1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: We've had an incredible whirl when romance together, but is 2 00:00:04,440 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 1: that enough to sustain our relationship? 3 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:08,960 Speaker 2: All it takes is love, right. 4 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:11,480 Speaker 1: Love can conquer it all. 5 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 2: All break out, yeah, break it all. 6 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 1: And break everything. Post it on the nineteenth of December 7 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 1: twenty thirteen. Wow his perspective. Sit back and grab a 8 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: warm coffee. This is gonna take a bit. I'm a 9 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: recent college grad with a degree in environmental science and GIS. 10 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: I got a job quick after graduating and loved what 11 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:36,599 Speaker 1: I did. However, that love quickly turned to hatred when 12 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:39,919 Speaker 1: I realized ninety percent of what I was doing involved 13 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: computer screens and non human interaction. A huge part of 14 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 1: my identity comes from human to human interaction, so I 15 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: quit and decided to become a bartender instead. I bartended 16 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: it for half a year, saved all the money by 17 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: living as cheaply as possible, and spent all my savings 18 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,639 Speaker 1: on a plane ticket to Berlin with a two month 19 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: year pass. What a life. 20 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 2: That's awesome. 21 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: That sounds great. The trip started off as you would expect, 22 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 1: roaming streets, checking out sites, et cetera. I love Berlin 23 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: and moved on to Amsterdam. Berlin and Amsterdam are great. 24 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: Met one of my best friends here and learned a 25 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: ton from him and keeping an open heart in mind. 26 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: He told me love transcends spicy sleep. It's a feeling 27 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: brimal and untameable. I thought he was insane. I'm one 28 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: of those people that found love to be a commercialized, 29 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: non existent emotion sold to us by media and movies. Wow, 30 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: this guy is like, okay, characteristic Hallmark, busy business guy 31 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: who's like love does it? 32 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 2: He was a business man coming back from the big cities. 33 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 1: He's like, this is all just to sell his consumerism 34 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day. No one is in love anymore. He 35 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: enlightened me and told me the only way to find 36 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: love is to not run from it, to love yourself 37 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: above all else. 38 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 2: I mean that. I think that's true. 39 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: The sky this guy you meant an Amsdam is. 40 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 2: Really kill Probably went on a meditation retreat. 41 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: Yeah. After Amsterdam, I kept moving from Paris, Budapest, Rome, 42 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:21,639 Speaker 1: Naples in parentheses you, Florence, uh Remini, Verona, Beautiful Barcelona, Valencia, 43 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: and finally Granada. By the time I had arrived in Granada, 44 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: things were going well. I had a plethora of experiences 45 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 1: under my belt and had believed I could finally relax 46 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: and enjoy the beautiful small city of Spain. I had 47 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 1: no idea one day this city would become the setting 48 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: for all my dreams and thoughts for the following months, 49 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: maybe years. When I first got there, I instantly made 50 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:48,800 Speaker 1: a large group of friends from across the world in 51 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: my hostel, Oasis Hostile. If you ever in the area, 52 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: highly recommend. These people each had a unique perspective on life. 53 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: Then she came in. I'm sitting at a bar with 54 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:04,519 Speaker 1: my friend talking about something who knows. I look up 55 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 1: and she's standing halfway across the room, face barely lit 56 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: by the lanterns floating nearby on the Hostile porch. I 57 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: sit my Cingria and wonder who that was. It was 58 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: by no means love at first sight. I was just curious. 59 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 1: She sat down by me and we talked a bit. 60 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: She introduces herself as Toamara, in a voice I liked instantly, 61 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: nothing crazy, nothing happening, just a new person to me. 62 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 1: I was as excited as I was about meeting anyone. 63 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: We move on and go to go on atapes tour 64 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 1: organized by the hostel. Everyone groups together and runs across 65 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: the city from bar to bar, drinking sangria and eating 66 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: the food that the free food that comes with it 67 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: a huge perk of Spanish culture. I realized halfway through 68 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 1: the tour that my body had reached its max capacity 69 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: of c angria and had to let them go. I 70 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: run to the bathroom and wait in line. There she 71 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: was waiting in line with me. We make some small 72 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: talk again, but this time something happens. After about five 73 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: minutes of talking, I realized that I didn't want to 74 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: stop talking. I had to keep talking to her. She 75 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: had such a unique and honest opinions that I hadn't 76 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: experienced elsewhere in my travels or at home in the States. 77 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: After we use the bathroom, we're attached. We can't stop 78 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,719 Speaker 1: talking to one another. We finished the tour with a 79 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: great flamenco show and a cave in a cave that's so, 80 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: but we both just want to keep talking to one another. 81 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: So we leave halfway and sit on a brick wall 82 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 1: overlooking the Alambre and a river. 83 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 2: Oh. 84 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 1: We talk more, and at this point I can feel 85 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: something happening. I'm immensely attracted to her, but not just physically. 86 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:51,720 Speaker 1: Something else was happening, something magnetic. I couldn't stop talking 87 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: to her. After Fluenco, we head back to the hostel. 