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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley, and this is Keon, your favorite

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Speaker 1: OK storytime host, and we've got some great stories coming up.

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Speaker 1: But before we get to that, we have a quick

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Speaker 1: two minute break from the sponsors that keep the show alive.

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Speaker 2: I got charged three felonies for doing a high school prank.

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Speaker 3: How bad was it?

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Speaker 4: Guitar Zapp says.

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Speaker 2: My senior year of high school, we submitted senior quotes

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Speaker 2: for the yearbook, and my friends and I thought it

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Speaker 2: would be a funny idea to submit a quote on

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Speaker 2: behalf of another friend.

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Speaker 4: Nothing better than.

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Speaker 2: Cute boys at the beach. The friend who's quote we

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Speaker 2: changed told his mom. His mom told the school. The

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Speaker 2: school told the cops. On the first day of graduation practice,

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Speaker 2: which was the last week of high school forever for me,

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Speaker 2: myself and two friends got suspended, banned from walking at graduation,

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Speaker 2: and three felony charges from the police officers.

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Speaker 4: Handling the situation.

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Speaker 2: Soon after, we were handcuffed and taken to the main jail, where,

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Speaker 2: due to not being able to pay the sixty thousand

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Speaker 2: dollars bail, we were booked into sales, got jail cloth,

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Speaker 2: and spent a little over twenty four hours there. Lawsuit

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Speaker 2: I see it now lawsuit. I sued my school for

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Speaker 2: literally imprisoning us over a yearbook quote. Charges have been

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Speaker 2: dropped since, but what a crappy way to end high school.

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Speaker 2: A reply is asking what kind of charges do something

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Speaker 2: like that even get, and Opie says, conspiracy to commit

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Speaker 2: a crime false impersonation and identity theft. Actually, this friend

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Speaker 2: now ex friend, was one of my closest friends since

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Speaker 2: freshman year. We hung out every day and our group

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Speaker 2: was called the butt Buddies just because we were always together.

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Speaker 2: This kid probably dished out insults more than any of

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Speaker 2: us all, but you couldn't take it. It was Rergina

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Speaker 2: George Regina Blady Blah says, not really the craziest, but

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Speaker 2: this is my absolute favorite story in the world, and

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Speaker 2: it's one hundred percent true. I've got three cousins who

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Speaker 2: are birth siblings and were adopted by my aunt and

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Speaker 2: uncle twenty some odd years ago. The oldest boy was

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Speaker 2: maybe six at the time, and the two younger sisters

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Speaker 2: were maybe three and four. They had just moved in

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Speaker 2: and my end and uncle Won wanted to introduce them

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Speaker 2: to some kids in the neighborhood from the Cook family

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Speaker 2: down the street, so they set up a dinner date

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Speaker 2: on the calendar. The oldest is just learning how to

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Speaker 2: read and is the newest to the house, so he

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Speaker 2: gets his sisters to pack their toys and they get

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Speaker 2: caught trying to sneak out of the house. My aunt,

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Speaker 2: who at this point is still a strange old lady

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Speaker 2: these kids just moved in with, ask them why they're leaving,

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Speaker 4: The calendar say cook kids for dinner.

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Speaker 2: I can't imagine the fear six year old me would

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Speaker 2: have felt if my new mom had that written on

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Speaker 2: her calendar. But the story is just so dank cute

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Speaker 2: For some reason. That's what scared me about the Bunnie.

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Speaker 2: The Bunnie you're watching that, Yeah, that's the whole thing.

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Speaker 2: I was traumatized by that as a child. I watched

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Speaker 2: that at like age four, way in preschool.

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Speaker 4: Irish Ev says.

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Speaker 2: My dad was a bouncer in the early eighties and

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Speaker 2: was working in New Hampshire at a bar near Ski Lodge.

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Speaker 2: These six townies come in and within an hour start

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Speaker 2: a fight with all all the bouncers. They throw them

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Speaker 2: out and are doing a head count and realize my

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Speaker 2: dad is not there. They look outside and he's fighting

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Speaker 2: four of them while two try to keep the door shut.

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Speaker 2: The other bouncers get outside and they're fighting for like

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Speaker 4: The fight was so long.

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Speaker 2: My dad said he knocked out the same guy twice.

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Speaker 4: He woke up, he said, let's go.

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Speaker 5: I didn't hear no bell.

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Speaker 3: The guy's ear is probably still ringing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you changed that to how my dad caused permanent

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. If you get knocked out once, you probably

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Speaker 3: wouldn't go after the same guy for a second time.

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Speaker 2: Cosmo Sarah Toops says, I was baked and singing karaoke

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Speaker 2: when a fight broke out. I had sung karaoke before,

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Speaker 2: through my first song, we Didn't Start the Fire. The

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Speaker 4: I submitted round.

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Speaker 2: Here by the Counting Crows. First off, not a good

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Speaker 2: been in that state while singing to a room full

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Speaker 2: have a theory that bars that allow karaoke only do

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Speaker 2: so when their eggs are an inch from the band saw.

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Speaker 2: It's the last ditch effort to remain solvent. So I'm

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Speaker 2: up there emoting she wants to meet a boy who

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Speaker 2: looks like Elvis. When I hear this smash, some lady

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Speaker 2: broke a mug over some guy's head. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 2: that's hard to break. They're rolling around on the floor

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Speaker 2: just tenderly serenading the bar with this song. This goes

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Speaker 2: on for a while, screaming, feeble and desperate attempts to

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Speaker 2: The DJ cuts me off right at the good part,

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Speaker 4: He asks if I want to start over?

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Speaker 2: I say no, How are you supposed to top that?

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Speaker 6: Say?

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 2: That was the point. I sang that song to get

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good to know. Quit while you're ahead, quit

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Speaker 3: when you want to quit?

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Speaker 4: Ye always know, how's that work? Says?

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Speaker 2: This is the story of the second weirdest thing that

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Speaker 4: I've never told anyone about it, though.

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Speaker 2: Because frankly, it sounds both unbelievable and unbelievably stupid. So

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Speaker 2: The Lion King came out when I was like nine,

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Speaker 2: the brilliant idea that I would write a sequel for

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Speaker 2: sequels to things I liked back then. That's essentially I

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Speaker 2: invented the idea of fan fiction before I knew it

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Speaker 2: effing extra mile for The Lion King two. I wrote,

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Speaker 2: I drew, I story boarded. Anybody remember the accompanying soundtrack

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Speaker 2: they released rhythm of the Pride Lands. I used music

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Speaker 2: worked on this thing for a year straight. Anyway, I

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Speaker 2: or eventually threw away almost all of my notes and

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Speaker 3: No, if I was the mom and I knew this happened,

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Speaker 3: I would be gimme those where are they?

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Speaker 2: We're saving that? Yes, we're saving those up, and.

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Speaker 3: We'll put that in a clash.

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Speaker 2: A few years past, and one night, when I was

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Speaker 2: around thirteen, I was babysitting my young in charge wanted

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Speaker 2: almost every detail, including the music in the opening scene

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Speaker 2: and the name of Simba's daughter mine, all that I'd

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Speaker 5: No, I don't believe you, no way you named so

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Speaker 4: How was this the.

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Speaker 3: Second craziest thing to happen to you?

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Speaker 4: What's crazy?

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Speaker 2: The first craziest thing is that they got brought into

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Speaker 1: No, the first craziest thing is she worked on she

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Speaker 2: It still bothers me from time to time when I

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Speaker 2: think about it. But what can I do? Who could

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Speaker 2: that really crappy direct to video cash Grab sequel four

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Speaker 2: years before anyone else diad Uh, Yeah, I was nine

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Speaker 4: Who's going to believe me?

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Speaker 2: Better to just pop it in every once in a

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Speaker 2: while and smile that my movie did get made after all? Okay,

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Speaker 2: classy Argentinians. Who When I was a kid, I was

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Speaker 2: And at that time, this city I live in was safe,

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Speaker 4: You know, this is where you lost.

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Speaker 3: He needed to go.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, all the gas cylinders that were inside your house.

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Speaker 4: Let's go to your house.

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Speaker 4: We effing made it too.

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Speaker 2: I was going to show that little man he couldn't

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Speaker 4: He was lying.

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Speaker 2: I said as much and was treated like a combative child.

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Speaker 2: You still don't know why the CEO headed out for me.

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Speaker 2: He hired in his most butt lickingest assistant manager to

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Speaker 2: No advantage, no justice, bad guy wins. Maybe one day

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Speaker 3: Because hopefully you work for someone that thinks about the

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Speaker 4: Okay, all right, I don't. I don't want to hear that.

