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Speaker 1: I'm Christy nom the United States Secretary of Homeland Security.

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Speaker 4: I saw this video that came out yesterday and it

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Speaker 4: little scrappy in his mom and I wanted to share

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Speaker 4: this because it was very powerful, but I also want

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Speaker 4: to kind of break it down as well, so I

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Speaker 4: play it now house.

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Speaker 5: I grew up in a trap house, so all I

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Speaker 5: knew was that, you know what I'm saying, And I

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Speaker 5: love you because you held it down, like you did

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Speaker 5: what you had to do.

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Speaker 6: But imagine you.

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Speaker 5: You never had You never had to sleep with your

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Speaker 5: mama twenty four seven because you couldn't go in your room. Okay,

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Speaker 5: you never had to walk in on U dope. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: you never had to walk in on un Just you

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Speaker 5: know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: The way I was.

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Speaker 5: Raised, I had to deal with that because everything that happened,

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Speaker 5: I had to deal with that. And I'm still dealing

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Speaker 5: give me no help.

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Speaker 6: Ain't nobody got me no help.

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Speaker 5: I got learned about that when I got older.

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Speaker 3: So do you want it real good?

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Speaker 5: Like this?

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Speaker 3: What this in my head?

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Speaker 5: In my head?

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Speaker 6: My whole life in my head I go through.

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Speaker 5: I can't even go to her hard, I can't go

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Speaker 5: to you, you horror.

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Speaker 6: So I'm on the concrete.

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Speaker 4: But my grand Lord, So that's a very powerful clip.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I get emotional washing.

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Speaker 6: It's super powerful. So if you look at Scrappy and

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Speaker 4: The reason why I really want to show this is

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Speaker 4: Mama D is stuck in trauma response. Scrappy shared he

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Speaker 4: Her with Mama D experience growing up and trauma. Beguess trauma.

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Speaker 4: So Scrappy is right in being able to one share

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Speaker 4: But there's again there's a there's a reason why Mama

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Speaker 4: he's been in a fight or flight pattern. You know,

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Speaker 4: he's always fighting. Seems like he's always fighting. And again

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Speaker 4: that behavior is not conscious. That is unconscious behavior. And

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Speaker 4: this is why we say do the healing work, is

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Speaker 4: able to share that, but you still got it. Empty

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Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child

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Speaker 1: I'm Christy nom the United States Secretary of Homeland Security.

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Speaker 6: Do you grind your teeth? Do you have back pain?

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Speaker 6: It's helpful in the upfront, but.

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Speaker 6: You see that is never enough.

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Speaker 4: Once you go in try to fix one thing, and

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Speaker 6: We see a lot of that, making.

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Speaker 4: And that perfect person is not going to change those

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Speaker 6: Let's go next.

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Speaker 1: An illegal alien from Guatemala charged with raping a child

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Speaker 1: Some of the heinous migrant criminals caught because of President

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Speaker 2: Trump's leadership. I'm Christy Noman, the.

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Speaker 1: United States Secretary of Homeland Security. Under President Trump, attempted

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Speaker 1: illegal border crossings are at the lowest levels ever recorded,

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Speaker 1: and over one hundred thousand illegal aliens have been arrested.

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Speaker 1: If you are here illegally, your next you will be

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Speaker 1: fine nearly one thousand dollars a day, imprisoned, and deported.

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Speaker 2: You will never return.

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Speaker 1: But if you register using our CBP home app and

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Speaker 1: leave now, you could be allowed to return legally.

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Speaker 2: Do what's right, leave now.

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Speaker 1: Under President Trump, America's laws, border and families will be protected.

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Speaker 3: Sponsored by the United States Department of Homeland Security,