88 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:57,279 Speaker 1: When we get close, I say something along the lines 89 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 1: of I'm really not ready for bed yet. She agrees 90 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: and asks what should we do? 91 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 2: Oh? 92 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: I say, let's get lost, and starts running as fast 93 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: as I possibly can. You start running away from her. 94 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: She runs after me and we try with all our 95 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: might to get lost in the stone streets. After fifteen minutes, 96 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:22,159 Speaker 1: we succeed in our goal. We find ourselves on a 97 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: bench overlooking a castle bathing in full moon. The Sierra 98 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 1: Nevada mountains lurking in the far distance enough to give 99 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 1: you the feeling that this was all an elaborate stage 100 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: designed for a movie. Too good to be real. This 101 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: is too sweet. We sit there and I interrupt her 102 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: non stop talking to ask her if she'd like to 103 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: listen to music. I put on my favorite song, be 104 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:47,720 Speaker 1: Calmed Becomed I don't know by Brian Eno. She never 105 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: heard it. It put us both in a mindset of 106 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: calm and trust. I've known her for two hours, but 107 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: at this point I trust her completely. Something was happening. 108 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: I didn't know what the song finishes, and she takes 109 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: out her fat headphones and looks at me. Oh now 110 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: what she's thinking, And instantly she says, this memory would 111 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 1: be a lot better if you kissed me right. This 112 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:16,160 Speaker 1: is so cute. Her honesty takes me by surprise. I smile, 113 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: shocked and lean in gently. It felt like talking rather 114 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 1: than kissing. It felt natural and real. Usually when I'd 115 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:25,600 Speaker 1: kiss a girl, I would go all out and try 116 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:28,799 Speaker 1: so hard to make it memorable or skilled. I never 117 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: even thought about that. With her, it was a communication. 118 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 1: After that, I was hooked. We spent the night together 119 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: and the next day she left a hike the Sierra 120 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 1: Nevada Mountains. I waited for her to come back, and 121 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: when she did two days later, it felt like it 122 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: had been years one day with her, and I was 123 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 1: already missing her. This is so sweet, I told her, 124 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 1: and she said she felt the same. We decided we 125 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:55,719 Speaker 1: had to go to the Albumbra together. It's the largest 126 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 1: largest castle in Spain in the heart of Granada. The 127 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: next day we run the castle together, running across its 128 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: many gardens and touching the walls with interest and passion. 129 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: There was a point when we were overlooking one of 130 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 1: the most beautiful gardens in the castle. I asked her 131 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: what she thought of it and all, and her response was, 132 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 1: it's all so beautiful, but it's strange because sometimes I 133 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,559 Speaker 1: catch myself focusing on things like your arm touching mine 134 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 1: or the way you look. 135 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 2: Oh, oh, Europe. 136 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: Her honesty again took me aback. I didn't have what Europe? 137 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: Were you going to? 138 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 2: I want that Europe. 139 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: I'm still going to the hostel, I was. Oh, man, 140 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: I'm still not sure if this is a Danish thing 141 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: or just how she is as a person. Something happened 142 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: in that castle where we both just couldn't stop being 143 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: close the entire time. We just fell harder and harder, 144 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:02,160 Speaker 1: something about being surrounded by classic, timeless beauty mixed with 145 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: the Spanish sun. At this point, I believe I experienced 146 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: love for the first time in my life. 147 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:09,239 Speaker 2: Oh how old is Opean? 148 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 1: I don't know. It was unintentional and completely involuntary. It 149 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: just happened. It was a need, not a want or 150 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: an attraction, just a need for that person, and it 151 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: still hasn't gone away. I had my last day in 152 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: Granada and I had to leave for Barcelona, as I 153 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: have already had a train ticket. I asked her to 154 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 1: meet me in Barcelona, and she agreed. Oh no, I'm worried. 155 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: I'm worried. 156 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 3: What do you mean, Dian in Barcelona? 157 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 1: I feel like they're not gonna meet. 158 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:39,079 Speaker 2: In Barcelona, saying that. 159 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: She was only able to get there for one day 160 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: before I had to leave and go to Berlin, so 161 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: we had one day left together. We met up. Okay, 162 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:51,079 Speaker 1: they met up in Barzilia and roamed the street. Our 163 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: love grew immensely with every passing second. We spent hours 164 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: laying on the beach, embracing as tight as we could 165 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:00,679 Speaker 1: and talking about our entire life. I was trying so 166 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: hard to learn as much as possible about one another. 167 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: Before we left, there was a constant, hovering time bomb 168 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: above our heads. We knew this wouldn't last longer than 169 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 1: a day, so we tried as hard as we could 170 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: to hold on as tight as possible to these twenty 171 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:17,319 Speaker 1: four hours we had. Why can it last more than day? 172 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 2: Because she's in wherever she's in, and he's where wherever 173 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:21,559 Speaker 2: he is. 174 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: He's a world apart. No, he's so flexible right now, 175 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 1: he doesn't know. He's not tied down by anything. Cancel 176 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: your trip. Man, you don't need this. You got love, 177 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:36,719 Speaker 1: hold on to it. It was like being on death row. 178 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 1: Time felt infinite and at the same time completely fluid 179 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 1: and fleeting like sand through our fingers. We spent the 180 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:48,839 Speaker 1: night talking and eating gelato and baked baked goods. Each 181 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 1: minute of talking, I knew she was perfect for me. 182 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,320 Speaker 1: Everyone has someone for them in the world, and she 183 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: was mine. At the end of the day, we spent 184 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: the night together and lay in silent sadness, squeezing one 185 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: another as tightly as possible, hoping if we hold tight enough, 186 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: it would keep us from separating. When we walked to 187 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: the station the next morning, it was like a funeral march. 