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Speaker 3: Please, babe, I can't. I can't do it. I clean

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Speaker 3: I said, Okay, baby, I'm sorry. I dry heaves. I

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Speaker 2: Okay, this was not the dog's fault. The dog eats poop.

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Speaker 4: It's a dog.

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Speaker 2: You need to look inward.

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Speaker 3: Kat was already taken. Says this was four years ago.

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Speaker 3: When I was a freshman in high school. I had

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Speaker 3: Let's call her Jim. Jim and Deli get to go

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Speaker 2: Can you imagine that human equivalent of that, Like you

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately, the dressing was pre mixed into the lettuce and

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Speaker 3: parents didn't change their mind for Caesar Salad either. So

440
00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:26,080
Speaker 3: the weekend has passed and on Monday, I get the

441
00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,480
Speaker 3: bright idea to give the rat to my science teacher

442
00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,959
Speaker 3: because she didn't have a class pet yet and she

443
00:19:31,119 --> 00:19:33,360
Speaker 3: liked me pretty well didn't know my best friend. Though.

444
00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:36,159
Speaker 3: Everything goes well and Deli brings the rat to school

445
00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:37,600
Speaker 3: to give it to me so I can give to

446
00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:40,160
Speaker 3: my teacher. The same friend who bought the caesar salad

447
00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:43,159
Speaker 3: also happened to have a spare rat cage lying around

448
00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:45,960
Speaker 3: and gave it to me so my teacher couldn't say no.

449
00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 3: I always left my locker unlocked and told her to

450
00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,320
Speaker 3: put the little guy in my locker. By the way,

451
00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:54,080
Speaker 3: he's still in the box, and Deli hasn't cleaned it

452
00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:56,600
Speaker 3: or changed any of the lettuce out or even let

453
00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,920
Speaker 3: the rat out for a little. He tells me she's

454
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,480
Speaker 3: made the drop off. After school, I go to my locker,

455
00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:04,280
Speaker 3: open it, and the box isn't in there. She's sure

456
00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:06,520
Speaker 3: she put it in there. We assume it got stolen

457
00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:09,480
Speaker 3: or whoever found it in their locker let it outside

458
00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 3: or something. For the rest of the week, we laughed

459
00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:14,320
Speaker 3: about how silly it is. Then on Friday, my best

460
00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:17,400
Speaker 3: friend tries checking the other lockers in case someone had

461
00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:19,720
Speaker 3: it in there, and it happened to leave it unlocked.

462
00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 3: So Friday after school we find out trying to open

463
00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,520
Speaker 3: like fifty lockers near mind, Deilhi is very dumb at

464
00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:28,879
Speaker 3: this age, so despite my clear instructions, including my locker number,

465
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,560
Speaker 3: she got the wrong locker. We were static because we

466
00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:34,200
Speaker 3: found him. The rat looks terrible. He's yellow and wet

467
00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:37,080
Speaker 3: and matted, surely scared, covered in poop and pee, and

468
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:40,600
Speaker 3: nearly suffocating. The box is so slimy it's horrifying, just

469
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,159
Speaker 3: our lock. My teacher is gone that day, so we

470
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,359
Speaker 3: took them into the room, left them in the cage

471
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 3: I made for him over the weekend. No food, no water.

472
00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:51,399
Speaker 2: You guys are both so dumb, So dumb, both of you.

473
00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:53,639
Speaker 3: Why are we reading this? Keep in mind that the

474
00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:55,920
Speaker 3: rat has been treated like trash for over a week now,

475
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,200
Speaker 3: and it's basically all my friends fault. At one point

476
00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:00,760
Speaker 3: she wanted to be a vet. After that, he got

477
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:03,560
Speaker 3: great care from my teacher and was an awesome rat.

478
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,200
Speaker 3: Oh my teacher refused to call him Caesar Salad because

479
00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 3: she obviously didn't support this cruel treatment, but she did

480
00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:12,119
Speaker 3: call him Caesar. So Caesar lived out his life eating

481
00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 3: pencils and nibbling on my finger. He got an armpit

482
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,280
Speaker 3: tumor roughly a year ago after he was purchased, and

483
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 3: a defer teacher threw him into our towns.

484
00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 2: This has to be an Ohio story.

485
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 3: That's exactly what I'm thinking.

486
00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:27,360
Speaker 2: This has had that had to have taken place in

487
00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 2: Ohio armpit tumor.

488
00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 3: Jamie is awesome. Seven seven seven says, all right, here's

489
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,120
Speaker 3: my go to party story. It is about a friend

490
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 3: of mine named Will who got her pees. There is

491
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 3: this story. And met Will in elementary school and we

492
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:42,720
Speaker 3: became fast friends. We were thought, oh, that's pretty cool

493
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 3: back then, because we knew what spicy sleep was kind of,

494
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 3: and we made a lot of poop jokes. This was

495
00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:50,959
Speaker 3: what made you cool in fifth grade, I guess. Well,

496
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:53,199
Speaker 3: in sixth grade, we were forced to go our separate

497
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 3: ways as Will went to private school, well, I went

498
00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,520
Speaker 3: to the local public school. Unfortunately, we drift apart because

499
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 3: of this, and I didn't see Will again for years.

500
00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:04,760
Speaker 3: About a third of the way through our senior year

501
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 3: of high school, I received some exciting news Will was

502
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:11,400
Speaker 3: transferring to my high school. Well, next week Will arrived

503
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 3: and he was changed man. Will liked substances, lots of substances.

504
00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:18,639
Speaker 3: I knew that was happening every job I think of

505
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 3: private school, I.

506
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 5: Think of I went to private school.

507
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:23,680
Speaker 3: Well, don't you know some people that were hooked on them?

508
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:24,120
Speaker 2: No?

509
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:26,680
Speaker 5: Really, really that was a different school.

510
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 3: But it happens. It is something known about private schools. Really, yeah,

511
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:31,760
Speaker 3: whenever private school goes my head, I think of that.

512
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 3: I like substances too, but not nearly as much or

513
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 3: as many substances as Will. Will experimented with pretty much

514
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,959
Speaker 3: any substance you can think of, and was on something

515
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 3: pretty much all the time. A few examples. Will like

516
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 3: to do MDMA in class. I have no idea how

517
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 3: he was able to do this, because I can't sit

518
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 3: still or be quiet around rolling. Frankly, that sounds like

519
00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:58,640
Speaker 3: h double hockey sticks. He was high on acid a lot.

520
00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 3: He took a lot of that in class. One time

521
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 3: he was wasted for about three weeks straight because he

522
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 3: was afraid of the hangover he would get when he

523
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 3: finally sobered up. Suffice to say, the kid liked to

524
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,880
Speaker 3: be fed up. One day, Will was at his house

525
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,480
Speaker 3: hanging out with another friend of ours Will name Eric.

526
00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:16,840
Speaker 3: Will decided to smoke some rack with the sea.

527
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 4: The rack with the sea.

528
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 3: Must have been really spicy, because he went on Craigslist

529
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 3: to find a spicy sleep provider. He found a cheap

530
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:28,159
Speaker 3: ride to your house spicy provider on Craigslist that was

531
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 3: only one hundred bucks. The picture was pretty hot too,

532
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,920
Speaker 3: a picture of a hot Italian chick with long brown hair,

533
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,720
Speaker 3: bright eyes, and a pretty substantial rack. Will decided she

534
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 3: was the only one he wanted, so he stole a

535
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 3: hundred bucks from his little brother and called the number.

536
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 3: What is the story? How does this get here?

537
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 2: I don't know if this is getting off the ground now.

538
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:46,959
Speaker 3: If there was one thing I've learned in my life,

539
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 3: it's this. If it seems too good to be true,

540
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 3: it probably is. In his instances, this proved to be correcked.

541
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 3: About forty five minutes later, a beat up old black

542
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 3: car pulls up into the driveway and walks in. The

543
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 3: sleep Provider did not look the same as the picture.

544
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:04,199
Speaker 3: In fact, should he even look close to anything like

545
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 3: they were all in the picture. The spicy sleep Provider

546
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 3: was not a young Italian chick, but a middle aged

547
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:12,680
Speaker 3: black woman. She was about one hundred and eighty to

548
00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 3: two hundred pounds and was probably about forty five years old.

