or you have to restart something, and we did, and 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:16.080 with that came this feeling of having to reprove I 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:20.160 don't know, not just professional worth, but personal worth. And 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.440 on a personal side, I think back to a year 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:26.320 ago and where we were, and that's phenomenal. We weren't. 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:30.320 We didn't spend Thanksgiving together, we didn't spend Christmas Eve 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.280 and Christmas Morning together because we were being respectful of 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:37.240 where our families were. But this year we were together, 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:40.080 all of us waking up in Thanksgiving morning, and that's 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.800 the plan for Christmas as well. And that is a 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:48.400 remarkable thing. And I learned I'm learning still always to 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:53.400 be more patient. I wanted people to meet me where 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:56.760 I was, instead of me being willing to meet them 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:59.960 where they were, and so being patient and letting people 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:05.320 find their way and accepting where they are. That's a 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:08.920 huge part of the process that I learned that I 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.600 know intellectually, but to actually put it into practice as 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:13.199 a whole other thing. And yes, I'm hungry. I don't 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:14.240 know if you can hear my stummach. 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:17.920 You'll hear her stuff that was loud enough that it 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:23.840 might have picked up to go buy it back and checks. Right, 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.560 she's going through this whole thing. That's soliloquy. Let me 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:27.480 tell you about a life. 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:35.720 You know it's and it's not to say we don't 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:38.800 have tough days. Still, we still have tough days. Everyone 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:40.960 out there, I think, if they're being honest, is having 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:44.200 tough days with their own selves and their relationships and 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:47.320 what's going on at work. But my thing that I've 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:52.160 been trying to do is I'm forcing myself to quiet 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:55.280 my mind when it starts thinking too much about the outcomes. 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:59.959 And that's my biggest problem, the outcome of this part, 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:04.200 the outcome of our relationship, that can really send you 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.720 into a mind spiral that isn't healthy. And so the 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.920 point is to focus on the present moment, right. 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:13.880 I've learned that and had to put that in practice. 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.839 But it's it's really so they call it stop and 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:20.000 smell the roses. If you whatever is going on in 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.680 your life and your world, if you just stop and 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:25.080 just look, make eye contact with the person in front 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.400 of you and just listen to what they're saying. Just 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:30.960 be in the moment, you amazed at how just everything 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:34.439 else this life is just stay where you are it is. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.120 It's a hard thing to do. It's the easiest thing 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:39.760 in the world to do. It sounds like, but it's 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:42.880 it's very difficult. But I've been practicing that for a while. 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:44.960 I think I got that from you originally one of 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:47.520 the books. Yeah, I mean you probably gave me early 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:50.920 on with either Michael Singer or Ekar Totley or one 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:53.520 of those guys. But but yeah, stand in the moment. 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:58.079 Yeah, and just the outcome is not ever what you're 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:00.440 gonna think it's gonna be anyway, So trying to prepare 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:03.480 for it or manipulate it so that you can get 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:06.360 what you want it doesn't ever work. But it's interesting. 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:10.720 I was looking up today, like I said, starting over 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:13.559 and gaining wisdom from having to start over, because a 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:15.760 lot of times people don't start over because they want to, 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:20.920 it's because they have to. And that certainly was our story. 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:23.680 And I found the story and I want to read 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:28.800 it to you because I found this to be so beautiful. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:34.840 This was on a reddit, like some reddit I guess, 0:11:35.120 --> 0:11:37.719 I don't know that I found and I just thought 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:40.720 it was such a cool story. Once a long time ago, 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:44.600 there was a wise zen master. People from far and 0:11:44.640 --> 0:11:47.520 near would seek his counsel and ask for his wisdom. 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.520 Many would come and ask him to teach them, enlighten 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.920 them in the way of Zen. He seldom turned anyone away. 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:56.800 One day, an important man, a man used to command 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.400 and obedience, came to visit the master, and he said, 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.320 I have come to to ask you to teach me 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:05.680 about Zen, Open my mind to enlightenment. The tone of 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:09.559 the important man's voice was used, was one used to 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:12.560 getting his own way. The zen master smiled and said 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.000 that they should discuss the matter over a cup of tea. 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.160 When the tea was served, the master poured his visitor 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.280 a cup. He poured, and he poured, and the tea 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:23.560 rose to the rim and began to spill over the 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:27.520 table and finally onto the robes of the wealthy man. Finally, 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:31.480 the visitor shouted, enough, you are spilling the tea all over. 