WEBVTT - Let That Ish Go 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:01.000 Speaks to the Plannet. 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:02.520 I go by the name of Charlamagne of God, and 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:04.920 guess what, I can't wait to see y'all at the 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:08.319 third annual Black Effect Podcast Festival. That's right, We're coming 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:11.360 back to Atlanta, Georgia, Saturday, April twenty six at Poleman 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:14.840 Yards and it's hosted by none other than Decisions Decisions, 0:00:14.840 --> 0:00:17.560 Mandy B and Wheezy. Okay, we got the R and 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:20.319 B Money podcast, were taking Jay Valentine. We got the 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.880 Woman of All Podcasts with Saray Jake Roberts, we got 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.479 Good Mom's Bad Choices. Carrie Champion will be there with 0:00:25.520 --> 0:00:28.440 her next sports podcast and the Trap Nerds podcast with 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:31.200 more to be announced. 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Big? 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.920 Tim Bam boom boom would say, your booty on the 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:14.679 ground big. 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:22.560 I love y'all, man, I love y'all so much. I 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:24.640 extra love y'all this week, y'all was in my das. 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:27.240 First of all, it was a lot of y'all talking 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.680 about I was looking on toes. I did not lick 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:32.600 that nigga toes. That is a lie, y'all. Stopped y'all 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:35.559 running out talking about your teeth. Your teeth too pretty 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:38.000 to be looking a nigga's feet. I never put that 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:43.240 nigga foot in my mouth. Let's let that go, okay. 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:46.320 I wish we had the video, man, Oh, it be 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:48.320 more funny so they could see your face when he 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:49.440 started saying that shit. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:54.200 Y'all, we filmed all this shit, and then the filmographer 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:55.440 ran off with the. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:02:03.640 Footage, not filmographer, videographer. Shame creaking work ran off, y'all. 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.559 It's just we try, okay, and we're gonna keep trying. 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:09.160 But and we're gonna keep trying with black people too. 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:10.200 We ain't giving up on yall. 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.560 Niggas not giving up on y'all. But I love y'all 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:16.360 so much. I do. How was your weekend? AJ, you 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:16.720 saw me? 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:17.880 I was outside a little bit. 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:21.320 I see you outside with some bad bitches girls. 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.560 I was outside with some girls. I reconnected with one 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:25.600 of my friends and she lived right down the street 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:26.120 from me. Y'all. 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:27.000 Damn. 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:31.080 One of my friends, Courtney, So I hung up with 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:35.000 her and some of her friends and we went outside 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:36.320 to the hood. 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:39.160 Yes, I love a good hood. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:41.440 And it's hard being the cutest people in the fucking club. 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:42.680 I like it. 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:45.560 I don't. I prefer because I feel like every girl 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:46.280 want to fight. 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:48.880 And somebody want to fight. 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:52.480 The niggas just we be praying. They don't even come over, 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:54.440 but we do want y'all to stow by drinks. 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:59.239 Though I did not come over. Its crazy. 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:02.440 I mean, I'm over, but like come to buy drinks 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:04.760 like we paid. Like, first of all, it was pissed 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:06.639 because we paid thirty dollars a piece of get into 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:09.799 this shit R and B night in the hood. If 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:12.799 we go downtown Charleston and any downtown. Really, you don't 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:16.160 pay to get any place, get in any white establishments 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:17.720 you go in and. 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:21.960 As much for it is hard. 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:23.959 I mean mixed crowds. 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:27.720 No, mixed crowds can be fun, but if it's an 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.400 all white crowd, I'd be feeling in danger. No shade 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:32.919 to white people, but I'll be the same way y'all 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:35.160 feel when y'all in an all black crowd, I feel 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:36.880 the same way. So I don't. 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:39.400 I don't be comfortable nowhere, because when I'm in the hood, 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:41.960 I be like and that is really really ain't too much. 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:45.240 It's not that much of the hood, but enough, it's enough. 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:48.920 I don't go nowhere, that's to to hood now. I'll 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:52.640 be scared now when in my younger days I fall 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:53.160 right in. 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:57.480 But this is like old wayans, like the old street niggas. 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:59.880 This place, Oh they're not. You can still get popping. 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.360 Why you can't be an old y n It means 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:03.280 young kids. 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:05.800 An old young nigga. We know there's to be some 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:11.320 grown ass boys out here. Okay, Look, I told look, 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:13.160 I told list nigga. I'm about to start calling him. 