549
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 3: I later asked Will, if it wasn't what you thought

550
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 3: you were paying for, why did you do it, which

551
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:24,119
Speaker 3: he responded, well, most hookers carry pew pews, and I

552
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 3: didn't want to get shot, which I replied, why didn't

553
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 3: you just give her the money? His answer was he

554
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 3: didn't think about it because he was high on Rackle

555
00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 3: Sea it was extremely spicy.

556
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 4: I thought that was a good enough excuse.

557
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 3: Well, to make a long story short, Will did the

558
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,439
Speaker 3: dirty bead with the dirty spicy sleep provider. A few

559
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 3: days later, he had a burning sensation when he peep peed,

560
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 3: so he went to the doctor. Unfortunately for him, it

561
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,439
Speaker 3: was her peat. I forgot about that. I totally forgot.

562
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right, that's the part of the story that

563
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: we were building up to this whole time.

564
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 3: He later told me his wiener looked like a wolverine

565
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 3: tried to eat it. Here's the kicker, This is his

566
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 3: gene story. Yeah, he lost into a spicy sleep service

567
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 3: provider and got herpes. On the bright side, he's doing

568
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 3: much better now as he went through rehab and is

569
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 3: now in college working on getting a degree. I'm also

570
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,640
Speaker 3: pretty sure he is still substance free.

571
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 2: Oh and that Ladies and Gentlemen is a story to

572
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 2: show you that it's never too late to turn things around.

573
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,919
Speaker 3: Opus Randy says, one night, was lying in bed with

574
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 3: my lady doing dirty stuff. We had been drinking, smoking

575
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 3: with my roommate all night, probably around midnight. Me and

576
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,120
Speaker 3: the lady are getting intimate and I hear my roommate screaming,

577
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 3: where are you going? Don't do it. I run downstairs

578
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 3: and my roommate is confused. He says, where the heck

579
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 3: is your girl going? I said, she's upstairs. What are

580
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 3: you talking about? He points outside. Her car is being

581
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 3: driven away. Someone stole a car right in front of us.

582
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 3: He thought I was driving wasted. My first instinct as

583
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 3: a man was to get that mother effort car back,

584
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: got dressed, grabbed my pewpew, and headed out the door

585
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 3: while my girlfriend and roommate called the cops. Our other

586
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 3: buddy was there, so he came with me. Drove up

587
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,119
Speaker 3: the street to the gas station. Sure enough, never was

588
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,360
Speaker 3: a couple of punk teenagers sitting in my significant other's car,

589
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 3: laughing about what they had just done. I had a

590
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 3: choice to make confront them armed or call my cignificant other,

591
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 3: who was at home with the police. I chose the

592
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 3: second option. I told the police where I was. As

593
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 3: the teenagers began to pull out of the lot, I

594
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 3: followed behind them, very close to get in their heads.

595
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,920
Speaker 3: I could tell they weren't sure what was going on.

596
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,360
Speaker 3: I had the cops on the phone while following them.

597
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 3: Three squad cars in round, and.

598
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 2: You're telling the cops I got my nine millimeter if

599
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 2: you'd want me to crack a few rounds off at him,

600
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 2: if that would help.

601
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 3: Finally, he tried to go down a one way but

602
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 3: was blocked by a cop. Right after that, the three

603
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 3: other squad cars pulled up behind me. I ran up

604
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 3: to him, the driver, before the cops could get to him,

605
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,879
Speaker 3: and simply said, uh, oh, your mommy is gonna be

606
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 3: pissed at you. The cops grabbed me and pulled me

607
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 3: away for questioning. The police were pretty impressed with the

608
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 3: fact I didn't confront them when I had the chance.

609
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 4: What is the bar of this town?

610
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we're really happy that you didn't extra do

611
00:26:56,600 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 2: togitially execute those teenagers for taking a car you found immediately.

612
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 3: Probably in Florida.

613
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

614
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 3: I called my significant other back with the most pride

615
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 3: I've ever felt in my life. Baby, we got it.

616
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 3: I'll be home with your car in a few Needless

617
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 3: to say, a great night after that. Oh guys, that's

618
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 3: the end of those crazy stories.

619
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:18,640
Speaker 5: Here goes my hero and that's the end of this story.

620
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 5: We're going to go on to the next one.

621
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 8: My ex's new wife shame me for what I'm feeding

622
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 8: my kids, so I shut her down.

623
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 6: Whether can have junk food or something.

624
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 8: I'm a divorced mom with two kids eleven and ten.

625
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 8: My ex husband and I share custody of that. We

626
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 8: communicate strictly through an app unless we're at the same

627
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 8: event for our kids. His wife and I do not

628
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 8: communicate period unless it's at an in person event for

629
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 8: the kids, and I do my best to keep communication

630
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 8: with her to an absolute minimum. By the way, this

631
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 8: comes from stressed ft Mom, and if you want to

632
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 8: submit your own.

633
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 6: Stories, go to the r slash Okay, story time Separated.

634
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 6: I'm Sofia, I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, and we're doing the

635
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 6: best we can to give you good advice. Goofley, but

636
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 6: we don't have all the answers. We only know what

637
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 6: we'd do, so let us know what you would do

638
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 6: in the comments. It was so good.

639
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:10,640
Speaker 9: I'm not even sure we know what we're doing.

640
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 6: We're doing the best we can.

641
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 8: Oh, he says, We deeply dislike each other, and there's

642
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 8: conflict with my ex and myself. I mean, clearly if

643
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 8: you only communicate through an app, I know, I just like,

644
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:26,439
Speaker 8: I don't know if you guys knew this, and with

645
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:29,439
Speaker 8: his wife and myself. The reason for this might not

646
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:33,200
Speaker 8: be relevant, but for full disclosure, his wife was the other.

647
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 4: Woman in our marriage.

648
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 6: Oh dang, Yeah, that's conflict.

649
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 8: When I found out about it, I kicked him out

650
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 8: and filed for divorce. He started seeing her but tried

651
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 8: to win me back. Crazy work. I let him believe

652
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 8: it was possible and told him he needed to break

653
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 8: up with her and cut all contact. He did this,

654
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 8: but then I told him I wasn't ever getting back

655
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 8: with him.

656
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 6: Oh you said, yeah, do it?

657
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Speaker 2: Do it?

658
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, No, for sure, I'll get back with you. Jokes

659
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 6: on you, my lie, Psyche.

660
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 8: I told him I could never be with someone who

661
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 8: behaved the way he had for over a year that

662
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 8: I know of, And he never forgave me for that.

663
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 6: He never forgave you. Oh, how sad, How sad of

664
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 6: a man. She never forgave me for his willingness to

665
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 6: leave her for me. He left you for her in

666
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 6: the first place.

667
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 10: She's mad that his wife wanted him back.

668
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 6: Yeah, he left his mistress for his wife. And then

669
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 6: his mistress is like, you want your wife? So messed out? Woman?

670
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 8: You had two children with No It's something she never

671
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 8: got over, and she has told many people what happened

672
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 8: in the years since. She has said she wants everyone

673
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 8: to know how petty I was to try.

674
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 6: And destroy their relationship for.

675
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 8: Crabs and giggles. This woman lives in a little box

676
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 8: that she cannot see out of. She forgave him, though,

677
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 8: and they got back together and married. She has cheated

678
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 8: on her twice, and she blames me, of course.

679
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 6: Girl girl, Oh.

680
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 8: My goodness, I get UPI I understand why you communicate

681
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 8: through an app.

682
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 6: All of this.

683
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 8: Should explain why I keep my distance whenever possible. The

684
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 8: issue of late has been the food. I cook and

685
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 8: feed my kids a variety of things, but in order

686
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 8: to save money and have less waste, I buy frozen vegetables.

687
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 8: I and for smoothies, I buy frozen fruit as well.

688
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 8: I really only buy some fresh fruit when it's something

689
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 8: my kids and I eat versus drink. My ex husband's

690
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 8: wife has her own garden and grows her own vegetables.

691
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 8: So cool your husband's cheating on you. She's very loud

692
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 8: about fresh being best and how disgusting frozen vegetables are

693
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 8: and how there's so much worse for you than fresh.

694
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 8: She believes all the value is gone when something is frozen.

695
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 8: And I know this because she debates it with other parents.

696
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 8: She has believed it for a while now, that her

697
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 8: food is far superior to mine, and that she's the

698
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 8: better person in their lives because she feeds some fresh

699
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 8: fruits and vegetables every single day, and that nothing frozen

700
00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 8: is allowed in their house. Gosh, apparently there have been

701
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 8: several times where she's asked my kids who's food they

702
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 8: like better, HER's her mine? They always say mine, yes,

703
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 8: bil kids.