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:35.360 Can't you see the cup is full. The master stopped 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:38.880 pouring and smiled at his guest. You are like this 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:42.440 tea cup, so full that nothing more can be added. 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:45.200 Come back to me when the cup is empty, come 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:48.760 back to me with an empty mind. And that to 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:55.760 me was such a beautiful way of putting out there 0:12:55.840 --> 0:13:00.800 that losing something, or even losing everything, actually can give 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.440 you a fresh start. And when I was looking at 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:06.640 these Reddit threads, someone talked about the story and talked 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:09.720 about their journey of having to start over, and he said, 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:13.160 my most important advice is empty your cup, leave your 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:17.319 ego behind, and be open to learning from and collaborating 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:21.200 with people half your age sometimes, but fill that cup 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.680 with new experiences. And he said, this is difficult. It 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:28.560 requires grit, determination, humility, and coping skills. And I have 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:35.559 learned more about myself this year than I have any 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:43.240 other year of my life, which is that I valued 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:49.240 things about myself that were fleeting, that were from outside sources, 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:53.040 that were about what I did or what I accomplished 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:56.880 versus who I am and how I treat people and 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:00.160 how I treat myself. And I had to admit that, 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:03.920 and that was hard. And now you have to learn 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:07.439 from it and grow from it and get excited about 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:14.360 this new chapter where you actually can value relationships with 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:17.440 yourself and with others above all else, because all that 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:19.720 other stuff that you were valuing all that other stuff 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:23.160 that you believed made you important or who you were 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:26.080 or created your worth. It all went away. And when 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:29.920 it all goes away, you're forced to actually just re 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:31.960 examine everything. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.760 Well, it keeps us from taking that examination before it's 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:37.200 taken from you. Isn't that the point is and that 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:39.480 the hope right, You shouldn't have to have it taken 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.320 away before you realize this isn't what you need or 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.360 want or your identity in the first place. 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:46.960 Well, it's funny because, as you point out, I have 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:49.240 been reading these books over the years. I was doing 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:51.640 the work, so I thought. But it's very easy to 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:53.520 do the work when you're coming from a place of 0:14:54.320 --> 0:14:58.000 empowerment or coming from a place of feeling like you're successful. 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:00.920 So it's easy to say, oh, right, But then when 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:03.760 actually the bottom drops out and then you actually have 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.400 to put all that into practice, it's another story. It 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:06.840 was for me. 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:22.200 Welcome back everybody to Amy and Tjr. And your anniversary 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:25.800 episode one year anniversary of this podcast. We launched it 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:27.040 a year ago, can you believe it? 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:27.200 So? 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:29.840 I think we started off. Within the first few podcasts 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:33.160 we had people ask us questions, so we had you 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:35.240 will send us some more. And they've been coming in 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:38.520 and our super producer Andy has curated a list for us. 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:40.880 It's gotten it down to fifty. Now we don't think 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.880 we're gonna get through all of the fifty. Well, it 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.040 depends if they rabbit fire. But Annie, you tell us 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:49.520 if you gave I they have names attached to them. 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.520 By all means let us know, but less far away. 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:53.200 All right. 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:56.440 The first question is a really nice one. It's very simple. 0:15:57.120 --> 0:16:01.360 Maybe it's not once you start answering, it's how are 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:02.240 you guys doing? 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.840 I would say good, but it depends on the day, 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:14.040 you know, And we're doing better. And I feel like 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:17.720 we are doing the work, because when you're in a 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:21.880 relationship it requires work. And I see us rolling up 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:25.240 our sleeves and sticking together and trying to figure this 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:27.840 out and wanting to get it right. And why, you know, 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:30.080 TJ is my best friend and he has been for 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:34.520 a long time, and that is always for me, the 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.480 best foundation to start from. And so I feel really 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.760 good about where we are and I think we're going 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:42.320 to get even better. 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:45.880 Well that was that was a daunting answer. 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:47.720 That was an honest answer. 