1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: the sound of the beeB. 12 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 2: Hi Cheekys. Just want to start off by saying I 13 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 2: love you and your family and super proud of you. 14 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 2: Thank you for this platform. My question is I'm having 15 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,759 Speaker 2: a tough time dealing with the breakup. It's been four 16 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 2: months since we'd broken up. We had a three year relationship. 17 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:16,720 Speaker 2: We were constantly fighting. There was no intimacy. Come to 18 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 2: find out, he had ed never wanted to talk about 19 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 2: it or deal with it. He didn't want to go 20 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 2: anywhere and he would tell me for me just to 21 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 2: go on my own. But I wanted us to have 22 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 2: and share these memories. So it was this toxic he 23 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 2: was calling me names and constantly criticizing me. So but 24 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 2: I still miss him. I so cry over it. And 25 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 2: I recently find out he's on dating maps and one 26 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 2: of them is Grinder. So he was always animant that 27 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 2: he was straight, so that when I'm just having a 28 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 2: hard time accepting that or dealing with it, I just 29 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 2: I'm a loss of what to do because I'm just 30 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 2: constantly crying and I don't know what to do. So 31 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 2: thank you for your time. 32 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: Oh mama, see Die, I want to give you a hug. 33 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: I hear it. I hear it in your voice, and 34 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Breakups are hard. 35 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: You have to give yourself some grace. You have to 36 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: lean into this pain. I know it's hard. I know 37 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: it hurts, but we always learn something valuable about ourselves 38 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: about what we want and what we don't want in 39 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:47,359 Speaker 1: a relationship when we have breakups and when we're in pain. 40 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:51,239 Speaker 1: So this is a time to really sit and sit 41 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: with that pain and just know that it's going to 42 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: go away. It will. You have to do the work, though, 43 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 1: like you have to be willing to do the work, 44 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: and that means cry it out. When you want to cry, 45 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: hang out with people that make you feel good. Don't 46 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 1: just stay in your house all day, work out, read 47 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: a book, do things that are going to make you 48 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: feel better, and when you want to cry crying, when 49 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: you want to dance, do that too. I don't like 50 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: this guy for you at all. If he's on grinder baby, 51 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: he's most likely gay, he's confused, and he was probably 52 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: very mean to you because he's upset with himself because 53 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 1: he probably can't live his truth. So that's not your fault, 54 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: and don't be upset with him. He probably comes from 55 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: a family that can accept gay people. I don't know, 56 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 1: but pray for him, wish him well, and know that 57 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: this is not your fault, and know that the best 58 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: thing that could have happened to you is for you 59 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 1: guys to break up, because if you were fighting and 60 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 1: he was toxic and he was calling you names and 61 00:03:56,280 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: not being intimate, that's probably because he's struggling with his 62 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: sexuality and it has nothing to do with you. I 63 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: would be more hurt if I saw him on dating 64 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: apps with like chicks. That to me would be like, okay, 65 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: then it's me and maybe I wasn't enough. But if 66 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: he's on grinder, that's stuff he needs to deal with 67 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 1: and he needs to figure that out. And you just 68 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: need to do your work and you need to focus 69 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 1: on yourself, shake it off and know that this too 70 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: will pass. It will pass, This too shall pass. I 71 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: promise you. Pain does not last forever. We are meant 72 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: to grow and to learn, and I know it hurts 73 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: right now, but you need to shake that shit off. 74 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: You need to and you will little by little. I'm 75 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:39,840 Speaker 1: not telling you to do it right now because I've 76 00:04:39,839 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 1: been there. It took me a long time. But do 77 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:46,159 Speaker 1: things that make you feel good, whatever that may be. 78 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about going and drinking because drinking 79 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 1: makes us feel good and we're like, okay, I just 80 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: want to figure it about my pain and don't suppress 81 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: the pain. You have to feel it. I'm talking about 82 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: doing things that are good for you, you know. And 83 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 1: also an episode we just had an episode about healing 84 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: from heartbreak on Chiki's and chill listen to it. Give 85 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: it a listen. There's a lot of gems there, so 86 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: I hope it helps and I'm hoping it gets better. 