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00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 10: Generally speaking, freezing fruit helps retain the nutrients in it.

705
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 6: Oh, oh, look at you looking stupid. So actually it's

706
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 6: the exact opposite you, freaky.

707
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 10: It does not cause a significant nutrients loss. Yeah, because

708
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 10: it's typically flash frozen at peak ripeness, and it often

709
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 10: retains more vitamins and minerals than fresh fruit that has

710
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 10: been sitting in transit or on a grocery store shelf.

711
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 8: Okay, so it's not saying that you're gonna have more nutrients.

712
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 8: It's just saying fresh fruit, if frozen at the time

713
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 8: that it's fresh, will stay fresh longer if it's frozen.

714
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 9: It's not using much of anything.

715
00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 6: Yes, so jokes on you. It's just a texture thing.

716
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 6: What a big fat idiot. Well, well, okay, okay.

717
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 9: And that's one way to put it, all right.

718
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 8: They have told her they always finish the food I make,

719
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 8: and apparently they never finished the food she makes. It

720
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 8: got under her skin the first time and has only

721
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 8: buried itself deep under there the more she's asked.

722
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 6: The kids told me about it.

723
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 8: A couple of times, and they always made it clear

724
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 8: she asked, and they didn't just say it to be me.

725
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 8: She has confirmed it herself that she's asked and has

726
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 8: at times followed up with. But they eat so much

727
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 8: of her food, so they pointed out the difference. She's

728
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 8: blaming this on the fact that I'm feeding them frozen

729
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 8: and for some reason she believes this makes them so

730
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:45,959
Speaker 8: much worse. And she likened it to me feeding them

731
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 8: McDonald's takeout or frozen pizza every night.

732
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 9: That's insane.

733
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 8: So those are completely different, she said. It's the only

734
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 8: thing that could explain the difference. She brought this up

735
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 8: when we were left waiting to meet with my son's

736
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 8: teacher was also present. The kids weren't present for this,

737
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 8: so I'm perfectly clear. But the more she ranted at me,

738
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 8: the funnier I found it. But then she told me

739
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 8: I needed to step up my mom game and start

740
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 8: giving my kids real food and cut the frozen crap out.

741
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 6: Girls annoying, so annoying, you're literally the affair partner. Yeah,

742
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 6: and he still isn't even choosing you. Yeah, be truthful.

743
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 6: The kids aren't choosing you. The husband's not choosing you.

744
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 6: Go away, you know. Stop bothering Opie. And the fact

745
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 6: that like she has something to say first of all

746
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 6: about cooking when they like when the kids like, you

747
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 6: know Opie's food better, you're just freaking jealous.

748
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:46,080
Speaker 8: Yeah, I personally use a lot of frozen veggies because

749
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 8: it's I don't I just I always forget.

750
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 6: About things and then they go bad. Yeah, that was

751
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 6: that was my thing. I never used frozen stuff, but

752
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 6: I should. I always forget about it. It's great.

753
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 8: So I told her I didn't have to take any

754
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 8: advice from her on how to feed my kids, and

755
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 8: I wouldn't take advice from a nut job who thinks

756
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 8: freezing a vegetable is somehow the exact same as McDonald's.

757
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,839
Speaker 8: I also implied she must be a crappy cook if

758
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 8: the kids have told her they prefer everything I make,

759
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 8: which is what she claimed. Also, she and my ex

760
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 8: told me I'm not suppost to speak to her like that.

761
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 8: After we finished with the teacher, they demanded an apology,

762
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 8: but I just got in my car and left. He

763
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 8: followed up through the app asking for an apology for

764
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 8: his wife, saying that my insults toward her were unjustified

765
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 8: and were not acceptable in any way. I simply ignored it.

766
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 8: But I wonder, am I the a hole? And we

767
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 8: are at the end of the story, But what do

768
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 8: you think?

769
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 6: No? No, I mean she is so she can dish it,

770
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 6: but she can't take it. No, exactly exactly. She's like,

771
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 6: we like, you're sitting here at like a teacher's conference,

772
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 6: like complaining to the teacher about how No, they're outside,

773
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 6: they're they're waiting. They weren't coming to the teacher. Okay,

774
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 6: I thought they were complaining to the teacher. I was like, yeah,

775
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 6: freaking does that you crazy? Yeah? That'd be weird. Yeah,

776
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,359
Speaker 6: but still, I mean it's just the fact of like, hey,

777
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 6: are the kids being harmed anyway? Yeah? Are the kids

778
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 6: being fed? Yes? Yeah, just be lucky that they have

779
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 6: food on the table and then it's good and they

780
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 6: can actually like enjoy it. Yeah. Not a lot of

781
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 6: people get that true.

782
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 5: And that's the end of his story. We're going to

783
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:19,320
Speaker 5: go on to the next one.

784
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,560
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Speaker 6: My mother kept complaining about how I clean, so I

788
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 6: hired professional cleaners.

789
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 8: If you can't get the job done yourself, have someone

790
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 8: else do it.

791
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 6: This is from a few years ago, but it's come

792
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 6: up in arguments lately, so I figured i'd get some

793
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 6: outside opinions. My mom is what you might call a

794
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 6: spike cleaner. She uses cleaning as a tool to control

795
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 6: and nag in wine and whatnot. My siblings and I

796
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 6: bore the brunt of it. By the way, this comes

797
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799
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Speaker 6: I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, I'm Carly and we are here

800
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:03,399
Speaker 6: to give some good advice in a little goofy way.

801
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:05,359
Speaker 6: But we don't have all the answers. We can only

802
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 6: tell you what way would deell. But let us know

803
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 6: what you and zell down in the comments. Sah ain't,

804
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 6: as Opie says, often she delegated cleanings to a Saturday

805
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:18,880
Speaker 6: or Sunday, which we called heck day m She would

806
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 6: usually go out to buy food for the week, slash errands,

807
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 6: and leave us to do it. And it seemed no

808
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 6: matter how much cleaning we did, she was never happy

809
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 6: with the result, and the day would end with all

810
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 6: of us arguing and upset. Sometimes we would barely do

811
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 6: any cleaning since the end result was the same, her complaining,

812
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 6: venting to each other outside the house. One day, my

813
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 6: siblings and I decided to prove she was just complaining

814
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 6: for the sake of complaining. We set up a gofundmeat

815
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 6: to raise funds to pay local house cleaning company, posing

816
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 6: it as something along the lines of help us get

817
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 6: a professional house cleaning To surprise our mom, that's so funny,

818
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 6: that's so they should you.

819
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 8: Should have been for real, should have been like our

820
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 8: mom never believes that we do good enough cleaning. Please

821
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 8: help us funds to catch her in the act.

822
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 10: That would get the immediate Everyone would fund it.

823
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 6: Everyone would fund it. You'd get more money. I was

824
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,439
Speaker 6: gonna say, I'd fun I'd at least contribute like two dollars.

825
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 7: Yeah.

826
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, everyone's contributing two dollars. You got like two million.

827
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 6: We just had a million people do it. Yeah, boom

828
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,400
Speaker 6: boom man dollars.

829
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 10: Uh.

830
00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 6: And we were able to raise a few hundred dollars,

831
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 6: mostly from family and friends who knew our situation, which

832
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 6: covered the cost and a nice big tip for the

833
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 6: cleaners from what was left. So for one cleaning weekend,

834
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,319
Speaker 6: when our mom had shopping plus getting the car looked at,

835
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:40,479
Speaker 6: we scheduled a local cleaners to arrive. They were two

836
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 6: very nice women who proceeded to clean the house till

837
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 6: it was sparkling. We chatted a bit with them while

838
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 6: they were working. One of the ladies had almost twenty

839
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 6: years experience cleaning homes, the other eight. With their consent,

840
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 6: we filmed some clips of them cleaning, saying it was

841
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 6: to surprise our mom. So Mom gets home with our

842
00:37:57,680 --> 00:37:59,800
Speaker 6: uncle who was coming to dinner and she's barely in

843
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:04,320
Speaker 6: the or she's already started complaining about our usual subpar cleaning,

844
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 6: that either I my brother didn't clean the surfaces well enough,

845
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 6: or that my sister didn't sweep one spot. These were

846
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 6: repetitive complaints. She often said, what do you think? I mean,

847
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 6: there's not much advice I can give here.

848
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 8: It just sounds like your mom's complaining for the sake

849
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 8: of complaining, which is annoying. And if she still complains

850
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 8: after you guys spend money, raise money, and then spent

851
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 8: money to get professional house cleaning, then it might just

852
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 8: be an issue that's solved when you moved up.