188 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 1: We go to the station and in a moment of desperation, 189 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: we embrace and whisper in each other's ears. I'm falling 190 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:16,600 Speaker 1: in love with you. 191 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 2: Oh what what? 192 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: You've met like a couple times and y'all are in 193 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: lost so cute, this is adorable. Don't let her go, 194 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: don't let her go? Follow her? 195 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 2: Oh man, okay ah? 196 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 1: We laugh on and smile back to yours. I take 197 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 1: one last look and get on the train. Logically, I 198 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: know it's likely the last time we'll ever see her. Illogically, 199 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,960 Speaker 1: some part of me knew we'd meet again. I go 200 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: home to the States. A few days after our goodbye. 201 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,160 Speaker 1: I felt hopeless and lost. I met the person I've 202 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 1: waited twenty four years to meet. So he's twenty four 203 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: or maybe I don't know. Maybe he's older and he 204 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: just didn't five first five years. He was like I 205 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,200 Speaker 1: wasn't looking for anyone. She was in my arms, and 206 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:14,680 Speaker 1: for some reason, I left her thousands of miles away. 207 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 1: I didn't have enough money to go back. It was over, 208 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: and I was stuck. Tomorrow was in a different world, 209 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,679 Speaker 1: as exotic as her name, a dream I had woken 210 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:28,600 Speaker 1: up from. I was depressed. Meanwhile, Tomorrow was at home 211 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:30,959 Speaker 1: working as a nurse. She felt the need as well. 212 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: One night, she was working on a patient with cancer 213 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: that was particularly upsetting. She messaged me instantly after a shift, 214 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: saying life is too short. I bought a ticket to. 215 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 3: Wow. 216 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 1: At this point, I was in a bar with a 217 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 1: friend talking about how much I missed her. When I 218 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:53,839 Speaker 1: got that message, I almost fainted. The dream was not 219 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:57,439 Speaker 1: only real, but happening again. We spent the next forty 220 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,880 Speaker 1: three days running around the city, At first, we were 221 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:02,839 Speaker 1: confused about what we felt for one another. We thought 222 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:04,959 Speaker 1: maybe Granada was a fluke, or we might have been 223 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 1: influenced by the setting and mystery of it all. But 224 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,880 Speaker 1: the more time we spent together, we realized there was 225 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: a chemistry that could not be explained nor denying. Oh 226 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: we spent most of our days sitting in my car, 227 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 1: just talking for hours. We felt more close with one 228 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:23,559 Speaker 1: another after a month than we did with our best friends. 229 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:28,200 Speaker 1: I was attracted mentally as I was physically, if not 230 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 1: more so. After twenty days, we confessed our love again. 231 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: You've already said you were falling loved. 232 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 2: Maybe that was just. 233 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: Love. It was real and mutual and amazing. She left 234 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:46,680 Speaker 1: a few days ago. I miss her like crazy, but 235 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:50,359 Speaker 1: we agreed, we're going to make this work. Let's gosh, 236 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:54,559 Speaker 1: we still talk for hours every day. There's an update. 237 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: This is beautiful. This is beautiful. Sometimes love just works 238 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 1: out Man posted on twenty of the December twenty thirteen 239 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:05,880 Speaker 1: her perspective. So we just got oh piece the original 240 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 1: guy's perspective, and now we're gonna get her side. This 241 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: morning I found a surprise on ARSA's travel It was 242 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 1: the story of how Ska Alex and I met and 243 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 1: fell in love in Granada. 244 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 4: Uh. 245 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:20,080 Speaker 1: You inspired me to write down my perspective and some 246 00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: of our story too, a story that sounds too good 247 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 1: to be true, even to me. 248 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 2: Oh. 249 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: I always knew what I wanted. I wanted to live 250 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 1: in Copenhagen and be a doctor. 251 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 2: Oh it's going to be a doctor. 252 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 1: Ah No, she was, Oh, this is her this is 253 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: herb perspectil. 254 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 2: Sorry I missed that first second. It's her perspectives. 255 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,400 Speaker 1: These were my goals since age twelve, and I spent 256 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 1: my college years smiling to myself. Whenever my friends were 257 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: confused about what to do with their lives, I already knew. 258 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 1: So I worked hard in school, got the grades I needed, 259 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: and started studying med school at the University of Copenhagen. 260 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: I moved into my apartment in Copenhagen at age eighteen 261 00:13:58,280 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 1: and was also one of the youngest of my In 262 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,439 Speaker 1: my spare time, or just instead of sleeping, I worked 263 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 1: in hospitals as a substitute nurse. As you can imagine, 264 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: my attempt to be perfect was bound to fail. Long 265 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:14,559 Speaker 1: story short, everything went wrong and I dropped out of 266 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: school and lost every concept of who I was, realizing 267 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: that I had always defined myself in terms of other 268 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: people's expectations. That is what led me to buying a 269 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 1: plane ticket out of Denmark and go traveling with. 270 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 2: My backpack huge. 271 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 1: This is how I happened to one day step onto 272 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: a patio in a hostel in Granada. I had only 273 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:36,520 Speaker 1: just arrived but was excited to meet people. He was 274 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 1: in the back of the group, looking confident and handsome, 275 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 1: and I didn't notice him for that, but it was 276 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: not my priority to talk to him more than anyone else. 277 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 1: It took a while before we got around to talking, 278 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: and I was surprised to find that he was a 279 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 1: very different person than I would have guessed from his looks. 