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:16.120 Whyian Limb, because you be around here thinking you a 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:20.159 little boy, a young guy, old last niggas, Hyan Limb. 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.520 What's up? Whyian Limb, don't do that. 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:24.800 Don't do that. 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:28.920 Yeah, I have a fun child. We have funny. And 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:31.279 I went over to one of my uh, one of 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:33.160 my other guy friends. He owns a bar down here, 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:34.520 so we went there for a little bit too. 0:04:36.680 --> 0:04:37.880 I think it's mercury. 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:43.599 Uh, girl, shut up, it's mercury retrograde. And it did 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:44.720 start on the fifteenth. 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:48.400 Girl, I tell you, every nigga avenue in my life 0:04:48.520 --> 0:04:51.200 slid this weekend, Like was trying to cause. 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:53.120 You put that ass on the ground. You already know, 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:57.760 but even before reminder, okay, oh but. 0:04:57.920 --> 0:04:59.960 All right, So they really started rolling in when our 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.880 posted that picture, but prior to that, they was already 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:05.760 like in the DMS, in the text like just it 0:05:05.800 --> 0:05:09.280 was weird because you know, niggas circle back. We already 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.400 know that's gonna happen, but I having them all. It's 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:13.120 like they was in a group chat and like, let's 0:05:13.160 --> 0:05:16.520 who who this bitch gonna text back first? That's what. Anyway, 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:19.320 I went outside on Saturday night shout out the Stats 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:21.920 in Charlotte, North Carolina. I went there and they had 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.880 their patio open. I've never been to Stats since it 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:26.440 was remodeled and I. 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:28.840 Went to they got a pati on Now I hear that. 0:05:28.920 --> 0:05:31.120 So yeah, they they are. If you ever been to 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:35.240 like camp in Houston, their patio is given that kind 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:37.680 of vibe. So it's like a whole nother party outside 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:41.240 versus the inside, which I preferred. It's like when we 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:44.359 sat out there and you know, had a little cocktails, 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:48.320 a little hookah, a little you know, that's that's not cocaine. Yeah, 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:49.760 that might have sounded like cocaine. 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:55.960 That's cocaine. When we say, whoo, that's cocaine. Cokine speaking 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.760 a fucking cocaine. Hold on. So we get to the bar, 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.359 my homeboys spot, and a nigga who was buying us 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:05.000 drinks at the other club, he came sat at the 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:07.440 table with us and I'm like, you got some of 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:13.280 your glasses and your nose pottery substance, clean it up, cocore, 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:15.880 So you take his glass dot. He was like, oh, 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.600 thank you, thank you for looking out. I said, yeah, 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:20.880 you need to tighten up. I mean he had like 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.599 a little narrow nose too. So like the ship was 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:28.760 like a little like the cook was calling toward that 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:31.359 nigga knows and in the corner of the glasses and 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:35.840 I'm like, yo, damn really be outside rolling? Yeah, I 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:39.479 never knew you will be so yes, I know, right, 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:43.320 but I'm always those shocked at people who do cocaine. 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:44.920 Right, you too? 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:47.400 Okay, the hell is happening? 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:51.359 Yes, speaking of that, I used to like want to 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:56.279 try you know, really, I listen, I want to try everything. 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.719 That's my problem. That's been my problem in life. I 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:01.880 will to try everything. Once i'd be like, I just 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:04.800 want to live. But drugs I'm scared of because I 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:07.520 know I got that addictive personality and I'll be a 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:11.400 crack here. Really, I already know, so I just have 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:16.080 to be careful about what I consume and what I do. 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.160 So no cocaine for me and then be dropping dead 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:21.760 all the time, like you literally dropping dead. So I 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:22.679 want to fuck with it. 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:25.080 It's not clean coke anymore. You don't know what you're getting. 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:27.200 You don't know what you getting with the weed, the pills, 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:30.960 the coke, like fittanol is mixed and every damn thing. 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:33.600 So have you ever put on something and you're like, 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:35.640 I don't know if it's giving and then you go 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:39.320 out and everybody like you, I've been so cute and 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:41.480 you're like, oh shit, I wasn't even sure about that's 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.120 what happened. I'm about to order that little outfit and 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:44.040 every color. 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:47.840 So you was feeling yourself this weekend? 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:49.600 Yes, I was Saturday night. 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:51.840 I wasn't too because I don't be going outside for real. 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:56.920 So I haven't been like in a environment with music 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:58.760 and people. