Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
Speaker 1: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador
Speaker 1: accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with
Speaker 1: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just
Speaker 1: some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
Speaker 1: Donald J.
Speaker 2: Trump's leadership.
Speaker 1: I'm Christy nom the United States Secretary of Homeland Security.
Speaker 1: Under President Trump, attempted illegal border crossings are at the
Speaker 1: lowest levels ever recorded, and over one hundred thousand illegal
Speaker 1: aliens have been arrested. If you are here illegally, your
Speaker 1: next you will be fined nearly one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned,
Speaker 1: and deported.
Speaker 2: You will never return.
Speaker 1: But if you register using our CBP home app and
Speaker 1: leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.
Speaker 2: Do what's right. Leave now.
Speaker 1: Under President Trump, America's laws, border and families will be protected.
Speaker 3: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security.
Speaker 4: I saw this video that came out yesterday and it
Speaker 4: was from Love and Hip Hop and this lift a
Speaker 4: little scrappy in his mom and I wanted to share
Speaker 4: this because it was very powerful, but I also want
Speaker 4: to kind of break it down as well, so I
Speaker 4: play it now house.
Speaker 5: I grew up in a trap house, so all I
Speaker 5: knew was that, you know what I'm saying, And I
Speaker 5: love you because you held it down, like you did
Speaker 5: what you had to do.
Speaker 6: But imagine you.
Speaker 5: You never had You never had to sleep with your
Speaker 5: mama twenty four seven because you couldn't go in your room. Okay,
Speaker 5: you never had to walk in on U dope. Yeah,
Speaker 5: you never had to walk in on un Just you
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: The way I was.
Speaker 5: Raised, I had to deal with that because everything that happened,
Speaker 5: I had to deal with that. And I'm still dealing
Speaker 5: with it because ain't nobody come and take me to
Speaker 5: give me no help.
Speaker 6: Ain't nobody got me no help.
Speaker 5: I got learned about that when I got older.
Speaker 3: So do you want it real good?
Speaker 5: Like this?
Speaker 3: What this in my head?
Speaker 5: In my head?
Speaker 6: My whole life in my head I go through.
Speaker 5: I can't even go to her hard, I can't go
Speaker 5: to you, you horror.
Speaker 6: So I'm on the concrete.
Speaker 4: But my grand Lord, So that's a very powerful clip.
Speaker 4: I mean, I get emotional washing.
Speaker 6: It's super powerful. So if you look at Scrappy and
Speaker 6: you look at his mom.
Speaker 4: The reason why I really want to show this is
Speaker 4: from the mother's end as well, because I see a
Speaker 4: lot of responses like Mama D doesn't care Mama D.
Speaker 4: Mama D is stuck in trauma response. Scrappy shared he
Speaker 4: experienced growing up with her, but there's another side to it.
Speaker 4: Her with Mama D experience growing up and trauma. Beguess trauma.
Speaker 4: So Scrappy is right in being able to one share
Speaker 4: that experience and be vulnerable with his mom.
Speaker 6: In that way.
Speaker 4: But there's again there's a there's a reason why Mama
Speaker 4: D is probably acting the way that she's acting. And
Speaker 4: I guarantee you if you go back into these maps here,
Speaker 4: we can start to see where she's probably at. Let's
Speaker 4: go back here. So if you ever watched Love and
Speaker 4: Hip Hop and you're seeing Scrappy Scrappy, you can tell
Speaker 4: he's been in a fight or flight pattern. You know,
Speaker 4: he's always fighting. Seems like he's always fighting. And again
Speaker 4: that behavior is not conscious. That is unconscious behavior. And
Speaker 4: this is why we say do the healing work, is
Speaker 4: so that you can break that pattern and start to
Speaker 4: exhibit new behaviors and This is what he's trying to
Speaker 4: do by trying to talk to his mother about what
Speaker 4: he experienced. He's trying to break a pattern. But one
Speaker 4: thing he said is he said, you know, I haven't.
Speaker 4: I'm still dealing with it. It's yet because it's in
Speaker 4: your body. You see the emotional response for him, it's
Speaker 4: in his body. So even after that event, he may
Speaker 4: walk away and that may feel good that he was
Speaker 4: able to share that, but you still got it. Empty
Speaker 4: the cup out. You still have to empty the cup
Speaker 4: of the body. And we're going to talk about that.