87 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:14,040 Speaker 1: And just know not the man for you. Rejection is 88 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: God's protection. Remember that. Okay, guys, next question comes from Arlen. 89 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 2: Ola tikis parte ho mad trin when. 90 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 1: What the same? And honest ah Arlen, which is grass. Yes, 91 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 1: they chuck out the complete quarinta and complete mui three 92 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: day polo guarenta, mescientos, croquet sporge a ju dado nar 93 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: meaning interior, rapiaquid much apiel, tomo agua mequidos nago her 94 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: cicio magmuchas lassers lass lass whatever lasers and la caa 95 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 1: is the siencaa clam esperma, salmon a sike joago istantem 96 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: called comantes quiero event not called para pero siempre metomo 97 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: al go para a jud co last toxinas, carlas, toxinas, 98 00:06:56,839 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: viario del cuerpo, plastocina jes no suplementos my toxina in alcohol. 99 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: It wass the looes you guys. Ireland was just saying 100 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: that how do I do it to look so young, 101 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: which is a great compliment, and I was just telling 102 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: her that I just turned forty, As you guys know, 103 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: I think now I feel better about saying it because 104 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: I just I feel young. I'm very proud of how 105 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: far I've come, and I was just telling her that 106 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: I've been doing boat talks for a while for a 107 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 1: long time. I do a lot of facials. My skincare 108 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 1: routine is important. I drink a lot of water, I sleep. 109 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: I try not to drink as much alcohol as before. 110 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: Has a lot of toxins, which brings me to toxins. 111 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 1: Doing a daily cleanse is important because the more toxins 112 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: we have in our body, the quicker our body ages. 113 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: So more toxins our organs don't work the way they should, 114 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: and then that makes us age faster. So I do 115 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: that a lot of green tea. I also just recently 116 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: did for the first time the salmon sprim facial ooh, 117 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: girl bomb, I'm so happy. And lasers, so I do 118 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: lasers amorpheus. I share everything because I mean, it's worked 119 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: for me, and I like sharing what works for me, 120 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: so I'm not shy about it. But yeah, I'm really happy. 121 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: I love that she thought I was just a little 122 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:32,679 Speaker 1: bit over thirty. Love that for us. Grata. Arlene is 123 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: Bemosorda Okay, guys, hi chikis. 124 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 2: Is La tries posta protection sila manga parte is the presciosa. 125 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 1: Hi gracias Maidra. So Mara's asking about my bracelet, that 126 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 1: I wear my protection bracelet. She's asking where I got 127 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: it from. She loves it. I love that she notices 128 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 1: was one of my fan the Houston, Texas. Yeah, is 129 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: the oro in in estem and loo and the ebo. 130 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: I pero josi jo perro I think, But yes, guys, 131 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:50,599 Speaker 1: I was just telling her that a fan gave it 132 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: to me, A fan gave it to me from Houston, Texas. 133 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 1: And before then I had one that my friend Delia 134 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: Halterer gave me, who I love very much. But then 135 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 1: I miss placed it unfortunately, and it made its way 136 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 1: back to me. 137 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:03,079 Speaker 2: You know. 138 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:04,719 Speaker 1: And a lot of people don't believe in the evil eye, 139 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: but I do. It's a symbol and I just feel 140 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: like maybe it's mental, but I do believe that evil 141 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: eye and jealousy and envy exists. So I just like 142 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: to protect myself even if I don't have a protection 143 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: bracelet on. I protect myself like I put like a 144 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:18,319 Speaker 1: little mental shield around me. I'm like I am protected. 145 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:20,319 Speaker 1: I am protected from the top of my head to 146 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 1: the bottom of my feet every day I do this. Okay, 147 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:26,319 Speaker 1: Well that finalizes this episode, guys, madam which has asked, yes, 148 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 1: is this. 149 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 2: Well? 150 00:10:31,559 --> 00:10:33,719 Speaker 1: No? You guys, thank you so much. I am am 151 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:36,559 Speaker 1: grateful for you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for 152 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: letting me help you and trusting me with advice. I 153 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: promise I will always give you, guys, the best advice 154 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:43,439 Speaker 1: from the bottom of my heart, as if I was 155 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: giving it to my best friend, to my sister, to 156 00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: my siblings. 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