280 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: He was passionate, adventurous and intelligent rock stupid, and throughout 281 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 1: the night we made a connection that we different from 282 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 1: anything I had ever experienced before, running down dark streets 283 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:07,360 Speaker 1: and kissing above the city with the song Broken Horse 284 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: by Freelance Whales playing in the background, You had a 285 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 1: sad trick. I was overwhelmed and confused about how much 286 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: I could miss a person I had just met. When 287 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: I left for a hiking trip in the Sierra Nevada 288 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 1: Mountains the next day. You can read the rest of 289 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:24,800 Speaker 1: the story of that night in his original post, which 290 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 1: I'm sure you have, but I wanted to share my 291 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 1: memories from our one day in Barcelona. As it was. 292 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: I canceled Valencia completely to arrive in Barcelona four days 293 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 1: before I had planned, and he extended his stay there 294 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 1: only so we could have that one day together. What 295 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: we said goodbye and Granada. We already knew we were 296 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: going to see each other in Barcelona, but nevertheless it 297 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 1: was painful, and I spent the rest of my stay 298 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 1: in Granada cursing the train system. When I finally arrived, 299 00:15:57,480 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: it was the last day of the carnival and the 300 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,040 Speaker 1: city was alive with people. He came to my hostel, 301 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:04,920 Speaker 1: and when he stepped into the lobby, I felt so 302 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 1: happy that I was smiling like a fool and just 303 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 1: jumped up to feel his arms around me again, smell him, 304 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:14,960 Speaker 1: touch him. Not very classy. I should probably have pretended 305 00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 1: to just randomly be in the lobby like I hadn't 306 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,520 Speaker 1: been looking out the window every five seconds. But the 307 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:22,080 Speaker 1: force that drew me towards him was so much stronger 308 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 1: than any pride, right Crawler. 309 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 3: I love rockes that are like cheating cheating. 310 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I freaking love rock Like some. 311 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 2: Of my favorite movies are Thinking about Time in Paris. 312 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 1: Well, here's a little bit cheating in that one. 313 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:47,440 Speaker 2: Actually, I guess I'm both on both. Dang, they all 314 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 2: have cheating about time. I love that movie. I also 315 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 2: love About Time. That's great. No cheating that no cheating 316 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 2: in that Midnight in Paris does have cheating. 317 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: It's mutual. Frick. He took me by the hand and 318 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: dragged me to the center of the city where the 319 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 1: last big parade was going on, and the streets were 320 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 1: full of children smiling and dancing happily, and I felt 321 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: like the luckiest person in the world to be there 322 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:16,879 Speaker 1: and experiencing it. With his arms wrapped around me, we 323 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 1: walked along the beach and I peeked at his face 324 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 1: while pretending to look at merchandise at an antique mar market. 325 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 1: I watched how his fingers carefully touched and felt the 326 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 1: leather of some small handmade pouches, and how he narrowed 327 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,440 Speaker 1: his eyes to look at the writings on an old 328 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:36,120 Speaker 1: beetle's badge. The weather was perfect, and Barcelona was never 329 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:39,439 Speaker 1: more beautiful than that day. As we walked on, we 330 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 1: passed a fair full of carousels and colors, and I 331 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:45,199 Speaker 1: just couldn't stop smiling. We got to the beach and 332 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: realized that we didn't bring any towels or bathing suits, 333 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 1: but we didn't care. We lay down in the sand 334 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:53,200 Speaker 1: and I soaked the heat of the sun and the sand, 335 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 1: but most of all the sensation of his skin underneath 336 00:17:56,720 --> 00:18:00,399 Speaker 1: my fingertips and his lips on mine. We must have 337 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 1: been there for hours, and I'm sure we looked ridiculous, 338 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:05,159 Speaker 1: just lying around in the sand in our underwear and 339 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 1: holding each other tightly, constantly talking, only interrupted by kissing, 340 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: in a desperate attempt to feel closer and to catch 341 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,680 Speaker 1: up with all the years I wish I had known him. Ah. 342 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,960 Speaker 1: I remember when we finally got up and brushed the 343 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:22,119 Speaker 1: sand off our bodies. I looked around and realized that 344 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:24,680 Speaker 1: I had honestly not even seen the beach at all. 345 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 1: I just didn't see that important. This is so sweet. 346 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:35,080 Speaker 1: We did so much that night. We had sangria in 347 00:18:35,160 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: his favorite bar. We walked the old touristy part of 348 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:42,199 Speaker 1: the city and he showed me his favorite streets. We 349 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:45,879 Speaker 1: had gelato, Turkish baklava, and pretzels, and we had dinner 350 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:49,640 Speaker 1: in the smallest, coziest restaurant we could find. When we entered, 351 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: the ceiling was so low he had to duck, and 352 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:54,160 Speaker 1: we sat down at a table in the very back 353 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 1: of the dimlylit room. I can still see the pots 354 00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 1: and pants on the wall, and the deep orange color 355 00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:02,359 Speaker 1: of the dimmed light that cast beautiful shadows on his face. 356 00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 1: I remembered his surprise when I asked about his family, 357 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 1: and we were so absorbed in conversation that we didn't 358 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 1: have time to go see the fireworks. At that point, 359 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:14,399 Speaker 1: I honestly didn't care at all. Fireworks are loud, and 360 00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:16,720 Speaker 1: I might waste time I could have spent talking to 361 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:21,919 Speaker 1: him looking at silly colored sparks. Anyway, the sparks I 362 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 1: felt between us were far more interesting, and attractions so 363 00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:27,879 Speaker 1: intense and electric that I could barely let go of 364 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:32,880 Speaker 1: his hand. It was not that sort of fiery, passionate 365 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:36,159 Speaker 1: physical attraction at all, more like a forceful, low humming 366 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:39,439 Speaker 1: between us, a magnetic field of mental attraction, and a 367 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:42,760 Speaker 1: never satisfied hunger. I wanted to know all his quirks, 368 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 1: all his habits. I wanted to hear all his stories, 369 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:49,040 Speaker 1: all the times he had loved or lost Ah. In 370 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:51,680 Speaker 1: a brief moment, the narrow streets in the dark night 371 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: reminded me of Granada, and I turned to him and said, 372 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:57,720 Speaker 1: let's run, and so we did. Music from the carnival 373 00:19:57,800 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 1: was playing loud in the background. As we ran as 374 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: fast as we could down the street, the surroundings became 375 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: a blur of color, and with the wind and music 376 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: in my ears, I felt like I was flying, laughing 377 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:13,119 Speaker 1: and navigating around people who jumped aside as we passed 378 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 1: out of breath. We made it to the plaza, where 379 00:20:15,560 --> 00:20:18,600 Speaker 1: the big final of La Marseille was a light show 380 00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:21,680 Speaker 1: projected on a large building. It was amazing, but as 381 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:24,320 Speaker 1: the show ended, I suddenly realized that our day was 382 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 1: almost over. We were running out of time. Alex is 383 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 1: always fully determined to conquer time and to never let 384 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 1: it win, whereas I tend to give up and surrender 385 00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:35,960 Speaker 1: to the turning hands at the clock. But we did try. 386 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,600 Speaker 2: We're so poetic. I see why they get along. 387 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 1: I know. We stayed out most of the night, walking 388 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:44,639 Speaker 1: randomly around in the streets, sitting down on porches, and 389 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:47,400 Speaker 1: walls everywhere. I sang I'm a song that I wrote 390 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:50,159 Speaker 1: in Granada, too. I forgot the most important lyric and 391 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:52,119 Speaker 1: was embarrassed at how silly it had been of me 392 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 1: to write a song in the first place. When I 393 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: was done, there was so many emotions I could barely move, 394 00:20:57,560 --> 00:21:00,080 Speaker 1: and my craving for him had grown so big that 395 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:03,159 Speaker 1: I knew I could never not see him again. We 396 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 1: went back to the hostel and he showed me pictures 397 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 1: from his life until an employee asked us to be quiet. 398 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:12,159 Speaker 1: I don't think I slept at all. I stayed in 399 00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:14,520 Speaker 1: a state of half dreaming, while being more aware than 400 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 1: ever of the feeling of his body, the feeling of 401 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 1: the strange individual that had, in a matter of days 402 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:23,119 Speaker 1: made me feel things I had never felt before. Time 403 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:28,480 Speaker 1: one morning came, we were out of time. I don't 404 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:31,479 Speaker 1: remember too much of that morning, but I do remember 405 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,679 Speaker 1: a lot of silence. We walked all the way to 406 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: the train station, and I clenched his hand, desperately, angry 407 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 1: that time was being so unfair that I would have 408 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 1: to let go. It was painful. We looked at each 409 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 1: other one last time, and he told me in a 410 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: very serious voice that he was falling for me. Oh 411 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,920 Speaker 1: my god, I held back tears as I told him, 412 00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:55,840 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, this is really making me cry. So sweet, 413 00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:03,520 Speaker 1: you're crying too, what second guys? Oh my god, Oh 414 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:10,800 Speaker 1: this is so sweet. Oh ah, okay, let's beep going. 415 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:14,000 Speaker 1: When it comes to goodbyes. Alex is keen to the 416 00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:16,880 Speaker 1: band aid method, which is probably good because even though 417 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 1: it hurts so much. When he abruptly let go turned 418 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: his back to me and walked toward the ticket control, 419 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 1: it would probably have been worse any other way. I 420 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: looked after him until he was all the way through security. 421 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 1: I remember the last lyric of my song, Oh God, 422 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: the night turns bright, silent cries of sunlight in eyes 423 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: as concepts like distance in time materialize and tear terrace apart. 424 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,399 Speaker 1: When we met in Barcelona, we thought it was our 425 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,720 Speaker 1: last day. When he left Barcelona, we were not so sure, 426 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,040 Speaker 1: but part of me was convinced I'd never see him again. 427 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,919 Speaker 1: I stayed in Barcelona until I had my return flight 428 00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 1: home to Denmark, and when I came back, everything just 429 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,879 Speaker 1: felt out of place. I had planned on traveling until 430 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,240 Speaker 1: mid December, and old he came home to attend a 431 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,880 Speaker 1: big birthday party, but since I hadn't booked a ticket 432 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,480 Speaker 1: anywhere yet, I took a few shifts and would have 433 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 1: probably fallen into the trap of just seeing a couple 434 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,320 Speaker 1: people just earning a bit of money before I head 435 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,320 Speaker 1: back out. But one night I had a cancer patient 436 00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,280 Speaker 1: younger than my mom and realized how short and precious 437 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: life is. I had to chase the American guy I 438 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 1: had fallen so hard for the next day, I bought 439 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:25,960 Speaker 1: a ticket to America. I spent a month and a 440 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 1: half with him and helped him get settled in the 441 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:32,199 Speaker 1: city he just moved to. We explored the city together 442 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,919 Speaker 1: and it was the best time of my life. I 443 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: loved him more every day. It is now a few 444 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,040 Speaker 1: weeks since I left, but this time I knew we 445 00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:42,399 Speaker 1: would see him again. I am his simple as that. 446 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: And there's an update eleven years later. 447 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:51,919 Speaker 4: I love it, love it later twenty two. I'm just 448 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 4: gonna go right into it. This is so sweet, update. 449 00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 1: Too, twenty three the twenty third of September twenty twenty 450 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:04,520 Speaker 1: four were recently Oh my goodness, eleven years later. This 451 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 1: is a long, kind of insane story. So grab a 452 00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 1: coffee and sit back once again. Eleven years later, we're 453 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:14,439 Speaker 1: grabbing that coffee. I promise it's worth the read. Eleven 454 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,920 Speaker 1: years ago, I thirty four male, met a Danish girl 455 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,639 Speaker 1: named Anna, thirty one female, in a hostel while I 456 00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:22,480 Speaker 1: was traveling through Spain. We had an amazing connection at first, 457 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:24,080 Speaker 1: to one of those things that you only think you 458 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:28,600 Speaker 1: see in the movies. At first, there was sparks fly, 459 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 1: like I would move Mattens to be with this person. 