Speaker 4: So let me move go forward. So if anybody can
Speaker 4: ask questions too, this is open form at this point.
Speaker 4: So I grew up, move forward because I want to
Speaker 4: show this in terms of stimulus response. We live in
Speaker 4: a stimulus response feedback loop. So when you take a
Speaker 4: look at our culture, you look at again, let's talk
Speaker 4: about the imbalanced brain. If you look to the top
Speaker 4: left there that's the left side and the right side
Speaker 4: the right side, you see an over activation that has
Speaker 4: to do with being stuck in the sympathetic which is
Speaker 4: the fight flight response. So I say that this gentleman
Speaker 4: here that's called them Dante, I say that Dante grew
Speaker 4: up in an environment where there was stimulus, stimulus that
Speaker 4: that caused him to go into fight or flight. And
Speaker 4: what that stimulus may look like is it can look
Speaker 4: like being abused. It could look like being abandoned. It
Speaker 4: can look like being bullied. It can look like, you know,
Speaker 4: having absentee parents. It could look like having mental you know,
Speaker 4: parents with mental illness. It can look like having a
Speaker 4: parent who was in prison. It can look like many
Speaker 4: different things to activate that that response, that fight or
Speaker 4: flight response.
Speaker 6: And now that he's stuck, and then you start to
Speaker 6: look at what are the what are the.
Speaker 4: Physical reactions that take place, the physical reactions, and you
Speaker 4: can start to think about this for yourself too, and
Speaker 4: stain your body as I call.
Speaker 6: These things out. Elevated shoulders, where are your shoulders at
Speaker 6: right now? Tight neck? Where's your neck? Clint's jaw? Are
Speaker 6: you Clinton?
Speaker 4: Ernest?
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Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
Speaker 1: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from Al Salvador
Speaker 1: accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with
Speaker 1: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan. These are just
Speaker 1: some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
Speaker 1: Donald J.
Speaker 2: Trump's leadership.
Speaker 1: I'm Christy nom the United States Secretary of Homeland Security.
Speaker 1: Under President Trump, attempted illegal border crossings are at the
Speaker 1: lowest levels ever recorded, and over one hundred thousand illegal
Speaker 1: aliens have been arrested. If you are here illegally, your
Speaker 1: next you will be fine nearly one thousand dollars a day,
Speaker 1: imprisoned and.
Speaker 2: Deported, you will never return.
Speaker 1: But if you register using our CBP home app and
Speaker 1: leave now, you could be allowed.
Speaker 2: To return legally. Do what's right. Leave Now.
Speaker 1: Under President Trump, America's laws, border and families.
Speaker 2: Will be protected.
Speaker 3: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security.
Speaker 6: Do you grind your teeth? Do you have back pain?
Speaker 4: That you can explain a lot of people stuff from
Speaker 4: back pain. They think I lifted something, but really back
Speaker 4: pain can also happen from as an emotional stress response,
Speaker 4: trauma response as well, joint aches, balling of your fist,
Speaker 4: that's very common overall, body stiffness, holding your breath, gas
Speaker 4: or intentional issues and shape.
Speaker 6: These are the physiological.
Speaker 4: Responses that take place in the body when we keep
Speaker 4: having stress, chronic stress, or stuck in a stress response.
Speaker 4: But then let's talk about the emotional side and how
Speaker 4: this shows up in your life. Difficulty managing money. I
Speaker 4: like how that's the first first one, specifically because we're
Speaker 4: on a platform that's all about financial literacy, right, A
Speaker 4: part of our issue is not just financial literacy just
Speaker 4: because you know, okay, I know how to make money,
Speaker 4: but do you know how to manage money? Do you
Speaker 4: know how to keep money? And that's been our biggest thing.
Speaker 4: We know how to we know how to get money,
Speaker 4: Like look at this spending though, and whatever we spending
Speaker 4: the money on. Well, if you look at the top, right,
Speaker 4: those physiological symptoms, you're going to try to self soothe yourself.