853
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, truthfully, I mean I would just be like, Mom,

854
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 6: if you don't like the way I do it, then

855
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 6: you can do it. Like if you want to teach

856
00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 6: me how to do it, you can. But like, I

857
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,439
Speaker 6: feel like you're just gonna complain anyway, So what's the point?

858
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 6: Long story short? We show her the footage, Her face

859
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 6: gets red, and she proceeds to scream at us from

860
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 6: embarrassing her in front of her brother. How dare we

861
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 6: hire cleaners and have strangers in the house. We argue

862
00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 6: back that this prouve she just weaponizes cleaning. It's been

863
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 6: a few years since then after the big blow up,

864
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 6: she just did most of the cleaning herself. Though she

865
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:11,320
Speaker 6: never admitted to weaponizing it, it does come up again

866
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 6: recently as us tricking her, and I don't think we

867
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 6: did anything wrong. Am I the a hole? You literally

868
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 6: paid people with money that you raise to clean the

869
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:27,239
Speaker 6: entire house, and she was mad, Yeah, it's like, I

870
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 6: don't really know what it's not more do you want?

871
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 6: Like when my mom cleans, the reason that we get mad,

872
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 6: like all my siblings, is because she moves all of

873
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 6: our stuff, like now you know my medicine is in

874
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 6: this drawer. Like she actually goes through, cleans all the

875
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:44,399
Speaker 6: drawers and then changes them and was like, well this

876
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 6: is more efficient. I'm like, no, no, no, I cannot

877
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 6: where's my stuff? And then I have to call her

878
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,439
Speaker 6: every day every hour and then she doesn't answer because

879
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,360
Speaker 6: she's at the casino. And I'm like, oh my god,

880
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 6: I'm hot. I'm hat is there? Answers fan, I'm hot.

881
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 5: And that's the end of this story. We're good to

882
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 5: go on to the next one.

883
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 8: I sent my deceased sister's items to her boyfriend, and

884
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 8: it made my mother angry.

885
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 6: I really don't know what to say to that background.

886
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 8: My sister Anna twenty eight female, and her boyfriend Tom

887
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 8: twenty nine male, have known each other since they started

888
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 8: college WOW, and began dating during their third year. I

889
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:24,720
Speaker 8: twenty six, female, watched them support each other through difficult times,

890
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 8: and I also saw how they encouraged each other to

891
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 8: grow not only as a couple, but as individuals. Basically,

892
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 8: they were really happy and great together. Because my sister

893
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 8: and I are best friends, I also grew close to Tom

894
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 8: and saw him as the brother I never had. We

895
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 8: all lived in the same city near my parents, me

896
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 8: at home while Tom and Anne had a condo together,

897
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:48,360
Speaker 8: but Tom ended up getting a great job across the country.

898
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,440
Speaker 8: They decided to sell the condo and move to the

899
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 8: new city. Tom left earlier and Ann stayed behind to

900
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,759
Speaker 8: finish up a contract and help pack and move the

901
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:01,720
Speaker 8: rest of the things. When she was done, before Anne moved,

902
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 8: she suddenly passed away. Even now, I still don't know

903
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 8: how to process her passing. It took us all by surprise,

904
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 8: and without going into too much detail, I can only

905
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 8: say that it was unexpected.

906
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:13,879
Speaker 6: Oh.

907
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 8: Her passing was a blur to everyone in our family.

908
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 8: I think that Tom took her passing the worst, though

909
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 8: he confided in me that he was going to propose soon.

910
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 6: After she moved. Oh so sad.

911
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 8: When Tom flew home after Anne's funeral, he called me

912
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 8: and asked if I could send him some of Anne's things.

913
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,799
Speaker 8: He wasn't demanding or anything, and said that if it

914
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 8: was a bother he would understand. I thought that the

915
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 8: things he asked for were pretty reasonable. He just wanted

916
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:42,320
Speaker 8: one of her stuffed animals. It was a matching bear,

917
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 8: and he had the second one already.

918
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 6: And he also asked for her ring.

919
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 8: They had purchased matching rings at a popular jewelry store,

920
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,319
Speaker 8: and it wasn't an hairloom or a wedding band type thing.

921
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 8: The last thing he asked for was a scrap book

922
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 8: that the two of them had been working on together.

923
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 8: Tom said that he made her a lot, and since

924
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 8: they were in the process of moving, he regretted not

925
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,880
Speaker 8: having anything at home to remind him of her. I

926
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 8: thought the request was reasonable, besides, these were things they

927
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 8: purchased together. I sent them to Tom the next day

928
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 8: and didn't think anything of it. A few days later,

929
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 8: I came home from work and found my mother of

930
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 8: fifty female sifting through Anne's things. She asked me if

931
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 8: I had seen her rings, since it was missing from Rmanity.

932
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 8: I told her about Tom's request and how I sent

933
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:31,280
Speaker 8: it away. She immediately started to freak out. I've never

934
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 8: seen my mother this mad before. She started yelling that

935
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 8: it wasn't mine to give away and that I had

936
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 8: no right sending off Anne's things to other people. I

937
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,280
Speaker 8: got flustered and told her that even if I didn't

938
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 8: ever write to return it to Tom, it's not like

939
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 8: she has a right to keep it. This seemed to

940
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 8: make her more mad, and she just kept yelling and

941
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 8: yelling about how Anne's things belonged at home. I mean,

942
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 8: I don't think she's mad at UOP.

943
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 6: I think she's just she's dealing with Yes, she's dealing

944
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 6: with her child. Yeah, oh god, I couldn't.

945
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 8: My dad had to call my mom down and I

946
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 8: left the house for a few hours. It's been two

947
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 8: days since and my mother hasn't talked to me once.

948
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 8: I'm so confused, and I wonder if I did something

949
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 8: out of line.

950
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:16,760
Speaker 6: Tom literally had.

951
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:19,880
Speaker 8: Nothing at his place of Anne's and they're both adults

952
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 8: and technically Tom bought the ring for Ann. Did I

953
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 8: act too quickly by sending it to Tom? But this

954
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,320
Speaker 8: comes from throwaway Sister Gone And if you want to

955
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 8: submit your own stories, go to the ursash.

956
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 6: Okay, storytime severated. I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, and we're.

957
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 8: Here to give good of ice goofly. But we don't

958
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 8: have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.

959
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 8: So let us know what you would do in the comments.

960
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 8: And we've got an update five days later.

961
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:45,000
Speaker 6: But what do you think I I would have had

962
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:48,359
Speaker 6: a conversation with the mom. I think beforehand to be like, hey,

963
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 6: Tom asked if he could have these things? Is that

964
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 6: okay if I send them? You know, I think not

965
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 6: that technically you needed your mom's permission to do it,

966
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 6: but more or so that everyone kind of understands like

967
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:06,840
Speaker 6: who wants to what? And you know, I think the

968
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:09,319
Speaker 6: things that he's asking for are very reasonable. Yeah. I

969
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 6: don't think that you know, he's not asking for like

970
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 6: her car or something like or anything that is beyond

971
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 6: like his in a way. Uh so, yeah, I And

972
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 6: it's I truthfully, I just think that it's just grieving. Yeah,

973
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 6: and you don't want to let go of that. It's hard.

974
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 6: That's your child. Yeah, and it was sudden. Yeah.

975
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 8: Retroactively, I think that would have been good. Yeah, you know,

976
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 8: if you had gone to your mom. But ultimately I

977
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 8: think it's just grieving. I think, yeah, I think she

978
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:42,799
Speaker 8: probably would have reacted. You know, it would have been

979
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 8: if not this, it would have been something else. It's

980
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:47,959
Speaker 8: just hard. So I don't think you did anything wrong.

981
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 8: Update five days later. Anyways, after my mom's initial freak out,

982
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 8: I tried so hard to stay home and work it out.

983
00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 8: I know in my heart that she was only grieving,

984
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 8: but even then I couldn't take it anymore. Part of

985
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 8: me felt like she was so selfish. She lost her daughter,

986
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 8: but so did my father. I lost my sister, and

987
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 8: Tom lost the woman he was supposed to spend the

988
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 8: rest of his life with. My mother continued to be passive, aggressive,

989
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 8: to the point where I felt she was just cruel.

990
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 8: For example, I was in the kitchen talking to my

991
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 8: dad about whether or not we should unpack Anne's boxes.

992
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 8: My mother turned to my father and said, you ought

993
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 8: to keep an eye on Opee in case she tries

994
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 8: to pawn off more of Anne's things.