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.160 Wow me neither because my foot was broken and I 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:07.280 was not coming outside like that outside, Yeah, because it 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:09.160 ain't for me like that. I don't have to be 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:11.440 sitting on the I've been doing it forever. I don't 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:12.800 have to do that shit. I'm worrying. I want to 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:14.880 take me on the trip, yes, and to. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.240 Eat or I want to go I want to go 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:22.000 out out of town like locally. I'm cool on it. 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:25.680 So I know everybody's been asking this. In the DMS too. 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:28.200 For the love of tam band, they was like, what 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.280 happened to y'all just gonna do the show and then 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:33.440 don't tell us what happened. So it was like really 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:39.000 close between Jordan and Willie Williams, but ultimately Willie Williams 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:41.920 came out as the victor on who y'all voted for, 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:44.920 so he was actually I didn't want to, like I 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:47.520 wanted us to do a full episode on it. After 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.960 I went out on a date with him, and he 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.000 was actually supposed to fly to New York to take 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:56.160 me on a date this week this past weekend, but 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.000 I was in Charlotte. I stayed in Charlotte. I didn't 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.400 get back on time, so he did not come out. 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.880 But we're gonna go on a date, and then after 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:07.120 the date, we're definitely maybe I'll invite him back on 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:11.040 to have a conversation about how the date went, if 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.800 y'all want to hear it. So that's what's up. I 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.320 just wanted to update y'all that and thank y'all for 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:19.400 voting for me a date. I can't wait to go 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:21.880 on this date. This man has to fly across the country, 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:27.480 so hopefully date we live that. Oh well, I guess 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:34.240 it's not that far Georgia to New York, not across 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:35.920 the country, up up the East. 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:41.800 Coast, all right, so good luck to that. Okay, don't 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:43.080 pop the balloon on a nigga. 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:48.120 I will pop a balloon quick. I love In that episode, 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:50.959 I see the text message of a red balloon and 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:52.839 a safety depending to a nigga real quick and then 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:53.439 be done. 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:55.960 Oh, hold on before we get into stupid in that news. 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:58.760 So you are saying that you've never sucked toes before. 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:04.280 No, I'm never suck all of y'all right, never put 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.720 nobody foot in my mouth me neither. 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:09.240 I be like looking at nigga sideways when they put 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:11.160 my feet in their mouth, like I expect the nigga 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:12.960 to lick my toes while my legs in the air. 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:15.840 But I'm also looking like nigga, I was just tiptoe 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:18.160 across your floor like winned to Pooh, Like what are 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:19.640 you doing? My position? 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:21.600 What I have had to been in to be putting 0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:23.640 a nigga foot in my mouth? Like you know, Like 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:25.240 where am i am? I? 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.360 Like down on the floor, like on your knees. 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:29.920 I'm not that submissive. 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:33.559 We want to hear from y'all tell us anybody who'll 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.959 be licking men's feet, Like, please tell us what position 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:37.560 y'all be in, Like how y'all be doing it? Do 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:39.360 he like just be laying down on his back and 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:42.160 he's just massaging them up from head to feet or 0:10:42.240 --> 0:10:44.160 head to toe. I want to know, like. 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:51.839 How you do that? I'm gonna I'm not gonna foot shame, 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:54.320 because that's some people are really into feet, Like this 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:56.960 guy I was talking to, He's like, he's really a 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:57.920 big feet guy. 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:00.160 Yeah, but he's a feet guy. Does he like his 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.800 feet played with her? He likes to play with feet? 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:03.240 Oh, he likes to play with feet. 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:05.319 Right. I don't know how many men that once you 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:06.439 sucking they toes for real. 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:09.320 But y'all, I think I'm like a bad bitch. Don't 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:12.320 get me wrong, but we all got flaws. My left 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:15.800 foot go crazy. He ain't gonna like me. 0:11:16.920 --> 0:11:19.559 If y'all looking for what's wrong with tay. 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.920 It's the left foot. It's the left foot and the 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.280 right bitch, I broke the right end the left ugly, 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:33.560 it's the feet. Listen, I'm bad everywhere. I'm fine everywhere else. 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:38.960 I even got pretty knee cass. But these feet, this 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.400 left foot look like I can snatch a stab right 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:42.280 out the stream, bit. 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:50.120 Picking up rocks and throwing them. I just got a 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.040 long ass second left toe, which means you run ship 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:54.439 in your relationship. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:57.080 Allegen you be musty sometime. 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:02.680 But oh girls, speaking of musty, hold on before we like, 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:06.000 before we get in the stupid internet news girl I 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:08.560 was outside. They had like a little denim, little crop 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:13.000 talk jacket on, and I'm like, now I'm checking me out. 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:15.199 But one of the girls, who was what us not, 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:17.960 I'm just meeting these lovely young ladies, she was like, 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:23.600 greg natural deordering, Like she starts smelling me too, bitch. 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:25.400 I was over here trying to figure out. 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:25.840 If it was me. 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:30.520 It was me a little tiny bit. 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:34.000 But listen, that natural deodorant in for the week. Listen. 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:36.800 I started last year using natural deodorant, and it was 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:41.959 colder outside. As it's getting warmer, I'm finding that. Yeah, 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.840 you got to go tight like I done. Went to 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:48.200 the bathroom and at a public place and watch my 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.600 r pits under the scene and put some more deodorant 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:52.200 on because it just wasn't holding me. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:54.520 What brand do you use? 0:12:55.040 --> 0:13:00.760 So right now I'm using the Donna Karenna so good. 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.440 Yeah. But so I use an arm the Hammer, which 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.840 is cheap, it's not expensive, and I buy it in 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.920 bulke off of Amazon, and it works. I mean with 0:13:09.160 --> 0:13:12.319 natural deorderance is it's not going to stop you from sweating. 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.079 It's supposed to just try to cut the smell something right, 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.480 because the whole thing is not the block your pores 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:19.000 because you know. 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:22.160 That you're sweating. And I'm okay with it because I 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:24.840 know that my body is supposed to eliminate those toxins. 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.800 That's the purpose of your armpit sweatness to release those toxins. 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.320 So I'm learning that now because but it's uncomfortable to 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:34.840 be wet under your armpits. It's nasty and feel gross. 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.160 I really don't sweat that much. It's like, but the 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.600 poores be funky. I don't really like sweat a whole lot. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.760 And it seemed like when I would like, I would 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.719 shower and I could just wash my armpits and it 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:54.560 would be like fine, Now I really got to like scrub, scrub, scrub, scrub, scrub, scrub. 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:58.520 Theoliate. Yeah, also, I use like a little mixed. 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.600 I started using the glacolic body ship under my arm 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:07.400 piss because it's an exfoliator. Just strip all that because 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:07.920 what is that? 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:11.240 It's bacteria. So we don't get into it. Because this, y'all, 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:13.280 I want to talk about some shit this week, so 0:14:14.280 --> 0:14:17.400 which which basically like you know, what you eat, what 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:21.600 you consume, it comes out through your skin, right, so 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.000 not everybody smells some people don't even wear the order 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:27.280 and they don't smell, and they probably can attribute that 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:31.480 to a bit a good diet, you know. Yeah, yeah, Okay, 0:14:31.520 --> 0:14:33.680 so now let's finally get into stupid internet. 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:36.200 Okay, hello, on before we leave, God, damn, well, you 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:38.400 just say that we're gonna talk, I mean before we 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:42.720 go to kids. It was this young Hawaiian that you're 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.640 not like me, a little Waiian, and then I got. 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:47.640 Just said Hawaiian initially. 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:52.720 Awaiian, and he was like, yeah, like thirty, about to 0:14:52.720 --> 0:14:56.680 be thirty, so you but just we was just hanging 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:58.240 out having a good time. He was fine, and he 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:04.280 got this almost whole teppy energy, like you know, he 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:09.680 got a beard, yeah, beard, pretty curly hair, he got 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:13.000 probably some seashells on his neck because some bullshit like that, 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:16.560 you know, very earthy nigga. And he don't wear no deodorant. 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:18.880 He just said he put lemon under his armpit. 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.360 I did that for a while before I started using 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.120 a natural deodorant, and that shit started burning my skin. 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:26.400 Baby. When I tell you that, man came to my 0:15:26.480 --> 0:15:29.200 house and he had lit my house up so stink. 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:33.120 I was like, I'm sorry. I we was going we 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:34.880 was walking into the park. It was gonna go to 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:36.920 the park, and I was like, look, I gotta be 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:41.320 honest with you. Your armpit steak on the fucker right 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:44.640 now and I cannot do it. I got some natural 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.040 deodorant in there. I put a washcloth on the sink. 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:49.960 There's soap. I need you to clean your armpit and 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:52.280 put some of that natural deodorant on before we walk 0:15:52.320 --> 0:15:55.440 out this house. And he laughed so hard on my top. 