Speaker 4: And what's the best way to self soothe, well, to spend.
Speaker 4: You're going to spend your way out of pain, right,
Speaker 4: And spending your way out of pain might look like
Speaker 4: and I've talked about on the last class. It may
Speaker 4: look like retail therapy. It may look like overeating over
Speaker 4: consuming food. It may look like you have out of
Speaker 4: the top ten websites in the world, three of them
Speaker 4: are porn. And so if you start to look like
Speaker 4: we're self soothing in these ways, we're trying to alleviate
Speaker 4: the symptomology. We just have bad choices in terms of
Speaker 4: a bad we're using the wrong resources to do so.
Speaker 4: Can you still hear me being overly self reliant? Now,
Speaker 4: this was pushed in our community for independent women to
Speaker 4: be independent, and those are just trauma responses as well.
Speaker 4: And I'm not saying independent overly self reliant. Independence is fine,
Speaker 4: but interdependence is more resourceful.
Speaker 6: I need you, you need me.
Speaker 4: Struggling to achieve goals, things like procrastination are known as
Speaker 4: trauma responses. The whole idea of people are lazy. Those
Speaker 4: are just trauma responses body image issues. That's very big
Speaker 4: in our community now. Everybody's running to fix their bodies
Speaker 4: because that's the way that we can get attention. Attention
Speaker 4: has become a new currency. So what do you need
Speaker 4: that attention for? Well, what's the basic thing that you
Speaker 4: need attention for. It's another way of self soothing is
Speaker 4: to have the attention from others because it makes.
Speaker 6: You feel, can make.
Speaker 4: You feel whatever that may be confident or love. But again,
Speaker 4: all of these have diminishing returns. These these things that
Speaker 4: we do to try to really solve the issue has
Speaker 4: a diminished return and a long run is not helpful.
Speaker 6: It's helpful in the upfront, but.
Speaker 4: In a long run you may be spending more time
Speaker 4: getting getting more surgeries. This is what you see with
Speaker 4: plastic surgery specifically in like Hollywood.
Speaker 6: You see that is never enough.
Speaker 4: Once you go in try to fix one thing, and
Speaker 4: you next fixing ten other things, and now you look
Speaker 4: like you should join witness protection. Nobody can even nobody
Speaker 4: knows who you are. And we've seen that. Look, all
Speaker 4: the stuff that we see in our community is like
Speaker 4: right in front of our faces and it's all mental
Speaker 4: health related emotional decision making.
Speaker 6: We see a lot of that, making.
Speaker 4: Bad decisions based on an emotional state of being. That's
Speaker 4: not something you wanted to do. Inflexible dating standards. Oh,
Speaker 4: this is like really big right now within our community
Speaker 4: as well, where people feel like they have to have
Speaker 4: a list of all these attributes and that person looks perfect.
Speaker 4: Perfectionism itself is a trauma response. So imagine when you're
Speaker 4: looking for the perfect person. You know you're looking for
Speaker 4: the perfect person for you, but the person is not perfect,
Speaker 4: and that perfect person is not going to save you.
Speaker 4: And that perfect person is not going to change those
Speaker 4: physiological responses, nor are those middle emotional issues for you.
Speaker 4: This is the work that we have to do to
Speaker 4: begin to overcome that.
Speaker 6: Let's go next.
Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child
Speaker 1: in Massachusetts. An MS thirteen gang member from El Salvador
Speaker 1: accused of murdering a Texas man of Venezuelan charged with
Speaker 1: filming and selling child pornography in Michigan.
Speaker 2: These are just.
Speaker 1: Some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President
Speaker 1: Donald J.
Speaker 2: Trump's leadership. I'm Christy Noman, the.
Speaker 1: United States Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted
Speaker 1: illegal border crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded,
Speaker 1: and over one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested.
Speaker 1: If you are here illegally, your next you will be
Speaker 1: fine nearly one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned, and deported.
Speaker 2: You will never return.
Speaker 1: But if you register using our CBP home app and
Speaker 1: leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.
Speaker 2: Do what's right, leave now.
Speaker 1: Under President Trump, America's laws, border and families will be protected.
Speaker 3: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security,