995
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 6: Okay, to say that you were pawning off her things

996
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 6: is so just ye blow blow. It's like that's her,

997
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 6: that was her like life partner basically. Yeah.

998
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 8: And also when she said the first time when she

999
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,759
Speaker 8: found out you did it, when she said, oh, you're

1000
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 8: giving away her stuff to just to people, It's like, no,

1001
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 8: I'm giving away you know, three of her things to

1002
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 8: her life partner.

1003
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 6: I wonder if maybe they had a bad taste in

1004
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 6: their mouth him, Like maybe they didn't like him. I

1005
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:05,800
Speaker 6: didn't think he was good enough or something, or maybe

1006
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 6: like thought that he like maybe she was traveling to

1007
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 6: see him or something, and that's when this thing happened.

1008
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 6: Like I don't know, it wasn't explained, so maybe they

1009
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 6: blame him in a way. I don't know. She might.

1010
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 8: Yeah, as much as I loved my mother, I needed

1011
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 8: to take care of myself first. I ended up packing

1012
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 8: up a few things and stayed at a friend's house

1013
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 8: to cool off a little bit before I left.

1014
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:31,879
Speaker 6: My father and I.

1015
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 8: Agreed that we should get the family into counseling, and

1016
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 8: he said he would talk to my mother while I

1017
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 8: was away. A few days passed and my mother ended

1018
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,720
Speaker 8: up calling me. I could tell that she had been crying,

1019
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 8: and she ended up apologizing. She admitted that it was

1020
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 8: irrational to try to keep all of Anne's things and

1021
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 8: that Tom had every right to Anne's mementos, especially since

1022
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,880
Speaker 8: it was so personal to their relationship. She said that

1023
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:57,320
Speaker 8: after I left, she realized that she was pushing away

1024
00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,839
Speaker 8: everyone around her and that she didn't want to lose

1025
00:46:59,840 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 8: me too.

1026
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 6: Ugh. Yeah, and that's I mean, that's what I figured. Yeah.

1027
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 8: I asked her why she was so fixated on the ring,

1028
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 8: and she said that since she saw Anne wear it

1029
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 8: every day, she wanted to wear it as a reminder

1030
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 8: of Anne. She said she felt kind of stupid, though,

1031
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 8: since it was a romantic gesture from Tom and she

1032
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 8: really wasn't thinking clearly. My family as our first counseling

1033
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 8: appointment next week, and I'm hoping that it'll help us

1034
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 8: a lot. I also decided to take my mom to

1035
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 8: the store Anne's ring is from to get her own

1036
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 8: matching rings. It'll be a different style, but we're thinking

1037
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 8: of engraving Anne's name or birthday inside the band.

1038
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 6: It's just the whole thing is sad, Yeah, very upsetting.

1039
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 6: I keep like tearing up because I couldn't even imagine

1040
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 6: like going through that. That is just like her a fic,

1041
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 6: like in any capacity, like whether you're the boyfriend, the parents,

1042
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 6: the sister. I mean, like it's just devastating. Yeah, but

1043
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 6: it is a good outcome though. I think like it

1044
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:01,399
Speaker 6: was coming to terms and it's like, yeah, sorry that

1045
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 6: that just like blew out of proportion, which you know, Yeah,

1046
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:06,840
Speaker 6: it's it's a devastating loss.

1047
00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 8: I think if someone didn't have this react or you know,

1048
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 8: someone didn't have a big reaction, I'd be surprised. But

1049
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 8: I'm glad that she took a moment realized what was

1050
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 8: going on, and it's hopefully going to bring you guys

1051
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 8: closer as a family. Yeah, but there's a little bit left.

1052
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 6: I think the counseling is also good to really yes,

1053
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 6: who wonders, I totally get that everyone is hurting from

1054
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 6: Anne's passing, and my mother is normally a very rational

1055
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:34,880
Speaker 6: and loving woman.

1056
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:38,359
Speaker 8: I've decided to move forward from this and forgive her.

1057
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 8: I've also been keeping in contact with Tom and trying

1058
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:44,840
Speaker 8: my best to support him. I believe that he's also

1059
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:48,120
Speaker 8: looking into getting some counseling as well. Thanks again to

1060
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:51,400
Speaker 8: everyone who offered their love and support. Oh and for

1061
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:53,799
Speaker 8: the few people who messaged me accusing my mother of

1062
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:57,800
Speaker 8: trying to sell Anne's ring, I'm not so sorry. Report

1063
00:48:57,880 --> 00:48:59,799
Speaker 8: that my family might be a little crazy, but we're

1064
00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 8: not that traumatic. That would be insane. Yeah, gee whiz man.

1065
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:06,399
Speaker 8: I wish I could say it was a happy ending,

1066
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 8: but there's really you can't really come back.

1067
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, it's just such. I mean it is,

1068
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 6: but it's not. Oh yeah, you just have to keep

1069
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:15,280
Speaker 6: moving forward.

1070
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, and that's the end of his story. We're going

1071
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 5: to go on to the next one.

1072
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 6: My brother asked to borrow the ring my grandma left me,

1073
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 6: but I refused. If Grandma wanted you to have it,

1074
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 6: she would have given it to you. So this has

1075
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:31,840
Speaker 6: turned into a huge family fight, and I need to

1076
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 6: know if I'm in the wrong here. My grandmother left

1077
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 6: me her engagement ring in her will. It's a beautiful

1078
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 6: vintage piece, very sentimental to me because I was extremely

1079
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:44,440
Speaker 6: close with her growing up. I've kept it safely stored

1080
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 6: for years. Here's where things get messy. My older brother,

1081
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 6: thirty male, is plenty to propose to his girlfriend, twenty

1082
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 6: eight female, and recently asked if he could have our

1083
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 6: grandmother's ring, so that's not borrowing.

1084
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Speaker 8: Yeah, I think we've met step the definition there.

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Speaker 6: He said it would mean a lot to him to

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Speaker 6: keep it in the family and that his girlfriend love

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Speaker 6: vintage rings. I told him, no, this ring was left

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Speaker 6: to me and I intend to keep it or use

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Speaker 6: it for myself someday. He got really upset, saying I

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Speaker 6: was being selfish and that it's just sitting in a

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Speaker 6: box while he hasn't actual use for it. My parents

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Speaker 6: sided with him, saying that as the eldest, it should

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Speaker 6: have gone to him anyway, and that I'm being difficult

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Speaker 6: for no reason. By the way, this comes from Axby,

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Speaker 6: I'm Carly, and we're here to give some good advice

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Speaker 6: in a little goofy way. But we don't have altars

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Speaker 6: the answers. We don't want to tell you what we

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Speaker 6: would do, but let us know what you would do

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Speaker 6: down the commons, baby girl. Things escalated when my brother

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Speaker 6: said I was hoarding the ring out of spite and

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Speaker 6: that I should want it to stay in the family.

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Speaker 6: It is staying in the family. Yeah.

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Speaker 10: Me.

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Speaker 6: Now he's barely speaking to me, and my parents keep

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Speaker 6: texting me about how hurt he is. Am I a

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Speaker 6: hope for refusing to give up the ring? No, No,

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Speaker 6: it's your ring. Do whatever you want it. Literally, like,

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Speaker 6: I don't care if he wants it. I don't care

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Speaker 6: if you're gonna pay me for it. I don't care,

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Speaker 6: you know. Like, and that's the other thing. He's not

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Speaker 6: even like offering money or anything.

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Speaker 8: Actually it was supposed to go to me, so it

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Speaker 8: should go to me, thank you, But like, okay, one,

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Speaker 8: you have the close relationship with your grandma. And two

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Speaker 8: all he said was, oh, my girlfriend likes vintage stuff.

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00:51:30,400 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 8: No recognition that that came from your grandma and that

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Speaker 8: there is a history there. Just oh well, aesthetically she

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Speaker 8: likes it, so that's why you should give it to me.

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Speaker 6: And also, if you want a vintage rink, there's plenty

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Speaker 6: of vintage rinks anywhere, Like go to a rips job.

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Speaker 9: It's just too lazy to go look for one.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he doesn't have the money. He's just like, oh

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Speaker 6: well this one, this one's nice and it's free. Mm hmm.

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Speaker 6: But it's not mine. Mm hmmm. Update three days after

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Speaker 6: So here's what happened since my original post. A few

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Speaker 6: days after the argument, my parents invited me over for dinner,

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Speaker 6: saying they wanted to talk things through. I was skeptical

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Speaker 6: but went anyway. Surprise, surprise, it was a setup. Of course,

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Speaker 6: it was.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, my probably have someone sneaking into your house to

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Speaker 8: steal the ring. This is a heist, It's like, and

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Speaker 8: bring the ring just so we can talk it over,

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Speaker 8: so we can see which finger it belongs to.