460 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 1: I know that she felt the same, because she flew 461 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 1: to America to visit me after we'd only known each 462 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: other for about forty eight hours. On that trip, we 463 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,199 Speaker 1: fell deeply in love during her visit, so much that 464 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,439 Speaker 1: we rebuilt our lives so that we could travel the 465 00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 1: world together to bridge the distance. We spent the next 466 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: two and a half years together, traveling all over the 467 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,720 Speaker 1: world to around thirty different countries. While we worked, I'm 468 00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:56,760 Speaker 1: so scared well, we worked remotely from various arabianb's hotels, hostels, 469 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: and even couches of friends. They always joked about how 470 00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 1: we the happiest people on earth, were, how no two 471 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 1: people could possibly be more in love than us. Finally, 472 00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:08,520 Speaker 1: at the two year mark, we could feel that it 473 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 1: was time to settle down a bit, so we moved 474 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: to Denmark together. I uprooted my American life to make 475 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,000 Speaker 1: sure that I could live in Denmark with her and 476 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 1: start this new life. She began to study psychology while 477 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:24,360 Speaker 1: I kept working remotely for an American company from our apartment. 478 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: The years passed and I continued to work my career 479 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 1: while she was finishing her degree. Around seven years later, 480 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: she had graduated with her master's degree and she finally 481 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:38,840 Speaker 1: told me that she was interested in having children. At 482 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,359 Speaker 1: some point my entire life, I had thought that I 483 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: would never have children, so at first this felt like 484 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,119 Speaker 1: a big deal breaker. At the same time, one of 485 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 1: my good friends divulged that she had feelings for me. 486 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 1: What got down? 487 00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 2: Way, get Away, Get Away, Go No. 488 00:25:56,040 --> 00:26:07,480 Speaker 1: Cloud, Go black Hole. I did explore those feelings with her. No, No, No, 489 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:12,880 Speaker 1: and honestly committed a bit of emotional cheating. I think 490 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: the fear of addressing the baby question was enough for 491 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,399 Speaker 1: me to allow myself to feel feelings for other people. 492 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,399 Speaker 1: I did end up telling about her about it, and 493 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: I cut everything off with his friend at the nine 494 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 1: year mark. No. It was at this point that I 495 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 1: decided to go all in on us and started walking 496 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:29,719 Speaker 1: down the path of babies in marriage. 497 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 3: Wait, so it was two years of emotionally flirting with 498 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 3: this person, No, said, seven year mark and a nine 499 00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 3: year mark. 500 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 1: No is she? Uh explored it? No, I don't know. 501 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:48,000 Speaker 1: I don't it better not have been. Maybe maybe he 502 00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:51,639 Speaker 1: told and then cut everything. I don't know. It was 503 00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:53,439 Speaker 1: at this point that I decided to go all in 504 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,639 Speaker 1: on us and started walking down the path of babies 505 00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,320 Speaker 1: in marriage. I designed a ring from the ground up 506 00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,800 Speaker 1: and had it made in America. So the process took 507 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:02,520 Speaker 1: about a year, but I finally got the ring in 508 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 1: October of last year. 509 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 2: That's why did you tell me that that's cute? 510 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:08,080 Speaker 1: I'm why did you tell me that? 511 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,679 Speaker 2: I feel a little worse because of what I just 512 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:11,600 Speaker 2: heard before the ring. 513 00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 1: It's a beautiful story. 514 00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 2: It was beautiful. 515 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:15,520 Speaker 1: Now it's a little bit less beautiful. 516 00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,399 Speaker 2: You know, in every rom com. 517 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 1: There's always always where they're always cheating. 518 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 2: There's always cheating. That's what we expect. You know. If 519 00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 2: it was cute all the way. 520 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:24,959 Speaker 1: It wouldn't be a rom call. 521 00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 2: It wouldn't be a rom com. 522 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 1: February of this year, we were deeply in love and 523 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 1: feeling like we were going on the same path. My 524 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:33,719 Speaker 1: partner told me that before we make the baby decision, 525 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 1: she wanted me to get everything out of my system 526 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:37,520 Speaker 1: that I've always wanted to do to make sure that 527 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:41,159 Speaker 1: we were ready for each other. Oh, I wanted to 528 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,120 Speaker 1: do a solo trip through Southeast. 529 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 2: Asian God thought it was like a threesome. 530 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: For as long as I can remember, and suggested it. 531 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:50,399 Speaker 1: She was very supportive and adamant that I needed to 532 00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 1: do it, even though I really didn't feel like I 533 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,440 Speaker 1: had to at this point. But we ended up deciding 534 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 1: that I would just do it and get it out 535 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,119 Speaker 1: of my system. I set up my mental narrative that 536 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,399 Speaker 1: after this trip, there was nothing left to work on 537 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 1: and I would give her the ring and we would 538 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,800 Speaker 1: start doing these major things. So I went on the 539 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,439 Speaker 1: trip for about three months, during which time apparently she 540 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,720 Speaker 1: had a major depression and assumed that I was looking 541 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 1: for other ways to live, shopping slash shopping for alternative 542 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,640 Speaker 1: lifestyles in which I would live overseas, which was never 543 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: the case. I think me always talking about how much 544 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 1: I miss travel had given her a narrative that I 545 00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 1: was interested in living that way permanently no. So when 546 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,399 Speaker 1: I returned from the trip, I had a mindset that 547 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 1: I was finally ready to go all in on us, 548 00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:32,160 Speaker 1: start a family, and get married. But I could feel 549 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 1: that something was extremely off. Over the coming month, we 550 00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,320 Speaker 1: tried our best to rekindle the flame, but I just 551 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 1: couldn't feel the love from her side as much as 552 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:42,920 Speaker 1: it used to be. Fast forward one month and I'm 553 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:45,680 Speaker 1: visiting my family in America alone before she comes to visit. 