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:51.880 Well, I didn't there was some, Uh, well, we are 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.360 apparently not doing as well as I thought after hearing 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:58.720 that response, But the how are you guys doing? I 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:02.720 would first answer, I'm happy and healthier than ever, and 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:08.240 that's kind of it. I don't I don't know. I'm 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:10.959 just in a mindset in a place where I appreciate 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:13.360 everything that comes with it's a challenge, it's a blessing. 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.439 Even the challenges are blessings and I get that. So 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:21.560 I don't know. I'm not sleeping well. My ra ring 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:25.600 has confirmed that I'm actually sleeping worse even than I thought, 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:30.040 So I'm trying to deal with that. But I'm doing 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:31.320 well all right. 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:34.880 Next question is what is the significance of the ring 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:39.679 around your neck? This listener says they sense a story. 0:17:40.880 --> 0:17:44.280 I don't know that we're ready to share that, DJ. 0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:48.320 It's around your neck, so I didn't know where I 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:51.040 was gonna let you go first. But but yeah, I 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:53.879 think maybe one day we will. We might reveal. I 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:58.359 think somebody asked that last and we haven't given that 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:02.960 up yet, so well, something will keep sacred. We're gonna 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:03.520 hold onto that one. 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:05.919 It was a nice try that we appreciate it. 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:06.840 I love a tease. 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:07.520 All right. 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:10.320 The next question is will you be on TV soon? 0:18:10.960 --> 0:18:11.280 Yes? 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:18.920 I like that, Yes, we very much, We very much 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:20.479 miss it. Okay. 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:23.760 Next one is t J. How is your achilles doing? 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:28.160 Not great? Oh man, I have a new issue now 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:30.200 with the ligament on top of the foot. The I'm 0:18:30.359 --> 0:18:32.359 but I'm gonna be off of a four to six weeks. 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.400 Doctor told me a lot of people familiar with what 0:18:35.800 --> 0:18:38.000 happened in Chicago couldn't finish that race because of an 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:40.800 achilles And now I have a possible torn ligament in 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:44.120 my foot, so not running for up to six weeks, 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:47.320 wearing a brace everywhere I go, and so I'm on 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:51.919 the mint but not running. Okay. 0:18:52.119 --> 0:18:55.200 Next question is who would you want to be with 0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:56.959 on a stranded island? 0:18:57.440 --> 0:18:58.959 Who would I want to be with on a stranded 0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:02.200 island or read it, on a deserted island? Okay, there 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:04.280 we go. Uh duh, TJ. 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:07.159 No, I'm trying to think of another and like, who 0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:11.320 would I prefer to be with? And now no, no, no, no, 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:13.280 I'm trying to I'm digging here. 0:19:14.359 --> 0:19:16.520 Maybe like your three favorite people, so this way, Amy's 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:16.840 one of them? 0:19:16.960 --> 0:19:21.400 No? Thanks? Is this because of the way I answered the. 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:24.119 First question Obviously it's you. Obviously it's you. I'm just 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:26.720 trying to it's such an obvious answer that I'm trying 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:29.600 to think of what anything else come up? And I 0:19:29.600 --> 0:19:33.359 don't think so. So I get along with better than you. 0:19:34.800 --> 0:19:36.920 And I wouldn't want Sabine to be out there stranded 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:43.280 with me, right. She needs to be in school, all right. 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:45.520 The next question is what is your favorite way to 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:46.760 spend a day off? 0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:53.680 Mmm? Okay, well, I would love to start my day 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:58.520 off with a run. Then I'd love to go to 0:19:58.560 --> 0:20:03.040 the movies with TJ. A horror movie and then have 0:20:03.440 --> 0:20:07.560 a wonderful dinner where we're sitting out sitting at the bar, 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:11.440 belly up and laughing about the movie and what we saw. 0:20:11.520 --> 0:20:13.080 And yeah, just the two of us, that would be 0:20:13.119 --> 0:20:13.879 a perfect day for me. 0:20:14.240 --> 0:20:16.680 You know, I'm trying to take issue with anything in there. 0:20:16.920 --> 0:20:19.840 Maybe I would insert, depending on the time of year, 0:20:20.000 --> 0:20:21.600 an SEC football game. 0:20:22.040 --> 0:20:22.760 That would be great. 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:26.320 Maybe, Yeah, the only other thing I would put in there. 0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:28.359 But we are very chill folks. We don't want to 0:20:28.400 --> 0:20:31.080 run around. We don't even go to a museum. We've 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:35.679 been talking about a museum forever, but we just like 0:20:35.800 --> 0:20:38.840 to be together, just to have good food, have good drinks, 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:44.120 sea good people, and enjoy good weather. That's u awesome. 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:47.880 This next one is what's the craziest thing you've done 0:20:48.080 --> 0:20:49.359 in the name of love? 0:20:49.920 --> 0:20:53.560 In the name of love, I don't know if I've 0:20:53.560 --> 0:20:55.240 ever done anything in the name of love. 0:20:56.520 --> 0:20:58.679 I don't think we've thought what we were doing was crazy. 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:01.439 But clearly choosing each other was probably the craziest thing 0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:04.480 we've done. But that wasn't a choice of doing something crazy. 0:21:04.560 --> 0:21:07.480 It wasn't didn't feel no, it did. 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:07.840 Not at all. 0:21:08.080 --> 0:21:11.560 It was crazy well thought out of love. Man, that's 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:14.600 a tough one. That's gonna take me a minute. In 0:21:14.640 --> 0:21:16.800 the name of the love. 0:21:16.760 --> 0:21:19.879 You could say, if you look at both of our lives, 0:21:19.920 --> 0:21:22.320 that the craziest thing we did was get married to 0:21:22.400 --> 0:21:28.320 twenty three. But I don't know that was in the 0:21:28.400 --> 0:21:33.000 name of friendship, same or duty or obligation. That was 0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:36.160