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Speaker 6: M My brother and his girlfriend were both there, and

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Speaker 6: the whole thing turned into an ambush. His girlfriend, who

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Speaker 6: by the way, had no idea about the drama, was

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Speaker 6: super sweet and kept saying things like, oh, I don't

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Speaker 6: want to take anything from you. I just loved the

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Speaker 6: idea of something sentimental. So the girlfriend doesn't even want

1142
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Speaker 6: it's just like, I don't know. I'm sorry. I just

1143
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Speaker 6: thought I liked the idea. But if it's yours, keep

1144
00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 6: it like that's all right. Yeah. So now I was

1145
00:52:56,719 --> 00:52:59,160
Speaker 6: the bad guy for making a big deal out of it.

1146
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 6: My parents kept pushing, my brother was sulking, and I

1147
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Speaker 6: was basically being guilt tripped into handing over something that

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Speaker 6: was willed to me. I stood my ground and told

1149
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Speaker 6: them all that the conversation was over. My brother then

1150
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Speaker 6: tried to compromise by saying, well, what if I borrow

1151
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Speaker 6: it just for the proposal and the wedding and then

1152
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Speaker 6: you can have it back.

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Speaker 8: Why is this happening in front of the girlfriend? I

1154
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 8: would be so pissed to viral the girlfriend. I'm like,

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Speaker 8: I'm sorry, are you spoiling my proposal so that you

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Speaker 8: can use me to get this ring that's not yours?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? And also I just like, I don't know why

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Speaker 6: you just can't get a different one? Yeah? Like what's

1159
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Speaker 6: the point of like being like, oh, yeah, this is

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Speaker 6: her veying? This is harrangue, like introducing it as her.

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Speaker 6: It's like And the other thing is he's not gonna

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Speaker 6: give it back when you gave it or it's not

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Speaker 6: he's like, oh it was Viner's keepers. Yeah, he's gonna

1164
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Speaker 6: be like, no she ever said I said no that

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Speaker 6: you get you willfully gave it to me? Yeah, gift? Nope,

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Speaker 6: not happening. Then the real reveal. I found out for

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Speaker 6: my aunt, my dad's sister, that my grandmother explicitly left

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Speaker 6: the ring to me because she knew my parents would

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Speaker 6: pressure me to give it to my brother. Apparently she

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Speaker 6: saw this whole mess coming and wanted to make sure

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Speaker 6: I got something special of hers. Ah. When I told

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Speaker 6: my parents this, my mom got really quiet, and my

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Speaker 6: dad just said something like, well, she probably didn't mean

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Speaker 6: to cause this kind of divide.

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Speaker 8: The only person causing this kind of divide is you, guys.

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Speaker 6: Know what. At this point, I'm done with all conversation.

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Speaker 6: My brother is still barely speaking to me. My parents

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Speaker 6: are acting like I've personally ruined their lives, but honestly,

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Speaker 6: I don't care anymore. I have the ring. It was

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Speaker 6: left to me, and I'm keeping it. Thanks again for

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Speaker 6: all the advice. Definitely don't feel like the ahole anymore.

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Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, nor should you. Yeah no, you shouldn't. It's

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Speaker 6: just just the people who like are just feel entitled.

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Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, they're like, oh, well, I am the oldest,

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Speaker 6: so that's my ring.

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Speaker 8: It's that's ridiculous, especially when it's in because a lot

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Speaker 8: of times these sort of you know, issues and disputes

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Speaker 8: in families happen when one family or you know, when

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Speaker 8: it's not explicit in the will.

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Speaker 6: What goes to or what goes to you know who.

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Speaker 8: But here it was all explicitly stated who gets what,

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Speaker 8: and they still are trying to go against that when

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Speaker 8: it's so specific. Yeah yeah, so definitely not the a

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Speaker 8: hole they're entitled.

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Speaker 6: Get them out of there. That's my final thought.

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Speaker 8: I asked my family to plan our vacation for once,

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Speaker 8: but they did absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 6: Come on, and all you gotta do is call a

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Speaker 6: few people.

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Speaker 8: This year for spring break, I forty three gave my kids,

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Speaker 8: ten female and seventeen male, the choice of four cities

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Speaker 8: to visit for spring break Toronto, Chicago, Washington, DC, or

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Speaker 6: I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, and we're here.

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Speaker 8: To give good of ice, scoofy but we don't have

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Speaker 8: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

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Speaker 8: let us know what you would do in the comments

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Speaker 8: and opeak continues. Before they were allowed to choose, I

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Speaker 8: expressed to them and my husband forty seven mail, that

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Speaker 8: this trip I would not be planning. All other family

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Speaker 8: trips and even couples trips, have been planned exclusively by me,

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Speaker 8: some even paid for exclusively by me. We've always had

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Speaker 8: separate finances. I've always done this willingly, but with irritation.

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Speaker 8: That's insane, that's actually crazy that you're paying for them.

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Speaker 6: I feel we would never.

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Speaker 8: Travel if I didn't plan it, but I also feel

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Speaker 8: there would be complaints that we would never go anywhere.

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Speaker 8: I also feel like it became my responsibility to ensure

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Speaker 8: everyone is having fun. We do things each person would

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Speaker 8: like and scope local eats well in advance to make

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Speaker 8: sure everyone gets at least something they would enjoy. I

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Speaker 8: have never been told this is my job. I've just

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Speaker 8: done it. It's important to me that everyone enjoys trips,

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Speaker 8: has fun, learn something, et cetera. The kids chose DC.

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Speaker 8: They have never been, and my husband's never been. I've

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Speaker 8: been quite a few times. I asked for this trip

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Speaker 8: to be planned by them, kids and spouse. I expressed

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Speaker 8: this before they chose the city, and I offered reminders,

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Speaker 8: encouraging them to discuss together what they wanted to do, see, eat,

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Speaker 8: et cetera. I also told them that typically when I

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Speaker 8: plan a trip, I plot things we want to do

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Speaker 8: in the city and a trip within Apple Maps so

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Speaker 8: that you can see what things are close together, making

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Speaker 8: planning easier. In the four weeks from decision time to

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Speaker 8: leaving ferdy C, I did not hear or observe much

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Speaker 8: discussion about the trip. That's okay. I don't need them

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Speaker 8: to plan things how I plan them. Mentally, I'm nervous

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Speaker 8: about the situation, but if I said I don't want

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Speaker 8: to plan this trip, then it's not okay for me

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Speaker 8: to micromanage how they plan. Now we're driving there and

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Speaker 8: my daughter ten asks me what kind of things specifically

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Speaker 8: we're going to do on our trip?

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Speaker 6: Excuse me?

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Speaker 8: It is revealed that literally nothing is planned except where

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Speaker 8: we're staying, because I booked that I offered in the

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Speaker 8: beginning and actually gave them several options to choose from.

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Speaker 8: Everything that is planned is more of a mental list

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Speaker 8: of things they'd like to do or see. Potentially, there's

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Speaker 8: a lot more of this story, so we're gonna pause here.

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Speaker 6: What do you think so far? I mean, they're just

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Speaker 6: not planners. They just they're che to do everything. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: But the thing is, I don't I don't think that

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Speaker 6: that's Opie's fault. I think op might like like the

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Speaker 6: control and might you know, everything's planned, everything's thought out,

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Speaker 6: and then it's like, okay, now you do it, but

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Speaker 6: like have you given them the tools to know how to? Yeah,

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Speaker 6: like givingsestions.

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Speaker 8: I think I honestly think some people are planners and

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Speaker 8: some people are really not planners.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, and I kind of oscillate, you know.

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Speaker 8: I like to get plans off the ground, but the

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Speaker 8: actual like itinerary, you know, I have I have friends

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Speaker 8: who are very good at that and they love doing it,

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Speaker 8: and I'll just kind of give my input.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: So I do think sometimes people are just not planners.

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Speaker 8: And if you have an issue with it, then I

1274
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Speaker 8: think you know, sitting down with them and working with them.

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Speaker 8: Because also you have two minor children and explicitly stating

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Speaker 8: to your husband like, hey pay for half this trip.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know why the husband is yeah, why

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Speaker 6: is he not paying anything? He's just like, ooh free trip. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: My last question, does your husband do other things? Like

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Speaker 6: are you splitting you know, roles? Yeah, like maybe he

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Speaker 6: pays for like everything else since she just pays for

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Speaker 6: vacations or something that maybe seems a little bit more reasonable.