554 00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 1: Suddenly I get a message from a girl I've never 555 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 1: spoken to before. The message is saying that she broke 556 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: up with her boyfriend because she saw him texting flirtatiously 557 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,760 Speaker 1: with my partner. Of course, this shattered my world and 558 00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 1: I entered a huge depression. I called and asked her 559 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 1: what was going on, and she claimed it wasn't a 560 00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:05,240 Speaker 1: big deal that would actually probably be good for our relationship, 561 00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:08,320 Speaker 1: so I settled down a bit. Over the following months, 562 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,880 Speaker 1: we talked everything out and concluded that it was just 563 00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 1: a burst of emotion for this guy who happened to 564 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,240 Speaker 1: be her work colleague, and that I was likely her 565 00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 1: manifesting the fear around our relationship, just like I did 566 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:21,720 Speaker 1: with that girl a few years ago. So we both 567 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:24,440 Speaker 1: tried our best to move on and we traveled a 568 00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 1: bit together and had a great time. I ended up 569 00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,760 Speaker 1: coming back to Denmark a few days after her visit 570 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,920 Speaker 1: after her to visit my family one last time. When 571 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:36,200 Speaker 1: I got back, she felt totally distant again, like some 572 00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 1: sort of thing had switched it in her brain. I 573 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,040 Speaker 1: asked her what was up, and apparently she yet again 574 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 1: had the same feelings for her colleague. When she saw him, 575 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,760 Speaker 1: she went into a numb state where she claimed she 576 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 1: didn't feel anything for anyone and had no idea what 577 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 1: to do. During the state, she was asking for a 578 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 1: break for three months to figure out what she wanted. 579 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 1: I was panicking, assuming that a break meant to break up, 580 00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:59,200 Speaker 1: so I showed her the box with the ring and 581 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 1: it just to let her know that all of these 582 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:02,720 Speaker 1: cards are on the table to help her make an 583 00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:06,200 Speaker 1: informed decision. That seemed to switch something in her brain. 584 00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:09,240 Speaker 1: She immediately felt like herself again and hugged me and 585 00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:11,400 Speaker 1: told me that this was all just a fluke. So 586 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,120 Speaker 1: we moved on together again and tried again to build 587 00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,600 Speaker 1: our relationship. These were her exact words just one month ago. 588 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 1: I'm waking up this morning feeling happy, feeling like myself again, 589 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: and feeling like the colleague is no longer blocking my 590 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:27,480 Speaker 1: view and I can again feel everything for you. I'm here. 591 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,840 Speaker 1: I don't want to break. I love you and feel 592 00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 1: excited about everything with you, learning a new how to 593 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 1: love in a more connected and healthy way. And if 594 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,640 Speaker 1: you want to be more connected and healthy, join us 595 00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:43,280 Speaker 1: live every weekday at three PMPST on YouTube and Facebook. 596 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 1: Just tap her roof and there is a little bit left. 597 00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 2: That was a month ago. 598 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:52,000 Speaker 1: It was a month ago. 599 00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:53,480 Speaker 2: Is something bad happened? 600 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no. I think this is where we're ending. 601 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:57,440 Speaker 1: I think this is where we're ending. I think this 602 00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 1: is where we're wrapping up. 603 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:01,000 Speaker 2: It. 604 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 1: And so of course I thought we could just start again. 605 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,520 Speaker 1: And these feelings were just a burst of his guided 606 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 1: emotions on her end. So for the next three weeks 607 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:11,560 Speaker 1: we tried to just be a normal couple again, but 608 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:13,560 Speaker 1: of course I had some trauma about this guy, so 609 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:16,040 Speaker 1: I wasn't able to fully lean in. I think she 610 00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:18,320 Speaker 1: took this as a sign, and just three days ago 611 00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,720 Speaker 1: she told me that she's demanding a break to explore 612 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 1: these feelings for this guy. And figure out exactly what 613 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,720 Speaker 1: she wants from life. She set up a narrative that 614 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,480 Speaker 1: she was trying to keep us together at all costs, 615 00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 1: partly based on the fear of not being able to 616 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,600 Speaker 1: find someone else if we broke up. This guy is 617 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 1: giving her confidence to look inwards and truly question what 618 00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,240 Speaker 1: she wants from life. So she's going to take the 619 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:42,400 Speaker 1: next month to look at these feelings and try to 620 00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,240 Speaker 1: choose exactly what she wants from her heart. She's claiming 621 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 1: that she thinks her feelings for me the last few 622 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:49,040 Speaker 1: months have just been based on fear, and that she 623 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 1: doesn't feel the excited attraction feeling towards me right now, 624 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,840 Speaker 1: feeling it more for him. No, she claims she doesn't 625 00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:57,960 Speaker 1: feel the desire to have my children. However, she does 626 00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 1: still feel the deep lifetime love for me, which gives 627 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:04,080 Speaker 1: me hope. She also listed some grievances about my lifestyle 628 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,120 Speaker 1: that I'm a bit more individualistic than her, but I'm 629 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,200 Speaker 1: certain that will change if we choose to stay together, 630 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 1: as I now have no insecurities about us. Pausing a 631 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 1: little bit before the end. This sucks. I hated this 632 00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 1: story so happy and that's so sad and I'm upset, 633 00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,920 Speaker 1: you know, early, Like you know, I was on the Oh, 634 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 1: maybe this is rom com Maybe they needed to