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:57.280 He thought it was the funniest thing. Get y'all not 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:58.880 playing with you. If you don't put that shit under 0:15:58.880 --> 0:15:59.760 your arm you got to go. 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:02.200 You're gonna start talking to him like that's your. 0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:07.760 Spread out on the top of my couch. Like the 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:11.360 spot where his arms was was stacked like grubbing the couch. 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:13.720 While he was in the bathroom. 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:24.560 You got this motherfucking fucking man singing all right, y' yo, 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:28.800 Oh my goodness. All right. So I don't know if 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:32.720 y'all saw this guy. He's an actor, Jamal Willard. He 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:38.360 played Biggie on a notorious big movie and he was 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.440 recently on this podcast, and he has some choice stories 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:45.480 to say about you know, it's an ongoing conversation in 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:49.080 the black community, right, and how a lot of these 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:54.240 guys prefer others over Black American women, because he in 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:58.280 this conversation, he was also confusing race with culture, right, 0:16:58.360 --> 0:17:00.320 So it just sounds like he would date anybody but 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:05.640 Black American. He mentions, he says, I was dating outside 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:09.919 my race because they were doing things better than my race. 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:15.440 Willard further clarified his viewpoint by saying that he believes 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:18.960 some African American women have high expectations of men, comparing 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:23.159 his experience to dating women of other races, which he 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:27.880 means is culture right. One thing I do remember him 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:33.440 also saying is that these other women right of other 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:37.200 cultures or other races, Like he said, you don't got 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:40.919 to do much to get treated like a king. So 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:44.040 what I'm hearing is, y'all just want a lot of 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:48.560 like y'all just want to do a lot of bare minimum, 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:52.159 mediocre bullshit, and you still want to be treated like 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:54.760 a king. And I feel like part of this conversation 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:58.000 is also still alive because these other cultures, these women 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:00.760 expect to be taken care of by men, you know, 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:04.399 even the poorest of them. You're going to have to 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:10.000 do something for them. So really, what are you guys saying? Right? 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:14.880 I agree, now, I do think that we we as 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:19.679 black women, also need to It's too men. It's a 0:18:19.720 --> 0:18:24.720 lot of men saying that we're too hard, right, so 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:29.959 too hard on them. We're too hard on them. We 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:34.640 don't treat them like kings, we don't make them feel appreciated. 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:36.760 And I think we need to take a deep dive 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:40.960 into that and look at ourselves. I mean, because a 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:46.399 lot of us we come from strong, independent women. You 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:50.760 know that that characteristic has been attributed to Black women 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:55.359 since I can remember. So maybe we could be a 0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:58.000 little softer, you know, but I think it would take 0:18:58.040 --> 0:19:01.760 our black men to help us us get into a 0:19:01.800 --> 0:19:04.560 soft space, you know, like we haven't been allowed that 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:08.600 luxury of softness, you know. So you get with us 0:19:08.600 --> 0:19:11.840 and you're like, oh, she too strong, she too opinionated, 0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:15.280 she's not submissive, But we haven't been allowed that luxury, 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.840 I feel like, you know. So, I mean, there might 0:19:17.880 --> 0:19:20.119 be some truth to what he's saying about us, just 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:24.240 a little bit, not not to the point. Now, there 0:19:24.280 --> 0:19:27.160 are a lot of niggas who just don't want to 0:19:27.200 --> 0:19:30.960 be accountable, don't want to be responsible and they put 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:33.520 it on us. But I feel like there is a 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:36.479 little truth to us needing to I know, especially speaking 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:40.480 for myself, I'm hard on these niggas sometimes, I know, 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:44.040 like especially my mouth, and sometimes I can say it, 0:19:44.640 --> 0:19:47.320 I'll look back and I'd be like, damn, I could 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:51.000 have said that different. I could have said that nicer. 0:19:51.080 --> 0:19:54.560 I could have said that with more grace. You know, 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:56.359 I could have gave this nigga a little more grace. 0:19:57.640 --> 0:20:02.320 But I be expecting them to I'll be trying to 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:06.720 hold them to the same standards I hold myself, and 0:20:06.760 --> 0:20:08.960 I'd be hard on them when they like, why do 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:11.440 you don't think exactly like me? No? 0:20:11.560 --> 0:20:18.960 Okay, so you finished. So here's the thing. This is 0:20:18.960 --> 0:20:23.119 how I feel like none I agree partially, right, And 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:25.359 then this is just based off my experience. 0:20:25.440 --> 0:20:25.640 Right. 0:20:25.840 --> 0:20:28.119 I always be saying like, how I am not a 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:31.439 nice person. I am a good person. Right, So when 0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:33.440 you're a good person, a lot of nice things come 0:20:33.480 --> 0:20:38.800 out of that. Right. But my experience, men don't want 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:40.960 you nice and they don't want you nasty. It's like 0:20:41.000 --> 0:20:43.879 you have to have a nice little median, right, because 0:20:43.920 --> 0:20:46.440 men do want boundaries just like children. They don't want 0:20:46.480 --> 0:20:49.280 somebody they can run over. But at the same time, 0:20:49.960 --> 0:20:53.240