1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: All right, So before we get to today's Strawberry Letters, Steve, 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:05,600 Speaker 1: we have to send a special shout out to the 3 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:10,559 Speaker 1: operations crew, especially the forklift drivers at the Atlanta Community 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: Food Bank. Guys. Yeah, we have to say thank you. 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: Listen to thank you, thank you, thank you guys for 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: making us number one and listening to magic one oh 7 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: seven five ninety seven five in the eighty l thank you. 8 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:37,880 Speaker 1: M Yeah, for sure, done at all. Electric tomotor driver, 9 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: forklift operator. Wow. They would not let me do it. 10 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: I can see the fox. It's too much. You got 11 00:00:56,760 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: over there. I can see over fourth on the fourth live. 12 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: I can do it. Okay, why ain't let you drive it? 13 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: I don't know. I worked at Compact Computer. You work 14 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: where Compact Computer? Job short court, come to Compact Computer 15 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 1: where we hired little people. All right, guys, time for 16 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter now. But thank you again to the 17 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: the operators, I mean, thank you guys so much, the 18 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: forklip drivers, all of you guys for listening. We appreciate it. 19 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: It is time now for the Strawberry Letter. And if 20 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 21 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and 22 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry letter. We could be reading your letter 23 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 24 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Let's go hold on tight. 25 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here. It is the straw 26 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: letter subject my husband had two affairs and three kids. Whoo, 27 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I have been married for thirteen years 28 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: and six years ago my husband cheated on me and 29 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: had a child by the lady he had an affair with. 30 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: I had a hard time getting past this, but I did. 31 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: We went to counseling, and now I have a sweet stepdaughter. 32 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:36,280 Speaker 1: To spoil that happiness lasted a short period of time, 33 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: because three years later, my husband cheated again. You all 34 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: gotta get ready for this one. He had an affair. 35 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 1: He cheated again, But get ready for this one. Okay, 36 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: get your mind's right. He had an affair with my 37 00:02:52,960 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 1: dad's wife, my stepmom, and he got my stepmom pregnant. 38 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: To get ready, I warned you, you're ready for yes, yes, yes. 39 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: Three years later, after he had had his first affair 40 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 1: and a child and all that, he cheated again. He 41 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: had an affair with my dad's wife, my stepmom and 42 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: he got my stepmom pregnant. All right, wait, wait there's more. 43 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: Wait there's more. Yeah, there's more, Yeah, there's more. She 44 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: had twins. She had twins, and we had no idea 45 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: about the affair until last year. My husband and I 46 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: planned a vacation with my stepdaughter, and my stepmom wanted 47 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: us to take her twins with us. We were all 48 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: on FaceTime a FaceTime call when my stepmom asked us 49 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: to take the twins with us. I told heard that 50 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: three small children would be too hard to handle and 51 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 1: would basically ruin our vacation. She said that my husband 52 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: should want to be with all of his children on vacation. Steve, 53 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 1: how do people think we make these letters up? How? 54 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: Why do they ask us that? No? My husband looked 55 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 1: very nervous and I was confused. My stepmom blurted out 56 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: that the twins are my stepchildren, not my brothers. My 57 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:36,160 Speaker 1: husband moved out of our house that night, and we've 58 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: been separated for almost a year. He was my best 59 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 1: friend since we were twelve years old, and my first everything. 60 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: I love this man, despite how much he has hurt me. 61 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 1: Of course, he wants to come back and swears he's 62 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: got himself together now, but I'm still doubtful. I want 63 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 1: to have children, and I want them to be with 64 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: my husband. I don't want anyone else. I don't have 65 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: low self esteem, and I know I can do better 66 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: than him, but I want him back so badly. Do 67 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: you think I'll ever be able to trust him again? 68 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 1: Or is he a habitual cheater? And I need to 69 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 1: let him go? Okay? You know you already know the 70 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 1: answer to all these questions. Yes, yes, yes, you need 71 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: to let him go, and you know you can do 72 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 1: better than him, but you're still stuck and you're not 73 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 1: doing better than him. You want him back so badly, 74 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: you love him so much, but you can't say the 75 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: same for him. He has cheated on you, he has 76 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 1: had children on you. He has been out there just 77 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:49,159 Speaker 1: wraw no protection. He could have endangered your life. He 78 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:53,239 Speaker 1: did endanger your life, and the way you found out 79 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 1: about the twins is just despicable. In my book, you ask, 80 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,479 Speaker 1: is the trust gone? Yeah, the trust is gone, and 81 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 1: you should be two. You should be gone, okay from this, 82 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:10,479 Speaker 1: this this situation. This man has no respect for you, 83 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: he has no love for you. I don't care what 84 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:16,520 Speaker 1: he says. I don't care. Look what he did with 85 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:21,279 Speaker 1: his with your dad's wife, your step mom. Come on, lady, 86 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: get it together now. You don't need to be in 87 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: this situation. All right, that's it. We're gonna have part 88 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:31,840 Speaker 1: two of the Strawberry Letter coming up. Stevel Uh jump 89 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:36,320 Speaker 1: in here and you're great and give his response. This 90 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 1: is the craziest of crazies. All right. We'll have part 91 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:43,600 Speaker 1: two coming up and Steve's response as well, coming up 92 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour's subject for today 93 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 1: of this Strawberry letter, my husband had two affairs and 94 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 1: three kids. We'll be back right after this. You're listening 95 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: to all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap the Strawberry letter. 