have 635 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,440 Speaker 1: that moment where they're like, you know, apart and then 636 00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:35,959 Speaker 1: they realize that they love each other and that they 637 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,800 Speaker 1: want to have a life together. But no, this is 638 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:39,680 Speaker 1: why that wasn't it? 639 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 2: Dude? 640 00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 3: When are long term relationships good? When are they good? 641 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:45,280 Speaker 3: Do they all turn to shit? 642 00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:50,560 Speaker 1: No? No, there is love, Caitlin Buncommas is And this 643 00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:53,680 Speaker 1: is why imocenic. This is so sad. This is supposed 644 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:57,000 Speaker 1: to prove that there's love and that people end up 645 00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:00,360 Speaker 1: together sometimes, and they do, you know what they do. 646 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 1: I still believe that. I think that people can have 647 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 1: really beautiful relationships long term and live together all their lives, 648 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,120 Speaker 1: just not this one. 649 00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:10,400 Speaker 2: Sure. 650 00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:14,440 Speaker 1: So now I'm sitting here now in our apartment while 651 00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,480 Speaker 1: she's staying at our sister's place, and I'm going to 652 00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,560 Speaker 1: basically sit and imagine them. I have a spicy having 653 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,280 Speaker 1: spicy sleep every single day for the next thirty days, 654 00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,160 Speaker 1: and hope that she, by some miracle, decides to choose 655 00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 1: me over him. What exactly should I do here? Should 656 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,760 Speaker 1: I just make the the break clean right now and 657 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 1: assume that there's no going back, or should I let 658 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,120 Speaker 1: her have the space, just like she gave me the 659 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:37,560 Speaker 1: space to travel and explore my feelings with other people 660 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 1: in the past. She has shown nothing but extreme love 661 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,080 Speaker 1: for me the last eleven years, So I'm inclined to 662 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,240 Speaker 1: believe that this spark of emotion for this guy must 663 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,760 Speaker 1: be more of excitement than true love, and that she's 664 00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:51,400 Speaker 1: so unfamiliar with feeling infatuation for someone else that it 665 00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,880 Speaker 1: must feel very intense for her, which is why she's 666 00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:57,160 Speaker 1: taking such drastic steps right now. But now that we 667 00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,160 Speaker 1: align on marriage and children, and that we have been 668 00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:02,680 Speaker 1: so in love for eleven years, it seems logical that 669 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:04,720 Speaker 1: we really are soulmates and that we should work on 670 00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:06,360 Speaker 1: through through all this. 671 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:09,480 Speaker 3: I mean, I think love takes work. It takes work, 672 00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:11,319 Speaker 3: especially after being together for this long. 673 00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:14,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, you emotionally cheated too, and you guys worked through that. 674 00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:16,520 Speaker 1: I think you could work through it. I think you 675 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 1: could work I think you can work through it. Please 676 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:19,719 Speaker 1: work through it. 677 00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,920 Speaker 3: But I think what happened is like he kind of 678 00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,000 Speaker 3: broke the trust in the relationship first. 679 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, never really, I don't think they ever really got that. 680 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,279 Speaker 3: Yeah, and that shook her, and then she took it 681 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:32,680 Speaker 3: as an opportunity to Like, when someone breaks the trust, 682 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,640 Speaker 3: it kind of corrodes the whole relationship. 683 00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:38,240 Speaker 1: Unless you both yeah, unless you both are actively trying 684 00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,360 Speaker 1: to work back to that level of trust that you 685 00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:41,960 Speaker 1: had before. 686 00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,680 Speaker 3: Even you've both done the same thing, and now you 687 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,800 Speaker 3: can maybe build from like this bold there's both sturdier 688 00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:50,640 Speaker 3: place you have that month, the integrity of the relationship, yeah, 689 00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:53,080 Speaker 3: a little bit, but now opportunity to build. 690 00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, you can build back up. It's been eleven years. 691 00:34:56,400 --> 00:35:02,120 Speaker 1: Please please for us, it seems logical that we really 692 00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,319 Speaker 1: are soulmates and that we should work out through all this. 693 00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,560 Speaker 1: That's the only reason I'm still waiting here. But should 694 00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,680 Speaker 1: I in til dr? I had the most beautiful fairy 695 00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:13,480 Speaker 1: tale romance with the Danish girl for eleven years, but 696 00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 1: now it seems to be ending. As she asked for 697 00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,520 Speaker 1: one month break to figure out if her feelings for 698 00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,479 Speaker 1: a colleague are something worth pursuing, or if she should 699 00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,319 Speaker 1: stay in this with me. Should I sit here in 700 00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:25,759 Speaker 1: our apartment and wait for her well she goes off 701 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,120 Speaker 1: to explore these feelings, or should I break it off? Now? 702 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:32,440 Speaker 2: Wait, it's only a month a month. 703 00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:37,879 Speaker 3: If you think there's even a chance of you being 704 00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:41,919 Speaker 3: mats her, then I would wait wait a month. Yeah, 705 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:43,800 Speaker 3: how many years did they wait in a notebook? 706 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,800 Speaker 2: So long? Like what like seven years? 707 00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:47,479 Speaker 1: So long? 708 00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,879 Speaker 2: I waited? What does he say when they're in the rain? 709 00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:51,000 Speaker 1: I don't know it. 710 00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:53,160 Speaker 2: Too. 711 00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:54,000 Speaker 1: Yeah they did. 712 00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,720 Speaker 2: That's what They're all cheating. 713 00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:57,560 Speaker 1: They're all cheating. 714 00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:00,799 Speaker 2: But maybe that it's part of love. 715 00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:02,360 Speaker 1: I hope not. 716 00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:04,360 Speaker 2: I really hope not. 717 00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:05,160 Speaker 1: I really hope not. 718 00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,680 Speaker 2: That's what the wrong. That's what the rom coms tell us. 719 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:08,879 Speaker 2: Cheating is part of love. 720 00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 1: I'm so sad. I'm never in a story that made 721 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:16,400 Speaker 1: me cry. Crying, I was crying and then I was angry. 722 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,160 Speaker 1: That's the end of that story.