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Speaker 6: But yeah, I do understand your frustration though. Yeah, pain

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Speaker 6: for nothing is crazy, it's weird. But we've got more.

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Speaker 6: I am pissed, yes, more so, I'm hurt. I'm sad.

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Speaker 8: Part of me wants to take the next four hours

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Speaker 8: of driving time to plot out things so we can

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Speaker 8: do and see things that are close in proximity, so

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Speaker 8: not to waste time traversing the city. I know if

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Speaker 8: I do that, I'll be filled with resentment. The other

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Speaker 8: part of me wants to do that, plot out things

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Speaker 8: and actually just do it alone. Also, I'll add that

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Speaker 8: I'm aware that winging it is totally reasonable, and we've

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Speaker 8: had many trips where nothing was planned or set in

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Speaker 8: stone and everything was great. For me, it's the nothing

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Speaker 8: not a dang thing was planned. Would I be the

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Speaker 8: ale for just doing my own thing? And we've got

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Speaker 8: an edit?

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Speaker 6: But uh, do you have any answers for op on that.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I would say go with the flow and

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Speaker 6: be like, yeah, no, I told you guys, I'm not

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Speaker 6: planning it. So if you want to go and do stuff,

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Speaker 6: then you have to plan it. We're not just gonna

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Speaker 6: drive around or you know, if if you want to

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Speaker 6: do something, tell us what you want to do, you know,

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Speaker 6: make the reservation, call around, get appointments whatever. It's like,

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Speaker 6: you gotta you gotta take initiative. And I understand, you know,

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Speaker 6: the one kid's ten, so I don't think she can

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Speaker 6: really do much. But the seventeen year old, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 6: and your husband, yeah, and your husband can be like okay, yeah,

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Speaker 6: you know, what do we all want to do here

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Speaker 6: on this vacation, Like do we want to do this?

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Speaker 4: That the other thing?

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Speaker 6: What? And then just go from there, make the calls,

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Speaker 6: make the reservations.

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Speaker 3: Boom.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 8: I think if you are really upset, just stick to

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01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:47,320
Speaker 8: stick to you know, what you said, and then make

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Speaker 8: them do it.

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Speaker 6: And honestly, I would be like if if, ope, if

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Speaker 6: you have things you want to do, I'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna go do this. I don't know what you guys,

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Speaker 6: are gonna do. But you know, I don't want to

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Speaker 6: have a separate vacation from my family. Yeah, but you know,

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Speaker 6: you guys got to learn to do things on your own,

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Speaker 6: be independent.

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Speaker 10: Ed it.

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Speaker 8: My hurt and irritation is directed towards my spouse. My

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01:02:09,080 --> 01:02:12,000
Speaker 8: ten year old somewhat exposed that nothing had been planned,

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Speaker 8: and when I discussed with my forty seven year old

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Speaker 8: adult male husband that I was mentally over planning trips,

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Speaker 8: I asked him to work with the kids on coming

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Speaker 8: up with ideas.

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Speaker 6: Our trips are not planned.

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Speaker 8: Out the minute or hour, but we have general ideas

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Speaker 8: of what we want to do that day. DC has

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Speaker 8: so much to do with this, I know, but several

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Speaker 8: things require pre planning and pre booking. I'm not holding

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Speaker 8: my ten year old responsible for this. She's just the

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Speaker 8: one to inform me that they never even discuss this

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Speaker 8: trip at all, and we've got an update.

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Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 8: I think just let them do it and see how

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01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:48,960
Speaker 8: it goes and go with the flow, you know. Yeah,

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Speaker 8: I think part of you being overplanning also needs to

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Speaker 8: be you letting go of that fear of nothing happening.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, like if nothing happens, thing happens. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: and the thing is Ope, I think just just chill.

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Speaker 6: I mean, here, it's gonna be a vacation any way

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Speaker 6: that you spend it. You know, you're off work, you're

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Speaker 6: with your family. Make the best of it. And sometimes,

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Speaker 6: you know, if you go in having this like attitude

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Speaker 6: of like, let's just you know, whatever you guys want, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: let's see it, you'll have way more fun than being like,

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Speaker 6: oh my god, they still haven't planning anything exactly. You know,

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Speaker 6: you don't want to plan anything, don't plan anything. Oh,

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Speaker 6: just go with the thaw.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, and we've got a little more from this next update.

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Speaker 8: It ended up being a great trip that my oldest

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Speaker 8: specifically loved. He missed going on the standard eighth grade

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Speaker 8: school trip to DC that's common year due to that

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Speaker 8: being avid year for the school. After reading every response,

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Speaker 8: including those offering answers to questions that weren't asked or

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Speaker 8: inserting additional information as fact, I think the majority of

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Speaker 8: the swing was that I was not the ale.

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Speaker 6: After thinking about it, the actual.

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Speaker 8: Question asked, I would have been a total ale to

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Speaker 8: ditch by kids ten year old. Specifically, I do not

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Speaker 8: think nor care actually if anyone thinks Simon a hole

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Speaker 8: for being hurt and upset by the whole thing. I

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Speaker 8: sat back and did not involve myself in the last

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Speaker 8: minute scramble of planning. They did secure tickets to the

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Speaker 8: things they wanted that required them all a cost museum,

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Speaker 8: air and space zoo. But honestly, how they packed is

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Speaker 8: where planning might have been helpful. I think freezing their

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Speaker 8: butts off without truly the right shoes to walk the

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Speaker 8: thirty five miles I clocked, we walked in four and

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Speaker 8: a half days, did it? I packed my daughter so

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Speaker 8: she was fine.

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Speaker 6: I mean, opee, I think you're you're just kind of chilling. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I think that's what you should do. You know, don't

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Speaker 6: don't make it into like a whole fighting vacation of like, well,

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Speaker 6: if you guys would have said that, if you would

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Speaker 6: have planned this, then we wouldn't have to let my

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Speaker 6: l you know, let them learn their lesson. You don't

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Speaker 6: have to rub it in their face. They'll know, yeah,

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Speaker 6: and just be like, well, you know, next time, guys,

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Speaker 6: if you need help with planning, you can come to me.

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Speaker 6: But I just want you to know I can't do

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Speaker 6: it all the time.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, A part of having your You know, it doesn't

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Speaker 8: really apply to your husband, but a part of letting

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Speaker 8: your children be independent is also not getting mad at

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Speaker 8: them for not doing it the way that you want.

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Speaker 6: Yes, yes, I think that's a big thing. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 6: like I think there is this.

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Speaker 8: Not habit, but there is this instinct to try and

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Speaker 8: let someone to do something.

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Speaker 6: You're like, okay, I want you to do it this time.

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Speaker 6: I can't do it anymore. And then when they.

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Speaker 8: Don't do it exactly how you want, then you get

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01:05:40,960 --> 01:05:42,840
Speaker 8: frustrated and you're like, oh, well, I'll just do it.

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Speaker 6: You give in.

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01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:46,480
Speaker 8: It's like no, you have to really let go, and

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01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:49,720
Speaker 8: that is also letting go of the emotions that come

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Speaker 8: with that. But we've got a little bit left. I

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Speaker 8: talked with my spouse. I also talked with the whole family.

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Speaker 8: Even reading this post and responses that existed at the time,

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Speaker 8: I will add not that it matters to those that

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Speaker 8: invented facts. The planning of this trip was not a surprise.

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Speaker 8: Previous trips planned by me were not done in secrecy.

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Speaker 8: My goal as a parent has been to raise future adults.

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Speaker 8: The skills were and are there, so I didn't end

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Speaker 8: up ditching everyone. I did tell them that I was

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Speaker 8: contemplating it, and once everyone got to them all and

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01:06:22,680 --> 01:06:25,760
Speaker 8: saw how far everything was from each other, suddenly every

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Speaker 8: day I had a loose agenda.

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Speaker 6: Literally the only thing I asked for. And that's the

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01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:34,720
Speaker 6: end of the story. There we go worked out in

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01:06:34,800 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 6: the end. Yeah, I think just you know, take things slow,

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Speaker 6: just chill, just kind of go with the flow, and

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01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:44,840
Speaker 6: you know, I think everyone will have fun. Yeah, you

1424
01:06:44,920 --> 01:06:47,520
Speaker 6: just gotta sometimes the best thing to do is just

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01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 6: let go.

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Speaker 5: It's true, and that's you know of this story.