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Speaker 1: oh marry letter, Thank you nephew. Subject she will not

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Speaker 1: take my man from me. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a

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Speaker 1: twenty nine year old workaholic and I don't have time

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Speaker 1: to date. So I met my boyfriend on tender. We

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Speaker 1: met two years ago and we're good friends until New

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Speaker 1: Year's Eve, when he asked me to be his girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: We hung out early in the evening, but he brought

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Speaker 1: but I was happy that we were finally in a

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Speaker 1: he was texting girls daily, and one girl stood out

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Speaker 1: because she was the ex girlfriend that he told me

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Speaker 1: had broken his heart. By the end of January, I

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Speaker 1: Year's Eve, and she told him she couldn't wait to

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Speaker 1: be back in town with him. He did tell her

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Speaker 1: He has being the best boyfriend to me, so how

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Speaker 1: if she's getting enough rest and eating properly. This is

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Speaker 1: the stuff that he should only be asking me. I

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Speaker 1: can't say anything to him because I've been snooping. Should

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Speaker 1: Please advise, Well, I don't think you should call a girl.

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Speaker 1: I think this is an issue strictly between you and

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Speaker 1: You're a guy. I guess you can call him that.

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Speaker 1: This is a guy who likes to have his cake

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Speaker 1: because he has not made you a priority in his life,

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Speaker 1: starting with how he played you for New Year's Eve.

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Speaker 1: He lied and told you, you know that he was

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Speaker 1: gonna be with his boys, with his friends, he said,

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Speaker 1: And he's been with you for two years, but he's

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Speaker 1: still on tender. I mean, what's he still on tender for?

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Speaker 1: If he if he asked you to be his girlfriend

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Speaker 1: and all that, you felt he was being shady, So

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Speaker 1: He is in a relationship with you, but he's inviting

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Speaker 1: This is his ax. You know what that can only

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Speaker 1: lead to? Okay, I just don't understand how that's making

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Speaker 1: continue to let him break your heart. He needs to

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Speaker 1: be off tender. He needs to be away from his ex.

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Speaker 1: He needs not to invite her to live with him.

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Speaker 1: He needs to show you more respect. No, you can't

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Speaker 1: You're twenty nine year old workaholic. You ain't got time

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Speaker 1: have time to date. So I met my boyfriend on tender?

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Speaker 1: Is that that's the swipe right, swipe left. We met

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Speaker 1: But just the same behavior he'd been having for two years.

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Speaker 1: It's just you wasn't his girlfriend, so you ain't paying

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Speaker 1: you wasn't damned. He told you his friends is in time,

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Speaker 1: you just be trying to find someone. You're just looking

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Speaker 1: kept on texting. All right, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letters subject she will not take My Man

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Speaker 1: from Me. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening show, all right, Steve, come on, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letters. She will take My Man from Me

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Speaker 1: to New Year's Eve when he asked her to be

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Speaker 1: And but she was happy though, because they was finally

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Speaker 1: He did tell her though, now y'all, he was in

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Speaker 1: a new relationship and he was crazy about me, but

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Speaker 1: But let me tell you why it broke her heart.

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Speaker 1: He is being the best boyfriend to me. So how

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Speaker 1: Because you don't know the definition of best boyfriend right. See,

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Speaker 1: if he was being the best boyfriend to you, why

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Speaker 1: is his tender accounts still open? Why does he text

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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve? After he just became his girlfriend, and

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Speaker 1: So all your knights going over that that's out? So

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Speaker 1: in with him? Then this was she said, this is

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Speaker 1: That's because they're talking. Stop reading these damn text that

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Speaker 1: You deleted? But he and then here on the other

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Speaker 1: part did just get worse. He's always concerned about how

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Speaker 1: Of course, who who in this show has ever called

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Speaker 1: damn you choking on chicken bone Hill when I'm calling

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Speaker 1: This is the stuff that he should only be asking me,

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Speaker 1: but he don't. He don't ask you what you to need.

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Speaker 1: I can't say anything to him because I've been snoopid.

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Speaker 1: Here's the dumbest line in the letter. Should I wait

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Speaker 1: if he dumps me? When you already first of all,

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Speaker 1: you are dumped. He's not the best boyfriend. You can

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Speaker 1: do better, and you should next stupid line, should I

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Speaker 1: call him tell him to bad call? But he's not

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Speaker 1: listen to me, sister. He's been doing this for two years.

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Speaker 1: That's why y'all was just good friends into New Year's Eve.

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Speaker 1: Then on New Year's Eve, just so he could get you,

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Speaker 1: And he got up and went out that night with

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Speaker 1: That's how your twenty twenty started. You didn't had a

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Speaker 1: for you, But she fit to move back here in

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Speaker 1: need to hear this. Hitting up in here bowling, dumb ass,

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Speaker 1: gonna be with them, same stupid ass people bowling this

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Speaker 1: weekend in Atlanta, bowling and some dude cutting your hair,

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Speaker 1: coughing on the back of your neck. You getting corona

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Speaker 1: phases going on right now. I got too much happening.

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Speaker 1: You can't sit around and wait on him to dump

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Speaker 1: you leave now. This is not your boyfriend. Stop fixing

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Speaker 1: him because he can't be fixed. Let him stay on tender.

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