96 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: Subject My husband had two affairs and three kids. This 97 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: lord didn't married this man who cheated on her, had 98 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: a child by this lady that he had to fare with. 99 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: Ladies say, she had a hard time getting past it, 100 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: but she did. We went to counseling, and now I 101 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: have a sweet step daughter to spoil. Y'all much have 102 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 1: really been in some good ass counting man. I don't 103 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: know how a sweet stemp daughter to spoil. Kudos to 104 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: your counseling and could we please have their name because 105 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: obviously this person is a miracle worker. Yeah, all right, 106 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: that happened is lasted a short period of time because 107 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: three years later, my dad's wife my note, three years later, 108 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: your husband cheated again. He had an affair with your 109 00:07:56,120 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: daddy's wife, your step mama, whoa, and he got your 110 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: stepmama pregnant. She had twins. And then it was crazy. 111 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: Was y'all had no idea about the fan to last 112 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: year because you and your husband was going on vacation 113 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: with your stepdaughter, that's the one he created outside the marriage, 114 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: and your stepmma wanted us to take her twins with us. 115 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 1: Whoa they probably two or something like that. You don't 116 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:27,160 Speaker 1: want them damn kids with you. I told her that 117 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: three small children be too hard to handle them and 118 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: out of basically ruin our vacation. Wow, well, she said, 119 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 1: your husband ought to want to be with all his 120 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 1: children on vacation. That's how she found out. God, now 121 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 1: her husband is looking very nervous. Devis never sain't the word? Boy, 122 00:08:53,600 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 1: he was looking crazy and I was confused. My step 123 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: mom blurted out. At this point, she said that the 124 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: twins are your step children not your brothers who heartless. 125 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: Your husband moved out your house that night, Well he 126 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 1: had to go. Yeah, you was cussing him out. Now 127 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 1: we've been separated for almost year. He hit a part 128 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:25,199 Speaker 1: where women lose me. He was my best friend since 129 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: we was twelve, and my first everything. I loved this man, 130 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:33,959 Speaker 1: despite how much he has hurt me, no which it 131 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: skipped to hurt you, what he's done to you, how 132 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: he's treated you. Of course he wants to come back 133 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 1: as square as he's got himself together. Now I guess 134 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: he do. He made only damn kids, but I'm still doubtful. 135 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: I want to have children. You already got kids. Stop 136 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: stop saying that one. I want to have children. You 137 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: already got kids, and I want them to be with 138 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: my husband. Well so do other women. They want babies 139 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 1: by your husband too, and they got him at least 140 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:18,840 Speaker 1: we know he furtile. So you you got a chance. 141 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 1: I don't want anyone else. Well he do. And I 142 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 1: don't have low self esteem. What do you call it? Did? 143 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: I call it earthworm esteem? And I know I could 144 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 1: do better than him. Wait a minute, you don't have 145 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 1: lottle self steam. You know you can do better than 146 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: him what you want. Do you think I'll be able 147 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:48,719 Speaker 1: to trust him again? Wait a minute, trust him with 148 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 1: Remember when y'all went to counseling and you ended up 149 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: with a beautiful step daughter to spoil. Remember that that 150 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 1: you trusted him again in right right? And you see 151 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:06,599 Speaker 1: what he did slept with your damn daddy's wife Or 152 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: is he a habitual Cheatah? And I need to let 153 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 1: him go. I don't know if he's an habitual cheater, 154 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: but he do cheat a lot. And he not only cheat, 155 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: he come home whatever this Yeah, he out here making babies. 156 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 1: Oh lord, that's how stupid he is. So lady, I 157 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 1: don't know what you're gonna do. You can stay there 158 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: and run the chance he gonna might have another baby. 159 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: You know, he doesn't do protection, no at all. What 160 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 1: the what the twins supposed to call him brother daddy 161 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 1: because they've been his brother and his daddy right? Well, 162 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. Tell me just so ugly, 163 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: you know, a fair with the baby, that's one thing. 164 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: Then you sleep with this girl's daddy's wife, her stepmother, man, 165 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: And the way she told her that the kids were his? 166 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: That how cold and heartless man, man it is oh 167 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: she was waiting on the moment. Yeah, yeah, because her 168 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: old ass, them twins is wearing her old ass out. 169 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: Take these babies on vacation with you. We are you 170 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 1: taking on them kids? It'll make it a kill our vacation. 171 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: What you mean all them kids? These your kids? These 172 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: is not your brothers. That's that's This might be one 173 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 1: of the craziest ones out of here, I think, I know. Yeah, 174 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: it's definitely in the top This in the top five, 175 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: in the top three. You got a headache? Yeah, oh 176 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: my god. All right, well listen, um, I hope you 177 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:59,679 Speaker 1: get out. 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